From “Not in the Mood” to Yes! Yes! Yes!: Small Offers, Big Results with Susan Bratton | Ep. 127

Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 Why performance culture kills connection 02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms 04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex 07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest 10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch 12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift 15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes 18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm 21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control 23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire 26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe 28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack 31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training 33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes 35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasy Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0 Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company . She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing. Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO , You Are Not Broken , Sex with Emily , The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey , Good Moms Bad Choices , Heal Thyself , IDIOT with Laura Clery , The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video , LuvBites with Dr. Tara , and The Chalene Show . Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection. Connect with Susan Bratton: Website : https://susanbratton.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . ⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook 🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout! 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser