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13h ago

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Sex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling. In this episode: 00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work 03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters 07:50 How sex becomes performative for women 12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships 16:45 Foreplay happens all day 21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women 26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety 30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted 35:20 How to talk about sex without blame 39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment. From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure. Connect with ___: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

4d ago

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Dating apps promise connection, but for many midlife daters they deliver frustration, confusion, and burnout. In this solo episode, I share why I stepped away from dating apps, what repeated dead-end conversations taught me, and how honesty, boundaries, and self-awareness matter more than chasing matches. We talk about pursuit, ghosting, who should ask first, who should pay, and why rejection is information. If dating feels exhausting, this conversation is for you. Timestamps: In This Episode: 0:00 Intro and why dating apps felt different this time 1:05 Frustration, negative energy, and attracting the wrong matches 2:20 Why app conversations stall and go nowhere 3:35 Moving from texting to phone calls and what silence signals 5:00 Who should pursue, ask first, and pay 6:35 Politics, dealbreakers, and dodging bullets early Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 16

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Suzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence. Timestamps: In this episode: 00:00 Holiday masterclass offer 00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup 01:18 Are Brits more open about sex 02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture 03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics 05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene 06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse 07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans 08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast 09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations 10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex 11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths 12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America 13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women 14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity 16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries 16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 50 18:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles 19:22 When a profile is too good to be true 20:15 Shifting into body image and aging 21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age 21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness 22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK 23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want 23:42 Early experiences with kink 24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink 25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces 25:35 Closing thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer. Connect with Suzanne Noble: Website : https://suzannenoble.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/ Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 12

Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed. In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens. Timestamps: In this episode: 00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy 00:20 What makes a three person experience different 00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth 01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife 01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies 01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable 02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics 02:18 Why talking before touching matters 02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements 03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair 03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch 04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection 04:42 Position 4. Double rider 05:15 Position 5. The bridge 05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight 06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts 06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration 07:00 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 9

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney to talk about what happens when touch, sex, and therapy meet. We walk through the origins of surrogate partner therapy, how it supports traditional talk therapy, and why it sits inside the world of sex work while still holding clear ethical boundaries. Brianan explains who seeks out this work, what sessions look like in real life, how attachment and feelings show up, and why sex itself often turns out to be a symptom rather than the real issue. We also talk about non-monogamy, money, how to vet an ethical surrogate partner, and Brian’s very expansive definition of sex. Timestamps: In This Episode: 00:00 - What if sex was part of your therapy 01:08 - What surrogate partner therapy is and why talk therapy hits a limit 03:42 - Masters and Johnson and the birth of surrogate partners 06:05 - Sex work, the “whorarchy”, and where surrogates sit in it 09:18 - How surrogate partner therapy differs from full service intimacy work 11:52 - The therapeutic triad: client, therapist, surrogate 13:40 - Who seeks this work: trauma, pain, cancer, disability, shame 17:05 - First sessions, nerves, and why the work starts with “hello” 19:40 - When clients expect something more and run the “checklist” for access 22:15 - Entitlement, hard conversations, and repeating old patterns 24:05 - Attachment, feelings, and why the “box” stays small 26:10 - Brian’s non monogamy and protecting his own relationships 28:30 - Boundaries to this work 30:35 - How to vet a legitimate surrogate partner and red flags 32:10 - Brian’s expansive definition of sex and why PIV is not the gold standard 34:00 - Final thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Over the course of his life, Brian has worn many hats: research scientist (BA, Molecular biology; Masters, Microbiology), teacher, professional artist, performer, and parent. The common thread that has run through all of those vocations has been his joy in learning, discovery, and improvement. In parallel with his professional life, He has also been keenly interested in interpersonal interactions, intimacy, and authenticity. These two facets have merged in his practice as a Surrogate Partner. He received his training in surrogate partner therapy from IPSA (the International Professional Surrogates Association) in 2016 and co-founded the Surrogate Partner Collective and Chair of AASECT’s Somatic S//xuality Professionals Special Interest Group. Connect with Brian Gibney: Website : https://www.briangibney.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacy Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 5

In this episode, I react to a provocative cultural shift highlighted in Vogue’s viral piece “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?”. Straight women are hiding their partners online. Faces are blurred. Fiancés are cropped out. Entire relationships are reduced to a hand on a steering wheel. The fear is that posting a boyfriend makes a woman look less independent and less culturally relevant. I compare this to myr own experience as a boomer who grew up with the belief that partnership was an achievement. I explore how this shift affects men, why younger women feel pressure to appear single, and what it says about the evolving politics of heterosexual relationships. The episode asks listeners to rethink why sharing a romantic partner feels risky now and whether avoiding visibility is about independence, superstition, image, or something deeper. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:22 The purpose of breaking taboos 00:45 Why women hesitate to like or share sex content 01:15 Introducing the episode and today’s question 01:33 The Vogue article and the rise of “boyfriend embarrassment” 02:05 How age and upbringing shape views on partnership 02:40 The clash between independence and being partnered 03:15 How shifting gender roles impact men 03:45 Why posting a partner feels risky for some women 04:20 The 70 year old who feels odd saying “my boyfriend” 04:48 Why Karen sees partnership as joyful, not submissive 05:15 The fear of judgment and the pressure to appear independent 05:48 Why some women reject men after negative experiences 06:20 Karen’s final questions about posting your partner 06:45 Closing message and sex positive reminder Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About The Host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Dec 2

Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist. We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife. We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell. If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher’s new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear. In This Episode: 00:00 – Welcome and show intro. 00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause. 02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman’s” issue. 04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause. 06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs. 09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire. 12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult. 15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics. 18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits. 21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.” 25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis. 29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety. 33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth. 36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido. 38:40 – Wrap up and closing message. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society, and the founding Medical Director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a Senior Research Fellow of the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University. In addition to her academic appointment at the Feinberg School of Medicine, Dr. Streicher is on the faculty of Northwestern University’s Graduate Program in Reproductive Science and Medicine for students pursuing a Master of Science degree in medical research.She is also the Faculty Advisor for The Medical Student Forum on Female Sexual Dysfunction, an organization to facilitate Chicago area medical students to collaborate, learn, and educate their academic peers about female sexual medicine. Dr. Streicher serves on many advisory boards including The Kinsey Institute, Let’s Talk Menopause, Let’s All Talk Menopause, Tell, LUWI, and Midi Health. Read more: https://www.drstreicher.com/about Connect with Dr. Streicher: Website : https://www.drstreicher.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstreich Substack: https://drstreicher.substack.com/ Podcast:: https://www.drstreicher.com/podcast Limited Podcast ‘Come Again’: https://www.drstreicher.com/comeagain About the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 28

Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear. Timestamps: 00:00 Part 2 intro 00:18 Why couples need more than toys 00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages 01:05 Yab yum explained 02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy 02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection 03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire 04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually 04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure 05:20 How to give a yoni massage 06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube 06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women 07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection 08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job 08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy 09:20 Appreciation vs adoration 10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy 11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness 11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner 12:10 Using the media mention method for kink 12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile 13:33 What “kinky” means for different people 14:10 What erotic parties are really like 15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs 15:45 The age differences at sex parties 16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises 17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience 17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation 18:15 The technique that triggers squirting 19:02 Can you make yourself squirt 19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained 20:10 How open couples build trust and connection Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About the Guest: Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating , columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column ' Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE , the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app. Connect with Dr Tara: Website : https://www.luvbites.co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 25

In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday! In this episode: 00:00 Intro 00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release 02:15 Dr. Tara’s background and early sexual repression 04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland 06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships 08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research 09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity 11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills 12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort 13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation 14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner 15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages 17:10 Part two coming soon! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About the guest: Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating , columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column ' Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE , the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app. Connect with Dr Tara: Website : https://www.luvbites.co Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co Book : How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnj About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . 🩷 Head to https://www.arya.fyi for 15% off - An Intimacy Concierge for couples ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 21

🩷 Head to https://www.arya.fyi for 15% off with coupon code: TRUTH15 - An Intimacy Concierge for couples ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down the four techniques I teach men who want to turn their partner on with confidence. I explain why old moves fail with a new partner. I show you why bragging about your skills shuts a woman down. I walk you through the steps most women respond to. You learn why slow kissing matters, why touch needs intention, how oral sex shifts with hormones, and why toys increase pleasure for women at every age. This episode gives you a simple plan to become a more attentive and more satisfying lover. Timestamps: 00:00 When old moves stop working 00:32 Why bragging about your skills backfires 01:06 Why slower sex increases arousal 01:50 The four techniques women respond to 02:10 Deep, slow kissing 03:00 Touch that builds tension 04:03 Oral sex based on her cues 05:12 Why toys boost pleasure 06:30 Why penetration rarely leads to orgasm Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 18

Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom. We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men 05:12 How habits train performance in bed 06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap 08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization 12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation 15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks 17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency 21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation 24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing 28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish 29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt 32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings 34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more 36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy 38:10 Wrap-up. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology , a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel “Kevin Anthony & Céline Remy “, and the co-creator of the online course series “Power and Mastery” ; which is a complete Men’s S//xual Mastery Training to develop a man’s stamina, boost confidence, and enhance his s//xual abilities. Connect with Kevin Anthony: Website : https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 14

Most people are texting wrong. In this episode I break down why the “Hi. How are you?” cycle kills attraction and how to turn texting into a tool for real connection. Learn how to craft messages that show curiosity, spark chemistry, and move things off the screen and into real life. If your conversations keep dying in the chat, this episode will change the way you text forever. Timestamps: 00:00 – You’re Texting Wrong: Why Conversations Die Fast 00:45 – The “Hi. How Are You?” Trap 01:32 – Lazy Texting and the Emoji Problem 02:40 – Crafting Better Questions that Build Connection 03:28 – The Secret to Flirty, Fun Banter 04:20 – How to Use Curiosity to Spark Chemistry 05:00 – Move From Text to Real Connection Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 11

Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 Why performance culture kills connection 02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms 04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex 07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest 10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch 12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift 15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes 18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm 21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control 23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire 26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe 28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack 31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training 33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes 35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasy Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0 Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company . She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing. Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO , You Are Not Broken , Sex with Emily , The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey , Good Moms Bad Choices , Heal Thyself , IDIOT with Laura Clery , The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video , LuvBites with Dr. Tara , and The Chalene Show . Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection. Connect with Susan Bratton: Website : https://susanbratton.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 7

Good sex doesn’t happen by accident—it takes curiosity, communication, and intention. In this episode of Taboo to Truth , I’m breaking down five simple but powerful ways to go from “meh” to mind-blowing in the bedroom. From making foreplay last all day to using your words with confidence, these are the practical, pleasure-focused habits that transform intimacy at any age. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction: What Great Sex Really Takes 00:25 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth with Karen Bigman 01:00 – Why “Good Sex” Isn’t Enough 01:35 – Tip #1: Get Curious 02:10 – Tip #2: Slow It Down 02:45 – Tip #3: Talk Dirty (or Honestly) 03:20 – Tip #4: Play With Power 03:55 – Tip #5: Prioritize Pleasure, Not Performance 04:40 – Final Thoughts: Take the Pressure Off and Enjoy 05:00 – Outro: Redefining Life and Sex After 50 Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Nov 4

Men, sex, and aging without the macho script. I sit down with Dr. Chris Donaghue —clinical sexologist, therapist, and host of Loveline —to unpack masculinity, libido, and connection in midlife. We dig into why “being a man” often blocks intimacy, how to get out of performance mode, and what it takes to be a better partner after 50. We talk practical dating resets, equity vs. equality on first dates, why vibrators shouldn’t threaten anyone, and how to build a personal “relational mission statement.” If you’re newly single or just ready to evolve, this episode gives you a clear path back into your body, your values, and real intimacy. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro: Men, sex, and aging without the script 01:12 Meet Dr. Chris Donaghue & why masculinity needs a reset 03:08 “Disidentifying” from gender roles to become a better partner 05:02 Getting back into your body vs. performing intimacy 06:45 Values, ethics, and your relational mission statement 08:36 America’s performance culture and its impact on love 10:10 Dating mindset: “The person you date is in your care” 12:04 Childhood socialization: boys vs. girls and empathy gaps 14:06 Rewriting the “strong man” expectation with softness 15:32 Who pays? Equality vs. equity on first dates 17:34 The confusion men feel: strong vs. vulnerable on demand 19:02 Emotional literacy: what men are “allowed” to feel 20:05 Sex talk: scripts, vibrators, and de-centering orgasm 22:11 How to date Karen: knowledge gaps, boundaries, and media 23:40 Public work ≠ no boundaries: consent and respect 25:02 “What are you working on?”—owning your growth 26:36 Therapy vs. “I coached myself”: why guidance matters 28:05 Practical first steps for newly single men 29:40 Libido as life energy: bringing passion back 31:02 Best sex isn’t performance—it’s connection 31:55 Wrap up + where to find Dr. Donaghue Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Chris Donaghue is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and sex therapy, with a private practice in addition to his work as a lecturer and educator. He serves as the Director of Clinical Education for The Sexual Health Alliance and is the Dean of Education and lead faculty for The Institute at The Sexual Health Alliance’s doctoral program. He also chairs the organization’s Annual Sexological Conference. Dr. Donaghue is the author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture , and has contributed chapters to several books, including The Sex Issue by the editors of Goop. Connect with Dr. Chris Donaghue : Website : https://www.drchrisdonaghue.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdonaghue Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Oct 31

Ever wondered why someone pays to be dominated? In this electrifying episode, I sit down with Miss May , a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, and kink educator based in London and Berlin. We unpack what it really means to be a dominatrix — from understanding BDSM and power exchange to why humiliation and taboo fantasies can actually be healing. Ms. May shares what her clients request most, how kink can create emotional release, and what it’s like to separate her professional “Mistress” persona from her personal life. This is not your typical sex conversation — it’s raw, fascinating, and deeply human. 👉 Watch Part 2 on Substack for the full unfiltered visual version (YouTube gets a little sensitive). Head to Substack here: https://karenbigman.substack.com/p/why-people-pay-to-be-dominated-and Timestamps: 00:00 – Show intro: mission + midlife sexuality 00:35 – Why people pay to be dominated 01:05 – Guest intro: Ms. May, dominatrix & dungeon owner 01:45 – Path to pro: from private submissive to domme 03:00 – Learning the dungeon “pro” side 03:40 – Berlin studio years (Fetish Institute) 04:20 – BDSM 101: terms, roles, “vanilla” clarified 05:30 – Who hires a domme: client diversity 06:10 – Common requests: latex, bondage sacks, hoods, sensory play 07:05 – Subspace and meditative states explained 07:45 – Taboo play and humiliation: why it appeals 08:40 – Power release for high-status clients 09:15 – Can kink heal? Shame, consent, reclamation 10:05 – Re-writing past scripts and saying “no” 10:45 – Is kink always sexual? What “sex” means here 11:35 – Outcomes: orgasm vs experience, cages, spanking, observation 12:25 – Boundaries and emotional detachment as a pro 13:05 – Dating while a sex worker: stigma and challenges 13:55 – Visual segment setup: toy wall preview 14:15 – Collars, leashes, gags, cuffs: use cases 15:05 – Latex bondage jacket: full restraint demo 15:55 – Session length: 2–6 hours or longer with breaks 16:25 – Safety checks: breath, numbness, positioning 16:55 – Pre-scene negotiation: activities, health, tools, marks 17:45 – Consent frameworks: traffic-light safe words 18:25 – Mid-scene check-ins and non-verbal protocols 18:55 – Aftercare: down-ramp, tea, biscuits, grounding 19:30 – How to hire a pro: research, screening, deposits 20:20 – Red flags and scams: who contacts whom 20:55 – Pricing in London: typical hourly range 21:20 – Legal landscape: UK partial legality 21:55 – Germany model: registration and limits 22:30 – Why decriminalization is preferred 23:00 – UK vs Germany studio culture and isolation 23:35 – Personal switch: being submissive privately 24:00 – Lightning round: definition of sex 24:25 – Lightning round: best orgasm 24:45 – Lightning round: untried fantasy 25:05 – Key takeaways 25:35 – Substack CTA: full video and sensitive visuals 26:10 – Like, follow, review, share Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Miss May is a professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner. In the last years she has been working internationally being based in London and Berlin. In 2023 she opened her own dungeon called E1DARKROOM in London where she hosts professional sessions as well as events. Apart from spending time in the dungeon, Miss May hosts workshops, creates femdom content and does performances at different events all around the UK and Europe. Connect with Miss May: Instagram: @mismayberlin Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Oct 28

