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4d ago

In this episode I talk about the constant cycle of burnout, clutter, and resentment that comes with our brain, from tossing bags on the table, leaving yesterday's project out, and then facing the chaos that feels like the FBI searched your home. I talk about why putting things away feels boring, impossible, or like it will take ten hours, and why I get mad at "Past Me" for leaving messes for "Future Me." I share how I stumbled onto something called Clutter Check, a 10–15 minute daily routine that keeps things from piling up. I teach you how to trick your brain into making peace with this ritual by looking at it through a non-neurotypical lens. 🎁❄️ Happy Holidays! Please take me up on this GIFT of one FREE month of Patreon (did I mention FREE?) at Tier 1 giving you access to the entire archive, video episodes, 4 extra episodes per month, body double sessions, and more!

Dec 15

Rest can feel confusing, uncomfortable, or even stressful when you're neurodivergent. In this episode, I talk about how rest shows up differently for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD brains, why typical advice doesn't always work, and how to stop treating rest like a reward. I walk through the difference between rest and isolation, how to rest with people, and offer 27 quick, micro break ideas. If rest makes you feel guilty, or restless, I hope this episode will help you rethink what rest can look like on your terms. Show Notes: Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Click to Get On The Waitlist For Jen's Panic Course Feb 2026 Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Bookshop.org Gift Guide (books, bags, games, more) 20% Off Jen's Sensory Seeking Gift Guide From Kitsch 15% Discount Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: The Power of Micro Breaks For Well-Being 7 Types of Rest How Sleep Affects Your Immune System Rest Is Resistance The Nap Ministry Laziness Does Not Exist 20% Off

Dec 8

If holiday gift-giving stresses you out, you need to listen to this one. In this episode, I talk about why gifting can be so overwhelming (executive dysfunction, decision fatigue, social pressure) and how to make it easier. I share simple ways to lower the mental load, like using gift categories, anchoring to one idea, and giving yourself permission to give late (or not at all). I also created a few curated, neurodivergent-friendly gift guides to help you shop with less stress. Listen now and take some pressure off your season! Gift Guide Links: Kitsch , Bookshop , Appointed Jen's Gift Guide Affiliate Links: Kitsch Bookshop Appointed Hugimals UnHide Sources Used: The Psychology of Gift Giving A Quick Guide to Gifting With ADHD Understanding the Brain Science Behind Giving/Receiving Gifts The Art & Science of Gift Giving

Dec 1

Using shopping for a quick hit of dopamine is definitely an emotional regulation issue, and trying to fill any empty hole in our soul with stuff is a very deep situation. BUT that's not what this episode is about. Sometimes, being organized about how we spend money can bring us into reality where we can clearly see how much we spend (if we overspend) or how quickly we make decisions to spend (if we are impulsive with spending) and from there we can make changes. But we have to get organized first so that we can analyze our habits. I'm giving some very easy and quick tips for staying organized and accountable to yourself so that you can spend in a way that won't end up causing you stress or debt. 🎁❄️ Happy Holidays! Please take me up on this GIFT of one FREE month of Patreon (did I mention FREE?) at Tier 1 giving you access to the entire archive, video episodes, 4 extra episodes per month, body double sessions, and more! To get on the waitlist for the lowest price for jen's How to R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks course click here: Get on the Panic Attack Waitlist Show Notes: Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: 16 Ways To Better Manage Your Money: ADDitude Magazine ADHD Overspending & Impulsivity : ADHD Specialist Managing Money & ADHD : CHADD Org

Nov 24

Feeling drained, foggy, or emotionally tapped out during the holidays? You're not alone. In this episode, you'll learn what empathic burnout is, how it shows up in your body, and why certain times like the holiday season can increase the risk due to higher emotional exposure, shifting routines, and layered relational dynamics. Whether you're neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or just carrying too much, this episode will help you understand why self-compassion is the most powerful (and most misunderstood) tool for recovery. I'll walk you through specific self-compassion strategies like "in for me, out for you" breathing, micro-movements, grounding touch, and internal phrases to help you stay steady especially when you don't have the option to step away. Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff ( 20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) SHOW NOTES: Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff ( 20% off with my link to Bookshop) Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 20% off everything on Jen's Holiday Gift Guide Bookshop dot org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED: Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff ( 20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) The Mindful Self Compassion Workbook : Kristen Neff

Nov 17

Have you ever thought: " Why am I so tired all the time? Why do I feel disconnected, like I'm watching life happen but not really in it? " You probably thought something was wrong with you and didn't consider that it could be a nervous system thing. In this episode: what your nervous system actually does, what "regulation" really means (without cold plunges), and why feeling tired or foggy sometimes is normal even if it's not ideal. And how if you're neurodivergent, your nervous system may function in a more intense way. Get T he Nervous System Workbook : by Deb Dana and get 20% off with this link while you support independent bookstores all over America by shopping on Bookshop dot org. Show Notes: T he Nervous System Workbook : Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: The Autistic & ADHD Nervous System : Article b y Dr. Kristen Neff Heal Your Nervous System: Dr. Linnea Passaler (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) Polyvagal Prompts : Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) T he Nervous System Workbook : Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) Glimmers Journal : Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org )

Nov 10

Panic attacks and autistic meltdowns share some common symptoms but happen for different reasons. A panic attack is a short circuit in the nervous system and not a total sensory overload, while an autistic meltdown isn't out of nowhere — it's a total nervous system overload based on external triggers. If you are AuDHD and have panic attacks, being able to tell the difference between these two experiences is important because they need different responses. I talk about how to respond to both in this episode. If you want to learn how to handle panic attacks so that they no longer control your life, I'm teaching a three-session webinar in January 2026 about how to R.I.D.E. out panic attacks. Get on the waitlist so that you'll get the first chance to sign up at a huge discount. https://www.jenkirkman.com/waitlist/ SHOW NOTES Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Get on the Waitlist For Jen's How To R.I.D.E. Out Panic Course Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Hope & Help For Your Nerves by Dr. Claire Weekes 20% off this book Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES FOR THIS EPISODE: Coping With Panic Attacks Rula: Treating Anxiety Disorders Rula: Autism/Overstimulation Inertia, Meltdown, Autism - NIH Reduce Sensory Overstimulation - Science Direct Emotional Flashback Management - Pete Walker Hope & Help For Your Nerves by Dr. Claire Weekes

Oct 30

Morning and night are the two times of day that do more to stabilize an ADHD brain than any productivity hack ever could. In this final Organize October episode, I talk about the science of how morning routines provide dopamine stabilization and evening routines need sensory cues to train our nervous system to power down. Get the ad-free and video version of this episode and more organize bonus episodes on Patreon - click here for a 7 day free trial . Show Notes: Get On The Waitlist for Jen's Online Course "How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks" Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Self Care For People with ADHD - 20% Off This Book The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit - 20% Off This Book The Ultimate ADHD Workbook For Women - 20% Off This Book Sources Used: Cortisol & Other Stress Responses in ADHD How Dopamine Influences ADHD Symptoms Taming The Molecule Of More - 20% Off This Book

Oct 28

In this Organize October episode, I talk about organizing how to clean your home in a way that hopefully works for you without having to "binge deep clean", how to think of cleaning as functional and make it fun, my new laundry system that helps with our impulsivity and my new obsession: the House Purse. Get the ad-free and video version of this episode and more organize bonus episodes on Patreon - click here for a 7 day free trial . Show Notes: Get On The Waitlist for Jen's Online Course "How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks" Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Order From Chaos - 20% off this book How To Keep House While Drowning - 20% off this book Dirty Laundry - 20% off this book Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: ADHD & Chores - The Mini ADHD Coach How To Keep House While Drowning - 20% off this book

Oct 24

It's Organize October here on the podcast! In this episode, I'm getting into the time management, scheduling & planning methods that I've finally figured out and that actually work for me. I'll be taking you through my notebook system, time tracking, index card daily and weekly planning, time blocking method, notes app organizing and idea capturing. It's a LOT. If you want to join the Patreon at 31% off an annual or monthly membership click here and use code : 14B85 Show Notes: 15% Off Appointed Notebooks/Planners/Pens use code JENKIRKMAN at checkout 20% off Fierce Self Compassion by Kristen Neff 20% off Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman 20% off Essentialism by Greg McKeown 15% off Weighted Eye Mask from Kitsch Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: ADHD Time Mgmt Tips - Exceptional Individuals Time Trackers For ADHD - Reddit Benefits of Time Tracking - Timing Blog Understanding The Science of Time - Ari Tuckman Video

Oct 6

In a special Patreon Only Episode of the podcast, I chat with my ADHD coach Paula Engebretson, host of the I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast . To listen to or watch this episode ad-free and in full - jump on over to Patreon and with this link you can get a 7-day-free-trial. We talk about the realities of navigating ADHD through different "seasons of life," why rigid systems rarely work, and how values, energy levels, and self-understanding need to guide how we build routines. I share my own ADHD "rock bottom" and what shifted when I stopped chasing the "perfect planner" and instead worked with Paula to design flexible systems that actually fit my brain and my life. The conversation is equal parts personal insight and practical wisdom, offering you a candid look at why learning how your brain works is more powerful than any one productivity tool. Take Paula's What's Your Overwhelm Response Type? Quiz to find out what gets you in a state of overwhelm and how to help yourself out! Show Notes: Jen's Membership the Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off You Are A Lot Podcast Website Guest Show Notes: Paula Engebretson I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast Take Paula's Quiz "What's Your Overwhelm Response Type?" Take Paula's Course "Overwhelm To Action!" Paula's You Tube Channel

Sep 29

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: " What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD? " Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 3 of this three part series. In this episode the themes explored are systems and rituals around time tricks, sorting, and hyperfocus. SHOW NOTES You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN You Are A Lot Podcast Website SOURCES USED: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues

Sep 22

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: " What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD? " Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 2 of this three part series. In this episode the theme is the body-based side of ADHD and AuDHD—the textures we can't stand, the stims that keep us grounded, rituals around food, the need for symmetry, and all the little physical quirks that help us regulate. SHOW NOTES 'This Is A Lot' Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues

Sep 15

For the ad-free audio and video version of this episode - join me over on Patreon by clicking here for a 7-day-free trial. This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: " What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD? " Hundreds of responses came in. The traits or quirks that I read were hilarious, heartbreaking, and a lot were relatable to me. While these behaviors might sound random or odd, or overly specific to a neurotypical, they're loaded meaning once you understand how a neurodivergent brain works. This is part 1 of a three part series. In this episode the themes are having trouble with TV shows ending, wanting spoilers for books and movies, and an intolerance of awkward moments Show Notes: 'This Is A Lot' Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" You Are A Lot Podcast Website Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price Smart But Stuck by Thomas E Brown, PhD

Aug 25

In this Patreon Only episode: I give advice (and information backed by neuroscience and trauma informed experts) to a Patreon subscriber who wrote a question in the chat community. The themes in this question are so relatable to us ADHD/AuDHD humans like; feeling overwhelmed when we finally have time to ourselves, freezing when it's time to make a decision, struggling to know what we actually want in the short-term and long-term; feeling ashamed about all of that, and having trouble asking for help. SHOW NOTES: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off SOURCES USED: Dr. Russell Barkley - ADHD researcher and author Pete Walker - CPTSD expert/psychologist Dr. Sharon Saline Leanne Maskell – ADHD coach and author Dr. William Dodson – Psychiatrist and ADHD expert Psychology Today: "Why Some People With ADHD Refuse To Ask For Help" 20% Off Book: Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas E. Brown 20% Off Book: The ADHD Productivity Manual, by Ari Tuckman 20% Off Book: The Joy Reset: 6 Ways Trauma Steals Happiness & How To Win It Back by Mary Catherine McDonald, PhD 20% Off Book: Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff, PhD 20% Off Book: Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw

Aug 18

In this episode, I am talking about an article in Psychology Today called Why Autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School that shines a light on a new study that shows that schools place double emotional burdens on neurodivergent students. I talk about how so many of us were overlooked for diagnosis as kids and how our emotional needs weren't being met and how we carried that emotional neglect from the world into adulthood. This show exists because of my Patreon members — and I'm pushing hard to reach my first milestone: 750 subscribers by the end of the year. For $12/month (with a 7-day free trial), you'll get the video version, bonus episodes, and the satisfaction of knowing you're helping me keep creating. Click here to join. Show Notes: 'This Is A Lot' Resources: Sign up for my 'This Is A Lot' Newsletter: - sent every 10 days Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Why Autistic, ADHD and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School, Psychology Today

Aug 11

Autistic & AuDHD Humans Do Not "Understand" Hierarchy This month's Out From Behind The Paywall Episode is a Little Pod bonus episode that until today was on Patreon only. I'm talking about the AuDHD and Autistic tendency to not be motivated by social climbing and not wanting to cooperate with workplace hierarchies. I know what it's like to feel alone with your brain. That's why I make this show—and most of the deep-dive, honest stuff lives on Patreon. This episode is just a taste. If it helped you feel seen, come hang out with us. I'm giving listeners 50% off of their first month right now! You get bonus episodes, videos, and access to a private chat community where we all talk about our challenges being neurodivergent. Click this link https://www.patreon.com/c/ALOTADHDPOD to pay just $6 right now and use CODE C1782

Aug 4

In this episode: It's all about letting go of self-esteem as a goal. It's vague, unmeasurable, and often just makes things worse—especially for people with ADHD/AuDHD. But self-efficacy is EVERYTHING. Simply put: it's the realistic belief that you have the skills to do a task or handle a situation. Your self-efficacy can be improved (thanks to neuroplasticity) and there is irrefutable science and studies that support its life-changing results. I'll explain more about the findings on self-efficacy, how it works, and give you some ways to start focusing on your self-efficacy today so that you can start projects, and actually follow through. Let's go! SHOW NOTES "This is A Lot" Resources Sign up for my "This Is A Lot" Newsletter: sent every 10 days Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN Sources Why Self-Efficacy Is More Important Than Self-Esteem; YouTube Dr. Albert Bandura Quotes Self-Efficacy Theory Of Motivation Explained; YouTube Self-Efficacy and Agentic Positive Psychology Self-Efficacy And Why Believing In Yourself Matters; VeryWell Mind

Jul 28

In this episode: Most people don't associate ADHD with hope — but they should. This episode explores the science behind hope as a cognitive process. Drawing on research I look at how hope is built, how it functions in the brain, and how it can get eroded by chronic adversity — especially for people with ADHD and AuDHD. If you've been struggling with follow-through, feeling stuck, or wondering why things feel harder than they "should," this is an episode that explains why — and how you can cultivate hope! SHOW NOTES Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN SOURCES Build Resilience By Learning To Hope; ADDitude Magazine Promoting Hope in ADHD; Dr. Hallowell The Gift of Hope; Dig Coaching The Science And Power Of Hope; Dr. Chan Hellman

Jul 21

EPISODE 49: An ADHD Guide To Cortisol + 13 Tips To Lower Your Cortisol Levels In this episode: Exhaustion during the day, racing thoughts at night, sleep problems, anxiety, and unexplained inflammation can all be signs of a nervous system stuck in high-alert mode. While dopamine gets most of the attention in ADHD conversations, cortisol — the body's primary stress hormone — plays a major role in how energy, focus, and fatigue are regulated. High cortisol, not low, is often behind chronic stress patterns in people with ADHD and AuDHD. I give tips on how to interrupt your long-term stress loop in ways your nervous system can actually handle. SOURCES The Intersection of ADHD and Hormones, CHADD The WorkOut Witch The Complex PTSD Workbook SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

Jul 14

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a Little Pod Patreon only bonus episode that originally aired on June 22nd, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 8/1) OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: " And Just Like That" When A TV Show Fails ADHD" Permission to rant? Thank you. On this Little Pod which is available to Tier #1 and Tier #2, I'm criticizing the TV show "And Just Like That" for its bizarre portrayal of the ADHD medication shortage and how to handle a troubled teenager with ADHD. SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

Jul 7

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a full Patreon only episode that originally aired on May 18th, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 7/31) OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: "Future Fantasy Is Not A Plan" In this episode: Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. You Don't Lack "Follow Through" - Heidi Priebe, YouTube "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

Jun 17

In this episode: I unpack (get it?) what it means to travel as a neurodivergent person, especially when you've internalized a bunch of rigid "rules" about what travel is supposed to look like. For a long time, I thought travel had to mean a picture-perfect vacation, and I put pressure on myself to pack light, leave comforts behind, and plan for an idealized version of my destination—rather than the reality of my actual needs. Plus, I'm creating a digital course about neurodivergent travel, and your input can help me make sure I'm covering what actually matters to people like us. Send an email with your thoughts and experiences around travel to alotadhdpod at gmail dot com or call the "A Lot Line" and leave a voicemail (347) 674-2201. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. Offer expires June 30th, 2025. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community, and more! 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $ 50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201

Jun 9

In this episode: Have you ever felt completely frozen, staring at your project, knowing exactly what needs to get done — but physically unable to begin? It's not procrastination — it's ADHD Paralysis — and there are three kinds: mental paralysis, analysis paralysis, and task paralysis, all of which can lead to shutdowns. It's a neurological issue (executive functions not functioning) as well as an emotional one (a trauma response). Whether you're ADHD or AuDHD, this episode helps you understand that you don't need more willpower — you need more compassion. You're overwhelmed, and you deserve support. Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more! Take the ACE test here (Adverse Childhood Experiences) 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $ 50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Paralysis: Mental Health ADHD Paralysis is Real: ADDA What is ADHD Shutdown? Calm Understanding ADHD Paralysis: The Dorm Complex PTSD Pete Walker

Jun 2

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD shows up at work — from time blindness to burnout — and breaks down what your rights are under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). She walks you through real-world accommodations that can make a huge difference (including remote work), how to actually ask for them without overexplaining, and also rethinks the whole concept of why we even have to ask for things like this on our own in the first place. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Link to Bearaby for Knot Pillow, Lounger Warmable, Weighted Blankets 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why "Workplace Accommodations" Are Archaic - Lindsey Mackereth How People Can Ask For Accommodations At Work - ChADD How Protected Are People Under The ADA? - ADDitude Magazine The Trump Admin Demands Returning To Office Profile Of The 2023 Workforce Rights Under the ADA Explained - ACLU Signs Of A Neurodivergent Inclusive Workplace - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Accommodations At Work - The ADDA The ADHD Guide To Asserting Yourself Head Heart Hands Check-In Method

May 19

🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month's Patreon-only episode. ✔️ It is a must listen if you're feeling stuck with a life goal. That's why I'm offering a 🎉HUGE DISCOUNT! ✨ Click here to get 70% off of your first month of Patreon for all levels . (They're regularly only $3, $6, or $10 monthly anyway) Use code 38E07 at checkout. Offer ends 5/31/25. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. Click this link to join Patreon at 70% off of your first month and use CODE 38E07. Offer ends 5/31/25 SHOW NOTES: Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: You Don't Lack "Follow Through" - Heidi Priebe, YouTube

May 12

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she'd felt was "wrong" her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience Lindsey Mackereth Substack

Apr 28

In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled "Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?" Jen let's the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube

Apr 21

This week's episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode. In this episode: Ever heard of limerence ? It's not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I'm taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov's original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov "Love and Limerence" Book

Apr 14

In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I'll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? Are You A People Pleaser? ADHD & People Pleasing: What's The Correalation? Set Boundaries Find Peace

Mar 31

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. 👉 Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Jen's Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals Jen's Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks Jen's Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Jen's Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab

Mar 24

In this Jen Chat I talk about the origin of the term "Asperger's Syndrome" and why it's no longer used. The short answer: Nazis. I'm reading a book about Hans Asperger, the Austrian pediatrician who worked with the Nazis but claimed not to be one of them. To this day the idea of how "functioning" an autistic person is seems to be deeply and darkly rooted in only what their value to the workforce is - and not their value as a human being. Get 20% off of the book "Asperger's Children: The Origins Of Autism In Nazi Vienna" using my unique link to Bookshop dot org - a great website that buys from indie booksellers and helps them stay in business. SHOW NOTES: Use my unique link for 20% off books at Bookshop dot org . A great resource if you don't have an indie bookstore near you - and want your books mailed to you fast. Check out my lists of recommended mental health reading: Jen's Recommended ADHD Friendly Mental Health Books Jen's Recommended books/memoirs about ADHD Jen's Recommended books/memoirs about Audhd/Autism Jen's Recommended therapy books about love/relationship issues

Mar 18

EPISODE INFO: This week's episode is Patreon only but you can listen to it if you are one of the first 50 people to CLAIM YOUR FREE ONE MONTH to the Tier #2 of the "You Are A Lot" Podcast Patreon. Click here to claim! Patreon Only Episode 39: "Skeptical of Scams & Cults?" In this episode: In response to last week's episode about reasons why ADHD/AuDHD Humans sometimes have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM's and other sketchy setups - there is an equal and opposite argument that people with ADHD/AuDHD are actually MORE EQUIPPED to spot scams and avoid getting sucked into cults and sketchy situations. SHOW NOTES: Click here to claim your ONE FREE MONTH of Tier #2 Patreon Membership. Here is what you get with a Tier #2 Membership: ☕️AD-FREE EPISODES ☕️EARLY RELEASE ON SUNDAYS **** (Before the public release of on Mondays) ☕️IMAGE & CAPTION VIDEO VERSIONS OF EVERY EPISODE (for those who like to read along and look at things as they listen) ☕️MONTHLY PATREON ONLY BONUS EPISODE (with image & caption & transcript) ☕️DOWNLOADABLE PDF TRANSCRIPT OF EVERY EPISODE (edited by Jen, not AI so they're easy to read and all research highlighted - print them out and make your own ADHD book!) ☕️QUOTE GRAPHICS with ADHD facts (colorful, factual, downloadable and easy to share on your social media) ☕️ PRIVATE CHAT COMMUNITY with other neurodivergent members of this podcast Patreon

Mar 10

In this episode: Did you know that ADHD/AuDHD Humans have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM's and other sketchy setups? I explain why we are targets (hint: our impulsivity, need for community and outsider feelings) and talk about how to spot red flags. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, AMA's with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Hugimals 15% Off LInk Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Jen's Recommended Mental Health Books at 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Telehealth Company Accused Of Fraud Psychology Today: Phishing Email Fraud: The Search For Predictors Of Susceptibility Social Media Overwhelmed With Scams Media Matters: Tik Tok Enables Predatory ADHD Ads The Root Counseling: Multi-level Marketing Schemes Does ADHD Create Vulnerability To High Control Groups?

Feb 24

In this episode: Jen breaks down the ins and outs of PDA; Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. She chats about why even the simplest requests can feel like too much and how people with PDA handle those constant demands. Jen looks at the behaviors, challenges, and some ways to work on keeping a sense of autonomy even when triggered. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Mug Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Sticker Buy an "I Am A Lot" Tote Bag Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Defining Symptoms of PDA from PDA Society The discovery of PDA from Psychology Today Changing The Name To Pervasive Drive For Autonomy Dr. Megan Anna Neff on PDA vs. Neurodivergent Traits Causes of PDA on Neurosparkhealth website PDA in Adults from Psychology Today PDA Coping Strategies from PDA Society

Feb 17

In this episode: Jen answers a question from a listener regarding medication for ADHD. Jen gives researched information about what to discuss with your doctor such as; things to consider when doing trial and error with ADHD medication, the different types of medication available and what they do, how meds interact with various life situations, and why it's a more complex issue than a podcast is equipped to solve but luckily - Jen can give a LOT of sourced facts in one place that helps everyone know what they should be talking about with their prescriber. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community, and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 7 Day Free Patreon Trial Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: "You Are A Lot" Podcast Episode 14: ADHD & Estrogen ADHD Medication: ADDitude Magazine ADHD Medication Quick Facts: ChADD Organization

Feb 10

In this episode: Jen talks about the other side of masking which is unmasking! She explains how we can safely and consciously choose to un-mask, the risks for some of unmasking, and how we may find ourselves unconsciously unmasking as people around us say things like, "You're acting more ADHD/Autistic ever since your diagnosis." But it's not an act. It's our authentic selves coming through. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Mug Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Sticker Buy an "I Am A Lot" Tote Bag Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: What ADHD Masking Looks Like ADHD Masking: Does Hiding Your Symptoms Help Or Harm? Masking Is Life 7 Masks We Use To Hide Our Faults Why ADHD Masking Is A Form of Self-Sabotage Why Un-Masking In ADHD Can Help Us Unmasking As A Black Neurodivergent Employee

Jan 27

In this episode: Jen talks about the exhausting art of masking with ADHD and/or AuDHD. She explores why so many of us feel the need to mask (both consciously and unconsciously), what the very real consequences of masking are and when it benefits those of us with ADHD. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Mug Buy a "You Are A Lot" Podcast Sticker Buy an "I Am A Lot" Tote Bag Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: What ADHD Masking Looks Like ADHD Masking: Does Hiding Your Symptoms Help Or Harm? Masking Is Life 7 Masks We Use To Hide Our Faults Why ADHD Masking Is A Form of Self-Sabotage Why Un-Masking In ADHD Can Help Us Unmasking As A Black Neurodivergent Employee

Jan 20

In this episode: Did you know that people with ADHD/AuDHD are vulnerable to ending up in toxic relationships (of all kinds)? You are not broken and neither is your "picker". There is science behind this. It's due to our issues with communication, impulsivity, low self-esteem, and that old need for dopamine! This episode may make you feel sane and help your confusion as to how you got here - especially if you don't have any "big T" trauma in your upbringing. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 7 Day Free Patreon Trial Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Gaslighting Risk For Adults With ADHD Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative And Emotionally Abusive People Why Do Toxic Relationships Swallow People With ADHD? Autistic People Might Be More Susceptible To Abusive Romantic Relationships Alexithymia & Manipulation

Jan 13

In this episode: Jen explores the concept of Justice Sensitivity in people with ADHD and AuDHD. She explains why fairness and injustice can feel so intense for neurodivergent individuals and how these strong reactions shape everyday experiences and influence relationships, work, and personal well-being. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter Shop Jen's Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Shop Jen's Digital Download Guides For ADHD Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Fairness Imperative: Edge Foundation Why ADHD Brains Can't Ignore Unfairness: ADDitude Magazine Doomscrolling, ADHD & Justice Sensitivity: ADDept website Do People With ADHD Feel Injustice More? Focus UK Justice Sensitivity, Navigating Emotions & Actions: Focus Bear Paradoxical Career Strengths in ADHD Adults: Emerald Insight ADHD & An Unusual Sense Of Fairness: Untapped Brilliance Justice Sensitivity Plagues ADHD/AuDHD Individuals: Very Well Mind

Oct 7, 2024

In episode 31: Jen talks about the very real psychological issue of feeling like an imposter despite our accomplishments. While this can happen to neurotypicals as well, especially in a career context, ADHD humans walk around feeling this way consistently. We can feel like a secret failure at just LIFE itself, and since having ADHD erodes self-trust, we also feel like imposters if we don't seem "ADHD or AuDHD enough". - For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on TikTok SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: A Neuroscientific Exploration of Self-Doubt and Success How to Counteract Imposter Syndrome Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with ADHD All About Imposter Syndrome Overcoming Imposter Syndrome The 3 C's Model For Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Aug 26, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD humans can withdraw from friendships due to our "out of sight, out of mind" brains despite loving our friends and gives advice on how we can maintain our friendships. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Buddy System ADHD, Women & Emotional Withdrawal The ADHD Friendship Paradox ADHD "Out of Sight Out of Mind" Object Permanence

Aug 19, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the pros and cons of hyperfocus. Pro: In a hyperfocus we are working at our optimal ability. Con: Too much hyperfocus and we're neglecting our basic needs and the needs of people in our lives. Also, Jen talks about why she thinks that "flow" and "hyperfocus" are two different states of being. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Recovering From Hyperfocus Burnout (article) The Good, The Bad, The Ugly of Hyperfocus (article) Hyperfocus In Adults: Dr. Ned Hallowell Flow State VS. Hyperfocus (article)

Aug 12, 2024

This week: Jen talks about how being an ADHD Human comes with a lot of misunderstandings, from neurotypicals not understanding that ADHD traits aren't moral failings, to not being able to understand ourselves after being labeled as "lazy" or "rude" for so long, and how ADHD itself is misunderstood even by the people who have this neuro-developmental disorder. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast Patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! SHOW NOTES: Has ADHD Warped Your Sense Of Self? - ADDitude Magazine What Adult ADHD Feels Like - Psychology Today Communication Hacks For ADHD - WebMD SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Has ADHD Warped Your Sense Of Self? - ADDitude Magazine What Adult ADHD Feels Like - Psychology Today Communication Hacks For ADHD - WebMD

