Episodes

6d ago

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the holiday season and the tradition of setting three words to guide the upcoming year. We also dive into a listener's email regarding her husband's erectile dysfunction, exploring the complexities of control in relationships, the impact of stress, and the importance of reframing sexual intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-improvement and honest communication in navigating relationship dynamics, particularly in the context of sexual health and emotional connection. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We talk through what an honest one-way conversation about this dynamic in her marriage would look like. Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Husband’s ED #759 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 10

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual relationships within marriage, particularly focusing on the idea of sex as a reward system. We explore the potential pitfalls of this approach, including the impact on desire, compliance, and the overall connection between spouses. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of maintaining a playful and honest dynamic in sexual relationships, rather than reducing intimacy to a transactional exchange. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … There are pitfalls to treating sex like a commodity or exchange system - so what can we do instead? Listen to find out. Sponsors … SuperPower: Head to Superpower.com and use code TAKE20 for $20 off your membership. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Sex For Rewards #758 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 3

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit the most popular episode of SMR in 2025. Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions. So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex? What steps do I need to take to face these? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Better Oral Sex #757 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 26

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the challenges couples face during the holiday season, including managing family dynamics, setting boundaries, and maintaining intimacy. How can we all be better at navigating the pressures of consumerism and family expectations while also understanding the importance of teamwork and preparation in a marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, our conversation shifts to highlight the need for couples to communicate effectively and support each other through the stress of the holidays. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Holiday Survival Guide #756 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 19

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, our conversation explores the dynamics of conflict in relationships, focusing on defensive responses and communication patterns that can escalate tensions. Pam and I share personal experiences of how defensiveness can hinder effective communication and lead to frustration between spouses. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we continue our conversation into why marital communication is so difficult. And it's not because we have trouble communicating! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post How Placating Hurts Marriage #755 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 12

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the the importance of preparing for marriage, character development, navigating conflict, understanding financial values, and fostering emotional maturity before marriage. We emphasize the need for open communication and trust, and how parents can guide their children in forming healthy relationships. Our conversation highlights that marriage is an ongoing journey of growth and development, rather than a destination. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what surprised Pam and I most about marriage, based on what we thought it would be before we got married. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Before You Say I Do (For Real) #754 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 5

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the need to retune both sexual and marital systems to adapt to changing dynamics. Particularly when menopause happens. We want to encourage a focus on personal growth and understanding within the relationship, rather than solely on physical outcomes. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we explore more the idea of Exploration Nights and Connection Nights for couples looking to deepen their capacities emotionally and sexually. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Post Menopause And I Can’t Orgasm #753 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 29

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of teaching children about sex and sexuality in a healthy and age-appropriate manner. There is a need for open communication between parents and children, and sex education should not be a one-time conversation but rather an ongoing dialogue. We provide practical principles for discussing these topics, including the importance of using accurate terminology, discussing consent and boundaries, and creating a welcoming environment for questions. They also address common parental fears and encourage parents to start these conversations early and often. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we share age-tiered sex talk thoughts. In other words, how you adjust the conversation to the different ages as your children grow up. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Talk About Sex With Your Kids #752 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 22

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, let's have a conversation about solo sex (i.e. masturbation). And this episode it's Dr Corey solo, as he covers an email from a listener asking how to maintain sexual connection and intimacy when spouses are apart. I explore how individuals maintain their sexual feelings and desires in the absence of their spouse, including the role of personal reflection and communication in sustaining emotional closeness. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Solo Sex #751 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 15

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complexities of communication in marriage, particularly around sexual dynamics and desires. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding different needs and preferences in intimacy, the role of foreplay, and the challenges of vulnerability and control in sexual relationships. We encourage you to learn to ask better questions to foster deeper understanding and connection with their partners. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what specifically can the husband do to address his desire to want to slow things down for more foreplay. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I Want To Slow Down #750 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 8

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss a listener's email regarding premature ejaculation and the psychological factors that may contribute to it. We explore the dynamics of sexual desire, the importance of communication between partners, and strategies for retraining the nervous system to enhance intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for collaboration and understanding in sexual relationships, offering practical advice for couples to navigate challenges together. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we cover some specific techniques to try when PE is an issue and you want to maintain connection. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post In My Head #749 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 1

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore a complex email from a listener struggling with intimacy and respect in her relationship. We explore themes of sexual connection, the importance of boundaries, and the distinction between compatibility and respect. Our conversation emphasizes the need for personal empowerment, the significance of reclaiming one's voice and desires, and the necessity of facing fears in order to foster healthier relationship dynamics. Ultimately, we want listeners to prioritize self-respect and well-being in your relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, questions to ask yourself to address your voice in your sex life and marriage. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Whose Pleasure Is It, Really? #748 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 24

In this conversation, Gary Thomas joins me as we explore the intricacies of married intimacy, focusing on the importance of emotional connection and the five senses in enhancing sexual experiences. We discuss how cultural perspectives shape our understanding of intimacy, the significance of touch, sound, taste, sight, and smell, and how these elements can be integrated to create a richer, more fulfilling experience. Gary emphasizes the need for couples to adapt to changes in their sexual dynamics over time and to embrace new possibilities for connection. Learn more about Gary here - https://garythomas.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today, Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Five Senses In Sex | Gary Thomas #747 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 17

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of love in action within marriage, addressing the common phrase 'I know he loves me, but...' and its implications. We discuss the difference between love as an emotion and love as demonstrated through actions, emphasizing the importance of tangible expressions of love. The conversation dives into the dynamics of self-deception, the fantasy versus reality in relationships, and the necessity of confronting unhappiness and uncertainty. We hope to encourage you to reflect on your own behaviors and the impact of self-respect in your relationships, ultimately guiding you towards a deeper understanding of love and action. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, questions and actions to take yourself to address your role and the system of your marriage. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Love In Action #746 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 10

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complexities of marital intimacy and emotional disconnect, sparked by a listener's email. We explore themes of self-love, communication barriers, and the impact of conditional love on relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and taking responsibility for one's own emotional well-being, while also addressing the challenges of maintaining connection in a marriage. The goal? Learning to focus on being the spouse you want to be, regardless of your spouse's actions, and to navigate the dark sides of marriage with clarity and kindness. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, more specific questions to learn how to be honest with yourself in your marital situations. Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I know he loves me, but… #745 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 3

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of marriage, focusing on health, sexuality, and the impact of personal choices on relationships. A wife emails us asking how she can help her husband care about their sex life. Our conversation explores how anxiety can manifest in physical ways, the importance of integrity in communication, and the need for collaboration in addressing marital challenges. We also emphasize the significance of facing personal issues and the impact they have on the relationship, encouraging listeners to engage in honest dialogue and seek solutions together. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, specific questions not only this wife can ask herself, but all of us can. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Can I Get My Spouse To Care? #744 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 27

In this conversation, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me as we explore the intricate relationship between sexuality and spirituality, emphasizing the importance of intimacy and personal growth within marriages. We discuss the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the dynamics of relationships, while also highlighting the need for authenticity and self-discovery. Dr Jennifer also shares insights from her upcoming book and courses, aiming to help individuals and couples create deeper connections and joy in their relationships. Check them out here - https://finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Intersection of Sexuality and Spirituality | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #743 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 20

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the concept of outsourcing sexual desire within marriage. We explore how individuals often hand over the responsibility of sexual energy to their partners, leading to a disconnect in intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of owning one's desire, understanding the biological and environmental influences on sexual interest, and recognizing the dynamics of engagement and presence in sexual relationships. We encourage listeners to ask better questions about their desires and to collaborate with their partners in navigating intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, practical steps and questions to ask yourself to understand where you may be outsourcing things in your life. Sponsors … Paired App: Head to https://www.paired.com/SMR and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love today. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Stop Outsourcing Desire To Your Spouse #742 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 13

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of sexual initiation within marriage, focusing on the dynamics between higher and lower desire partners. What are the challenges of initiating intimacy, the pressures involved, and the importance of communication and understanding each partner's needs? Our conversation emphasizes the need for both partners to take responsibility for their roles in the relationship and to work together to create a healthy sexual climate. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, practical strategies for enhancing connection and navigating the intricacies of desire are discussed - things that both members of the relationship can be more aware of and then do differently. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Initiation Takes Two #741 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 6

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore into the complexities of vaginismus and its impact on sexual relationships. We explore the emotional and psychological aspects of sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding desire, inhibition, and shared responsibility in intimate encounters. Our conversation highlights the need to reframe sexual expectations and focus on connection rather than solely on orgasm. Through a listener question we encourage all couples to reflect on their sexual experiences and foster growth in their relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we go through specific questions and ideas for couples to ask of themselves and each other. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Body Shuts Down Right Before Orgasm #740 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 30

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common phrases and beliefs about marriage that may not hold true. Phrases like 'You complete me,' the 50-50 marriage proposition, and the idea that love conquers all. We dive into the complexities of marriage, emphasizing the importance of individuality, communication, and realistic expectations. What are your own beliefs and what phrases resonate with you? Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we do a deep dive into the phrase "you can be right or you can be happy." Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Marriage Advice That Isn’t Helpful #739 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 23

An episode from the vault - Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships. Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #738 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 16

In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery joins me as we dive into the complexities of Christian sexuality, exploring themes of trust, identity, and the integration of faith with sexual intimacy. We discuss the challenges Christians face in surrendering their sexuality to God, the importance of understanding behavior versus identity, and the biblical perspectives on sexuality. Juli emphasizes the journey of discovering a deeper intimacy in relationships and the role of God in sexual experiences, ultimately encouraging listeners to wrestle with their faith and sexuality in a meaningful way. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Surrendered Sexuality | Dr Juli Slattery #737 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 9

In this episode, we answer a listeners question about how to address an issue that has come up now that his wife has had a partial hysterectomy and gets too wet so there is a loss of friction. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore the difference between a willingness vs intent to have sex. Only this segment is one where Pam and I are not on the same page and it goes a completely different way than Corey was thinking it would beforehand. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Willingness vs Intent #736 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 2

In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, we explore how spending too much focus on the beginning of a sexual encounter can actually hurt the desire levels in both spouses. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … The second portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Too Much Focus On The Beginning – Live from the Getaway #735 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 25

In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, I quiz Pam and the audience on what they know about various aspects of sex. Follow along, or get a piece of paper and see how you score. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … A portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Sex Quiz – Live from the Getaway #734 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 18

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we address the complexities of navigating new relationships after experiencing loss. We discuss the challenges faced by a young widow who is trying to reconcile her past relationship with her new partner, emphasizing the importance of establishing boundaries, open communication, and allowing space for grief. Our conversation highlights the necessity of collaboration in relationships and the need for self-confrontation to foster personal growth and healing. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … An email from a wife asking for help navigating over a year and a half of infertility in her marriage. How do you make it intimate when it becomes so task oriented instead? And, how do you handle the meanings of the struggle during this season? Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Grief and Infertility #733 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 11

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we explore the Love Languages from Gary Chapman. Specifically we dive into how there are some problems with them that can actually be harmful to relationships. How exactly can something so widely known, and even loved, be possible? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … An email from an Academy member wants to know about action steps to move beyond the "Nice Guy" - that's what we go through today. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Problem With Love Languages #732 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 4

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Obligation Sex | Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #731 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 28

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into an email from a listener wanting help with the complexities of desire and connection in marriage. A husband is feeling used in a relationship where sexual interest seems limited to ovulation periods. Our conversation dives into the dynamics of sexual desire, the impact of past trauma, and the importance of communication in navigating these challenges. We explore the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships, highlighting the two-choice dilemma faced by spouses when their desires do not align. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We continue the conversation and go deeper into the moves they each can make to better face the gridlock in their marriage. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Desire For Sex Or For Your Spouse #730 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 21

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common mistakes that couples make in their sexual relationships. They categorize these mistakes into those typically made by men and women, discussing issues such as communication, self-care, and understanding each other's desires. The conversation emphasizes the importance of connection and intimacy over mere physical encounters, encouraging couples to engage in open dialogue and prioritize their emotional and physical well-being. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We covered the mistakes men make in the regular version - now we cover the mistakes women make. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Mistakes We Make In Sex #729 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 14

We go back into the archives to one of the Best of SMR episodes. An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband. What’s the difference between sexual thoughts and lust? A husband wanting to know what to do when he’s tried to live in a way that ignites his wife’s passion (according to an old post I wrote – https://smr.fm/heads-up-husbands-5-ways-to-ignite-your-wifes-passions/) and yet his wife had an affair. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … How do you confront gridlock in your marriage and what are the forced choice dilemmas that come along with them? Sponsors … Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Acorns: A financial wellness app that makes it easy to invest for your future, save for tomorrow, and spend smarter today. https://acorns.com/passion Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Mutual Masturbation #728 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 7

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning. We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's emotional state to improve relationship dynamics. Takeaways Understanding regressions can empower individuals in relationships. Acute regressions are short-lived but impactful. Steady state regressions can go unnoticed and affect daily functioning. Stressful life events can trigger regressions. Recognizing triggers is crucial for managing regressions. The emotional state of one partner can influence the other. Communication is key to navigating regressions in relationships. Self-awareness helps in identifying personal regressions. High meaning situations can exacerbate emotional challenges. Assuming one is regressed until proven otherwise can lead to better self-management. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD, we described what regressions look like - now we cover what you can do about them. Join us to find our. Sponsors … Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deep The post Understanding Our Functioning Is The Key To A Better Marriage #727 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 30

In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness. The discussion highlights the significance of collaboration, meaningful experiences, and the transformative power of change in relationships. Learn more about Marni here - https://marnibattista.com/ Takeaways Personal reflection is crucial for relationship growth. Confronting change can lead to deeper connections. Creating peak experiences can transform everyday life. Building internal safety is essential for personal growth. Setting boundaries can foster healthier relationships. Collaborative alliances can enhance relationship satisfaction. Designing life together requires patience and understanding. Meaningful experiences are vital for relationship vitality. Taking responsibility for one's part is key to relationship success. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content Pam and I discuss the systemic dynamics at play during change. Join us to find our. Sponsors … Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Radical Living | Marni Battista #726 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 23

In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire. What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection? Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play in their relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner. Takeaways Wanting to be wanted is a fundamental human desire. There is a difference between wanting and needing in relationships. Self-validation is crucial for healthy relationships. Understanding your own desires can improve connection with your partner. The dynamics of wanting play out in both sexual and emotional contexts. Blame can hinder the ability to connect with a partner. Recognizing the role of personal responsibility in relationship dilemmas is essential. Creating something worth wanting involves self-awareness and growth. The pressure of wanting can be alleviated through self-reflection. Healthy relationships require a balance of self and other validation. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content we dive into a dynamic that may be even more difficult that wanting to be wanted - Wanting to Want. What exactly does this mean? Join us to find our. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Wanting To Be Wanted #725 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 16

In this call-in episode, Anne discusses her experiences with her husband's lack of interest in her pleasure, she's guessing it is stemming from his background with pornography. Our conversation explores the dynamics of intimacy, expectations, and communication in their marriage, highlighting the challenges and growth they face together. We emphasize the importance of mutual pleasure, understanding each other's needs, and the steps in a journey towards a more fulfilling sexual relationship. Takeaways A woman's pleasure can sometimes be overlooked by men due to various factors. Pornography can create unrealistic expectations and impact intimacy negatively. Communication about sexual needs and desires is crucial in a marriage. Expectations can create pressure that affects sexual dynamics. Understanding each other's backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Boldness in expressing desires can be intimidating for partners. Mutual pleasure is essential for a satisfying sexual relationship. Recognizing the difference between boldness and courage is important in communication. Sexual satisfaction involves both partners feeling connected during and after intimacy. Growth in a relationship often requires confronting uncomfortable truths. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Alloy: Get your Alloy prescription today. Visit https://myalloy.com/PASSION today for $20 off your first order! #agegracefully Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Husband Gets No Pleasure From My Pleasure #724 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 9

In this conversation, J. Parker joins me as we talk through the dynamics of desire within relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of higher desire wives. We discuss the societal perceptions of sexual desire, the complexities of male sexuality, and the various factors that can influence sexual interest in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster better communication and intimacy between partners. We also explore the complexities of desire gaps in relationships, particularly focusing on higher desire wives. Learn more about J Parker and get her book here at https://hotholyhumorous.com Takeaways The higher desire wife dynamic is often overlooked in resources. Many higher desire wives feel like there's something wrong with them. Research suggests that 15-25% of marriages experience this dynamic. Male sexuality is more complex than often portrayed. Desire dynamics are comparative and not indicative of worth. Insecurities can arise for both partners in these dynamics. Health issues can significantly impact sexual desire. Screen time and distractions can hinder intimacy. Sexual orientation and identity can complicate desire dynamics. Communication and reassurance are key in navigating these challenges. We can make a challenging situation into an impossible situation. Do we face these with a little more courageousness? Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content we discuss the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and managing expectations in marriage. Strategies for improving intimacy and creating opportunities for connection are emphasized, along with the significance of recognizing and addressing personal insecurities and stressors that may impact sexual desire. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Higher Desire Wife | J Parker #723 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 2

In this call-in conversation, Ashley from North Carolina discusses her experiences with desire dynamics in her marriage, particularly as a higher desire wife. We explore the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, the importance of communication, and the challenges of navigating life changes such as parenthood. Our conversation emphasizes the need for vulnerability, self-discovery, and confidence in expressing desires within the relationship. Takeaways The couple's intimacy has been affected by recent life changes, including parenthood. Emotional intimacy is closely tied to physical intimacy for Ashley. Initiation plays a crucial role in their sexual relationship. Communication about desires and feelings is essential for connection. Ashley struggles with feelings of rejection when her husband doesn't initiate intimacy. Life stressors can impact emotional and physical connection in marriage. Building confidence in expressing desires can enhance intimacy. Vulnerability is necessary for deeper connection in relationships. Self-discovery is a key part of navigating intimacy and desire. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Ashley has a few more questions to cover - se we keep the conversation going. Sponsors … SMR Getaway: Join us for this year's Getaway, June 19-21, 2025. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I Want To Feel Desired #722 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 26

In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for authenticity in relationships. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe shares insights on how societal and cultural expectations shape women's experiences of desire and intimacy, emphasizing the significance of personal growth and self-awareness in fostering healthy relationships. Learn more here https://finlayson-fife.com/ Takeaways Desire dynamics in marriage often shift from high to low over time. Predictability in marriage can stifle desire and intimacy. Women often feel societal pressure to accommodate their partner's desires. Self-discovery is crucial for understanding personal desires. Authenticity in relationships fosters deeper connections. Resentments can indicate unfulfilled desires that need addressing. Propping up a partner's ego can harm both individuals in a relationship. Intimate marriages require both partners to show up honestly. Cultural narratives can shape our understanding of desire and intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Dr Jennifer and I discuss her research with LDS Women and sexuality and desire, as well as my research on the same topic with a conservative Christian population. Sponsors … Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Revisiting the Lower Desire Wife | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #721 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 19

In this conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality. We also talk about the historical context that has shaped women's views on their bodies and sexuality, advocating for a shift towards embracing the beauty and joy of sexual expression as part of God's design. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability and open communication in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Takeaways Sex is often viewed as a man's need, which is a misconception. Understanding one's body and sexuality is crucial for growth. Silence around sexuality breeds shame and misunderstanding. Women often lack joy and ownership in their sexuality. Sexual intimacy is a key aspect of spiritual growth. Vulnerability is essential for meaningful sexual experiences. Healing from past shame can enhance sexual relationships. Sex is a gift that should be celebrated and explored. Community support is vital for women on this journey. Invite God into your bedroom for healing. Community and resources are essential for growth. Experiences in the sex trade highlight the need for compassion. Sexual healing is crucial for many individuals. Understanding female anatomy is vital for intimacy. Husbands should be students of their wives' bodies. Sexual intimacy should be nourishing, not performance-based. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In this XTD conversation, Francie and I explore the sacredness of sexuality, the importance of community and education in sexual wholeness, and the need for healing in sexual relationships. We discuss personal experiences that shaped their understanding of sexuality, the role of husbands in nurturing intimacy, and the necessity of bringing light to often taboo conversations about sex. . Sponsors … Cure Hydration: Get 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting https://curehydration.com/passion and using promo code passion at checkout. Alloy: Get your Alloy prescription today. Visit https://myalloy.com/PASSION today for $20 off your first order! #agegracefully Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Reclaiming Women’s Sexuality | Francie Winslow #720 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 12

In this conversation, Dr Joel Salinas and Bob Bordone join me as we explore the often misunderstood nature of conflict in relationships. They discuss the importance of engaging with conflict rather than avoiding it, emphasizing that conflict can be a sign of love and authenticity. We also dive into the neuroscience behind conflict, the personal thresholds individuals have for conflict tolerance, and the role of identity in how we approach disagreements. We end with practical strategies for building conflict resilience, highlighting the need for awareness and gradual exposure to conflict situations. Takeaways Conflict is often misunderstood and has a bad reputation. Engaging in conflict can lead to richer relationships. Conflict is a natural part of any meaningful relationship. Our brains are wired to avoid conflict due to past experiences. Awareness of our reactions to conflict is crucial for growth. Conflict tolerance varies from person to person. Identity plays a significant role in how we handle conflict. Biological responses to conflict can hinder effective communication. Practical strategies can help individuals navigate conflict better. Embracing conflict can lead to stronger, more authentic relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore the neuroscience that is involved in us during and around conflict. Then what do we do about it. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Conflict Resilience | Bob Bordone and Dr Joel Salinas #719 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 5

In this call in show, Kyla and Adam discuss the challenges they face in their marriage regarding intimacy and sexual desire. They explore how their relationship dynamics have shifted over the years, particularly after having children, leading to mismatched desires and feelings of rejection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, communication, and understanding each other's needs to foster a more fulfilling sexual relationship. The post Sex Every Day #718 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 26

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives. Takeaways The goal is to enhance and deepen connections in marriage. Meaningful intimacy is often more desired than mere physical pleasure. Differentiation is key to maintaining self-identity in relationships. Reactions to sexual topics can reveal deeper insecurities and anxieties. Trauma can significantly impact sexual experiences and perceptions. A strong sense of self can lead to more fulfilling sexual encounters. Engagement and presence are crucial during sexual activities. Asking deeper questions about desires can lead to personal growth. Willingness to change is essential for improving intimacy. Understanding one's own needs and desires is vital for a healthy sexual relationship. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions. So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex? What steps do I need to take to face these? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast to get 50% off your first box! Cure Hydration: Get 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting https://curehydration.com/passion and using promo code passion at checkout. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Better Oral Sex #717 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 19

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Julian Johnsrud, a coach and expert in intentional living and mini retirements, shares her journey of discovering the concept of mini retirements and how it has transformed her life and the lives of others. She explains that mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their passions, and deepen their relationships. Julian emphasizes the importance of identifying one's intentions and prioritizing them during a mini retirement. She also highlights the expiration dates of certain experiences in life and encourages listeners to seize the opportunity to create meaningful memories. Learn more about Jillian here - https://www.jillianjohnsrud.com/ Takeaways Mini retirements are intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their passions, and deepen their relationships. Identify your intentions and prioritize them during a mini retirement. Certain experiences in life have expiration dates, so seize the opportunity to create meaningful memories. Mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but opportunities for personal growth and exploration. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Pam and I talk through our experience with this idea of intentional living and travel. Plus, what we have taken away from these seasons and hope to implement in upcoming stages. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Intentional Living | Jillian Johnsrud #716 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 12

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complex topic of masturbation within marriage. Our conversation explores initial reactions, societal misinformation, the benefits of self-discovery, as well as a biblical perspectives on the subject. Dr. Corey emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding the dynamics of relationships when discussing masturbation, highlighting that it can be both permissible and beneficial, but also potentially harmful if kept secret or misused. The episode encourages the Nation to engage in self-examination and foster intimacy through honest conversations about their beliefs and practices. Takeaways Masturbation is a natural and healthy aspect of life. Societal myths about masturbation can lead to misinformation. Masturbation can have health benefits, including reducing cancer risk. Self-discovery is crucial for understanding one's sexual desires. The Bible does not explicitly condemn masturbation. Masturbation can be harmful if it becomes secretive or weaponized in relationships. Open conversations about masturbation can enhance intimacy in marriage. Understanding personal beliefs about masturbation is important for couples. Masturbation should not replace sexual intimacy with a partner. Self-examination can lead to healthier sexual dynamics in relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What if masturbation is more than just physical? It is! So what can you do about that to help improve all of your being? That's what we dive into in the XTD content. You won't want to miss it! Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Masturbation and Marriage #715 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 5

The 2025 Sexy Marriage Married Getaway is June 19-21, 2025. Register now. On the Regular version … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage. We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and differentiation in understanding one's desires and needs in a sexual relationship. We hope to encourage listeners to ask themselves critical questions about their roles in these dynamics and to seek deeper connections with their spouses. Takeaways Obligation sex can create resentment and frustration in relationships. Mercy sex is often a way to avoid deeper issues in the marriage. Self-reflection is crucial in understanding sexual dynamics. Both partners can feel a lack of genuine connection due to obligation sex. Differentiation helps partners maintain their sense of self in a relationship. The higher desire spouse may feel rejected even during sex. It's important to recognize the harmful patterns in sexual relationships. Connection is essential for a fulfilling sexual experience. Asking the right questions can lead to better understanding in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What can you do when you find yourself in a pattern of obligation sex? What questions should I ask of myself? We will answer these questions, and more. Sponsors … Hello Fresh: Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at HelloFresh.com/smr10fm Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Obligation Sex #714 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 29

In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise. We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the mental wellness aspect of creating space in our lives and the ripple effect personal growth can have on those around us. To learn more about Dean check out https://manflowyoga.com/ Takeaways Men often resist self-care due to responsibilities to others. Taking care of oneself is essential for being able to care for others. Exercise can lead to a cascade of positive lifestyle changes. Sticking with an exercise program is challenging due to societal pressures. Setting short-term goals, like 28-day challenges, can help maintain motivation. As we age, we need to adapt our fitness routines to include flexibility and mobility work. Just because something is normal doesn't mean it's acceptable. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Let's pick up the conversation from Christmas Day episode of is sex an acceptable gift to give? There are two sides to this ... let's explore them both. Sponsors … Factor Meals: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/passion50off to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Men’s Health Is Vital | Dean Pohlman #713 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 22

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex. What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him? How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma? Our conversation highlights the need for both spouses to be attuned to each other's bodies and desires, fostering a deeper connection and understanding in their sexual relationship. Takeaways Understanding readiness for penetrative sex involves both partners. Biological markers include physical signs of arousal. Communication is key in understanding each other's readiness. Emotional and mental readiness is as important as physical readiness. Pain and trauma can affect sexual experiences and readiness. Exploring one's own body enhances sexual experiences. Both partners should be aware of their own and each other's bodies. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore more about the idea of Collaborative Alliances. What makes them more difficult in marriage as opposed to other relationships? Sponsors … Paired: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post When Is She Ready For Sex? #712 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 15

In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships. Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/ Takeaways Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being. Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts. Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics. Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor Meals: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/passion50off to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best Of SMR Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #711 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 8

This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy. We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire. Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to embrace your unique sexual journeys. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the theme of the show by looking at bad sex words. What exactly does this mean? Listen to the XTD to find out. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Great Sex In 2025 #710 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 1

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma. A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for personal growth and healing through intimacy. Ultimately - we all need to face our issues head-on in order to explore new avenues of connection and pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... As we head into 2025, we use 3 words to help frame our new year goals. Listen as we go through ours. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Let’s Talk 69 #709 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 25, 2024

In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift. We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction. Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their relationships, emphasizing that the best gift one can give to their marriage is to work on themselves. What's your thought? Call us and let us know 214-702-9565 Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Is Sex An Acceptable Christmas Gift? #708 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 18, 2024

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration. We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage. On the Xtended Version ... As we head into 2025, there are several truisms we look at that will help us all be better in life and marriage. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Marriage Is Pressure #707 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 11, 2024

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography. We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while also addressing the challenges posed by societal norms and personal desires. On the Xtended Version ... There is a difference between cutting someone off in family relationships vs walking away from them. What is this difference you say? Listen to find out. Sponsors ... Paired App for couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. https://smr/fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post I Like Naked People #706 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 4, 2024

In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame. We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to sexual education. We explore some common misinterpretations of biblical passages regarding lust, the biological responses to beauty, and the importance of self-awareness in navigating desires. Our dialogue emphasizes the shift from viewing lust negatively to recognizing it as a natural human experience that can lead to deeper emotional connections, especially in marriage. We also touch on the idea of healthy lust and the ongoing journey of intimacy and growth in long-term relationships. Sponsors ... Public Rec: Upgrade your wardrobe instantly and save 20% off with the code passion at https://www.publicrec.com/passion #publicrecpod SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Lust and Desire | Sam Jolman #705 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 27, 2024

This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again. On the Xtended Version ... A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn’t know what would liven up her sex life. What can she do? Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get up to 60% OFF your entire order with our exclusive link – https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Best of SMR: Unilateral Moves #704 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 20, 2024

This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between spouses. Takeaways Relationships are constantly evolving and require adaptation. Communication is key in navigating sexual intimacy. Past trauma can significantly impact present relationships. It's important to approach intimacy with empathy and understanding. Presence and engagement matter more than technique in intimacy. Self-image issues can affect sexual confidence and performance. Creating a comfortable environment can enhance intimacy. Learning about each other's bodies is a continuous journey. Facing past traumas can lead to healing in relationships. The willingness to confront challenges can strengthen partnerships. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I cover an email from a husband who misses the sex they had before his wife went through menopause. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Oral Sex and Trauma #703 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 13, 2024

In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates. We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together. We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marriage. Take advantage of their special offer to the SMR Nation by getting $20 off each Date Night Box with our code, SMR. Get yours here - https://smr.fm/everylove Takeaways Communication is key to improving intimacy in relationships. Couples often need resources to enhance their intimate lives. Spicing things up shows your partner they are important. The box provides a framework for couples to explore intimacy. It's important to make intimacy a priority in marriage. The scenarios in the box allow for flexibility and personalization. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I talk through the differences between a goal of desire for sex vs desire during sex. What does this actually mean? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get up to 50% OFF your entire order with our exclusive link – https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Intimate Desire | Alex and Kadi Dutton #702 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 6, 2024

Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional connection in relationships. Plus our discussion highlights practical strategies for couples to cultivate these qualities and improve their sexual experiences. Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://emilyjamea.com/ Takeaways Flow state is a state of total absorption and focus during sexual experiences. Sensuality involves fully inhabiting the body and engaging the senses. Curiosity is essential for keeping the erotic experience alive in long-term relationships. Adaptability is necessary to navigate changes in sexual dynamics over time. Vulnerability allows for deeper emotional connections during intimacy. Attunement is crucial for synchronizing partners' experiences in the bedroom. Prioritizing sex is important for maintaining a healthy relationship. Trying new things together can reignite passion and excitement. Emotional connection is vital for a fulfilling sexual experience. Co-regulation of arousal can enhance pleasure and intimacy. On the Xtended Version ... Dr Emily and I go through the research she conducted to write this book. What surprised her? What's the biggest takeaway? And more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Anatomy Of Desire | Dr Emily Jamea #701 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 30, 2024

In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth. Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show. Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Celebrating 700 Episodes With Hugs From Behind #700 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 23, 2024

In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy on emotional states, and the importance of self-soothing and increasing one's buoyancy to navigate life's challenges effectively. Connect more with Dr Dave here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemjenkins/ Takeaways Regression is a brain state, not just an emotion. We all experience regression, regardless of intelligence. Regression can be contagious in relationships. Understanding regression helps in managing emotional responses. The Mariana Trench metaphor illustrates the depths of regression. Intimacy can trigger regression due to vulnerability. Self-soothing is essential for managing regression. Recognizing regression in oneself and others is crucial. Feelings are important and should not be ignored. Increasing buoyancy requires intentional strategies. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I go through a story that depicts more about the tensions of differentiation in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Navigating The Depths | Dr Dave Jenkins #699 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 16, 2024

In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership. Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotional connections and the fleeting nature of material success in achieving true happiness. There is an importance of empowerment in marriage, emphasizing that individuals should focus on self-improvement rather than solely relying on their partners. We believe that most marriage problems are fixable with the right tools and mindset, and hope to encourage couples to engage in meaningful communication and self-discovery. Learn more about Casey and Meygan at their site - https://marriage365.com Takeaways People desire healthy marriages but often lack a plan. Many couples are winging it and using hope as a strategy. Loneliness in marriage can lead to a ticking time bomb. Society's portrayal of marriage creates unrealistic expectations. Happiness is often sought in external factors rather than within. Self-reflection is crucial for personal and relational growth. Healthy relationships are built on emotional connections. Couples often put their relationships on pause during busy seasons. True happiness comes from meaningful connections with others. It's about the couple working on the marriage together. Marriages are about working on yourself. Your marriage is working on you more than you ever could on it. Nothing that matters in life is a quick fix. Most marriage problems are fixable. Curiosity unlocks conversations within a relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Problems Are Fixable | Casey and Meygan Caston #698 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 9, 2024

In this episode, we get a little personal and discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures. Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it. We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs to navigate these challenges effectively. Plus offer practical strategies for you to stay engaged and connected, highlighting the significance of intentionality in your relationship. Takeaways Life transitions can disrupt routines and relationships. Maintaining connection is crucial for relationship health. Understanding individual needs helps in navigating stress. Intentionality in relationships fosters deeper connections. Communication is key to understanding each other's perspectives. Couples should prioritize time together amidst busy schedules. Emotional awareness impacts how we interact with partners. Scheduling regular check-ins can enhance relationship dynamics. Small gestures can significantly strengthen connections. Engaging with community can provide additional support. On the Xtended Version ... We share a visual framework that can be used to look how well you are functioning (or not). This can help not only you but your marriage and your family! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Making Time For Each Other #697 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 2, 2024

In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the awkwardness that comes with trying to reconnect. Ultimately, intimacy is not solely defined by sexual performance but also by emotional connection and mutual support. Takeaways Intimacy can fade over time due to various life circumstances. Open communication about desires and needs is crucial. Initiating intimacy can be challenging when past experiences create hesitation. Foreplay should be a continuous process, not limited to the bedroom. Understanding each other's sexual drives can help bridge gaps in intimacy. Erection issues can create pressure and anxiety in sexual encounters. It's important to reassure each other during intimate moments, regardless of the outcome. Embracing awkwardness can lead to growth and deeper connection. Intimacy is about more than just sexual performance; it's about connection. Recognizing that both partners have different needs and desires is essential for a healthy relationship. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the Power Moves conversation by focusing even more on our own part in the dynamics of marital communication and moves. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post How Do I Initiate In A Sexless Marriage? #696 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 25, 2024

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each partner's actions. The conversation concludes with insights on the nature of alliances in marriage and how to respond to patterns in marriage. Takeaways Understanding power dynamics is crucial in marriage. Couples often flounder in gridlock due to unclear perceptions. High meaning situations can exacerbate stress in relationships. Family dynamics play a significant role in marital issues. Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts. Observing your partner's moves can lead to better understanding. Recognizing the nature of your alliance can improve collaboration. Collusion in marriage can perpetuate unresolved issues. On the Xtended Version ... We pivot from seeing our spouse's moves better to understanding our own. Too often we make premature moves - or don't go far enough. Today we dive into common errors to watch out for and additional suggestions for improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power Moves #695 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 18, 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy. Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with commitment. Direct communication can lead to freedom in relationships. Understanding different backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Performance pressure can hinder sexual satisfaction. Self-validation is crucial for personal confidence in intimacy. Learning together can enhance the relationship dynamic. Intimacy is about exploration, not just performance. It's important to hold onto goals lightly in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex really a need? Or is it more like a want? What's your thought? Listen to the XTD to hear our. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Is Sex a Need or Want? #694 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 11, 2024

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Best of SMR: Secrets of Sex and Marriage #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 4, 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship. Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 28, 2024

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 21, 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 14, 2024

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task. By cultivating a sense of awe and prioritizing pleasure, couples can create a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. Learn more about Sam here - https://www.samjolman.com/ Takeaways Sensuality and sexuality are not the same, but they overlap. Sensuality is about engaging the senses and experiencing pleasure in various aspects of life. Men often struggle with slowing down and savoring the moment due to societal expectations of productivity and task-oriented behavior. Sex should be approached as a form of play, allowing for exploration, pleasure, and delight. Creating space for playfulness and sensuality in everyday life can enhance the overall quality of relationships and sexual experiences. Prioritizing pleasure and embracing a sense of awe can lead to a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. On the Xtended Version ... We keep the conversation going and explore the impact of religious and cultural influences on sexuality and relationships. We challenge the notion of purity as the goal of sexuality and highlight the importance of pleasure and reverence in sexual experiences. The conversation also addresses the objectification of women and the pressure on men to conform to societal expectations. It emphasizes the need for self-respect, respect for others, and the integration of sensuality in healthy ways. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Sensuality vs Sex | Sam Jolman #689 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 7, 2024

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com Use our code SMR and get 15% off Takeaways Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health. Monitoring nocturnal erections can help predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Healthcare providers should address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. Soft elastomer rings can enhance sexual performance and improve relationships by helping men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Enhance Your Health and Performance | Dr Elliot Justin #688 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 31, 2024

Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language. We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no. Our conversation concludes with a reminder to be compassionate with yourself and your spouse. Takeaways When discussing sensitive topics like sex with your spouse, name your intention and approach the conversation with a soft and tactful language. Remember that you and your spouse are on the same team and work collaboratively to address issues. Go slow and tackle one aspect at a time when addressing challenges in your sex life. Listen more than you speak and be compassionate with yourself and your spouse. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, is there a difference between having sex and being sexual? We flesh out this idea as well as give some steps we can take to be more sexual in life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Talking About Sex With Your Spouse #687 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 24, 2024

This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them. Takeaways Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy. A technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch involves rewiring the brain's response to touch. Pressure and guilt can negatively impact sexual desire and performance in marriage. Relieving pressure and guilt requires open communication and exploring different approaches. Seeking medical advice and addressing underlying issues can help improve sexual experiences. Libido fluctuates and requires dedication and effort to maintain a satisfying sex life. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it. What should he do now? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Curing Ticklishness #686 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 17, 2024

This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication. Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding. It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions. Taking responsibility for one's own actions and decisions in the relationship is crucial for personal growth and change. Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing. Approaching conversations about sex with a positive mindset and assuming the best intentions from one's spouse can lead to more productive discussions. Struggles in marriage are normal, but it is possible to improve how they are addressed and resolved. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best Of SMR: What Is Normal? #685 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 10, 2024

On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR. Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage. We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it. Takeaways Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known. Deliberate withholding of love and intimacy can be a form of cruelty. It is important to face what is present in a relationship rather than focusing on what is missing. Self-intimacy is also crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. Marriage requires navigating struggles and challenges with honesty and integrity. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we continue the best of SMR by revisiting Kate Bowler's helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else’s grief or loss or struggle. Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Revisiting Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #684 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 3, 2024

On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex. We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis. What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse. Takeaways Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life. Understanding oneself and one's spouse is crucial for a deeper connection. The meaning and significance of certain body parts can vary between individuals and couples. Exploring the deeper meanings and implications of sexual issues can lead to personal growth and a stronger relationship. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR The post Exploring The Meaning Of His Erection #683 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 26, 2024

This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A. We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do? On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, a listen into the Q&A session of 2024 SMR Getaway. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post My Arousal Template Live From The SMR Getaway #682 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 19, 2024

This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway. We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame. We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to let go of societal scripts and expectations around sex and focus on what works for each individual couple. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we cover more question from the Getaway last week. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSKin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod The post Rapid Fire Q&A Live From The Getaway #681 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 12, 2024

Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships. Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony Takeaways Dr. John Deloney's journey into therapy and coaching was inspired by his father's work as a homicide detective and hostage negotiator. Anxiety is a smoke signal that something is amiss in our lives, and it is important to face our discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change. Belief in something bigger than ourselves is crucial for managing anxiety and finding peace and clarity. It is important to drive our own lives and take responsibility for our own actions, rather than trying to control others. Self-awareness and recognizing our own part in relationships is essential for personal growth and healthy connections. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSKin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod The post Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #680 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 5, 2024

In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and growth in the context of a relationship. There is a challenge in navigating sexuality and an importance in creating a safe space for open and honest communication. Overall, our conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency and the potential for growth and healing in our relationships. Learn more about the Therapy Brothers here - https://therapybros.com And https://lovestrong.com Takeaways Addressing the underlying issues is crucial when dealing with betrayal, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. Honesty, accountability, and transparency are essential for rebuilding trust and creating a healthy relationship. Individual healing and growth are necessary for both partners to move forward and create a stronger connection. Navigating sexuality after betrayal can be challenging, but creating a safe space for open communication is key. Personal agency and taking responsibility for one's own healing are powerful catalysts for change in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we get personal as we talk through our own journeys with betrayal and healing. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor Meals: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off your 1st month and 20% off the next month when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR The post Discovery Of A Spouse’s Betrayal | Tyler and Brannon Patrick #679 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 29, 2024

In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships. We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it. It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests. Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessicahiggins.com/ Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Get the free guide here - https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication Takeaways Criticism in relationships can be damaging and erode the bond between partners. Slowing down and getting curious can help address criticism and reveal underlying needs and requests. Both partners need to take responsibility for their own reactions and work towards open communication and vulnerability. Addressing criticism requires a balance between being considerate of the other person's feelings and maintaining a sense of self. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we also discuss the role of defensiveness and the need for both partners to take responsibility for their own reactions. The main takeaway from our conversation -- the importance of open communication and vulnerability in creating a healthy and connected relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy The post Turn Criticism Into Connection | Dr Jessica Higgins #678 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 22, 2024

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality. We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a good lover? And what's the role of presence and initiation in igniting sexual attraction? Takeaways Flexibility is crucial in marriage as it allows couples to face and adjust to the realities of life. Love languages are important for connection and relationship maintenance, but they may not always lead to sexual desire. Being a good companion is different from being a good lover, and both aspects are important in a relationship. Creating an environment that fosters intimacy and desire requires self-awareness, presence, and initiation. Vacations can ignite passion and desire due to the change in scenery, routine, and relaxation, but it's important to understand and replicate the factors that contribute to the spark at home. On the Xtended Version ... What make vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? I think yes. Let's explore more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSKin:Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod The post Love Languages and Sexual Attraction #677 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 15, 2024

In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship. Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ Takeaways GS Youngblood's blueprint for masculinity in relationships consists of three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. The blueprint emphasizes simplicity, relationality, and applicability in order to be easily understood and implemented by men. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, focuses on emotional safety, trust-building, emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity. Embodying the qualities of the masculine blueprint can help men feel more grounded, confident, and connected in their relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we dive deeper into the 3 aspects of the blueprint. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to both oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, involves emotional safety and trust-building. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Masculine In Relationship | GS Youngblood #676 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 8, 2024

In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections. We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and expectations on sexual relationships and the need for open and honest communication about desires and boundaries. In our conversation, we discuss the importance of emotional connection and collaboration in a marriage. Emily shares her personal experiences and how she learned to rely on her partner for support. She also explains the concept of the emotional floor plan and how different emotional states can affect sexual intimacy. The conversation highlights the need for intentional effort and communication in building a strong sexual connection. Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/ Takeaways Long-term sexual connections are built on pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability. Normal sex is defined as an experience where everyone involved is glad to be there, free to leave with no unwanted consequences, and turns towards what's happening with kindness, compassion, and curiosity. Societal myths and expectations about sex can create pressure and feelings of inadequacy in relationships. Open and honest communication about desires and boundaries is crucial for maintaining a strong sexual connection. Sexual experiences can vary greatly among individuals and change over time, and that is normal. Building a strong sexual connection requires emotional connection and collaboration in a marriage. Learning to rely on your partner for support is transformative and allows for a deeper level of intimacy. Understanding the emotional floor plan can help navigate different emotional states and their impact on sexual intimacy. Accepting help and support from your partner is challenging but necessary for a healthy relationship. Adventurous sex is not just about trying new things, but also about open communication and expressing your needs and desires. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR The post Come Together | Dr Emily Nagoski #675 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 1, 2024

In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating. Takeaways Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship Update your map of each other as you grow and change Avoid common mistakes in initiation, such as getting annoyed or using covert methods Focus on connection rather than just sexual fulfillment Communicate with your spouse about your initiation patterns and desires Take action to improve your initiation patterns and foster a deeper connection On the Xtended Version ... What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both? Let's explore more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Getaway with your spouse this June 13-15. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 24, 2024

On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to minimalism and the importance of the master bedroom as a sanctuary. Joshua also emphasizes the need for love, patience, and humility when approaching minimalism as a couple. Learn more about Joshua here https://www.becomingminimalist.com/ Takeaways Minimalism can positively impact various aspects of life, including relationships, finances, and overall well-being. Approaching minimalism with love, patience, and humility is essential when dealing with a spouse's resistance. The master bedroom can serve as a sanctuary for rest and intimacy, and decluttering this space can enhance its purpose. Protecting the master bedroom from tension and negative conversations can contribute to a more peaceful and meaningful environment. Minimalism involves harnessing what matters most and removing distractions to focus on one's values and priorities. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I talk about our journey with the minimalist mindset and how it has played out in our life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod The post Minimalism and Marriage | Joshua Becker #673 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 17, 2024

In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out for a while. It is also important to expand and challenge the script of traditional date nights. Takeaways Date nights are important for maintaining a strong marriage. Having sex before a date night can relieve pressure and create a deeper connection. Practical ideas for incorporating sex into date nights include getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out. Expanding and challenging the script of traditional date nights can make them more enjoyable and fulfilling. On the Xtended Version ... The world of self-help and self-improvement at times only works on one aspect of the equation. There is also self-healing that is just as important. The areas where you work on your shadow self. We explore both today. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Have Sex First on Date Night #672 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 10, 2024

In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality. We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about sex shape our experiences. He highlights the need for individuals to have a sense of agency and the ability to shape their own sexual experiences. We also address common conceptions people have about sex, such as the belief that it should be a continuous, seamless connection, and the exceptionalism around sexuality. He encourages a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality, where not every sexual encounter needs to be transcendent or perfect. We also talk about how foreplay is about getting mentally and emotionally tuned into the sexual experience. It's important to leave behind the cares of the day and focus on the connection with your partner. Plus, as we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure. Learn more about Dr Klein here - https://www.martyklein.com/ Takeaways Sex is not just a behavior, but an idea that shapes our experiences. It is important to challenge and examine our ideas about sexuality. Having a sense of agency and the ability to shape our own sexual experiences is crucial. Not every sexual encounter needs to be perfect or transcendent; a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality is needed. Foreplay is about mentally and emotionally preparing for sex. Planning and scheduling sex can be beneficial for busy adults. As we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure. Knowing what you want in sex is just as important as knowing what you don't want. Sexuality is a local experience, not an express one. Communication, experimentation, and understanding your own desires are key in a satisfying sexual experience. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co #oneskinpod The post The Idea Of Sex | Dr Marty Klein #671 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 3, 2024

This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. The conversation provides practical steps for moving forward and overcoming jealousy, including identifying and changing insecure habits. We also discuss the difference between fear and intuition. Learn more about Shanenn here https://www.topselfpodcast.com/ Takeaways Jealousy is a common emotion that can be rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. Overcoming jealousy requires self-awareness and a willingness to change insecure habits. Differentiating between fear and intuition is crucial in addressing jealousy. Open communication and trust are essential for building healthy relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I discuss how the topic of jealousy and insecurity has played out in our life, as well as what can be done about it. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 27, 2024

In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations. Then we move into the main focus of the episode -- an email from a husband who feels that his wife wants to be wanted but doesn't want to want. There are complexities of desire discrepancy and sexual frustration in every marriage. So waht do we do with them? We also touch on the vulnerability and shame associated with discussing sexuality and the deeper parts of our lives. Takeaways Marriage is simple but difficult, and it requires honest conversations and a willingness to face challenges. Desire discrepancy and sexual frustration can be common issues in marriage, and it's important to have open and honest communication about these topics. Vulnerability and shame can play a role in the dynamics of marriage, and it's important to create a safe space for discussing sensitive topics. Resilience and overcoming resentment in marriage require facing negative thoughts and feelings, addressing traumas, and implementing boundaries. On the Xtended Version ... There are 2 common attitudes people approach marriage and relationships with - an attitude of entitlement or an attitude of exposure. We explore them and how they play out in life today. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Join us June 13-15, 2024 in the DFW area for a fantastic getaway. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Want To Be Wanted But Don’t Want To Want #669 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 20, 2024

In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance. We explore the impact of scripts, narratives, and parts in our lives and the need to integrate different aspects of ourselves. Our conversation also dives into the balance between love and boundaries in relationships and the power of acceptance and forgiveness. We wrap up by discussing the importance of taking personal responsibility for our happiness and finding a balance between meeting external expectations and honoring our true selves. Learn more about Tripp here - https://www.tripplanier.com/ Takeaways Self-reflection and understanding are key to personal growth and overcoming resistance. Integrating different aspects of ourselves leads to wholeness and a deeper sense of self. Balancing love and boundaries in relationships is essential for maintaining an open heart. Acceptance and forgiveness, both of self and others, are powerful tools for healing and growth. Taking personal responsibility for our happiness allows us to create fulfilling relationships and lives. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Procrastination and Resistance | Tripp Lanier #668 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 13, 2024

In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples. We have a great conversation about the transition from normal married life to intimacy, the importance of creating margin, and the different desire levels in a relationship. We also explore the role of initiation and rejection in sexual activity, as well as the significance of character and emotional intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, playfulness, and understanding each other's desires and boundaries. Learn more about Decoding Couples here - https://www.decodingcouples.com/ Takeaways Transitioning to intimacy requires communication and understanding of each other's desires and boundaries. Creating margin between different roles and responsibilities is crucial for a healthy sex life. Initiation and rejection play a significant role in sexual activity, and it is important to navigate these dynamics with empathy and understanding. Building emotional intimacy and connection is essential for a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we discuss the importance of initiation and communication in relationships. We each explore how initiation plays out in our own marriages and the challenges we face. We also discuss the power of intimacy school and the importance of understanding the difference between sex and sex with a partner. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Babbel: Get 55% off a subscription at https://babbel.com/SMR The post Initiating Intimacy | Rachel Facio and Stacey Sherrell #667 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 6, 2024

In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr David Schnarch), which refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage. We explore various examples of normal marital sadism, such as poking fun at and embarrassing a spouse, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of your spouse, and manipulating them to establish compliance or gain dominance. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing our own capacity for cruelty and the need to address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage. Takeaways Normal marital sadism refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage. Examples of normal marital sadism include humiliating and demeaning others, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of others, and manipulating others to establish compliance or gain dominance. It is important to recognize our own capacity for cruelty and address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage. Denying the existence of normal marital sadism can lead to its prevalence and negative consequences in a relationship. On the Xtended Version ... What do we do about normal marital sadism? How do I address it? Get rid of it? Or, at the very least limit it's presence in my marriage? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio The post Normal Marital Sadism #666 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 28, 2024

In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the misconceptions and expectations that couples often bring into therapy, as well as the triggers and defensive mechanisms that can lead to negative cycles. We also discuss the importance of recognizing patterns and understanding attachment styles in order to create healthier relationships. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the need for communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges in order to cultivate a satisfying and fulfilling sexual connection. Learn more about Laurie here - https://www.foreplayrst.com/ Takeaways Misconceptions and expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration in relationships. Triggers and defensive mechanisms can create negative cycles in relationships. Understanding attachment styles can help couples navigate challenges and create healthier relationships. Communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges are essential for cultivating a satisfying sexual connection. On the Xtended Version ... In this XTD conversation, we provide an example of a couple's interaction and explore the emotional and physical reactions that can arise. We emphasize the importance of creating space for communication and understanding each other's needs. By expressing vulnerability and making plans, couples can overcome the negative cycle and improve their sexual experiences. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Attachment Styles and Cycles | Dr Laurie Watson #665 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 21, 2024

This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage. An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not adequately addressed last week. We explore more how both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses, and that there is no hierarchy of pain. We also discuss the importance of regaining a sense of safety in the relationship and the need for both partners to work on themselves. Takeaways Both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses in marriage. There is no hierarchy of pain in life and relationship. Regaining a sense of safety in the relationship is important, but it is not solely the responsibility of a partner. Recognizing and changing patterns is essential for personal growth and a healthier marriage. On the Xtended Version ... We continue to explore the idea of sexual polarity and look at aspects of masculine and feminine energies. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Babbel: Get 50% off at https://babbel.com/SMR The post Yes, But … #664 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 14, 2024

Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of acknowledging others, the reactions to the discovery of pornography usage, motivations for lying, managing fear and shame, breaking the cycle of fear and reaction, recognizing the scripts we carry forward, and seeking professional help or self-reflection. To name a few. Listen to hear us explore them all. Takeaways Reactions and perceptions play a significant role in relationships. Honesty and trustworthiness are crucial in addressing the discovery of pornography usage. Fear and shame can fuel destructive reactions. Breaking the cycle of fear and reaction requires self-reflection and seeking professional help. On the Xtended Version ... Sexual polarity plays a large role in the energy found between husband and wife - particularly the sexual energy. What is it? How do I enhance it? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... 2024 Passionately Married Getaway -- June 13-15, 2024. Register now. The post More Destructive: His Porn Or Her Reaction? #663 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 7, 2024

In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves. Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Scripts, formed by past experiences, shape the way we perceive ourselves and others. On the Xtended Version ... Jason and I dive into the work of Dr. Schnarch and his theory of traumatic mind mapping, which examines the deeper layers of trauma and the motivations behind it. The conversation emphasizes the need to confront the dark side of ourselves and rewrite our narratives to chart a new course. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 31, 2024

In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure. We also dive into the impact of how we relate to our sexuality and the importance of facing responsibility and making conscious choices. The overall goal? Have open and honest conversations about your sexual relationship and to take ownership of your own pleasure. Takeaways There are natural dynamics and pressure in every marriage. How you relate to your sexuality and sex life is important. It all boils down to choice - are they consciously and freely made? On the Xtended Version ... There are three main components that help contribute to the female orgasm. What are they? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Miracle Made Sheets: Upgrade your sleep with Miracle Made Sheets! Click the link to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF https://trymiracle.com/passion The post Who’s Responsible For Whose Orgasm? #661 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 24, 2024

In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling away layers and developing new ones to create a more fulfilling sex life. So what are the practical steps for dealing with pressure and obligation, shifting responsibility, and finding your voice? Takeaways Pressure and obligation can arise in marriage, and it's important to navigate these challenges together. Religious beliefs and family of origin can have a significant impact on sexuality and the dynamics of a marriage. Taking the time to evaluate your desires and needs is crucial for personal growth and a fulfilling sex life. Enhancing sexuality and growing together as a couple requires open communication, understanding, and a willingness to explore and adapt. On the Xtended Version ... What are the components that help create optimal sexual experiences? We talk through some research that found six factors and work through them and how they overlap. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Babbel: Get 55% off at https://babbel.com/SMR AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio The post The Truth About Pressures In Sex #660 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 17, 2024

In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships. Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/ Takeaways Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being. Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts. Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics. Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 10, 2024

In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lower desire and higher desire spouses? We also discuss the pressure to have sex and how it affects the dynamics of a relationship. As well as a discussion on how to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex, where both spouses are actively participating and enjoying the experience. Takeaways Mercy sex is characterized by a lack of initiation, a distaste for sex, a desire to get it over with quickly, and a lack of presence and connection during the act. The lower desire spouse may feel pressure and guilt when it comes to sex, while the higher desire spouse may accept mercy sex as a way to ease their own insecurities. Both spouses need to confront their own issues and communicate openly about their desires and boundaries in order to move from mercy sex to freely chosen sex. Facing the pressure to have sex in a marriage is a normal part of committed relationships, and both partners need to accept and navigate this pressure in a healthy way. On the Xtended Version ... Join us in a thought experiment. We all strive for great sex in marriage, or at least many people do. But could great sex actually be a hinderance to good sex in marriage? Listen to hear us explore this idea. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Mercy Sex In Marriage #658 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 3, 2024

In this episode, we address some of the feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it impacts each gender - and we explore the concept of facing dilemmas and making choices in relationships. The key here is the importance of self-validation and differentiation in personal growth. That is the best way to achieve relational growth as well. Takeaways Accept and love family members despite their flaws. Revelations about lost attraction can be devastating, but they provide an opportunity for change. Facing dilemmas in relationships requires courage and self-reflection. Self-validation and differentiation are essential for personal growth. On the Xtended Version ... At the beginning of each new year, we use a process of My 3 Words to help frame our focus in the coming year. Join us as Pam and I go through our words for 2024. And share yours on the https://my.smr.fm platform. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Search For Intimacy #657 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 27, 2023

In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, the husband shared he has no desire or attraction towards his wife. What does she do now? It's important she faces the truth of the system and begins recognizing the underlying dynamics. In this process it is imperative she recognizes the importance of separating self-worth from a spouse's opinion and works to make choices that align with her personal values. Takeaways Facing the truth and recognizing the underlying issues in a marriage is essential for personal growth and relationship development. Separating self-worth from a spouse's opinion is crucial for maintaining a healthy sense of self. Choosing to stay in a marriage while not feeling stuck requires personal growth and self-reflection. Marriage is a people-growing machine that demands constant self-confrontation and growth. On the Xtended Version ... Questions from a recent Q&A session regarding what do you do when attraction has disappeared or never really existed in the first place? There is a natural ebb and flow of attraction and desire in marriage, but facing this dynamic requires a great deal of self work. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Husband Doesn’t Desire Me #656 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 20, 2023

The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission of helping moms overcome anger and anxiety in motherhood and marriage. We discuss the challenges of transitioning into parenthood and the triggers that can lead to destructive anger. Natalie emphasizes the importance of recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way, and she dives into the SIT and PRAY method. We also explore the concept of anger as a covering emotion and the need for forgiveness and personal growth in healing relationships. We all as parents need to take responsibility for our actions and possibly offer empathy and compassion for our own parents' struggles. Learn more from Natalie here https://nataliehixson.com/ Takeaways Transitioning into parenthood can be challenging, leading to feelings of anger and anxiety. Recognizing and expressing anger in a healthy way is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Anger can be a covering emotion, masking deeper feelings of sadness, fear, or insecurity. Forgiveness and personal growth are key to healing and breaking generational patterns. Taking responsibility for our actions and seeking support can lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Helping yourself is the key to helping your kids. Episode Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Mission 05:32 The Challenges of Motherhood and Marriage 06:40 The Transition into Parenthood 08:23 Recognizing the Need for Change 11:42 Seeking Therapy and Personal Growth 13:13 Differentiating Destructive Anger from Normal Anger 16:29 Clarifying Emotions and Communicating Effectively 20:06 Anger as a Covering Emotion On the Xtended Version ... The conversation goes deeper as we explore the importance of personal growth and self-improvement in the context of marriage. We can only change ourselves and our reactions, which can lead to positive changes in our relationships. We touch on the fact that there is often resistance to change and fear of uncertainty that can arise in relationships. But it is important that take responsibility for our own lives and actions. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 13, 2023

Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let's explore the concept of 'good naked' and 'bad naked' and how it can impact erotic energies. It is important to maintain energy and tension in your relationship. One way to do this is through the process of flirting with your spouse. How you ask? We go over several tips today - including being congruent with who you are, using playful teasing, complimenting each other, and showing genuine interest. We also discuss the role of body language and physical cues in flirting. Takeaways Does bad naked negatively impact the connection and energy between spouses? It is important to maintain tension between spouses. Flirting is a playful and subtle way of expressing romantic interest. There are several ways to flirt - but most importantly it must be genuine and authentic. Instigate - Escalate - Isolate Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome to the show 01:25 Topics: How to Flirt 04:30 Discussion on 'Good Naked' and 'Bad Naked' 05:32 Does 'Bad Naked' Impact Erotic Energies? 08:17 Maintaining Energy and Tension in a Relationship 09:37 How to Flirt with Your Spouse 11:42 Defining Flirting and Being Congruent 12:47 Playfulness and Teasing in Flirting 14:14 Complimenting and Genuine Interest 21:36 Body Language and Physical Cues 24:45 Instigating, Escalating, and Isolating On the Xtended Version ... An email from an Academy member who is in a dilemma having his wife's reactions to his attraction towards her as him being gross or untrustworthy. We unpack how there are moves every person makes in marriage. So how do you become more aware of your moves while also making better ones in response to your spouse's moves? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 6, 2023

Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in a couple's sex life. We also touch on holiday etiquette and the role of sex toys as stocking stuffers. It is important to have open and honest communication in marriage and the benefits of using tools like the Our Intimate Choices worksheet can enhance both intimacy and understanding between spouses. Takeaways Be aware of your surroundings as overnight guests in someone else's home. When giving sex toys as gifts, keep the recipient's comfort level and preferences in mind. Open and honest communication is essential in a marriage, especially when it comes to discussing boundaries, preferences, and comfort levels in the bedroom. The Our Intimate Choices worksheet is a great tool for couples to explore and clarify their desires and expectations in their sex life. Episode Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sexy Marriage Radio 01:27 Today's episode topics 06:40 Holiday etiquette and sex 12:19 Exploring the Our Intimate Choices worksheet 23:03 Benefits and reflections on this exercise On the Xtended Version ... Every November there is a growing number of people who participate in No-Nut November. Not sure what this is? They commit to go one month without masturbating/orgasming. What began as an online fad has grown quite a lot over the years. But what if it's actually dangerous? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SMR at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod The post No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 29, 2023

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Today we revisit a segment from the archives - A wife wants to know more how to help her husband and his struggle with pornography usage. A husband wants to know how to talk about sex more with his wife - who was raised by her grandfather and never taught anything about the subject, even how to talk about it. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex a normal function? we unpack this more in the Xtended content - because how you answer this question determines how you face the struggle this act will create in life and marriage. Enjoy the show! The post Is Sex A Normal Function? #652 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 22, 2023

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show ... We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, about how sex works in your brain. There is updated science, so she updated her work. What changed? Listen to find out. Learn more about Dr Nogowski here - https://www.emilynagoski.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get Up to 60% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 15, 2023

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Therapist. We dive into the world of money and marriage and meanings. Learn more about Bill here - https://pacesetterplanning.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I discuss our take our takeaways from the conversation with Bill. It's all about the meanings of things - not the things. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 8, 2023

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined my Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill as we walk through their marriage tool for deeper connection and conversation. You can learn more about the Connection Codes and pick up the 4 Minute Tool here - https://connectioncodes.co/passionatelymarried On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I discuss our take on the Connection Codes tool. Is it good for everyone? Are there things to look out for if you use it? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honeylove: Get Up to 50% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/passion! #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 1, 2023

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Why do people get married? Let's explore several reasons and motivations. Plus, what do we most often expect from our marriage and life as it pertains to others? On the Xtended Version ... Can you marry the wrong person? Is this even the best question to ask? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 25, 2023

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Apologies are a part of every life and relationship. But what about the times when we think we're apologizing but we're really not? We listen into a recent mastermind group call where the guys are talking about saying I'm sorry and addressing the hurt. On the Xtended Version ... We unpack the first segment a little more, then jump into the steps towards a genuine apology and repair in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Sorry Not Sorry #647 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 18, 2023

Everyone gets both versions again ... Today we revisit a conversation from the archives. I’m joined by colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great – except in one area. What’s happening here? Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life? Learn more about Dr Jennifer here – https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Resentment Revisited #646 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 11, 2023

Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock Everyone gets both versions ... Is there such a thing as unconditional love and aspects in marriage or other relationships? What if we all have conditions? That's what we explore this week. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Conditionally Unconditional #645 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 4, 2023

Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock In this week's episode Pam and I answer a listener's email about his trouble coming to terms with his spouse's past, as well as some of their present. On the Xtended Version ... Is it possible that our spouse knows us better than we know ourselves? Yes - and we will go through all the ways we fool ourselves. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Fooling Yourself #644 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 27, 2023

We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage? In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance. On the Xtended version … We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Creating A Passionate Marriage #643 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 20, 2023

Registration is now open for the 2024 Passionately Married Getaway - smr.fm/getaway On the Regular Version ... We go back in time to revisit an episode with Dr Lori Brotto. We to discuss how stress impacts life and sex - specifically sexual desire. Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website – www.debunkingdesire.com also find her on social media using this #debunkingdesire On the Xtended Version ... Lori and I talk more in depth about her research and the myths surrounding sexual desire. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Revisiting Stress and Desire | Dr Lori Brotto #642 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 13, 2023

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show today ... Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive into the world of re-storying, also could be termed restoring, our past and our lives. What exactly does this idea mean? Listen to find out. Learn more about Chris and his work here - https://www.restorationproject.net/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Re-Storying Our Lives | Chris Bruno #641 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 6, 2023

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning signs of problems in marriage, and any relationships for that matter. What are the various signs to watch out for in a relationship? What if I see many of these in my marriage or life? On the Xtended Version ... We answer the question of what to do if some of the warning signs are visible in y life or marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with the conversation and content. https://smr.fm/academy The post Marriage Warning Signs #640 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 30, 2023

We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex? This conversation is really less about one moral compass for all and more about the impacts of whatever it is you desire and seek in your marriage and sex life. On the Xtended Version ... What are the steps towards creating a great sex life? We share 8 of them. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post 8 Steps Towards Great Sex #639 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 23, 2023

Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost. Learn more about Nellie on her site - https://www.nellieharden.com/ On the Xtended Version ... I ask Nellie a question based on something mentioned in the regular version of the show ... Do parents really do the best they can? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PASSION at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Doing The Best You Can | Nellie Harden #638 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 16, 2023

The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ago - and he and his wife haven't had sex since. A question about how to talk about masturbation, wet dreams and pornography with adolescents. On the Xtended Version ... Trust. We all believe it is vital to relationships. But what if it's not what we think it is? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Trust Isn’t What We Think #637 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 9, 2023

Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's work focuses on the emotions that are triggered from things in our past, or fears, or worry. How do you actually heal from them, or make them stop happening? That's what we discuss. Learn more about Cedric here https://www.cedricbertelli.com/ On the Xtended Version ... We keep the conversation about EmRes going - only turn it a little more personal. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Emotional Resolution | Cedric Bertelli #636 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 2, 2023

An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept. What exactly does this mean? Are we each capable of this? What do we do when see see this? And, what if it's actually better viewed as cruelty? On the Xtended Version ... Author Kate Bowler has some helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else's grief or loss or struggle. Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #635 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 26, 2023

Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally with a fitness-focused class that turned out to be more challenging and beneficial than he expected. We discuss how yoga is often overlooked by men who prefer intense workouts for building muscle, but Dean emphasizes that yoga's slow, controlled movements, body awareness, and breathing also lead to functional strength and improved mobility. He highlights that yoga not only helps address weaknesses and build muscle differently from traditional weight training but also makes the body more efficient and less prone to joint strain during other workouts. Learn more about Dean here - https://manflowyoga.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Dean and I switch gears a little and focus more on the sexual wellness aspect of men and how yoga can assist in our experiences in sex. You won't want to miss this conversation. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Men’s Sexual Wellness | Dean Pohlman #634 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 19, 2023

I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car growing up. Learn more about Ellen here - https://www.ellenychute.com/ On the Xtended Version ... Ellen and I keep the conversation going, only the tables are turned and she uses my childhood as a look into how her metaphor plays out. In other words, let's get personal with my life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post What Drives You? | Ellen Chute #633 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 12, 2023

A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire. They happen to us, and we choose them. They naturally ebb and flow. And how do we get them back if they are lost? Learn more about Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #632 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 5, 2023

I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography. Learn more about JK here - https://elevatedrecovery.org/ On the Xtended Version ... JK and I get personal and talk about our journeys as well as the concept of betrayal trauma. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping at https://honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com The post High Speed Porn | JK Emezi #631 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 28, 2023

Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction. Why does this happen? What can we do to stop it? On the Xtended Version ... Author and modern-day monk, Jay Shetty has a 4 E formula for better relationships. We discuss what they are and if we agree with him. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Over-Reaction To My Spouse’s Over-Reaction #630 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 21, 2023

Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world. Learn more about Debra and find her books here - https://debrafileta.com/ On the Xtended Version ... We continue the conversation and shift it towards what are some steps we can take to address triggers and traumas in our lives. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Triggers | Debra Fileta #629 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 14, 2023

Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option. We answer her questions, then expand into some different topics that are at play in every marriage. On the Xtended Version ... We do a deeper look at the dynamic of over-functioning and under-functioning. Which one are you? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, episode #626, and the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay The post Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 7, 2023

Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take. Learn more about Dr Sytsma here - https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/ On the Xtended Version ... I continue the conversation with Michael about Dr Schnarch's idea of eyes-open-sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay The post A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 31, 2023

Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing. Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well - Relay On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I share our story and journey with the struggle and impact of pornography on our marriage and life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 24, 2023

This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage. Come look back with us. On the Xtended Version ... A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse's phone or devices. So what's the motivation and results of this path? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://smr.fm/academy The post Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 17, 2023

This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this episode. Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Menopause and Hormones | Dr Kelly Casperson #624 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 10, 2023

Today we answer emails from the Nation. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn't moving it. What's going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again. On the Extended Version … A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn't know what would liven up her sex life. What can she do? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com The post Unilateral Moves | Feedback Wednesday #623 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 3, 2023

In this episode I'm joined by Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, and we talk about the importance of facing and addressing trauma and pain in order to heal and grow. Our tendency often is to numb or run away from pain - or attempt to manage it, but it is more important to be a witness to one's own story while also having empathetic witnesses in the form of supportive friends and family. Learn more about Jay here - https://jay-stringer.com/ On the Extended Version ... Jay and I continue the conversation and highlight the importance of facing and processing trauma and pain in order to grow and heal, while also acknowledging the difficulty and complexity of doing so.. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Lust Management | Jay Stringer #622 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 26, 2023

This week we are trying something different - this is a conversation from Pam and I while we were driving back from moving a parent into an independent living complex. What are we learning while we deal with issues surrounding aging parents - and teenagers? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Lessons In The Sandwich Generation #621 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 19, 2023

In this episode, I'm joined by Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, as we talk about the taboo topic of suicide and the importance of brave listening. Dr. Freedenthal shares her experiences as a suicide prevention expert and her insights on how to talk about suicide with loved ones. We discuss the fear and discomfort that often surrounds this topic and how to overcome it through active listening, empathy, and curiosity. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who wants to better understand suicide and learn how to support those who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts or ideation. Join us as we provide valuable insights and practical tips on how to engage in brave listening and help others feel seen and heard. Learn more about Dr Stacey here - https://staceyfreedenthal.com/ https://www.speakingofsuicide.com/ If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, call 988. On the Extended Version ... Stacey and I continue the conversation but look more deeply at the topic as clinicians, then how that fits with everyone else. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Brave Listening | Dr Stacey Freedenthal #620 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 12, 2023

Hello, Nation! I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and marriage counselor. In this episode, we discussed a powerful tool for couples called the "Bullseye Question," which can help couples communicate effectively and strengthen their relationship. The Bullseye Question involves setting aside five minutes each day to give and receive constructive feedback from your partner. This allows couples to communicate openly and honestly about what's working and what's not in their relationship, without feeling defensive or attacked. Dr. Fisher explains that the key to making the Bullseye Question work is to approach it with a mindset of growth and self-improvement, rather than criticism or blame. By asking each other "what could I have done better today?" couples can create a safe space for feedback that is focused on growth and improvement. We also discuss its benefits, including how it can help couples develop stronger communication skills, build trust and intimacy, and ultimately create a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship. If you're looking to strengthen your marriage and improve your communication with your spouse, I highly recommend listening to this episode. There is a wealth of knowledge and practical tips you can start using today to improve your relationship. Learn more here - https://www.drwyattfisher.com/ On the Extended Version ... Wyatt and I go deeper into another one of his strategies, the Head and Heart Method for connection. Looking for more intimacy or connection? Listen to the XTD to find it. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post 5 Minutes A Day | Dr Wyatt Fisher #619 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 5, 2023

Abby Davidson joins the show as we talk about one of the more contentious topics in married life, money. What are some good ways to address this topic and then make decisions together? Listen to find out. Learn more about Abby here - https://www.abbydavisson.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going and get a little more personal. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Money And Love | Abby Davidson #618 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 29, 2023

Brianna Carey joins me today as we discuss the common issues women face during the postpartum stage of life and marriage. To learn more about Brianna, check out her site - https://brianna-carey.square.site/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going and discuss some of the ideas Brianna uses to maintain a better connection with your spouse, regardless of the season or stage of life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Passionately Married Academy: Pick your level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy The post Postpartum Intimacy and Sex | Brianna Carey #617 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 22, 2023

Today I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talk through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod The post Secrets of Sex and Marriage | Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma #616 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 15, 2023

Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships. We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing. To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/ On the Extended Version ... We keep the conversation going about the 3 kinds of dynamics we can take in our relationships. Difficult, impossible or shock-absorber. Which one are you? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com The post Be Difficult | Tonya Lester #615 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 8, 2023

A husband has emailed us with feedback and his thoughts about Episodes #610 and #611. We go through his ideas point by point, and then land on a conversation about the win-win situations in marriage. Or, to put it another way, do they really exist? On the Extended Version ... Pam and I discuss the three different sexual styles according the Dr Schnarch. Which style is yours? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self. The post Sexual Styles #614 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 1, 2023

I had a fun conversation with Mark Rosendfeld, one that just started right when I hit record and simply kept going. We cover lots of aspects about men and women and our relationships with each other. To find more of Mark's work go here - https://makehimyours.com.au/ On the Extended Version ... Mark and I keep the conversation going. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Passionately Married Academy: Pick your level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy The post Conversation About Men And Women | Mark Rosenfeld #613 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 22, 2023

Natalie Lue, author of The Joy Of Saying No, joins me as we dive into the trait of people pleasing. But isn't looking out for others and what they want a good thing? Not always. In fact, it can be downright destructive. Learn more about Natalie here - https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ On the Extended Version ... Natalie and I continue the conversation, only a little more personally. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house, visit https://hellofresh.com/passion65 use our code passion65 and get 65% off + free shipping. The post People Pleasers | Natalie Lue #612 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 15, 2023

It's a Feedback Wednesday again, where we answer questions from the Nation and today follow up from our episode last week. A wife emails in encouraging me to re-think my stance and advice regarding last week's segment on if a husband should tell his wife about his struggle with porn. A wife prefers to offload her day, and talk about intimate and even conflictual topic with her husband in bed. He does not. It turns her on. It turns him off. On the Extended Version ... A husband is married to a wife who goes to be well before him, gets up well before him, doesn't share any hobbies together, and can only pursue his wife sexually at a prescribe day and time. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com The post We React From Our Fear Or Pain Or Preference | Feedback Wednesday #611 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 8, 2023

It's Feedback Wednesday, where we answer questions from the Nation. A wife had a little issue with our Trust vs Hurt episode. She heard our take as possibly blaming the betrayed spouse, not the betrayer. A husband has had a struggle with porn before he married his wife, and it has continued into their marriage as well. He's tried several times to kick it, unsuccessfully. Should he tell his wife about his struggle? On the Extended Version ... A wife emails us about how her husband is very curious and wants to explore more about the swinging lifestyle. This breaks her heart ... and scares her. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self. The post Should I Tell My Wife? | Feedback Wednesday #610 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 1, 2023

There are many times in life where we may wonder what's the meaning or story behind the things in our lives. What if there is something else going on? Christopher West joins me today as we discuss how our desires and our bodies tell a story. Specifically, they tell God's story. Learn more about Christopher here - https://tobinstitute.org/ https://askchristopherwest.com/ On the Extended Version ... Christopher dives into how the writings of Pope John Paul II shaped his learning and path with this message. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Passionately Married Academy: Pick you level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy The post Our Bodies Tell God’s Story | Christopher West #609 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 25, 2023

Dr Juliana Hauser joins me as we dive into her work on the concept of agency. So what is agency? It's the ability to stand on your own two feet. To make decisions in life and face the consequences of them either way. To learn more about Dr Juliana check out her site - https://dr-juliana.com/ On the Extended Version ... Dr Juliana and I continue to explore her work and the research surrounding her mission and message. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code SMR at https://www.honeylove.com/smr #honeylovepod The post The Importance of Agency | Dr Juliana Hauser #608 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 18, 2023

Today I am joined by Dr Alexandra Stockwell, AKA the Intimacy Doctor, and we discuss the common passion killers in marriage and long term relationships. Learn more about Dr Stockwell on her site - https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ On the Xtended Version ... We dive deeper into the idea of an uncompromising marriage. What exactly does that mean and how does it help? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Passion Killers | Dr Alexandra Stockwell #607 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 11, 2023

Today we are joined by Dr Emily Nagoski as we discuss how sex works in the brain. During the pandemic she rewrote her best selling book, Come As You Are. What lead to this decision? What exactly did she update? What has changed in the science over the years since she first published the book? To listen to the other episode with Dr Nagoski you can find it here - Responsive Desire #606 Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Passionately Married Academy: Pick you level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://smr.fm/academy The post How Sex Works In Our Brain | Dr Emily Nagoski #606 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 4, 2023

Welcome to the new digs ... Passionately Married. Today we discuss a great cake recipe .... as in a recipe for creating a great life and marriage. What are the ingredients that make up a great cake of life and marriage? On the Extended Version ... For the past 6 years we've used the 3 words model of setting the course for a new year. Rather than New Year's resolutions, we have 3 words that help chart our goals and paths. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/passionate and get on your way to being your best self. The post A Great Cake Recipe #605 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 28, 2022

The whole show we are talking about trust and hurt ... and how there is a tremendous difference in handling these two aspects of betrayal, lies, and broken promises. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Trust vs Hurt Revisited #604 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 21, 2022

Today we pull a show from the vault and listen again to Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life. To earn more about Dr Kelly visit her site - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ On the Extended Version ... Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/smr and get on your way to being your best self. Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post You Are Not Broken Revisited | Dr Kelly Casperson #603 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 14, 2022

I'm joined by Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner, pioneers in the world of Christian sex educating, coaching, teaching and help. Join us as we talk about how things have changed over the decades of their work. Learn more about the Penners here https://passionatecommitment.com/ On the Xtended version … We've talked about some changes that are coming to SMR, today hear about what exactly is happening. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post How Things Have Changed | Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner #602 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 7, 2022

Today we go into the vault. A caller wants to know if you have to believe you're sexy in order to actually be sexy. Another caller wants to know how to connect better with his wife, when up to now it's been difficult due to her being the lower desire for connection and sex. On the Xtended version … What are the ways we could ruin sex this Holiday Season? We've got a list. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off at https://trueclassictees.com/smr Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Being Sexy and Connecting Revisited #601 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 30, 2022

It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. Thank you to all our listeners for being part of our journey to 600 EPISODES!!!!!!! A 50 something husband emails wanting to know how to address the lack of intimate connection in his marriage. Is it too late for them due to their age? A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation and hides it from his wife ... who knows he enjoys it and had forbid him the act. On the Xtended version … An academy member shared his journey on the platform about the desire differences between he and his wife. They are making progress together and growing, but in a recent post he seems to get in the way of his wife and her need to confront herself. Let's face it, we all can do this. So why do we do this and how can we do things better in the future? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Getting In Our Spouse’s Way | Feedback Wednesday #600 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 23, 2022

An episode from the vault - and everyone gets the full show today. I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. Our conversations last week were all about the scripts we have in our sex lives. That's what Dr Kerner's book is all about. To learn more about Ian visit his site - https://www.iankerner.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com Better Help: This episode is also brought to you by Better Help - online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 16, 2022

It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. A husband shares his thoughts to the guy who was thinking of giving up ex in the hopes of a relationship reboot. A husband enjoyed prostate stimulation before becoming a Christian, now thinks it may be shameful. And after bringing it up to his wife, she wants nothing to do with it. A wife can orgasm during foreplay but once intercourse begins, what can she do? On the Xtended version … A husband and wife had a therapist suggest they should schedule sex, which she immediately set up several appointments with her husband. He kept only one of the appointments. To top it off, she largely has to do most of the work for her enjoyment during the times they have sex together. Is he abusive or neglectful? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 9, 2022

Dr Sean McDowell joins me to talk through the impacts and influence of the purity culture on marriages and young people today. What messages about love and sex did you receive growing up? Or still hear today? And how do these impact our lives and marriages now? Learn more about Dr McDowell here - https://seanmcdowell.org/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com Connection Cards: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource! Get 20% off when you use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com The post Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 2, 2022

We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. Everyone wants to feel like they're normal, or at least not abnormal. So, what are some characteristics of normal when it comes to sex? On the Xtended version … Every person has some conditions that are necessary in order for them to enjoy sex. What are yours? We go through some of the most common ones today. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/smr and get on your way to being your best self. The post Normal Sex #596 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 26, 2022

Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress. We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing different kinds of struggles in married life. It's not a question of if your marriage experiences struggles but when. To learn more about Gary Thomas check out his site https://garythomas.com/ And read more from him here - https://garythomas.substack.com/ On the Xtended version ... Gary and I talk through the concept of the addiction model and how can we help God's people be more real and honest with each other. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 19, 2022

Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex. Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong? Could it be that what we think makes sex good - isn't actually a good qualifier to use? To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/ On the Xtended version ... Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he's made before about how better communication can ruin sex. But I thought we were supposed to learn how to communicate better? Nope. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com The post Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 12, 2022

Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault. A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both. On the Xtended version ... Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don't want to participate in or follow through with? How do you do this in your life? Let us know. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Delay Tactics Revisited #593 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 5, 2022

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relationships. Touch means lots of things - but both the non-sexual and the sexual touch are vitally important in our marriages. Learn more about Dr Leavitt here https://www.chelomleavitt.com/ On the Xtended version … Chelom and I talk through the topic of how to talk about sex with your kids. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 28, 2022

Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage? In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch's Four Points of Balance. On the Xtended version … We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr The post Principles of Passion and Desire #591 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 21, 2022

Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause. Let's face it, every woman will face these stages in life - what are the things you need to ask, know and do to help you through this life stage? Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 14, 2022

Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex. On the Xtended version … Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Medcline: Get 20% off a clinically proven way to get rid of acid reflux and shoulder pain. https://medcline.com/smr The post Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 7, 2022

Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area. Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/ On the Xtended version … Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors in your life when they may be coming from things in your past? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 31, 2022

A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen. How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness? What is so terrible about men who are passive? What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships? Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com On the Xtended version … We talk about how our society has become the world of the perpetually offended, and what can we do about it. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post The Men We Need | Brant Hansen #587 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 24, 2022

It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference? A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her. A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby and came home with a different body. At least that's what her husband says. On the Xtended version … We've talked a lot about how we get in our own way when you're the higher desire spouse for sex. Could this also be true when you're the higher desire spouse for emotional intimacy? A husband has lost his erection several times and now is struggling while his wife is pregnant. She takes it personally - and so does he. What can they do? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... True Classic Tees: Comfortable and stylish tees for every man. For a limited time only, get 25% off with our code SMR at https://trueclassic.com. Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Came Home After Baby With A Different Body | Feedback Wednesday #586 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 17, 2022

What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well? What if it wasn't sexual intercourse every day ... but was simply being sexual every day? Does that change anything in your mind? On the Xtended version … A message from a member who is wanting to get the passion back in his marriage after 20 years. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Sex Every Day #585 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 10, 2022

An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we're not meaning kind in this episode. What is the Nice Guy? How do you recognize and confront covert contracts? To learn more from Robert -check out his site https://www.drglover.com/ On the Xtended version … An extended conversation with Dr Glover about the importance of showing up in your relationships, and setting a good tone. Enjoy the show! Also listen to his other episodes on SMR: #326 Positive Emotional Tension #425 Testing Solidness #558 Roommates Not Lovers Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Nice Guys Revisited | Dr Robert Glover #584 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 3, 2022

Everyone gets the full show today … A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast - check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Also listen to her other episodes on SMR: #437 The Lower Desire Wife #463 Sex For Emotional Attachment #544 Resentment Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Magic Mind: Get 20% off a one-time purchase or 40% a subscription with our code SMR20 at https://magicmind.co/smr Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Obligation Sex | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #583 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 27, 2022

What does trust mean? Is it a simple concept or a complicated one? What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness? That's our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage. On the Xtended version … An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when it comes to confidence and the preconceived roles each gender plays in marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Trustworthiness #582 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 20, 2022

I'm joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing. How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple? Learn more about Faithful Fling here - https://www.faithfulfling.com/ On the Xtended version … Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more personal - as well as exploring some of the pitfalls that may be associated with fantasy and role playing. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Role Playing #581 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 13, 2022

Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his libido may increase and the remedy to any discomfort is ejaculation. This puts his wife is a tough spot. A husband wants his wife to wear lingerie and wants to go down on her after sexual intercourse. His side - he loves it. Her side - not so much. On the Xtended version … An encore conversation how to bring up your desires when you may disrupt the status quo. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge …In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/ The post Testicular Cancer #580 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 6, 2022

Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A caller has an issue with a statement made from a past show and left us a message asking if we would tell our daughter the same thing I said on the air. A husband is suffering from retroactive jealousy over things his wife did before they were married and even before they had met. On the Xtended version … An encore conversation about our fear of being alone. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Retroactive Jealousy #579 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 29, 2022

An encore episode of a conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/ On the Xtended version … Vanessa and I continue the conversation about sex, only this time we’re focusing solely on the female orgasm. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/ The post Encore of The Female Orgasm #578 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 22, 2022

I'm joined by Dr Carole Hooven, a Harvard Lecturer, as we discuss her study and work on the science of testosterone. Why is it that this hormone is so important and so divisive? Learn more about Dr Carole here - http://www.carolehooven.com/ On the Xtended version … Dr Carole and I continue the conversation only get more personal. She even turns the tables on the interview! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/ Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Lets Talk About Testosterone #577 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 15, 2022

An encore presentation of the conversation with Dr Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap, why it exists and what couples can do about it. On the Xtended version … Dr Laurie continues with me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance. Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, and 3 free gifts. The post Cliteracy #576 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 8, 2022

A husband who has had a past struggle with porn and sex addiction is in the midst of an agreed upon abstinence period with his wife. She says it will take a long time before sex is introduced again in the marriage. What can he do? A wife went through old voicemails left for her from her husband while they were dating and he sounds like a completely different man compared to now. How should she react to the heartbreak she feels now? On the Xtended version … A more dominant personality wife gets blamed for her husbands decisions and results when he followed her thoughts. He claims "when mama ain't happy, no one is" How can she address this dynamic? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Abstinence In Marriage #575 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 1, 2022

Pam and I work through a potpourri of questions today .... A husband is struggling with the idea of consent in marriage, even when his wife has given it in some areas. Wife regularly gives her husband a "hand" yet it's feeling too transactional now. A husband told his wife she was great at blow jobs early on in their marriage, yet she's not. Now what should he do? A wife has a husband who has lost lots of weight yet still has more to go and lots of loose skin now. A wife who has never orgasmed and a husband who really wants her too. A woman is saving herself for marriage, but what if she winds up stuck with a micro-penis? Been married for 7 months, and sex sucks. A wife found out her husband struggled with porn and now she is struggling to not worry about what he's thinking about or wanting to do during sex with her. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/ The post Q&A Potpourri: Consent, Oral Sex, Waiting #574 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 25, 2022

A best of SMR episode with an email from a higher desire wife that's in a catch 22. An interview with Pam Costa about her journey and research into female desire. How her experience of talking about the topic, taboos, and hesitancies with other women dramatically improved her desire levels. On the Xtended version … I continue the conversation with Pam Costa about the research project she created to study female desire levels and the practical steps everyone can talk to help themselves in this area of life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, including free shipping! The post Best Of SMR: Awaken Female Desire #573 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 18, 2022

An email from a husband wanting to explore some new things during sex with his wife, yet she takes this as she's not enough for him. A husband emails us about his never being attracted to his wife, even while they were dating. What are his options now? On the Xtended version … How do our family of origin patterns play out in our lives and marriages today? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Not Enough #572 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 11, 2022

A followup voicemail regarding episode #569 - what are some better questions and conversations starters to address difficult issues in marriage? An email from a husband who's wife experiences pain during sex, and while it's better, how do they change things up a bit when there's anxiety about possible pain? On the Xtended version … Pam and I discuss an email from a listener and their framework of where feelings come from. Which leads to the question, which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Feelings and Meanings #571 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 4, 2022

I'm joined by Brad and Marilyn Rhoads, co-founders of Grace Marriage. Hear us talk about their story and how it applies to most every marriage. Learn more about Grace Marriage here - https://www.gracemarriage.com/ On the Xtended version … Today we revisit a segment from a prior episode in the archives with this Best Of topic - I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I think you think I am. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ...In Bed Book: Get 20% off and add play back to foreplay in your marriage. Use our code SMR20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/ Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Grace Marriage #570 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 27, 2022

A husband is stuck in a scary place in his marriage. His wife says she has no attraction towards him, at least physically. Yet she also is fine with the state of their marriage. He's not. What can he do? On the Xtended version … How do we use our time? Where are there spaces (white space) in our days to reset, recharge, or create? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Wife Is Fine With Being Fine #569 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 20, 2022

I'm joined today Kimberly Beam Holmes, of It Starts With Attraction, and we dive into the world of attraction. Or as she had framed it ... PIES. Learn more about Kimberly on her sites https://marriagehelper.com/ https://piesuniversity.com/ On the Xtended version … Kimberly and I go into a more personal conversation about growing up behind the scenes in the marriage help world, and living as a couple who helps marriages. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Attraction #568 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 13, 2022

I'm joined today by Tornus and Smartypants, of Full Circle Kink, as they take us on an exploration in the world of kink and BDSM. Communication is king when venturing into today's topic ... and all sexual encounters for that matter. Learn more on their site - https://www.fullcirclekink.com/ On the Xtended version … We continue the conversation with Tornus and Smartypants and their personal journey into the world of kink. Plus, they give some great tips on equipment or first steps people often think they should take, but not according to them. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr16 use code smr16 for 16 free meals, including free shipping! The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Exploring Kink and BDSM #567 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 6, 2022

A wife suffered from insomnia for a while in her marriage, and it wrecked their sex life. How do they get it back now that the insomnia is no longer the issue? Plus, when she feels desire to initiate, she often doesn't - because he would like that. What's that about? An email and voicemail adding more to last week's conversation about the couple where vacation sex has decreased. A few additional points to consider. On the Xtended version … A wife repeatedly hears the message from her husband that she doesn't show him any respect. What exactly does that mean? And are we even owed something like that in our marriage? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Respect #566 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 30, 2022

A husband is frustrated because while he usually could rely on vacation sex being adventurous and frequent with his wife, something's changed with her and them lately. A voicemail asking some questions about Erich Fromm's book The Art Of Loving. Class is in session. On the Xtended version … A wife with the trauma of sexual assault in her past is now struggling with how her husband is sometimes trying to guilt her into more sex. What's her best response? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Even Vacation Sex Has Decreased #565 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 23, 2022

A husband wants to learn how to change up sexual encounters with his wife so the experience will last longer - but changing it up ruins it for his wife. A follow up to the One Flesh episode from a husband who is the same situation with his wife - she too has not interest in sex or seeking help for their sex life. On the Xtended version … Some newlyweds reach out for help in how to get a wife more open to the possibilities of doing more than missionary position during sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Sex Scripts and Stories #564 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 16, 2022

Today I'm joined by J Parker, of Hot Holy and Humorous, and we discuss the plight of the higher desire wife. It's more common than we think, it's impacting younger people's marriage more than ever and there are several reasons why we think this is the case. What are these reasons? Join us today to hear more. You can find J's work on her site - https://hotholyhumorous.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Higher Desire Wife #563 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 9, 2022

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me as we discuss her research and work on being more sexually mindful. You can find more about Dr Chelom here - https://www.chelomleavitt.com/ On the Xtended version … Dr Chelom and I discuss the differences between differentiation theory and attachment theory. Enjoy the show! The post Being Sexually Mindful #562 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 2, 2022

A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording? A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial - where there will be no orgasms for him unless he accomplishes certain tasks or fulfills something set for him by his wife. On the Xtended version … How exactly do you work to better yourself? It's a phrase we often use - but what are some tangible ways this is accomplished? Enjoy the show! The post Orgasm Denial #561 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 23, 2022

Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world - domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion about how these types of traumas impact both men and women. We also get into how each of us who have been impacted by this type of trauma can heal going forward. Learn more about Colleen here - http://www.colleenramserlpc.com/ And check out her course here - https://www.colleenramser.com/ Enjoy the show! 9g29qpwv The post Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 16, 2022

A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine's Weekend. A wife tried out something new in sex, didn't like it, yet her husband keeps pushing for it. A husband wants to introduce a prostate massager during mutual masturbation, his wife isn't ok with it. On the Xtended version … How do you frame healthy conversations around affection, passion and sexual release in marriage? Particularly as it pertains to masturbation? PLUS - XTD feed members get to hear a new version and music in the intro and outro of the show. We'd love your feedback as we kick around ways to keep the show fresh and evolving. Enjoy the show! The post Tried It, Don’t Like It #559 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 9, 2022

Today, everyone gets the full show … Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage. What are the factors at play that cause this to happen? But more importantly, what can we do about it? Find more of Dr Glover here - https://www.drglover.com/ Enjoy the show! The post Roommates Not Lovers #558 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 2, 2022

A followup to Episode #555 - what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh? A wife emails as lower desire, yet her husband has given up initiating and expects her to take it over. He's even said to her "when you're interested in it, you know where to find me." On the Xtended version … We switch gears and discuss the topic of trauma again, only through a slightly different framework. We also give some ideas on what to do when triggers from the past occur in the present. Enjoy the show! The post One Flesh #557 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 26, 2022

Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband. What's new, and what has changed in society and the Christian culture since it was originally written? Find more of Dr Juli here - https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ On the Xtended version … We all face disappointment in life and marriage- but what if disappointment is actually a path to more intimacy? Enjoy the show! The post Finding Your Power #556 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 19, 2022

A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex. A wife calls in wanting to know how to address the desire differences between her and her husband. She wants to keep sex special and not so often, after all, it's her body so she should be able to determine when and how often. On the Xtended version … Trauma impacts lots of people and creates lasting impacts for some. But has the word trauma changed in meaning and usage? That's what we discuss this week in the Xtended content. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post It’s My Body #555 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 12, 2022

Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz of Restored 2 More, and how pornography almost destroyed their marriage, and Clinton's life. Along the way, they were given the most destructive advice about how to address this issue as a couple. Luckily, they overcame that advice and have gone on to create a ministry that helps other couples dealing with struggle and crisis from pornography or other issues in marriage. Check them out here - https://restored2more.com/ On the Xtended version … We go deeper into their story, but this time we explore how their journey impacted Charity and what they've learned along the way together. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 5, 2022

On the Regular version of today’s show … A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she should have been told to put on her "big girl panties" - and he's right. A husband has asked for some specific sexual favors for his birthday. His wife isn't usually on board with what he's asked for, yet she's done most of them. Should he speak up about the remaining one yet to be done? On the Xtended version … We believe in setting a course for the new year, but not with new year's resolutions. We love the idea of using Three Words to act as a compass for your life and relationships. We unpack the idea behind the three words, share our words, and ask you to join us with your words. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Birthday Favors #553 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 29, 2021

An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife. A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin. On the Xtended version … Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do with them? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 22, 2021

Pam goes through a Sex Ed Quiz again. Follow along to see how you do. A wife wants to know how to best co-parent with her step-kids mom, who is now in a same-sex relationship. A husband wants to know how to break out of the sexual rut he and his wife are in currently. How do you address times when there's an agreement for a sexual encounter yet it doesn't happen? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 15, 2021

A conversation with Gary Thomas about his newest book, Married Sex. You can learn about Gary and his work here - https://garythomas.com On the Xtended version … Gary and I have a conversation about the pushback and reaction to his book thus far. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Married Sex #550 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 8, 2021

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we talk about her newest book, The Great Sex Rescue. Learn more about Sheila on her site https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ On the Xtended version ... A conversation I had with Sheila about the concerns I had regarding her book and the tone of her writing and responses since publication. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post Great Sex Rescue #549 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 1, 2021

An email from a wife who wants to know if asking questions to her husband about his past struggle with porn will increase the temptation. A voicemail from a wife wanting help understanding arousal and attraction. On the Xtended version … Pam and I work through a gridlock script from a member of the SMR Nation. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Arousal vs Attraction #548 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 24, 2021

A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you want in sex. How do you spice up sex when trying to conceive? Dr. Laurie Mintz joins me to cover this email. On the Xtended version … A deeper conversation with Dr Mintz about her work helping women who are too tired for sex. Find more of her work here – http://drlauriemintz.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Best Of SMR: Too Tired For Sex #547 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 17, 2021

After our segment on BDSM in Episode #541 we received a couple of emails about how we totally missed the mark are came across as judgmental. Today we address this more. A husband wants to rim his wife yet she's not comfortable with the act. She wants to go skydiving which he's not comfortable with. What about an exchange? On the Xtended version ... A role play of how to address gridlock issues, based from a segment in last week's Xtended content. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post If I Do This Will You Do That #546 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 10, 2021

I'm joined by Dr Laurie Watson and we talk about how breast cancer impacts a couple's married life, sex life and desire - plus the journey for both spouses facing this battle. Learn more about Dr Laurie here - https://www.foreplayrst.com/ On the Xtended version of today's show ... Laurie and I talk about the yin and the yang of the energy in a couples sex life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Rekindle and Connect Online Course: Get in-depth help for your marriage via 7 video sessions to work through at your own pace. https://smr.fm/rekindle The post Dealing With Breast Cancer #545 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 3, 2021

Today I'm joined by a colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great - except in one area. What's happening here? Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life? Learn more about Dr Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Resentment #544 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 27, 2021

Two emails from wives who do not feel chosen in their marriages. One wife has trouble trusting because of this and past betrayals from her husband. The other wife is married to a man who says he wouldn't get married if he were to do it all over again. On the Xtended version ... With the huge volume of information and noise in our world, we talk about the benefits of an attention diet. And how to go on one. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Not Feeling Chosen #543 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 20, 2021

I'm joined by Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life. To learn more about Dr Kelly visit her site - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ On the Extended Version ... Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from the experts and an engaged community. https://smr.fm/smracademy The post You Are Not Broken #542 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 13, 2021

This week we are celebrating SMR's 10 year anniversary!!! On the Regular version of today's show ... Some thank you's are in order as we have been on the air for 10 years now. Thank you to the SMRNation for showing up each week and speaking up about the topics and issues you want to learn more about. An email from a listener curious about BDSM as a Christian couple. On the Xtended version ... What are the secrets of couples that have great sex? We will share 8. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Secrets Of Great Sex #541 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 6, 2021

Can sex be an idol. How would you know? A dating couple want to know more about what options are there for birth control as they prepare for the marriage. The pill had too many side effects for the wife and she's concerned about condoms, even though her soon to be husband says he's fine with them. A newlywed couple is averaging sex 2 times a month, not at all what she thought would be the case. Is there something wrong? On the Xtended version ... Could the higher desire/lower desire labels also be limiting to the people who find comfort in knowing they are one or the other in their marriage? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr14 use code smr14 for 14 free meals, including free shipping! The post Sex As An Idol #540 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 29, 2021

I'm joined by Dr Emily Jamea as we discuss the distracted mind, or put another way - how to address the times when you can't turn off you mind. Learn more about Dr Jamea on her site - https://emilyjamea.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Emily and I discuss the dynamic in marriage where the wife is the higher desire spouse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Can’t Turn My Mind Off #539 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 22, 2021

A wife gets turned off when her husband wants to do some novel things in their sex life. How can she address him and the situations better? A husband emails about a wife who has lost all desire and libido due to a medication she is on. How can her get her more engaged in their sex life so it doesn't feel one-sided? On the Xtended version ... There is a Scripture that says, All things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial. How does this apply to our marriage and sex life? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code SMR at https://manscaped.com The post All Things Are Permissible #538 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 15, 2021

Adding music to your sex life in marriage. Join the conversation at my.smr.fm. A husband is in a 2 year stretch of sexlessness. How can he get his wife, who is also miserable, on board with wanting to improve things? On the Xtended version ... What happens when the low desire spouse initiates sex, yet is shut down by their high desire spouse? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post When The Low Desire Initiates #537 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 8, 2021

There is a cure for ticklishness. Plus this same cure works to create deeper erotic connections! Two newlywed couples email us about issues they are having with sex - within the first year of their marriages. On the Xtended version ... A husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it. What should he do now? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Not Attracted To My Spouse #536 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 1, 2021

A military wife wants to know how to encourage her husband to be interested in more romantic sex, oh, and she's the higher desire for all the other kinds of sex as well. A wife parents different than her husband, and his manner of parenting is a real turn off sexually. On the Xtended version ... Our Instagram account got quite a bit of pushback over a post we ran about adding a third person to the bedroom. This is my response to the reactions. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Fantasies of a Third #535 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 25, 2021

A follow up from an email on last week's show. A newlywed asks for tips to help prepare or avoid the issues that he hears other couples inevitably face in marriage. A woman is experiencing some self-image issues and marital strife resulting from a botched breast reduction procedure. Could it be that women are more sexual than men? A couple both experience orgasms during sex regularly, yet the issue for the husband is how his wife achieves them. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Are Women More Sexual Than Men? #534 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 18, 2021

A husband takes too long to orgasm during oral sex, and too quick during PV sex. A wife wants help understanding how to help her husband address the length of time it takes him to climax. A woman has been dating a Christian man for 9 years, who simply won't commit to marriage. On the Xtended version ... What do you do when one spouse wants to avail themselves to medical resources and vaccines and the other spouse is completely opposed? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Too Quick Too Slow #533 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 11, 2021

Announcing that registration for the 2022 SMR Getaway is open now ... come join us in downtown Indianapolis! Learn more and register here. A follow up email from a listener about dealing with guilt and resentment. A question asking if a spouse who refuses to address their role in a sexless marriage is actually better termed as infidelity. On the Xtended version ... We've received several emails and messages about how the aspect of consent plays out in marriage. Today we begin the conversation on this tricky subject. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Consent #532 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 4, 2021

A look back at one of our favorite episodes according to the Nation. Two voicemails with some additional ideas to explore from a prior email from a husband who's wife only likes missionary position sex. On the Xtended version ... A discussion about how I believe the messages found in three popular marriage books, The 5 Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs, and Love And Respect, are used in the wrong ways. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Best Of SMR: Missionary Position and Love Languages #531 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 28, 2021

An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault. A husband emails wanting to know if taking a break from pursuing sex with his lower desire wife would help reset things for them both. On the Xtended version ... Are there delay tactics used in marriage and sex to avoid things we don't want to participate in or follow through with? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... MoHW Masterminds: Mastermind groups are forming now. For more info check out https://smr.fm/masterminds The post Delay Tactics #530 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 21, 2021

An email from a member of the Nation adding to the conversation about how a HD Spouse can approach their LD Spouse better on the topic of sex. A wife emails asking for how to handle resentment and guilt over how long it has taken to grow more confident sexually. A husband emails wondering if his interest in wearing feminine underwear is a potential problem. On the Xtended version ... Part 4 of the Q and A that happens at the end of the SMR Getaway. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paint Your Life: Looking for a unique and great gift for someone - or yourself? Text the word MARRIAGE to 64-000 and get 20% off. The post Crossdressing #529 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 14, 2021

An email from a wife whose husband says that if she would let him masturbate or look at porn he would be more interested in sex with her and would be able to finish more regularly. Two emails from different wives wanting to know how to address when husbands have gained a lot of weight and have little interest in a healthier lifestyle. On the Xtended version ... Part 3 of the Q and A that happens at the end of the SMR Getaway. This time we go into questions like gridlock and books to help relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paint Your Life: Looking for a unique and great gift for someone - or yourself? Text the word MARRIAGE to 64-000 and get 20% off. The post Wife Won’t Let Husband Masturbate #528 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 7, 2021

We recorded an extended rapid fire episode while at the SMR Getaway, only this time we go more in depth with the answers. On the Xtended version ... Part 2 of the Q and A that happens at the end of the SMR Getaway. This time we go into some deep questions like betrayal and desire differences. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr14 use code smr14 for 14 free meals, including free shipping! The post Rapid Fire with Longer Answers #527 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 30, 2021

An email from a wife who feels stuck between faking it during sex or withholding and wants to know the best Biblical way to approach this in her marriage. A wife emails because she found a dildo that her husband has been using while masturbating. On the Xtended version ... A recording of part of the Q&A time at this year's SMR Getaway. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Found My Husband’s Dildo #526 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 23, 2021

An email from a wife who gets nauseous and gags at the thought of her husband ejaculating into her mouth – yet he would really like to experience this with her. And a voicemail from a new mom who wants to get the non-sexy images from childbirth and doctors out of her head to get sex going again with her husband. On the Xtended version … A look a some of the attitudes we can bring into marriage and relationships. Are you entitled in your marriage or is marriage designed to expose you more than you thought? Enjoy the show! The post Best Of SMR: Oral Sex and Gagging #525 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 16, 2021

A past episode with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about the Higher Desire/Lower Desire dynamic. Specifically about how this often plays out for the lower desire wife. On the Xtended version ... Our conversation continues with Dr Jennifer and her research on the subject of religion and desire. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... MELT: Take advantage of the first sale in 2 years here - Get MELT for Father's Day The post Best Of SMR: Low Desire Wife #524 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 9, 2021

A conversation with Denis Merkas of MELT: Couples Massage about how touch is so important in life and marriage. Take advantage of the first sale in 2 years here - Get MELT for Father's Day On the Xtended version ... A behind the scenes conversation with Denis about how MELT has impacted his life and what he's learned. Plus he turns the table on Dr Allan. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Songfinch: Use our code SMR for a total of $70 off the perfect Father's Day gift, this week only. Thrive CAUSEmetics: Their Bigger Than Beauty mission is truly inspiring! Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/SMR for 15% off your first order! The post Touch and Massage #523 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 2, 2021

An email from a newly-married wife who is interested in sex more in the evening while her husband in interested in the mornings. Plus, he masturbates regularly during the day. A message from Instagram asking what kind of feedback we get from our willingness to talk frankly about sex and relationships. On the Xtended version ... A husband emails asking how to bring up the subject of sex when for 18 years it's been clear it's not something his wife will talk about. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Hostage Taking #522 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 26, 2021

Today we try go rapid fire again and still don't get to all the questions submitted via Instagram. Want to follow us there? Please do: @sexymarriageradio Just a hint of the topics we cover: Oral sex, honeymoon tips, speaking up, anal sex, friends, talking about likes and a whole lot more! On the Xtended version ... We go more in-depth with more questions from IG only this time on sexual dreams, libido and cycles, moods, and toys. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Rapid Fire: Newlywed, Oral, Talking and More #521 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 19, 2021

A voicemail from a husband about their therapist's advice that the should not have sex for the next 4 months. A husband emails about how his wife will not allow herself to have an orgasm. An email from a soon to be divorced man wondering what he will do about his sex drive when single. On the Xtended version ... Retroactive jealously and judgment. And how do we view our spouse's past. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post No Sex Allowed #520 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 12, 2021

An email from a wife who really wants her husband to explore and lead as a Dominant role in their sex life, although he is more of a Submissive. On the Xtended version ... A husband wants to know how to extend the sex sessions with his wife when they only happen twice a year. They both are in a Two-Choice Dilemma. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Dominant or Submissive #519 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 5, 2021

How do you find a therapist or marriage coach in the age of telehealth? You can work with Dr Allan - for more info click here. Guides mentioned in the show - Part 1, Part 2. A lower desire wife emails wanting help getting her husband to understand her interest in her experiencing an orgasm during sex as well, not just him. A wife in a sexless marriage wants to know how to get her husband interested in sex. On the Xtended version ... The benefits of boredom and routine and the small steps you can take create a better path forward. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Thrive CAUSEmetics: Their Bigger Than Beauty mission is truly inspiring! Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/SMR for 15% off your first order! The post Telehealth Help and Desire Differences #518 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 28, 2021

Everyone get the full show today. I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. To learn more about Ian visit his site - https://www.iankerner.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex #517 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 21, 2021

Today we try something different. We cover lots of questions in rapid-fire style. All questions were submitted via Instagram. Want to follow us there? Please do: @sexymarriageradio Just a hint of the topics we cover: Oral sex, sizes, fetishes, first time and wedding night, talking about sex and a whole lot more! On the Xtended version ... We go more in-depth with more questions from IG only this time on threesomes, pain during sex, past trauma and abuse, and shame. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Rapid Fire Q&A #516 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 14, 2021

I'm joined by Dr Emily Jamea and we discuss her work on helping couples experience optimal levels of sex in their marriage. To learn more about Emily visit her site - https://emilyjamea.com/ On the Xtended version ... Emily and I continue the conversation and move into the specifics about her research and the whys behind her findings. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Take the stress out of meal time at your house https://hellofresh.com/smr12 use code smr12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping!” The post Optimal Sexual Experiences #515 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 7, 2021

An email from a husband curious about all the penile enlargement and performance products promoted today. A wife who has experienced pain in the beginning of their sex life but has now found a position that is pain free - now she's anxious about trying out new positions. On the Xtended version ... We unpack the concept of lust as mentioned in Matthew 5:27-30. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Thrive CAUSEmetics: Their Bigger Than Beauty mission is truly inspiring! Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/SMR for 15% off your first order! The post Lust #514 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 31, 2021

Bouncing your eyes is one way to avoid the temptations around us, but what about steering your energy as well? An email from a husband who is wondering if ruining his orgasm would help his quick ejaculation issue. On the Xtended version ... A wonderful tool for helping you determine your responsibilities in the issues you face in life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Edging #513 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 24, 2021

A peek behind the curtain into how Pam and I address the issue of snoring, and the messages built into our moves. An email from a husband who is the higher desire for sex but the lower desire for romance. Is that odd? On the Xtended version ... A recording of a talk Corey gave at church about how do I see myself and how does God see me? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Snoring #512 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 17, 2021

How does a husband help his wife be more confident, while also helping his teenage daughter be less confident? A husband is confident at work, yet struggles to being that same presence to home. A higher desire wife struggles initiating due to fear of rejection and they both have struggled with masturbation throughout their lives. On the Xtended version ... Moments of meeting. Perhaps this is a better way to frame what many of us are really looking for in marriage and life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Moments of Meeting #511 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 10, 2021

A voicemail from a wife who wants to connect better with her husband through kissing, but they have trouble doing so. An email about the connection between higher desire vs lower desire and spontaneous drive vs responsive drive. Is solo sex harmful to your health? What about sex outside of marriage? A husband can't shake his desire to explore a more free lifestyle now that marriage and kids and responsibilities have taken over his life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post We Aren’t Good Kissers #510 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 3, 2021

An email from a higher desire husband looking to not take the rejections so personal from his lower desire wife. A husband wants to go down on his wife after they've had intercourse, yet isn't so sure. A wife of a video game husband wants to know how to be more solid in confronting the amount of time he plays online and disconnects from the family life. On the Xtended version ... Creating a more solid sense of self and the art of self-validation. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post My Own Taste #509 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 24, 2021

I'm joined by Irene Fehr and we have a conversation about the three types of sex she believe all couples experience in marriage. To learn more about Irene visit her site - https://www.irenefehr.com/ On the Xtended version ... Irene and I continue the conversation and move into the specifics of how you can create better connection in sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Three Types Of Sex #508 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 17, 2021

Please check out the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm Pam and I have a coffee shop conversation about when you're faced with choices where there really isn't right or wrong yet, what's the best wise step? An email from a listener asking about ideas to help address issues when there are size differences between spouses. On the Xtended version ... A great quote from Charles Cooley - "I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I think you think I am." Let's unpack. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Next Wisest Step #507 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 10, 2021

A listener joins me on the air to work through why he fantasizes so much about his wife's past sexual encounters. On the Xtended version ... We continue the conversation about fantasies but turn it towards the topics of self-control and desire. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Fantasies About A Wife’s Past #506 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 3, 2021

An email from a couple who wonder if allergens can be passed through semen and what are steps to take to prevent this from affecting his wife. Another discussion of the higher desire and lower desire dilemma in married sex. On the Xtended version ... An email from a husband who is really turned on by his wife's past sexual encounters. Is this wrong or sinful? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Allergic to Sex #505 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 27, 2021

A husband feels so stuck in a marriage with really lousy sex that's he's thinking of leaving because he's afraid he'll cheat. Another husband emails asking for our thoughts on times when there is expected sex and the amount of pressure his wife feels during those times. On the Xtended version ... Intimacy in marriage part 4. Why listening is so hard when building more intimacy. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Rather Leave than Cheat #504 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 20, 2021

A voicemail from a husband with three questions about his marriage. An email from a newer into marriage couple asking for resources to help spice things up. An email from a wife whose husband has turned into a lazy lover since introducing some sex toys into their encounters together. On the Xtended version ... How to address the conflict and struggle that comes with being more intimate with your spouse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Lazy Lover #503 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 13, 2021

Registration for the 2021 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is now open. Click here to learn more. An email from a husband who married a woman who was married before but he married as a virgin in his 40s. What are our thoughts on the Purity Movements that many of us grew up in and its impact on our married lives as adults. On the Xtended version ... Dealing with roommate syndrome in marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Visit https://HelloFresh.com/smr10 and use code smr10 for 10 free meals, including free shipping! The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Purity Movements #502 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 6, 2021

As we enter into 2021 - what are your 3 Words to help shape your year? An email from a husband, on behalf of his wife, asking about how to venture into the world of self-exploration and sex toys. On the Xtended version ... Perhaps there is a better definition for intimacy. And this definition could change everything. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Self Exploration #501 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 30, 2020

Several members of the SMR Nation join Pam and I as we celebrate 500 episodes. Come enjoy the party! On the Xtended version ... What have we learned from hosting over 500 episodes of hosting SMR? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Visit HelloFresh.com/smr10 and use code smr10 for 10 free meals, including free shipping! The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Let’s Celebrate 500 Episodes #500 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 23, 2020

A wife emails us to point out that we have missed the boat when it comes to husbands letting themselves go physically and how that impacts sex. An email from a newlywed with a couple of questions about how to last longer and how to change up the order of things when sex is happening. On the Xtended version ... What are some simple things we can do each and every day to increase our connection in marriage and life? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Simple Dailies #499 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 16, 2020

Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex. Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong? To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his site https://www.sexualityresource.com/ On the Xtended version ... Stephen and I shift the conversation to the statement he's made before about how better communication can ruin sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Doing It Wrong? #498 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 9, 2020

Tripp Lanier, the host of The New Man Podcast, joins me today to talk about how playing it safe in life will dampen, if not destroy passion and energy in life and marriage. Hear more from Tripp here https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ On the Xtended version ... Tripp and I continue the conversation about living a dangerous life and how this has played out in Tripp's personal life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AcornTV: Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat. Try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to https://acorn.tv and use our promo code smr. Hello Fresh: Visit https://HelloFresh.com/smr90 and use code smr90 to get a total of $90 off, including free shipping on your first box. The post Being Dangerous #497 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 2, 2020

Pam and I have a Coffee Shop Conversation about the question: How often are complaints by your spouse heard as a request? An email from a husband who repeatedly is looking for ways to get his wife interested in sex, yet is met with phrases like "All you ever think about is sex" or "Quit looking at me like a piece of meat." On the Xtended version ... What is it that makes us so afraid of being alone? Does the idea of sitting alone in a room with no distractions terrify you? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Complaint or Request #496 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 25, 2020

Dr J.W. Freiberg, "Terry", joins me to discuss the epidemic of loneliness. It is a far too common issue and has negative results on our health and life. Learn more about Terry at his site http://thelonelinessbooks.com/ On the Xtended version ... Terry and I continue our conversation about loneliness - in particular the seasons of loneliness that we all will face. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr Story Worth: Give your loved ones the gift of spending time together, wherever you live. https://storyworth.com/smr The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Loneliness #495 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 18, 2020

Dr Laurie Mintz joins me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance. Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Don’t Be Ilcliterate #494 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 11, 2020

Larry Hagner from Dad Edge Podcast joins me to discuss to role and importance men play in fatherhood, marriage and the world. Hear more from Larry here https://gooddadproject.com/podcast/ On the Xtended version ... Pam gives me her take on Larry and I's conversation about men. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AcornTV: Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat. Try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to https://acorn.tv and use our promo code smr. The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post The Dad Edge #493 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 4, 2020

We go through a marriage quiz to see how well we are handling the romantic side of our marriage. An email from a wife who is growing in self-confidence, yet it's really disrupting her husband and their marriage. On the Xtended version ... There are 7 losing strategies we often use when we don't get our way. How many of these do you use? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Visit www.HelloFresh.com/smr90 and use code smr90 to get a total of $90 off, including free shipping on your first box. The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post When Was The Last Time… #492 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 28, 2020

Do you spend money like a Millennial? An email from a wife who experiences orgasms only in her sleep, and is also married to a narcissist. On the Xtended version ... More questions to ask yourself when you are attempting to address the problems in life, not just alleviate the pain. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post I Only Orgasm In My Sleep #491 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 21, 2020

An email from a listener asking for our thoughts on if it's okay for her and her husband to film one of their sexual encounters. An email from a husband wanting to know how to find the middle ground between he and his wife's desire levels. A wife wants to know how to find sex positive friends. On the Xtended version ... What's the difference between seeking help and resources to alleviate the pain in life vs addressing the problems in life? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Filming Sex #490 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 14, 2020

On the Regular version of today's show ... Jessa Zimmerman joins me today to let the SMRNation know about our free webinar - How To Help Your Partner Want More Sex WITHOUT Feeling Pressure or Obligation - on Tuesday, October 20, 2020 at 7 PM Central Time. Register for free by clicking here. Jessa also sticks around to answer some questions from the Nation. On the Xtended version (which is available to all today) ... Pam and I talk about the impact Dr David Schnarch has had our our marriage and my profession. Enjoy the show! The post Intimacy With Ease #489 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 7, 2020

A conversation with Erin Ramachandran, who along with her husband have founded Mental Health Strong. A resource aimed to help married couples when one spouse suffers from a mental illness. Hear her story and what they've created to help lots of other marriages alongside their own. On the Xtended version ... Erin and I continue the conversation about what are some practical steps couples who face mental illnesses can take, alone and together. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Mental Illness and Marriage #488 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 30, 2020

A husband who has struggled with his weight all his life emails to tell us about how his wife has told him she is not attracted to him physically and he's afraid his marriage may wind up sexless. A wife emails her surprise to hear how often other married couples have sex because in her marriage it only happens a handful of times per year. On the Xtended version ... Why do we lie? Are we all liars? And how do you address the lies your spouse may tell or have told throughout your marriage? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Are We All Liars? #487 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 23, 2020

A caller asking how she can help her husband's performance anxiety issue. An email from a husband asking about the difference between telling your spouse vs asking. A wife is wondering if her perspective as the higher desire is wrong. On the Xtended version ... Indecisiveness in life and sex. Many people face it - how do you confront it better? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Indecisiveness #486 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 16, 2020

Dr Marni Feuerman joins me as we discuss the times when couples may need discernment counseling. What is it and how does it work? Learn more about Dr Marni at her site https://thetalkingsolution.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Marni and I continue the conversation by talking about the things we see in couples seeking our help that will get in the way of successful therapy. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr Hello Fresh: Visit www.HelloFresh.com/smr80 and use code smr80 to get a total of $80 off, including free shipping on your first box. The post Discernment Counseling #485 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 9, 2020

An email from a listener concerned about some of the guests we have on our show and the fact that their values may go against the values of SMR. A follow up on the topic of swallowing with an email from a listener who wants us to explore another aspect of oral sex. On the Xtended version ... Let's face it, it's hard to escape the world of guilt and shame when it comes to sex. Today we talk about how to address it in your life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post I Still Feel Guilt and Shame #484 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 2, 2020

Dr Amy Killen joins me to discuss several of the myths that people face when it comes to aging and sex and sexual dysfunctions. Learn more about Dr Amy on her site - https://dramykillen.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Amy and I continue the conversation and move into the solutions that many people may not know about when it comes to addressing their sexual function. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Intimately Us: The fun and flirty app for married couples that want to spice up their sex life and deepen their intimate connection. Find it in any App Store or at https://intimately.us/ The post Sexual Dysfunction #483 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 26, 2020

A voicemail from a wife who doesn't want to swallow, even when her husband is using the line "If you love me you'd be willing to do this." An email from a husband who found our new App Intimately Us (https://intimately.us) and his wife refuses to engage with the App along with him. On the Xtended version ... Negotiating sex in marriage - choreplay vs foreplay - and who are we at our core? We go deep this time in the XTD content. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Intimately Us: The fun and flirty app for married couples that want to spice up their sex life and deepen their intimate connection. Find it in any App Store or at https://intimately.us/ The post Swallowing #482 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 19, 2020

Today Hilary Jacobs Hendel joins me to talk about her book It's Not Always Depression, and the Change Triangle. You can learn more about Hilary on her site https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ On the Xtended version ... We continue the conversation with Hilary Jacobs Hendel and move into how the Change Triangle plays out in sex. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post The Change Triangle #481 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 12, 2020

We are excited to announce a brand new resource aimed to help make your marriage fun and sexy ... Intimately Us You can find the App in the App Stores for both Apple and Android, or read more about it here https://intimately.us/ Today we talk with the man who helped us create this app, Dan Purcell. Learn more about Dan at https://getyourmarriageon.com/ On the Xtended version ... Pam and I have a conversation about the importance of novelty in marriage - and some ways you can add novelty that you may not think about. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Intimately Us: The fun and flirty app for married couples that want to spice up their sex life and deepen their intimate connection. Find it in any App Store or at https://intimately.us/ The post Intimately Us #480 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 5, 2020

Dr Kathleen Smith and I discuss her book, Everything Isn't Terrible, and how appropriate it is for our lives here in 2020. Learn more about Kathleen on her site https://kathleensmith.net/ On the Xtended version ... Kathleen and I dive into the world of Bowen Systems Theory. Yes we geek out a little but it's a great way to understand what's going on in families. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Everything Isn’t Terrible #479 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 29, 2020

A voicemail from a wife looking to keep the connection and intimacy with her husband, who had a stroke 17 years ago. A follow up email from a listener struggling with power plays around his sexuality and sex life with his wife. On the Xtended version ... A clarification from last week's XTD content. And a conversation about the main concepts taught by Schnarch and our understanding of them. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Power Plays #478 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 22, 2020

An email from a wife whose husband regularly views porn and when confronted replies with "I have needs." A husband emails in asking our thoughts about how if his sexual desire has waned over the past couple years is it because he's stopped viewing porn over that timeframe or is it because sex is only on his wife's terms. On the Xtended version ... We share a blog post from an author where he gives 8 steps to confront your wife's sexual refusal - and our reaction. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh: Visit www.HelloFresh.com/smr80 and use code smr80 to get a total of $80 off, including free shipping on your first box. The post Sex Is Only On My Spouse’s Terms #477 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 15, 2020

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me to discuss her new book 31 Ways To Great Sex, available now. Check out more of Sheila's work here - https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ On the Xtended version ... Sheila and I continue a conversation about how Christianity and the church have addressed sex - especially the message towards women. Sponsors ... Beach Body: Try our Beach Body On Demand. Over 1300 different workouts to choose from, streamed right into your home on any device. Text SMR to 303030 to try it out for FREE. The post 31 Days To Great Sex #476 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 8, 2020

A conversation based on two emails from listeners who are each struggling to understand and navigate a big gap in desire between themselves and their spouse. On the Xtended version ... What is the difference between intention vs. action? Enjoy the show! The post Intention or Action #475 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 1, 2020

Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surround fantasies and sex. On the Xtended version ... Justin and I continue the conversation about fantasies and discuss more about where they come from and what to do with them. Sponsors .. SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Fantasies, Tell Me What You Want #474 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 24, 2020

On the Regular version of today's show ... An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband. What's the difference between sexual thoughts and lust? A husband wanting to know what to do when he's tried to live in a way that ignites his wife's passion (according to an old post I wrote - https://smr.fm/heads-up-husbands-5-ways-to-ignite-your-wifes-passions/) and yet his wife had an affair. On the Xtended version ... How do you confront gridlock in your marriage and what are the forced choice dilemmas that come along with them? Sponsored by SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Mutual Masturbation #473 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 17, 2020

An email from a husband who loses his erection when the direct stimulation stops. A wife wanting to know if there are dangers to porn use in their marriage. On the Xtended version ... What's your marriage story? It's important to be living something larger than yourself and your marriage if you want to live fully alive. Sponsors -SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Your Marriage Story #472 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 10, 2020

On the regular version ... An email from a husband whose wife believes if they can't orgasm together at the same time then there must be something wrong. A husband seeks our thoughts on how he can reestablish connection with his wife sexually and emotionally when she doesn't really like him currently. On the Xtended version ... Pam and I talk through the concepts of desire and how it's part of our process of growth in life and marriage. Today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by Beach Body On Demand. Over 1300 different workouts to choose from, streamed right into your home on any device. Text SMR to 303030 to try it out for FREE. The post Simultaneous Orgasms #471 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 3, 2020

A voicemail from a wife wanting to increase the erogenous zones on her body. An email from a wife whose husband only touches her when he wants sex, usually in the middle of the night, leaving her wide awake after. On the Xtended version ... A deeper conversation about how living more from your core and as designed increases passion, energy and eroticism. This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by the SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Securely Attach Your Genitals #470 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 27, 2020

Dr Melanie Greenberg joins me to talk about her research surround the brain and stress. Read more from Melanie on her site - https://drmelaniegreenberg.com/ On the Xtended version ... Melanie and I continue the conversation about how stress impacts married life. This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by the SMR Academy: Join to get even more access and content. Go to https://smr.fm/smracademy The post Stress Proof Your Brain #469 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 20, 2020

An email from a husband asking for ideas on how he show more appreciation to his wife for her supporting him in some stressful times. A wife wants to know if there are different ways to change the way she tastes since her husband doesn't like the taste when he goes down on her. A voicemail from a woman who has experienced vaginismus and wants to tell her story about her experiences. The resource we mention on the show is here - https://www.womentc.com/ On the Xtended version ... A husband in the Academy shared that his wife has come to the belief that she has not been sexually attracted to him and can't see that she will be in the future. We go deeper into what he can possibly do in this dilemma. Enjoy the show! Today's episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked: Convenient and confidential hormone testing from your own home. Get 20% off today - https://trylgc.com/smr use code SMR20 The post Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me #468 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 13, 2020

Peggy Orenstein joins me to talk about her research surround the messages girls and boys are experiencing and have experienced with the subject of sex. Read more from Peggy on her site - https://www.peggyorenstein.com/ On the Xtended version ... Peggy and I continue the conversation about how the messages regarding sex and sexuality differ between parts of the world and the States. This episode of the Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by Better HELP: Online counseling services accessible from anywhere. Save 10% on your first month https://betterhelp.com/smr This episode of the Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by Beach Body: Try our Beach Body On Demand. Over 1300 different workouts to choose from, streamed right into your home on any device. Text SMR to 303030 to try it out for FREE. The post Girls and Boys and Sex #467 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 6, 2020

Dr Margaret Rutherford joins me to tackle perfectionism and how it can actually be something that is covering up depression. Learn more from Dr Rutherford on her site - https://drmargaretrutherford.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Rutherford and I continue the conversation about how perfectionism impacts our sex life and marriage. This episode of the Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by Let's Get Checked: Convenient and confidential hormone testing from your own home. Get 20% off today - https://trylgc.com/smr use code SMR20 The post Perfectionism #466 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 29, 2020

An email from a husband asking about sex during pregnancy and how they can stay connected and intimate. A husband is wondering how he can handle rejections so his wife doesn't feel guilty. On the Xtended version ... Much of what we face in married life is quite simple, if we look at it correctly. But after our view is simplified, the difficult comes into play. This episode of the Sexy Marriage Radio is sponsored by Let's Get Checked: Convenient and confidential hormone testing from your own home. Get 20% off today - https://trylgc.com/smr use code SMR20 The post Simple But Difficult #465 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 22, 2020

Gary Thomas joins me again to discuss the idea of cherishing your spouse. Listen to hear how this idea transformed his marriage and sex life. You can learn more about Gary and his books here - http://www.garythomas.com/ On the Xtended version ... Gary and I have a conversation about the church's history handling the topics of marriage and sex. Enjoy the show! The post Cherish #464 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 15, 2020

Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me to answer an email from a wife who thinks she may be using sex as a form of emotional attachment and it possibly isn't helpful for her, or her husband. You can find more about Dr. Jennifer on her site http://www.finlayson-fife.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Jennifer and I talk about the factors that can come up when the husband is the lower desire spouse. Enjoy the show! The post Sex For Emotional Attachment #463 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 8, 2020

A conversation with Dr Nan Wise about her work in the field of sex and sexuality - specifically about the importance of pleasure in life. You can find more about Dr. Nan on her site http://askdoctornan.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Nan and I talk about her research and the science of orgasms. Enjoy the show! The post Healthy Hedonism #462 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 1, 2020

A conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the stress and issues couples will face in their sex lives during times of quarantine and uncertainty. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/ Pick up her checkin for free here https://vmtherapy.com/checkin Enjoy the show! The post Quarantine Sex #461 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 25, 2020

With almost a fifth of the world's population in quarantine or distancing for the next couple of weeks, how do you navigate married life better? On the Xtended version ... An email from a husband who's frustrated with our response to another husband about his sex life and desire for more novelty and eroticism. Enjoy the show! The post Marriage in the Time of Quarantine #460 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 18, 2020

Dr Lori Brotto joins me to discuss how stress impacts life and sex. Specifically sexual desire. Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website - www.debunkingdesire.com also find her on social media using this #debunkingdesire On the Xtended version ... Dr Brotto and I talk more in depth about the myths surrounding sexual desire and her research on the subject. Enjoy the show! The post Stress and Sexual Desire #459 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 11, 2020

Dr Laura Dabney joins me to answer a couple of questions from the SMR Nation. A husband asks for help in getting his wife to be willing to try new things in sex. And a wife emails wanting to know how to get her husband to seek help with his ED issues. Learn more about Dr Dabney on her website - https://www.drldabney.com/ or call her at 757-695-3925 On the Xtended version ... Dr Dabney and I discuss the trend of our field and society seeking to medicate problems rather than address them head on. Enjoy the show! The post Spouse Won’t Try Anything New #458 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 4, 2020

A conversation about slowing down in life and marriage. A question from a husband asking for help with a position they both enjoy but want it to last longer for him/or quicker for her. A caller speaking up about pain in sex for women. On the Xtended version ... Is it possible that you can make things too easy for your spouse? Yes! Enjoy the show! The post Too Easy For Your Spouse? #457 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 26, 2020

A conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, about all things sex. What's normal? What about responsive desire? Context is king? Check out Emily's work on her site http://www.emilynagoski.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Emily and I continue a conversation exploring the world of sexual non-concordance. Enjoy the show! The post Responsive Desire #456 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 19, 2020

A question from a wife about a condition her husband has called phimosis and how this impacts their sex life. Another wife wants to know how to get her husband to be more romantic. A wife calls wanting to know how to be more free and let go in her sex life. On the Xtended version ... A caller asks us three questions - female-led relationships - pleasure derived from pain during sex - and vibrators. Enjoy the show! The post Question Potpourri #455 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 12, 2020

A conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/ On the Xtended version ... Vanessa and I continue the conversation about sex, only this time we're focusing solely on the female orgasm. Enjoy the show! The post The Female Orgasm #454 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 5, 2020

A husband calls in asking for our thoughts about his wife's habit of touching herself most every morning and night. A newly-wed wife calls wanting help with her infrequent sex life and struggling attraction for her husband. On the Xtended version ... How do you confront change with your spouse? Where you want more for them and they don't want it for themselves? Enjoy the show! The post Daily Self Touching #453 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 29, 2020

A husband asks for our thought regarding a better term to use when referring to a specific part of his wife's body. An email from a spouse asking for help in approaching their sex life when one of them is disabled. On the Xtended version ... Love and Respect, is one more important than the other in marriage? What role and meaning do each of these play? Enjoy the show! The post Labels, Disabilities and Meanings #452 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 22, 2020

A couple of emails about fantasies ... from threesomes to aggressive sex almost like rape. Are these common? What do they mean? On the Xtended version ... An email from a wife whose husband has performance anxiety during sex, making it quite difficult to connect and enjoy their sexual encounters. Enjoy the show! The post Fantasies, Threesomes and Anxiety #451 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 15, 2020

A couple of emails on the topic of Anal Sex. What do you do when one spouse is unwilling to try it? And what are some tips for those who are willing to try it? Plus an email from a wife whose husband is turned off by sex during pregnancy - and after it. On the Xtended version ... We unpack an email from a wife who found out her husband masturbates regularly to porn because she set up a hidden camera in their bedroom. Enjoy the show! The post Anal Sex #450 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 8, 2020

I'm joined by Melissa Orlov, of ADHD Marriage and we discuss how ADHD impacts life and relationships. Read more from Melissa on her site here - https://www.adhdmarriage.com/ On the Xtended version ... Melissa Orlov and I continue the conversation about ADHD and marriage but venture into how it impacts sex. Enjoy the show! The post ADHD and Marriage #449 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 1, 2020

Welcome to 2020. Join us as we go through our 3 words for the year. What are yours? An email from a listener wondering how to get his wife more comfortable with lingerie and role playing. On the Xtended version ... A voicemail about how gender roles and egalitarian roles impact married life and sex. Enjoy the show! The post Role Playing #448 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 25, 2019

A look back in the SMR archives at one of the most popular shows to date. Birthday sex, shower sex, oral sex. On the Xtended version ... The importance of boundaries in life and marriage. Enjoy the show! The post Best Of SMR: Three Kinds of Sex #447 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 18, 2019

Jessa Zimmerman joins me to answer an email from listeners who say they have a great marriage but real struggle in their sex life. A conversation about the idea of foreplay for foreplay. On the XTD content. What books I've read this year and their impact on my life and marriage. The post Foreplay For Foreplay #446 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 11, 2019

As a gift from us to you this Holiday Season both versions of today's episode are free. Today we are joined by author Gary Thomas as he discusses his new book, When To Walk Away: Finding Freedom From Toxic People. You can learn more about Gary and his books here - http://www.garythomas.com/ The post When To Walk Away #445 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 4, 2019

An email from a husband concerned about how the Holiday Hallmark movies impact his wife and their marriage. Plus a husband seeks our help in understanding how to play with his wife’s vagina. The post Holiday Movies and Vaginas #444 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 27, 2019

A sex ed quiz for my wife and co-host, Pam. An email from a listener asking for a reading list to help him not only in the counseling world but also in marriage. The post Reading List #443 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 20, 2019

A conversation with Dr Sarah Hunter Murray, a therapist who has a new book exploring the science of men, sex and relationships. Check out her work and pick up her book here https://sarahhuntermurray.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Sarah joins me to answer a question from a husband whose wife initiated sex and then informed him she did so only because she knows he needs it. The post Not Always In The Mood #442 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 13, 2019

An email from a listener about how to bring up the idea that his parents need counseling. Plus a 2 part email from a higher desire wife who wants help addressing the desire difference and oral sex. On the Xtended version ... A discussion about how to recover from fights in married life. The post Help My Parents and Confronting Desire Differences #441 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 6, 2019

A conversation with Dr Laura Dabney, a Psychiatrist who works with clients by helping the deal with emotions better - especially the emotions we've often deemed as bad. Check out her work here https://www.lauradabney.com/ The post Selfish and Needy #440 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 30, 2019

On the Regular version of today’s show … A conversation with Dr Claudia Grauf-Grounds about her research and work around the subject of conflict and fighting in married life. Check out her work here https://drclaudiagg.com/ On the Xtended version … We continue the conversation with Dr Claudia about her thought about the Marriage and Family […] The post We’ve Had This Fight Before #439 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 23, 2019

On the Regular version of today’s show … An email from a listener who wishes we would have addressed the “you complete me” line differently in episode #431. A caller wanting information about Sensate Focus exercises for their sex life. And an email from a wife whose husband found a vibrator she bought and completely […] The post Sensate Focus #438 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 16, 2019

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Dr Jennifer Findlayson-Fife, a fellow therapist and we discuss the dynamic of desire differences and the lower desire wife. Learn more about Dr Jennifer at http://www.finlayson-fife.com On the Xtended version … Dr Jennifer and I discuss her research with LDS Women and sexuality and […] The post The Lower Desire Wife #437 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 9, 2019

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Deb Thomas, a fellow LMFT and Sex Therapist and we discuss how metaphors can be helpful when it comes to addressing your sex life. Learn more about Deb at https://nwioi.com/ On the Xtended version … Deb Thomas and I continue our conversation although for […] The post Metaphors and Sex Therapy #436 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 2, 2019

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Dr Steven Stosny as we discuss how abuse happens in marriage and relationships – and how compassion is the key to breaking the patterns. Learn more about Dr Stosny at his site https://www.compassionpower.com/ On the Xtended version … Pam and I have a conversation […] The post Abuse In Marriage #435 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 25, 2019