Is it real love or manipulation in disguise? In this episode of Taboo to Truth , I unpack the difference between genuine affection and love bombing, how to spot the red flags early, what behaviors cross the line from caring to controlling, and why those of us with anxious attachment styles can be especially vulnerable. Learn how to trust your instincts, slow down the pace, and protect yourself from emotional manipulation disguised as romance. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: When Love Feels Too Intense 00:45 – What Love Bombing Really Is 01:45 – Signs You’re Being Love Bombed 02:50 – The Psychology Behind the Behavior 03:40 – Overly Affectionate vs. Manipulative 04:30 – How to Protect Yourself: Boundaries & Red Flags 05:30 – Final Thoughts: Trusting Your Instincts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 24

In this follow-up to Part 1, I continue my candid conversation with licensed professional counselor and AASECT-certified sex therapist Kelvin Pace , diving even deeper into what consensual non-monogamy really looks like in practice. From swinging to polyamory to kink, we unpack the myths, labels, and lived realities behind open relationships. Kelvin explains why communication and consent—not structure—define success, and why non-monogamous relationships can often be just as loving and committed as traditional ones. We also explore the overlap between kink and CNM, how the military became part of swinging lore, and the importance of sex-positive therapy that challenges bias instead of pathologizing pleasure. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome back & why you should listen to Part 1 first 00:58 – Do open marriages usually end? 02:03 – Swinging vs. polyamory: orientation or play? 04:25 – The many forms of consensual non-monogamy 06:10 – How kink overlaps (and doesn’t) with CNM 08:02 – The biggest myths about non-monogamy 10:10 – Therapy, bias, and the importance of consent 12:05 – Parenting and openness about sexuality 14:00 – Did swinging really start in the military? 15:22 – Kelvin’s quick-fire questions: definition, orgasm, fantasy 17:00 – Where to find Kelvin Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Kelvin Pace graduated with a master’s in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy. Connect with Kelvin Pace: Website : kpacecounseling.net Instagram: @kpace37 Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC Phone: 907-519-2989 Email: kpacecounseling@gmail.com Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Oct 21

Open relationships sound exciting to some — and absolutely terrifying to others. But what really happens when you open up your marriage? Can it save your relationship… or destroy it? In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Pace, a licensed professional counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and former Army medic turned intimacy expert. Kelvin brings courage, compassion, and clinical insight to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships — consensual non-monogamy. We talk about what it means to open a marriage consciously and ethically, how to navigate jealousy without shame, and why community and communication matter more than ever. Kelvin also shares how mindfulness and sensate focus can help couples reconnect with pleasure — without the pressure of performance. If you’ve ever wondered whether open relationships can actually work — or what it takes to make them work — this conversation will challenge your assumptions and maybe even your boundaries. Timestamps: 00:00 – What really happens when you open your marriage? 00:43 – Meet Kelvin Pace 02:06 – Sex surrogates and sensate focus explained 04:11 – How mindfulness changes sex 06:56 – Defining open relationships and polyamory 08:46 – The myth of compersion and toxic non-monogamy 10:31 – Managing jealousy and emotional regulation 12:46 – Stay tuned for part 2! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Kelvin Pace graduated with a master’s in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy. Connect with Kelvin Pace: Website : kpacecounseling.net Instagram: @kpace37 Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC Phone: 907-519-2989 Email: kpacecounseling@gmail.com Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 17

In this solo episode, I’m diving into my own experience with dating, setting boundaries, and figuring out what really matters when it comes to love and relationships at this stage of life. From financial security to sexual health, and even politics, I share what I’ve learned about myself — and why holding firm to your non-negotiables isn’t being picky, it’s being honest. Timestamps: 00:00 – 00:48 Why I Actually Love Dating Apps 00:49 – 02:05 Finding the Balance Between Boundaries and Flexibility 02:06 – 03:04 Why Financial Security Matters to Me 03:05 – 04:00 Dating Younger Partners and Managing Family Differences 04:01 – 05:07 Politics, Rigidity, and Emotional Maturity 05:08 – 06:39 STIs, Safe Sex, and Setting Clear Health Boundaries 06:40 – 07:35 Being Open-Minded Without Losing Myself 07:36 – 08:24 Final Thoughts: Boundaries as Acts of Self-Love Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 14

In this episode I’m pulling back the covers—literally—on the top three sexual fantasies most women have but rarely confess. From the thrill of novelty and adventure, to the ego-boosting allure of multi-partner desire, and the power dynamics of dominance and submission, let’s explore what these fantasies really mean and how they connect to women’s need for freedom, safety, and pleasure. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro & welcome 00:20 – Why fantasies matter 00:46 – #3: Novelty & adventure 01:51 – #2: Multi-partner fantasies 02:51 – #1: Power play 03:51 – Final thoughts & free guide Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 10

In Part 2 of my conversation with Ally Iseman, (ICF certified relationship coach and erotic event producer) we dive deeper into the real work behind healthy, ethical nonmonogamy. Alley shares personal stories that reveal the emotional intelligence, honesty, and respect it takes to navigate multiple relationships — from processing breakups to setting boundaries and supporting each other through vulnerability. We also bust common myths about open relationships, explaining how communication and consent are key whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between. Then, we take you inside the world of kink and play parties, exploring what really happens, how to approach these spaces safely, and why curiosity (not pressure) is the foundation of all exploration. This episode is as much about self-awareness and personal growth as it is about relationships — proving that being “open” starts with how we communicate, not who we sleep with. If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and start there, because you will want the full story! Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: Beyond the Myths of Open Relationships 02:10 – Communication, Boundaries & Mutual Respect 05:20 – Processing Emotions and Breakups in Open Relationships 08:00 – Monogamy vs. Ownership: Redefining Partnership 10:40 – Kink, Curiosity & What Really Happens at Play Parties 13:50 – Finding Community and Safer Spaces 16:30 – How to Start Exploring (Responsibly) 18:50 – Final Thoughts: Openness Starts With Conversation 19:51 – Final words Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach , NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com . ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after podcast guest, Ally is also a featured subject matter expert for publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, and Yahoo! among others, and is a contributing writer and educator for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like Arya and Afterglow . As a certified consent and communication specialist, she uses inclusive relationship design to teach busy couples around the world the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve. Connect with Ally Iseman: Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/ ENM 101 https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080202/xuzLqM2k The Jealousy Toolkit https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080203/xuzLqM2k Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 7

In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia) , and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You’ll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself. Timestamps: 0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth : sex & midlife reset 0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd 1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables 3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction 5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia) 7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality 8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data 10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions 11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle? 13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity 15:05 – Karen’s reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy 16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion 17:26 – What’s next + Part 2 coming next Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach , NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com . ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after podcast guest, Ally is also a featured subject matter expert for publications like The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, and Yahoo! among others, and is a contributing writer and educator for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like Arya and Afterglow . As a certified consent and communication specialist, she uses inclusive relationship design to teach busy couples around the world the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve. Connect with Ally Iseman: Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/ ENM 101 https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080202/xuzLqM2k The Jealousy Toolkit https://www.passport2pleasure.com/a/2148080203/xuzLqM2k Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 3

In this episode of Taboo to Truth , I break down one of the biggest misconceptions in sexual health: that size matters most. From understanding real female anatomy to addressing midlife changes, we explore why pleasure, comfort, and communication matter far more than length or depth. With candid examples and practical advice, I challenge outdated ideas, tackle the myths created by porn, and encourage curiosity, consent, and conversation as the true keys to sexual connection — especially for women over 50. Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters 0:22 – The truth about vaginal depth 0:55 – Why bigger isn’t always better 1:32 – Pain vs. pleasure in midlife 2:05 – What really drives female pleasure (clitoris & more) 2:44 – Porn myths vs. reality 3:05 – Communication, curiosity & consent 3:20 – Outro + Pleasure Playbook invite Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 30

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with journalist, performer, and intimacy coordinator Laura Desiree to break down misconceptions around sex work, intimacy on stage and screen, and the importance of authentic storytelling. Laura shares her journey from burlesque to content creation, discusses the realities and stigmas sex workers face, and explains how intimacy coordination is reshaping the entertainment industry. From personal safety to sexual healing, this conversation explores the courage, creativity, and empowerment found under the “red umbrella” of sex work—and why listening to sex workers is essential for modern sex education. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: Karen introduces the show and today’s guest, Laura Desiree. 02:30 – Defining Sex Work Today: What sex work means in modern society and the many professions under the “red umbrella.” 06:45 – Laura’s Journey into Sex Work: From burlesque beginnings to content creation and erotic performance. 11:25 – Breaking Misconceptions: Does sex work come from trauma? Debunking stereotypes and addressing stigma. 16:10 – Love, Safety & Relationships: How sex workers navigate intimacy, clients, and personal relationships. 20:40 – Intimacy Coordination Explained: Laura’s work creating safe environments for actors and performers on stage and screen. 26:15 – Eros Unbound: Erotic Storytelling: Laura’s live show blending confession, creativity, and sexual empowerment. 30:00 – Final 3 Questions: Laura shares her definition of sex, her best orgasm story, and her unfulfilled fantasy. 31:30 – Where to Find Laura Desiree: Resources, upcoming shows, and closing thoughts. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Laura Desiree is a dominant figure in erotic entertainment, celebrated for her work as a live-sex Intimacy Coordinator, journalist, adult industry consultant, and sought-after podcast commentator. She spent seven years as the host and producer of the groundbreaking web series Naked News , and now helms Eros Unbound , a confessional erotic reading event spotlighting sensual storytelling and creative expression. With over a decade of experience across broadcasting, adult media, and live performance, Laura is a trusted voice shaping the future of sex, art, and culture. Connect with Laura Desiree : Website : https://thelauradesiree.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraxdesiree Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 26

Why do so many women struggle to orgasm — and what can couples do about it? In this episode, I break down seven real, practical, and sex-positive truths about female pleasure. From communication to clitoral focus, safety to novelty, and why toys are tools. I share how orgasm is less about performance and more about connection and collaboration. If you want to upgrade intimacy and remove shame from the bedroom, this one’s for you. 👉 Download my free guide: 10 Things Every Man Needs to Know for more insights. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: Why female orgasm is misunderstood 00:45 – Truth #1: Communication is foreplay 01:40 – Truth #2: Arousal takes 20–40 minutes 02:20 – Truth #3: It’s all about the clitoris 03:00 – Truth #4: The importance of safety 03:45 – Truth #5: Embrace novelty in the bedroom 04:25 – Truth #6: Toys are tools, not threats 05:05 – Truth #7: Let go of the goal 06:00 – Key takeaway: Orgasm is collaboration, not performance 06:30 – Outro + Free guide invitation Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 23

Dating after divorce can feel intimidating, overwhelming, and even hopeless — but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea McGinty, America’s top midlife dating expert and author of Second Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50 . From founding It’s Just Lunch Matchmaking to facilitating over 33,000 dates and 10,000 marriages, Andrea has seen it all. She shares no-nonsense strategies for navigating the modern dating world, choosing the right apps, spotting red flags, and building a game plan for your love life. Whether you’re newly single or simply curious about what’s possible, this episode proves it’s never too late for a second act in love. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome & Show Intro 00:35 – Today’s Topic & Guest Setup “Is online dating after divorce a nightmare…?" 02:35 – Why Dating After Divorce Feels Harder 04:45 – The Ocean, Not a Pool: Why Apps Matter 08:05 – Right App for Your City & Stage of Life 09:30 – Biggest Mistake: Quitting After Two Weeks 11:40 – Build a Dating “Business Plan” 13:45 – Values, Communication & Chemistry (The 3 C’s) 16:00 – First Relationship Post-Divorce: Are You Ready? 18:20 – Red Flags on Profiles 20:40 – Stop Texting Forever: Set the Date 23:00 – The Sex-on-First-Date Question 24:50 – Matchmakers vs Apps (Costs & Reality) 28:50 – Paid vs Free App Features 31:30 – Hope, Resilience & Process 35:10 – Phone Call or Not? Expectations & Boundaries 38:00 – First-Date Formats 39:30 – Who Pays? Regional Norms & Chivalry 40:20 – Where to Find Andrea + Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: As seen on Oprah, WSJ, People, and CNN, Andrea McGinty is a professional dating coach, author, and entrepreneur with more than 25 years of experience. Having set up over 33,000 successful dates, she is the founder of two dating companies--It's Just Lunch and 33k Dates--as well as several other ventures, including BabyDagny and Pilatesworks. Connect with Andrea McGinty: Website : https://www.33000dates.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/33000dates Book: https://www.33000dates.com/book Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 20

In this episode, I unpacks the truths about oral sex that most men have never been taught. From understanding the female body to slowing down, asking the right questions, and focusing on connection instead of performance, this episode reveals how to move from being a good partner to a great one. Men who listen and apply this will transform not just their partner’s experience, but their entire relationship dynamic. Timestamps: 00:00 – Stop Guessing, Start Connecting 00:42 – Why Penetration Alone Isn’t Enough 01:15 – Understanding Her Anatomy (Clitoris & Vulva) 02:00 – The #1 Mistake Men Make 03:05 – How to Communicate About Intimacy 04:00 – Worship vs. Performance in Connection 05:00 – Final Tips: Why Presence Beats Perfection Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Follow Karen Bigman: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Website: http://taboototruth.com Subscribe to Taboo To Truth: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Tuesday & Saturday! Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2OHcG2UAb2l7FJp48jc0f9 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/taboo-to-truth-life-sex-after-50/id1769391023 This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now FREE at https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

Sep 16

In this episode, I dive into the world of male enhancement with William Moore , founder of PhalloFILL. We discuss the cultural silence around penis size, why girth is often more important for pleasure than length, and how fillers are changing the game. William explains the science behind hyaluronic acid injections, how long results last, and why more men are secretly seeking these treatments. We also address risks, myths, and the emotional weight tied to masculinity and size. By bringing this hidden conversation to light, the episode encourages openness, education, and self-confidence for men everywhere. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction & Breaking the Taboo 1:12 – Meet William Moore & PhalloFILL 2:45 – Does Size Really Matter? (Girth vs Length) 5:10 – Why Men Stay Silent About Enhancement 7:05 – How the PhalloFILL Procedure Works 9:00 – Risks, Safety, and Real Results 11:20 – Erectile Function, Confidence & Performance 13:15 – Stigma, Masculinity & The Future of Enhancement 14:30 – Closing Thoughts & Extended Cut Info Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: William Moore is the founder of PhalloFILL, a leading protocol for non-surgical penile girth enhancement using hyaluronic acid. He helped expand the procedure across North America and developed the PhalloSleeve®, a patented post-care device. Connect with William Moore: Website : https://phallofill.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phallofill/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PhalloFILL/ Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 13

Midlife women aren’t avoiding sex—they’re avoiding pain, boredom, and frustration. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons intimacy fades during midlife and what couples can do to reconnect. From hormone shifts and low libido to communication struggles and painful sex, Karen provides practical solutions and compassionate insights to help couples reignite intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why your partner seems to avoid the bedroom, this episode gives you the tools to start the right conversation and explore solutions—from medical options like hormone therapy to introducing new ways of creating pleasure. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why midlife women avoid sex 00:35 – Hormones, menopause & low libido 01:25 – Emotional struggles & stress 02:05 – Boring or painful sex: the silent killers 03:15 – The power of communication 04:10 – Possible solutions: hormones, therapy & vibrators 05:05 – Final advice: reconnecting with love Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Follow Karen Bigman: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Website: http://taboototruth.com Subscribe to Taboo To Truth on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Tuesday & Saturday! Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2OHcG2UAb2l7FJp48jc0f9 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/taboo-to-truth-life-sex-after-50/id1769391023 Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 9