Jul 22, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the concept that ADHD Humans have an "Interest Based Nervous System" as opposed to Neurotypicals who have an "Importance Based Nervous System." Basically, ADHD Humans are not motivated by the fact that they know that something is important to them or someone else, but they are motivated by their interest in a project or task, the novelty of it all, whether it's a challenge or creates a competitive feeling and a sense of urgency. ADHD Humans have to figure out their own road map for their brains when they have to make something interesting that they're not interested in. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The ADHD Manual Secrets of the ADHD Brain - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Motivation Problems - ADDitude Magazine A Simple Framework To Hack Your Productivity - Medcircle

Jul 15, 2024

In this episode: Jen answers a listener's email about a philosophical crisis of self. Is our personality, our interests, our attitudes and sense of self just ADHD? How can we tell the difference? For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, a chat community and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast on Patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen

Jul 1, 2024

In this episode: Jen answers two listener emails about how to stop with the negative self-talk after failing to complete tasks and feeling overwhelmed, and how (and if) to tell a new boss that you have Rejection Sensitivity and might need future feedback to be more gentle. Listen to "YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) FREE on any podcast app. For bonus content join the podcast Patreon at $6.99 a month or 15% off annually. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK TO JOIN PATREON - http://patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod@gmail.com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Newly diagnosed with ADHD? Subscribe free to ADDitude Magazine online.

Jun 24, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the word "procrastivity" and why ADHD humans love to do every task other than what they set out to work on. And the problem of not even being able to get started due to what's known as "front end perfectionism" where the entire day goes by and we've spent it preparing to do our tasks or work - not by actually preparing anything related, but by "organizing" our space, and "getting ready to get ready. There will be some helpful tips in this episode about how to actually begin your project without procrastivity or perfectionism. Listen to "YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) FREE on any podcast app. For bonus content join the podcast Patreon at $6.99 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! If you sign up for one year you get 15% off. CLICK TO JOIN PATREON - http://patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: PROCRASTINATION QUIZ - ADDitude Magazine OUTSMART PROCRASTINATION & IMPROVE PRODUCTIVITY - You Tube 18 WAYS NOT TO PROCRASTINATE - Article on Healthline

Jun 17, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about how after just assuming that the "right" thing to do for ADHD is keeping her phone in FOCUS mode, leaving all notifications and alerts off - that she realized living that way is more overwhelming than allowing bleeps, bloops and on-screen banners to remind her of what she needs to get done. Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen

Jun 10, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about why ADHD people procrastinate (hint: the usual answers - lack of executive function and an impulsive need for dopamine) and how we must accept that we will continue to procrastinate, otherwise we'll live in a constant fantasy loop that tomorrow will be the day that I'm a person who doesn't procrastinate! Once we accept that we will procrastinate, we can then start to make changes in how we get things done, and how we decide what we really actually want to get done. For bonus content join the podcast Patreon at $6.99 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! If you sign up for one year you get 15% off. CLICK TO JOIN PATREON Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Relationship b/w ADHD & Procrastination (article) Very Well Mind website Procrastination Is An Emotional Problem (article) T he New York Times Why I Taught Myself To Procrastinate (article) Adam Grant Op-Ed NY Times

May 20, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the ADHD Human tendency to overshare by saying "inappropriate" things to people, not knowing we are talking too much or stopping, info dumping on someone, spilling other people's secrets, saying too much about ourselves even if we didn't mean to, or over-explaining ourselves and then the subsequent shame hangover after we realize that we overshared. Jen shares tips on how to not overshare in various social situations and how to accept and prep; we are lovable, warm people who will overshare again but we can prep for that inevitability. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Oversharing: The Social Traps …(Video) - Caroline Maguire Is Your ADHD Causing Social Slip Ups? (Article) - Dr. Ari Tuckerman ADHD & Oversharing (Article) - Understood.org How To Break Your Oversharing Habit (Article) - New U Therapy Center Oversharing…& RSD Induced Shame Afterward (Article) - ADDitude Magazine Disclosure: 5 Things Adult ADHD Want You To Know (Article) - ADHD Centre UK

May 13, 2024

In this episode: Jen tells a personal story about her latest attempt to get her ADHD medication prescription filled during this medication shortage and in a timely manner before she had to travel out of the country for work. This attempt included going to a pharmacy miles away and having to show a travel itinerary to prove that she wasn't lying about needing her medication by a certain date, and refused to fill the prescription in advance for pick-up, instead telling Jen that she needed to get there soon to beat the other ADHD customers who were having their prescriptions filled. You won't believe this one! For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen

Apr 29, 2024

This week: Jen talks about how middle-aged women are being diagnosed with ADHD in higher numbers due to their diagnosis being missed as children. And Jen talks about not realizing that she had ADHD as a child until she read Sari Solden's book that explains that girls go unnoticed and undiagnosed because their symptoms may not present as hyper-active or inattentive - leading them to become women who are confused and ashamed about why they're not fulfilling everyone's expectations - until they get diagnosed and "unmask". Jen talks about how middle-aged women are being diagnosed with ADHD in higher numbers due to their diagnosis being missed as children. And Jen talks about not realizing that she had ADHD as a child until she read Sari Solden's book that explains that girls go unnoticed and undiagnosed because their symptoms may not present as hyper-active or inattentive - leading them to become women who are confused and ashamed about why they're not fulfilling everyone's expectations - until they get diagnosed and "unmask". For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: WOMEN WITH ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER (book) by Sari Solden

Apr 22, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about a scientific study published in early 2024 that found that early humans with ADHD-like tendencies (impulsivity, an urge for risk taking, and an inability to stay still for too long) are a big reason why our species not only survived but developed certain levels of survival intelligence. In hunter-gatherer societies, ADHD brains flourished and evolved as opposed to the modern world where having ADHD is seen as a disadvantage. Jen also talks about the Survivor contestant who was voted off because of her ADHD. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Might Have Been An Evolutionary Advantage (article) - The Guardian ADHD/Hyperactive Hunger-Gatherers (article) - Heathline The Evolution of Cognitive Diversity (study) - National Library of Medicine Attention Deficits Linked With Proclivity to Forage (study) - Proceedings of the Royal Society B

Apr 8, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the complex and interesting history of ADHD. The symptoms were recognized as a condition since the 1800's but was seen as a moral failing in children, it was then recognized as a physiological brain problem in children in the 1900's, stimulant medications began to be used as treatment in the 1960's but by the 1970's there was backlash, and in the 1990's many organizations and clinicians refused to validate that the emerging diagnosis of Adult ADHD even existed. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Controversy That Was Adult ADHD (Article) - ADDitude Magazine The Evolution of ADHD (Article) - ADDitude Magazine What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't? (Book) - Dr. MIchele Novotni The History Of ADHD And It's Treatments (Article) - ADDitude Magazine The Early History Of ADJD (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley

Apr 1, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about how there is so much more to time management than actually completing to-do lists, or finding the perfect productivity method. Instead, Jen talks about how when we think we are trying to make a schedule, we may be unconsciously trying to master time itself, which can't be done. And that deep at the heart of trying to get to 'inbox zero' before tackling what actually matters to us, is just a fear of failure and an existential angst about our finite amount of time in life. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: 4,000 Weeks: Time Management For Mortals (book) - Oliver Burkeman

Mar 25, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about how the DSM (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is failing people with ADHD because the diagnosis criteria is incomplete. The DSM-5 overemphasizes mythologized symptoms, and doesn't list emotional regulation issues which are at the core of executive dysfunction. This can prevent people with ADHD from being diagnosed and getting the treatment that they need to function in a neurotypical world. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Is A Whole Life Experience (Article) - ADDitude Magazine The DSM Fails ADHD (Article) - ADDitude Magazine Emotions And The DSM (Article) - CHADD Org (Children/Adults with ADD) Why Emotion Needs To Go Back In The DSM (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley Emotional Issues Left Out Of the DSM (Article) - Dr. Russell Barkley

Mar 11, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the very real ways that estrogen levels affect ADHD positively and negatively due to the relationship between Estrogen and our executive functions during a menstrual cycle, pregnancy, post-partum depression, peri-menopause and menopause. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Hormonal Fluctuations & ADHD (Video) - Dr. Jeanette Wasserstein Menopause & ADHD: How Estrogen Impacts (Video) - Dr. Jeanette Wasserstein PMDD, Postpartum More Severe With ADHD (Study) - ADDitude Magazine

Mar 4, 2024

In this episode: Jen helps everyone get their facts straight about ADHD and debunks the "alternative facts" that are out there such as: ADHD is not a real medical issue, everyone has ADHD, ADHD is overdiagnosed, and taking ADHD medication is dangerous and addictive. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: "… Myth That Those With ADHD Need To Change" (Article) - ADDITUDE MAG 9 Myths That Perpetuate ADHD Stigma (Article) - ADDITUDE MAG ADHD Myths & Misunderstandings (Article) - CHADD ORG 7 Common Myths About ADHD (Video) - DR. TRACEY MARKS YOU TUBE ADHD Is Not 'Overdiagnosed' (Article) THE CONVERSATION WEBSITE

Feb 26, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about the similarities on the surface between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and ADHD but breaks down the major differences between the neurological developmental disorder (ADHD) and the personality disorder (NPD). For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD & NPD: How Similar Are They? (Article) - Psych Central The Complex Relationship b/w ADHD & Personality Disorders (Article) - Medium Know The Differences: ADHD & Narcissism (Article) - Psychology Today Correlations b/w ADHD & Narcissism (Medical Review) - Choosing Therapy

Feb 19, 2024

This week: Jen talks about the little known flip-side of Rejection Sensitivity known as Recognition Response Euphoria (RRE) coined by Dr. Ned Hallowell. RRE is a euphoric and motivating feeling experienced by an ADHD-er who has been praised or encouraged - and how this is an important part of combating despair and maintaining resilience as a neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Flip Side of ADHD RSD: Energy & Motivation (Video) - Dr. Ned Hallowell Divergent Psychology - Article The Default Mode Network & ADHD - LA Concierge Psychologist Recognition Response Euphoria (RRE) - Dr. Ned Hallowell Dr. John Ratey Website Dr. Ned Hallowell Website

Feb 5, 2024

This week: Jen talks about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. RSD affects 98% people with ADHD and is an intense emotional response caused by the perception that we've disappointed others in our life and will now be rejected, abandoned, unloved as a consequence. Jen talks about how RSD feels in her body and reads lots of comments from her listeners about they experience RSD. This episode will help you feel less alone! For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Defining Features of ADHD That Get Overlooked (Video) - Dr. William Dodson An ADHD Guide to RSD (Video) - Dr. William Dodson Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria - ADDitude Magazine Understanding RSD Download - ADDitude Magazine RSD Coping Strategies Toolkit - ADDitude Magazine Overview of RSD - Cleveland Clinic

Jan 29, 2024

This week: Jen talks about scientific studies on the links between ADHD and trauma. ADHD is not caused by childhood trauma but having ADHD in childhood can cause trauma which changes the chemistry of the brain. It's complex, nuanced and a great example of "correlation does not equal causation." For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Adult ADHD & Trauma. Is There A Link? - Psychology Today The Link Between ADHD & Trauma - Medical News Today Why Gabor Mate is Wrong About ADHD & Trauma (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley Childhood Trauma & ADHD - ADDitude Magazine ADHD & Trauma: Symptoms & Treatments - ADDitude Magazine