On today’s show … We’ve combined the Regular and the XTD versions into one show – this week only. The whole show we are talking about trust and hurt … and how there is a tremendous difference in handling these two aspects of betrayal, lies, and broken promises. Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? […] The post Trust and Hurt #434 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 18, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … My wife Pam is tested on her knowledge with a 10 Question Sex Quiz And an email from a husband looking for our thoughts about helping his marriage and their struggles with weight, desire, infertility and adoption. On the Xtended version … What’s the difference between arousal […] The post Arousal and Desire #433 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 11, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A conversation with Ann Gadd, author of Sex and the Enneagram. You can learn more about Ann by visiting her website. You can also email her at ann@anngadd.co.za On the Xtended version … The continued conversation with Ann Gadd. Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? CALL […] The post Sex and the Enneagram #432 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 4, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A conversation with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Promescent, and how to create intimacy in marriage by being willing to address the struggles many men and women face when it comes to sex and life together. On the Xtended version … How do you adjust better with […] The post The Challenges of Intimacy #431 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 28, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from listeners asking for our take on the use of the “f” word in married life and sex. A voicemail from a higher desire husband who takes too much of his cue from his lower desire wife when it comes to their sex life. A […] The post The F Word #430 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 21, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband emails looking for help for he and his wife regarding the fantasies she often turns to for sexual arousal. A caller asking for followup on one of Dr Glover’s ideas about the differences between men and women. On the Xtended version … An in-depth conversation […] The post Darker Fantasies #429 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 14, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband emails to share his journey to getting his wife on board to talking more about sex and wonders why he’s not at the same level of desire as before due to the work it took to reach their current level. And Jessa Zimmerman joins me […] The post Spilled Milk and Differences #428 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 7, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a wife who has repeated attempted to educate her husband about how she wants sex to unfold, yet is still getting little to no foreplay and routine, unfulfilling sex most of the time. On the Xtended version … Should you expect your spouse to […] The post Being There For You #427 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 31, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A couple of voicemails from members of the SMR Nation sharing some reframes of topics we’ve previously covered. One, the differences between thinkers and feelers. And two, masturbation. On the Xtended version … A deeper look at the orgasm gap in marriages today. Enjoy the show! __________ […] The post Reframing and the Orgasm Gap #426 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 24, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … How well do you do at showing the people that matter in your life that they matter? I’m joined by Dr. Robert Glover again as we discuss tests that happen in marriage between men and women. Learn more about Dr Glover here. On the Xtended version … […] The post Testing Solidness #425 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 17, 2019

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A wife calls in wanting to know how to trust again after her husband disclosed his porn usage for over 12 years of their marriage. Another wife emails wanting to know how to […] The post Trusting After Porn #424 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 10, 2019

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A wife calls in wanting more variety in her sex life – yet every time she brings it up with her husband he reverts back to what they’ve always done. And an email […] The post Wife Wants Variety #423 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 3, 2019

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a listener asking for our thoughts regarding One Sided Sex in marriage. Taken from an article found on Psychology Today. On the Xtended version … Part two of the SMR […] The post One Sided Sex In Marriage #422 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 26, 2019

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A husband calls in with 2 questions, how can he last longer during sex and would we talk about squirting and how to explore it or if you should. On the Xtended version […] The post Lasting Longer and Squirting #421 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 19, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband looking for more information on how to present something worth wanting. A wife wanting to know how to keep triggers from happening in the bedroom. On the Xtended version … A little more on the idea of the thinking brain and the feeling brain, particularly […] The post Something Worth Wanting #420 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 12, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband is looking for how to add more variety to his sex life when his wife has fear of pain during sex. A wife describes a gridlock with her husband surrounding his higher interest in sex than hers. Can your spouse be an accountability partner in […] The post Boundaries #419 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 5, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … Two different questions about masturbation. What if it could be reframed as a path forward and what about the woman’s side of this act? Plus a conversation with Denis Merkas from MELT, Couples Massage Courses about how massage is such a good addition to any marriage. On […] The post Masturbation and Massage #418 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 29, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … We don’t french kiss anymore. How can I get it started again in my marriage? Plus we’re joined by Seth and Melanie Studley from the Anatomy Of Marriage for a conversation about the idea of your accelerators and brakes in your sex life. On the Xtended version […] The post Accelerators and Brakes #417 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 22, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … How do I help my spouse believe they are attractive when it’s not what they believe about themself? Plus I’m joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, the author of She Comes First, to answer a listener’s question about premature ejaculation. On the Xtended version … A deeper conversation […] The post Premature Ejaculation #416 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 15, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … Several voicemails about the pressures that are felt in married life. From changes to sex to foreplay. On the Xtended version … Sex addiction is a term used quite a lot in the media and our culture lately. But is it accurate, real, and even an addiction […] The post Is Sex Addiction Real? #415 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 8, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … Several voicemails from the SMR Nation ranging from how does a wife better handle her husband’s struggle with looking at pornography to how do you address a spouse who’s upbringing around the subject of sex created a real discomfort even talking about the subject now. On the […] The post What Is Normal #414 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 1, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … What do you do when your husband goes straight for the genitalia in foreplay? A caller asking for more information about the State of the Union conversations you can have with your spouse. On the Xtended version … What if? Conflict and how this all creates a […] The post State of the Union #413 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 24, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife. A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin. On the Xtended version … Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do […] The post Masturbation and Expectations #412 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 17, 2019

On today’s regular version of the show … A couple of voicemails from members of the Sexy Marriage Nation asking for help in the conversations that take place in their marriage. An additional voicemail to add to the Oral Sex shows we’ve had lately. On the Xtended version … What are the elements necessary for […] The post Talking #411 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 10, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … The full conversation with Winifred Reilly, the author of It Takes One To Tango. On the Xtended version … A conversation about the sexual styles couples […] The post It Takes One To Tango #410 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 3, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Two follow up emails from episode #407. One sharing their surprise that Schnarch’s work was not mentioned in the episode 2 weeks ago and another from […] The post Tastes and Not Going to Happen #409 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 27, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … The full conversation with Eva Mendes LMHC, NCC about her work with neurodiverse marriages – meaning when one member of the relationship is on the Autism […] The post Spectrum Relationships and Giving vs Giving In #408 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 20, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a wife who gets nauseous and gags at the thought of her husband ejaculating into her mouth – yet he would really like […] The post Oral Sex and Gagging #407 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 13, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 5 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a husband who had his confidence rattled by a statement his wife said about her sexual past and their present. Plus I’m […] The post Confidence #406 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 6, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 10 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Why didn’t we use the term addiction in last week’s conversation? An email from a husband asking about the differences in desire vs. priorities. On […] The post Hold Onto Yourself #405 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 27, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 10 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a husband looking for ways to help his wife who has pain during intercourse. Plus an email from a wife who’s husband […] The post Cruelty In Marriage #404 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 20, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Two voicemails with some additional ideas to explore from last week’s email from a husband who’s wife only likes missionary position sex. On the Xtended version … A discussion about […] The post Missionary Position and Love Languages #403 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 13, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email looking for our thoughts about his wife’s unwillingness to do anything other than missionary position sex. A discussion with Dr. Debi Silber about her work in helping women […] The post Healing From Betrayal #402 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 6, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … What this past weekend’s Super Bowl can teach you about marriage. An email from a wife looking for more information about how sex is used as […] The post Sex As A Weapon #401 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 30, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Celebrating 400 Episodes of Sexy Marriage Radio. Messages from the Sexy Marriage Nation as well as hear from old voices that have helped make this milestone […] The post Celebrating 400 Episodes #400 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 23, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience survey. On today’s regular version of the show … Is marriage more of a partnership than longing and love like we believe going into it? What makes saying […] The post Saying Yes #399 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 16, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience survey. On today’s regular version of the show … How do you make sense of desire differences for sex when both spouses are higher desires? A follow-up to […] The post Desire Differences and Communication #398 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 9, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience survey. On today’s regular version of the show … A caller who practices natural family planning yet struggles with some of the roles each of them have agreed […] The post Repeated Betrayals and Power #397 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 2, 2019

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience survey. On today’s regular version of the show … A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you […] The post Too Tired For Sex #396 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 26, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience survey. On today’s regular version of the show … A look back the 2018 for Sexy Marriage Radio. An email from a husband concerned about his wife’s […] The post More Wine? #395 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 19, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … A wife who’s husband is asking for pictures of her to masturbate to when she’s unavailable. And a wife who admits to faking it at the beginning of their […] The post Faking It #394 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 12, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … We address some feedback we’ve received from the SM Nation regarding last week’s show with Pam Costa. An email from a wife who can only achieve orgasm via clitoral […] The post Clitoral Orgasms #393 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 5, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a higher desire wife who’s in a catch-22. Plus a conversation with Pam Costa on her journey and work about reclaiming female sexual desire. On the […] The post Awaken Female Desire #392 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 28, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Do you have to believe you’re sexy before you can be sexy? How do you connect better with your spouse? And a follow-up to last week’s episode. On the […] The post Being Sexy and Connecting #391 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 21, 2018

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … A couple of callers who feel powerless in their marriage either because of a husband’s continued use of porn or a wife’s non-existent desire for sex in their sexless […] The post Power and Sexlessness #390 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 14, 2018

On today’s regular version of the show … Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Plus an email from a listener asking about masturbation and religion. And a second opinion segment with Dale Sadler where we answer an email from a wife who’s husband […] The post Getaway and Masturbation #389 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 7, 2018

On today’s regular version of the show … A lengthy conversation with Jessa Zimmerman about how sex can be a lot of work, as well as some discussion of the Higher and Lower Desire paradigm when it comes to sexual differences. On the Xtended version … A deeper discussion of the Higher and Lower Desire […] The post When Sex Seems Like Work #388 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 31, 2018

On today’s regular version of the show … How to break the negative interaction cycles that can happen in marriage. Plus a conversation with a married couple that’s part of the Sexy Marriage Nation. We dive into why she’s not sexually attracted to her husband and some things they could do to possibly create a […] The post Not Sexually Attracted To My Husband #387 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 24, 2018

On today’s regular version of the show … More conversation about what do you do when trust is broken in marriage based on a callers response to a previous episode. Sexy Halloween – what role can dressing up play in married life? Plus a caller asking for our help in creating pick up lines to […] The post Masculine and Feminine Energy #386 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 17, 2018

On today’s regular version of the show … What do you do if you find you’re not sexually attracted to your spouse? We have emails from both genders. A Second Opinion segment. Dr. Julie Slattery joins me to answer a Sexy Marriage Nation member’s question about unwanted fantasies. On the Xtended version … A more […] The post Sexual Attraction and Fantasy with Dr. Julie Slattery #385 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 10, 2018

SEXY MARRIAGE RADIO TURNS SEVEN THIS WEEK!!!! On today’s regular version of the show … A man calls in who was able to shut down desire and arousal as a kid because of the guilt associated with the subject but now as a husband he has trouble performing. Another husband calls in as the low […] The post Seven Year Itch #384 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 4, 2018

Marriage is mostly on the job training. And there’s a purpose for the relationship that not enough people are talking about. Marriage is designed to help you grow up. Period. Today I’m a guest on my own show as we discuss the journey of Sexy Marriage Radio and its message. Enjoy the show! __________ Got […] The post Marriage Grows You Up With Dr Corey Allan #383 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 1, 2018

A caller asks us for help in understanding why he would seek attention elsewhere when his marriage is really good. And a wife calls trying to understand what she can do to get her husband interested in sex more than just on the weekends. Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or […] The post Repeated Betrayals and The Wife Is The Higher Desire #382 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 27, 2018

Aging impacts us all. It’s inescapable. But that doesn’t mean sex is over or even fades. Dr. Laurie Betito joins me today to discuss ways to keep sex going after you’ve turned 50. Enjoy the show! You can find Dr Laurie’s work here – http://www.drlaurie.com/ Watch SMR on YouTube here. __________ Got a question? CALL […] The post Sex After 50 With Laurie Betito #381 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 24, 2018

What do you do when you find yourself stuck against a stone wall in marriage? And that wall is your spouse and their unwillingness or disinterest in participating in sex? Also, a woman calls in wanting help understanding what to do since her breasts don’t arouse her since having a child. And our thoughts on […] The post Unilateral Marriages #380 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 20, 2018

There are differences between men and women. These differences can sometimes cause some issues in marriage. What if the differences can be captured with the images of a puppy dog and a pussy cat? That’s what Sheri Winston joins me on the show to discuss. Enjoy the show! You can find Sheri’s work here – […] The post Puppy Dogs and Pussy Cats With Sheri Winston #379 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 17, 2018

A member of the SM Nation adds to the conversation regarding the optimum penis size. Is there a Sexy Marriage Diet? Translation, foods that will aid your sex life. Pinching. It may not be what you thing. Plus hear our thoughts for a caller who’s at an impasse with his wife and his desire to […] The post Emptiness vs Fullness #378 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 13, 2018

Life has ruts and routine. So do relationships, families and marriages. So how do you break out of these ruts? And when should you? That’s what we discuss today – and we’re joined by our friends Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele of Only You Forever and Seth and Melanie Studley of The Anatomy of Marriage. Enjoy […] The post Marriage Roundtable: Breaking Free of Ruts #377 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 10, 2018

Hear several callers each wanting assistance with how to approach rejection, engagement from their spouse during sex, and how to handle being the Higher or the Lower Desire in the marriage. Plus some push back from a caller regarding our past show with Dr. Snyder (Episode #365) And a fellow member of the Sexy Marriage […] The post Someone Has To Lead #376 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 6, 2018

We continue on the topic of intimacy today. Although we also add in some technology. The Ultimate Intimacy App is a fantastic resource for marriage and sex. It’s a great blend of provocative and informational. And it’s free! Enjoy the show! You can download the app here – Ultimate Intimacy App Watch SMR on YouTube […] The post The Ultimate Intimacy App #375 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 3, 2018

Today we cover several different topics as well as a follow-up from last week’s show. What can help change the taste of my semen? A husband and wife disagreeing about the scripture “Your body is not your own.” And a caller wanting help with confronting his wife’s attitude of “Hurry up and get this over […] The post Tastes, Body Is Not My Own, More Foreplay #374 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 30, 2018

Intimacy. The word can mean so many different things. Steven Ing joins me today as we discuss what does intimacy mean, and how do we create a deeper level of it with others. Enjoy the show! You can find Steven’s work here – stevening.com Or check out his TED talk here – What’s your magic […] The post Deeper Intimacy With Steven Ing #373 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 27, 2018

Today is another potpourri show as well as a couple of follow-ups from last week’s show. A wife emails us for help in how to better handle her reaction to her husband’s semen. Another emailer asks if there is any research on the benefits of breast play. And a caller wanting help in how to […] The post Semen, Breasts and Fantasy #372 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 23, 2018

Unfortunately everyone is likely going to face the topic of today’s show. Betrayal, deception and the pain it creates in relationships are far too common. That’s why Dr. Tim Cole joins me for today’s episode. Enjoy the show! You can find more about Dr Cole’s here – Broken Trust: Overcoming An Intimate Betrayal Watch the […] The post Broken Trust #371 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 20, 2018

Today is a potpourri show where we cover three different emails. How do you tell a spouse the truth when they ask you “Was it good for you?” Some thoughts for helping with the ickiness of sex. And a question from a newlywed who is now terrified of sex after a rough beginning to their […] The post Honesty, Ickiness and Waited Now Terrified #370 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 16, 2018

There are many shows and books and articles aimed at helping you achieve better sex. Sexy Marriage Radio exists to try and help as well. And throughout the 6 1/2 years worth of shows we’ve yet to discuss our topic for today. Mindfulness is a better way to experience more in life, and sex. Dr. […] The post Better Sex Through Mindfulness With Lori Brotto #369 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 13, 2018

Negotiation can be a part of business. Even part of relationships. But what if it’s actually part of the growth process in life and marriage? Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … Get even more help in the Academy Get help […] The post Negotiation In Marriage #368 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 9, 2018

Why is there so much shame surrounding sex and sexuality? Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers joins me today as we discuss her research and work around this subject. Enjoy the show! You can find Dr Seller’s work and book here – Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame From Sexual Intimacy Or check out her […] The post Sex, God and Church With Tina Schermer Sellers #367 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 6, 2018

We have discussed the use of toys and fantasy in the past, but this time we venture into the topics a little differently, and also address the world of erotica. Enjoy the show! Looking for more of a community? Find it in the Sexy Marriage Academy. Interested in the Private Affair Game? Pick it up […] The post Toys, Erotica and Fantasies #366 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 2, 2018

Dr. Stephen Snyder joins me today as we discuss what can make sex in a long lasting marriage fantastic. Enjoy the show! You can find Dr Snyder’s book here – Love Worth Making Watch the show on YouTube here. __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post Love Worth Making With Stephen Snyder #365 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 30, 2018

We all live among other people – but how deep are we really in a community of others? There’s tremendous benefit to living life on a deeper level with others. That’s where we go today. Enjoy the show! Looking for more of a community? Find it in the Sexy Marriage Academy. __________ Sponsor: This episode […] The post Living In Community With Others – #364 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 26, 2018

There are many women who grew up thinking sex was something bad, and they’ve carried this belief into adulthood and marriage. Today Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we discuss how sex is a beneficial thing in marriage, and life. Enjoy the show! You can find Sheila’s work here – To Love Honor And Vacuum […] The post Good Girls And Sex With Sheila Wray Gregoire #363 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 23, 2018

We all live busy lives. Perhaps too busy. But what happens when one spouse is just too busy for what they say they want in marriage? That’s where we go today. Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Covenant Spice. http://covenantspice.com __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at […] The post When One Spouse Is Too Busy #362 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 19, 2018

Is there a link between spirituality and sexuality? Can that link be greater than we think? Dr Chuck MacKnee joins me on today’s episode as we discuss these questions and discover the answer is yes, to both. Enjoy the show! You can contact Dr Macknee here – macknee@twu.ca Watch the show on YouTube here. __________ […] The post Spirituality and Sexuality With Chuck MacKnee #361 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 16, 2018

There are roles each spouses play in marriage and family life. What happens when the traditional roles you play get reversed? That’s where we go today. Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet®. Enter the code word SEXY at checkout to receive a free bottle of […] The post When Roles Reverse #360 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 12, 2018

Grief is a reality of life. And when one or both spouses are directly impacted by loss it can affect the marriage in several ways. My colleague Elise Thompson, LMFT joins me to discuss this today – recorded live from the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? CALL US […] The post Grief and Sex With Elise Thompson #359 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 9, 2018

We are big proponents of teaching our children about sex. But an emailer asks us how do you teach them about intimacy? That’s what we discuss today – recorded live from the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show! __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy […] The post Teaching Intimacy To Your Kids #358 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 5, 2018

On today’s episode I’m joined by J. Parker or Hot, Holy, Humorous – a blogger, podcaster and author who leads the conversation about how wives should seek their own pleasure in sex. You can find more of J.’s work on her site: Hot, Holy, Humorous Sex Chat For Christian Wives Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: […] The post Seeking Your Pleasure In Sex With J Parker #357 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 2, 2018

Everyone is likely familiar with the idea of wedding vows. The commitments we make to our spouse regarding our life we’re beginning together. But what about vows for our sex life? Or our erotic life? That’s what we discuss today – recorded live from the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show! __________ Got […] The post Wedding Vows, Sex Vows and Erotic Vows #356 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 28, 2018

On today’s episode I’m joined by Laurie Watson, a LMFT, Sex therapist and author who leads the conversation about how to create desire in marriage, specifically for women. You can find more of Laurie’s work on her site: http://awakeningscenter.org/ Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed […] The post How To Awaken Desire #355 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 25, 2018

There are many things about life that may seem fair, or unfair. What about the dynamics of sex that may not seem fair? That’s what we discuss today – recorded live from the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy. http://smr.fm/smracademy __________ […] The post When The Dynamics Of Sex Are Unfair #354 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 21, 2018

On today’s episode I’m joined by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits. He and I discuss how his journey of simplicity and habits has impacted his life, marriage and family. Find Leo’s work at Zen Habits. Enjoy the show! You can also watch the show here on YouTube! __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or […] The post Simplicity, Habits and Marriage #353 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 18, 2018

Today we cover a couple of emails from the Sexy Marriage Nation. Are there conditions in marriage? And love? How do you address major unbalances in marriage? Enjoy the show. Editor’s Note: Due to some repeated sound issues shows are not appearing on YouTube until this is resolved. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by […] The post Conditions and Imbalance in Marriage #352 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 14, 2018

On today’s episode I’m joined by Johnathan Robinson, a psychotherapist and a professional speaker who leads our conversation about how to create more love with less conflict in our relationships. You can find more of Johnathan’s work on his site: www.FindingHappiness.com Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed ~ A […] The post More Love, Less Conflict #351 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 11, 2018

There are many times we receive an email about how a spouse has no, or low libido. This will impact the relationship and their life, but is their baseline level of libido that important? Or is there something else to focus on in this area of life? Enjoy the show. Editor’s Note: Due to some […] The post Libido and Oxytocin #350 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 7, 2018

Today the Sexy Marriage Nation hears from Dr. Laurie Mintz, a professor at the University of Florida and a Licensed Psychologist. Her new book is the topic of our conversation – Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters, And How To Get It. Find more about Dr Laurie here. Enjoy the show. You can also watch […] The post Becoming Cliterate #349 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 4, 2018

We celebrated 25 years of marriage last week! Join us as Pam and I discuss some of how our 25 years of marriage together have impacted us, and how Sexy Marriage Radio has impacted us as well. Enjoy the show. Or, watch the show here on YouTube! __________ Sponsor: Man Of His Word Mastermind Groups […] The post Our Journey Of 25 Years #348 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 31, 2018

Today’s show is a continuation of the menopause discussion. This week Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley joins me to explore the subject from her view as an OB-GYN. Find more about Dr Carol here. Enjoy the show. You can also watch the show here on YouTube! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by The Sexy Marriage Radio […] The post Menopause and Marriage #347 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 28, 2018

Today my wife Pam and I follow from last week’s episode on sex toys in marriage. This time we discuss more about the use of toys but land more in the area of masturbation and married life. Enjoy the show! Or, watch the show here on YouTube! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked […] The post Masturbation In Married Life #346 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 24, 2018

One topic has shown up a lot recently in the Inbox of feedback@sexymarriagereadio.com is how to address menopause and hormones. Well today I have Nancy Houston, LPC and Certified Sex Therapist join me as we cover these issues directly. You can find more about Nancy here – http://nancyhouston.net/ And pick up her book here, Love […] The post Menopause and Hormones #345 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 21, 2018

Sex toys are great! Or they’re a threat! Join us as Pam and I discuss the history of vibrators and answer a couple of emails about confidence and sex toys. Enjoy the show. Or, watch the show here on YouTube! __________ Sponsor: Dr. Allan’s book: Naked Marriage: Uncovering Who You Are And Who You Can […] The post When Sex Toys Feel Like A Threat #344 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 17, 2018

Our first ever Marriage Roundtable! Today Pam and I are joined by Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele of Only You Forever and Seth and Melanie Studley of The Anatomy of Marriage. In this episode we discuss the best and the worst marriage advice we’ve heard in our lives and our practices. You can find more about […] The post Marriage Roundtable: Best and Worst Marriage Advice #343 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 14, 2018