Menopause is no longer a silent struggle. From “millennipause” to cutting-edge treatments like GLP-1s, today’s conversation with Jackie Giannelli, a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology, dives into the evolving landscape of perimenopause and menopause care. We explore the shifting attitudes around hormone replacement therapy, the rise of millennials entering perimenopause, and why lifestyle, supplements, and community matter just as much as medical interventions. Jackie also breaks down how GLP-1 medications may become a new arm of menopause treatment — while highlighting their potential impact on sexual health. Whether you’re curious about natural options, considering hormone therapy, or just beginning your perimenopause journey, this episode offers clarity, science-backed insights, and compassion for women navigating this complex phase of life. Timestamps: 0:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Jackie Giannelli 1:15 – What is “Millennipause”? 4:12 – How millennials are approaching perimenopause differently 6:45 – Hormone hesitancy is fading: why women want bioidenticals now 9:50 – Non-hormonal treatments: supplements that actually work 13:30 – Lifestyle shifts that make a difference in perimenopause 16:45 – GLP-1 medications and their surprising potential in menopause care 21:05 – The hidden side effects of GLP-1s on sexual health 23:18 – The power of community and women supporting women 25:10 – Jackie’s definition of sex & closing thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Jackie Giannelli is a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology. Jackie is a Menopause Society-certified practitioner, and an active member of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She trained and honed her expertise in this niche field at the largest freestanding women’s sexual health clinic in the country, Maze Women’s Health. Previously, Jackie has served as the founding nurse practitioner and Director of Clinical Practice at Elektra Health , a digital women’s health company on a mission to smash the menopause taboo. She also spent time as an Operator-in-Residence at 25m Health , a health-tech venture platform incubating new companies and investing in breakout startups. She advises and consults regularly in the digital health and startup space, and often mentors clinicians who are looking to pivot from the bedside into a non-traditional clinical role. She also continues to practice bedside medicine and is taking new patients as the Director of Women’s Sexual Health at Anna Barbieri, MD in NYC. Jackie is passionate about women’s health literacy and using technology to expand access to care, as well innovation in clinical strategy and private practice enablement. Jackie aims to democratize access to evidence-based midlife wellness education using her social media platform , through her newsletter In the Saddle , her digital clinical frameworks and as the co-host of the WellKept podcast . Jackie earned her nursing degrees at New York University and San Francisco State University and a B.A. in Health Studies from Georgetown University. Her work has been featured in Well+Good, PopSugar, and Everyday Health. She is a sought-after national speaker and educator in the field of women’s health. She lives in CT with her husband and two tween children but will never tire of trips to NYC for theater, culture, shopping and endless inspiration. Connect with Jackie Giannelli: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackie_giannellifnp/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-giannelli-rn-msn-fnp-bc-ncmp/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6eQRSsPNEE9R39Ah5182Yk?si=dfc033ca2bd6488d Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 6

In this episode, I share what I’ve learned after coaching women through menopause and living it myself. Through my own journey and countless conversations, I’ve identified what I call the five emotional stages of menopause: What the F **, Confusion, I Need Help, Acceptance,* and Empowerment . I walk you through each stage, the struggles and frustrations, and the hope that comes when you realize you’re not alone. Menopause isn’t a disease—it’s a natural phase of life that can actually lead you to strength, freedom, and empowerment. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction: My Menopause Journey 00:35 – Stage 1: WTF?! The Strange Symptoms I Didn’t Recognize 01:50 – Stage 2: Confusion – When I Thought Something Was Seriously Wrong 02:50 – Stage 3: I Need Help – Admitting I Couldn’t Do It Alone 03:50 – Stage 4: Acceptance – Finally Understanding Menopause 04:40 – Stage 5: Empowerment – How I Found Strength and Freedom 05:50 – Final Thoughts: Why Menopause Wasn’t the End for Me 06:20 – Outro Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 2

In this episode of Taboo to Truth , I sit down with Keeley Shoup — co-owner of CuddleList, director of CuddleXPro, and a certified Wheel of Consent facilitator — to explore the groundbreaking world of professional cuddle therapy. Keeley explains how platonic touch, rooted in boundaries and consent, can promote healing, reduce anxiety, ease grief, and improve relationships. Together, we break down the science behind oxytocin, discuss how intimacy isn’t always sexual, and share powerful stories of transformation through touch. Whether you’ve never heard of cuddle therapy or are curious about its impact, this conversation will shift how you think about connection, healing, and intimacy. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction Introducing Keeley Shoup and sets the stage for today’s taboo topic. 1:15 – What Is Cuddle Therapy? Keeley explains the origins, purpose, and misconceptions about cuddle therapy. 3:40 – The Science of Touch How oxytocin, nervous system regulation, and platonic connection improve mental health. 6:05 – Virtual Cuddle Therapy How sessions adapted during COVID and what “online cuddling” really looks like. 7:40 – Intimacy Beyond Sex Redefining intimacy: emotional, romantic, platonic 10:00 – Cuddle Therapy in Practice Keeley shares stories of healing, from grief support to boundary setting. 12:50 – Couples, Polyamory & Touch How cuddle therapy applies to couples, throuples, and polyamorous groups. 14:20 – A Powerful Client Breakthrough The story of emotional release leading to unexpected physical healing. 16:00 – Closing & Extended Cut Info Final thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Keeley has practiced as a full time Cuddle Therapist since 2015, supporting clients in both individual and group settings. She is a certified Cuddle Party facilitator and has taken every training program that exists for professional cuddlers. She continues her education in IFS, EFT, somatic experiencing, embodiment practices, the wheel of consent, and racial equity. In 2017, she became the Director of CuddleXpo, the first ever professional cuddlers convention. The 3 day educational event hosted over 100 professionals and participants from all across the world. Keeley has been a fierce advocate; reaching international audiences as she works to destigmatize mental health, promote education on boundaries and consent, and increase access to the groundbreaking therapeutic modality of cuddle therapy. Keeley is fostering an interdisciplinary community within the field of mental health professionals. She is the founder of Talk & Touch Pros; a networking resource group for collaboration between talk and somatic therapies. As co-owner and CEO of Cuddlist, Keeley works to increase the company’s visibility, further the high standard of quality within Cuddlists’ community of practitioners, increase practitioner’s accessibility to supportive resources, and champion the Cuddlist mission across the globe. Connect with Keeley: Website : https://www.keeleyshoup.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourcuddletherapist Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Aug 26

What if everything you thought about porn was wrong? In this episode let’s dive into the world of ethical porn—porn made with consent, transparency, fair pay, and respect for all performers. Unlike mainstream porn, ethical porn focuses on real people, real pleasure, and real connection. 👉 What you’ll learn in this episode: What ethical porn is and how it’s made Why mainstream porn sets dangerous, unrealistic expectations The importance of consent, safety, and fair pay in adult content How to find ethical platforms you can feel good supporting Why ethical porn can help reframe intimacy in healthy, realistic ways 💡 If you’ve ever searched for “real porn” or “ethical porn” and weren’t sure where to start, this episode is for you. Links https://makelovenotporn.tv/videos https://watch.erikalust.com https://www.bellesa.co Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction: What if everything you knew about porn was wrong? 00:25 – What is ethical porn? Consent, communication & fair pay 01:25 – How mainstream porn exploits performers and misleads viewers 02:15 – Why ethical porn shows real connection, real pleasure 03:10 – How to find ethical platforms & support creators 03:45 – Final thoughts: Pleasure, consent, and respect matter Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Aug 19

In this episode, I sit down with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom) , a non-monogamy pleasure and fetish coach, to explore the world of fetishes, kinks, and how our culture shapes desire. Nikki shares her research from hundreds of interviews with people who hold “uncommon” desires, and breaks down the difference between kinks and fetishes, the origins of certain turn-ons, and how to talk about these vulnerable topics with a partner. From the neuroscience of foot fetishes to the playful roleplay of vor (the desire to be “swallowed”), this conversation is packed with insights, humor, and permission to embrace who you truly are in the bedroom. Whether you’re curious about your own desires, wanting to spark intimacy with a long-term partner, or simply fascinated by human sexuality, this episode will leave you with tools to open conversations and normalize what society often stigmatizes. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Miss Bloom 01:05 – What is a fetish? Defining desires beyond the norm 03:10 – Fetish vs. kink: How they differ and overlap 05:05 – How culture shapes our desires (the quicksand example) 07:00 – Shame, secrecy, and impact on relationships 09:05 – Coaching example: Roleplay for vor fetish 11:10 – The neuroscience of foot fetishes 13:00 – Tips for sharing fetishes with a partner 14:20 – Consent, communication & closing thoughts ✨ If you’ve ever felt “different” in your desires, this episode is here to remind you: You are not alone. 👀Want a visual experience? Watch all episodes on YouTube—search Taboo To Truth . Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://www.arya.fyi About the Guest: Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, researcher, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations. After studying Sex Therapy at Guelph University, she has also built up her coaching practice, specializing in working with kinks & fetishes, ethical non-monogamy, and most importantly, pleasure. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships. Connect with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom): Website: https://www.nikidavisf.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missbloomsexeducator Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Aug 12

Cheating isn’t the biggest relationship killer—money is. I reveal the hidden financial red flags that can quietly destroy trust and security, and how to protect yourself before it’s too late. I share my own experience of ignoring the warning signs and what it cost me, plus the subtle clues you might be missing: lavish spending on a modest income, secretive money habits, repeated requests for “loans,” inconsistent stories about debt, and more. You’ll learn: How to spot financial instability early Why joint expenses should never mean giving up control How to protect yourself with solid planning and prenups Why honest money talks are as vital as conversations about intimacy Whether you’re dating, remarried, or in a long-term relationship—especially in midlife—this conversation will help you protect both your heart and your wallet. Because healthy money habits aren’t just smart… They're sexy. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why financial red flags matter more than you think 00:25 – Money & sex: the two hardest conversations 00:55 – My personal story of ignoring the signs 01:35 – Lavish spending vs. real income 02:05 – Secretive behavior & repeated requests for money 02:40 – Why you should talk about credit scores 03:05 – Inconsistent debt stories & hidden bankruptcies 03:35 – The danger of “my money, your money” control 04:00 – Protect yourself with planning & prenups 04:40 – The importance of professional financial advice 05:05 – “Open books, open hearts”: building transparency 05:40 – Keep money talks going for a healthier relationship 06:10 – Final takeaway: healthy money habits are sexy Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Follow Karen Bigman: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman Website: http://taboototruth.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Aug 5

In this episode, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Ariela Salinas Fiora. She’s an actor, writer, director, sex educator, and fierce advocate for fat, queer, and Latinx representation. But what really struck me was her deeply personal journey into ethical non-monogamy—especially within a decades-long marriage, while raising kids, and embracing her full identity as a woman over 50. We talked about everything: how she and her husband first explored the “seven-year itch,” how their kids found out about their open marriage, what it means to be oriented toward multiple partners, and how she’s dealt with jealousy (hint: it’s not what you’d expect). Ariela shares what it’s like to be affectionate, honest, and deeply committed in more than one relationship—and why she had to “come out” about it dramatically… onstage. This episode is about expanding our definitions of love, sex, parenting, and what it means to live authentically in our relationships—at any size, at any age, and on our own terms. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome + Meet Ariela Salinas Fiora 01:12 – How we met: SAR and sexual attitude reassessment 02:00 – Marrying young & the start of non-monogamy 03:28 – The “Seven-Year Itch” conversation in the car 05:05 – When kissing isn’t just kissing 06:32 – Realizing she’s always been non-monogamous 07:55 – Fat, queer, and rewriting representation 09:20 – Telling the kids about their open marriage 10:47 – Bringing partners home: How it works in real life 12:10 – Polycules, partners, and blended connections 13:40 – Boundaries, intimacy, and making it work 15:00 – Jealousy, priorities, and staying grounded 16:25 – Final thoughts on love, honesty, and self-trust 17:55 – Outro + Where to listen for more Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Ariella Salinas Fiore is an actress, creator, director, death doula, and intimacy professional from Los Angeles. She was lucky enough to be born into a family of fierce and talented female artists who supported her by putting her on stage at every opportunity. A first generation Nicaraguan/Panamanian American , she is passionate about increasing inclusivity for both Latinx and plus sized folks in entertainment. Her first solo show, The Fat Girl's Guide To Life, Sex, and Everything In Between, premiered in 2024 at the Hollywood Fringe Festival and has since been welcomed in multiple venues around Los Angeles. Connect with Ariella: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AriellasFanPage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellasalinasfiore Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jul 29

Porn: educational tool or relationship wrecker? This week, I’m breaking down the truth behind adult content—how it impacts solo and partnered intimacy, when it becomes problematic, and how it can actually support a healthier relationship and better sex. We will also explore the world of ethical porn , real-life arousal, and how fantasy on-screen isn't always what it seems in real life. If you’ve ever wondered whether porn is hurting or helping your connection, this episode is a must-listen. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: Is Porn Really Bad for You? 01:42 – When Porn Becomes a Problem 03:20 – Solo vs. Partnered Play: The Role of Porn 04:55 – Fantasy vs. Reality in Adult Content 06:40 – What is Ethical Porn? (+ Sites to Know) 09:35 – Real People, Real Pleasure: Homemade Porn Explained 11:20 – Porn and ED: A Surprising Use Case 13:10 – Relationship Conflict Over Porn 15:05 – When to Seek a Sex Therapist 17:00 – Using Porn to Reignite Intimacy 18:25 – Porn as Entertainment, Not Education Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jul 22

In this unfiltered conversation, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship coach Caitlin V. to explore the truths about male performance anxiety, orgasms, slowing down intimacy, and why men might be misunderstanding their own desires — and women’s. We discuss how societal pressures create performance myths, the importance of pacing and communication in the bedroom, why curiosity beats confidence, and the misconceptions around anal play, identity, and masculinity. Plus, Caitlin shares her wildest orgasm story and the fantasy she hasn’t tried… yet. 👉 This episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules of connection, pleasure, and redefining masculinity — with humor, honesty, and heart. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 02:20 – Meet Caitlin V.: Sex Coach & Performance Expert 04:10 – Why Men Burn Out in Bed (And How to Fix It) 07:45 – The Art of Titration & Variation in Intimacy 11:30 – Slowing Down & Setting Playful Boundaries 16:00 – How to Regulate Your Nervous System Together 19:45 – The Biggest Mistakes Men Make with Women 25:30 – Delayed Ejaculation & Overstimulation Explained 33:50 – Porn, Edging & Why It Can Backfire 38:40 – Anal Play, Masculinity & The Butt Taboo 47:00 – Caitlin’s Definition of Sex 49:20 – The Best Orgasm Story (Yes, It’s That Good) 54:00 – The Fantasy She Still Wants to Try Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Caitlin V is a renowned sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation. A former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she skyrocketed to internet fame after a viral video on female pleasure. Today, she works with clients worldwide to resolve mismatched libidos, enhance sexual confidence, and create more satisfying intimate experiences. Blending personal experience with evidence-based science, Caitlin is on a mission to foster a sex-positive world where pleasure is prioritized. With millions of views on YouTube and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her expertise is now reaching an even wider audience with her upcoming TV show, Good Sex, premiering on Discovery+ and Max. ​​Come As You Want online course: https://caitlinvneal.com/come-when-you-want-2/ Connect with Caitlin V: Website : https://caitlinvneal.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlinvictoriousx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaitlinV Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Ready to feel Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder? Join my brand-new Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass — real talk, real tools, and real strategies to help you feel empowered in midlife intimacy. Special offer: Get 30% off with code BIRTHDAY30 until July 31 at taboototruth.com/registration 💖 Don’t wait — your pleasure and confidence are worth it. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jul 15

In this honest and empowering episode, I break down the stigma around erectile issues and the myth that a hard penis is the only key to great intimacy. Whether you or your partner struggles with maintaining an erection, this episode offers a fresh perspective on redefining intimacy, practical tips to keep the connection hot, and how to explore pleasure beyond penetration. From medical insights to creative intimacy tips, Karen shares how couples can stay connected — soft or hard. Ready to feel Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder? Join my brand-new Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass — real talk, real tools, and real strategies to help you feel empowered in midlife intimacy. Special offer: Get 30% off with code BIRTHDAY30 until July 31 at taboototruth.com/registration 💖 Don’t wait — your pleasure and confidence are worth it. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Truth About Erectile Challenges in Midlife 02:15 – Why Soft Doesn’t Mean the End of Your Intimate Life 04:45 – Medical Causes: When to See a Doctor 07:10 – The Testosterone Factor + Heart Health Connection 09:40 – How Performance Anxiety Can Make It Worse 12:00 – Redefining Intimacy: It’s Not All About Penetration 14:20 – Erotic Massage, Touch, and Non-Penetrative Play Ideas 17:30 – Using Toys, Hands, and Connection to Stay Close 19:50 – How the Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass Helps Couples Reignite Desire 22:00 – Final Thoughts: Expand Your Menu of Pleasure Master The Art of Lingam Massage with Caitlin V: https://caitlinvneal.samcart.com/referral/jzbrlA1B/zMGEmkSP4M9DevJn Master The Art of Yoni Massage with Caitlin V: https://caitlinvneal.samcart.com/referral/sbDgtRCV/zMGEmkSP4M9DevJn Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jul 8

In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles to break the silence around painful sex, vaginal atrophy, menopause, and the damaging scripts of ‘duty sex’. Dr. Sophocles shares: Why so many women endure painful sex silently The difference between vaginal atrophy, vulvodynia, and other causes of pain How treatments like vaginal estrogen, lubricants, and dilators can help Why sexual pain should never define your worth as a partner The importance of communication with doctors and partners Her upcoming documentary HOT! exploring midlife women’s sexuality Her personal definition of sex: joy, curiosity, and humor This episode is a must-listen for any woman wanting to understand her body, break free from shame, and embrace a sex life defined by her own needs and desires. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro & Guest Welcome 02:10 – The Reality of Painful Sex Globally 05:50 – Dr. Maria Sophocles’ Work & TED Talk Impact 09:20 – Mercy Sex, Duty Sex, and The Bedroom Gap 14:00 – Why Women Feel Obliged to Endure Pain 17:50 – Common Causes of Painful Sex in Midlife 21:40 – Treatments: Vaginal Estrogen, Lubricants, Dilators 26:10 – How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex 31:30 – Communicating With Your Partner About Pain & Pleasure 38:00 – The Importance of Sexual Check-Ins 43:20 – Dr. Sophocles’ Upcoming Documentary HOT! 47:10 – Her Personal Definition of Sex 49:00 – Closing Thoughts & Next Steps Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics. Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles : Website : https://mariasophoclesmd.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! P3rMbJYVyM5CIZNacDVN

Jul 1

In this milestone 100th episode, I’m celebrating by launching my Hotter, Wiser, Wilder adult sex ed masterclass and revisiting the 10 most unforgettable moments from Taboo to Truth . Inside this episode: Why younger men pursue older women The 5 secrets of desire: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, attunement Testosterone myths & benefits for women Why fantasy is essential for getting turned on Reframing foreplay to coreplay Sexual snacking to reignite connection The anatomy and purpose of the clitoris The truth about midlife dating insecurities Why communication is the foundation of great sex How to keep sex creative and fun in long-term relationships Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome & Celebrating 100 Episodes 01:12 – Launching Hotter, Wiser, Wilder: Adult Sex Ed Masterclass 02:47 – Cougar Dating: Younger Men Want Older Women 05:14 – The 5 Secrets of Desire Revealed 08:36 – Do You Even Like The Sex You’re Having? 11:02 – Testosterone: Myths, Benefits & Libido for Women 15:55 – Why Fantasy is Essential for Women’s Turn-On 19:27 – Midlife Dating Insecurities vs Male Perception 23:44 – Sexual Snacking: Reigniting Connection in Daily Life 28:19 – Rethinking Foreplay: Why Coreplay Matters 33:12 – The Glorious Clitoris: Pleasure, Anatomy & Purpose 38:05 – Communication, Creativity, & Keeping Sex Exciting 41:20 – Closing: Pleasure Does Not Have an Expiration Date Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jun 24

In this special on-location episode, I visited Babeland, the iconic sex shop in Brooklyn, NY, for an educational and eye-opening walkthrough of the latest in adult toys and accessories. Joined by certified sex educator Lisa Finn, we explore a wide range of products—from vibrators and anal plugs to BDSM gear and positioning pillows. Whether you're new to sex toys or looking to expand your toolkit, this episode delivers a shame-free, inclusive, and curiosity-driven look at what pleasure can truly be. 👀 This is a highly visual episode—watch the full tour on YouTube for the complete experience: 👉 YouTube.com/@taboototruthpodcast 💸 BONUS: Get 10% off your purchase at babeland.com with code TABOO10 at checkout. Timestamps: 0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:30 – Filming at Babeland in Brooklyn 1:00 – Watch the full tour on YouTube 1:20 – Get 10% off at Babeland.com 1:45 – Big Announcement: New Masterclass! 2:40 – What You’ll Learn in the Course 3:30 – Sign Up Now for 50% Off 4:00 – Wrap-Up & Final Thoughts Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jun 17

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate), we unpack some of the biggest myths around women's intimacy, including the idea that satisfaction should come from one kind of experience alone. Timestamps: 0:00 – Missed Part 1? Go Back! 0:45 – Why Vibrators Are Game-Changers 2:30 – Debunking the Biggest Myths About Toys 4:30 – How Vibration Supports Pleasure and Healing 6:15 – Do Vibrators Replace Partners? Let’s Be Real. 8:00 – Rethinking ‘Foreplay’: The Four Plays That Work 10:16 - Announcing My New Masterclass - Hotter, Wiser, Wilder! 10:30 – Sexual Guilt & The Orgasm Gap 12:10 – Attachment, Casual Sex & Cultural Myths 14:00 – BDSM, Boudoir & Owning Your Curiosity 16:00 – What Is Sex? Dr. Laurie’s Definition 17:40 – Advice for Women Struggling With Orgasm 19:20 – Final Thoughts + Join Dr. Laurie’s Live Coaching Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: ‪@drlauriemintz‬ is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators. Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz: Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becomin... Instagram: / drlauriemintz Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. To celebrate the 100th episode of the Taboo to Truth podcast, I’m launching something BIG: 🎉 Hotter, Wiser, Wilder — a s/x-ed masterclass for adults 💡 6 packed modules 📹 Bite-sized videos & guided exercises 🎯 Real tools for solo & partnered pleasure You’ll learn: ✔️ The truth about your anatomy (yes, yours!) ✔️ How to navigate aging & s/xual dysfunction ✔️ Communication that actually works ✔️ Games, fantasies, toys & more—because fun is part of the homework 💃 🚨 Sign up now at https://www.taboototruth.com to get 50% off if you join before July 1 Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: / taboototruth YouTube: / @taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Jun 10

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex —to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz 01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure 03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It 06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend 09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained 13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie 16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure 18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters 22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This) 26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives 29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection? 33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume 35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment 38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools 42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2 Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex . Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators. Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz: Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Jun 3

In this episode I welcome Tanya Griffin, founder of “oOYes,” an ecstatic intimacy and cannabis lifestyle brand. Together, we dive deep into how cannabis can elevate female pleasure, the science behind multi-orgasmic experiences, and how to use both systemic and topical products to enhance your sensual life—especially in midlife and beyond. From THC-infused lube to breaking down barriers around oral, nothing is off the table. You’ll laugh, learn, and leave feeling liberated. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome + Meet Tanya from Oh Yes 01:15 - From Cannabis to Climax: Tanya’s Entrepreneurial Journey 04:28 - Cannabis & Female Pleasure: How They Work Together 08:40 - Karen’s Wild Weed Story (And Accidental O!) 12:10 - Why Women Think Too Fast for Good 🍑 15:02 - Dosing THC for Newbies: Start Low, Go Slow 18:50 - Practicing Pleasure: Why Self-Love is Essential 21:34 - Topical vs. Systemic Cannabis: What to Know 26:55 - What is Edible Sex Play? 29:10 - How Hormones Affect Cannabis & Climax 33:48 - Cannabis for Oral Anxiety & Better Blood Flow 38:22 - Daily O’s, Mastery & Why Practice is 🔑 42:14 - What to Do If You Get Too High 45:18 - Creating Ritual: Turning Pleasure Into a Lifestyle 49:30 - Introducing the “Oh Yes Sex Quiz” for You + Your Partner 52:40 - Tanya’s Definition of Sex 54:35 - Final Thoughts + Upcoming Collaborations About The Guest From colostrum to cannabis to cum, Tanya Griffin has spent over three decades building businesses focused on women’s health, plant medicine, and sexual wellness. A lactation consultant turned cannabis pioneer, she founded and scaled multiple health and cannabis ventures, including the first national cannabis franchise and a REGTech/FINTech platform for cannabis payments. Now the founder of oOYes and Uh Huh Honey, Tanya combines her passion for ecstatic sex, education, and harm reduction into luscious, cannabinoid-infused products and experiences. She’s on a mission to help people have more and better sex—consciously, joyfully, and fully present. Yes to Sex newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7166601342721982464 20% off OoYes products use code TABOO20: https://www.ooyes.love Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

May 27

In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters 01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia 03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation? 04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis 05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Aging Impact) 06:30 – Physical Causes: Surgery, Alcohol, Nerve Damage, Testosterone 09:15 – Psychological Causes: Shame, Anxiety, Trauma, Porn Habits 12:45 – The Impact on Relationships + Emotional Disconnect 14:10 – Key Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pattern 16:00 – How to Start Treating Delayed Ejaculation 18:30 – Adjusting M@sterbati*n, Increasing Sensitivity, Using Lube 20:00 – When to Seek Therapy or Medical Help 21:30 – Final Words: You’re Not Broken—You Can Heal Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

May 20

In this candid episode, I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin—emergency physician turned sex tech innovator—to talk erectile fitness, aging erections, and why the humble c*ck ring might just be the unsung hero of midlife pleasure. From horse accidents and centaur metaphors to revolutionary wearable tech, this episode explores the real (and often overlooked) science behind erections and the emotional toll of performance anxiety. If you're ready to shift shame, embrace better tools, and reignite connection with your partner—this one's for you. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 01:40 – Meet Dr. Elliot Justin & his journey from ER to sex tech 04:00 – The horseback accident that changed everything 06:15 – What erectile dysfunction really means (and doesn’t) 08:20 – Why most c ck rings don’t work — and how FirmTech changed that 11:00 – The confidence-erection connection no one talks about 13:30 – Why your partner’s erection is a health signal 15:50 – Can data actually improve erections? (Yep.) 18:00 – RingMate: The pleasure product designed for her 20:10 – Redefining what counts as s x 22:00 – Final thoughts on pleasure, performance & partnership Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Elliot Justin, MD, FACEP, is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men’s erectile fitness. He has a background in Emergency Medicine and healthcare technology consulting. Dr. Justin is also a serial healthcare entrepreneur, having founded and sold Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He has provided guidance to various services, telemedicine, and tech startups. Dr. Justin pursued Slavic Studies at Harvard University and studied medicine at Boston University. Happily married for 35 years, and father of three children, Elliot and Ann live in Montana with three energetic mares and a flock of chickens. Connect with Elliot Justin, MD: Instagram: @doctorelliotjustin @myfirmtech Website: https://myfirmtech.com Enjoy 15% off with code TABOO15 using this link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

May 13

We’ve all heard them—the whispered “rules” about how sex should be. Be spontaneous . Always want it. Orgasms are everything . Sound familiar? But what if I told you these so-called truths are actually myths… and they’re killing our sex lives behind closed doors? These myths sneak into the sheets with us. In this episode, I’m breaking down five myths that could be ruining your sex life—and offering a fresh, honest look at how to bring the pleasure back. One of them might even surprise you (myth #4 is a game changer). Let's dive in! Timestamps: (00:00:00) - Introduction (00:01:11) - Myth #1: "Sex drive should be constant" (00:02:05) - Myth #2: "No desire means a bad relationship" (00:03:27) - Myth #3: "Real sex requires penetration" (00:04:05) - Myth #4: "Orgasms are the goal" (this one will shock you) (00:04:30) - Myth #5: "Relationship sex is always better" (00:05:50) - Upcoming adult sex education masterclass Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

May 6

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that? In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus , a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter. We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust. If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it. In This Episode: (00:00) - Introduction (00:40) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant." (01:13) - What is a sensual sadist dominant? (02:20) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism (04:00) - Can kink be healing from past trauma? (07:20) - Does BDSM always involve sex? (09:06) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism (11:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up) (15:25) - Safety, vetting, and how to trust a partner in kink (19:16) - Definitions: Dom vs. Top, Sub vs. Bottom, Switches (21:46) - What’s a Stag and Vixen dynamic? (22:54) - Hotwifing vs. Cuckolding (24:50) - Penis humiliation? Understanding the mental side of masochism (25:58) Relationship between certain kinks and past trauma (26:06) - Reclaiming trauma through consensual non-consent (27:35) - Sir Leezus defines sex in his own words (28:18) - Where to find and work with Sir Leezus Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure. Connect with Sir Leezus: Website : https://sirleezus.com/ Instagram: @sirr.leezus Available for sessions, performances, and kink consultations. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

Apr 29

Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that? In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens without a single touch below the belt—but the emotional intimacy? That can run deeper than any bedroom encounter. We explore why so many people—especially in midlife—start to unlock new layers of desire after years of silence or shame. And how things like spanking, submission, and even humiliation can become powerful tools for rediscovering connection, pleasure, and self-trust. If you’ve ever felt like something’s missing, or like your desires don’t fit the standard mold… this conversation might make more sense than you expect. Let’s get into it. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction (00:47) - Sir Leezus: His roles as sex educator, kink advisor, and "sensual sadist dominant." (01:18) - What is a sensual sadist dominant? (02:23) - BDSM vocab 101: Bondage, Dominance, Submission & Sadomasochism (03:53) - Can kink be healing from past trauma? (07:18) - Does kink always involve sex? (08:37) - Pain and pleasure: Understanding masochism (10:42) - How midlife women discover kink (and what opens them up) Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Sir Leezus is a performance artist, sensual sadist, and BDSM educator with years of experience in erotic power exchange and kink dynamics. He offers private sessions, coaching, and education to individuals and couples who want to explore new layers of intimacy, pleasure, and consent. Known for his approachable yet deeply knowledgeable style, he’s on a mission to break down shame and open up new paths to pleasure. Connect with Sir Leezus: Website: https://sirleezus.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/sirr.leezus Available for sessions, performances, and kink consultations. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Apr 22

Think you know what turns you on? Think again. We tend to treat pleasure like it lives in a few familiar places—the usual G-spots, the go-to zones we all default to. But the truth? Your entire skin is wired for sensation. Your body is a playground of possibility… and chances are, you’re only exploring a fraction of it. In this episode, I’m taking you beyond the basics—past the genitals, breasts, and all the usual G-spots—to uncover the overlooked 13 erogenous zones that can completely transform your experience of desire. No penetration required. Just curiosity, presence, and a willingness to explore what’s been hiding in plain sight. From the power of the brain (yes, it’s your sexiest organ) to the often-ignored backs of your knees (seriously!), I’m showing you how to awaken your body in unexpected ways—ways that build anticipation, deepen connection, and redefine pleasure entirely. If your sex life feels a little too routine—or you’re just ready to feel more alive in your own skin—this episode is a must listen! Let’s unlock the pleasure you didn’t know you were missing. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:32) Brain as the biggest sex organ (Did you know you can orgasm without any touch?) (01:58) The skin: Your body’s largest erogenous zone (02:30) Lips & tongue: Beyond kissing—creative ways to tease and tantalize (03:22) The neck, clavicle, and ears: Slow, sensual exploration (04:20) Fingers: How to use them everywhere (plus combining touch with lips) (05:05) Armpits and inner arms: Surprising zones for some, turn-offs for others—how to navigate (05:34) The sides of the torso and thighs: The art of the tease (06:04) Behind the knees: My personal favorite (06:16) Feet: Beyond fetishes—how gentle touch can ignite full-body arousal (06:45) Outercourse: Why pleasure doesn’t need to lead to intercourse (07:18) Mindfulness: How being present amplifies sensation (per Peggy Kleinplatz’s Magnificent Sex) (07:57) Cannabis and sex: Can it heighten pleasure? (08:41) Final takeaway: Pleasure is limitless Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Apr 15

