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4d ago

In this episode of the Fighting Matters podcast, hosts Steve Kwan, Mike Mahaffey, and Jesse Walker confront the relentless bullying and scapegoating of transgender athletes, especially within combat sports. They unpack how bad-faith arguments, misinformation, and moral panic have turned a tiny minority into a political and cultural punching bag, and discuss what gym owners, coaches, and training partners can do to create safer, more inclusive spaces. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • Fighting Matters Linktree — https://linktree.com/fightingmatters • BJJ Mental Models (Steve Kwan) — https://bjjmentalmodels.com • Old Bastard BJJ (Mike Mahaffey) — https://instagram.com/oldbastardbjj • Rough Hands BJJ (Jesse Walker) — https://roughhandsbjj.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring (Hosts): • Steve Kwan — @bjjmentalmodels • Mike Mahaffey — @oldbastardbjj • Jesse Walker — @roughhandsbjj ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • How trans athletes became a political and cultural scapegoat • Bullying vs. good-faith discussion around sports and fairness • Why hate movements target small, vulnerable groups • Misogyny, fear, and propaganda in combat sports culture • What gym owners can do to make their spaces safer and inclusive ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 — Why trans athletes are being targeted 03:30 — Scapegoating and bad-faith arguments 07:45 — Why this problem must be addressed by gym culture 13:10 — Sports, fairness, and fabricated moral panics 21:00 — Propaganda, fear, and political exploitation 42:30 — What coaches and gyms can do differently 54:10 — Final thoughts on dignity, accountability, and inclusion

Dec 13

The Fighting Matters crew is joined by Shaun Benson from The Boys to talk about about the show and how it relates to the state of the world right now. Along the way we explore the blurring of lines between credible information and disinformation, the rise of Fascism, and the real bad guy responsible for evil in both The Boys and the real world. Follow Shaun on Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@shaunybenso and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/shaunmbenson/

Dec 3

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan and Jesse Walker talk with writer Adrian Nathan West about his New York Times piece on Craig Jones, exploring how trolling, politics, and culture collide in modern Jiu-Jitsu. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • The NYT Article — https://nyti.ms/3Y1N6oz • Nate West’s Website — https://anathanwest.com • The Baffler — https://thebaffler.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — https://bjjmentalmodels.com Jesse Walker — https://roughhandsbjj.com Adrian Nathan West — https://anathanwest.com ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • Why Craig Jones is a uniquely effective internet troll • Gordon Ryan’s influence on young grapplers • How Jiu-Jitsu intersects with politics • The importance of fact-checking in modern media • The future of independent journalism • Whether trolling can actually shift culture in BJJ ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 — Welcome & Introductions 02:00 — How the NYT Article Came Together 06:30 — Craig Jones’ Online Persona 12:45 — Gordon Ryan’s Political Influence 18:00 — Why Athletes Shape Public Opinion 25:10 — Left, Right, and Populism in BJJ 32:00 — Fact-Checking for the NYT 38:30 — The Rise of Independent Media 45:20 — AI’s Impact on Journalism 53:00 — Should We All Be Trolls? 57:20 — Where to Find Nate’s Work

Nov 27

In this episode of the Fighting Matters podcast, hosts Steve Kwan, Stephan Kesting, and Jesse Walker break down how bad BJJ coaches trap students with rank. They explore how belt pressure becomes a tool for fear and control, why some gyms drift into cult-like behavior, and how to spot red flags before you get stuck. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • Grapplearts Black Friday Sale — https://www.grapplearts.com • BJJ Mental Models Premium — https://bjjmentalmodels.com • Rough Hands BJJ — https://roughhandsbjj.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — @bjjmentalmodels Stephan Kesting — @StephanKesting Jesse Walker — @roughhandsbjj ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • How bad coaches use rank as leverage • Why students feel trapped in toxic gyms • How cult dynamics show up in BJJ • When to leave and how to stay safe • Why character matters more than belts ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Intro 02:10 Why rank becomes a trap 10:45 When coaches cross the line 22:30 Cult signs inside BJJ gyms 35:40 How to get out safely 47:20 Why character matters most 59:00 Final thoughts and deals

Nov 19

In this episode of the Fighting Matters podcast, hosts Steve Kwan, Mike Mahaffey, and Jesse Walker talk about the recent political shift of Marjorie Taylor Greene (MTG) and her public apology regarding her past rhetoric and actions. They explore the implications of her apology, the need for accountability, and the potential for redemption in politics. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • Fighting Matters Linktree — https://linktree.com/fightingmatters • Fighting Matters Food Drive (direct link) — https://teamfeed.feedingamerica.org/teams/7625 • Fighting Matters Substack — https://fightingmatters.substack.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — https://bjjmentalmodels.com Mike Mahaffey — http://oldbastardbjj.com Jesse Walker — https://roughhandsbjj.com ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • Marjorie Taylor Greene's recent apology is a rare moment in politics. • The need for accountability and consequences for past actions is crucial. • Creating off-ramps for defectors from harmful ideologies is important. • Empathy and understanding can help bridge political divides. • Misinformation plays a significant role in shaping beliefs and actions. • The rise of extremism poses a serious threat to political discourse. • Finding common ground is essential for moving forward. • Public apologies can pave the way for political redemption. • The importance of community initiatives in addressing social issues. • Engaging in face-to-face conversations can foster understanding. ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Light Banter 01:24 Marjorie Taylor Greene's Political Shift 06:15 The Complexity of Apologies in Politics 10:01 Navigating Human Rights and Political Accountability 17:01 The Role of Redemption in Politics 20:58 Consequences and the Future of Political Figures 28:04 The Need for a Reckoning in Politics 35:14 Navigating Extremism and Hate Groups 37:51 The Dangers of Normalizing Hate 39:22 The Complexity of Redemption 41:30 Assessing Paths to Redemption 44:34 Creating Off-Ramps for Extremists 48:42 The Political Landscape Shift 53:16 Finding Common Ground 01:01:28 Community Action and Food Drives

Nov 7

MMA analyst Luke Thomas joins the Fighting Matters crew to discuss fixing fights in the UFC in particular, and MMA in general. We look at which specific type of fighter is being targeted, who might be behind it, and the role of the FBI in investigating the UFC. More Luke Thomas MMA analysis on his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/lukethomas Luke Thomas gets political: https://www.youtube.com/@LukeThomasGetsPolitical Follow Luke Thomas on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukethomasnews Luke Thomas on Substack: https://lthomas.substack.com/

Nov 2

In this episode, Steve Kwan, Jeff Shaw, and Jesse Walker break down how the ongoing SNAP and ACA shutdown could devastate working-class Americans, and why Jiu-Jitsu gyms will be hit especially hard. They unpack how food assistance and healthcare subsidies keep communities afloat, why cutting them is both illegal and economically disastrous, and how martial artists can take action through solidarity, food drives, and conscious spending. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • Fighting Matters Food Drive — https://teamfeed.feedingamerica.org/teams/7625 • Fighting Matters Substack — https://fightingmatters.substack.com • BJJ Mental Models — https://bjjmentalmodels.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — https://bjjmentalmodels.com Jeff Shaw — https://bellinghambjj.com Jesse Walker — https://roughhandsbjj.com ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • What the SNAP shutdown really means for Americans • How ACA cuts raise healthcare costs for everyone • The ripple effect on gyms and small businesses • SNAP’s economic multiplier and why it matters • Why “the cruelty is the point” in U.S. politics • Building community resilience through action ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:15 What SNAP Really Does 05:20 How Food Assistance Fuels the Economy 09:40 Why Jiu-Jitsu Gyms Will Feel the Pain 12:30 Launching the Fighting Matters Food Drive 18:10 Debunking SNAP Myths 24:30 The Affordable Care Act Fallout 28:40 Real Stories of Rising Premiums 33:10 Tax Cuts, Inequality, and Stagnation 40:00 Jiu-Jitsu Analogies for a Broken Economy 45:20 What Gym Owners Can Do 50:10 Voting With Your Wallet 52:00 Final Thoughts: Stay Strong as a Community

Oct 31

In this episode, Steve Kwan sits down with journalist Michael Colborne of Bellingcat to expose how far-right movements use aesthetics and martial arts culture to recruit young men. They discuss the origins of the “active club” network, the rise of far-right fashion and fitness subcultures, and how hate groups weaponize masculinity and community to spread extremism. Michael also shares how visual literacy can help parents, coaches, and martial artists identify warning signs and resist radicalization within their own gyms. 🔗 Links Mentioned: • Michael Colborne’s work — https://www.bellingcat.com/ ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — @BJJMentalModels Michael Colborne — https://colborne.bsky.social/ ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • How “active clubs” exploit MMA and gym culture • The far-right’s obsession with aesthetics and branding • Recognizing coded extremist symbols and fashion • How online propaganda turns into real-world violence • What parents and coaches can do to push back ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 03:00 What Are Active Clubs? 10:00 The Three F’s: Fashion, Fitness, Fighting 18:00 Symbols, Codes, and Far-Right Aesthetics 28:00 How Hate Groups Recruit 38:00 Warning Signs for Parents and Coaches 53:00 Countering Radicalization in Martial Arts 01:07:00 Humor, Awareness, and Pushing Back

Oct 22

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan sits down with UK political video essayist JimmyTheGiant and Truth Collective founder Chris Ingram to unpack how billionaire networks, social media algorithms, and post-truth politics are reshaping democracy across the globe. Links mentioned: • JimmyTheGiant on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyTheGiant • The Truth Collective — https://truthcollective.global • BJJ Mental Models — https://bjjmentalmodels.com ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan — @BJJMentalModels JimmyTheGiant — @JimmyTheGiant Chris Ingram — The Truth Collective ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • How online radicalization targets young men • The billionaire networks funding global disinformation • Project 2025 and the “post-truth” political era • The rise of rent-seeking capitalism and tech feudalism • Why social isolation fuels extremism • How independent media can fight back ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:00 Jimmy’s journey out of the alt-right pipeline 09:30 How billionaires weaponized media and politics 18:00 The global export of MAGA conservatism 30:00 Why fascism is resurging worldwide 43:00 The tech economy, AI, and rent-seeking capitalism 56:00 How misinformation thrives in the attention economy 1:10:00 Rebuilding truth through independent media 1:23:00 Closing thoughts and next steps

Oct 18

Oct 17

When gym leaders stay silent, people get hurt. In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan, Stephan Kesting, and Jesse Walker speak with guest Sonia Sillan of Combat Arts Academy about what happens when Jiu-Jitsu coaches fail to protect their students. Together, they unpack the culture of silence in martial arts, the myth of “mat enforcers,” and how real leadership means building safe spaces and speaking up when it matters most. Combat Arts Academy — https://caaseattle.com Sonia Sillan on Instagram — @combatartsacademy ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Hosts: Steve Kwan — @bjjmentalmodels Stephan Kesting — @stephankesting Jesse Walker — @roughhandsbjj Guest: Sonia Sillan — @combatartsacademy ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • Why coaches must speak up about abuse • The dangers of “mat enforcer” culture • How to teach emotional regulation on the mats • Creating a trauma-informed beginner program • Breaking silence and rebuilding trust in Jiu-Jitsu ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introductions & Gym Culture 04:20 Why Jiu-Jitsu Needs Beginner Programs 09:45 The Myth of Mat Enforcers 16:00 Emotional Regulation and Rolling Intensity 27:00 Speaking Up to Power 33:40 When Coaches Fail Their Students 36:45 Handling Abuse and Reporting It 44:00 How to Build Safe Gym Culture 53:00 Gaslighting and Victim Blaming in Jiu-Jitsu 1:10:00 Leadership, Integrity, and Doing What’s Right

Oct 6

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models), Jeff Shaw (Bellingham BJJ), and Mike Mahaffey (Old Bastard BJJ) sit down with journalist and Muay Thai fighter Karen Attiah. Karen was the founding editor of the Washington Post’s Global Opinions section and later a columnist covering race, gender, and culture. After 11 years at the Post, she was abruptly fired (by email) for “violating social media policy.” Her real offense? Speaking honestly about power, violence, and free speech in America. Together, the panel explores what Karen’s story reveals about censorship, media ownership, and how corporate media is collapsing under the weight of its own contradictions. They dig into the chilling effect on journalists, the influence of billionaires over public discourse, and the uneasy marriage between combat sports and authoritarian regimes. This is a conversation about free speech, courage, and what it means to fight inside and outside the ring. Support Karen @ The Golden Hour on Substack: https://karenattiah.substack.com/ ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Karen Attiah — Journalist @, The Golden Hour, author, Muay Thai silver medalist Jeff Shaw — @BellinghamBJJ Steve Kwan — @BJJMentalModels Mike Mahaffey — @OldBastardBJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics Discussed: • Why the Washington Post fired Karen Attiah • The death of free speech in corporate media • Saudi Arabia, sportswashing, and martial arts • How authoritarianism co-opts combat sports • Fighting as therapy, resistance, and truth-telling ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Karen Attiah 01:50 Karen's Journey in Journalism 04:15 The Impact of Social Media on Journalism 10:58 The Incident Leading to Termination 14:19 Free Speech and Its Implications 18:48 The Role of Media Ownership 24:03 The Legacy of Jamal Khashoggi 30:41 The Intersection of Combat Sports and Politics 36:09 The Double Standards in Free Speech 43:27 Lessons from Combat Sports 45:37 The Power of Wrestling in Storytelling 48:07 Wrestling and Politics: A Cultural Connection 51:56 Martial Arts: A Personal Journey 59:03 The Intersection of Martial Arts and Politics 01:06:01 Finding Strength in Community and Self-Awareness 01:12:02 The Future of Independent Media and Personal Agency

Oct 1

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models), Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ), and Stephan Kesting (Grapplearts) dive into the chaos of America’s accelerating news cycle. From Charlie Kirk’s assassination to Trump’s authoritarian rhetoric, from RFK Jr.’s war on science to the weaponization of “cancel culture,” the team unpacks why democracy feels like it’s collapsing in real time. Together, they explore how “flooding the zone” with scandals makes it impossible to process events, why speech and violence aren’t the same but are getting dangerously blurred, and how propaganda is rewriting history before our eyes. Along the way, they connect politics back to the martial arts community, asking whether it’s even possible to “keep politics out of Jiu-Jitsu” when the very freedoms that allow us to train are under threat. The takeaway: democracy doesn’t collapse in one big moment; it dies fast, in floods of outrage, distraction, and chaos. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Stephan Kesting — Grapplearts, Essential Wilderness Steve Kwan — BJJ Mental Models Jesse Walker — Rough Hands BJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • The “flood the zone” strategy and why chaos is the point • Charlie Kirk’s assassination and his canonization into a martyr • Trump’s public calls to prosecute political enemies • Stephen Miller’s funeral speech vs. Joseph Goebbels’ rhetoric • Speech vs. violence — where’s the real line? • Jimmy Kimmel, the FCC, and government-driven censorship • Free speech absolutism and its real limits • The weaponization of propaganda inside martial arts spaces ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Fighting Matters 01:02 Round Robin: The Week’s Most Insane News 06:43 Charlie Kirk’s Assassination & Fallout 15:20 Stephen Miller’s Speech vs. Nazi Parallels 20:14 Capitulation, Propaganda, and Corporate Cowardice 27:02 Speech vs. Violence: Where’s the Line? 33:45 Social Media, Disinformation, and Civil War Rhetoric 40:01 Free Speech Absolutism Debunked 47:35 The Charlie Kirk Memorial as Propaganda Theater 54:35 RFK Jr., Autism, and Attacks on Science 01:01:12 Polio, Vaccines, and the Return of Preventable Diseases 01:05:30 Cognitive Dissonance and the MAGA Movement 01:09:00 Closing Thoughts & Where to Find Us

Sep 23

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models) and Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ) welcome special guest Dr. Derek Jones. Derek is a BJJ black belt, innovation educator, and retired philosophy professor whose work bridges martial arts, culture, and political thought. Together, the team explores how memes evolved from internet jokes into one of the most powerful tools of propaganda in modern politics. From Richard Dawkins’ Selfish Gene to AI-driven meme floods, from the shifting Overton Window to the weaponization of humor, this conversation digs into how memes shape culture, spread extremism, and even destabilize democracy. Along the way, we discuss comedy as cover, the dangers of nihilism, and whether memes can still be reclaimed for good. The takeaway: memes aren’t harmless entertainment; they’re a frontline in the battle over culture, politics, and truth itself. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Derek Jones — BJJ black belt, social innovator, philosopher Steve Kwan — @BJJMentalModels Jesse Walker — Rough Hands BJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What memes really are: from Dawkins to digital culture • How memes spread faster than truth, and why they stick • The Overton Window and cultural manipulation • Comedy, plausible deniability, and “just joking” politics • AI meme factories and the flood of propaganda • The Joker, fascism, and the politics of nihilism • Can memes be used for good? ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Fighting Matters 01:01 Meet Derek Jones: Black Belt & Philosopher 03:15 What Is a Meme, Really? 07:13 How Memes Shape Personality and Culture 09:53 Why Anyone Can Now Create Viral Propaganda 14:10 AI and the Future of Meme Warfare 20:14 Memes, Overton Windows, and Shifting Norms 23:55 The Plausible Deniability of Sharing Memes 28:23 Comedy as Cover: From Pepe to Rogan 33:43 The Joker, Fascism, and Mocking the System 37:51 Memes as News and the COVID Meme Boom 41:36 Is Society Getting Dumber, or Just Faster? 46:49 Offloading Memory to AI: Help or Harm? 53:37 Wall-E vs. Terminator: The Real AI Dystopia 55:49 Human Responsibility in an Automated World 59:09 Can Memes Still Be Used for Good? 01:02:26 Levity, Connection, and Fighting Back with Humor 01:03:08 Closing Thoughts

Sep 17

Sep 11

In this special reaction episode of Fighting Matters , Jesse Walker and Mike Mahaffey respond to the shocking assassination of conservative influencer Charlie Kirk at a Utah event. While both hosts strongly condemn Kirk’s rhetoric as harmful and divisive, they emphasize that political violence is never the answer and only undermines progressive causes. They discuss the dangers of normalizing assassination as a political tool, the disproportionate fallout such acts will have on marginalized communities, and the urgent need to fight bad ideas with better ideas rather than bullets. Ultimately, they call for kindness, free speech, and a recommitment to democratic debate as the only sustainable way forward.

Sep 9

In this episode of Fighting Matters, hosts Stephan Kesting and Steve Kwan engage with Derek Beres, a health and science journalist and co-host of the Conspirituality podcast. They explore the role of RFK Jr and the Make America Healthy Again (MAHA) movement's role in promoting conspiracy thinking, inaccurate health narratives, and spreading of misinformation about vaccines. Stephan, Steve and Derek examine the historical roots of the anti-vax movement, the role of individualism in health conspiracies, and the influence of wellness culture on public health. They discuss the challenges of misinformation, the financial motivations behind health narratives, and the need for systemic change in health policy. 00:00 The Intersection of Conspiracy and Wellness Culture 06:04 The Deep Historical Roots of the Anti-Vax Movements 08:50 COVID Denialism and Its Roots 11:40 The Role of Individualism in Health Beliefs 14:47 How MAHA Has Dismantled Health Tracking Data 17:40 Data Integrity and COVID Death Counts 23:37 Why RFK's approach Is a Disaster for People Who Aren't Rich 26:42 The Profit Motive in Wellness 37:57 The Ethics of Supplement Marketing 41:34 The Dangers of Misinformation in Health 45:46 Contradictions in MAHA and MAGA Public Health Messaging 51:54 The Role of Personal Responsibility in Health 56:20 The Impact of Wellness Influencers 01:01:22 The Appeal of Common Sense Solutions 01:03:55 The Challenge of Misinformation Follow the Conspirituality Podcast on all channels or go to https://www.conspirituality.net Keep up with Derek's analyses of the situation at https://www.derekberes.com or at https://bsky.app/profile/derekberes.bsky.social

Sep 4

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Jeff Shaw (Bellingham BJJ) and Mike Mahaffey (Old Bastard BJJ) welcome special guest Jay O’Shea. Jay is a martial artist, scholar, and the author of Risk, Failure, Play: What Dance Reveals about Martial Arts Training. The team tackles one of the deepest questions in combat sports: what separates fighting from violence? From the role of consent in Jiu-Jitsu and self-defense, to the rise of fascist fight clubs and the political stakes of play, this conversation explores how martial arts can shape culture far beyond the mat. Along the way, we dig into injuries, toughness, the gift of fear, and why rules and etiquette matter more than we realize. The takeaway: martial arts aren’t just combat; they’re a practice of play, respect, and democracy. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Jay O’Shea — https://janetoshea.com/ Jeff Shaw — @JeffShawBJJ Mike Mahaffey — @OldBastardBJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Fighting vs. violence, and why consent makes the difference • The culture of saying “no” on the mats • Fear, denial, and the gift of fear in martial arts and politics • MMA’s fascism problem and the politics of combat sports • Martial arts as play: rules, etiquette, and respect • Why collective culture beats hyper-individual heroism ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Fighting Matters 01:09 Distinguishing Fighting from Violence 04:20 The Complexity of Consent in Martial Arts 09:41 Normalizing Consent in Training 12:39 The Role of Fear in Martial Arts and Life 20:04 Confronting Denial and Fear in Society 28:15 Fascism and MMA: A Growing Concern 30:20 The Complexity of Combat Sports and Society 33:37 The Rise of Oligarch Masculinity in Martial Arts 36:18 The Fairness of Competition in Sports 41:20 Play, Creativity, and Martial Arts 50:59 The Role of Martial Arts in Combating Authoritarianism

Aug 27

In this episode of Fighting Matters, we're joined by "Jane Doe," who expands on her recent allegations surrounding Adam Zugec and ZUMA Martial Arts in Victoria, BC. "Jane" recaps her story of training at ZUMA, her experiences with misconduct and boundary violations, why she decided to go public, and how that experience has impacted her. We discuss the importance of consent, power dynamics in martial arts, and how gym culture can either protect or endanger its members. We reached out to Mr. Zugec for comment but did not receive a response as of this episode’s publication. ⸻ Victoria Police investigate Zuma Martial Arts after complaints — Chek News: https://cheknews.ca/victoria-police-investigate-zuma-martial-arts-after-complaints-1268049/ Original Reddit post from "Jane": https://www.reddit.com/r/bjj/comments/1lxmz76/psa_women_athletes_should_not_train_at_zuma_it_is/ Contact "Jane" on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/Forsaken-Credit3963/ “We Deserve Safe Gyms” Open Letter: https://openletter.earth/we-deserve-safe-gyms-an-open-letter-on-sexual-harassment-at-zuma-combat-and-social-club-in-victoria-bc-e8f9fca7 ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Jane’s personal story and why she left ZUMA • Allegations of misconduct against Adam Zugec • Why “no” must always be respected on the mats • Cult-like power dynamics in martial arts communities • How gym owners can build a culture of consent and safety ⸻ ⚠️ Disclaimer: The experiences shared in this episode are our guest’s personal accounts and perspectives. They remain allegations. The individuals and organizations named are entitled to respond, and nothing in this discussion should be taken as a legal finding of guilt or liability. ✍️ Call to Action: We share these stories because we believe it’s in the public interest to discuss issues of safety and accountability in martial arts. If you or someone you know has been affected, please know you are not alone. Speak up, seek support, and help us build a martial arts community rooted in safety, respect, and accountability.

Aug 22

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models, Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ, and Mike Mahaffey of Old Bastard BJJ welcome special guest Eric Muntz to tackle one of the most self-destructive tendencies of the political left: the purity trap. We’ve talked plenty about the dangers of the far right, but tonight we turn the mirror on ourselves. Why do progressive movements so often collapse into circular firing squads, language policing, and purity tests that alienate allies and shrink coalitions? And how can we build the kind of durable, inclusive movements needed to actually fight back against authoritarianism? From South Park jokes and punk rock roots, to the paradox of control in Jiu-Jitsu and the paradox of tolerance in politics, this conversation draws surprising parallels between martial arts and activism. The takeaway: no coalition survives if everyone must already be perfect to join it. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Jesse Walker @RoughHandsBJJ Mike Mahaffey @OldBastardBJJ Eric Muntz ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What purity testing and circular firing squads look like on the left • The paradox of control in Jiu-Jitsu and politics • Why the right builds coalitions while the left splinters • Language policing, intent vs. words, and why it matters • How to assume good faith and give people room to grow • The risks of gatekeeping identity and belonging • Strategies for building stronger, more inclusive movements ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene 02:26 Addressing the Left's Challenges 03:01 Purity Testing and Circular Firing Squads 07:41 The Paradox of Control in Movements 10:58 Language and Intent in Political Discourse 19:24 Finding Common Ground and Moving Forward 24:15 Respecting Identity and Pronouns 27:16 Freedom of Expression and Identity 29:22 Language and Its Impact on Identity 31:29 Advocacy and Consent 33:58 Navigating Identity and Representation 38:10 Purity Tests and Identity 42:49 Criticism from Within the Community 50:00 Language as an Obstacle to Progress 50:59 The Challenge of Political Unity 53:50 Bridging the Divide: Empathy in Politics 59:05 Navigating Flawed Leadership 01:01:58 The Stakes of Political Compromise 01:04:42 Closing Thoughts and Reflections

Aug 12

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models is joined by Stephan Kesting, Mike Mahaffey, and former FBI special agent Mike German to uncover the truth about “Active Clubs” — far-right extremist fight clubs infiltrating martial arts. Mike German spent 16 years as an FBI undercover agent, including operations against neo-Nazi and militia groups. He explains how white supremacist networks operate, how they infiltrate sports like BJJ and MMA, and what the martial arts community can do to push back. From FBI counterterrorism policy to the role of coaches in preventing radicalization, this is a candid, high-stakes conversation about one of the most dangerous threats facing combat sports today. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Stephan Kesting @grapplearts Mike Mahaffey @OldBastardBJJ Mike German — Author, Policing White Supremacy ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What “Active Clubs” are and why they matter • How white supremacists use martial arts for recruitment • The FBI’s approach to investigating extremist networks • Why far-right infiltration is a growing threat in BJJ and MMA • Practical steps coaches and gym owners can take to keep hate out of their schools ⸻ 📚 Resources & Links: • Mike German’s book, Policing White Supremacy: https://thenewpress.org/books/policing-white-supremacy/ • Brennan Center for Justice: https://www.brennancenter.org/ • BJJ Mental Models: https://bjjmentalmodels.com • Fighting Matters podcast archive: https://linktree.com/fightingmatters ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 02:31 Understanding the Rise of Far-Right Extremism 06:33 The Historical Context of White Supremacy 11:00 The Role of Authority in Normalizing Extremism 13:16 The Impact of Political Rhetoric on Extremism 16:14 Law Enforcement's Response to White Supremacy 20:54 The Pervasiveness of White Supremacy in Law Enforcement 24:25 The Modern Face of White Supremacy 28:11 Free Speech vs. Hate Speech 41:44 Combating Hate and Supporting Vulnerable Communities 45:56 Understanding the Organization of White Supremacist Groups 51:03 The Role of the Internet in Extremism 56:41 Law Enforcement and Political Will 01:01:52 The Paradox of Tolerance in Communities 01:05:17 Effective Strategies Against White Supremacy 01:11:59 Reclaiming Masculinity and Community Space