Jan 22, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks provides some expert methods to handle intense emotions. Topics include - building emotional resiliency, naming feelings, how to interrupt a possible blowup, and working with your ADHD nervous system. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK HERE to leave a five-star review for this podcast CLICK HERE for more ways to listen to the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the " YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) webpage For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Deficient Emotional Self Regulation (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley Build Your Emotional Resilience (Video) - Dr. Tamara Rosier Coping with Anxiety & Adult ADHD (Video) - Dr. Russell Ramsay 15 Ways to Disarm & Understand ADHD Emotions - ADDitude Magazine Coping With Heightened Emotions - Psychology Today The Feelings Wheel

Jan 15, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about her personal experience with being emotionally intense and lashing out without understanding what was going on in her brain. Jen explains the science behind the ADHD brain and how/why neurodivergent brains get flooded, experience meltdowns, shutdowns, sadness, low self-esteem, getting carried away with emotion and not being able to tolerate feeling many emotions at once. Also explained: how emotions filter through a neurotypical brain and how they get jammed up in a filterless ADHD brain. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. William Dodson You Tube - Overlooked Symptoms of ADHD Dr. Russell Barkley You Tube - Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation ADHD Aware Magazine - Emotions & ADHD ADDitude Magazine: Exaggerated Emotions - How ADHD Triggers Intensity CHADD Website - Emotions Too Much? Could Be ADHD VeryWellMind Website - Understanding Hypersensitivity in ADHD Addept (Thriving With ADHD) Website - Emotional Flooding

Jan 8, 2024

In this episode: Jen gives her thoughts on what to do once you think you might have ADHD from how to get a diagnosis, shop for a therapist or psychiatrist or coach, and how to advocate for yourself when supposed professionals aren't that up-to-speed on the most current ADHD findings. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK HERE to leave a five-star review for this podcast CLICK HERE for more ways to listen to the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the " YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) webpage For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: FOCUSED ADHD COACHING - with Kristen Carder PSYCH CENTRAL - How To Get An ADHD Diagnosis CHADD - Contact An ADHD Specialist ADD.ORG - Finding an ADHD Coach PSYCHOLOGY TODAY - Find a Psychiatrist or Therapist DR. RUSSELL BARKLEY VIDEO - How To Treat ADHD ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Assessing an ADHD Clinician ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Find an ADHD Clinic ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Who Can Diagnose ADHD? ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Self Diagnose Test for Inattentive ADHD ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Self Diagnose ADD Test for Women HELP GUIDE - ADHD Medications for Adults & Children

Jan 1, 2024

In this episode: Jen talks about how New Year's Resolutions don't work with her ADHD, gives advice on how NOT to make resolutions, how not to set yourself up to fail, get out of fantasy and accept yourself, and rethinking how to see your year ahead. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: CHADD WEBSITE - Pick A New Year's Theme Instead ADDEPT WEBSITE - Resolution Strategies for ADHD Brains

Dec 18, 2023

This week: Jen imparts wisdom from her research written by ADHD experts about the ADHD Iceberg, symptoms and types of ADHD, the definition of executive functions, what it looks like for an ADHD person with executive dysfunction, why ADHD is known as the "invisible disorder" and not functioning well in a neurotypical world. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: PSYCH CENTRAL - The ADHD Iceberg ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - ADHD Symptoms Checklist ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - What Is Executive Dysfunction? DR. RUSSELL BARKLEY - Making The Invisible Visible DR. RUSSELL BARKLEY - ADHD Major Characteristics ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Dr. William Dodson on the Curvilinear Mind ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Living in a Neurotypical World

Dec 11, 2023

In this episode: Jen talks about how she was a chronic plans canceler until she realized that this came from her lack of executive functioning around keeping a schedule and with some simple (but not easy for the ADHD person) readjustments to how she organizes her time - she's become someone who builds in time for the ADHD collapse ad avoids canceling on friends. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "YOU ARE A LOT" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: DR. RUSSELL BARKLEY VIDEO - "ADHD is time blindness" PSYCH CENTRAL - Why Are People With ADHD Bad At Planning Ahead?

Dec 4, 2023

In this episode: Jen talks about those weird things that she always thought were personality quirks or flaws but are actually very common ADHD traits like sitting on the floor, re-heating coffee all day long, sitting in strange positions in chairs, an existential dread about laundry and more! For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: WOMEN WITH ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER (book), author Sari Golden MS, LMFT TOTALLY ADD WEBSITE - ADHD and Overwhelm . I'm Behind In So Many Things! ADDEPT WEBSITE - How To Reduce Overwhelm With An ADHD Brain CHADD WEBSITE - When Emotions Overwhelm You SELF-REG (book) , author Stuart Shanker WEBMD - Progressive Muscle Relaxation PSYCHOLOGY TODAY - Perfectionism

Dec 4, 2023

Jen talks about how the nagging feeling of being overwhelmed brought her to an ADHD diagnosis. Jen also discusses: the difference between actually having too much to do and the phantom feeling of overwhelm which can't be solved with a to-do list and how to cope with overwhelm. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: WOMEN WITH ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER (book), author Sari Golden MS, LMFT TOTALLY ADD WEBSITE - ADHD and Overwhelm . I'm Behind In So Many Things! ADDEPT WEBSITE - How To Reduce Overwhelm With An ADHD Brain CHADD WEBSITE - When Emotions Overwhelm You SELF-REG (book) , author Stuart Shanker WEBMD - Progressive Muscle Relaxation PSYCHOLOGY TODAY - Perfectionism