What if the biggest obstacle to pleasure in the bedroom… isn’t your partner, but the stories you tell yourself about your own body? What if confidence, connection, and mind-blowing pleasure weren’t things you had to chase—but things you could unlock from within? In this episode, I sit down with Orisha Re’ Lampkin—movement alchemist, pleasure revolutionary, and founder of Fearless Revolution —to dismantle the myths keeping women from fully owning their sensuality. We dive deep into how cultural conditioning, body shame, and self-doubt smother our sexual spark… and how movement, mindset, and yes—even moaning—can reignite it. From Lip Service Mastery (70+ ways to delight with hands and mouth) to Dirty Talk for the Shy Girl, and how to turn washing dishes into foreplay—this conversation is your permission slip to feel powerful, present, and unapologetically turned on—exactly as you are. Some of what Orisha shares will surprise you. Some might make you squirm. But all of it will bring you closer to your most radiant, turned-on, fully alive self. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (00:29) Meet Orisha – movement expert, sensuality coach & fearless feminine leader (02:05) “Seduce Your Sexy” – Orisha’s transformational movement class (04:39) The power of movement in boosting self-love and intimacy (05:43) “Floating arms” – a deceptively simple exercise that changes everything (07:42) How the MINDBODY connection amplifies pleasure (09:02) The sexiest move? The flowing figure eight—perfected while doing dishes (11:16) Dirty Talk 101 – why your tone matters more than the words (12:35) Vocalizations as the first step into sexy self-expression (14:22) How to sext like a pro (15:08) Lip Service Mastery – 70+ hand and mouth moves that actually work (19:06) The “Hitchhiker” – a game-changing warmup technique (20:07) The 4-second rule: slow it down and build anticipation (22:24) “Lover’s Moves” – blindfolds, earbuds, and an unforgettable partner experience (24:48) In-person & virtual classes in Midtown East (and how to join) (25:22) Orisha’s empowering definition of sex Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest Orisha Re’ Lampkin is a health and wellness coach, movement expert, and the founder of Fearless Revolution, a transformational journey designed to help women reclaim their sensuality and power. With 30+ years of experience in fitness, corrective exercise, and NLP, she blends playfulness with profound healing to help women embody their erotic truth and fully own their pleasure. Connect with Orisha here: Fearless Revolution Website https://www.fearless-revolution.com/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@fearlessrevolution?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fearlessrevolutionfitness/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Fearless-ReVolution-101671732021027 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC58a6A3vNb82HUkwJ7zKmcA LinkedIn http://www.linkedin.com/in/orisha-re-lampkin-bb2b79215 Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Apr 8

Ever feel like your sex life is on autopilot? We’ve all been there – the same routine, the same positions, the same predictable outcome. What if I told you your sex life could be playful, adventurous, and deeply satisfying again? Routine can be the death of passion—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I delve into 10 ways to have better sex and break free from "wallpaper sex" (you know, the same old routine). Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or exploring solo pleasure, these tips will help you reconnect with pleasure, curiosity, and fun. Some of these tips will surprise you. Some might even make you blush. But one thing’s for sure—you’ll never look at pleasure the same way again! Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (00:15) The problem with "wallpaper sex" (00:34) Naked dates (00:58) Clothed sex with no genitals involved (01:11) Mutual masturbation – why watching is half the fun (01:30) Shower sex (safety first) (01:50) Sexy card games to unlock fantasies you’ve been too shy to share (02:16) Watching ethical porn sites like MakeLoveNotPorn (03:05) Sexting like a pro (steamy examples included) (03:28) "Sex snacking" – tiny touches that keep the spark alive (03:52) Surprise your partner – the fur coat reveal (my signature move) (04:12) Change location – break free from the bedroom Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Apr 1

Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don’t have a husband or kids doesn’t mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you’re free to live exactly how you want. In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy’s fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn’t about slowing down—it’s about embracing what you truly want. We dive into why she chooses to date younger men, why marriage and kids were never part of her plan, and how we can all redefine intimacy, confidence, and pleasure as we age. Plus, Cindy shares how MakeLoveNotPorn is changing the conversation around real-world sex and helping people feel seen, accepted, and empowered. She also dives deep into how MakeLoveNotPorn differs from OnlyFans, the unique challenges they face—especially the uphill battle of advertising bans on social media. It’s time to step into a world where sex is shame-free, open, and truly fulfilling. Let’s dive in! Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to Cindy Gallop (01:09) No husband, no kids: Ultimate self-care routine (02:27) Dating younger men—casually, unapologetically, and on her own terms (02:32) The problem with society’s lack of role models for aging women (03:07) Body image, menopause, and post-menopausal pride (03:52) Why she proudly shouts her age (65!) and the power of #SayYourAge (04:19) MakeLoveNotPorn: The platform changing how we talk about real-world sex (05:27) The lube: Why there’s no such thing as “too much” (06:36) Cindy on finding the confidence to date younger men (07:14) The glaring double standard: Older men vs. older women in dating (08:47) Cindy’s revelation: Being every young guy’s fantasy (09:25) The rise of niche dating sites—and how to find the right one for you (13:29) What MakeLoveNotPorn celebrates (14:39) How MakeLoveNotPorn stands apart from ethical porn (16:56) The Social Sex Revolution: Why we need to talk about real sex (19:40) OnlyFans vs. MakeLoveNotPorn: The key differences (21:15) Challenges in Promoting MakeLoveNotPorn: Censorship, stigma, and funding struggles (23:30) What makes someone sexy? (24:40) Join and subscribe to MakeLoveNotPorn and Wefunder campaign (25:52) Cindy’s definition of sex Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Cindy Gallop is a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn—the "real-world sex" platform challenging porn’s unrealistic narratives. A vocal advocate for aging, sexuality, and gender equality, Cindy’s work has been featured in TED Talks, The New York Times, and beyond. You can find Cindy Gallop here: MakeLoveNotPorn Website: https://makelovenotporn.tv/ Wefunder Equity Crowdfunding Campaign: https://wefunder.com/makelovenotporn Watch Cindy’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc Website: https://cindygallop.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindygallop/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/?hl=en X: https://x.com/cindygallop Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Mar 25

In this episode, I dive into the benefits of testosterone for women. I share my own experience with testosterone therapy and how it helps me with everything from libido and orgasms to brain fog and muscle mass. It’s not just about sex drive—testosterone also helps with bone strength, hot flashes, and even Alzheimer’s prevention. I break down how it’s prescribed, why proper dosing is so important, and why you should never borrow your husband’s testosterone (trust me, I’ve got a wild story about that). Whether you’re curious about testosterone, considering hormone therapy, or just want to feel your best during menopause, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it! Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:03) Testosterone’s role in women’s health. (02:24) Benefits: libido, orgasms, brain fog, muscle mass, bone strength, Alzheimer’s prevention. (03:27) How testosterone is prescribed and why baseline testing matters. (04:31) Risks of misuse and why women need lower doses than men. (05:33) Off-label use and delivery methods (gels, creams, pellets). (06:26) Exercise and protein’s role in maximizing testosterone’s benefits. (07:18) Recap: Testosterone with estrogen & progesterone. (08:20) Closing remarks Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Mar 18

Estrogen plays a role in your brain, bones, skin, and even your heart. When menopause hits and estrogen levels drop, the ripple effects can be dramatic—affecting everything from your mood and energy to your libido and long-term health. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a board-certified OB-GYN, menopause expert, sex coach, and host of The Muslim Sex Podcast to talk about everything from the forgotten sex-positive history of Islam to painful sex during perimenopause that is so common but rarely discussed, and the ongoing debate over estrogen hormone therapy. If you’re in perimenopause (or just wondering what’s ahead), this episode will change the way you see your body—and give you the tools to take charge of your health. Let’s dive in! Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to Dr. Sadaf Lodhi (02:08) Islam and erotology: The surprising sex-positive history (03:58) How colonization erased a sex-positive culture and changed everything (06:30) Religion, sex, and clients: How Dr. Sadaf approaches coaching (07:21) Vaginismus and painful penetration (10:23) Why pain with sex accelerates during perimenopause and menopause (11:19) The role of vaginal estrogen in reducing painful sex (12:03) Why the urethra gets bigger during menopause—and the risk of bladder infections (12:36) Contraindications for vaginal estrogen use (13:05) Why you should use vaginal estrogen even in perimenopause (14:07) Why doctors should start the menopause conversation at 35 (including ovarian insufficiency) (16:03) The hormone therapy debate: What you need to know (17:15) Should women take testosterone? (23:47) The ideal time for estrogen therapy: When to start and why (26:11) Dr. Sadaf’s upcoming retreat: Love, Nourish, and Thrive Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OB GYN with over 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual and menopausal health. She is the founder of Femme Vie Health, a concierge gynecology practice in New York, and provides telehealth services in Michigan. A certified sexual health specialist and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she is dedicated to empowering women through education and advocacy. Dr. Lodhi hosts The Muslim Sex Podcast , making sexual and menopausal health accessible globally. She delivered a TEDx talk on sexual education for physicians and was honored as the 2024 Alumni of the Year by the University of Michigan - Dearborn. She is also a contributing author in Thriving After Burnout . Connect with Dr. Sadaf: Website Instagram Podcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Mar 11

Low libido, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), can be a tough challenge for many women, particularly during midlife. In this episode, I take a closer look at the various medical treatments available for low libido, covering everything from prescription medications to hormone therapy and beyond. Whether you're dealing with hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or simply feeling drained, this episode offers practical advice and solutions to help you regain your sexual vitality and feel more like yourself again. If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share with someone who might benefit, and leave a review! Let’s continue the conversation and break the stigma around libido and midlife—together. Timestamps: (00:00:00) - Introduction (00:01:12) - What causes low libido? (00:02:08) - Factors contributing to low libido (00:03:19) - Overview of prescription drugs (00:04:22) - How Addyi works (00:05:33) - Vyleesi overview (00:06:34) - Viagra and Cialis for women (00:07:35) - Testosterone and hormone therapy (00:08:35) - Wellbutrin and libido (00:08:35) - Cannabis and libido Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Mar 4

Menopause isn’t a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you’re less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that’s all a lie? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp , to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal impacts, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating—or preparing for—this life stage. We explore why menopause isn’t a disease, how hormone therapy can be a game-changer, and why the fear of breast cancer shouldn’t overshadow the benefits of treatment. Plus, we tackle the buzzwords like “natural” and “bioidentical,” and discuss the role of lifestyle, diet, and community in thriving through menopause. This isn’t just a conversation about hormones—it’s about reclaiming power, understanding our bodies, and embracing the wisdom that comes with age. Are you ready to redefine menopause? Let’s dive in! About the Guest: Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is a board-certified OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and advocate for integrative medicine. She is the author of Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Yourself, and Flourish as You Age and a frequent media contributor, including as the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show. Dr. Suzanne is passionate about empowering women to take control of their health and embrace menopause as a transformative life stage. You can find Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz here: Website LinkedIn Instagram Book Timestamps: (00:47) Introduction to Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz (01:46) What is perimenopause and menopause? (05:13) The wide-ranging symptoms of perimenopause (08:02) The rise of antidepressants during menopause (09:41) The truth about hormone therapy (20:23) When to start hormone therapy (25:33) Busting the biggest myths about breast cancer risk (27:59) Hormone therapy and osteoporosis (29:07) The overlooked cancer risks you should know about (32:52) Natural vs. Bioidentical Hormones: What’s the real difference? (39:42) Can lifestyle choices make menopause easier? (43:03) Menopause Boot Camp & what’s next on the journey Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Feb 25

Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it’s euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it? In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why preparation (hello, waterproof sheets!) is key. Are we too caught up in the mechanics of it all? Or is squirting just another way to explore pleasure without shame? Let’s dive in! Timestamps: (00:00) What people really think about squirting (00:58) What is squirting? Breaking down the myths (02:47) Female anatomy: Understanding the Skene’s glands (03:47) The technique: How squirting happens (and how to try it) (04:41) The psychological side: Overcoming mental blocks and shame (05:37) Final thoughts: Is squirting worth the hype? Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Feb 18

What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared? At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change. In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it? We’ll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans. This isn’t just a story. It’s a wake up call. Are you ready? Let’s get into it! Timestamps: (00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster (01:50) Norma’s story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend (04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn (09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon (11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization (14:44) Is OnlyFans legal? (15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization (16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans (20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work (24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships (27:01) Norma's definition of sex About the Guest: Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim’s rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She’s also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law. You can find Norma here: Website LinkedIn Instagram CA Goldberg Law Firm Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Feb 11

You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone’s still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass. We’ve trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here’s a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time? In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what about spotting the signs that someone is actually worth your time? From emotional stability to simple acts of kindness (like holding the door or sending a thoughtful text), we’re diving into what makes a partner a keeper. Are we so focused on running that we forget to notice when we should stay? Let’s talk about it. Timestamps: (01:07) The biggest red flags in dating after 50 (02:16) Why dating someone who’s “almost divorced” is a risky move (02:16) The self-absorbed dater: how to spot them fast (04:01) Why financial security matters more than ever (05:01) The top green flags to look for in a potential partner (06:03) How small gestures (like opening a door) say a lot (07:05) Why a good relationship with an ex isn’t a bad thing Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Feb 4

Let’s cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let’s be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever? In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that’s all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink. We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you’ve struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi’s got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward. So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let’s just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in! Timestamps: (00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta (00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app? (00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi (00:06:18) The AI and human concierge (00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi (00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice (00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy? (00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology (00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request (00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration (00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships (00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe? (00:25:22) What is sex, really? (00:26:34) The future of AI and human interaction About the Guest: Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :) You can find Nicholas here: Website LinkedIn Arya: Intimacy Concierge for Couples' Connection Use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off https://www.arya.fyi/join/ Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jan 28

We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean? In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation. But this isn’t just about anatomy or science; it’s about YOU. I share personal stories, including one about a friend who experiences orgasms from exercise (yes, you read that right!), and how communication, curiosity, and a little playfulness can transform your intimate experiences. Plus, we explore why orgasms aren’t just about pleasure—they’re great for your health, too. Better sleep, lower stress, and even a stronger immune system? Yes, please. Whether you’re looking to deepen your connection with a partner, understand your own body more intimately, or simply enjoy life’s pleasures to the fullest, this episode is for you. In This Episode: (00:00) Introduction (00:50) What is an orgasm, really? (01:24) The science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm (03:35) The different types of orgasms (06:57) How male orgasms differ from female orgasms (08:22) Why men tend to get aroused more quickly than women (09:03) The health benefits of orgasms (09:45) Some unexpected areas of the body that can enhance orgasm (10:04) The brain is your biggest sex organ Register for Hot Flashes & Hot Nights at Newport Beach, CA on January 29th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1147547789329?aff=oddtdtcreator Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Jan 21

How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife? In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences. Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual life. We also discuss the power of redefining conventional expectations, embracing vulnerability, and fostering deeper connection as key components of a vibrant midlife journey. Whether you’re navigating changes in your relationships, seeking tools to enhance intimacy, or simply curious about the intersection of emotional and physical wellness, this episode provides thoughtful reflections and actionable tips to help you feel more connected, confident, and alive. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:34) The empowering world of somatics (04:29) Exploring different somatic practices (06:09) Why it’s important to clearly communicate your desires and needs (10:14) The emotional complexity of casual encounters (17:08) How to reignite connection as a long-term couple (24:53) Breaking the tug-of-war of needs in partnerships (27:00) Kiana’s inspiring journey of motherhood and self-discovery Kiana Reeves Website: https://www.kianareeves.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/ Premium Female Sexual Wellness Products by FORIA® https://imp.i168918.net/DyV7Gj DISCOUNT: 20% with code TABOO Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jan 18

What’s the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy? In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful. From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society’s evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships. Whether you’re curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink? (06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression (07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner (08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partners Mentioned: Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/ Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583 Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jan 14

Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity. I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection. Timestamps: (01:10) Different perspectives on monogamy (02:23) A little history about monogamy (03:34) Why it’s important to clearly define monogamy (04:38) Why personal boundaries matter—and how to define them (06:40) What “cheating” means to different people (and why it’s not always clear). (07:32) Is a "work spouse" considered cheating? (07:38) Nesting after divorce for the kids’ sake (07:45) Is attending a sex party without participating a form of cheating? (09:28) Why monogamy is based on religious models (09:47) How our upbringing shapes our views on monogamy Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jan 7

In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she expands on how we define sex itself, pushing for a broader, pleasure-centered perspective. Curious about the future of sexual health education and community? This conversation is sure to make you rethink everything! Let's dive in! About the Guest: Heather McPherson is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and the CEO and founder of Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a leading provider of education and certification for sexuality professionals. She is also the founder of the ReSpark Group , a national brand offering group therapy and a non-profit organization. Licensed in Colorado, Washington, and Texas, Heather specializes in sexual health and relationships. An AASECT-certified sex therapist, she's been featured in Playboy, CNN, and Rolling Stone. Heather’s passion lies in providing high-quality, evidence-based training for professionals in the field. PLISSIT Model Timestamps: (00:00:01) Introduction to Heather (00:02:09) What exactly is “sex addiction”? (00:06:11) Sex addiction vs porn addiction (00:14:07) The six guiding principles of sexual health (00:18:19) Integrating religion and sexuality (00:22:35) Gender differences in sex addiction (00:25:53) Evolution of sex therapy (00:28:54) Curriculum development for sexual health (00:31:19) How to become a certified sex therapist (00:35:49) Community importance in sexual health Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Jan 1

Hey there, and welcome to Season 4 of the Taboo to Truth podcast! I’m your host, Karen Bigman, and I’m thrilled to have you with me for another season of unapologetic conversations about sexuality in midlife. Whether you're navigating a dwindling libido, struggling with sexual health changes, or just trying to understand what's happening to your body during menopause, I’m here to talk about it all. This podcast is all about breaking the silence around these topics and creating a safe, supportive space where no question is too awkward or taboo. This season, I’m on a mission to help you rewire your desire and spice things up after 50. I’m bringing in a wide range of experts—from sex addiction specialists to sex technology gurus—and I’ll be teaching you techniques to make your sex life even better. I want you to feel empowered to explore what works best for you, so get ready to dive in and learn something new! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 31, 2024

As we countdown to the new year, it’s time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I’m sharing five tips for better sex in 2025. What’s the secret? Well, let’s just say communication is key (but I’m not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game. Oh, and did I mention why not all sex is about the orgasm? Trust me, you’ll want to hear why. Hit play, and let’s make 2025 the year of hotter, more thrilling sex. You won’t want to miss what’s coming next. Timestamps: (00:00:01) Introduction (00:01:09) Tip 1: Communicate (00:02:08) Tip 2: Make time for sex / Schedule your sex time (00:02:28) Tip 3: Lubricate and make everything slippery (00:03:12) Tip 4: Be creative / Try new things (00:03:43) Tip 5: Don’t focus on the outcome / Orgasm (00:04:31) Closing remarks Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 24, 2024

The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season? In this episode, I’m sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose. Midlife isn’t just a season of life; it’s a chance to thrive in new ways. So, why not lean into the conversations we sometimes avoid? Let’s grow, feel empowered, and take on 2025 with clarity and confidence. Ready to dive in? Let’s go! Links to Books: Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver Love Life by Matthew Hussey Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue Timestamps: (00:00:01) Introduction to the Episode (00:00:23) Book Recommendations for the Holidays (00:01:23) Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz (00:02:37) The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver (00:02:37) Love Life by Matthew Hussey (00:03:33) Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein (00:03:33) Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue (00:04:47) Closing Remarks Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 17, 2024

In this episode, I’m getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here’s the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it’s absolutely amazing. Here’s the thing: men and women aren’t as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like we’re learning to embrace the changes in ourselves, they can too—and we can help each other through it. If this sounds like something you and your partner need, hit that play button and let’s dive in! Timestamps: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:06) Event recap: Embracing Midlife Sexuality (00:02:13) Importance of men being given space for vulnerability (00:03:16) Normalizing conversations about aging and sexuality (00:04:20) Encouraging playful and creative approaches to intimacy (00:05:24) Upcoming event: Hot Flashes and Hot Nights (00:06:20) Redefining sex and aging (00:07:24) Adding humor and playfulness to sex (00:08:14) Importance of discussing sex openly with partners (00:09:20) Communication and vulnerability in relationships (00:10:10) Conclusion and call to action Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 10, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women’s sexual health. Why is it that we still don’t talk about what’s really happening in our bodies during menopause? It’s not just about hot flashes—there’s so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We’re breaking down the myths around hormone therapy, talking about why patient education and personalized care matter, and challenging the shame that keeps these conversations in the dark. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (02:05) Meet Dr. Irwin and Dr. Sue (04:36) Secrets to a long marriage (07:25) Menopause vs. male counterparts (10:06) Recognizing menopause symptoms (12:54) Hormonal support options (18:08) Navigating perimenopause symptoms (22:12) Vulvacoscopy (30:45) Hormonal environment and tissue health (35:00) Importance of hormonal monitoring (40:15) Taboo surrounding female anatomy (42:46) Consequences of untreated menopause (44:48) Research and misconceptions about hormone therapy Dr. Irwin Goldstein and Sue Goldstein are trailblazers in the field of sexual medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a renowned physician and researcher, has authored over 360 publications, making groundbreaking contributions that have shaped the modern understanding of sexual health. Sue Goldstein is a pioneering researcher and educator who has been instrumental in advancing knowledge of female sexual dysfunction. Together, they co-founded the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) in 2000, setting a global standard for research, education, and advocacy in women’s sexual health. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause , 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Dec 3, 2024

On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a fresh perspective on sexuality at any age. Timestamps (00:00) Introduction (01:02) Meet Kamna (02:28) "Sexuality isn't just about sex" (05:10) Divorced & Dating: The New Rules (08:04) "Why won't doctors talk about lube?" (10:31) Men need help too (12:21) Dating apps: Tool or Terror? (14:34) "I got this, watch me" (17:43) Finding your sexual power at 60+ (21:02) What even is sex, anyway? Kaamna Bhojwani is a Certified Sexologist, sexuality researcher, educator and thought leader. Kaamna specializes in sexual shame which she studied most recently at Columbia University and is currently building the world’s first cross-cultural data set to understand its origins, nature and consequences. Find Kaamna here. Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 26, 2024

Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body? In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it’s so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your pleasure, and enhance intimacy. Let’s celebrate the glorious clitoris and what it means for your sexual wellness. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:17) The unique purpose of the clitoris (02:24) Anatomy of the clitoris (04:20) Misconceptions about the clitoris (05:28) The G-spot explained (06:37) Model demonstration of vulva anatomy (07:40) Nerve endings and sensitivity (08:43) Menopause and sensitivity changes (09:46) Encouragement for women to explore their bodies Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Hot Flashes & Hot Nights, Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Nov 19, 2024

In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction (01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure (02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care (04:54) - Learning to Accept Help (05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication (07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure (12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy (16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration (21:01) - Final Thoughts and Resources Listen to the Life Turned On Podcast Visit the Linger Boutique Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 12, 2024

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction (00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract (01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates (01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort (02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations (02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores (03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love (04:17) - Breaking the Silence (05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection (06:28) - Creating Playful Surprises Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 10, 2024

In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable. Timestamps (00:00) - Introduction (00:46) - Schedule change announcement (01:15) - Creating the perfect environment (02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools (03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques (04:00) - Using audio and visual resources (05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episode Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Nov 3, 2024

In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage. Timestamps (00:00) - Introduction (01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea (03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language (07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife (15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed (20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection (24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness (27:35) - Lifelong Sexuality Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Find Dr. Emily Jamea here: https://emilyjamea.com/ https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/ Instagram: @dremilyjamea LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/ FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjamea Pre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/

Oct 27, 2024

In this episode of Taboo to Truth , I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth . As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being. Timestamps: (00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body (00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast (02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach (04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect (06:45) – You’re Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause (08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being (09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine (11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned (13:20) – What’s Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward To Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 20, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy (00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast (01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar (02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do? (03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training (05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy (10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido (15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness (22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play (30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex (31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained (40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum (41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for Listeners Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Connect with Dr. Rachel Zar: Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelzartherapy/ Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 13, 2024

In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we’ll explore how to manage these realities while still enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction to STIs and Herpes (01:12) – Stigma Surrounding Herpes (02:11) – Personal Experience with a Partner (04:00) – Understanding Herpes Transmission (10:41) – The Importance of Disclosure (15:19) – Navigating Relationships with Herpes (17:32) – Conclusion and Final Thoughts Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Oct 6, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within alternative sexualities, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice. Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction (00:32) – Meet Lilith Foxx: BIPOC, Queer, Neurodivergent, Kinky, and Polyamorous Sexologist (01:54) – Lilith’s Journey: From Tech Marketing to Sexuality Education (03:42) – Empowering Through Sexuality: Overcoming Assault and Embracing Kink (04:41) – Kink is Not Therapy: The Importance of Mental Health Treatment (06:09) – Reenacting Trauma: Psychological Risks and Rewards (09:16) – Navigating Consent and Communication in BDSM (12:45) – Understanding Kink and BDSM: Definitions and Misconceptions (15:12) – Negotiating Boundaries and Consent in Kink (16:03) – Starting Your BDSM Journey: Tips for Beginners (19:05) – The Appeal of Pain and Masochism in BDSM (22:40) – BDSM and Empowerment: Building Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome (23:32) – Inclusivity in Kink: Navigating Disabilities and Marginalized Identities (25:30) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Where to Find Lilith Foxx: Website: https://lilithfoxx.com/ Instagram, @TheLilithFoxx https://www.instagram.com/thelilithfoxx/ Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/thelilithfoxx Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelilithfoxx

Sep 29, 2024

In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue. Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction (00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex (01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex (02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (03:43) – Understanding Pelvic Floor Dysfunction (05:03) – The Role of Lubricants in Reducing Pain (06:08) – Tools and Products to Help with Painful Sex (07:43) – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy (09:03) – Addressing Infections and Other Medical Issues (10:28) – The Importance of Sex Therapy (11:50) – Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration (12:18) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways Mentioned in the Episode: https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings https://hellobonafide.com/products/revaree Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook .

Sep 22, 2024

In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful connections. Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction (00:25) – Meet Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D.: Expert in Relationship and Sexual Issues (01:37) – Eric's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Insights (03:01) – Navigating Consent and Desire (04:55) – Challenges Men Face in Modern Dating (06:10) – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships (09:18) – Understanding Men's Emotional and Sexual Health (19:54) – Addressing Common Misconceptions About Gender and Attachment (23:14) – Practical Tips for Better Sexual Communication (38:26) – Eric's Personal Experience with Polyamory (44:05) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Where to find Eric: Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/ Book: The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drericfitz/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/drericfitz

Sep 15, 2024

In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis? Check out this episode where we discuss: The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido. How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being. Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast (00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality (02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women (02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone (05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone (08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy (10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone (12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations (13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Sep 7, 2024

Breaking Barriers In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska. Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers. Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy. Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech (00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology (01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech (02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry (05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech (08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech (18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech (20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform (31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond (34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education (36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective (37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts Register for the SxTech 2025 here Check out Ola’s socials: Instagram x LinkedIn YouTube Linktree Erobella Safer App Erobella.com Erobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Aug 31, 2024

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness. Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more. He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues (00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe (01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices (03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe (05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain (08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use (09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health (12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms (20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices (41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness (43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts Dr. Soum Rakshit , FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way. Check out Mystery Vibe Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Aug 25, 2024

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode: The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner Navigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractions How clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationship The key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Aug 18, 2024

In this episode, I explain the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones and various hormone delivery methods. I highlight the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause. (01:49) Understanding Hormone Therapy (05:03) Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones (06:41) Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations (10:32) The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy (12:19) Topical Estrogen Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Aug 11, 2024

Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is. Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to life to wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent. Join me as we dive deep into what "sex" means through a rich tapestry of perspectives. Check out this episode where we discuss: - The expanded definitions of sex beyond the physical act - The importance of consent and respect in sexual encounters - How pleasure, creativity, and curiosity define sex for different individuals Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Aug 4, 2024

Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa’s candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious. Check out this episode where we discuss: Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs Embracing intimacy and redefining personal boundaries in midlife Join us as we dig deep into these crucial talks. Alyssa’s experiences highlight how courage, honesty, and a bit of humor can make rediscovering oneself a transformative journey. We’ll strip away the taboos and bring open-hearted discussions to the forefront. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jul 29, 2024

This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September. In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you’re curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously. Our discussion also ventures into the historical context of monogamy, the evolving roles within relationships, and the importance of trust and communication when considering non-monogamy. It’s crucial to ensure both partners are secure and comfortable with this choice. Whether you're in a long-term commitment looking to spice things up or simply exploring options, join me with your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s break the silence together. Remember, it’s okay to ask and discuss these topics openly. Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jul 21, 2024

Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs. Whether you’re navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it’s crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s dive in. (00:00) Introduction to The Taboo to Truth Podcast (00:47) Karen's Personal Journey (02:43) Navigating New Relationships (03:58) Understanding Sexual Needs and Communication (08:04) Emotional Impact of Intimacy (11:06) Learning from Heartbreak (12:55) Self-Discovery and Growth (19:01) Final Thoughts and Encouragement (20:56) Closing Remarks Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jul 14, 2024

Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show. As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to opening up crucial conversations, helping us all feel less alone and more empowered in our sexual health and identities. (00:00) Welcome to the 50th Episode Celebration! (00:11) Reflecting on the Journey (01:18) Season Highlights and Personal Growth (02:32) The Importance of S3x Positivity (03:14) Addressing Menopause and S3xual Health (04:11) Support for Men's S3xual Health (04:40) Breaking the Taboo: Talking About S3x (05:35) Exciting Plans for Season Three (06:13) Engage with the Community Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jul 7, 2024

In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach. We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager. Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the sex education many didn’t receive, especially emphasizing the importance of understanding vulva anatomy. We also discussed how she manages to balance her polyamorous lifestyle with her family life, the importance of open communication in relationships, and the societal pressures around monogamy. Through her work, Jennifer helps people feel less alone in their sexual experiences, encouraging open dialogue and self-exploration to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age. (01:15) Meet Jennifer Rainer: A Journey into Sexuality (02:11) Discovering a New Path (04:27)The Influence of Betty Dodson (05:38) Understanding Body Sex Workshops (08:13) The Anatomy of Pleasure (09:20) Exploring Squirting and Female Ejaculation (20:29) The Importance of Sexual Communication (23:48) Navigating Communication in Relationships (25:03) Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships (28:53) Introducing Non-Monogamy to Family (34:36) Challenges and Misconceptions of Polyamory (39:33) Embracing Sexuality in Midlife (42:29) Defining Sex and Finding Pleasure Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 30, 2024

Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience. The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk. It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together. Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 23, 2024

I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence. Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed. We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction. (00:00) Introduction: Embracing the Awkwardness in Sex (00:29) Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast (01:30) Meet Batsheva Marcus: Expert in Women's Sexual Health (03:33) The Dynamic Nature of Sex Life (06:30) Addressing Sexual Issues in Long-Term Relationships (17:03) The Importance of Scheduling Sex (26:22) Prepping for Great Sex (27:10) The Role of Fantasy in Sexual Arousal (28:26) Understanding Neuroplasticity and Sexual Desire (29:05) The Importance of Hormones in Libido (32:00) Navigating Non-Monogamy in Relationships (35:28) Exploring Kink in Long-Term Relationships (41:11) Addressing Sexual Shame and Openness (46:21) Defining Sex and Its Boundaries Learn more about Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus here Follow Bat Sheva on Instagram Follow Bat Sheva on Tik Tok Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 16, 2024

In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me - Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause. My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age. We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way. Find Kate here. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Disclaimer : this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 9, 2024

I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me. This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion. Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these. You can find Alycia here . Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Disclaimer : this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 6, 2024

In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort. It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jun 2, 2024

In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship. CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage. Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth. You can find CJ here. Free boundary setting worksheet Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

May 30, 2024

In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal. The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

May 26, 2024

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream. In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships. Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here . Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

May 23, 2024

Recently, Bumble faced backlash for their ad campaign, with slogans that seemed to undervalue personal choices about dating and celibacy, sparking questions about the role of dating apps in modern society. As someone deeply engaged with Bumble and Hinge, I've noticed a shift. It used to be easier to transition from matching to meeting in person, but now it feels like connections are less serious. This change has led me to ponder if the effectiveness or appeal of dating apps is diminishing. In this episode I peel back the layers on: The shifting dynamics of dating apps like Bumble and Hinge. The quest for genuine connections amidst AI's rise. Innovations we crave for deeper, real-life engagements. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. **************************************************************************************** Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

May 19, 2024

In this episode, I explore the multifaceted world of sexology and the importance of finding the right professional to address sexual health and intimacy issues with Sex Counselor, Heather Howard, PhD, MPH. We delved into the differences between sex therapists, counselors, sexological bodyworkers, and surrogate partners, highlighting the significance of their roles in helping individuals and couples navigate sexual challenges. This was an eye-opening conversation. We talked about the diverse approaches and ethical considerations within this field, underscoring the importance of a nonjudgmental, informed, and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns. Navigating the world of sexual health and intimacy can sometimes feel daunting, especially when trying to find the right support. The insights from our discussion serve as a reminder that it's okay to shop around for a provider who makes you feel understood and respected. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of a divorce, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or facing sexual health challenges, the key takeaway is that you're not alone, and there's professional help available. (01:20) What is Sexology? (07:01) Sexuality Counselor vs. a Sex Therapist (17:46) What happens in your session? (19:52) Treating painful sex in your sessions-an action plan (27:16) What is you're single and have issues with sex? (32:20) Touch vs. Hands-off sex therapy (42:23) What qualifications should you look for in a sexology professional? (48:09) When should you see a sexology professional? (51:40) The key to finding the right professional Find Heather Howard Instagram @drheatherhoward @ergoerotics https://heatherhoward.com/ Ergoerotics: https://ergoerotics.com/product/video-strategies-for-comfortable-pleasure/ Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Disclaimer : this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

May 12, 2024

In today's episode, I'm diving into the world of kink, a term that captures a broad spectrum of activities beyond the conventional or "vanilla" intimate practices. Kink isn't just about the extreme of dungeons and dramatic scenarios; it's fundamentally about venturing into desires that stray from one's usual experiences, which could be as straightforward as altering the ambiance with different lighting. Within this realm, BDSM stands out as a notable subset, encompassing bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Many people find kink a playful and explorative outlet, a healthy way to relieve stress, and an avenue for fostering deep trust and communication with their partners. This journey into understanding kink and BDSM invites us to broaden our perspective on the diversity of human pleasure and the ways in which adults can engage in consensual, informed, and joyful exploration. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

May 5, 2024

In part 2 of my interview with Dr Staci Gruber, we delved into the complexities of cannabis use, including its potential for addiction, known formally as Cannabis Use Disorder (CUD). We also touched upon the evolution of cannabis potency over the years, with today's products containing much higher THC levels than those from decades ago, raising the stakes in the risk-benefit analysis of cannabis consumption. The conversation further explored the medical applications of cannabis, highlighting its utility in managing pain, sleep disorders, and other health issues. The conversation also ventured into the areas of women's health, underscoring the lack of research and the growing interest in cannabis for managing conditions like endometriosis and menopause symptoms. It was a reminder of the importance of being an informed consumer, understanding the goal of your cannabis use, and ensuring the safety and efficacy of the products you choose. Our dialogue underscored the evolving landscape of cannabis use and research, highlighting the need for more education and open conversations between consumers and healthcare providers to navigate the complexities of cannabis as both a medicinal and recreational substance. Watch the full episode here. About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use. Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ********************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Apr 28, 2024

In today's episode, part 1 of 2, I had the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Stacey Gruber, a renowned expert in the field of cannabis research and its implications on mental health and substance abuse. One of the most compelling parts of our conversation revolved around personal experiences with cannabis, including my own. Dr. Gruber eloquently addressed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding cannabis use for medical purposes, emphasizing the importance of finding the right product and dosage to suit individual needs and conditions. She also touched on the potential benefits of cannabis in enhancing sexual health and wellbeing, a topic that resonates with many yet often goes unexplored. Dr. Gruber's work is not just about cannabis; it's about opening doors to new forms of treatment that could revolutionize how we approach mental health and wellness. Her dedication to advancing our understanding of cannabis and its potential benefits is truly inspiring, leaving me eager to learn more about how this plant could impact our lives in positive ways. *watch the full episode here About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use. Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ********************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Apr 21, 2024

In this episode, I delve into the complex world of gender and sexuality, acknowledging the vast array of terminology that exists today compared to the simpler times of my youth. I explore the distinctions between identity, expression, gender, and sexual orientation, emphasizing that these aspects of ourselves are not always aligned. I introduce concepts such as the Genderbread Person to illustrate the differences between sex, gender expression, sexual attraction, and identity. I also share insights on how societal norms have evolved to recognize not only the binary of male and female but also the spectrum that includes intersex, transgender, and non-binary identities, highlighting the importance of understanding and respecting each individual's unique experience. I hope to open minds and foster a deeper understanding of the fluidity and diversity within human sexuality and gender identity. I acknowledge that this episode merely scratches the surface of a vast topic and that language and labels continue to evolve. I aim to promote empathy and inclusivity, inviting listeners to embrace the complexity of human identity with an open heart and mind. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

Apr 14, 2024

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a seasoned gynecologist and chief medical officer of Bonafide Health, whose expertise in female sexual health and menopause offers invaluable insights. Dr. Dweck shared with us the common sexual health challenges women face, especially during menopause, such as sexual pain, diminished libido, and the impact of medical issues on sexual function. She emphasized the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and highlighted non-hormonal treatments like vaginal moisturizers and lubricants as game-changers for women experiencing vaginal dryness. Dr. Dweck's approach to addressing these sensitive issues with compassion and evidence-based solutions truly resonated with me, reinforcing the message that women do not have to navigate these challenges alone. We also delved into the realm of hormone therapy and its misconceptions, particularly the nuanced conversation around vaginal estrogen and systemic hormone therapy. **Please note that this podcast episode is not intended to give medical advice. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. About Dr. Dweck: Dr. Alyssa Dweck, MS, MD, FACOG is the Chief Medical Officer at Bonafide Health, LLC. She is a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County, New York, provides care to women of all ages and has delivered thousands of babies. A graduate of Barnard College, she has a Masters Degree in Human Nutrition from Columbia University and her Medical Degree from Hahnemann University School of Medicine in Philadelphia, now named Drexel University. Dr. Dweck trained at Lankenau Medical Center Wynnewood, Pennsylvania, where she was Chief Resident in 1994. For more information visit: https://hellobonafide.com/blogs/authors/alyssa-dweck https://hellobonafide.com/ Email: doctordweck@gmail.com Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ********************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram @taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Apr 7, 2024

Online dating is the way for people of all ages to meet today, though it comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. The variety of dating apps available allows you to find one that aligns with your values and lifestyle, whether that's based on religion, interests, or relationship goals. It's crucial to approach these platforms with a sense of authenticity and honesty, both in how you present yourself and in what you expect from others. In this episode I discuss my experience navigating the apps, the first dates and the next ones, communicating on dates, and boundries and red flags to consider. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Disclaimer: Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

Mar 31, 2024

In this episode I had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Rachel Rubin, a highly respected urologist and sexual medicine specialist known for her comprehensive approach to sexual health across all genders. Dr. Rubin enlightened us on the vital connection between urology and sexual function, emphasizing the importance of understanding our bodies' anatomy and physiology to address sexual health issues effectively. She shared her passion for educating both the public and healthcare professionals on the complexities of sexual medicine, underscoring the need for better sexual education and the removal of stigma from conversations about sexual health. It was an eye-opening discussion that challenged many preconceived notions about sexual wellness and the critical role of specialized care in improving quality of life. I was particularly moved by Dr. Rubin's insights into the challenges faced by individuals seeking help for sexual dysfunction, highlighting the gaps in knowledge among general practitioners and the importance of advocating for one's sexual health. Her stories of empowering patients to communicate their needs and desires resonated deeply with me, reminding us all of the power of education and open dialogue. Dr. Rubin's work not only offers hope to those struggling with sexual health issues but also calls for a broader societal shift towards embracing sexual health as an integral part of overall well-being. Her dedication to advancing sexual medicine and her advocacy for comprehensive sexual education are truly inspiring, making her one of my sheroes in the field. Full video episode available: https://youtu.be/abpTfFYQAmc Where to find Dr. Rubin: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/ Instagram: @drrachelrubin Recommended reading: Vagina Obscura by Rachel E. Gross Estrogen Matters by Avrum Bluming & Carol Travis Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Mar 24, 2024

In this episode, I'm opening up about a topic that's often whispered about but rarely spoken out loud: mismatched libidos. I'll share with you my thoughts and experiences on the lack of sexual desire—whether it's something that can be revived or an intrinsic part of someone's being. I talk abut strategies for finding what gets you in the mood, and how to communicate these needs to your partner. Whether it's setting a romantic scene or experimenting with new forms of foreplay, finding the key to your desire can be a rewarding journey. Let's get comfortable and start the conversation on making our sex lives as fulfilling as they can be. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************* Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Mar 17, 2024

Embark on a journey to redefine what it means to have truly mind-blowing sex in this eye-opening episode. In this episode I confront the traditional script of sexual encounters and propose a more expansive and satisfying approach. It's a candid talk about the nuances of desire, the rhythm of sexual compatibility, and the profound role of intellectual connection in physical intimacy. Discover the transformative power of slowing down, the art of anticipation, and the joy of exploring your partner's body and mind in ways that defy convention. If you're ready to turn the page on your sex life and embark on a path to pleasure that’s as mentally engaging as it is physical, this is the discussion you need to hear. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Mar 10, 2024

Diving into the depths of communication within the context of consensual non-monogamy, this episode revisits the essential conversations that can either make or break the dynamic of a long-term relationship. I discuss the complexities CNM it entails, especially when considering introducing such a concept into a relationship. The episode provides listeners with the tools to initiate a dialogue with their partner, highlighting the successful journey of couples like Britta and Gary (Episode 28) who navigated these waters before, the art of communication, advising against starting with negatives and instead, fostering a supportive and loving atmosphere. In the end, the message is clear: broaching the subject of spicing up one's intimacy should be done with care and should never be confined to the bedroom. Love is the starting point, and from there, the possibilities for growth and excitement in the relationship are endless. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ************************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Mar 3, 2024

I'm honored to host Dr. Mohit Khera, a world-renowned expert on male sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera brings his vast experience to the table, discussing the sensitive issue of sexual health with compassion and understanding. We take a deep dive into how modern medicine is transforming the way we approach and treat conditions such as erectile dysfunction, discussing both traditional and cutting-edge treatments that are giving new hope to many. The episode also explores the often-overlooked emotional and psychological dimensions of sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera gives his expert advice on the importance of a supportive partnership and the benefits of a comprehensive treatment plan that includes both medical and lifestyle interventions. For anyone affected by or interested in male sexual health, this episode is an invaluable resource, offering hope, enlightenment, and practical guidance from one of the leading voices in the field. Dr. Mohit Khera Instagram Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ********************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Feb 25, 2024

In this episode, I bring you an intimate conversation with Britta and Gary, a couple whose decision to open up their marriage invites us all to rethink what commitment looks like. They offer a candid look into the decision-making process behind adopting a lifestyle of ethical non-monogamy and the profound dialogues that supported their transition. Britta and Gary pull back the curtain on the complexities they faced, such as handling jealousy, maintaining open lines of communication, and the enriched sexual connection that followed. Their story is one of bravery, love, and the continuous evolution of a relationship that refuses to be boxed in by societal standards. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about or considering an open marriage, as it challenges preconceived notions about love, sex, and partnership. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com /⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Feb 18, 2024

In this episode, I explore the concept of consensual non-monogamy, contemplating its role as an alternative relationship paradigm. I examine the failure rates of traditional marriages and question the sustainability of monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model. Historical perspectives are considered, highlighting the evolution of women's societal roles and the contractual origins of marriage, which reveal a very different picture compared to modern romantic ideals. I also share insights into the gradual shift towards non-monogamous relationships, particularly among the younger demographic, and reflect on the reasons behind this shift. This episode is not an endorsement but rather an exploration of the various forms non-monogamy can take, from swinging to polyamory, and the potential benefits and challenges each presents. It's a candid discussion about the possibility of redefining relationships to fit the complexities of modern life and individual needs. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Feb 11, 2024

In this episode, I sit down with the renowned mediator and family attorney Susan Guthrie, who brings over three decades of experience in the intricacies of marriage, divorce, and everything in between. Susan's unique approach to marital issues through mediation has breathed new life into long-term relationships that seemed to be at a crossroads. She shares her wisdom on how couples can legally redefine their relationships, open up dialogues on intimacy, and why a "marital mediation" could be the saving grace your relationship needs. We dive into an in-depth discussion about the unspoken challenges many couples face after years of marriage. Susan provides us with real-world examples of how changing the dynamics of a relationship, with the help of legal contracts, can lead to a more fulfilling partnership. If you're considering a change in your marital life or simply looking for ways to spark new life into your relationship, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge, practical advice, and the possibility that love, indeed, can evolve with time. About Susan Guthrie, Esq. Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law Attorneys and Mediators in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for more than 30 years. Susan provides online divorce and legal coaching services to select clients around the world. As a leading dispute resolution professional, Susan is honored to serve on the Executive Council of the American Bar Association’s (ABA) Section of Dispute Resolution as the Budget Officer and to be a Co-Chair of the Advanced Mediation Institute. https://www.instagram.com/susanguthrieesq/ https://divorceandbeyondpod.com/top-episodes Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. ********************************************************** Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Feb 4, 2024

In today's episode, I'm sliding into an in-depth conversation about why lube is the unsung hero of sexual health. Whether you're facing the dry spells of menopause or just looking to add some extra glide to your intimate times, I'm here to demystify lubricants. It's a candid discussion about the body's needs and the simple ways lube can address them. Get ready to lubricate your knowledge with my comprehensive guide to choosing the right lube for your body. I'll explain why common household oils are a definite 'don't' and discuss how the wrong products can disrupt your body's delicate balance. From the science behind water-based lubricants to the long-lasting benefits of silicone-based options, I'm sure you'll be equipped with the information you need to make informed decisions. Tune in as we share pro tips on maintaining your body's health while maximizing pleasure. Let's make friction a fiction and find your perfect match in the world of lubricants. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Jan 28, 2024

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of sex in midlife and navigating the waters of getting intimate and the often unspoken trials of dating during menopause. I am thrilled to have Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, join us. Alyssa shares her journey through divorce at 41 and the rediscovery of self as she ventured into the world of online dating. We get candid about the realities of dating post-divorce, the hilarity of trying to find a sexual partner, and the intricacies of managing expectations and self-perception when it comes to menopause and sexual health. Alyssa’s approach to styling not only changes profiles but also changes lives by fostering confidence in the dating scene. From discussing the importance of protection and STD conversations to embracing sexuality at any age, Alyssa's insights are as refreshing as they are invaluable. If you're navigating the dating world in midlife or just looking for a relatable conversation on modern love, this episode is not to be missed. As a fashion editor turned stylist and art director, she brings a unique perspective to the table, transforming the online dating experience by empowering individuals to take charge of their dating profiles. With her expertise, Alyssa has garnered attention from The New York Times, The Today Show, and Oprah Daily, among others, and has recently published a book titled "The Art of Online Dating." Find Alyssa on her website, stylemyprofilenyc.com , or follow her journey on Instagram @AlyssaDineen and @StyleMyProfileNYC. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Jan 21, 2024

In this episode, I'm getting personal about pubic hair—yes, the unsung hero of our nether regions. It's more than just hair; it's a natural barrier that keeps moisture and microscopic debris at bay. Remember the episode on the glorious clitoris, exclusively devoted to pleasure? Well, pubic hair also plays its part in the sensory experience, with each tug awakening those delicate touch receptors. I discovered that even in ancient Egypt, pubic hair was not only represented artistically but also groomed for reasons beyond aesthetics, like preventing lice. Fast forward to today, and the practice of hair removal has evolved into a statement of beauty and status. From chafing to increasing STI chances, it's a delicate balance. So, I'm here to share my candid experiences and to remind you that whether you wax, shave, or go au naturel, do it safely and for yourself. Your body, your rules! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠ ⁠ ⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Jan 14, 2024

In this episode, I delve deep into a personal narrative that is both vulnerable and relatable—my journey through relationships, dating after divorce, and the tribulations of midlife dating and menopause. I lay bare the emotional rollercoaster I've experienced over the last two and a half years, candidly sharing the highs and lows, and the temptation to succumb to negativity. This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a chronicle of the hard-earned crossroads of hope that I've reached. I want to highlight the importance of not playing the victim or falling into despair, but instead, recognizing that every challenge faced is a step toward a better tomorrow. As I recount the pattern of my past relationships, I emphasize the lessons learned, particularly the need for authenticity and clarity in communicating one's needs. It's a tale of repeated patterns—forming attachments too quickly after the illusion of intimacy and trying to mold incompatible relationships into something they're not. But it's also a story of growth and the realization that it's crucial to hold out for what truly satisfies one's needs, without compromise. From setting arbitrary dating rules to understanding the importance of communication, I explore the interdependence that forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and the self-reflection necessary to find joy and fulfillment on one's own terms. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on personal growth, the quest for genuine partnership, and the courage to demand the love and life one truly deserves. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Jan 7, 2024

In this episode I open up about my own journey back into the dating world after a long pause. I've learned the hard way that before diving headfirst into the dating pool, it’s crucial to take a deep look inward. I'll share with you the steps I took to understand my desires and the type of relationship that resonates with the person I've become. I also discuss the significance of moving at a pace that respects both your emotional state and physical health, emphasizing the vital practice of safe sex, and the nuances of intimacy during menopause, the importance of communication, even when it means having those tough conversations about sexual health, and I'll share the lessons I've learned about safeguarding not just my physical health but my heart as well. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com /⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠ ⁠ ⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Jan 2, 2024

In the premiere episode of Season 2, Karen dives into the intricate tapestry of human sexuality and intimacy. Starting with a foundational question: "What is sex?" To explore this, we've gathered candid excerpts from a compelling discussion with a group of middle-aged women, each bringing their unique life experiences to the table. Episode Highlights: Defining Sex: The conversation begins with an exploration of what sex means to different individuals, challenging the traditional notion that it's solely about penetration. The Spectrum of Intimacy: We hear powerful stories illustrating that sex can be a varied experience, from a deeply personal act of self-pleasure to a shared, intimate connection without the goal of orgasm. Beyond the Physical: The discussion shifts to consider sex as a state of being that fosters intimacy, not just with others, but also with oneself. Vulnerability and Desire: The concept of vulnerability surfaces as a common thread, with the emphasis on the freedom to pursue one's desires in a safe and comfortable environment, irrespective of the form it takes. Inclusivity in Pleasure: The episode touches upon diverse sexual expressions, including S&M, and emphasizes the importance of inclusivity and openness in discussions about sex. Sex and Regret: Reflecting on experiences of regrettable sex, our guests confront the reality that not all sexual experiences are positive, acknowledging the complexity of sexual encounters and the impact of choice. I invite you to join the conversation. What is your definition of sex? Share your thoughts, and we may feature them in upcoming episodes as we continue to unravel the mysteries and joys of sexual connection. Note to Listeners: This episode is a safe space for open dialogue. Our goal is to dismantle taboos and encourage healthy, honest discussions about sex, fostering a community where we can all learn and grow together. Send your thoughts on "What is Sex?" to: TabootoTruth@gmail.com We hope you find this episode both enlightening and thought-provoking. Remember, sex is as diverse as we are, and every perspective adds depth to our collective understanding. Tune in, share your story, and let's talk about sex. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth ⁠ ⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Dec 31, 2023

5 heartfelt ways to keep the spark alive and make your female partner feel truly cherished. The first tip is all about acknowledgment; when she enters the room, make it a point to appreciate her presence fully. Whether it's a compliment about her appearance or a simple expression of missing her throughout the day, it's crucial to show that her presence matters. Even if you're caught up in the climax of a football game, invite her to sit with you for a moment – it's a gesture that speaks volumes. I emphasize the power of touch, not the over-the-top public displays, but the subtle, tender gestures that convey affection. The third piece of advice is about thoughtful gifting; it doesn't have to be extravagant, just something to show you've been thinking of her. Next, never assume she knows how much she's appreciated – tell her often. Lastly, invest in quality time together. A date need not be traditional; it could be anything from rock climbing to a simple bike ride. The essence lies in being present and making memories together. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠ ⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/taboototruth/message Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support .

Dec 24, 2023

As Season 1 of Taboo to Truth comes to a close, I want to start by saying a heartfelt thank you. You've been fantastic, tuning in as we explored the depths of sexual wellness and communication. I'm thrilled to have shared this journey with you. Now, get ready for Season Two! We're kicking off in January with a focus on navigating the realms of dating and intimacy after a long-term relationship or divorce. I've got some incredible guest experts on board – think dating profile whizzes and insightful life coaches. And here's a little secret – I'm in the midst of my sex educator certification to make our next season even more enriching. I'm all ears for your questions and topic suggestions, so please reach out on Instagram or LinkedIn. Let's make Season Two even more engaging and insightful. Thanks for being part of this journey, and let's continue to break barriers and turn taboos into truths! Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠ ⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/taboototruth/message Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support .

Dec 17, 2023

Today, I'm peeling back the curtain on the world of adult toys. We’re starting off by busting some common myths. Have you ever heard that adult toys are a 'last resort' or that they could numb your senses? Well, it's time to separate fact from fiction with some real talk and expert-backed information. Plus, I’m taking you on a tour through the exciting variety of adult toys out there. From the classic vibrators to the more adventurous BDSM gear, I'll be explaining how each type caters to different preferences and how they can enrich your personal experiences. Moving on, let’s talk about something super important: using these toys safely and with the right knowledge. I’ll be diving into why choosing the right materials like silicone or stainless steel matters and how the right lubricant can make all the difference. And if you’re wondering about keeping things clean and hygienic, I’ve got some pro tips for you. This episode is for anyone who's curious, looking to learn, or just wants to hear an honest conversation about adult toys. Remember, exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal, and doing so safely and respectfully is what it's all about. Prefer the video version? https://youtu.be/XHwU2c90XUw Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Dec 10, 2023

In this candid episode, I dive into the world of unconventional sexual experiences and the importance of open-mindedness when it comes to intimate exploration. From the common fantasy of threesomes, particularly heterosexual men's desire for a threesome with two women. I share stories, like my ex-boyfriend's experience with a threesome, which highlight that the reality often differs from the fantasy portrayed in adult entertainment. This isn't just about the act of a threesome; it's about encouraging non-judgmental conversations surrounding diverse forms of sexual expression. We explore ways to spice up your sex life, from introducing ethical porn and literature to discussing kinks and fantasies. It's all about embracing your desires and finding what works for you and your partner, whether that involves using toys, experimenting with role play, or even considering swinging or other forms of open relationships. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. Let's break free from societal norms and spice up your sex life! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com https://www.taboototruth.com/ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth Youtube @taboototruthpodcast Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Dec 3, 2023

In this episode, I address howwe can bridge it to ensure women's sexual satisfaction. In heterosexual sex, understanding and education play crucial roles in addressing this issue. Men often don't realize that clitoral stimulation is essential for women to orgasm. Women may not be aware of their own needs, leading to frustration during penetrative sex. Factors like stress and distractions can affect arousal, but it doesn't mean women want sex any less than men. Sex is often portrayed as a quick, performance-driven act in media. The narrative around sex must change to bridge the orgasm gap. Women are sexual beings, and embracing their changing needs can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠ Disclaimer : This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Nov 19, 2023

In this episode, we welcome the incredible Mahri Relin, founder of Body Conceptions. Mahri shares her passion for supporting women's fitness and body positivity, which led her to create a unique and empowering workout method that doesn't just challenge but also uplifts women without body-shaming. Mahri reveals how her fitness philosophy expanded to address the specific needs of women during various life transitions, including fertility and perimenopause. She sheds light on the delicate balance between hormones and fitness and how understanding this balance is crucial for optimal well-being and shares her insights into managing stress, understanding the pelvic floor, and nurturing a positive relationship with our changing bodies. This episode is a profound exploration of finding empowerment, meaning, and embracing change as we journey through midlife, all while prioritizing our health, both physical and emotional. Don't miss out on Mahri Relin's valuable insights and actionable tips for a healthier, more fulfilling life during and after midlife. Meet Mahri As a former professional dancer, Mahri Relin spent 12 years dancing around the world. It was through dancing that Mahri discovered her passion for fitness. Mahri spent her early years in the fitness industry working as a trainer for the Tracy Anderson Studio and went on to become the Creative Director for FlyBarre at Flywheel Sports. After extensive experience, Mahri realized that there were big gaps in fitness solutions for women going through their most significant life events and changes. She refined her own dance-inspired method through extensive research in and out of the studio and devoted her life to providing women with the most intelligent, personalized, and joyful fitness experience possible. As a NASM Certified Personal Trainer, Corrective Exercise Specialist, AFPA Pre and Postnatal Exercise Specialist, Certified Wellness and Nutrition Consultant, and fitness enthusiast, Mahri is on a mission to help you tap into your unique strengths and flourish as the best version of YOU!" The Method Body Conceptions is designed to create a lean and sculpted body of a dancer, but you don’t have to be a dancer to do it! Throughout each session, every part of your body is targeted – from your arms and abs to your thighs, glutes and heart. Both the cardio and body-sculpting components of the method use integrated movements that involve multiple muscles and require engagement of and connection to your core. Every session will test your limits – but the current, exciting music combined with the energy and joy infused into the workout will make you almost forget you are working so hard. Deemed one of the two "Best Body-Sculpting Workouts" in New York City by Vogue, Body Conceptions has been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Shape, Harper’s Bazaar, Redbook, DuJour, The New York Daily News, The New Pork Post, Well + Good, Prevention and Dance Spirit Magazine. Mahri has also created specialized content for Fitness Magazine, SELF, health.com , Elizabeth Street, Well-Rounded and FITiST. For more information, visit: http://www.bodyconceptions.com . Mahri Relin MS, CPT, Owner and Founder Pre/Postnatal Exercise Specialist Corrective Exercise Specialist Body Conceptions Visit us at www.bodyconceptions.com Instagram: @bodyconceptions Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Nov 12, 2023

Get ready for some jaw-dropping insights, because they reveal that anyone with a pelvic floor can turn up the heat with pelvic floor physical therapy! These remarkable muscles aren't just for show; they're the secret sauce behind your bowel, bladder, sexual prowess, and more! Discover how pelvic floor therapy can set your bedroom ablaze. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, or muscle tension, this episode has the sensual secrets to reignite the spark in your love life. From lubes that'll make your head spin to tantalizing vibratory tools, they've got the inside scoop on maximizing pleasure. Listen to this terrific episode to get the "ins" and "outs" of your pelvic floor. Find Allea: Allea Francis PT, DPT Pelvic Floor Specialist Daybreak Physical Therapy and Pelvic Wellness, Inc. ⁠949-312-1784⁠ ⁠Daybreakpt.com⁠ Instagram: @thepelvicptdoc The-ology Vibrator https://amzn.to/49uTBoA Recommended Lubricants: Good Clean Love, Uberlube, Slippery Stuff Pleasure Map: A pleasure map in pelvic floor physical therapy is a personalized guide that helps individuals explore and understand their own sexual anatomy and sensations. It includes illustrations and information about erogenous zones, nerve pathways, and muscular structures involved in sexual response. This tool empowers individuals to communicate effectively about their sexual health and preferences with healthcare providers and partners. Sensate focus: guided by a pelvic floor physical therapist, is a structured approach to rebuilding intimacy for those facing pelvic floor concerns. It emphasizes non-sexual touch and communication, creating a safe space for partners to reconnect and regain comfort with intimacy. This gradual progression helps reduce anxiety and allows for a more enjoyable and confident sexual experience. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Nov 5, 2023

Pain with penetrative sex is all too common. It causes many vulva owners to bolt from the bedroom and give up on sex. During perimenopause and after menopause our bodies change hormonally and physically. Now add the stress that comes with life challenges, why would you want to have sex? In this episode, I'll offer some explanations as to why you may be having pain with sex and what you can do so that you can enjoy sex again. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certifie Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Disclaimer: This episode is not intended to provide medical advice. If you have any questions about your particular situation, please visit a qualified healthcare provider. Find a woman's sexual health provider in your area: https://app.v1.statusplus.net/membership/provider/index?society=isswsh Menopause.org resources: https://www.menopause.org/for-women/sexual-health-menopause-online Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠ ⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Oct 29, 2023

Sex used to be fun and pleasurable but now every time you try to get into it, you throw out your hip. You're not alone, menopause and the normal effects of aging can wreak havoc on your sex life. This week I'll give you some ideas on how to change it up so you can get rejigger your intimacy and make it pleasurable again. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Oct 22, 2023

It may surprise you to learn that your clitoris is one of the most magnificent organs in the female (vulva owners) body. It has only one function. It's a lot more intricate than you think and knowing it well can lead you to much greater sexual pleasure. Most women cannot have an orgasm strictly from penetrative sex. The clitoris plays a big role in your orgasms. During perimenopause and post-menopause, changes to your vulva and more specifically your clitoris can affect your enjoyment. Extremely dry tissue can even cause your clitoris and labia to disappear! This doesn't mean the end of your sex life. Get to know this very valuable organ and up your enjoyment exponentially! *A more detailed video explanation of this episode is available here: https://youtu.be/hnntXRueHg4?si=NCJvSKqvNRwg2LbF Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Oct 15, 2023

If you can't tell your partner what you want, how can you possibly have good sex? Learning to talk about sex is much harder than just doing it. It takes work, but I promise you, great sex is worth it! As women become perimenopausal and post-menopause, the way we enjoy sex changes. You may become more sensitive or sex may become more painful. Communicating this to your partner is critical. Starting a conversation about how you enjoy sex with a long-term partner or a new partner can be very anxiety-producing. Don't let this stop you! Your pleasure is paramount. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support .

Oct 8, 2023

You may be lucky enough not to experience any major symptoms of menopause. Chances are though, you will have a dry vagina at some point in your peri and post-menopause life (and possibly even postpartum). Dry vaginas are not only uncomfortable, they can lead to many other symptoms that can ultimately be life-threatening. In this episode, I'll explain why you may be experiencing a dessert-like vulva and what you can do to make it better. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Oct 1, 2023

After a long hiatus from sex, Tracy decided it was time to jump back into bed. Unfortunately, her body rejected the idea outright. She wasn't ready to lay back and take it. Tracy found an innovative new treatment that not only fixed the problem, it enhanced her sex life considerably. In this episode, you'll hear her story, the treatment she chose and her views on sex after 60. Full video interview available here: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Sep 24, 2023

In 1996 the Women's Health Initiative ran a study to determine whether or not Hormone Replacement Therapy (Menopause Hormone Therapy) was beneficial for preventing cancer, cardiovascular disease and osteoporosis. 5 years later, the study was abruptly stopped after concluding that there was an increased breast cancer and cardiovascular event risk. In this episode, I explain the findings, why there no longer valid and what you can do to help relieve your menopause symptoms. North American Menopause Society (NAMS) Women's Health Initiative Estrogen Matters with Avrum Bluming, MD & Carol Tavris, PhD Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Sep 21, 2023

Ready to spice up your sex life? The good news? You won't get pregnant. The bad news? Your dry vagina may make you prone to UTIs and more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections. Here are some facts and precautions you can take to have a healthy, enjoyable sex life. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Sep 18, 2023

Have you ever experienced an orgasm? Have you been enjoying them all your life and now they've changed or disappeared altogether? Here's a conversation about what some of the causes may be and some ways you can get your groove back. Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Sep 13, 2023

After a long marriage, I was feeling liberated and ready to reignite my sex life. I soon realized that, for me, getting intimate was more than just sex. In this episode, you'll hear a little about my story. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/taboototruth/message Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/taboo-to-truth-unapologetic-conversations-about-sexuality-in-midlife--6179447/support .

Sep 12, 2023

Why do we have shame about talking about our bodies and sex? What does "losing your virginity really mean?" Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Sep 6, 2023

What can you do when you're never in the mood? In this episode, I explain some of the reasons you might not want sex and what you can do about it because sex is good for your health!! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com !

Sep 6, 2023

I'm opening the conversation about sex in midlife. Sharing my story made me realize how little we discuss the challenges so many of us face. Allow me to start! From missing Os to the shame of telling my partners, I'll tell you the truth. No topic is taboo here. Bring it on! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com !

Sep 4, 2023

Sex and Aging — Two Words Most Don’t Want to Hear Together. Society paints a picture of men and women losing their edge, their drive, their performance. But that doesn’t have to be your story. Too many struggle in silence with low libido, performance anxiety, or a sexless marriage — feeling like they’re “past their prime.” The truth? You’re not done. Far from it. This is the time to take back your confidence, reignite your passion, and embrace your sexuality in a whole new way. With the right tools, mindset, and support, you can perform better, feel stronger, and connect deeper than ever before. Don’t settle for less. Own your desire. Own your power. Own your sex life. Aging isn’t the end — it’s your opportunity. ENJOY IT! Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. She explores the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast SubStack: https://karenbigman.substack.com