Talking about sex is an important aspect of marital, and sexual satisfaction in life. But it is also a difficult conversation for some to being, get through, or feel like they get anywhere with. Today we dive more into the struggles many people have talking about sex with their spouse, and give several ideas about […] The post Talking About Sex With The One You Have It With #342 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 10, 2018

Communication is a big deal in life, and marriage. Everything we do (and don’t do) communicates. So how does this all play out when it comes to our desires in marriage? When it comes to sex in marriage? Lorraine Wrage, LPC is a Certified Sex Therapist and she joins me as we discuss the importance […] The post Communication of Desire #341 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 7, 2018

WELCOME to SMR 3.0!!!!! And yes, it’s Monday and there’s a new episode. Why? You may ask. Listen to the show to hear all about the new things happening in SMR 3.0. Or, watch the show here on YouTube! Enjoy the show. And thanks for joining us. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the […] The post Welcome to Sexy Marriage Radio 3.0 #340 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 2, 2018

Today we tackle a couple of emails following up the Pain During Intercourse Episode and then cover a voicemail on the idea of regaining your sexual confidence as a husband when his wife says she wants more erotism during sex but doesn’t follow through. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the […] The post SMR#339: Sexually Confident Husband first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 25, 2018

What exactly does it mean to be compatible? Specifically sexually compatible? That’s what we explore today. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy. http://smr.fm/smracademy __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … Get even more help in the Academy Get […] The post SMR#338: Sexual Compatibility first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 18, 2018

Today we have a couple of calls – one with a great idea to spice up your TV watching and other asking how do you be authentic in your life while struggling to say yes or no to sex with their higher desire spouse. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Man […] The post SMR#337: Authenticity and Saying No first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 11, 2018

There are times when sex is not pleasurable at all. In fact there are women who experience pain during sex. Today I’m joined by a colleague, Debby Wade, LMFT, LPC who works with women and couples who experience pain during sex. Enjoy the show. Resources mentioned … Vaginismus.com When Sex Hurts Heal Pelvic Pain __________ […] The post SMR#336: Pain During Intercourse first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 4, 2018

Perhaps you’ve heard of this idea, or not. What would happen in your marriage if you took an extended, purposeful break from sex in your marriage? It may surprise you. Plus a couple of voicemails on porn and marriage. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. […] The post SMR#335: A Sexual Moratorium first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 28, 2018

Today my first co-host of Sexy Marriage Radio joins me on the air. Gina Parris and I discuss the differences between higher and lower desire in sex through the lens of offense and defense. Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet®. Enter the code word SEXY […] The post SMR#334: Defensiveness In Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 21, 2018

There are many differences between spouses in marriage. Higher vs Lower Desire. Initiating vs Responding. Connecting to be interested in sex vs sex to feel connected. Today my wife Pam and I discuss how these differences can actually create energy for each of you. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by The […] The post SMR#333: The Energy Differences Can Create first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 14, 2018

Today my wife Pam and I cover a couple of related topics … What does a husband do when his wife doesn’t initiate sex? And an email from a listener asking for more information about bringing triggers out in the open in the marriage. Enjoy the show! __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked […] The post SMR#332: Initiate, Responding and Triggers first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 7, 2018

Join us for Shannon’s farewell episode as we look back on our journey together on the show – and a brief look forward towards what is yet to come. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Covenant Spice. http://covenantspice.com __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen […] The post SMR#331: Looking Back And Forward first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 28, 2018

There are many times when one spouse wants the other to change something, stop something or start something. Losing weight, better diet, more initiation, etc. So how does the Higher Desire spouse address this with their mate? That’s what we discuss today. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Woman at the […] The post SMR#330: Priming the Pump first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 21, 2018

Have you ever looked at the mindset you have towards your sex life? That’s what we explore in this episode. Plus, there’s an important announcement towards the end of the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet®. Enter the code word SEXY at checkout to receive a free […] The post SMR#329: Mindsets Toward Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 14, 2018

It’s a common human desire to feel wanted. But what most often keeps us from feeling this way in marriage? Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. June 21-24, 2018 at the Marriott Solana in Westlake, TX (just north of DFW Airport). Register to join us […] The post SMR#328: I Want You To Want Me first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 7, 2018

What happens when your past (or a fantasy you’ve shared) is used against you by your spouse? Shannon is back to help me explore. Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet®. Enter the code word SEXY at checkout to receive a free bottle of massage oil. […] The post SMR#327: Past Used Against You first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 31, 2018

Dr. Robert Glover joins me again as we discuss the idea of creating positive emotional tension in married life. Check out more of his work at https://www.drglover.com\ Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the 2018 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. June 21-24 at the Marriott Solana in Westlake, TX (just north of […] The post SMR#326: Positive Emotional Tension first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 24, 2018

Announcing the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway 2018! June 21-24 at the Marriott Solana in Westlake, TX (just north of DFW Airport). This is our fourth annual getaway and it looks to be one of the best. Register to join us today. Plus, an email from a wife who asks about her struggle of initiating sex […] The post SMR#325: Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway and Initiation first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 17, 2018

Emails from listeners … I’m fascinated by the differences between higher and lower desires – particularly about Birthday Sex. A discussion about the logistics of shower sex. And how does a wife grow more comfortable with oral sex on her husband? Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by The Sexy Marriage Radio […] The post SMR#324: Birthday Sex, Shower Sex, Oral Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 10, 2018

This month we have a new sponsor for SMR – Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet® designed to help you let go and experience more in your intimate moments in marriage. Today I’m joined by the creators of Naked Bed and talk about their story behind the idea, as well as how it will help […] The post SMR#323: Lingerie For Your Bed first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 3, 2018

Voicemails from two listeners … What are some tips to help recapture married life and sex before kids? How can we approach money in our married life better in 2018? Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Covenant Spice. http://covenantspice.com __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. […] The post SMR#322: Kids and Money in Married Life first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 27, 2017

Email from a listener … What are some things you’d recommend for young married couples (or every couple) since you’re wife is on air with you now and you’ve been married for almost 25 years? We don’t get to 20, but we have some good ones. Enjoy the show. __________ This episode is sponsored by […] The post SMR#321: Helpful Tips For Married Life first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 20, 2017

Voicemail and email from listeners today … What is the difference between longing vs lusting? (@ 2:30 mark) Tips for sex over the Holidays, especially when traveling with family. (@ 27:33 mark) My wife Pam joins me on this episode again. Enjoy the show. __________ This episode is sponsored by The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy. […] The post SMR#320: Longing vs Lusting, Holiday Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 13, 2017

Voicemails from listeners today … What can you do to establish a deeper connection after discovery of pornography use? And a caller who is interested in how to keep a deeper connection with his wife during sex. My wife Pam joins me on this episode again. Enjoy the show. __________ This episode is sponsored by […] The post SMR#319: Rebuilding and Keeping A Deeper Connection first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 6, 2017

Voicemails from a couple of listeners today … How do you get back to normal sex after pregnancy? How do you deal with being the higher desire when your spouse responds to your levels with “But we have sex the normal amount of time.” My wife Pam joins me on this episode again. Enjoy the […] The post SMR#318: Sex After Pregnancy and Being The Higher Desire first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 29, 2017

Today we tackle several emails from our listeners … What makes married sex so great? How to feel cherished and loved. Breaking the intergenerational Nice Guy trait. My wife Pam joins me on this episode again. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email Us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post SMR#317: Great Married Sex, Feeling Cherished, Intergenerational Nice Guy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 22, 2017

Today we tackle several emails from our listeners … Animals in bed. No kissing in the marriage, even during sex. My spouse will not accept my compliments. My wife Pam joins me on this episode again. Enjoy the show. __________ Take our brief survey – https://s.surveyplanet.com/rJPdn-jJM __________ Got a question? CALL US 214-702-9565 Or Email […] The post SMR#316: Animals in bed, No kissing, Accepting compliments first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 15, 2017

We’ve covered the topic of pornography on several past shows, but not quite in this way. What do you do after you discover your spouse’s porn usage? My wife Pam joins me on this episode to unpack this struggle and the path towards growth. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. […] The post SMR#315: After The Discovery of Spouse’s Porn Usage first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 8, 2017

Today I’m joined by Tray and Melody Lovvorn of Undone Redone, a podcast and ministry willing to wade into the messiness of life and marriage. Listen to their story of how their marriage ended in divorce, then 6 years later remarriage. Enjoy the show. __________ A couple of the links mentioned on the show: How […] The post SMR#314: Marriage Undone Then Redone first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 1, 2017

Maintenance is a known requirement when it comes to our cars, homes, and other things we own. But what about our relationships? Especially our marriage? What are the ways we can practice maintenance in our marriage? My wife Pam joins me on this episode. Enjoy the show. __________ A couple of the links mentioned on […] The post SMR#313: Marriage Maintenance first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 25, 2017

I’ve talked about the idea of the Nice Guy before on Sexy Marriage Radio, today I’m joined by a friend and mentor of mine Dr. Robert Glover. He’s the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. In this episode we discuss how the nice guy impacts relationships and how to change from being a nice […] The post SMR#312: The Nice Guy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 18, 2017

There are people and couples who may not have fantasies, or if they do they are very vanilla. So what do you do if this is you, or you’re married to them? That’s what we discuss today. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … Get […] The post SMR#311: Vanilla Fantasies first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 11, 2017

In case you missed the beginning of our discussion on this idea, check it out here. Today we continue with some practical ways you can confront the silence that many couples face in married life. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#310: The Silence Is Killing Me, Part 2 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 4, 2017

An email from a listener helps set the stage for this episode. One answer to the conflict we have in marriage surrounding sex could be one thing, but it could also another thing that all of us will face in married life. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to […] The post SMR#309: The Silence Is Killing Me first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 27, 2017

Listener driven radio happens this week. We cover emails about The D Word, can my spouse be my anything, and oral sex. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#308: Listener Emails – The D Word, Spouse Is My Anything, Oral Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 20, 2017

There are times in life, sometimes many times, when we may not know what I want. What do I do when this happens in my sex life? That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#307: I Do Not Know What I Want first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 13, 2017

There are many couples who struggle with infertility issues. But what makes this struggle even greater is the way this struggle impacts the marriage’s sex life. That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#306: Sex and Infertility first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 6, 2017

There are many times when we fall victim to the belief that marriage is an issue that can be solved. That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#305: Can Marriage Be Solved? first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 30, 2017

Far too often we have placed unrealistic expectations and requirements on marriage and our spouse. What has been the fall out from this pressure? That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#304: My Spouse Is My Everything first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 23, 2017

There are many definitions of a stud (not talking about building materials). So how do you define what makes a stud? Or makes someone sexy? That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#303: Redefining A Stud first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 16, 2017

Regret is something humans face in many facets of life and relationship. But how do we handle regret better in marriage? That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#302: Handling Regrets in Marriage first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 9, 2017

Several episodes ago we talked about the abstinence movement and its impact on married life. This show resulted in lots of emails from our listeners. Because of the way the conversation was heard by many of you, today we’re circling back to the topic. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. […] The post SMR#301: Abstinence and Married Life Follow Up first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 2, 2017

EPISODE 300!!!! What a great milestone. Listen as we celebrate this accomplishment – live from the 2017 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#300: Episode 300! first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 26, 2017

Overreactions run rampant in marriage. And it can cause quite a bit of trouble in like. So how do you get better hold of overreactions to triggers in life and marriage? That’s what we discuss this week coming to you live from the 2017 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? […] The post SMR#299: Overreacting To Triggers first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 19, 2017

One of the main ideas that will help grow us up is our ability to learn how to self-soothe. What exactly does this look like? That’s what we discuss this week coming to you live from the 2017 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to […] The post SMR#298: Self-Soothing first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 12, 2017

It has been said that women are like crock-pots and men are like microwaves. But what if men are like crock-pots as well? That’s what we discuss this week coming to you live from the 2017 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post SMR#297: Men Can Also Be Crock-Pots first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 5, 2017

Many listeners may have been raised with an abstinence message when it came to sex before marriage. While this message is important – it can also have some unintended consequences. That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#296: Abstinence and Married Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 28, 2017

One theme in our Inbox keeps being repeated, how medications for depression, anxiety and the like impact sex life in marriage. It can be a real issue. But there are some things you can do that will help. Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#295: Antidepressants and Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 21, 2017

In episode 292 we interviewed a listener and his struggle with the power of the third in his marriage. Based on feedback from several listeners, this concept deserves to be explored more. Here you go! Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#294: Power of the Third Follow Up first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 14, 2017

We have scripts that we follow in married sex. One of the most common would be she comes first. What if he comes first? Enjoy the show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#293: He Comes First first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 7, 2017

One thought we have talked about is this idea of “the power of the third.” The idea that we are trying to live fully alive lives, which will possibly be noticed by others. In this episode a listener joins us to discuss to struggle of using the power of the third. Enjoy the show. Still […] The post SMR#292: The Power of The Third first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 31, 2017

Sexy Marriage Radio listeners are the best in the world. Especially when they call us to task and keep us in check. Like today’s show where we answer some criticism from several listeners. Enjoy the show. Still time to go to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? […] The post SMR#291: Potpourri Feedback from Listeners first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 24, 2017

We have discussed how women are security seeking creatures and when a husband’s job outlook fluctuates it could impact security. Today we are joined by a caller who wants help increasing her desire for her husband when her security feels threatened. Enjoy the show. Still time to go to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – […] The post SMR#290: Security and Desire first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 17, 2017

One of our challenges is for us as married people to be more solid. So what does solidness mean? That’s what we discuss. Enjoy the show. Still time to go to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#289: Solidness first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 10, 2017

Laziness can be something many people face in life. But what about in marriage? In sex? That’s what we cover in today’s episode. Enjoy the show. Still time to go to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#288: Sexual Laziness first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

May 3, 2017

Last week we covered Sexless Marriages, and we struck a nerve with several of our listeners. Lots of times what is really happening in a sexless marriage comes down to power and control. That’s the angle we take for this topic today. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – […] The post SMR#287: Sexless Marriages – Power And Control first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 26, 2017

We have episodes on this topic in the archives, but it’s so worth covering again. The sexless marriage. It’s quite a bind – for both spouses. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post SMR#286: Sexless Marriages first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 19, 2017

Soft and hard – the words can bring very different thoughts to mind. Especially within the context of sex. Same with the word scheduling. Want to know what meaning we attach to these words? Listen. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a […] The post SMR#285: Soft and Hard and Scheduling first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 12, 2017

This week we are joined by a listener looking for help in understanding the differences in desire levels and the dance that causes in his marriage. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post SMR#284: The Dance of Desire Differences first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Apr 5, 2017

Research from late last year states that Americans are having less sex that they were a couple of decades ago. Why do you supposed that is? That’s what we discuss in this episode. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email […] The post SMR#283: Americans Are Having Less Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 29, 2017

To ask for sex or pursue it. It can be quite the quandary. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Early bird discount goes away April 1st! Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#282: Pursuing vs. Asking first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 22, 2017

Perhaps you’ve never heard about cuckolding. Well, after today’s show that will no longer be the case. Enjoy. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Early bird discount goes away April 1st! Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#281: Cuckolding first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 15, 2017

Another listener joins us for this episode. Join us as Molly asks how she can increase her sexual confidence. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Early bird discount goes away April 1st! Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage […] The post SMR#280: Sexual Confidence Or Vulnerability first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 8, 2017

We have asked this question before … Would you want to be married to you? Today we ask – What is it like to have sex with you? Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to […] The post SMR#279: What Is It Like To Have Sex With You? first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Mar 1, 2017

This week a listener joins us on the air to explore her issue of feeling like she is the low desire spouse, yet wants to be the chaser in the marriage. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at […] The post SMR#278: Low Desire But Likes The Chase first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 22, 2017

Trust equals lust. But trust isn’t just about infidelity or affairs. It is so much more. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#277: Trust Equals Lust first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 15, 2017

It’s been a while since we’ve done a potpourri show. In this week’s episode we cover three different emails from listeners: Dirty talk RV sex Dealing with rejection Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to […] The post SMR#276: Dirty Talk, RV Sex, Dealing With Rejection first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 8, 2017

The things that happen to us when we’re young can impact us for a long time. In today’s episode we discuss an email from a listener that faces shutting down sexually when things get too close to feeling out of control or uncomfortable. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, […] The post SMR#275: Spouse Shuts Down Because of Past Abuse first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Feb 1, 2017

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching? Have you thought about what you can do to enhance your relationship? What about coming to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway, June 22-25, 2017? Register to Getaway That’s what we talk about in this episode. You can also take advantage of the sale our friend’s are having at Couple’s Massage […] The post SMR#274: 2017 SMR Getaway first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 25, 2017

Some things happen behind your spouse’s back. But what about when those things actually involve them, or betray them? That’s what we talk about in this episode. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017. Register __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#273: Behind Your Spouse’s Back first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 18, 2017

Each week you guys faithfully tune into our show. You email, you ask questions, you give feedback and you support us. This week we offer up a new level of vulnerability with you and share what’s been going on behind the scenes. What is that, you ask? Listen to the show. __________ Got a question? […] The post SMR#272: Being Vulnerable With You first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 11, 2017

Perhaps you don’t think of some aspects of the marriage as tests, but there are things that happen that may in fact be just that. That’s what we cover in this episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#271: Tests in Marriage first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jan 4, 2017

Welcome to 2017! Interested in a new resource that will help take your marriage to the next level? Consider joining the Sexy Marriage Radio Academy That’s what we cover in this episode. Join the Academy __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#270: The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 28, 2016

There are many couples that face the dilemma of the the wife being the high desire partner. While the dynamic between the high desire and low desire has some similarities when she is the high desire – there are things she can do that doesn’t help. That’s what we cover in this episode. __________ Got […] The post SMR#269: How The High Desire Wife Gets In Her Own Way first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 21, 2016

We have talked at length about the high desire and the low desire. Many times the low desire partner gets all the focus, but there are some things the high desire does that gets in their own way. That’s what we cover in this episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to […] The post SMR#268: How the High Desire Gets In Their Own Way first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 14, 2016

There are many areas worth touching when it comes to foreplay and sex. But what about some areas that may get overlooked? That’s what we cover in this episode. To check out the couple’s massage course MELT, click here. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#267: 10 Hot Spots To Touch first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Dec 7, 2016

Normal. What exactly does that mean? This question is particularly troubling sometimes when it comes to marriage and sex That’s what we cover in this episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#266: Redefining Normal first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 30, 2016

The political season has given way to the Holiday Season – but what do you do when the prior season found you and your spouse (or family) on opposite sides? How do you connect when you simply don’t agree? That’s what we cover in this episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen […] The post SMR#265: How To Connect When You Don’t Agree first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 23, 2016

Today we take care of a little house-keeping. There are some great things happening at Sexy Marriage Radio … The Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway 2017 Bed Buddy Club Members can register now (you will have to log into your account to access the payment page) Register Now The SMR Academy (more details coming later) Naked […] The post SMR#264: Naked Marriage, Getaway, and SMR Academy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 16, 2016

Last week we covered several books that helped shape our views about marriage, sexuality and our role as counselors. This week is part two of our list. Enjoy. Shannon’s books: Arousal – Michael Bader Divine Romance – Gene Edwards The Mystery of Marriage – Mike Mason The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands – Laura […] The post SMR#263: Books That Shaped Our View, Part 2 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 9, 2016

There are many things that influence and define our view or life, marriage, and sex. In today’s episode we discuss the impactful books that helped shape us professionally. Enjoy. Shannon’s books: Daily Meditations for Women Who Love Too Much – Robin Norwood A Celebration of Sex – Doug Rosenau The Naked Now – Richard Rohr […] The post SMR#262: Books That Shaped Our View first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Nov 2, 2016

There is a difference between knowing something and caring about something. In episode #257 we began this conversation, today we expand it. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#261: Knowing vs Caring, Part 2 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 26, 2016

We make bids every day. Some are more overt and straight-forward than others. So how do bids play out in your marriage? What’s that? You don’t know what a bid is? Then listen to today’s episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#260: Bids For Relationship first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 19, 2016

In every marriage relationship there is a talker and a no-talker (or a talk-less talker). This can create a great deal of angst both within you and between you. That’s what we discuss in today’s episode. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#259: When A Spouse Does Not Like To Talk first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 12, 2016

On October 10, 2011 Sexy Marriage Radio hit the airwaves! Join us this week as we celebrate 5 years! __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#258: Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 5! first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Oct 5, 2016

Many of us believe that if our spouse knew what we struggle with or what we need then they would offer it or change it. But what if they do know and we interpret that as they don’t care? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen […] The post SMR#257: Knowing vs. Caring first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 28, 2016

What’s a fetish? If you don’t know, be sure to listen. That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#256: Fetishes first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 21, 2016

Shoulds are everywhere. Far too often it’s our shoulds that cause the most frustration and pain. How often do the shoulds impact your marriage? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#255: Stop Shoulding On Yourself first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 14, 2016

Routine plays a role in life. But it also causes boredom. So how can you “boldly go” where you haven’t gone before? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#254: Boldly Go Where You Haven’t Gone Before first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Sep 7, 2016

We are big advocates for spicing things up in sex. That’s part of why Sexy Marriage Radio exists. But what about spicing it up with videos or cameras? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#253: Amateur Videos first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 31, 2016

We have several shows on the effects of porn and marriage, but what is the relationship between porn and ED? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#252: Porn and ED first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 24, 2016

Orgasm gets lots of focus when it comes to sex. But what if orgasm is actually a horrible litmus test when it comes to what makes great sex? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#251: Orgasm Is A Poor Litmus Test For Great Sex first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 17, 2016

Sex can be a lot of things. Some of them good, some bad. What about when sex is painful? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#250: When Sex Is Painful first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 10, 2016

Courage surrounds a lot of things. But what about sexual courage? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#249: Sexual Courage first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Aug 3, 2016

You’ve likely heard about the idea of people doing the best they can with what they have, but what about when people don’t? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#248: Doing The Best You Can first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 27, 2016

Most everyone has experienced an emotional high in life, or marriage. The euphoria of a vacation, a getaway, a great weekend. So how do you keep it going? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#247: Keeping a Marital High first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 20, 2016

A hack is something that makes things easier or improves it. So what are some good sex hacks? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#246: Sex Hacks first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 13, 2016

My guess is this isn’t a question you’ve asked yourself? But we did while at the SMR Getaway and it lead to some great discussions among the listeners who attended. That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#245: How Is A Relationship With God Sexual? first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jul 6, 2016

Intimacy is something most everyone seeks. But what does intimacy really mean? Is it physical, or emotional? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#244: The Importance of Emotional Intimacy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 29, 2016

Intimacy is something most everyone seeks. But what’s so important about the physical aspects of intimacy in marriage? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. Listen to Sexy Marriage Radio below … The post SMR#243: The Importance of Physical Intimacy first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

Jun 22, 2016

There can be a lot of turmoil surround the idea of “being in the mood.” Specifically when you may be in the mood and your spouse isn’t. So who’s job is it to help get your spouse in the mood? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@sexymarriageradio.com. […] The post SMR#242: Getting Your Spouse In The Mood first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .