Why Women Fake It: The Orgasm Gap & What To Do with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 1

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex —to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz 01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure 03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It 06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend 09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained 13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie 16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure 18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters 22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This) 26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives 29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection? 33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume 35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment 38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools 42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2 Karen Bigman , a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex . Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators. Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz: Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook , filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook . Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!