Sex Chat for Christian Wives

We answer listener questions about the struggle of having sexual intimacy after miscarriage, grieving the long lack of intimacy, whether a wife should self-pleasure after her husband's betrayal shut down sex, and how to maintain sexual intimacy with adult kids living at home. Sponsor Join podcast co-host J. Parker and Brad & Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network for a 7-day cruise starting Valentine's Day 2027! Click HERE to learn more about this opportunity to sail to better intimacy. From the Bible The Message Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 7:3–6: Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. Resources The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker Episode 255: When Same-Sex Arousal Enters Marriage, with Vicki Tiede Better Help Therapy Network Studying the Psalms: Lament — InspiritEncourage Episode 116: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (1/2) - HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Episod

This week's quickie is from J Parker about quality vs. frequency. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Which sex research conclusions can we trust, especially as believers? In this second of a two-part series, we discuss sex research with licensed psychologist, college professor, and certified Christian sex therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese. Sponsor/Special Request Regent University's Cherish research team invites married adult women to take part in an important study on women's thoughts and feelings around their sexual experience. Participation involves completing a confidential 20-minute online survey. Your privacy will be fully respected and you may choose to opt out at any point; if you choose to participate, more information will be given with regard to informed consent. Your responses will help shed light on an area of women's health that is often underrepresented in research. By joining, you will be contributing to meaningful insights that can improve awareness, resources, and future care for women. Your voice matters, and your voluntary participation can make a real difference. Click HERE to participate. Please contact [email protected] if you have any questions. From the Bible Now the Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. Acts 17:11 But they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die. Revelation 12:11 (NET) Resources White Stones Podcast with Dr. Jessica McCleese Jessica McCleese, Psy.D. | Regent University How to Read a Marriage Book - Hot, Holy & Humorous Psychologists map out the pathways connecting sacred beliefs to better sex | PsyPost (just one study of several on sexual sanctification) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with three ways to sexually surprise your husband. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

How did we come to research sex, and how reliable are the studies out there? In this first of a two-part series, we discuss sex research with licensed psychologist, college professor, and certified Christian sex therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7 Resources Jessica McCleese, Psy.D. | Regent University The Perks and Pitfalls of Sex Research - Hot, Holy & Humorous National Survey of Men for For Women Only - Shaunti Feldhahn Correlation of Nicolas Cage movies and drowning deaths in US - TylerVigen.com Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate <a href= "https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=LHBGP4UPL4T3J"

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns is for mothers of young children who feel all touched out.. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Should you talk to others about your sex life? When? Who? How? We have all hands on deck—Bonny, Chris & J—to tackle that subject. Sponsor Get matched to the right therapy for you with Better Help! And with our link, get 10% off your first month. From the Bible The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9 Resources Episode 87: How to Talk to Friends About Sex Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: <a href="ht

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the importance of being connected to your own body and how it can lead to authenticity and pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

For many women, the body feels more like a battleground than a home. Jenn Schmidt of Intimate Covenant joins us to discuss how to make true peace with our bodies. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25 This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." Matthew 22:38-40 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Matthew 5:9 Resources Intimate Covenant website Intimate Covenant 9th Annual Marriage Retreat Body Image Got You Down? | The Forgiven Wife Body Image: Why Are We So Hard on Ourselves? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Reasons to Embrace the Body You Have - Hot, Holy & Humorous Body Awareness • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 111: Accepting Your Body Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on <a href= "https://www.patreon.com/c/ForChristianWives" target="_blank" rel= "noopener nor

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with some ideas on incorporating moments of role playing into your lovemaking. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Pelvic floor therapist Dr. Jaclyn Napier joins us to discuss male sexual dysfunction—what it is, how to address it, and what practices might prevent it for those not experiencing it yet. Sponsor / Special Request Regent University's Cherish research team invites married adult women to take part in an important study on women's thoughts and feelings around their sexual experience. Participation involves completing a confidential 20-minute online survey. Your privacy will be fully respected and you may choose to opt out at any point; if you choose to participate, more information will be given with regard to informed consent. Your responses will help shed light on an area of women's health that is often underrepresented in research. By joining, you will be contributing to meaningful insights that can improve awareness, resources, and future care for women. Your voice matters, and your voluntary participation can make a real difference. Click or scan below. Please contact [email protected] if you have any questions. Take the survey HERE. From the Bible Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 3 John 1:2 Resources Dr. Jaclyn Napier's Practice: The Source Pelvis Health and Wellness Reclaiming Sex and Intimacy After Prostate Cancer: A Guide for Men and Their Partners by Jeffrey Albaugh Androgen Deprivation Therapy: An Essential Guide for Prostate Cancer Patients and Their Loved Ones by Richard J. Wassersug Robinson The Biggest Challenge to My Sex Life (That I Never Told You About) - Hot, Holy & Humorous (about having a husband with insulin-dependent diabetes) ScreamingO Dynamo Ejaculation Delay Spray - Married Dance Durex Performax Condoms with Delay Lubricant - Amazo n Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Episode 239: Pursuing Pain-Free Intimacy <

