Episodes

4d ago

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with tantric practitioner, pleasure educator, and soon-to-be author Davia Frost for a deep conversation about decentering penetration and expanding what sex can be. Recorded on the Temptation Cruise, this episode explores how slowing down, breathing, presence, and creativity can lead to more satisfying, intimate, and embodied pleasure without sex needing to revolve around penetration. We discuss: What it means to decenter penetration and why penetration is overemphasized in mainstream culture How expanding your definition of sex increases pleasure, intimacy, and satisfaction Why heterosexual couples tend to rush to intercourse and how this limits pleasure Using the full body as an instrument of pleasure rather than focusing only on genitals Slowing down, softening the body, and learning how to receive pleasure Myths around sex, obligation, and the idea that penetration is required Making penetration optional without sex feeling “incomplete” Erogenous zones beyond genitals (neck, ears, inner thighs, behind the knees, clavicle, elbows, nipples) Nipple play and nipple orgasms Different types of orgasms and expanding orgasmic capacity Breathwork, sound, humming, and tantra as tools for pleasure Why holding your breath can limit orgasmic potential Presence vs performance in sex Oral sex as intimacy, honoring, and shared pleasure rather than a chore Eye gazing, kissing, dirty talk, and touch as deeply intimate acts Ego, vulnerability, and why sex often ends when penetration ends Ending sex based on satisfaction, not orgasms or penetration Communication strategies for talking about pleasure without hurting egos Sexual menus, check-ins, and having conversations outside the bedroom Scheduling intimacy, playfulness, and creative erotic invitations What straight couples can learn from queer sex culture Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2548-alexa 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon ⁠ for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Dec 11

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets back in bed with sex & relationship coach Catherine Drysdale for the most honest, nuanced conversation about voluntary celibacy you’ve ever heard. Together they break down how intentionally stepping away from partnered sex can reset your dating patterns, raise your standards, calm your nervous system, help you stop centering dating/sex, reconnect you to your body, and ultimately make your sex life better. In this episode, Catherine opens up about: What voluntary celibacy actually means Why she’s chosen celibacy multiple times Libido dips during high-stress seasons– Prioritizing outercourse for better sex Celibacy as a tool for breaking validation cycles How to stop centering dating, sex and external validation Dating while celibate & setting clear boundaries How long a celibacy period should last How to decide when to re-enter sex or dating into your life What she learned about sexual compatibility The “reset effect” on desire and self-esteem How celibacy helped her see red flags sooner Why a sex break often leads to better sex How to be more intentional once you start having sex again Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2548-alexa 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon ⁠ for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Nov 27

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with sex educator, pleasure expert, and the Handjob Queen herself, Ashley Manta ( @cannasexual ), for the most comprehensive handjob episode ever recorded, all from the middle of the Ionian Sea aboard a Desire Cruise. Together, they dive into Ashley’s entire sexual evolution, her journey into sex education, her non-monogamous love story, and her insanely detailed handjob techniques that go way beyond the basics. This episode is part sex education masterclass, part storytelling, part technique demonstration and entirely iconic. We cover: How Ashley de-centered penetration in her relationships and learned to prioritize warm-up, touch, and manual stimulation Why she prefers clitoral stimulation with fingers over any vibrator / oral Squirting vs orgasm: why they’re different experiences and how Ashley experiences both Handjobs in cars, the “blowjobs for rides” era, and giving a handjob in a DHL truck Working at a sex shop and learning techniques from experts like Reid Mihalko, Ducky Doolittle, Tristan Taormino, and more Her decade of learning technique through sex parties, workshops, and hands-on practice The “toxic tantra boyfriend” who was incredible at sex but emotionally manipulative How handjobs became Ashley’s specialty and why she teaches them professionally Using partners as “live demos” during workshops Her handjob philosophy: connection, breathwork, presence, pressure, rhythm, and affirmation How to handle soft cocks, why softness is normal, and how to help someone relax into arousal Why lube is non-negotiable , why Ashley prefers silicone lube, and her love for the baby bottle warmer hack Circumcised vs uncircumcised penis techniques and what adjustments matter Full techniques breakdown Why Ashley doesn’t enjoy giving blowjobs (TMJ + dislike of cum), and how she clearly makes up for it Outsourcing BJ duties during group play thanks to her and Nick’s non-monogamous dynamic Anal play safety and boundaries: how Nick discovered he loves anal, how they explored it safely, and hygiene must-knows Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA69 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 65% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2544-alexa

Nov 13

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Ian Kerner , sex therapist and author of the groundbreaking bestseller She Comes First, He Comes Next, and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. They talk about why his 2004 classic is still changing bedrooms two decades later, how the clitoris remains misunderstood, and what makes sex truly great. We discuss: - Why She Comes First is still a global bestseller 21 years later - ⁠The science of the clitoris and its internal structures - Why all orgasms are clitoral — and what “outercourse” really means - Why penetration-only sex leads to bad sex and performance anxiety - The most common sexual problems heterosexual couples face today - How to shift from intercourse-focused sex to pleasure-focused sex - Why rhythm and persistence are essential for clitoral stimulation - Why novelty helps early on but routine deepens connection - How rushing and orgasm-chasing have ruined slow sex - The differences between male and female arousal cycles - ⁠The three assurances every giver should offer during oral sex - Why enthusiasm is the sexiest thing a partner can show - How women’s insecurities (“I’m taking too long,” “Do I smell?”) block pleasure - Why giving oral sex might be the key to your erection problems An unfiltered, intimate conversation about why She Comes First is still essential reading and how better sex starts with slowing down, getting curious, and caring more. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA69 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 65% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2544-alexa

Nov 6

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Amanda Dames , the kink consultant and sex & relationship coach, for a deep dive into the world of kink — from power dynamics and negotiation to choking, bondage, chastity, and aftercare. Amanda, a former dominatrix and current coach for couples and individuals, breaks down how to safely explore desire, communicate boundaries, and find confidence in both dominance and submission. We discuss: What a kink consultant actually does and how Amanda works with couples and individuals How to talk about kink and start negotiating scenes with a partner The concept of core desires : what drives your kinks on a deeper level Power exchange and why it’s one of the most common and misunderstood kinks How to safely practice choking and the difference between sides and trachea pressure How to create and close a scene, use safe words, and practice aftercare The difference between a kink and a fetish (and why fantasizing isn’t cheating) What to do when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t The importance of curiosity, consent, and mutual care in exploring desires Why choking porn shouldn’t be banned, it should be taught safely How to avoid nerve damage in bondage and the importance of safety scissors How to transition between dominance and submission when you’re a switch Why chastity for men is on the rise and what makes it exciting The realities of power play, punishment, and control What good aftercare looks like: from cuddling to next-day check-ins Why communication before, during, and after sex prevents harm and deepens connection The role of negotiation, consent, and enthusiasm in every scene Why more women should take control in bed and why more men should learn to be submissive How lingerie, pegging, and roleplay are more common (and fun) than people think Amanda’s fetish for being punished and how fantasy enhances orgasm

Oct 30

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@ ⁠ sexwithalexa ⁠ ) ⁠ sits on the couch with Robyn Silber ⁠ — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection. We talk about: Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYC Sexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herself Why only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wasn’t asking for pleasure The difference between physical attraction and real sexual desire How asexuality doesn’t mean low libido or lack of masturbation Her current relationship: emotional connection, sensuality, and slow intimacy Why everyone should have a “slut era” and what to keep in mind Her idea to launch an online support group for men who aren’t getting laid The male loneliness crisis and how empathy can rebuild connection Why men should focus on friendship, hobbies, and social skills before dating