Aug 8

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models and Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ are joined by wrestling historian David Wolf to unpack how Donald Trump turned American politics into a pro wrestling storyline. From Trump’s long history with Vince McMahon and WWE, to the political weaponization of kayfabe, we dig into how the tactics of the squared circle, like manufactured rivalries, inflated numbers, and outrageous storylines, became the blueprint for his rise. We also explore the deep parallels between wrestling promotions and political campaigns, how “alternative facts” mirror scripted outcomes, and why the UFC’s current culture war isn’t far removed from WWE’s most controversial angles. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Jesse Walker @RoughHandsBJJ David Wolf ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • How Trump’s WWE career shaped his political persona • The carny roots of pro wrestling and the art of the “work” • Why politics may be more scripted than wrestling • The role of kayfabe in manufacturing enemies and controlling narratives • WWE’s history of exploiting controversy for attention • Sportwashing: how regimes use combat sports to launder their image • Why UFC’s embrace of MAGA mirrors WWE’s heel/face booking • What Trump’s obsession with ratings tells us about his decision-making ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 The Relevance of Professional Wrestling Today 02:29 The Evolution of Professional Wrestling 06:57 The Politics of Wrestling and Real Life 11:06 The Montreal Screwjob: A Case Study in Politics 15:37 Donald Trump: A Product of Wrestling Culture 19:58 The Performance of Politics and Wrestling 25:28 Sport Washing and the Role of Combat Sports 29:19 Wrestling's Controversial Storylines and Their Impact 37:11 The Disgust with Age and Politics in Wrestling 38:00 Creative Descent in WWE: The Triple H Era 39:29 The Evolution of Wrestling: From Morality Plays to Audience Participation 40:50 The Political Leanings of Wrestling Audiences 42:01 The Shift in Women's Representation in Wrestling 43:17 The Changing Dynamics of Wrestling Fans 45:40 The Role of Storytelling in Wrestling and Politics 46:10 The Schizophrenic Nature of WWE's Leadership 47:40 The Contradictions of WWE's Political Stance 49:02 Kayfabe in Politics: The Performative Nature of Governance 50:53 The Wild Card: Donald Trump in Politics and Wrestling 52:31 CM Punk: A Political Wrestling Narrative 58:36 The Depravity of WWE's Business Decisions 01:00:56 The Need for a Heel: Cultural Reflections in Politics 01:04:47 The Reflection of Society in Professional Wrestling

Jul 31

The Fighting Matters crew gathers to discuss how Russian martial arts, such as Systema and Sambo, have been linked to far-right ideology and are being used by Russia as a tool for propaganda, recruitment, and spreading disinformation in foreign countries, including the US. We also discuss the evolving Trump-Epstein situation, right-wing ideologies in Hollywood, and how to curate the culture of your club to avoid it becoming a fascist hotbed. Thanks to Steve Koepfer from New York Combat Sambo (https://www.instagram.com/sambosteve/) for joining us today!

Jul 23

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models and Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ confront one of the most urgent challenges in martial arts today: the normalization of extremist rhetoric, abuse, and unethical behavior within the community. From Derek Moneyberg’s questionable black belt promotion by Jake Shields, to the broader cultural rot represented by figures like Jeffrey Epstein and their enablers, we dig into how bad actors gain power, and why silence enables them. We also tackle the rising presence of neo-Nazi recruitment in martial arts spaces, why UFC’s tolerance of far-right behavior sets a dangerous precedent, and how the Jiu-Jitsu community is at risk of losing its soul if we don’t act. This conversation isn’t about clout, belts, or beef; it’s about what happens when a sport built on respect and discipline turns a blind eye to hate and abuse. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Jesse Walker @RoughHandsBJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why Derek Moneyberg’s black belt isn’t just a belt, it’s a red flag • Jake Shields’ slide into far-right extremism and what it means for Jiu-Jitsu • The danger of giving platforms to bigots, grifters, and abusers • What the Epstein case teaches us about power, silence, and complicity • How neo-Nazis are using martial arts as a recruitment tool, and how to fight back • Why “it’s not my problem” is the worst excuse you can make • What gym owners, instructors, and students must do now ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Gym Updates 01:52 Derek Moneyberg's Controversial Black Belt Promotion 06:09 Ethics of Black Belt Promotions 16:24 Debate on Normalizing Hate in Society 17:16 The Jubilee Debate Incident 30:58 The Impact of Extremism in Combat Sports 34:10 The Growing Problem of Extremism in Martial Arts 39:06 The Responsibility of Gym Owners and Instructors 44:17 The Challenges of Leaving Toxic Environments 49:04 Abuse of Power and the Fight for Justice 53:51 The Importance of Protecting Vulnerable Voices 01:00:01 Taking a Stand Against Normalization of Abuse

Jul 14

Stephan Kesting and Jeff Shaw are joined by Tyson LaRone (the "Warrior Philosopher" from TikTok) to look at the rise of fascism in modern times. Tyson shares his insights on the characteristics of fascist regimes, drawing parallels between historical figures like Mussolini and contemporary political leaders. We also explore the role of social media in shaping political discourse and whether it's possible to engage in meaningful dialogue in a polarized world. Tune in for a deep dive into the intersection of politics, social commentary, and martial arts. Check out the audio-only version of Fighting Matters on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fighting-matters/id1808797073) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/3vfCZvqKUeh0MTrPI9tCU0) Check out Tyson Larone on Tiktok (https://www.tiktok.com/@thewarriorphilosopher) and/or train with him at https://ironsidemartialarts.ca/

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In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models and Jeff Shaw of Bellingham BJJ uncover the forgotten history of Jiu-Jitsu in America, and how none other than President Theodore Roosevelt played a pivotal role in its rise. Between 1900 and 1906, Roosevelt brought Jiu-Jitsu into the White House, trained with Japanese masters, and helped spark a nationwide media craze that once made Jiu-Jitsu a household name. But the movement was derailed by xenophobia, racism, and short-sighted politics, costing the U.S. what could have been a century-long head start in martial arts. This conversation explores what Roosevelt’s story tells us about inclusion, politics, and what Jiu-Jitsu might have become if America had embraced its potential. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Jeff Shaw @BellinghamBJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • How Roosevelt’s training popularized Jiu-Jitsu in early 1900s America • Why his support nearly created a U.S. black belt generation a century early • The role of xenophobia in driving Yamashita out of the country • How women like Fude Yamashita and Misawa Soga shaped early Jiu-Jitsu • Why the art was more inclusive in 1905 than it often is today • What the media got right (and wrong) about Jiu-Jitsu at the time • The forgotten roots of Jiu-Jitsu as a progressive political tool • What Roosevelt’s vision can teach today’s Jiu-Jitsu leaders • How exclusion and short-term thinking still threaten the sport’s future • The myth of “keeping politics out” of martial arts ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Jiu-Jitsu History 02:47 The Role of Media in Jiu-Jitsu's Evolution 06:06 The Impact of Theodore Roosevelt on Jiu-Jitsu 08:51 The Confusion Between Judo and Jiu-Jitsu 11:50 The Arrival of Judo in America 15:04 Yamashita's Influence and the Military Connection 17:59 The Political Landscape and Jiu-Jitsu's Growth 20:54 The Consequences of Racism and Nativism 23:55 The Hypothetical Impact of a Strong Jiu-Jitsu Presence 26:43 Politics and Jiu-Jitsu's Historical Context 30:58 The Politics of Jiu Jitsu 34:15 Challenging Gender Norms in Jiu Jitsu 36:34 Historical Contributions of Women in Jiu Jitsu 46:16 The Evolution of Jiu Jitsu Training 58:27 Lessons from History for the Future of Jiu Jitsu

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In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan of BJJ Mental Models and Jeff Shaw of Bellingham BJJ examine the sweeping consequences of Trump’s newly passed “Big Beautiful Bill,” and how it threatens the future of Jiu-Jitsu in America. This legislation is poised to eliminate healthcare for millions, deepen economic inequality, and significantly expand the power of ICE—all while cutting vital programs that support working-class families. For the Jiu-Jitsu community, the downstream effects will be substantial: rising medical costs, gym closures, reduced access to training, and increased barriers to international movement and competition. This conversation explores how the bill will reshape the landscape of martial arts and what practitioners, gym owners, and supporters can do in response. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan @BJJMentalModels Jeff Shaw @BellinghamBJJ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why rising healthcare costs endanger Jiu-Jitsu practitioners • The economic pressures forcing students to leave the mats • How this bill isolates American Jiu-Jitsu from the global community • The collapse of public services and what it means for gym owners • The dramatic expansion of ICE and its impact on international athletes • How political instability is already affecting travel and tourism • The risk of long-term damage to Jiu-Jitsu infrastructure • What community leaders can do to prepare and respond ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: The Bill and Its Implications 04:10 Understanding the Scope of the Legislation 08:30 Healthcare Losses and Medical Debt in Jiu-Jitsu 12:55 Wealth Transfers and the Erosion of Social Support 18:20 Disposable Income and the Future of Gym Memberships 23:47 Impacts on Jiu-Jitsu Schools and Their Students 28:15 ICE Funding and Deportation Risks 33:05 Border Restrictions and Athlete Movement 38:10 The Broader Economic Downturn 41:00 Comparing U.S. and Canadian Healthcare Access 45:50 First-Hand Experiences with Medical Systems 48:30 Civil Liberties, Surveillance, and Detention Centers 52:15 “Alligator Alcatraz” and Escalating Immigration Policy 57:00 Practical Advice for the Jiu-Jitsu Community 01:03:00 Final Thoughts on Civic Responsibility and Solidarity

Jul 1

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Stephan Kesting of Grapplearts and Jeff Shaw of Bellingham BJJ sit down with clinical psychologist, author, and BJJ black belt Dr. David Ley to challenge everything you think you know about gender. Is “alpha male” behavior really about dominance and strength? Or is it just bad psychology wrapped in influencer hype? Dr. Ley breaks down the biological, psychological, and cultural science behind gender norms, toxic masculinity, and the emotional hunger many men bring to the Jiu-Jitsu mat. From PowerSlap to Jordan Peterson to NoFap, we explore how pseudoscience and insecurity get weaponized—and how grappling can offer men a healthier, evidence-based path forward. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Dr. David Ley – Clinical Psychologist, Author, BJJ Black Belt Jeff Shaw @BellinghamBJJ Stephan Kesting @StephanKesting ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • The real psychology of “alpha males” • How hostile masculinity leads to loneliness and harm • Why BJJ helps men form healthy, platonic bonds • The gender equality paradox: more freedom, more difference • Is toughness always a virtue—or just a blunt force fantasy? • Why touch, teamwork, and problem solving matter more • How pseudoscience fuels fascist masculinity movements • What “white knighting” critics get completely wrong • The role of Jiu-Jitsu in reshaping modern masculinity ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Defining Masculinity 06:09 Cultural Constructs of Masculinity 12:05 Toxic Masculinity vs. Healthy Masculinity 18:43 The Role of Jiu-Jitsu in Masculinity 25:32 Problem Solving and Masculinity 28:03 Healthy Masculinity in Sports 30:06 Protecting the Vulnerable: A Discussion on Masculinity 32:19 The Role of Empathy and Pretending 34:02 Masculinity and Femininity as a Spectrum 35:55 The Alt-Right and Masculinity Influencers 38:20 Cuckolding and Masculinity 41:23 Toxic Femininity: A Counter Perspective 44:50 Guidance for Healthy Masculinity

Jun 29

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models is joined by Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ and attorney/mediator Andrew Burcham for a deep dive into the legal minefield of free speech, particularly how it intersects with combat sports culture and the internet. What does the First Amendment actually protect? Can private companies limit your speech? Why do so many fighters and fans misunderstand their rights, and what happens when “free speech” is weaponized to shield bigotry? From Dana White to Gordon Ryan, from hate speech to stochastic terrorism, this episode explores how legal frameworks shape behavior online and on the mats—plus what it means for those navigating both the Jiu-Jitsu community and public discourse today. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Andrew Burcham – Attorney & Mediator Jesse Walker ‪@RoughHandsBJJ‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What the First Amendment actually says • Why free speech doesn’t mean freedom from consequences • The legality of hate speech in the U.S. vs. Canada • Stochastic terrorism, incitement, and internet mobbing • Citizens United and how money became “speech” • How lawfare, venue shopping, and religious freedom collide • What Jiu-Jitsu can learn from better civic literacy ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 – Intro: Meet Andrew Burcham, attorney & Jiu-Jitsu practitioner 01:15 – Free speech in the U.S. vs. Canada 03:55 – Bryce Mitchell, Dana White, and the misuse of “free speech” 06:24 – What the First Amendment really protects 10:00 – The cake maker case: religion vs. discrimination 14:41 – How venue shopping influences legal outcomes 17:23 – U.S. vs. EU: why American law varies state to state 20:08 – The illusion of blind justice and stacking the courts 25:14 – Social media, incitement, and Brandenburg v. Ohio 29:59 – Internet mobs: the Gordon Ryan effect 32:18 – Stochastic terrorism and platform accountability 35:07 – Hate speech laws in Canada vs. the U.S. 39:37 – Can employers fire you for what you say online? 42:00 – Protected classes colliding: religion vs. gender identity 46:16 – Weaponizing religion in legal challenges 51:18 – Citizens United: when corporations got free speech 55:25 – Buying political power: Elon Musk, TrumpCoin & ROI 58:45 – Cuts to Medicaid: real-world consequences in rural America 01:02:33 – Why Americans misunderstand free speech 01:06:34 – The myth of “free speech absolutism” 01:09:13 – Why some grapplers can’t speak out 01:10:36 – Final thoughts: Be kind, question power, fight for truth

Jun 26

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models is joined by Stephan Kesting (Grapplearts), Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ), and the incomparable Giles Garcia (Ronin Grappling) for a raw, unscripted deep dive into the political and cultural fault lines running through the Jiu-Jitsu world. From media manipulation to fascist creep in martial arts, Giles brings the fire with unfiltered commentary on how the right hijacked the narrative, why conspiracies thrive in the fight scene, and what it really means to stand for something as a coach and leader. If you’ve ever wondered why “just stick to Jiu-Jitsu” is a cop-out, or what role you play in the bigger fight, this one’s for you. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Giles Garcia – Ronin Grappling Stephan Kesting – Grapplearts Jesse Walker – Rough Hands BJJ Steve Kwan – BJJ Mental Models ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • The rise of fascism in martial arts culture • Why conspiracy theories thrive in Jiu-Jitsu • Media consolidation and fake neutrality • How coaches can lead without preaching • Culture war vs. class war in BJJ • Giles responds to Nazi commenters (for real) • What real leadership looks like in hard times ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introductions 02:50 The Role of Martial Arts in Society 05:36 Personal Stories and Experiences with Organizations 08:43 Global Perspectives on Societal Threats 11:51 Media Control and Government Overreach 14:41 The Illusion of Left and Right Politics 17:54 Conspiracies and Their Impact on Society 20:24 The Influence of Popular Media Figures 23:11 The Fight Community and Its Dynamics 26:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 36:00 The Rise of New Media and Its Impact 39:02 The Challenge of Truth in Media 42:10 Understanding the Left's Struggles 47:01 The Need for a Political Reset 48:49 Addressing Real Concerns in Society 52:53 Navigating Power Dynamics in Coaching 58:40 The Importance of Safe Spaces in Training 01:01:45 Responding to Controversial Comments

Jun 21

Stephan, Jesse, and Shelby are joined by Eva Schubert from the popular Villains and Virgins Podcast to discuss tactics used by all authoritarian states regardless of whether they are theocratic, fascist, or communist in nature. They examine Margaret Atwood's 'The Handmaid's Tale' in the context of today's political climate and address the need for protests and collective action in combating these issues while emphasising the need for empathy and humanity in the face of adversity. Check out Eva's podcast at https://www.villainsandvirgins.com and on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EnOZJsYzx1k&list=PLteESDDVIavTfrljkgjFpLlrlCuC3I2dV

Jun 19

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models is joined by Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ, Mike Mahaffey of Old Bastard BJJ, and mental health advocate David Figueroa-Martinez to challenge the outdated definitions of masculinity still thriving in the Jiu-Jitsu world. Why are men in Jiu-Jitsu still afraid to talk about emotion? What’s the cost of performative toughness on and off the mats? And how can coaches reshape gym culture to support real growth—for everyone? This isn’t about making BJJ "softer." It’s about making it stronger, by fostering vulnerability, empathy, and honesty in an often hypermasculine sport. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: • Jesse Walker ‪@RoughHandsBJJ‬ • Mike Mahaffey ‪@OldBastardBJJ‬ • David Figueroa-Martinez ‪@dfm.2099‬ • Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why emotional repression hurts male athletes • The damage done by “fake toughness” in Jiu-Jitsu • Why coaching is about more than just technique • How to build mentally healthy gym culture • The double standard for male vs female emotion • Why acknowledging weakness is a sign of strength ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 02:58 Exploring Men's Mental Health 05:59 Emotional Intelligence in Men 08:49 Generational Perspectives on Emotions 11:53 The Impact of Media on Masculinity 14:44 The Role of Vulnerability in Leadership 17:35 Navigating Grief and Loss 20:29 The Dichotomy of Progress and Pushback 23:30 The Importance of Authenticity in Coaching 37:28 The Performative Coach 38:55 Vulnerability in Coaching 39:25 The Evolving Stigma of Mental Health 40:39 Public Figures and Mental Health 41:38 Emotional Vulnerability in Leadership 43:41 Relatability in Leadership 45:30 The Mask of Professionalism 47:47 The Role of Jiu-Jitsu in Mental Health 49:03 Emotional Intelligence and Anger 51:15 The Dangers of Anger 53:21 Generational Challenges 56:35 Cultural Backlash and Representation 58:03 The Impact of Social Media 01:00:55 Cyberbullying and Youth Challenges 01:03:41 The Role of Jiu-Jitsu Coaches 01:05:17 Authenticity in Coaching 01:07:22 The True Essence of Coaching 01:09:15 Redefining Success in Coaching 01:11:01 Closing Thoughts on Authenticity