This week's quickie is from J. Parker with four more differences between what you see on the screen and what happens in the sheets. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Stress can follow you into your marriage bed, shaping desire and connection. We unpack how it disrupts intimacy and what to do. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 Resources Episode 4: Stress and Sex 3 Questions that Can Reduce Stress and Increase Calm in Your Life – CalmHealthySexy How Do You Respond to Stress in Your Marriage – The Forgiven Wife Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress in Your Life and Marriage – CalmHealthySexy De-Stress to Improve Libido – OysterBed 7 How Does Stress Affect Your Marriage – The Forgiven Wife 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Are We Having Less Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for anot

This week's quickie is from J Parker with four differences between what you see on the screen and what happens in the sheets. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

What does sex that isn't mostly about orgasm look like? What does it mean to really savor your lovemaking? Slide your chair up to our (bistro) table this week and let's discuss! Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. Hosea 2:19 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Psalm 127:3 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10 (ESV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 254: From Passion to Connection (Quickie) Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling | The Gottman Institute Couples Recovery and FANOS Check-in – Bethesda Workshops <a href= "https:

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with a tip to restore emotional connection and strengthen sexual intimacy. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

With special guest Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage, we tackle listener questions about erectile dysfunction, moving during sex, and feeling semiconscious after orgasm. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. Job 31:1 I will conduct the affairs of my house with a blameless heart. I will not look with approval on anything that is vile. Psalm 103:2b–3a You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:14–15 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5 The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! Song of Songs 5:1 (HCSB) Resources Intimacy In Marriage - Julie Sibert's site 10 Symptoms of Porn Addiction Withdrawal (And How to Manage Them) | Covenant Eyes Episode 154: Why We're Against Porn and Erotica The Samson Society The Sarah Society Strong Wives - Coaching with Bonny Burns <li class="MsoNo

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about dealing with nonsexual baggage that affects your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Related Posts Check Your Luggage | The Forgiven Wife Unbearable Lessons | The Forgiven Wife

With Chris, Bonny, and J all here, we address the ways sex can change due to aging, how you can respond, and what younger listeners can do to prepare for age-related changes. Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding? Job 12:12 Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you. Isaiah 46:4 Resources Episode 4: Stress and Sex (note: the audio quality of our early episodes was not as good) Help For Vaginal Dryness • Bonny's Oysterbed7 An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction (Plus 5 Tips!) | The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? | The Forgiven Wife Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 231: Choosing a Lube (Quickie) Cold-pressed, Virgin Coconut Oil | Amazon Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid | Married Dance Good Clean Love BioNude Ultra Sensitive Personal Lubricant | Amazon A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife <a href= "https://hotholyhumorous.com/2011/07/07/getting-

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the benefits of hugging in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

With special guest Vicki Tiede, we address a reality for some Christian heterosexual marriages, same-sex arousal or attraction. What does it mean? And what can you do? Sponsors Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:6–8 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 Resources Life Renovation Counseling & Coaching - Mike & Vicki Tiede Courageous Hearts Group w/Vicki Tiede When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart by Vicki Tiede Sexual Clarity for Christian Women w/Bonny Burns Same-Sex Attraction—Confusion To Clarity (free download from Vicki) Are We Naturally Monogamous? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Thanks for joining us at t

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about shifting your focus from passion to connection. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Francie Winslow, of Female by Design, joins us today to talk about why and how you should prioritize kissing in your marriage. Special Request Regent University's Cherish research team invites married adult women to take part in an important study on women's thoughts and feelings around their sexual experience. Participation involves completing a confidential 20-minute online survey. Your privacy will be fully respected and you may choose to opt out at any point; if you choose to participate, more information will be given with regard to informed consent. Your responses will help shed light on an area of women's health that is often underrepresented in research. By joining, you will be contributing to meaningful insights that can improve awareness, resources, and future care for women. Your voice matters, and your voluntary participation can make a real difference. Click or scan below. Please contact [email protected] if you have any questions. Take the 20-minute survey by clicking HERE or scanning below. Sponsor Our Sexual Desire Differences masterclass guides you through what a desire difference looks like in marriage, why it happens, and how to navigate it with grace, understanding, and practical tools. All for only $25! Buy the masterclass or learn more HERE. From the Bible Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Greet one another with a holy kiss. 2 Corinthians 13:12 Resources Francie Winslow's website Female by Design Podcast — Francie Winslow Why Kissing Matters in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Kissing in marital and cohabiting relationships: Effects on blood lipids, stress, and relationship satisfaction. An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust - The Gottman Institute <a href= "https://forchristianwives.com/episode-243-sex-is-for-you-too-t

This week's quickie is from J Parker with five ways you can let your husband know you enjoy sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Many wives have heard that men think about sex nearly all the time. But do they? We tackle this important question, because it influences what we think about men, sexuality, and challenges in our marriage. Sponsor Through story-centered counseling and coaching for individuals and couples, Aldrich Ministries helps you move beyond surface solutions into real healing and lasting change. Check them out! From the Bible Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. Romans 8:5 You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:22–24 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 Resources Sexual Morality by C.S. Lewis Doodle (BBC Talk 14) - reading and visual representation of Mere Christianity chapter that talks about sexual starvation or gluttony Study Debunks Stereotype That Men Think About Sex All Day Long Should You Be Reading My Blog? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 104: How Often Should You Have Sex? How Often Do Men Think About The Roman Empire? A Lot, According To New TikTok Trend The Higher Desire Wife by J. Parker Masterclass: Sexual Desire Differences Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on <a href= "http

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about what to do when your bedroom is a little boring. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Related post: 5 Ways to Work on Your Sex Life without Having to Add Spice - The Forgiven Wife

We've often said that the Bible has a lot to say about sexuality. But which passages made a big difference in our lives? Bonny, J, and Chris start off the new year discussing Bible verses that helped our sexual growth. Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9–11 I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven. Whether it was in the body or out of the body I do not know—God knows. And I know that this man—whether in the body or apart from the body I do not know, but God knows— was caught up to paradise and heard inexpressible things, things that no one is permitted to tell. I will boast about a man like that, but I will not boast about myself, except about my weaknesses. Even if I should choose to boast, I would not be a fool, because I would be speaking the truth. But I refrain, so no one will think more of me than is warranted by what I do or say, or because of these surpassingly great revelations. Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:2–10 Create in me a clean heart, O God And renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (KJV) The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of bea

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about setting goals for healthy, God-designed sexuality in 2026 and beyond. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Related post: My One Word for 2026 & Other Ways to Set Goals - Hot, Holy & Humorous *** We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

As usual, we're wrapping up the year with our annual Christmas gift guide. We're joined by friend and supporter Linda Thwing (pronounced twing) as we share ideas that can deepen your intimacy in four areas: physical, intellectual/creative, emotional, and spiritual. Sponsor Married Dance is a Christian-friendly sex toy store, with a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment; discreet billing and shipping; and fast, free shipping on orders >$100. Save 13% during their Black Friday Sale with coupon code BF25! From the Bible Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Psalm 19:1 Drawing straws is one way to settle a difficult case. Proverbs 18:18 (CEV) (other translations replace "drawing straws" with "casting lots" or even "casting dice" I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Ephesians 3:16–19 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. John 3:16 The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and faith. Galatians 5:22 (HCSB) Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 With God, all things are possible. Matthew 19:26b Gift Links Physical Intimacy Deep Tissue Muscle Massager | Amazon Intimate Earth Relax Massage Oil | Married Dance Candle Warmer (that can be used to warm up coconut oil or massage oil )| Amazon Intellectual/Creative Intimacy Personalized Wooden US National Parks Map Checklist Wall Decor | Amazon 1000-Piece Jigsaw Puzzle of Two Chairs on Beach (romanti

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with tips on how to de-stress the holidays for your own sake and for your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns  Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor  Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today, we're tackling some tough listener questions. We're joined by Tara Buchanan, good friend and cohost of the Behind Our Smiles podcast. Sponsor It's here! Order the Sexual Desire Differences Masterclass and get the video, a resource list, and an invitation to participate in tonight's (Thursday, November 13, 2025) Live Q male and female he created them. Genesis 1:17 And the Lord God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die." Genesis 2:16–17 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened....Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another....Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Romans 1:21,24, 26–27 Resources Behind Our Smiles Podcast, with Tara & Joe Buchanan Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health <a href= "https://