Oct 23

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson , author of Old Enough , bisexual Dream Girl , and OCD Princess , to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy. We discuss: The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic love Learning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding it Friendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when to repair How attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) affect friendships and conflict The parallels between romantic and platonic relationship skills Navigating OCD, intrusive thoughts, and relationship anxiety Sexual shame, low libido, and reconnecting with desire during recovery The impact of COVID on libido, self-pleasure, and intimacy How OCD and anxiety affect sexual intimacy and self-image Learning to find satisfaction without pressure to perform sexually Haley’s upcoming novel Cave Girl and the story behind its title Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2540-alexa

Oct 9

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Nina Divina , Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse , for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life. We talk about: What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody it Overcoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflection How to be the main character in your sex life and in everyday life The power of adopting a persona to boost confidence Why teasing is the most underrated form of foreplay Teasing vs. flirting — and how anticipation makes everything hotter Building sexual confidence through self-love and self-touch Reconnecting with your sensuality after losing it The importance of breathing, eye contact, and connection before sex How “fake it till you make it” and “delulu is the solulu” actually work Stretching, sensual movement, and small daily rituals to feel sexy again Why confidence, play, and teasing make sex better for everyone 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon ⁠ for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram! Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2540-alexa

Sep 25

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Jeff Perla , host of Oh Dear I’m Queer , for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy. We discuss: Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity” Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets Bold ways of flirting IRL Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage” Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman” Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed” Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2536-alexa 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon⁠ for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram! www.patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sep 18

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Ali Weiss , New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden. A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judgment. Other topics we cover: The complicated relationship with oversharing and boundaries Why rejection isn’t the end of the world, and how to approach people IRL The obsession with being a “clean girl” vs embracing messiness Why taboo fascinates us and how it secretly connects us all Friendships that go deeper than relationships Learning to accept yourself so you can handle rejection and find real connection 👉 Support the podcast and get bonus content on Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sep 11

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies . We cover: Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex life The difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to life Vee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway) What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might not want to force it) How shame around our bodies, vulvas, and desires can hold us back — and how to push through it Fantasies that should stay fantasies (monster-fucking, Khaleesi worship scenes, etc.) The role of community and how to find people who will help make your fantasies a reality Fantasies that grow out of childhood wounds, trauma, or praise/degradation kinks How to actually ask for what you want and deal with rejection Tools for couples and individuals to explore fantasies safely (even if they never leave your imagination) It’s raw, personal, and full of both funny and vulnerable stories — from getting DVPed on a cruise to being worshipped by multiple partners at once . If you’ve ever wondered where fantasies come from, how to share them without shame, or how to make them happen in real life, this is your guide. 💋 Support the show on Patreon for bonus content, behind-the-scenes, and more at patreon.com/sexwithalexa Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2536-alexa

Sep 4

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire. We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want. We talk about: Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase The role of new relationship energy and why it fades How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner How mental load kills desire, especially for women The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier When to see a professional and how one session can change everything 👉 If you loved this episode and want to support the show, join my Patreon for bonus content, behind-the-scenes chats, and extra Q&As: patreon.com/sexwithalexa .

Aug 28

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Elle Chase ( @theellechase ) , certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement . Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin. In this episode, we dive into: The difference between body love and body neutrality Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body How body image influences desire and long-term passion Building connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hunger Why self-compassion and communication matter more than confidence How to reframe sex as connection, not performance For unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes on my own dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram, join my Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexa Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2532-alexa

Aug 21

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities. In this episode, we dive into: What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundaries Laura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discovery Owning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to others A hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paper Laura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life. ✨ For more uncensored conversations, bonus clips, and behind-the-scenes stories, join me on Patreon .

Aug 14

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri , to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good. What we cover: Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including during oral), and how “cleanliness” isn’t about being hairless. Language that harms: the “pastrami vulva” era, innie/outie shame, and how those jokes warp body image. Vulva diversity 101: long inner labia are common; symmetry isn’t the standard; vulvas are supposed to be visible sometimes under clothes. The “bulge” discourse: when someone called out a “bulge” in a swimsuit pic and Gabriella’s clap-back — it was her vulva. Why visibility ≠ indecency. What “lip slip” really means and how design solves for it (without erasing your shape). Gusset realities: the industry’s average ~2.5" gusset vs. Cherri’s wider cuts (e.g., a 4" gusset on an XS G-string) and why width, placement, and size-inclusive fit matter. Behind the brand: insights from Cherri’s 5,000+-person survey of vulva owners, fit testing across sizes, and why styles take time to release. Hygiene myths we’re done with: hair does not equal dirty; vulvas have scent; how to care without over-stripping your skin. Body neutrality vs. “love your body”: moving from harm to comfort first, confidence as a practice, and giving yourself permission to pick what feels good. Shopping smarter: what to look for in undies and swim (gusset width, rise, fabric, coverage options) and letting comfort lead. Our own stories: growing up through the era of hairless ideals, changing tastes, and why embracing “real” bodies feels so freeing. 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon ⁠ for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram! Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2532-alexa

Jul 31

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins ( @thefirstdatediaries ) . We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulnerability and emotional shutdowns. We cover: - Understanding sexuality and how to discover what you truly want in relationships. - Recognizing emotional availability and its impact on your dating experience. - The loneliness of pretending you're okay with casual dating when you’re not - The pressure to be chill, cool and detached and why that hurts us more than it helps - The concept of “pussy economics” and why your access is valuable - Real red flags we ignore and green flags we mistake for red flags. 👉 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes takes on my personal dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram. Go to patreon.com/sexwithalexa to get in.

Jul 24

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray , porn myths, and how to separate real connection from performative sex. If you’ve ever wondered what love looks like when sex is your job, this one’s for you. In this episode, we talk about: how porn shaped Aaron’s real-life relationships what it's like to be monogamous while working in the adult industry the emotional aftermath of performing sex on camera whether it's really possible to have sex without catching feelings how to separate intimacy from performance Aaron’s recent divorce and what it taught him his take on aftercare and why it's necessary in porn how he advocates for female pleasure in a male-driven industry what it's like working with Owen Gray and the hype around him his thoughts on what sex acts are overrated vs underrated what porn gets right and wrong about real desire 🎧 Love the pod? Support me on Patreon! You’ll get unedited episodes, bonus stories from my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram: patreon.com/sexwithalexa Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-july

Jul 17

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda , New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene. Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences. We cover: What to know before attending your first sex party How to navigate consent, conversation, and energy Why curiosity is sexy, but entitlement isn't What not to do when you're naked in public The importance of aftercare — even at play parties Creating safer, queerer, more intentional spaces How Hacienda became the gold standard for sex-positive events ✨ As always, the unedited version of this episode — plus more about my personal dating life, spicy stories, and access to my Close Friends on IG — is on Patreon !

Jul 10

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Birna Gustafsson , sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies , to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it. Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs. Expect to learn: The actual failure rate of pulling out and why it’s riskier than you think Why douching is unnecessary—and can be harmful Whether you can get pregnant on your period (hint: you can) The truth about HPV, oral sex, and throat cancer Why orgasms aren’t the only marker of “good sex” The dangers of black-and-white sex advice on social media How kids are absorbing harmful beliefs from TikTok, porn & uninformed adults Why pegging can turn men into better lovers 👀 Why we must improve sex ed for healthcare professionals How to know if your sex advice source is trustworthy Birna also shares how she's helping train nurses and midwives to better support patients with inclusive, evidence-based sex education. Plus: her favorite sex ed resources, books, and where to go if you're ready to learn the truth . ✨ Want more? Unedited episodes, Alexa's personal dating stories, and her IG Close Friends are all on Patreon: patreon.com/sexwithalexa Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-july

Jun 26

In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) gets in bed with Jamie Joy , a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry. We also discuss: How to prep for fisting (from hygiene to headspace) Differences between vaginal and anal fisting Safety tips, including glove use, nails, and douching Why fisting is more emotional and intimate than you’d think What to do if you're curious about trying it Debunking myths about poop, pain, and gay panic The role of breath, communication, and pleasure in anal play The stigma around anal play—especially for straight men Jamie's favorite techniques and their own mold of their fist (yes, really!) You can check out more of Jamie's work here ! 🌈 New to the pod? Subscribe, rate & leave us a review. And if you want unedited episodes + a peek into my personal dating and sex life, join us on Patreon . You’ll also get added to my IG Close Friends list 💌 Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-june

Jun 12

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Thea Rose , host of Seggs Talk Radio and founder of a new STI testing startup, to talk about what it really takes to build a sex-positive business—from scratch, with heart, and without losing your mind. Thea opens up about her messy, honest path as a multi-hyphenate creator, how she juggles podcasting, launching companies, and staying grounded through burnout, ADHD, OnlyFans, and entrepreneurship in a taboo space. If you've ever wondered what it actually takes to build something sustainable in the sexual wellness world—this one's for you. We get into: How to actually niche down without losing your voice or creativity Why your “little business” deserves as much celebration as a wedding or baby How to recover when your audience isn't aligned (and why starting fresh matters) The role of risk-taking in entrepreneurship (and how it shows up in the bedroom) Launching an OnlyFans Why being passionate about your work matters more than the money Sex-positive branding, burnout, and building your dream audience The cost of being underestimated as a woman in business Choosing to celebrate yourself in your own way Craving more intimacy—even in a city full of people Why we have to break away from traditional life milestones 💌 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes stories from my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-june

Jun 5

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Allie Hoffman , founder of Catch The Feels —a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition. We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie opens up about falling for poly men while being deeply monogamous, breaking her pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how her body often speaks louder than her mind when it comes to sex and relationships. We also discuss: How to spot the difference between ego and intuition Why we keep falling for unavailable people (and how to stop) Her practice of using orgasmic energy for sex magic The truth about dating apps and why they’re keeping us stuck How to “own your erotic map” and be okay with your identity—whether you’re queer, kinky, monogamous or none of the above How The Feels was born and what really happens at her IRL dating events Why being open to love is the bravest thing you can do Sex, breakups, and learning to hear your body say “no” How to break your patterns and stop ignoring red flags just because the sex is good 💌 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes stories from my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram.

May 29

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies , and how men can do better in sex and relationships. We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach to sex. Matt opens up about getting pegged for the first time, navigating group sex with intention, and why he chose to get a vasectomy—and how it’s impacted his confidence and partnerships. We also unpack: Why pegging changed how he shows up as a top and partner Tips for navigating MFM threesomes with care and curiosity How to explore dominant and submissive roles without ego The mental and physical realities of getting a vasectomy (and why you should get one!) How to communicate during casual sex without killing the vibe Managing a sex-positive roster (with check-ins!) The difference between protective and possessive behavior Friendship with exes, emotional responsibility, and being a grown-ass slut 🎁 BONUS SCENE : Stick around for a surprise scene with Mario Cruz , recorded onboard the spicy Desire Cruise , where we talk about spooning, swinging, and everything in between. 💌 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes stories from my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram.

May 22

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships. We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available. ✨ In this episode, we talk about: How Matthew realized he wasn’t dating ethically—and what changed that His transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about himself Tips for flirting, FaceTime pre-dates, and dating apps that don’t suck Power dynamics in dating, and how kink helped him explore both dom & sub roles Group sex, queer curiosity, and learning how to communicate mid-orgy Slutty shame, hot guy privilege, and navigating softness in hookup culture Why it’s not just about consent, but context and care Lessons from play parties, switching, and setting expectations with new partners This is an episode about dating better—not perfectly, but with curiosity, compassion, and accountability. 💌 Want more? On Patreon , you’ll get the unedited version of this episode, behind-the-scenes tea on my dating and sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-may

May 15

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola ( @dirtylola ) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance. From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into: Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties! The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shame How shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about it Why orgasms don’t equal worth, and how to stop performative sex What she’s learned about micropenises, penis shame, and making pleasure work for everyone How to start loving your body—even before it’s your “goal body” Tips on letting go of external validation and dressing for YOU Aging, menopause, and staying slutty at every stage of life How to be a better partner by showing up with kindness and compliments This episode is brought to you by Splash Blanket - the world’s most luxurious waterproof blanket. Feel more free and liberated in the bedroom with code ALEXA 😏 Want to hear more behind the scenes? On Patreon , you’ll find the unedited version of this episode, stories from my personal dating life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram

May 8

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who’s on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires. We talk about: • What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives • The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "good girl" in a power dynamic• The pressure to be nice, palatable, and liked (and how that impacts our relationships and sex lives)• Why so many of us have trouble asking for what we want—especially in bed• The link between patriarchy and the fear of being “too much”• How to begin reclaiming your voice, your wants, and your power• Ways to get comfortable with discomfort, especially when it comes to setting boundaries• Rewriting your relationship with shame, worthiness, and sexual expression This is a permission slip to take up space and live more fully, more loudly, and more authentically. ✨ At the end of the episode, we also chat about how this work spills into dating, communication, and how to support other women on the same journey. 🎧 Plus! Don’t forget to check out my Patreon where I share the unedited version of this episode, updates on my dating and sex life, and give members access to my Close Friends on Instagram. Thank you, Beducated, for sponsoring this episode and making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-may

May 1

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise! In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz , Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises , to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience. Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about: How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun environment for all guests Tips for first-timers: how to navigate nerves, set boundaries, and make connections Debunking common myths about swinger and lifestyle cruises Themed nights, play areas, workshops, and how to make the most of the onboard events How privacy and discretion are prioritized for every guest How these cruises can open doors to self-discovery and new adventures The difference between Temptation and Desire Cruises (and which might be a better fit for you!) Funny, surprising behind-the-scenes stories from working onboard ✨ PLUS: Alexa and Mario invite YOU to join the next Temptation Cruise this November 2025 ! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or just looking for a sexy, judgment-free vacation, this could be your next adventure. 🔥 Want more? Join my ⁠ Patreon ⁠ for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Apr 24

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Alex Fine , educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame , to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner. Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure. Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming. ✨ In this episode, we cover: How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you like Tips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performative How to bring up toys with a partner if they’re nervous or skeptical The difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for each How to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use) Debunking myths like “you’ll get addicted to your vibrator” How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed products The role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating ease Masturbation as a form of self-connection and stress relief Why you don’t have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn’t a performance Suing the MTA so they could advertise on the subway Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april 🎧 Unedited episodes, my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram? It’s all on Patreon

Apr 17

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro . Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered. Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn’t just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are. In this episode, we discuss: How to make oral feel incredible with your mouth and your whole body Deepthroating 101: tips, angles, breathing, and how to stay in control What makes a blowjob feel intimate (even when it’s casual) How to avoid jaw fatigue and still make it look/feel amazing Common mistakes people make when giving oral to penis-havers The power of eye contact, vocal feedback, and enthusiasm Communication tips—how to ask for direction without killing the mood The difference between porn blowjobs and what people actually want What to do if you're nervous, insecure, or don’t love giving oral (yet) How Zachary’s bisexuality influences his approach to pleasure The importance of mutual pleasure and making oral a two-way experience This episode is informative, hot, and actually helpful—no shame, no judgment, just real talk about how to become a more generous, confident, and attuned lover. Thank you Fantasia for being a sponsor on today's episode. Check out fantasiatoy.online to see what your fantasy feels like! ✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon

Apr 10

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas —techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied , Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required. In this episode, we discuss: The most common mistakes people make when going down on someone How to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsure Kenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it works The anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essential Why going slow is underrated and how to read your partner’s body cues Communication tips that don’t kill the vibe Techniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and more How to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connection Tips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulation What Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva owners Busting myths about what “good oral” looks like How to prioritize pleasure over performance Kenneth’s top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous lover Whether you’re new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life. ✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april

Apr 3

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships? We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles — what to do with your ex’s nudes . Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time? Plus, we discuss what it’s like navigating relationships as a queer person , how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties —how they’ve helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she’s learned from attending them. Why more couples are choosing to live apart The pros and cons of maintaining separate spaces How non-monogamy fits into the equation How to set clear boundaries and expectations The debate around keeping your ex’s nudes —what’s ethical? How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacy Hayley’s personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empowered How past relationships shape how we handle intimacy This episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries. 🔥 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes , behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Mar 27

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural . Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires . We cover: How she got started and what it's like working at a dungeon. How to start dominating your boyfriend —even if you’ve never done it before. Why confidence is key —and how to build it in and out of the bedroom. Ways to take the lead in sex —without feeling awkward or forced. How to introduce power dynamics in a fun, flirty way —no whips or leather required. The psychology behind why some people love being told what to do —and how to use that to your advantage. Findom (financial domination) 101 —what it is, how it works, and why it’s more common than you think. How to communicate what you want —and make sure your partner is on board. Easy ways to get started with small, subtle power shifts that can change everything. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Mar 13

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Lindsay Wynn , founder of Momotaro Apotheca , a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness . After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame. In this episode, we have a raw and informative conversation about all things vulva health, vaginal wellness, and self-care . We dive into: How to prevent and treat common vaginal issues like BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and irritation—what actually works and what’s just a marketing gimmick. The biggest culprits behind vaginal pH imbalance , from antibiotics and semen to diet, stress, and even your favorite pair of leggings. The dos and don’ts of vulva hygiene —should you wash with soap? Do you need probiotics? Are feminine wipes your friend or foe? Debunking common vulva myths , like whether certain foods change your taste and if tight underwear really causes infections. How sex impacts vaginal health , plus practical pre- and post-sex care tips to help you stay balanced. The truth about discharge and odor —what’s normal, what’s not, and why we need to stop pathologizing natural bodily functions. How to find the right products for vaginal health and what harmful ingredients to look out for. Changing the conversation around intimate wellness —why vaginal health is still so taboo and how we can normalize these discussions. Our personal experiences with squirting —Lindsay is still exploring, but she shares a position we should all try (trust us, you’ll want to take notes). A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Mar 6

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya , a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator . Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free —whether you're new to it or looking to refine your approach. We discuss: How to know if casual sex is right for you —some people thrive in no-strings-attached encounters, while others struggle. How to set clear boundaries and communicate expectations so everyone is on the same page. How to avoid catching feelings (or handle it if you do) and ways to check in with yourself. Destigmatizing casual sex , especially for women and queer folks, and breaking down harmful stereotypes. How to stay physically and emotionally safe , including STI prevention, handling rejection, and self-reflection after hookups. Navigating casual sex in ethical non-monogamy and how it differs from traditional dating. Red flags to watch out for and how to recognize when a casual partner might want more than you do. How to make casual sex more enjoyable —from mindset shifts to exploring pleasure in a way that works for you. If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, worried about emotional entanglements, or just want to make sure you're approaching casual sex in a way that feels good for you, this episode is full of practical tips, expert insights, and real talk to help you have more fulfilling, shame-free casual experiences .

Feb 27

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson , Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the F u ck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms . Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat , this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are, how they happen, and how you can tap into them . Sarah shares her journey from discovering sex-positivity in college to becoming a leading voice in pleasure-based sex education. We talk about how shame, stress, and disconnection block pleasure , and how somatic techniques, breathwork, and body awareness can help you reclaim your pleasure and access deeper orgasms . We also cover: 🔸 Why so many people struggle to connect with their bodies (and how to change that) 🔸 The myths around orgasm gaps, genital-focused pleasure, and what it really means to be “multi-orgasmic” 🔸 How curiosity and playfulness can enhance your sexual experiences 🔸 Why full body orgasms aren’t just about sex—they’re about embodiment, confidence, and overall well-being A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠ ⁠https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠

Feb 20

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠ @sexwithalexa ⁠) sits down with ⁠Amy Baldwin ⁠—sex educator, co-host of the ⁠ Shameless Sex Podcast ⁠, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy. Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only started having really good sex in her 30s. We also go deep into her journey in non-monogamy, how she and her partner opened up their relationship, and how their rules vs. agreements evolved over time. We cover: 🔹 Growing up sex-positive & running a sex shop with her mom 🔹 Why it took so long to start having good sex (and what changed!) 🔹 Her journey into non-monogamy and what she’s learned along the way 🔹 Her top blowjob tips for mind-blowing oral 🔹 Why so many people struggle with receiving pleasure & how to get better at it 🔹 The sex myths we wish we’d unlearned so much sooner If you want to get better at giving and receiving pleasure, understand non-monogamy from someone who's lived it, and break free from old sexual conditioning, this episode is a must-listen! Check out the ⁠ Shameless Sex Tour ⁠happening in Austin, Dallas and Santa Cruz! A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠ https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠

Feb 13

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sat down with April Lampert in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of the Shameless Sex Podcast , has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in a very different place. In this episode, we cover: 🔹 Growing up in a conservative household and unlearning sexual guilt 🔹 What working at a sex shop taught her about human desire 🔹 The infidelity in her past relationships & how she handled it 🔹 Her slut era and what it taught her about sexual empowerment 🔹 The hygiene tips everyone should know for a better sex life 🔹 Why she’s still intimidated by sex parties , despite talking about them all the time 🔹 How much of what she learns on Shameless Sex actually makes it into her real life April keeps it real, raw, and hilarious , and this conversation is packed with insight, honesty, and a whole lot of laughs. Tune in for an episode that will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about sex and shame.

Jan 30

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Jacqueline Soule , a system disruptor who feels everything —literally. From experiencing orgasms on bumpy roads to planning her life around her menstrual cycle, Jacqueline shares how deep body awareness has shaped her life. We discuss how to be more mindful and make everyday moments more pleasurable , how she taught her kids about cycles and sex education, and what it’s like to navigate relationships with mismatched desire levels . Plus, she reveals what life is like without a negative internal voice —and how you can start silencing yours. Topics include: ✨ Tips on becoming more in tune with your body ✨ How to bring more pleasure into mundane daily moments ✨ Why she plans her entire life around her menstrual cycle ✨ Teaching kids about sex ed, body image & self-awareness ✨ What it’s like to have no negative self-talk ✨ Navigating a higher libido than your partner ✨ The power of sensory awareness & pleasure If you’re curious about deepening your connection with your body, tuning into pleasure, and embracing your natural rhythms , this episode is for you!

Jan 23

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Amber Mallery , an award-winning sex educator and advocate for inclusivity in sexual health education, for an inspiring and candid conversation about sex, self-discovery, and prioritizing personal growth. (also see @bijoux_indiscrets ) Amber shares her journey into sex education, her passion for fostering inclusive spaces, and how she navigates challenging but essential conversations around intimacy and relationships. They dive deep into their shared experiences giving workshops on Desire Cruises , discussing the unique dynamics of teaching about pleasure and empowerment in such a liberating environment. Amber also opens up about her decision to prioritize herself, how it’s impacted her life and work, and why self-care is vital for showing up fully for others. From breaking stigmas around pleasure to exploring new areas of intimacy safely, Amber and Alexa unpack everything you need to know to foster connection, confidence, and self-love in and out of the bedroom. Amber’s journey to becoming a sex educator Giving workshops on Desire Cruises and empowering others Why prioritizing yourself is vital for growth and connection Breaking down stigmas around sexual health and pleasure Tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships Exploring kink and new areas of sexuality safely Creating inclusive, sex-positive spaces The importance of representation in sex education This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their knowledge, embrace pleasure, and live unapologetically.

Jan 16

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) kicks off Season 4 with an exciting conversation with Mario Cruz , Cruise Director for the famed Desire and Temptation Cruises. In this episode, we dive into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises and explore what makes these experiences so unique, from themed nights and play spaces to fostering a respectful, consensual environment for newcomers and experienced swingers alike. Mario shares insider details about creating a safe space for exploration, including privacy measures for discreet guests, guidance for setting boundaries, and tips for easing into the lifestyle. We also debunk common myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, discuss the vibrant themed dress codes, and explore the balance between a thrilling party atmosphere and a comfortable, inclusive environment. Mario’s stories from past cruises offer a glimpse into the memorable, funny, and heartwarming moments that make these journeys more than just about sex—they’re about connection, community, and unforgettable adventures. Whether you’re curious about the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is full of insights, laughs, and practical advice for anyone considering their first swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruise. Topics include: What makes swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises different from typical cruises Debunking myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises Privacy, boundaries, and consent onboard Themed nights and how wild guests get with their outfits Tips for first-timers and navigating nerves Beyond sex: the community, workshops, and relaxation aspects Memorable moments from Desire and Temptation Cruises Join us as we set sail on an enlightening journey into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, where adventure and connection await!

Jan 2

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious . In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked family” helped her view normal bodies as healing and empowering. We delve into her private and professional lives, discussing how she balances intimate, private sex with her boyfriend and the content they create for OnlyFans. Reed shares her love for feet and tickle fetishes, breaking down the shame she once felt and how she now embraces her desires—right down to hosting tickle parties in London and experiencing orgasms from unique sensations like tickling or bladder pressure. Reed also reflects on growing up with an autistic mom who was open about sex, the joy and excitement she finds in sex work, and her thoughts on unfair UK laws targeting sex workers. She debunks myths about sex workers, discusses STI stigma and statistics, and opens up about her journey toward sobriety and how it has transformed her sex life, including attending sex parties sober. We also touch on her podcast Come Curious , how she met her co-host Florence (author of This Book Will Make You Feel Something ), and how they navigate creative differences. Plus, Reed shares her evolution from being a “size queen” to reevaluating her preferences. Trigger Warning: This episode includes mention of childhood sexual assault. Topics include: Embracing nipple and vulva confidence Balancing sex with your partner vs sex for OnlyFans Growing up in a naked family and its healing effects Reed’s tickle and full bladder fetish UK laws targeting sex workers and their impact STI statistics and breaking down stigmas Sobriety and its effect on her sex life Foot fetish content creation and Reed’s joy in sex work Insights from the Come Curious podcast This episode is a powerful mix of vulnerability, joy, and breaking stigmas about sex, work, and identity. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa40

Dec 26, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Genevieve LeJeune , CEO and founder of Skirt Club , a revolutionary space for bisexual women and those curious about exploring their sexuality. Skirt Club has become a global phenomenon, hosting play parties in 36 cities worldwide, empowering women to embrace their desires in a safe and inclusive environment. In this episode, we dive deep into the story of how Skirt Club began as a response to the lack of spaces for bisexual curiosity and how it quickly grew into a vibrant community for women. Genevieve shares what a typical Skirt Club party looks like, how inclusivity is prioritized with clear criteria for who is welcome, and the unique challenges women face when approaching other women in these spaces. We also discuss: The common issues that arise during these parties and how they’re addressed. Why it has been difficult to find women investors to help scale the Skirt Club app. How Skirt Club promotes sexual liberation and creates opportunities for female empowerment . The role of men in Skirt Club’s vision and events. If you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community , curious about female sexuality , or just interested in how women are breaking barriers through sexual exploration , this episode is for you. Join us for a candid conversation about creating safe spaces and empowering bisexual women to embrace their identities. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexasbed

Dec 19, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) dives into the fascinating world of professional domination and kink-aware therapy with Miss Veronica Viper , a seasoned dominatrix and therapist. In this episode, Veronica shares her journey through an unconventional upbringing in different countries, her first experiences with pegging and consensual choking at 16, and how working as a stripper led her to find her true calling as a domme at age 19. We explore her training process, the diverse range of clients she serves—including surprising numbers of women, queer, and non-binary individuals—and the unique custom requests she’s received. Veronica also opens up about her work as a kink-aware therapist, the creative objects she’s used in sessions, and her tips for anyone looking to start their journey in professional domination. Plus, we bond over our shared hatred for overhead lighting and discuss how creating the right environment can make or break an intimate experience. Topics include: How Veronica became a professional dominatrix First-time pegging and exploring kink as a teenager Training as a domme and handling her first clients The unexpected diversity of her clientele Creative tools and methods in her sessions The intersection of therapy and kink awareness Tips for aspiring dominants A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠ ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa40off

Dec 12, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Zoe Atiko , the creative force behind @reignofsovereignty , a groundbreaking harness fashion movement. Zoe shares her journey from burlesque and hat-making to creating fluid, inclusive designs inspired by her experiences in Berlin. We delve into how Zoe’s queerness and dedication to empowering others shape her work, as well as her philosophy of seeing bodies as monuments and rejecting the idea of imperfections. She explains what it’s like working with her, the meaning behind her movement, and her goal to inspire confidence and comfort in all who wear her designs. Topics include: How Berlin inspired the Reign of Sovereignty movement The evolution from burlesque and hat-making to harness fashion Harness fashion as a tool for empowerment and fluid expression Zoe’s queerness journey and its reflection in her designs Creating safe and comfortable spaces for clients Why bodies are monuments and imperfections don’t exist Join us for an inspiring conversation about fashion, identity, and the power of self-expression. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/bedwithalexa

Nov 28, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) delves into the world of paid companionship and intimacy with Arik Brückner, CEO and co-founder of CHOICE —a groundbreaking platform designed to provide safe, transparent, and stigma-free services. Arik discusses how CHOICE is redefining an often misunderstood industry, focusing on safety measures like ID verification, behavior guidelines, and post-meeting feedback systems to foster trust between providers and clients. Arik opens up about his entrepreneurial journey, from bootstrapping a SaaS business to its successful exit, to his inspiration for creating CHOICE in Switzerland. We explore the challenges of destigmatizing paid companionship, the ethical considerations involved in building such a platform, and the role of technology in making human connection safer and more accessible.Tune in as we unpack misconceptions about the industry, discuss the importance of open communication, and explore how CHOICE bridges the gap between companionship and meaningful intimacy. If you’re curious about the future of companionship in the digital age, this episode is a must-listen! Topics include: What paid companionship and intimacy really mean- The safety and verification process on CHOICE- Ethical challenges in the intimacy industry Arik’s background and journey to founding CHOICE Destigmatizing conversations about intimacy services How CHOICE is using technology to redefine trust and safety A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/blfalexa

Nov 21, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with Emma Sayle, the trailblazing Founder and CEO of Killing Kittens . In this episode, they discuss Emma’s upbringing and her first experiences with sex that helped shape her journey. Emma shares how Killing Kittens was born and what sets it apart as a women-led, sex-positive space. They explore what attendees can expect at a Killing Kittens event, from who is welcome to where play happens and why single men aren’t allowed. Emma also shares exciting details about their upcoming cruise in 2026 and the vision for the future of the Killing Kittens brand. Whether you're curious about attending, want to understand the philosophy behind it, or are fascinated by Emma's journey of empowerment and breaking taboos, this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/60alexa

Nov 14, 2024

In this episode, Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with award-winning sex educator, trans activist, and author Dee Whitnell to discuss their unique journey through gender identity, activism, and self-discovery. Dee shares their experience growing up queer, their initial hesitation around exploring relationships with vulva-owners, and how they met their partner, a trans man, who helps them navigate safe spaces and supports them on tough body-image days. We discuss Dee’s views on handling hurtful misgendering and how they’ve reached a place where it no longer impacts them as much. Dee also opens up about their advocacy work and the movement “Trans Kids Deserve to Grow Up,” inspired by the alarming rate of trans youth who struggle with societal acceptance. Join us as we explore Dee’s thoughts on separating art from its creator, such as the Harry Potter series, given the transphobic views of J.K. Rowling. Dee also sheds light on the limited rights for non-binary people in the UK and how parents can support children in coming out. Finally, we dive into de-centering penetration in sexual intimacy and why Dee is experiencing some of the best sex of their life. Whether you're interested in allyship, queer terminology, or redefining sexuality, this episode brings a fresh perspective on identity, activism, and love. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠⁠ https://beducate.me/alexablf

Nov 7, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( ⁠@sexwithalexa⁠ ) chats with the internet's resident sexpert, ⁠Dr. Tara⁠ , on a candid journey through Dr. Tara’s sexual history, insights, and expert advice on improving relationships. Dr. Tara opens up about her childhood in Thailand with parents who avoided discussing sex, her early sexual experiences with girls at 13, and her exploration with guys after moving to Finland. She shares how her first marriage ended due to a lack of sexual compatibility and how, through friendship first, she built a strong relationship with her current husband, eventually evolving from monogamous to “monogamish.” We dive into Dr. Tara’s research on sexual communication, with tips on navigating protective vs. possessive attitudes and how men often struggle to open relationships due to cultural ideas of ownership. Dr. Tara highlights her findings on the top predictors of long-term satisfaction—sexual communication, sexual esteem, and sexual mindfulness—and offers advice on bringing these into relationships. We also discuss her new lube line, “ ⁠Luv by Dr. Tara⁠ ,” and her tips for integrating micro and macro communication in intimate conversations. From the impact of inequities in oral sex and the importance of addressing them to funny experiences around poop play clients and why “dirty talk” is her specialty, Dr. Tara keeps it real. Join us as she discusses how a simple pro/con list can change perspectives in relationships and why we should prioritize equality, communication, and the right tools for a better sex life! A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa60⁠

Oct 31, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) sits down with MJ Fox, co-founder of Joyride ( @joyride.rave ) a sex-positive rave redefining inclusive nightlife in London. In this episode, MJ shares their journey into the sex-positive space and how Joyride was born, a rave known for its vibrant, safe atmosphere and all-queer staff and DJs. We dive into what attendees can expect when they walk into Joyride, including the two designated play spaces, the event's unique 4 PM to midnight schedule, and MJ's decision not to enter the playroom. MJ opens up about how Joyride creates a welcoming environment for the queer community and what their dream party would look like in the future. Plus, a look at the challenges and triumphs of building this one-of-a-kind rave.

Oct 24, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Karl, the founder of Klub Verboten , one of the most inclusive and progressive kink spaces in Europe. They delve into how the club was born, who can attend, and the rules that ensure everyone’s safety and comfort. Karl shares his hot takes on why straight cis men tend to stay away and how he learned to become a great lover. We also discuss the importance of feedback from the community and how KV adapts to make the space even better for everyone. Karl opens up about dating within the kink scene and managing an entire community while being an introvert. From venue nightmares to why Klub Verboten doesn’t bring performers to their events, we talk about it all—including Karl’s experience using a fake online profile to better understand cis-het men. Plus, tips for anyone preparing to attend their first KV event and insights into why education and guardianship are crucial to keeping single women and all attendees safe.

Oct 17, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Leanne Yau ( @polyphiliablog ), who shares her journey from growing up in Hong Kong to leaving a law career behind to become a full-time content creator focusing on non-monogamy. They discuss what it's like getting recognized at sex parties, balancing a large online platform, and how being neurodivergent shapes Leanne's life and work. Leanne opens up about her current relationship structure, her shift from orgasm-driven sex to scheduling time for pleasure, and her thoughts on whether non-monogamy is more challenging for men. They also dive into successful de-escalations as an alternative to breaking up and why sex, for both Leanne and Alexa, is totally a hobby! Check out Leanne and Zachary Zane's workshop on Bisexuality and Non-Monogamy on Nov 10th here !

Oct 10, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by sex educator and non-monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett ( @polyampoppy ). In this candid episode, we dive into what we got up to in Barcelona, Poppy's journey through sex chat rooms, and her experiences as an emo kid. Poppy opens up about her sexual awakening, being slut-shamed for the first time at 15, and the creative ways she used to get off as a teen—think stuffed animals, electric toothbrushes, and even a vending machine plastic vibrator!We also discuss her first trip to Ann Summers, how she incorporates sex toys with her partners, and whether she’s team frill or team flat (let us know which one you belong to!). We explore genital confidence, her queer awakening, and her polyamorous journey while being in a relationship of 11 years. Poppy shares her experiences with OnlyFans and embraces the term "greedy" because she wants it all and does it all. Plus, we rate our preferences between fingering, oral, and penetration in a fun and honest exchange.

Sep 25, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Lily, co-founder of @quench_london , a unique queer party that centers people who are queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled, and of all sizes. In this episode, we talk about who can attend Quench, what to expect when you walk through the doors, where you're allowed to play, and how they prioritize safety and inclusivity for everyone. Lily also shares Quench's journey, their dream venue and theme nights, and some unforgettable moments in the party’s history.

Sep 19, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( ⁠@sexwithalexa⁠ ) is joined by Cydney ( ⁠@cydneythelight⁠ ) in this episode where they dive deep into postpartum body insecurities, bisexuality, and dating. Cydney opens up about her journey from being confident in her body before giving birth to hiding her body for 8 years after having her son at 19. They also discuss how her mom raised a confident daughter, but the lack of representation for stretch marks and postpartum bodies took a toll. Cydney talks about her bisexual awakening, what dating women is like compared to men, and how intimacy and sex differ. From insecurity to acceptance, Cydney shares her inspiring story of body positivity and love.

Sep 12, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Emma Richardson-Gerrard, CEO and founder of Knude Society , for a deep dive into her upbringing in the UK, where sex education was lacking, and how she’s changing that with her own daughter. Emma shares her story about her first boyfriend gifting her a vibrator, but never achieving an orgasm with him, and how she now advocates for introducing toys in the bedroom. We talk about the best ways and places to have these conversations, how to receive feedback, and how parents can create a safe space for their kids to ask questions. Emma also opens up about starting her company, the challenges she’s faced, and the exciting new toys she’s released – The Wanda and The Bette.

Sep 5, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by content creator Taiwo ( King TM ) for a candid conversation about sex education in the UK and his first masturbation experience. We explore how growing up with a single mom gave him the freedom to explore, and why he made a pact not to have sex until he was 16. Taiwo shares how he learned to be a good lover by asking his partners for feedback, tells us the dynamics of low-effort vs. high-effort first dates, and dives into why men often enjoy the chase and respect these women more. We also tackle topics like penis size insecurities, cheating, and more.

Aug 29, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Hani Dresner, founder of @gashtrays , a unique ceramics line focused on sex education. We dive into Hani’s upbringing in a naked household, how it shaped her body image journey, and what it was like growing up as the "weird kid" in school. Our conversation explores why sex education is so important, society’s obsession with big penises, the fascinating world of play parties, and the need for greater acceptance of genital diversity. Tune in for a deep, insightful chat that challenges norms and celebrates individuality.

Aug 22, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by a very special guest—her sister! In this episode, they dive into everything from their easy orgasms and first boyfriends to their Catholic upbringing and how it impacted their body image and relationship with femininity. They share stories of sexual exploration as teens, their journeys with masturbation, and tips on how to ask for what you want in bed—especially when one of them is a pro at it despite their shared upbringing. The conversation also covers the difference between being vanilla and having a routine that works, the challenges and rewards of growing as a couple, and the balance between accepting your partner as they are versus trying to change them. Plus, they discuss what it's like to have Alexa as a sister, figuring out bisexuality while in a straight relationship, the quirks of dating a boyfriend without a sense of smell, and tips for making long-distance relationships work.

Aug 15, 2024

Kicking off Season 3! Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Jessica Stahl ( @vanillacooldance ), a sex-positive cartoonist and creative director. We dive into Jessica's mfm fantasy, her experience growing up in an open household, and how her mom gifting her her first vibrator shaped her advocacy for pleasure. Jessica shares her journey from anger at men to a place of curiosity, her experiences with toys and partners, overcoming dry spells, and the culture shocks she’s faced since moving to Amsterdam. Plus, we get into the highs and lows of sex parties!

Aug 8, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Tara Michaela , a sex educator and founder of the Youth Sexpert Program . We dive deep into body image, sharing our personal experiences and discussing the importance of sensate focus and overcoming spectatoring. Tara offers insights on changing up your masturbation technique, the benefits of doing so, and why it's totally okay if you prefer sticking to the same routine. We also discuss her work in sex education, and wrap up with a candid conversation about men who boast about eating pussy but don’t deliver when it matters.

Aug 1, 2024

Sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Rachel Wright , a therapist, sex therapist, educator, and non-monogamy expert. We dive into the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice and her 4-step process for better communication with your partner. Rachel shares her unique journey as a pregnant woman with another pregnant wife, discussing body changes, hiring a doula, and fulfilling people's desire to have sex with a pregnant person. We also cover how to ask for reassurance, cope with a partner's past cheating, and get along with an ex. Plus, a special update: baby Logan has been born since we recorded the episode and is a happy, healthy baby!

Jul 26, 2024

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Goddess Bats , a versatile and empowering sex worker. We dive into their journey, starting with camming at 18 and transitioning to various facets of sex work, including findom. We uncover the realities behind porn productions, like where the lube bottles are and how performer collaborations actually work. Goddess Bats shares their queerness journey, being demisexual as a sex worker, and how they navigate it all. We also discuss our takes on consent, providing valuable insights into this crucial aspect of the industry.

Jul 19, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Sarah Casper from @comprehensiveconsent , author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum , and consent educator. We dive deep into the concept of consent, exploring its different types and how to ask for it. Sarah explains why consent doesn't necessarily have to be sexy but should always be asked for anyway. We also tackle some gray area situations, such as both people being equally drunk, whether you should ask for consent every single time in a long-term relationship, and how power dynamics like a big age gap can affect consent. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and practice consent more effectively.

Jul 11, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Violet, an extremely lesbian-leaning bisexual and founder of Mesh , a queer event app in NYC. We dive into the world of queer dating, discussing how to pick up women (or non-cis men), how to approach, what to say, and where to go. Violet shares her insights on figuring out if someone is queer, handling rejection, and the differences between picking people up in real life versus on dating apps. Whether you're new to the queer dating scene or looking to refine your skills, this episode is packed with valuable advice and tips.

Jul 3, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Maybe Burke, a trans woman, artist and educator for an open and heartfelt conversation. We discuss her sexuality, orientation, identity, and expression journeys, and delve into her dating stories. Maybe shares how she stays safe as a trans woman and the unique challenges she faces. We also talk about the fact that she has never been in love, her thoughts on relationships, and some of her personal kinks. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions about sexual assault and consent violations.

Jun 20, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) hosts her first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast , besties and lovers. We dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting our experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and I first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. We provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for what you want. Vee and Elle also talk about the vibrant non-monogamous community they have built together. Tune in for an open and enlightening conversation about pleasure, connection, and community in the world of ENM.

Jun 12, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Yair Lenchner, a private chef and husband to two pregnant wives (11 weeks apart), one of whom is sex therapist Rachel Wright. Yair shares his incredible journey from being a serial monogamist and cheater to embracing life as an open, polyamorous partner. We discuss how they’re navigating the pregnancies, what they plan to explain to their children, and Yair’s advice for those who have cheated or are new to non-monogamy (he’s now taking coaching clients). We also delve into what dating a chef is really like, the valuable lessons he’s learned from his sex therapist wife, and how they manage finances in their polyamorous household. Additionally, we discuss his therapy journey and the importance of seeking professional help. This episode offers a deep dive into the complexities and joys of polyamorous life, parenting, personal growth, and the crucial role of therapy in navigating it all. You can email him at yairlenchner@gmail.com for his coaching services! @chefyairlenchner on IG.

Jun 5, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Cassie Black ( @safe.slut ), a sex educator, herpes advocate, and adult entertainer. We dive deep into the world of herpes, discussing whether your sex life is over after a diagnosis or if you can still be a safe and empowered slut. Cassie shares her personal story of discovering she had herpes, the stigma surrounding it, and the common misbeliefs and myths that need busting. We also tackle the important topic of disclosure, exploring if and when you should always disclose and the best ways to do so. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand herpes better and break free from the stigma.

May 24, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Cory Bush , a non-binary full spectrum doula and sex educator. In this episode, we explore the profound role of a full spectrum doula and the magical aspects of birth, challenging the notion that childbirth must be traumatic. Cory shares insights on why opt-out consent can be beneficial for neurodivergent individuals, and opens up about their non-monogamous and queer journey. We also discuss how coming off birth control has transformed Cory's life, providing a deeper understanding of body autonomy and self-discovery. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, inclusivity, and the diverse experiences that shape our sexual and reproductive lives.

May 16, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Portia Brown , a renowned sex coach and educator, for a candid discussion on the importance of vocalizing pleasure in the bedroom. Together, we explore techniques for performing during sex, advocating for your pleasure, and giving and receiving feedback to enhance intimacy and satisfaction. Join us as we delve into why silent sex can be a turn-off and how to get better at making noise in the bedroom for a more fulfilling sexual experience. Portia opens up about her upbringing and queerness journey, highlighting the transformative power of radical honesty in relationships. We also emphasize the significance of self-pleasure and exploration regardless of relationship status, emphasizing the importance of owning your sexuality and desires.

May 9, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by the incredible Megan, known as @msgigggles , a fierce fat activist and self-proclaimed hottest whale in the ocean. Together, we embark on a journey of empowerment, discussing the nuances of reclaiming the word "fat" and challenging societal beauty standards. Megan fearlessly dives into the harsh reality of the fashion industry's lack of space for plus-sized individuals and offers invaluable insights on what slim people can do to support inclusivity. We explore the complexities of body confidence and share tips on how to become more self-assured in a world that often dictates beauty standards. But our conversation doesn't stop there! We delve into topics of queerness, the importance of being a supportive "girl's girl," and our mutual love for lingerie as a form of self-expression and empowerment.

May 3, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Billy Procida , the host of The Manwhore Podcast and a seasoned comedian. In this revealing conversation, Billy opens up about his journey from growing up without sexual shame to becoming a figure in the world of sex positivity and comedy. We delve into other chapters of Billy's past, from enduring bullying up until graduating high school to struggling to escalate casual relationships despite his active sex life. Billy shares candid anecdotes about setting up a gloryhole during the COVID-19 pandemic following NYC's sexual health directives, shedding light on the unexpected twists life can throw our way. Billy takes us on a humorous ride through his days of webcam work for money, his transition to OnlyFans, and his experiences hosting his own naked comedy show. We also explore Billy's evolving relationship with his body and its impact on his sex life.

Apr 27, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Maxwell Fierce , a non-binary rope rigger, educator, performer, and tattoo artist, for a deep dive into the world of Shibari. Maxwell brings their wealth of experience to the table as we explore Shibari from every angle. We delve into the nitty-gritty of rope play, discussing how it serves as more than just a kink, but a pathway to self-expression and body confidence. From the intricacies of finding a trustworthy top to the risks involved in rope play, we leave no stone unturned. But our conversation goes beyond the technicalities as we ponder the profound impact of Shibari on personal growth and liberation. Max shares insightful anecdotes on how Shibari can unlock hidden desires and help individuals embrace their true selves. As an added treat, Maxwell throws in some playful tips on discovering your "porn name." Go watch the YouTube video for extra footage and a little rope demo!

Apr 17, 2024

Welcome to Season 2 of "In Bed With Alexa"! In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Dr. Varuna , a distinguished sexual health expert and Allure Magazine's sex columnist, as we delve deep into the realms of sexual discovery and self-acceptance. Dr. Varuna shares invaluable insights garnered from years of experience, covering a spectrum of topics. From the importance of finding community to navigating the challenges of growing up in a sex-negative culture, we explore the intricate journey of embracing one's identity, particularly in moments when you might not feel "bi enough." Together, we tackle questions about the dynamics of attending sex parties, whether it's okay to simply watch (honorable mention to Venus Cuffs), and the evolving landscape of body hair acceptance. We'll even dive into the realm of TikTok trends and their impact on modern sexual discourse. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Varuna emphasizes the significance of advocating for your pleasure and if you need orgasms for truly fulfilling sexual experiences.

Apr 4, 2024

Welcome to a bonus solo episode of "In Bed With Alexa"! Today, I'm spilling all the juicy details from my recent swingers cruise adventure. I'm dishing on everyone I played with, from the 25 year old gorgeous bi woman to the oldest person I have played with. I'll give you the lowdown on the vibe of the ship, the activities that kept me entertained, and spill the tea on how easy (or not) it was to find people to swing with. We'll chat about the swinging hotspots onboard, dish on the pool parties where things really heated up, and I'll even sneak you into the playroom to see what went down behind closed doors. Check me out on ig.

Mar 29, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Mistress Shayla Lange , the owner of New York's largest female-owned dungeon, to delve into the intriguing world of BDSM and professional domination. In this episode, we explore the inner workings of these mysterious spaces. Shayla provides fascinating insights into what her dungeon looks like, what happens during sessions, and the diverse range of requests clients make. But that's not all – we dive deeper into the nuances of BDSM, discussing common times that dungeons are booked, as well as the ingenious use of mundane objects for inflicting pain. Shayla also sheds light on the taboo topic of water sports and offers invaluable advice for aspiring pro dommes. Tune in for a captivating conversation that demystifies BDSM, reveals the secrets of dungeon life, and provides practical tips for those looking to explore or enter the world of professional domination.

Mar 20, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Neil Mehta, CEO and Founder of Royal Intimacy , to delve into the intricacies of personal care and cultural influences.In this episode, we kick things off by discussing the paramount importance of high-quality ingredients in the products we use for intimacy and grooming. Neil sheds light on why it's crucial to be mindful of what we put on our bodies and shares insights from his expertise in the field.But the conversation doesn't stop there – we delve into deeper topics, such as navigating the unique experiences of growing up with Indian parents and the impact it has on our perceptions of intimacy. We also tackle tough questions, including whether individuals should lower their standards and how to gracefully handle rejection in relationships.And of course, we can't forget about the practical aspects of intimacy – Neil shares invaluable tips on staying aroused and maintaining pleasure while using condoms, ensuring that every moment of intimacy is enjoyable and fulfilling. Check out their products here !

Mar 12, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Tawny Lara , author of "Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze," for a candid conversation that challenges societal norms around alcohol and intimacy.In this episode, we explore the implications of alcohol on our sex lives and relationships, shedding light on who might benefit from rethinking their relationship with alcohol. Tawny shares invaluable insights on how to navigate dating and intimacy without relying on alcohol, whether you're single or in a committed partnership.Discover practical tips for approaching sober sex with confidence and learn how to foster deeper connections with your partner while staying alcohol-free. Tune in for an empowering discussion that proves you can still have amazing, fulfilling sex without the booze.Check out her new mocktail drink here! To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Feb 23, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Lola Jean , holder of the volume squirt world record, as we explore the fascinating world of squirting and beyond.In this episode, we leave no squirt unturned. Lola Jean shares her expertise on who can do it, how it happens, and how to react when someone else experiences it. We also delve into the two types of squirting, shedding light on this often misunderstood phenomenon.But that's not all – we also dive into the realm of BDSM and kink, discussing how to vet a good dom(me), empowering individuals to become one and her own personal experiences. Lola Jean dispels misconceptions surrounding being a brat and shares insights into her famous event, Cirque du Squirt.

Feb 16, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Kenneth Play , author of "Beyond Satisfied," as we delve into the intricacies of sexual confidence and resilience. Once insecure about his penis size, he now helps other discover the secrets to becoming a better lover, including the often-overrated art of squirting (and yes, we even demonstrate the position—clothed, of course!). Plus, learn how to ask for consent, navigate the inevitable bumps on the road to intimacy, including how to get better at handling rejection. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Feb 9, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by the enchanting Sophie Saint Thomas , author of "Reproductive Rites: The Real-Life Witches and Witch-Hunts in the Centuries-Long Fight for Abortion Access." In this captivating episode, we delve into the mystical world of witchcraft and its empowering influence on self-confidence. Sophie shares her journey of embracing a child-free lifestyle and finding liberation in her identity as a writer. Tune in for a spellbinding conversation that celebrates individuality, creativity, and the magic of embracing your true self. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Feb 2, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Gabrielle Alexa , non monogamy educator and author of "How to Live With the Internet and Not Let it Run Your Life," joins us for a candid exploration of modern love and relationships. We delve into the intricacies of getting along with your partner's partners (metamours), shedding light on the dynamics of polyamory vs swinging, the complexities of unicorn hunting, and the reality of navigating breakups in non-monogamous dynamics. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Jan 26, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by the renowned urologist, Dr. Jed Kaminetsky . We kick things off with an in-depth look at vasectomies, uncovering the facts and dispelling myths around this common procedure. Dive into the nitty-gritty of hormone health as we explore natural methods to naturally optimize testosterone levels and discuss a revolutionary, no-medication approach to treating ED. Dr. Kaminetsky and I also turn our attention to the often overlooked realm of pelvic and prostate health. For the unedited version of the podcast (and to support me) join my patreon!

Jan 19, 2024

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by the badass Michelle Hy ( @polyamorouswhileasian ). We're flipping the script and tearing down the walls on polyamory, giving the middle finger to veto power, and diving into the gritty details of navigating relationships in our own damn way. Get ready for a wild ride as we slam the door on traditional norms and kick it open to the world of wholesome sex parties. Yeah, you read that right. So, if you're ready to break free from the chains of conventional love, join us for a no-holds-barred discussion that's as edgy as it is enlightening. To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Dec 31, 2023

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined once more by the fabulous Zachary Zane , we're diving deep into these taboo topics with humor, honesty, and a whole lot of sass. From breaking down bisexual stereotypes to exploring the dynamics of throat-fucing, expert anal tips and navigating the complexities of unprotected sex, this episode is a rollercoaster of exploration and revelation. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting "In Bed With Alexa." Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't!Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2350-alexa To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Dec 22, 2023

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ) is joined by Zachary Zane , sex columnist and author of Boyslut: a Memoir and Manifesto. Zach and I spill the tea and take you behind the scenes of our wild adventure at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica —expect all the fun, frolics, and a few surprises! Join the laughter as we dish on everything we got up to, and share our thoughts on who these spaces are perfect for (or maybe not so much). Discover why being surrounded by an amazing community of bisexual folks made this experience so unforgettable. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting "In Bed With Alexa." Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't!Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2350-alexa To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!

Dec 16, 2023

Welcome to the inaugural episode of "In Bed With Alexa," where I, your host Alexa Andre ( @sexwithalexa ), open up about my personal journey with sexuality. From the realization of being bisexual to coming out and navigating the uncharted waters of non-monogamy, I share the intimate details of my exploration. Join me as I candidly discuss my path of self-discovery, including my relationship with masturbation. In this episode, I'll also unveil the essence of the podcast— a space where we unravel the complexities of sexuality, dating, non-monogamy, and effective communication. My goal is simple yet profound: to inspire you to challenge the beliefs you grew up with and consciously design the sex life of your dreams. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/pd2350-alexa To watch the unedited version and read all about my dating life, consider joining my Patreon!