Jun 16

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models sits down with Mike Mahaffey of Old Bastard BJJ and Jesse Walker of Rough Hands BJJ for a raw conversation about why it matters—now more than ever—for Jiu-Jitsu practitioners to speak out. Why do so many people say “keep politics out of the gym”? What does it really mean to use your platform responsibly? And how can community, not conflict, be the most powerful form of resistance? From running inclusive gyms to dealing with trolls, threats, and the myth of “virtue signaling,” this episode is a call to action for anyone who believes that Jiu-Jitsu should stand for something more than just fighting. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Mike Mahaffey – ‪@oldbastardbjj‬ Jesse Walker – ‪@roughhandsbjj‬ Steve Kwan – ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why speaking out doesn’t hurt your business—sometimes it builds it • How to use privilege as a force for good • What “virtue signaling” really means (and why it’s a lazy critique) • How to build a gym that welcomes everyone • Why moderating your community isn’t censorship—it’s care • What to do if you’re “just a white belt” but still want to help ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Fighting Matters and the Hosts 01:02 Addressing Criticism in Martial Arts Advocacy 05:07 Personal Experiences and Advocacy in BJJ 11:06 Creating Inclusive Spaces in Martial Arts 15:39 The Impact of Speaking Up on Business and Community 20:47 Countering Virtue Signaling Criticism 26:32 The Importance of Resistance and Community Building 32:48 Finding Your Voice in the Community 38:14 The Importance of Intention 52:02 Courage to Speak Up 56:24 Building Connections and Community

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We're doing this episode in light of Ben Askren's battle with MRSA (methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus). In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan from BJJ Mental Models sits down with Jeff Shaw of Bellingham BJJ and Dr. Clayton Green, a board-certified dermatologist and microbiologist, to dig into one of the scariest health threats in combat sports: MRSA. Why are otherwise healthy grapplers winding up hospitalized with life-threatening infections? Why does doing “everything right” still not guarantee safety? And what can we learn from modern medicine to actually prevent this from happening? With pro athletes like Ben Askren and John Moxley getting sidelined by staph—and regular gym-goers like Jeff fighting it off with IV antibiotics—this conversation goes beyond hygiene to tackle culture, misinformation, and the war between science and bro science. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Dr. Clayton Green – Dermatologist & Microbiologist Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • How MRSA actually works (and why it’s deadly) • Why your gym might still be dangerous, even if it’s clean • The science behind colonization and contamination • Best practices for prevention and decolonization • Why “doing your own research” is making you sick • What science communicators can learn from pro wrestling ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Staph Infections in Combat Sports 02:44 Understanding Staph and MRSA: The Basics 05:33 The Ecology of Staph: Colonization and Transmission 08:30 Identifying Staph Infections in Gyms 11:17 Best Practices for Prevention and Hygiene 13:56 Antibiotics and Treatment: What You Need to Know 16:37 Decolonization: Challenges and Strategies 19:28 Prophylactic Antibiotics: Risks and Considerations 22:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 25:39 The Importance of Advocacy in Medicine 28:12 Understanding Staph Infections and Their Risks 37:15 Probiotics and Antibiotics: What You Need to Know 44:20 Communicating Science Effectively to Combat Misinformation 51:51 The Goalkeeper Syndrome in Society 53:09 The Impact of Denialism on Health 54:25 The Importance of Vaccination and Public Health 56:57 The Role of Emotion in Persuasion 58:25 Urgent Care and Access to Healthcare 01:03:14 The Privilege of Health and Misinformation 01:06:48 The Challenges of Chronic Illness and Research 01:10:35 Community Outreach and the Medical Profession

Jun 5

Neo-Nazis are infiltrating Jiu-Jitsu—and most of us don’t even know it’s happening. In this episode of Fighting Matters, we’re joined by investigative journalist Mack Lamoureux to expose the rise of “active clubs”: decentralized extremist groups using martial arts like Jiu-Jitsu and Muay Thai as recruiting tools for white supremacist and neo-Nazi causes. Mack spent nearly a decade reporting on far-right extremism for VICE News and now works with the Institute for Strategic Dialogue, tracking extremist movements around the world. He explains how these groups organize in secret, how they weaponize the power of community, and how they’re already competing in tournaments and running covert training groups in cities across North America. This conversation is a wake-up call for anyone who thinks Jiu-Jitsu is immune to radicalization—and a roadmap for how we push back. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Mack Lamoureux – Investigative Journalist Jesse Walker ‪@RoughHandsBJJ‬ Mike Mahaffey ‪@OldBastardBJJ‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What are active clubs—and how do they recruit? • How extremist groups use martial arts to radicalize • Why community is both a powerful tool and a dangerous weapon • The terrifying overlap between fight culture and fascism • What coaches and gym owners can do to fight back ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 01:28 Understanding Active Clubs 05:11 Recruitment Tactics of Active Clubs 08:33 Training for a Race War 10:50 The Nature of Active Clubs 13:31 Community and Cult-like Tactics 15:29 Evolution of Active Clubs 20:41 Decentralized Structure and Terrorism 23:08 Identifying Active Clubs 26:27 The Power of Community Influence 31:14 Normalization of Extremism in Jiu-Jitsu 33:20 The Ethical Decline in Society 35:43 Understanding the Overton Window 41:13 The Role of Community in Combatting Extremism 49:46 Mental Health and Coping with Dark Subjects 54:48 The Power of Local Influence

Jun 4

Luke Thomas just appeared on The Daily Show with Jordan Klepper to talk about how the UFC has become a tool of radicalisation for the MAGA movement, so we invited him onto Fighting Matters to dig a little deeper. You can watch the original segment on Jordan Klepper Fingers the Pulse: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePbMNq8m7Jw Follow Luke Thomas on his Morning Kombat show here: https://www.youtube.com/c/MorningKombat And check out Luke's Substack here: https://lthomas.substack.com/

Jun 2

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan and Stephan Kesting are joined by scientist and author Kristi Charish to investigate how Jiu-Jitsu became a hotbed for pseudoscience, supplement scams, and influencer grifts. We explore how a culture of male insecurity and anti-intellectualism has opened the floodgates to misinformation—fueled by algorithm-chasing gurus and podcast personalities more interested in profit than truth. From testosterone fads and supplement sponsors to sunning your testicles (yes, really), we unpack the deep societal forces that make grapplers uniquely vulnerable to snake oil. If you’ve ever been told that breathing through one nostril will double your growth hormone, this episode is for you. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Kristi Charish – Scientist & Novelist Stephan Kesting ‪@StephanKesting‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why Jiu-Jitsu is especially vulnerable to pseudoscience • The myth of the supplement “quick fix” • How science actually works (and why grifters hate it) • Why confidence sells better than expertise • The parasocial trap of podcast influencers • What “adaptogens” actually mean (hint: nothing) ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:06 Kristi's Science Background and Transition to Fiction 04:25 The Challenge of Science Misinformation 10:03 The Role of Influencers in Misinformation 16:02 Regulation of Supplements vs. Prescription Drugs 24:03 Understanding Scientific Research and Publication 38:32 The Nature of Expertise and Certainty in Science 46:54 The Risks of Superfoods and Supplements 48:46 Trust in Science and Misinformation 50:19 The Dangers of Distrust in Institutions 53:13 The Impact of Influencers on Health Perception 01:02:47 Misinformation Targeting Young Men 01:09:44 The Dangers of Male Beauty Standards 01:19:27 Improving Science Literacy in Society

May 28

Jesse Walker, Jeff Shaw, and Steve Kwan are joined by longtime martial artist, educator, and activist D’Juan Owens. Together, they examine how self-defense training often overlooks the realities of abuse, how martial arts culture can enable victim blaming, and what it really means to create a safe, accountable training environment. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: • D’Juan Owens – Martial artist, educator, activist • Jesse Walker – @RoughHandsBJJ • Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬ • Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why most self-defense seminars miss the mark • The myth of the stranger in the alley • How martial arts culture can enable abuse • The importance of teaching consent and boundaries • What it means to build a safer gym culture ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to D’Juan Owens and His Work 00:50 The Journey into Gender-Based Violence Advocacy 09:22 Teaching Self-Defense and Positive Masculinity 11:00 Understanding Privilege and Victim Blaming 13:06 The Complexity of Privilege and Systemic Issues 18:37 Understanding Privilege and Responsibility 21:20 The Psychology of Self-Defense 22:14 Misconceptions in Self-Defense Training 23:25 The Reality of Assaults 26:56 Accountability and Cultural Norms 28:25 The Fallacy of Both Sides 30:11 Moral Cowardice in Jiu-Jitsu 34:07 The Role of Messengers in Self-Defense 37:04 Setting Boundaries and Consent 42:21 The Importance of Power and Responsibility 48:35 Understanding Risk and Personality in Young Adults 49:32 The Importance of Mixed Gender Seminars 51:20 Creating a Toolkit for Situational Awareness 53:13 The Role of Consent in Self-Defense Training 58:27 Navigating Consent and Communication in Martial Arts 01:01:58 Challenging Toxic Masculinity in Martial Arts 01:09:00 Addressing Misconceptions About Women in Jiu Jitsu 01:13:17 Cultural Sensitivity in Self-Defense Training

May 22

🎙️ Jay Rod was removed from B-Team. The community response was just as revealing as the offense. In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan, Jesse Walker, and Jeff Shaw dissect the fallout from the Jiu-Jitsu world after Jacob “Jay Rod” Rodriguez was kicked out of B-Team following revelations of inappropriate behavior. While the gym acted swiftly and decisively, parts of the community rushed to defend him—and that’s where the real conversation begins. This isn’t about legal definitions or criminal charges. It’s about what kind of culture we’re building on the mats—and why so many in Jiu-Jitsu still treat predatory behavior with a shrug, if not outright support. The team breaks down the incident, the excuses, and what it says about power, values, and safety in martial arts spaces. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬ Jesse Walker ‪@RoughHandsBJJ‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why B-Team made the right call • The myth of “he didn’t break the law” • How power dynamics warp gym culture • Why community pushback matters more than you think • The real cost of prioritizing athletes over safety ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Community Reaction to Jay Rod's Removal 02:48 Understanding Inappropriate Conduct in Jiu-Jitsu 06:07 The Impact of Power Dynamics in Gyms 08:55 Moral Standards vs. Legal Standards 11:42 Consequences and Redemption in the Jiu-Jitsu Community 14:50 The Path Forward for Jay Rod

May 19

Historian Daniele Bolelli joins us to define fascism and authoritarianism, break down the historical context of fascism, and explain the alliance between oligarchs and fascist governments, the role of fear and propaganda, and the potential role of martial arts in combatting authoritarianism. Catch Daniele's excellent History on Fire podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts or check out his site: https://historyonfirepodcast.com/ Follow him on Substack: https://danielebolelli.substack.com/ And check out his book, On the Warrior's Path: https://www.amazon.com/Warriors-Path-Second-Philosophy-Mythology/dp/158394219X

May 14

🎙️ The UFC has become more than a fight promotion—it’s a political statement. In this episode of Fighting Matters, Jeff Shaw, Stephan Kesting, and Steve Kwan sit down with journalist Albert Samaha to unpack his explosive Washington Post article, “Two Nights in Vegas with the Fan-Bros of the UFC.” What begins as a story about fandom becomes a deep dive into the cultural and political forces shaping fight sports today. From MAGA hat sightings to Dana White’s unwavering support for Trump, the crew explores how the UFC became a haven for right-wing ideology—and what that means for the young men growing up in its orbit. This conversation isn’t about partisan politics. It’s about understanding how power, masculinity, and media converge in the cage—and what kind of future we’re fighting for. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Albert Samaha – Journalist & Author Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬ Stephan Kesting ‪@StephanKesting‬ Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why the UFC embraced Trumpism • The blurred lines between sport, spectacle, and propaganda • How fight sports influence young men’s identities • The grifter economy and “hustle culture” in MMA • What responsibility promoters have in shaping culture ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 02:55 The Intersection of Sports and Politics 06:17 Understanding the UFC Fanbase 09:14 The Role of Authenticity in Politics 12:04 Masculinity and the Appeal of Simplicity 14:56 The Complexity of Political Messaging 17:54 The Andrew Tate Phenomenon 21:07 Human Stories in Fight Sports 24:12 The UFC's Political Landscape 27:13 Conclusion and Reflections on the Future 33:25 UFC's Controversial Support for Problematic Figures 36:08 The Shift in UFC's Image and Strategy 40:21 The Wrestling Influence on UFC's Marketing 44:36 Free Speech and the UFC's Ethical Dilemmas 47:13 Economic Class and Masculinity in the UFC 01:01:47 Navigating Modern Masculinity and Influencer Culture

May 7

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan, Jesse Walker, and Shelby York react to the breaking news that B-Team Jiu-Jitsu has officially banned Jay Rod. The team discusses the statements made by both B-Team and Jay Rod and the implications for gym culture. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ Jesse Walker ‪@roughhandsbjj‬ Shelby York @roughhandsog ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What B-Team’s statement actually said • How Jay Rod responded and what it reveals • Why Craig Jones’s reaction surprised us • The importance of protecting victims • What other gyms should learn from this • The broader problem of abuse in Jiu-Jitsu

May 5

🎙️ A powerful conversation about identity, inclusion, and resilience in the martial arts community. In this episode of Fighting Matters, co-hosts Steve Kwan and Mike Mahaffey are joined by special guest Molly Reis, a three-stripe black belt and one of the most senior trans women in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Molly shares her journey through the sport, from competing every weekend in Texas to finding belonging in Seattle’s queer BJJ scene. She opens up about the challenges of transitioning mid-career, navigating concern trolling, and why visibility in leadership is key to true inclusion. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ Mike Mahaffey ‪@OldBastardBJJ‬ Molly Reis ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • What it’s like to transition after earning your black belt • How hormone therapy impacts physical performance • Creating safer spaces and inclusive gyms for queer athletes • Concern trolling, etiquette, and rolling while trans • Why allyship in BJJ must go beyond tolerance ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Diversity in Jiu-Jitsu 03:01 Molly's Journey in Jiu-Jitsu and Transition 06:02 Experiences of Support and Rejection 09:19 Navigating the Jiu-Jitsu Community as a Trans Woman 11:59 The Impact of Transition on Jiu-Jitsu 14:52 Understanding Hormone Therapy and Its Effects 18:17 Life Changes Post-Transition 21:04 Adapting Jiu-Jitsu Techniques After Transition 23:56 Creating Inclusive Spaces in Jiu-Jitsu 26:59 The Role of Community in Supporting Trans Athletes 30:11 Conclusion and Future Perspectives 45:40 Mindset and Gender Dynamics in Jiu-Jitsu 47:02 Creating Inclusive Spaces in Martial Arts 47:52 The Power of Representation in Leadership 49:27 Celebration vs. Tolerance in the Community 51:08 Navigating Political Sensitivities in Jiu-Jitsu 52:11 The Role of Allies in Supporting Trans Rights 56:26 Understanding Concern Trolling 01:01:11 Debunking Myths About Trans Athletes 01:05:31 Engaging in Good Faith Conversations 01:10:58 The Hypocrisy of Gender Politics in Sports 01:18:45 Encouragement for Trans and Queer Athletes 01:19:49 Finding Community and Resources in Jiu-Jitsu

May 2

Nate Quarry fought in MMA, including The Ultimate Fighter and the UFC, between 2001 and 2010. He's currently involved in suing the UFC for anticompetitive and monopolistic practices. He joins us on the Fighting Matters podcast to discuss manhood, responsibility, self worth, and standing up for other people.

Apr 30

🎙️ A deep dive into how Trump’s anti-Canada rhetoric flipped the Canadian election—and what it means for martial artists on both sides of the border. In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan is joined by longtime friend and grappling legend Stephan Kesting for a raw, unfiltered conversation about Canada’s 2025 federal election. They unpack how the rise of MAGA-style politics north of the border sparked a national backlash, ultimately reshaping Canadian leadership—and exposing fractures in the martial arts world. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ Stephan Kesting ‪@StephanKesting‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why Trump’s threats to Canada changed the outcome of the election • The rise—and rejection—of MAGA politics in Canadian culture • How COVID and the Freedom Convoy broke the Jiu-Jitsu community • What American martial artists need to understand about their influence abroad • Whether Canada can still trust its southern neighbor ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Canadian Elections and Political Landscape 09:08 Trudeau's Downfall and the Rise of Mark Carney 17:58 The Freedom Convoy and Its Impact on Society 32:58 The Division in the Martial Arts Community 35:12 The Impact of Information Bubbles 39:32 Reality Check: The Pandemic's Influence 43:15 Political Dynamics in Canada 50:05 The Future of Canadian Politics 57:25 Cross-Border Relations and Travel Concerns 01:02:09 Understanding Perspectives: The Info Bubble Challenge

Apr 26

🎙️ A candid roundtable on tariffs, economic disruption, and the fight to preserve Jiu-Jitsu communities during hard times. In this episode of Fighting Matters, co-hosts Steve Kwan, Jesse Walker, and Jeff Shaw take a hard look at how Trump’s tariff policies and looming economic challenges are threatening Jiu-Jitsu gyms across North America. Drawing from their experiences as gym owners, content creators, and lifelong martial artists, they explore how Jiu-Jitsu businesses can survive—and even thrive—through solidarity, long-term thinking, and real community-building. This conversation isn’t about partisan politics. It’s about practical survival strategies for the martial arts world—and why now, more than ever, community must come first. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ Jesse Walker ‪@roughhandsbjj‬ Jeff Shaw ‪@bellinghambjj‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • How tariffs and border restrictions threaten Jiu-Jitsu gyms • Why wealth concentration hurts martial arts communities • How to recession-proof your academy today • The hidden risks of economic downturns for small businesses • Why Jiu-Jitsu must become more than just a sport • How generosity, community, and loyalty can save your gym • Practical ways to support students and staff through hardship ⸻ 📖 Chapters: Chapters 00:00 Introduction and WrestleMania Discussion 05:06 Impact of Current Events on Jiu-Jitsu Businesses 09:56 Challenges Faced by Gym Owners 15:08 Community Building and Brand Loyalty 20:03 Economic Insights and Strategies for Survival 25:01 Opportunities in Crisis 30:04 Concluding Thoughts on Wealth and Responsibility 41:42 Navigating Economic Challenges in Jiu Jitsu 48:24 Building Community Through Jiu Jitsu 57:45 Long-Term Thinking in Business 01:03:19 Supporting Local Businesses Over Corporations 01:04:11 Addressing Misogyny in Jiu Jitsu ⸻ 💬 Notable Quotes: “You don’t save a gym by cutting your people.” – Jeff “Generosity is the strongest brand you can build.” – Steve “Investing in your community pays bigger dividends than saving pennies.” – Jesse ⸻ 🎯 For Listeners Who: • Own or manage a martial arts gym • Want to protect their community from economic shocks • Believe small businesses are worth fighting for • Are looking for real-world survival strategies for martial arts • Value leadership, loyalty, and resilience over short-term profits ⸻ 💬 Your thoughts matter—join the conversation in the comments below. 🎧 Subscribe to Fighting Matters for open, honest dialogue on martial arts, community, and survival in a changing world. #JiuJitsu #MartialArts #Tariffs #Recession #BJJCommunity #FightingMatters #SmallBusiness #CommunityBuilding #BJJPodcast #TrumpTariffs #MartialArtsTalk

Apr 22

🎙️ A candid roundtable on tribalism, culture wars, and the struggle to preserve community in Jiu-Jitsu and beyond. In this episode of Fighting Matters, co-hosts Steve Kwan, Mike Mahaffey, Jesse Walker, and Timothy Lee Peterson take a hard look at how identity politics and ideological polarization are affecting the martial arts world. Drawing from their own experiences as coaches, practitioners, and community leaders, they explore how social division is creeping onto the mats—and how we can push back with empathy, respect, and clarity. ⸻ 👥 Featuring: Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬ Mike Mahaffey ‪@OldBastardBJJ‬ Jesse Walker ‪@roughhandsbjj‬ Timothy Lee Peterson ‪@timothyleepeterson‬ ⸻ 🧠 Topics We Cover: • Why identity has become central to modern conflict • How online behavior and purity tests are dividing gyms • The difference between ignorance and harm • How to handle mistakes without driving people away • Why modeling values is more powerful than policing language • Creating psychologically safe spaces for real learning and growth • How martial arts can teach us to communicate across ideological lines ⸻ 📖 Chapters: 00:00 Exploring Identity in Political Discourse 05:53 The Impact of Tribalism on Communication 11:00 Navigating Conversations with Empathy 17:36 The Role of Language in Identity 22:26 Building Bridges Through Understanding 36:35 Navigating Identity and Respect 39:16 Mistakes and Forgiveness in Communication 40:37 Bridging Divides Through Understanding 42:36 The Importance of Interests Over Positions 46:00 Creating a Culture of Tolerance for Mistakes 50:18 Psychological Safety in Conversations 54:10 Modeling Behavior for Change 01:00:15 The Power of Language in Understanding 01:04:06 Asking the Right Questions to Understand Perspectives

Apr 21

Why do so many women quit Jiu-Jitsu—and what can we do to fix it? In this candid and eye-opening episode, Fighting Matters sits down with Shelby York of Rough Hands BJJ to talk about the real reasons women leave the sport. From casual misogyny to unsafe training environments, Shelby shares the often overlooked struggles women face in martial arts—and what coaches, training partners, and gym owners can actually do to make things better. Also featuring hosts Steve Kwan, Jesse Walker, and Mike Mahaffey. ✅ Topics include: • The subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways women are pushed out • Why some gyms feel unsafe—and how to fix that • How to build a culture where women want to train • The difference between intimacy and sexualization on the mats • Shelby’s own stories of navigating the martial arts world as a coach 👉 Whether you run a gym or just want to be a better training partner, this conversation is a must-listen. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introductions 02:23 Women in Martial Arts: Experiences and Challenges 07:07 Shelby's Martial Arts Background and Perspectives 10:29 The Misogyny Problem in Martial Arts 16:13 Navigating Gender Dynamics in the Gym 24:41 Addressing Subtle Forms of Misogyny 26:09 Understanding Victim Blame in Self-Defense 27:16 The Role of Physical Attributes in Martial Arts 28:11 Gaslighting in Martial Arts Training 30:14 Communication Styles in Self-Defense Training 32:19 Addressing Sexual Assault in Self-Defense 35:07 The Importance of Women's Voices in Martial Arts 36:45 Recognizing Trusted Aggressors 39:14 The Reality of Self-Defense Situations 40:21 Empowering Women to Speak Up 42:26 Navigating Male Receptivity in Conversations 47:45 Creating a Safe Training Environment 53:02 Challenging Gender Stereotypes in Sports 55:04 Navigating Gender Dynamics in Training 57:53 Empowerment and Consent in Martial Arts 01:00:14 Creating Safe Spaces in Jiu-Jitsu 01:03:01 Building an Inclusive Gym Culture 01:10:10 The Importance of Genuine Interactions #jiujitsu #bjj #womensbjj #martialarts #selfdefense #grapplingculture #fightingmatters

Apr 14

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models) is joined by Tim Lee Peterson for a candid conversation about the UFC’s growing alignment with far-right politics. They discuss how combat sports are being used as a cultural vehicle for political extremism, including the visible support of authoritarian figures and the platforming of openly fascist athletes. The discussion explores how these developments impact the broader martial arts community, the role of disinformation, and the danger of normalizing political violence and exclusionary ideologies in a sport that should be about inclusion, discipline, and mutual respect. 🎙️ Follow Steve: @bjjmentalmodels on Instagram and Threads 🎙️ Follow Tim: @timothyleepeterson on Instagram and Threads

Apr 10

The word fascism gets thrown around a lot, but words have meanings and fascism does not mean “ all the things that I don’t like”. in this video, I go through the 10 pillars of fascism as laid out by Jason Stanley in his book, How Fascism Works.

Apr 10

In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models), Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ), and Mike Mahaffey (Magic BJJ) discuss the backlash to a recent viral post about Jiu-Jitsu’s historical links to fascism, and how that history continues to shape the culture of the sport today. They also talk about Joe Rogan’s evolving role in martial arts media, the influence of the manosphere, and the challenges of having honest conversations in a polarized environment. Topics include: – Why critiques of Jiu-Jitsu history often feel personal – Whether and how to separate the art from its founders – Joe Rogan’s influence and responsibility as a media figure – The impact of social media, tribalism, and identity – The manosphere’s reach into martial arts culture – What it might take to build a more open and inclusive community #BJJ #JoeRogan #JiuJitsu #Manosphere #MartialArts #FightingMatters #BJJPodcast

Apr 4

Is Jiu-Jitsu just about choking people—or can it actually make the world better? In this episode of Fighting Matters, Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models), Jeff Shaw (Bellingham BJJ), Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ), and Mike Mahaffey (Old Bastard BJJ) dive into how martial artists are stepping up to support their communities during turbulent times. From running charity seminars for LGBTQ+ and immigrant groups, to facing political backlash and online trolls, the crew lays it all out—with jokes, passion, and a bit of Moon Knight cosplay. 🌀 What does “conservatism” mean on the mats? 🔥 What happens when martial artists use their platforms to fight for more than just submissions? 🤝 How can YOU make a difference in your gym, even if you’re “just” a white belt? Drop a comment with your own stories or ideas. Let’s build something better—together. #BJJCommunity #FightingMatters #JiuJitsuForGood #MartialArtsPodcast #SteveKwan #JeffShaw #JesseWalker #MikeMahaffey #BJJFundraisers #TransRights #ImmigrantSupport #BJJMentalModels #BJJPodcast

Apr 2

Stephan Kesting, Mike Mahaffey, Jeff Shaw, and Jesse Walker have an unfiltered, deeply personal conversation about the growing political divide in the combat sports world. They discuss recent developments with Conor McGregor, Dana White, Andrew Tate, and Cain Velasquez, and the reaction of the MMA community to those events. They also address how hero fantasies can have negative and unintended consequences, how children of all nationalities should be protected, and how real change requires genuine commitment and action from individuals. 👉 Like, share, and subscribe if you want to see more honest conversations like this. 📌 Featuring: • Stephan Kesting (Grapplearts) • Mike Mahaffey (Old Bastard BJJ) • Jeff Shaw (Bellingham BJJ) • Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ) #BJJ #Politics #JiuJitsu #MMA #MartialArts #Fascism #ProgressiveJiuJitsu #CombatSports #BJJMentalModels

Mar 31

In this special roundtable episode, Stephan Kesting, Steve Kwan, Jeff Shaw, and Jesse Walker for an unfiltered, deeply personal conversation about the growing political divide in the combat sports world. They tackle tough questions: • Why has far-right ideology gained traction in Jiu-Jitsu, MMA, and pro wrestling? • Is it really possible—or responsible—to “keep politics out of the gym”? • How do we support vulnerable communities and still create welcoming, inclusive spaces on the mats? • What does it actually mean to be a responsible coach, gym owner, or practitioner in 2025? This isn’t just a political rant—it’s a call to action for those who still believe martial arts can be a force for good. 👉 Like, share, and subscribe if you want to see more honest conversations like this. 📌 Featuring: • Stephan Kesting (Grapplearts) • Steve Kwan (BJJ Mental Models) • Jeff Shaw (Bellingham BJJ) • Jesse Walker (Rough Hands BJJ) #BJJ #Politics #JiuJitsu #MMA #MartialArts #Fascism #ProgressiveJiuJitsu #CombatSports #BJJMentalModels