What a treat today! Gaye Christmus, our former cohost, shares five practical ways to feel more sensual. Be sure to check out her Healthy Life Toolbox website and shop. ________ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns  Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor  Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today, we're highlighting one of our favorite episodes ever! Featuring the OG gang, we address that sex is for wives too and how to embrace it! Sponsor Mismatched desire in your marriage? Let's talk about what it means, why it happens, and how to grow closer through it. Sign up for our new masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences today! From the Bible Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love. Song of Songs 5:18 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:11-13 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32 Resources You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too – CalmHealthySexy Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husbands? – The Forgiven Wife What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy – The Forgiven Wife Why "10 Minutes and Lube" Is Horrible Advice – The Forgiven Wife How Not to Think About Sex – The Forgiven Wife Learn What You Like in Bed – The Forgiven Wife Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality – The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Sexual Desire – Honeycomb & Spice <a href= "h

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about how to kiss more often in your marriage and improve the experience!   Resources Why Kissing Matters in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Kisses You Need to Master - Hot, Holy & Humorous _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today we're diving into how our personal stories shape our sexuality and our experiences with sex. Joining Bonny and J for this important conversation is Kate Aldrich, a marriage coach and mentor with an emphasis on Story Work. Sponsor Want to advertise with us? We're specifically looking for women-owned businesses who'd like to get the word out to our many listeners. You can find out more HERE. From the Bible For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. Psalm 139:13–14 I meditate on your precepts     and consider your ways. Psalm 119:15 [Hagar] gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me." Genesis 16:13 Resources Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network Still Becoming One - Kate & Brad's podcast Episode 74: Getting Comfortable with Your Body Episode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about the benefits of kissing to both you and your marriage.  _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Jess Seitz, occupational therapist and vaginismus recovery specialist, of Pain-Free Intimacy joins us to talk about how wives can address sexual pain they currently have or may have in the future. Sponsor Better Help can match you to the right therapist for you. Get 10% off your first month with our discount code. Just head to https://betterhelp.com/4CW. From the Bible Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. Psalm 139:14 (HCSB) I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13 (the verse J couldn't think of in the moment!) "I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten— the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the Lord your God, who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed." Joel 2:25–26 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Resources Jess's website, Pain-Free Intimacy Contact Jess for personal coaching Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Foreplay – Webinar Shop for Lube at a Christian-based Marital Aid Store | Married Dance How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too <li class="MsoNormal

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about how to start praying about the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! _________ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

With J out, Chris and Bonny tackle what they wish they'd known about their own sexuality long ago. Learn from their hard-earned insights! Sponsor Get matched the right therapist for you wish Better Help! And with our special link, get 10% off your first month.  From the Bible The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge,     for the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15 Resources What I Wish He Knew . . . | The Forgiven Wife Episode 195: Explaining Women's Sexual Response Episode 175: Seasoned Wives' Wisdom for Young Wives Episode 32: Advice for Our Newlywed Selves Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - STILL ONLY $5 (but price going up soon) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns <a class="c-link" href="

This week's quickie is from J Parker about The Golden Trio (hint: it's about helping women have orgasms, or better orgasms!) Here are a couple additional resources for you: Its Choicest Fruits | The Forgiven Wife Of Garden, Fragrance, and Fruit | The Forgiven Wife Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

Tara Buchanan of the Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast joins us to talk about the impact of childhood trauma—big T and little t—on sex in marriage and how to help your husband heal. Sponsor Better Help can help you connect with the right therapist. Use our special link and get 10% off your first month: https://www.betterhelp.com/4cw From the Bible The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18 Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me. Psalm 27:10 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. Matthew 9:35 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 Resources Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast Behind Our Smiles website Episode 216: When She Wants Sex More - Sex Chat for Christian Wives w/Tara's first appearance on our show! Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse: One Powerful Story - Hot, Holy & Humorous How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives Strong Wives - Bonny's coaching site The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health <li class="MsoNormal

We've had some unexpected challenges! Take a listen. PREORDER THE MASTERCLASS HERE! Only $25. From the Bible We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 (NLT)   Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

We tackle listener questions today from a wife who doesn't even want to want sex, a woman wanting to know how to prepare for her wedding night and marriage, and a wife who can't seem to get all the way there with orgasm. Sponsor Mismatched desire in your marriage? Let's talk about what it means, why it happens, and how to grow closer through it. Sign up for our new masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences today! From the Bible That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 Resources Episode 209: Pursuing Sexual Growth Intimacy Mentoring - Honeycomb & Spice Email Chris about Intimacy Mentoring Episode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It? Build True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time by Dan Drake, Joanna Raabsmith, and Matthew Raabsmith The Intimacy Pyramid Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships by Dr. Carol Tanksley Why Isn't Sex Like What You See

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about measuring sexual growth. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

Today, we talk about how social media influences our view of sex, both good and bad, and how to be more intentional with our engagement. Sponsor Mismatched desire in your marriage? Let's talk about what it means, why it happens, and how to grow closer through it. Sign up for our new masterclass today! Sexual Desire Differences - Sex Chat for Christian Wives From the Bible You say, 'I have the right to do anything.' But not everything is helpful. Again you say, 'I have the right to do anything.' But not everything builds us up." 1 Corinthians 10:23 (NLT) Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18 "But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned." Matthew 12:36–37 Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:6 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. James 3:9–10 "I have the right to do anything," you say—but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"—but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12 Resources For Christian Wives Facebook Page Strong Wives Facebook Page Strong Wives Instagram Page Honeycomb & Spice Facebook Page Hot, Holy & Humorous Facebook Page Hot, Holy & Humorous Instagram Page Do You Check Your Phone During Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous <a href= "https://hotholyhumorous.com/2019/10

This week's quickie is from J Parker about choosing a lubricant for sexual intimacy. A few lube recommendations: Sliquid Organics Natural Water-Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance Swiss Navy Premium Silicone Based Lubricant  | Amazon Aloe Cadabra Organic Personal Lubricant | Married Dance (water-based) Sliquid Naturals Silver Silicone Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance Sliquid Swirl Flavored Lube (they have a lot of flavors, but this variety pack is a good starting place) | Amazon Jo Flavored Lube (taste a little like Jolly Ranchers) | Amazon Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubes | Amazon Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We welcome back former cohost and fan favorite Gaye Christmus to talk about fostering intimacy in your marriage during the summer months—both the challenges and the opportunities. Sponsor Does your husband want sex more than you do? Or are you the one who is more interested? Preorder Sexual Desire Differences: Understanding and Navigating a Mismatch in the Sheets now! The masterclass will arrive on or around July 1, 2025. From the Bible It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth; you made both summer and winter. Psalm 74:17 Resources The Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye Christmus's active website 10 Ways to Actually Relax and Enjoy Your Summer Vacation | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways "Hotel Sex" Can Boost Your Marriage | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 29 Fun and Sexy Things to Do with Your Spouse this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. SEX and the BEACH • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Portable Outdoor Blanket with Waterproof/Sandproof Bottom | Amazon 10 Ways to Keep Cool While Heating It Up This Summer - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Do Children Need This Summer (It May Not Be What You Think!) | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Worship the Lord. Make Love with Your Spouse. – Intimacy in Marriage (Julie Siber

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about decorating yourself for sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

On this podcast, we're not focused on just having sex. We want wives to experience great sex. But how do we define that? Today, we're diving into what makes for great sex in marriage and how to get there. Sponsor Get 25% off any Share the Soap lotion or hydrosol in the month of June with our coupon code: FCWSummer. Let soothing touch and scents for your sheets spark deeper connection. Turn bedtime into bonding time with Share the Soap massage lotions and hydrosols. And preorder our new Table Talk Masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences: Understanding and Navigating a Mismatch in the Sheets NOW! Dropping on or around July 1, 2025. From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 1 Peter 3:3–4 I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. 1 Timothy 2:1–2 (just a comparison of the same word in Greek translated quiet, also translated sometimes as tranquil) Resources Episode 195: Explaining Women's Sexual Response Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (only $5 for a limited time!) Be His Porn Star? Here's the Problem... | Intimacy in Marriage (Bonny thought it was J, but it's from the other Julie!) He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. • Bonny's Oysterbed7 <a href= "https://hotholyhumorous.com/2023/02/20/love-and-sex-in-marria

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with the last of her kegels series about connecting with your body after trauma. You can find the first two quickies of the series here: Episode 215: Kegels and Sexual Pleasure (Quickie) Episode 219: Kegels and Climax (Quickie) Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.