Episodes

22h ago

In this episode, Jon reflects on the ROUGH moments at family gatherings where love, history, and boundaries collide.... especially when you’re parenting in front of the people who raised you. Anchored in the reminder that “love does not require you to violate your boundaries,” he walks through real parent questions about food comments, gift overload, and forced affection. Parents will leave feeling less alone, more grounded in their authority, and clearer about how to protect their kids without carrying everyone else’s feelings. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

1d ago

In this throwback episode, Jon takes on the Santa question: the moment every parent eventually faces when wonder collides with honesty. Framed around the tension between magic and trust, he explores how Santa works in a child’s developing brain and why the real issue isn’t whether Santa is “real,” but how we show up when kids ask big questions . Parents will walk away with clarity, compassion, and practical ways to navigate Santa conversations in a way that protects imagination, emotional safety, and the parent-child relationship. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

4d ago

In this episode, Jon explores why losing hits kids so hard—and why meltdowns over games are rarely about the game itself. Centered on the idea that “losing feels like a threat when a nervous system can’t predict what’s coming next,” he reframes sore losing as a regulation issue, not a character flaw. Parents will walk away with clarity, compassion, and practical ways to build frustration tolerance and resilience without shaming, fixing, or lowering expectations. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

5d ago

In this episode, Jon explores why parents often find themselves reacting on autopilot—saying things they swore they’d never say, in a tone that feels uncomfortably familiar. Centered on the idea of “factory default settings,” he explains how stress, fatigue, and old neural pathways quietly take over, even when our values are different. Parents will leave with relief, self-compassion, and practical nervous-system tools to interrupt inherited patterns and respond with more intention when it matters most. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

6d ago

Episode Summary In this episode, Jon explores what it means to hold boundaries when your child is angry with you—and why that discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Grounded in the truth that “kids aren’t supposed to like your boundaries all the time,” he reframes children’s anger as a normal, even necessary part of development. Parents will leave with reassurance, nervous-system insight, and a clearer sense of how to stay emotionally available without overexplaining, rescuing, or giving up their limits. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 16

In this episode, Jon unpacks why toddlers seem to say “no” to everything —even the things they want—and why this phase isn’t defiance or manipulation, but their earliest tool for agency . Framed as a selfhood struggle, not a power struggle , the conversation reframes constant refusal as a sign of healthy development. Parents will leave with clarity, reassurance, and simple ways to reduce battles while protecting connection and supporting their child’s growing sense of self. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 11

In this episode, Jon answers three real parent questions about clinginess — those “Velcro moments” when a child won’t let you leave the room and panic replaces logic. Through stories, brain science, and attachment research, he explores why clinginess is not a sign of overdependence, but a child’s way of saying “you are my safe person.” Parents will walk away with a clearer understanding of what clinginess really communicates, how to respond without reinforcing fear, and practical rituals that build connection, confidence, and emotional resilience. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 10

In this episode, Jon digs into the real reason transitions feel so “impossible” for kids — not because they’re being dramatic, but because shifting out of a moment they love can feel like a genuine shock to their system. Through stories, neuroscience, and deeply relatable parent questions, he explores why task-switching is so hard for developing brains and how a “satisfying end” can change everything. Listeners walk away with clarity, compassion, and concrete ways to support their child through the chaotic in-between moments without power struggles or guilt. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 9

In this episode, Jon unpacks why kids interrupt, especially in those moments when it “starts to feel disrespectful and chaotic” and you’re thinking, they’re old enough, they should know better. He breaks down what’s really happening in the developing brain around time, impulse control, and attachment, and why so many “rude” behaviors are actually bids for connection. Listeners walk away with a clearer understanding of what their child’s interruptions are telling them, plus practical, shame-free ways to set limits, protect conversations, and still help kids feel seen and important. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 8

In this episode, Jon answers three real parent questions about kids who shut down, melt down, or avoid trying altogether — the moments when, as one child put it, “I’d rather not try than be bad at it.” Through stories, neuroscience, and relatable examples, Jon offers a grounded way to understand the gap between a child’s stress limit and their skill limit , and why “new things are hard” becomes a life-changing mantra for both parent and child. Listeners walk away with clarity, compassion, and a more connected path forward for supporting kids in those tender I-can’t moments. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 5

Episode Summary Jon unpacks why kids often look “ungrateful” or overwhelmed during gift-heavy holidays—and why it has nothing to do with entitlement and everything to do with biology, routine disruption, and emotional overload. Through real parent questions, he explores what’s happening underneath the behavior, why forced gratitude backfires, and how parents can set expectations, model appreciation, and protect connection without trying to manufacture a perfect holiday moment. Listeners walk away with clarity, self-compassion, and grounded tools for approaching gift-giving in a healthier way. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 4

To support the podcast, head over to Substack and become a monthly or annual paid subscriber. It's the only way Jon gets paid for this. In this episode, Jon answers a parent’s question about neurodivergence and walks through how to think about kids who are more intense, more sensitive, or more easily overwhelmed. He breaks down what neurodivergence actually means, why some kids struggle more with regulation, and what parents can do to support them. Key Topics Covered • Why Some Kids Are More Intense He breaks down how sensitive nervous systems work, why some kids go from calm to meltdown quickly, and why this isn’t a discipline issue. • The Role of Executive Functioning Jon describes how executive functioning skills (flexibility, organization, handling transitions) often lag behind in neurodivergent kids — and why inconsistency is normal. • What Parents Can Actually Do Practical suggestions from the episode, including: Lowering stimulation Creating predictable routines Giving kids more processing time Staying regulated yourself so you can co-regulate with them • When to Consider an Evaluation Jon briefly discusses how to know when an assessment might be helpful, and when it’s simply a matter of understanding your child’s wiring. Episode Takeaway Some kids aren’t trying to be difficult — their brain is working harder to manage everyday challenges. When parents understand this, they can respond with support instead of frustration. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 2

Subscribe on Substack to support the show! Buy Punishment-Free Parenting (Jon's book) now In today’s episode, Jon returns to the show’s original format—raw, unscripted, brain-based parenting questions—this time focused entirely on sibling dynamics . If you have more than one child (or plan to), this might be one of the most clarifying episodes you ever listen to. Inside this episode: Why kids compete… why they fight over nothing… why your nervous system spirals in the cross-fire… and the realistic brain-based tools parents can use to survive those hot-cold sibling dynamics without losing themselves. What We Cover 1. Why Sibling Rivalry Is Normal Kids don’t choose their siblings. They don’t choose their living arrangement. And unlike adult relationships, they can’t leave or create space. Jon unpacks why built-in competition, developmental limitations, and underdeveloped emotional regulation make conflict inevitable —and why none of this means anything is “wrong” with your family. 2. Regulating Your Nervous System First Listener Question: “How do I stay calm when their chaos instantly spikes my anxiety?” Jon explains: Why your body responds like it’s an emergency Why entering the conflict dysregulated makes the conflict worse The power of taking 30–40 seconds before jumping in Quick grounding tools (breathing, sensory checks, tapping, internal scripts like “I’m safe, they’re safe, this is not an emergency” ) How your energy sets the emotional temperature of the room This is one of those “if you remember nothing else, remember this” moments. 3. Opposite Temperaments & Constant Clashing Listener Question: “One kid is sensitive, one is impulsive—they constantly trigger each other. How do I help them get along?” Jon dives into: The difference between describing temperament vs prescribing it Why comparison creates competition Why kids don’t need fewer shared moments—they need more positive moments How to create “positive association loops” in the sibling relationship What it means to aim for 51% positive interactions This is less about fixing fights and more about building a foundation for lifelong friendship. 4. Sharing Without Meltdowns Listener Question: “Both of my kids fight over everything—even stuff they didn’t care about five minutes ago.” Jon covers: Why sharing is developmentally unnatural Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Nov 25

If your mornings feel like a daily emotional avalanche, lost shoes, floppy limbs, scratchy socks, MELTDOWNS, you’re not alone. In this episode, Jon goes back to the original Whole Parent format and answers real listener questions about morning routines, meltdowns, and the brain science behind why kids fall apart at the exact same time every day . Instead of asking “What am I doing wrong?”, we flip the script: What if the problem isn’t you … it’s the lack of brutal predictability ? Jon breaks down how kids’ underdeveloped executive function makes mornings uniquely hard—and how a simple, boring, repeatable routine can take the mental load off their brains and yours. In this episode, we cover: Why mornings are so hard for kids’ brains How an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, weak time sense, and limited executive function make “getting out the door” way more complex for kids than it is for adults. The power of “brutally predictable” routines Why turning mornings into the same simple sequence every day (with visual aids, checklists, or songs) actually reduces meltdowns and resistance. How long it should really take to get out the house Jon’s 20-minute rule for shoes/coats/backpacks—and why building in buffer time makes you less likely to snap, rush, or bark orders. Connecting before correcting What to do in the first 3–5 minutes after kids wake up, and why a few minutes of cuddle + connection can change the whole morning. When your kid’s “routine” includes a meltdown How kids unconsciously bake the meltdown into the pattern—and how to replace that step with connection, play, or a job instead of power struggles. Brain-based hacks that actually feel doable Including: Turning the morning into a game instead of a battle Giving kids simple “jobs” that channel their energy The “put the shoes to bed” trick to end the Great Shoe Hunt every morning Listener questions in this episode: Nancy: “My 6-year-old wakes up slow and my 3-year-old wakes up fiery. No matter how early I start, we’re either late or someone is screaming. What am I doing wrong in our morning routine?” Dave: “Every morning falls apart at the exact same spot: shoes and coats. My 4-year-old goes floppy, my toddler zigzags half-dressed, and I feel my patience evaporate. How do I break this pattern without becoming the drill sergeant I swore I’d never be?” Anonymous (aka The Great Shoe Hunt): “Every single morning turns into a shoe hunt. One shoe is in the pantry, the other in the bathtub. Is there a brain hack for ki Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Nov 4

It all started with a gold star. A single shining sticker on a kindergarten chart that—without me realizing it—began rewiring my understanding of love, worth, and motivation. In this episode of The Whole Parent Podcast , we dive into the hidden cost of praise—why “good job” might be doing more harm than good, and how something as innocent as a sticker chart can turn play into performance. Drawing on groundbreaking research from psychologists like Edward Deci and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, I unravel how extrinsic rewards shift our kids’ focus from curiosity to compliance…and why this shift often leaves adults feeling hollow, disconnected, and trapped in perfection. Through personal stories and parenting insights (including an unforgettable block tower moment with my son), we explore what happens when we stop praising kids for performing and start truly seeing them instead. If you've ever wondered whether we’re raising children who chase approval instead of wonder, this episode is for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why praise can undermine confidence and creativity The difference between being seen and being evaluated How to encourage intrinsic motivation in your kids—and yourself A new language of love that sounds nothing like “good job” Let’s trade gold stars for presence—and rediscover the quiet magic of being enough, just as we are. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Oct 21

A grainy home video from 1993 opens a door many parents avoid: the thin line where love and control blur. From that single forced smile, we follow the thread into cognitive dissonance, exploring why we promise ourselves we won’t yell and still end up yelling, and why small justifications feel so necessary when our identity as a “good parent” is on the line. Leon Festinger’s doomsday research gives language to our everyday contradictions, showing how, when identity is threatened, we don’t change our minds.... we change reality. We bring this science home with two stories. Lisa’s body remembers what her beliefs reject, and the old neural pathways fire when her child pushes back. Then Tina Payne Bryson shares a vivid, practical moment at a “sticky theater,” modeling how to regulate first, lead with curiosity, validate a child’s feeling, and hold the boundary without collapsing into punishment. The method is simple but not easy: calm nervous systems, shorter stories, cleaner choices, and consistent repair when we miss. Shame tightens the loop; curiosity loosens it. There’s a deeper conflict beneath tactics: loyalty. When Daniel chooses a new approach and his mom hears, “So we did it all wrong,” the tension isn’t about timeouts—it’s about belonging and gratitude. We talk about honoring our parents’ love while retiring what harmed us, letting love and harm share the same page. That lens scales up to national myths too, where competing truths demand better storytelling. The payoff is quiet and powerful: a parent who almost prompts a thank you—and waits. The child thanks on his own. The cycle doesn’t shatter; it thins, and light gets through. If this conversation gave you a new way to see your past or a tool to try tonight, tap follow, leave a quick review, and share this episode with one parent who needs it. Your recommendation helps more families find practical calm and truthful hope. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Oct 16

This is one of my shorter mini-episodes where I read this weeks Substack article. We answer here the simple and yet extremely common question "What are we supposed to do when our kid hits us or someone else?" If you would like to support my work consider subscribing on Substack for $5 per month. It is the best way to support my work and keep the podcast episodes coming! Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Oct 7

Stories aren’t just how we pass time—they’re how we pass on what it means to be human. We sit down with librarian and children’s literature expert Betsy Bird to unpack why reading aloud is more than a bedtime ritual. It’s brain food during the fastest phase of neural growth; a daily practice that builds language, attention, and the social skill that holds every relationship together: empathy. We dive into research showing how literary fiction boosts theory of mind, helping kids understand that other people think and feel differently than they do. That skill matters in a polarized world where algorithms reward outrage and flatten nuance. Books slow us down long enough to inhabit another mind—what author John Green calls “shrinking the empathy gap.” We also confront the rise of organized book bans: why diverse stories and queer themes draw fire, how librarians already vet collections for age and quality, and what censorship really fears—children learning to perspective-take beyond the boundaries someone else drew for them. Betsy shares three unforgettable picture books parents can use tonight. The Rabbit Listened models presence over fixing; Sorry You Got Mad turns a bad apology into a real one; Touch the Sky reframes perseverance as a long, honest process. Along the way, we honor Banned Books Week as a reminder to protect access to complex stories. If this conversation sparked an idea or gave you something to try with your kids, subscribe, leave a quick review, and share this episode with one parent who’d love it. Your recommendation helps other families find the show—and keeps the circle of stories alive. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Sep 17

My oldest son couldn’t read at seven. And me? I was writing a parenting book for a major publisher. Being asked to speak to thousands of parents. Teaching emotional development, brain-based learning, and motivation. The irony wasn’t lost on me. In this episode, I tells the vulnerable and surprising story of how we stopped trying to teach how to read, and started teaching why to read instead. What happened next wasn’t magic. It was science, patience, and a little bit of kiwi bird trivia. Along the way, I share: Why panic over “late readers” is often just parental shark music The real reason traditional reading instruction fails so many kids What it looked like to let go of benchmarks and trust the process How a graphic novel cracked everything open And why motivation, not instruction, is the foundation of literacy If you’ve ever worried your child is falling behind… this episode is a deep breath. Not because everything resolves perfectly. But because it reminds you what matters most. “I don’t think we have a how problem in education. I think we have a why problem.” 🎧 Listen now for the story, the science, and the shift that changed everything. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 20

Key Links: 📖 Get My Book: Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice – Available Now 📖 Get Alfie Kohn's Books: Unconditional Parenting and Punished By Rewards 📝 Join My Email List for exclusive insights, parenting tips, and updates – Sign Up Here Episode Description: What if the very thing we’ve been striving for as parents—obedience—wasn’t actually a virtue? What if, instead of making our kids good, it made them vulnerable? In this episode, we take a hard look at the dangers of unquestioning compliance. We start at the Nuremberg Trials, where Nazi officials defended their crimes with four chilling words: I was just following orders. We revisit the infamous Milgram experiment, where 65% of ordinary people delivered what they believed to be fatal electric shocks—just because an authority figure told them to. Then, we bring it home. How does this obsession with obedience play out in our parenting? With the help of Alfie Kohn—renowned author and parenting expert—we examine why traditional parenting methods prioritize compliance, why that might be a problem, and what we can do instead. We break down research showing that demanding obedience undermines empathy, critical thinking, and moral integrity. By the end of this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why most parents unknowingly work against their long-term parenting goals ✅ How punishment and rewards both create conditional love—and what to do instead ✅ The real-world dangers of raising kids to obey without question ✅ What research-backed strategies actually help kids become ethical, independent, and strong Because one day, we won’t be the authority in their lives anymore. And the only voice left… will be their own. Chapters & Key Moments: 🔹 (00:10) The Chilling History of Obedience – From Nuremberg to Milgram: How history warns us about blind compliance 🔹 (07:00) The Parent’s Dilemma – Why parents say they want independent, critical thinkers… but demand obedience 🔹 (12:45) The Cost of Compliance – What happens when we condition kids to follow orders at all costs 🔹 (18:10) Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn – A deep dive into parenting beyond punishment and rewards 🔹 (26:40) The Real Goal of Parenting – How to raise kids who think for themselves, challenge injustice, and make good choices 📲 Follow Me on Social Media – Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 6

IT'S HERE! Get Punishment-Free Parenting on Audiobook Why does it feel like one partner carries the weight of managing the home and kids while the other thinks everything is equal? If you've ever felt exhausted by the invisible labor of parenting—or if you've ever felt like nothing you do measures up to your partner’s expectations—this episode is for you. In this episode of The Whole Parent Podcast , I sit down with Eve Rodsky , author of Fair Play , to unpack the division of labor in parenting. We dive into the mental load, the emotional labor, and why so many families fall into patterns where one parent (usually mom) takes on the bulk of the work—often without even realizing it. Eve shares the Fair Play framework, a system that helps couples move from frustration and resentment to true partnership in running a household. We’ll talk about: ✔️ Why "helping" isn't the same as "ownership" ✔️ How assumptions about gender roles silently shape our parenting dynamics ✔️ The hidden labor of planning, managing, and executing daily family life ✔️ How to start creating a more equitable system ✔️ The simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I have to do everything around here” and “I shouldn’t have to ask for help” , OR "My partner doesn't trust me" and "I can't do anything right...." this episode will change the way you think about parenting, partnership, and fairness in your home. 📖 Punishment-Free Parenting 🃏Fair Play Cards 📖 Fair-Play Book 🔗 Fair Play resources If this episode resonated with you, share it with a partner or a friend. Let’s change the way we divide the mental load—one family at a time. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 30

Get your own copy of the audiobook HERE What do we do when we mess up as parents? In this Episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, I read a long section from the Chapter on Repair from my brand new book Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice. Every parent has moments they wish they could take back. Maybe it’s the sharp tone, the overreaction, or the moment frustration boiled over. But what happens next matters even more than the mistake itself. In this key section from my book, Punishment-Free Parenting , all about reconciliation and repair—how to rebuild trust, reconnect with your child, and model emotional responsibility. Parenting isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up, even after we mess up. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why mistakes are inevitable in parenting—and why that’s okay ✔️ How rupture and repair strengthen your relationship with your child ✔️ A step-by-step approach to making things right after a parenting misstep ✔️ The power of modeling apologies and accountability for your kids ✔️ Why repair isn’t just about saying sorry—it’s about rebuilding trust Key Takeaways: Rupture is normal. Repair is what builds resilience. Apologizing to your child teaches them how to take responsibility for their own actions. Connection, not control, is what makes discipline truly effective. It’s never too late to make things right. Resources & Links: 📖 Punishment-Free Parenting 📩 Join the Whole Parent Newsletter for weekly parenting insights – CLICK HERE 🎙️ Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this! Did You Enjoy This Episode? Leave a review, rate it 5 Stars and share it with a friend! Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 23

Resources Mentioned: Punishment Free-Parenting The Way of Play Emotional Regulation Game Guide Traditional Parenting Fails for ADHD Kids. Growing up with ADHD this is the episode I wish my parents had... In this episode, I’m sharing why traditional, compliance-based parenting doesn’t work for kids with ADHD and what we can do instead. I sat down with Dr. Josh Wyner and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson—two incredible experts—to break down the science behind ADHD and offer practical, brain-based strategies you can start using today. We talk about identifying ADHD in kids, what’s really happening in the ADHD brain, why traditional parenting (aka compliance and punishments) backfire. We also give an alternatives: collaboration, creativity, and especially play to completely transform your relationship with your ADHD child. This episode is personal, practical, and, I hope, incredibly helpful for anyone raising an ADHD kid—or even just trying to parent differently. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why traditional parenting strategies fail kids with ADHD. How understanding emotional tagging and time blindness can change your perspective on ADHD behaviors. Three practical strategies to connect with ADHD kids: collaborative problem-solving, fostering autonomy, and using play to build essential skills. BONUS: An exclusive never before heard exerpt from my upcoming book Punishment-Free Parenting Featured Guests: Dr. Josh Wyner : Neuroscientist and founder of Willow Family Health, a nonprofit focused on neurodiversity-affirming mental health care. Dr. Tina Payne Bryson : Co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and The Way of Play —and one of the most compassionate voices in parenting today. My Key Takeaways: ADHD isn’t about laziness or bad behavior—it’s about brain's placing different emotional value on things. Understanding those differences is the first step to parenting with empathy. Collaboration is everything. When we Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 16

Help me out! My book Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice comes out in LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! Preorder now so you can get it first! Have you ever felt like talking to your kids is like speaking an entirely different language? You tell them to put on their shoes, and suddenly it’s like you’ve asked them to climb a mountain. Believe me, I’ve been there. In this episode, I’m breaking down why our kids don’t always seem to get what we’re saying—and spoiler alert, it’s not because they’re ignoring us. We’ll dive into the science behind how kids’ brains work, why they process the world differently from adults, and how we can adjust our approach to get through to them. I’ll share five creative hacks I use with my own kids—simple tools that help me communicate in a way they actually understand. If you’re tired of power struggles and tantrums, this episode is packed with practical tips that can make life a little easier (and a lot more fun). What You’ll Learn Why kids’ brains work differently I’ll explain how their brains are still under construction and why emotional reactions often take over. How to communicate in ways that work for them From using stories to simplifying language, you’ll learn how to meet your kids where they are. Five creative hacks for talking to your kids I’ll walk you through how I: Use iPad bugs to make screen-time transitions smoother. Play tooth detective to turn teeth brushing into a fun, nightly ritual. Talk to my kids’ bellies to encourage healthier eating choices. Sing instructions to make them stick (hello, Daniel Tiger fans!). Use puppets to make even tough conversations more approachable. Why This Matters I truly believe that how we communicate with our kids shapes not only their behavior but their emotional development and sense of connection. When we approach communication with playfulness and empathy, we’re not just avoiding meltdowns—we’re building trust and lifelong communication habits. This Week’s Challenge Try one of these hacks! Whether it’s rethinking how you handle screen time or singing through a tricky moment, I’d love to hear what worked for you. Resources I Mentioned The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel Siegel The Way of Play by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 31, 2024

Help me out... My book is behind on pre-sales and I'm trying to make up a lot of ground before release on January 28th, 2025. If you love the podcast, please consider preordering —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook Description This week on The Whole Parent Podcast , why is change is so hard? How can we finally stick to our parenting resolutions this year? Katy Milkman's book "How to Change" has answers. If you want 2025 to be the year you parent with purpose and patience, this episode is for you. Here’s what I talked about: Traditions I reflected on my family’s holiday traditions—both the people we’ve lost and the new faces who’ve joined us. Traditions aren’t just fun; they ground us in who we are and what we value. Why Change is Hard I explained how our brains are wired for routines and why we fall back on old patterns, even when we desperately want to do things differently. Spoiler: it’s not your fault. It’s science. The Fresh Start Effect One of my favorite insights from Katie Milkman’s book How to Change is the idea of using milestone moments, like New Year’s, to kick-start a fresh start. It’s a game-changer. Identity-Based Resolutions I shared why your resolutions should focus on who you want to be rather than just what you want to do. For me, it’s about being the kind of parent who stays calm, listens, and leads with curiosity. The Power of Community I talked about why the people you surround yourself with can make or break your goals—and how to build a community that supports the parent you want to become. My Key Takeaways for 2025: Start Fresh : Use moments like New Year’s to reset and feel optimistic about change. Anchor Your Goals in Identity : Instead of saying, “I’m going to stop yelling,” say, “I’m the kind of parent who stays calm under pressure.” Surround Yourself with the Right People : Community is essential to lasting change. A Few Quotes I Love: "It’s not about trying harder; it’s about trying smarter." "Every choice becomes an opportunity to affirm the parent you long to be." Your Turn: I’d love to hear your parenting resolutions for 2025! Email me at podcast@wholeparentacademy.com—research shows that when you share yo Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 25, 2024

Want to get ME a Christmas Present? My book is behind on pre-sales and I'm trying to make up a lot of ground before release on January 28th, 2025. If you love the podcast, please consider preordering —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook Merry Christmas... sorta. The holidays are here, and if you’re anything like me, you’re juggling a million things at once—holiday parties, work deadlines, family traditions, and trying to make everything feel magical for your kids. It’s a lot. But the truth is, it’s not just the holidays. Everyday life as a parent feels more overwhelming than ever, and that’s exactly what we’re talking about in this special Christmas episode of The Whole Parent Podcast . I’m sitting down with Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, one of the world’s leading experts on stress and resilience, to talk about why parenting today feels so heavy—and, more importantly, what we can actually do about it. We dive into simple, science-backed strategies from her book The Five Resets that can help us change the way we experience stress. You’ll learn how to use tools like Stop, Breathe, Be and create digital boundaries that protect your mental health and your sleep. Dr. Nerurkar has so much wisdom to share, and I can tell you this conversation has already made a difference in my own life. If you want to go into the new year with less stress and more calm—not just during the holidays but every day—this episode is for you. Links Mentioned: Follow Dr. Aditi Nerurkar: @DrAditiNerurkar Check out her book The Five Resets Subscribe to her Substack: It's Not You It's, Your Stress Take a deep breath, hit play, and let’s figure this out together. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 19, 2024

I need your help! My book is behind on pre-sales and I'm trying to make up a lot of ground before release on January 28th, 2025. If you love the podcast, please consider preordering —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook It’s the ultimate parenting conundrum: Do you tell your kids the truth about Santa? In this episode, I dive into the psychology, cultural traditions, and ethical questions behind the Santa myth. Why do kids believe so wholeheartedly, and how do we respond when the questions about Santa’s reality start rolling in? Plus, I explore the tricky balance between keeping the magic alive and maintaining honesty and trust with your children. This episode includes insights from child development experts, My personal parenting reflections, and an adorable interview with my own kids about their own feelings on Santa Claus. Whether you’re Team Santa or Team No Santa, this episode will help you navigate the holidays with intention and a deeper understanding of how magical traditions impact your kids’ development and emotional well-being. What We Covered in This Episode: The Big Question: When your child asks, “Is Santa real?” how do you respond in a way that honors both their wonder and your values? The Psychology of Belief: Why kids naturally embrace magical thinking until around age seven. How the Santa myth fosters imagination, perspective-taking, and moral reasoning. The Controversy: Should parents perpetuate the Santa myth? The downside of using Santa (and Elf on the Shelf) for behavior modification. Why the “naughty and nice list” might be doing more harm than good. Navigating Tricky Conversations: How to approach the Santa topic with sensitive or skeptical kids. Why honesty at the right age builds trust and helps children process big truths. Resources Mentioned: Alfie Kohn’s book, Punished by Rewards , for understanding the impact of extrinsic motivation on kids. The 1973 episode of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood where Fred Rogers talks about Santa Claus. Jon’s upcoming book, Punishment-Fre Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Dec 17, 2024

I need your help! My book is behind on pre-sales and I'm trying to make up a lot of ground before release on January 28th, 2025. If you love the podcast, please consider preordering —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook Episode Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast , Jon welcomes Dr. Marc Brackett, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel . Together, they dive into why emotions matter, how to raise emotionally intelligent children, and the essential skills parents need to model emotional regulation effectively. Jon and Marc discuss the misconceptions around emotions—especially the temptation to suppress unpleasant feelings—and how these unresolved emotions often resurface in unhealthy ways. Marc shares his guiding principle of giving ourselves “permission to feel” and explains the difference between being an emotion scientist and an emotion judge . Whether you’re navigating tough parenting moments or learning to process your own feelings, this episode will equip you with practical tools for building emotional intelligence at home. Key Takeaways: Why Emotions Matter : Emotions are critical for attention, decision-making, relationships, mental health, and overall performance. Suppressed emotions don’t go away—they often intensify over time. The Role of Emotional Intelligence : Developing emotional awareness and regulation starts with parents. Kids learn emotional intelligence when parents model vulnerability, self-reflection, and healthy coping strategies. Becoming an Emotion Scientist vs. Emotion Judge : Emotion Scientists : Curious, open, and exploratory when processing feelings. Emotion Judges : Critical, dismissive, and reactive to emotions. Marc introduces his How We Feel app to help individuals and families develop emotional awareness and vocabulary. Practical Regulation Strategies : Proactive emotional regulation (e.g., pausing at the “doorknob moment” to prepare for emotional triggers). Modeling emotional honesty with kids, even during challenging moments. Other Amazing Resources from Marc: Book : Permission t Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Sep 3, 2024

Now Available for Preorder.... Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice To reserve your copy click the link below: Preorder Hardcover Preorder Audiobook Preorder Kindle Show Notes: Have you ever lashed out at your child and wondered "Where did that come from? Why am I so triggered?" Spoiler for this episode, it's your childhood... and the reason we do this is because most of us are totally unaware of this unwanted inheritance. Jon is joined by Dr. Shefali, the pioneer of conscious parenting, who shares her insights on how our childhood experiences shape our parenting styles. Together, they delve into the concept of the subconscious contract between parent and child, exploring how implicit memories and unresolved issues from our past often resurface in moments of stress. Dr. Shefali emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and healing in parenting, offering practical advice on how parents can break free from harmful patterns and create a healthier environment for their children. The conversation touches on spirituality, neuroscience, and the essential role of self-awareness in raising emotionally healthy kids. Timestamps: 0:00 - A Saturday morning meltdown: Jon’s story of losing his cool 2:43 - Introduction to Dr. Shefali and the concept of conscious parenting 7:57 - The power of implicit memories: How the past shapes our reactions 13:53 - The subconscious contract: Understanding toxic parenting dynamics 22:19 - Practical steps for conscious parenting and breaking the cycle Resources Mentioned: The Conscious Parent The Parenting Map Dr. Shefali's Podcast Join Dr. Shefali's Institute Cohort CLOSING 9/9/24 Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jul 12, 2024

Preorder my new book: Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice Get the Autonomy Guide HERE Episode Title: How To Get Your Toddler to LISTEN! Episode Number: #29 Host: Jon @wholeparent Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction and Setting the Scene 0:38 - The Frustration of Kids who WON'T LISTEN! 2:40 - Why Toddlers Have Selective Hearing 7:17 - Understanding Toddler Development and Autonomy 16:18 - Effective Communication with Toddlers 22:24 - Tips for Improving Toddler Listening Skills 33:50 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action Key Takeaways: Toddlers often exhibit selective hearing due to their developmental stage of seeking autonomy. Consistent routines are crucial in helping toddlers feel secure and understand expectations. Effective communication with toddlers involves giving clear, positive instructions and allowing time for them to process. Saying "yes" as often as possible can foster a more cooperative relationship with your child. Resources Mentioned: PDF on Autonomy-Seeking Activities for Toddlers How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk What episode should you listen to next? Episode #22: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids Episode #1: How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids Call to Action: Never miss an episode! CLICK HERE to subscribe. Share this episode with friends or on social media. Rate and review the podcast to help it grow. Contact Information: Follow Jon @wholeparent on all social media platforms. Email: podcast@wholeparentacademy.com Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jul 4, 2024

Struggling with bedtime battles? Discover an incredible bedtime hack that transforms chaos into connection, making bedtime one of the best parts of your day. Episode Number: #28 Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenges of bedtime routines and reveals a transformative hack to turn bedtime battles into moments of deep connection with your child. He discusses the reasons behind kids' resistance to bedtime and shares a practical, brain-based technique that not only helps kids fall asleep faster but also strengthens the parent-child bond. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction And Importance Of Bedtime 02:04 - Personal Anecdotes About Bedtime Chaos And Routines 04:56 - Common Bedtime Resistance Issues And Practical Solutions 06:31 - The Bedtime Story Hack Explained 18:21 - Practical Steps For Implementing The Bedtime Story Hack 26:12 - The Importance Of Sleep For Children's Development 35:28 - Closing Remarks And Call To Action Key Takeaways: The Bedtime Story Hack: Tell your child the story of their day in a calm, soothing voice to help them transition to sleep. Engage their memory and language centers to regulate their emotional state. Consistently use this technique to turn bedtime into a positive, connecting experience. Why Kids Resist Bedtime: Novelty and learning: Kids resist sleep because they are constantly learning and don't want to stop. Routine and regulation: Maintaining a consistent bedtime routine helps prevent resistance. Hormonal factors: Avoiding overtiredness and managing cortisol levels is key. Benefits of Sleep: Essential for physical, mental, and emotional development. Improves memory, emotional regulation, and overall health. Creates opportunities for deep attachment and bonding with your child. Links to Resources Mentioned: The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron Kinetic Sand What episode should you listen to next? Effective Discipline Without Punishment Understanding Your Child's Brain How to Connect: Never Miss a New Episode: Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jun 20, 2024

Episode Number: #27 Description: In this guest episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon welcomes KJ from Big Life Journal. They discuss the transformative power of reparenting, the difference between gentle and conscious parenting, and the resources available to support parents on their journey. KJ shares her personal experiences transitioning from authoritarian parenting to gentle parenting, offers her top reparenting tip, and explores how journaling can help parents and children develop resilience and growth mindsets. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to KJ and Audio Disclaimer 02:34 - Conversation with KJ begins 03:12 - KJ's background and journey in reparenting 04:21 - Difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting 06:15 - Importance of questioning authority and fostering safe challenges 09:09 - Explaining the difference between gentle and conscious parenting 14:48 - The necessity of effective and conscious parenting today 16:21 - The role of journaling in reparenting and parenting 19:26 - Discussion on the downloadables and free resources from Big Life Journal 23:33 - KJ's number one reparenting tip: Recognizing what’s happening in your body 30:22 - Conclusion and final thoughts on reparenting and gentle parenting Key Takeaways: Reparenting : A crucial step in becoming a better parent by understanding and addressing one’s own triggers and reactions. Gentle vs. Conscious Parenting : Gentle parenting is what children experience, while conscious parenting involves the internal work parents do to improve their interactions with their children. Journaling : An effective tool for parents and children to develop resilience, growth mindsets, and critical thinking skills. Big Life Journal Resources : Offers journals and free printables to help children and parents on their growth journey. Resources Mentioned: Big Life Journal: Website KJ’s Instagrams: @gentlehealingmom and @biglifejournal Free Printables and Sign up for the Big Life Journal Newsletter What to listen to next? How to Stop Yelling at your Kids #001 Calls to Action: Subscribe : Subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Ra Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jun 18, 2024

Episode Number: #26 Take the quiz to find our if your kid is Highly Sensitive Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the concept of collaborative consequences, explaining why this method is a powerful tool for effective parenting, especially for highly sensitive children. As a strong advocate for the abolition of punishment in parenting, discusses how to differentiate between punishment and consequences and introduces the idea of working with children to set boundaries collaboratively. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Jon illustrates how this approach fosters a child's growth, understanding, and self-discipline. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the Whole Parent Podcast and the highly sensitive kid quiz 02:24 - Definition and importance of collaborative consequences 03:53 - Difference between punishment and consequences 05:27 - Why punishment is ineffective 06:48 - Explanation of consequences and their role in teaching 07:29 - Steps to implement collaborative consequences 11:58 - The importance of seeking a child's input 13:44 - The significance of a child's buy-in in the discipline process 16:10 - Long-term goals of using collaborative consequences 17:37 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for cleaning up messes 26:18 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for managing screen time 32:52 - Conclusion and final thoughts on collaborative consequences 33:09 - Call to action: Subscribe, rate, review, and join the email list Key Takeaways: Collaborative Consequences : Involve your child in setting boundaries and consequences to ensure they understand and agree with them, which increases their effectiveness. Difference from Punishment : Unlike punishment, which is retributive and ineffective in the long-term, collaborative consequences focus on teaching and guiding children to make better decisions. Child's Buy-In : When children have a say in their own discipline process, they are more likely to adhere to the agreed-upon boundaries and learn self-discipline. Practical Examples : Jon shares real-life examples of implementing collaborative consequences in his household, providing a clear model for listeners to follow. Resources Mentioned: Take the Highly Sensitive Kid Quiz How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so K Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jun 11, 2024

Want to know if your child is Highly Sensitive? TAKE THE QUIZ! Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child Episode Number: #25 Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the world of highly sensitive children. He explains what high sensitivity is, how it manifests in kids, and shares practical strategies for parents to help their highly sensitive children thrive. Jon also highlights the groundbreaking work of Dr. Elaine Aron, who introduced the concept of high sensitivity, and provides insights into the emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids. Timestamps: 00:01 - Introduction to highly sensitive kids 01:24 - Acknowledging Dr. Elaine Aron's work on high sensitivity 02:48 - Improved show notes and additional resources 03:17 - Understanding what high sensitivity is 05:14 - Symptoms and characteristics of highly sensitive kids 07:40 - Evolutionary perspective on high sensitivity 10:03 - Sensory amplification in highly sensitive kids 12:31 - Behavioral signs of high sensitivity 22:47 - Emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids 31:52 - Practical tips for parenting highly sensitive kids 41:58 - Benefits of being highly sensitive (IT'S A SUPER POWER!) 43:26 - Conclusion Key Takeaways: Jon's Three Practical Tips for Parenting Highly Sensitive Kids: Establish Routines: Create a predictable home environment to provide a sense of security for highly sensitive kids. Take Breaks: Allow for regular downtime to help highly sensitive kids process and cope with sensory input. Focus on Emotional Intelligence: Teach kids to recognize, label, and express their emotions to manage their heightened sensitivity. Links to Resources Mentioned: Is Your Kid Highly Sensitive Quiz! The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron The Highly Sensitive Parent by Dr. Elaine Aron What episode should you listen to next? Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids How to Connect: Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERE Subscribe: If you haven't subscribed t Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jun 6, 2024

Do you want to know how you can successfully navigate sibling conflict? This is the episode for you. Episode Number: #24 Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenging topic of sibling conflict. He shares practical strategies for parents to navigate and resolve conflicts between siblings effectively. Jon also talks about the importance of fostering a team-centric environment and being a safe person for your children to express their frustrations. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting 01:30 - Review of Raising Siblings Part One 03:53 - Principle 1: Foster a team-centric environment 09:49 - Principle 2: Be the safe person 17:13 - Quick call to action: Subscribe and review 20:24 - Principle 3: Be a mediator, not an arbitrator Key Takeaways: Jon's Three Principles for Handling Sibling Conflict: Foster a Team-Centric Environment: Emphasize that the family works as a team and avoid creating winners and losers among siblings. Be the Safe Person: Ensure that children can express their feelings without fear of punishment or judgment. Act as a Mediator, Not an Arbitrator: Facilitate communication between siblings to help them resolve conflicts themselves. What episode should you listen to next? Raising Siblings Part 1 Adding a New Baby How to Connect: Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERE Subscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform. Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about handling sibling conflicts. Links to Resources Mentioned: Mr. Rogers' Song About Feelings Siblings Without Rivalry Book Connect with Whole Parent: Email: podcast@wholeparentacademy.com Social Media Links: Instagram: @wholeparent TikTok: @wholeparent Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jun 4, 2024

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids Episode Number: #23 Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon discusses the importance of raising emotionally intelligent kids. Jon shares personal insights and practical steps on how parents can foster emotional intelligence in their children. Jon also opens up about his recent break from podcasting, the challenges he faced, and how taking time for self-care has impacted his parenting. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting 00:34 - Focus on topical episodes and the importance of emotional intelligence 01:32 - Understanding and processing emotions 03:31 - Personal updates (Why I ghosted) 08:43 - Step 1: Recognizing and understanding emotions 17:56 - Step 2: Naming and labeling emotions 30:03 - Step 3: Expressing emotions in a healthy way 36:00 - Encouraging kids to express their emotions Key Takeaways: Jon's Three Step Process for kids Recognize Emotions: Check in with your body to identify physical signs of emotions. Name Emotions: Labeling emotions helps in processing and understanding them better. Express Emotions: Find healthy ways to express emotions, avoiding explosive outbursts. Links to Resources Mentioned: Dr. Mark Brackett's work on emotional intelligence Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown What episode should you listen to next? Punishment-Free Parenting with Tina Payne Bryson How to Connect: Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERE Subscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform. Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about emotional intelligence. Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here . Connect with Whole Parent: Email: podcast@wholeparentacademy.com Social Media Links: Instagram: Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Apr 30, 2024

To get podcast updates: CLICK HERE Do we need to punish our kids to be effective parents? That's exactly what Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and I navigate through in this enriching discussion on punishment-free parenting. By distinguishing between discipline as a means to teach, rehearse, and impart skills and punishment as an alternatively counterproductive reaction, we illuminate a path where parents can regulate their emotions and approach each day with a fresh, constructive mindset. Embark on a journey with us into the essence of 'whole parenting,' where the well-being of both parent and child is in the spotlight. This episode strips away the veneer of parenting perfection, as we share candid stories and acknowledge the slip-ups that accompany the challenge of raising our young. We lay out the blueprint for fostering secure attachments and resilience in our kids, underlining the power of being present, consistent, and approachable, while recognizing the unique dynamics of parenting through various stages, especially the teenage years. Wrapping up, Tina and I probe the delicate dance of discipline, where the art of being both firm and flexible fosters an environment ripe for our children to learn and make good decisions. The insights shared here are about more than mere techniques; they celebrate the precious relationship between parent and child and offer a fresh perspective on parenting with purpose and joy. Dr. Bryson's wisdom coupled with personal reflections make this episode a guiding light for parents aspiring to create a nurturing and supportive space for growth. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Apr 23, 2024

To subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast community: CLICK HERE Ever felt like it's all on you and your kids ONLY wants you? OR Ever felt like, no matter what you do, you're always just second best in your child's eyes? You're not alone. In this episode, we examine the emotional rollercoaster of the attachment hierarchy in families. Sharing my own experiences as a non-preferred parent, I peel back the layers of this complex dynamic. As we traverse the spectrum of parenting challenges, from feeling like the backup to handling jealousy, you'll uncover strategies and reassurance that will redefine your approach to these sensitive situations. Parenting is not a competition, yet it can certainly feel that way. This episode sheds light on the evolutionary underpinnings of why children may gravitate towards one caregiver and how this is not an indictment of your parenting prowess. We'll navigate the tricky emotions that come with parental comparisons, offering insights into fostering secure attachments and empowering both preferred and non-preferred parents. Then I address preferred parents and non-preferred parents directly and ask "What can you do, based on your role, to support your child and your partner?" This was one of the most vulnerable episodes for me to record; I hope that you are encouraged and helped through listening! Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Apr 18, 2024

Join the Whole Parent community for updates and free weekly resources. CLICK HERE The resource Jennifer mentioned: Picky Eater Screener Follow Jennifer Have you ever felt like you're in a mealtime showdown with your toddler, armed with nothing but a spoon and the "wrong" color cup? Me too. Every day. Today I'm joined by Jennifer Anderson of Kids Eat in Color to arm you with the strategies you need to turn mealtime battles into family building fun. We dissect the mystery behind toddler diets, discussing ways to make eating fun and how parents can lead by example to encourage adventurous food choices. This isn't just about getting peas onto their plate; it's about setting the foundation for a lifetime of healthy eating. Let's be real—feeding a picky eater can feel like trying to solve a Rubik's cube blindfolded (where the colors change every meal). Jennifer and I get personal, sharing our own experiences with the challenges of nurturing diverse palates. We tackle the rainbow of eating behaviors from choosy to chowhound and offer a fresh perspective on introducing new foods. This chat goes beyond the plate, delving into how to build a positive body relationship with your kids, ensuring they grow up with confidence in their food choices and themselves. Forget what you've heard about sugar and hyperactivity, or the myths that red dye is the root of all meltdowns. We're here to debunk these and other common misconceptions about kids' diets. Plus, we're dishing out practical tips like using micro portions and engaging kids in meal prep to encourage a more varied diet. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a toolkit filled with strategies to support your child in developing a healthy, resilient relationship with food—one joyful bite at a time. Join us on this culinary adventure and watch your little ones flourish into wholehearted, healthy eaters. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 21, 2024

Click Here to listen to Why Kids Lie: Part 1 Join the whole parent email list: HERE As a parent, confronting the uncomfortable truth of a child's lie can be a heart-wrenching moment. On today's Whole Parent Podcast, we delve into the delicate balance of handling such revelations with empathy and understanding. Our conversation is grounded in personal experiences and the gentle wisdom of Fred Rogers, offering a guiding light to navigate through these parenting waters. From a tale of suspected stealing to the crucial steps of addressing mistakes, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of fostering honesty and growth in our little ones. Parenting is an art form, and just like any artist, we must learn from each brushstroke, each mistake. This episode provides a three-step process for responding to children's slip-ups in a way that builds trust and encourages learning. We tackle the intricate dance of communication, where curiosity leads and judgment takes a backseat, allowing our children to feel empowered rather than shamed. Role reversal becomes a tool, not just for understanding our kids but also for teaching them the value of empathy in their own interactions. Lastly, we broach the complex issue of theft, emphasizing the need for ethical conversations from the sandbox to the courtroom. By engaging our children in discussions about morality, we prepare them for the larger stage of life where right and wrong are often shades of gray. It's here, through non-judgmental dialogue and positive assumptions, that we lay the foundations for a future of ethical decision-makers. Join us on this journey of parenting with purpose, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights that strengthen our resolve and confidence as the sculptors of tomorrow's adults. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 19, 2024

To join the list: CLICK HERE Kid's lie. There are so many reasons kids lie and probably the most UNLIKELY one is the one most parent's believe. Our latest episode peels back the layers of childhood dishonesty, offering a comforting guide for parents grappling with their three-year-old's first ventures into untruths. We kick off with a candid look at the developmental milestones of toddlers, revealing why expecting unwavering honesty from someone still mastering the art of language and emotion is a step too far. I share practical advice for addressing your child's fibs about everyday tasks like bathroom use or teeth brushing, striking a balance between teaching right from wrong and understanding their stage of growth. Navigating the complex path towards raising honest kids, this episode underlines the vital role of autonomy. Discover how empowering your child's sense of agency through challenges like constructing intricate Lego masterpieces can actually steer them away from the need to lie. We dive into the nitty-gritty of fostering positive independence, celebrating our kids' triumphs, and knowing when to step back and let them revel in their own achievements. It's about nurturing their growth without inadvertently pushing them towards dishonesty in a quest to please us. And for those with children in the imaginative whirlwind of five to seven years, rest assured, your little one's fairy-tale narratives are a healthy part of their development. We explore how their vibrant imaginations bolster critical thinking skills essential for both current problem-solving and future success. So, before you correct your little one's next adventurous story, tune in to understand why their creative fabrications might just be a stepping stone to brilliance. Our journey doesn't end here, though; keep an ear out for our next episode, where we'll explore why older children may opt to weave a web of lies to sidestep consequences, completing our nuanced look at this integral part of growing up. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 14, 2024

To join the Whole Parent community FREE CLICK HERE https://thedadedge.com/ When your past knocks on the door unexpectedly after 18 years, you realize that fatherhood isn't just a role—it's a journey full of profound discoveries. This realization comes to life in my heartfelt sit-down with Larry Hagner from the Dad Edge podcast. We peel back the layers of what it means to be an active, engaged parent, touching on everything from the transformative effects of a standing desk to the emotional rollercoasters tied to our own childhood stories. As a father to four boys and a husband for over two decades, Larry brings a wealth of experience and insight into the art of communication and the power of vulnerability within family relationships. We share tales from our personal lives, revealing how past pains, like dealing with an absent father or the trials within stepfamilies, have sculpted our approaches to parenthood. It's a conversation that traverses the peaks and valleys of raising kids and nurturing a marriage, all while continuously growing as individuals. The promises we make as parents and the effort it takes to fulfill them are the pillars of this episode. I get real about the intricacies of discipline, the commitment to creating a loving environment, and the intentional raising of emotionally intelligent boys. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries while also being a beacon of safety and guidance. These stories and advice are woven into a rich tapestry that reflects the enduring impact of fatherhood on personal growth and the legacies we build for our children. Join us for a discussion that's not just about parenting but about the essence of manhood and the indelible marks we leave on those we love. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 12, 2024

Want more Whole Parent content? Join The List For the Episode referenced with Eli Harwood: CLICK HERE Ever found yourself perplexed by your child's seemingly endless quest for attention? We're peeling back the layers on why kids clamor for the spotlight and how you might be contributing to it without even realizing it. Tap into a wealth of compassion-fueled insights and practical strategies as we tackle the myth that ignoring attention-seeking behaviors is the best route. From the seven-year-old who can’t play alone to understanding the unique needs of children with ADHD, discover how to guide your little ones towards healthy, independent connections. Remember the times when a simple hug could make everything better? That's the power of targeted, reassuring love we're advocating for in today's conversation. I'm drawing from my own journey as a parent with ADHD to share the kind of attention that enriches the parent-child bond and caters to neurodivergent children. You'll hear not just theories, but real-life applications that can turn around your child's playtime blues and bolster their emotional resilience. Wrapping things up, we're not just talking about managing attention-seeking antics; we're building a foundation for our children's future. Listen to heartwarming stories, like the one about my own son, that illustrate the triumphs of nurturing our kids' independence within a supportive framework. And yes, we're fostering frustration tolerance, but not at the expense of our relationship with our children. This is your roadmap to raising well-adjusted kids who know their emotional needs are just as important as their physical ones. Join us, and let's navigate this parenting adventure together. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 6, 2024

For the email list and everything Whole Parent CLICK HERE Struggling with sibling rivalry? Learn effective ways to foster harmony and connection among your children. Episode Number: Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon tackles the topic of sibling relationships and how to navigate common challenges. Whether it's dealing with sibling rivalry, sharing space and toys, or finding activities that all your kids can enjoy together, Jon offers practical advice and answers listener questions to help create a more peaceful and connected family dynamic. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & The Challenge of Sibling Rivalry 00:43 - Overview: Parenting Siblings Better 02:23 - Ashley’s Question: Newborn and Older Sibling Dynamics 13:35 - Steven’s Question: Shared Space and Toy Conflicts 23:49 - Kimberly’s Question: Activities for Kids of Different Ages Key Takeaways: Understanding Sibling Rivalry: Sibling rivalry is natural and often stems from a need for attention and connection. Individual, targeted attention for each child can significantly reduce rivalry. Effective Strategies: Provide special attention to each child during key times of the day. Schedule one-on-one time with each child to strengthen individual bonds. Encourage open-ended play to foster creativity and cooperation. Managing Shared Spaces and Belongings: Allow children to have personal items that are off-limits to siblings. Use communal rules for shared toys and spaces to prevent conflicts. Balancing Activities for Different Ages: Choose activities that are open-ended and allow each child to participate at their level. Avoid competitive activities that can lead to resentment and frustration. Links to Resources Mentioned: The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Siblings Without Rivalry What episode should you listen to next? Effective Discipline Without Punishment Understanding Your Child's Brain How to C Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Mar 5, 2024

To join the email list: CLICK HERE Conquering Bedtime Battles Every parent has felt that tug at their heartstrings when they have to leave a child who's clinging to them, pleading for just one more hug. That's the moment you wish you had a magic wand to ease those tears and fears. Join me as I guide you through the emotional landscape of separation anxiety in children, exploring its nuances across ages two, three, and six. We'll unwrap the layers of this complex issue, offering a blend of professional expertise and personal experiences that will arm you with strategies to help your child build security and independence. You'll discover that the delicate balance between fostering resilience and providing comfort isn't just about toughing it out or giving in—it's about the dance of attachment and development. We discuss the importance of the non-preferred parent's role, the power of comfort objects, and the gradual exercises you can employ to strengthen your child’s coping skills. These are the small, achievable victories that can lead to big changes, and we'll explore how to create these opportunities within the rhythm of your everyday life. As we round out this heartfelt conversation, we'll focus on the importance of establishing a solid foundation for your child's emotional well-being. From the reassuring rituals that cement secure attachments, to innovative techniques like role-play and 'yes and parenting,' we'll cover methods to validate and reassure your child through transitions. And for families navigating the complexities of divorce or simply day-to-day goodbyes, we provide guidance to ensure your child feels the stability and love needed to thrive. So, whether your little one clings to your leg or waves goodbye with confidence, this episode is your companion in nurturing their growth every step of the way. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 29, 2024

For all things Whole Parent including the email list CLICK HERE Click here to purchase Eli's Attachment Workbook Attachmentnerd.com This episode promises to enrich your parenting toolkit with the insightful wisdom of Eli Harwood (@attachmentnerd), a seasoned therapist and mother of three, who joins me to unravel the complexities of creating secure attachments with our kids. Together, we walk you through the transformative journey of recognizing and meeting the emotional needs of your little ones, while also acknowledging the importance of addressing our own unhealed wounds to prevent passing on insecurities. We talk: "Three steps" to secure attachment How to identify attachment in kids How to connect deeply in a few minutes a day This conversation sheds light on the symphony of synchronicity, where each shared moment of joy and curiosity lays another brick in the foundation of a lasting bond. We discuss the poignant idea of 'withness' and how being emotionally present during the highs and lows of your child's life can create a deep-seated sense of security. As we share personal experiences, we celebrate the diversity of attachment-rich play and emphasize the supportive role a community plays in extending this security beyond the immediate family. Navigating the ebbs and flows of parenting, we close with an exploration of the potent role of conflict and vulnerability in strengthening our connections with our children. Eli discusses how therapy work has shifted her perspective from viewing discord as a source of anxiety to seeing it as a gateway to intimacy and growth. This episode invites you to consider the ways in which we can provide our children with a legacy of secure attachment by being emotionally grounded, available, and receptive to their needs. So, join us as we guide you through the dance of parenting, equipping you with the insights to ensure your children feel nothing but love and stability in your embrace. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 22, 2024

For all things Whole Parent: CLICK HERE The originator of the HEAR acronym is Dr Julia Minson of Harvard Have you ever felt like your parenting style is worlds apart from your partner's, yet you both yearn for a harmonious household? Together, we weave through the complexities of parenting partnerships and the artistry of conflict resolution. This episode brings you heartfelt stories and expert insights on empathetic communication, crucial for aligning with your partner to foster resilient children and a compassionate relationship. We delve into the transformative power of seeing through each other's eyes, understanding the roots of each other's parenting approaches, and how this profound connection can keep conflicts at bay — especially in the eyes of our littlest observers. Join us as we unpack the delicate balance between differing parenting philosophies and reveal strategies to present a united front. My journey with my wife and the challenges we've faced lay the groundwork for a candid discussion on establishing household rules that respect both parental perspectives and children's needs. We bring to life the "HEAR" communication framework to tackle discipline and other parenting hot topics, offering a lifeline for those in the throes of navigating these stormy seas with their partner. As we wrap this episode, I extend an invitation to delve deeper through a workshop that promises to fortify your co-parenting toolkit. It's a genuine solo effort to elevate your parenting partnership, free from outside influences or sponsorships, and driven by our shared experiences and community support. For all parents and partners out there seeking a blend of gentle guidance and psychological know-how, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 20, 2024

For all things Whole Parent: https://stan.store/wholeparent Email questions to podcast@wholeparentacademy.com Join Whole Parent as we redefine the very essence of discipline in parenting, not as a tool for punishment, but as an opportunity for teaching and growth. Our latest episode unveils a profound connection between 'discipline' and 'disciple,' urging us to embrace our role as educators in our children's lives, guiding them with wisdom rather than ruling with fear. We tackle the challenges and victories faced at family mealtimes, sharing insights into how rituals like meal preparations and shared stories can strengthen bonds and foster positive behaviors. Let's admit it, parenting can feel like navigating an intricate dance, especially when your five-year-old prefers somersaults over sitting still at the dinner table. We empathize with parents and offer actionable solutions that balance a child's need for autonomy with the harmony of family routines. Moreover, our conversation illuminates the power of collaborative parenting, inviting our children into the heart of discipline to cultivate respect and a sense of responsibility. Through understanding, not dictation, we can transform chores from battlegrounds into collaborative opportunities, supporting our children's unique needs and contributions to the family dynamic. In this episode, the art of patience and the value of waiting for a calm moment to discuss consequences are championed as keys to effective teaching moments. We make a case for discipline that fosters connection rather than fear, and we encourage you to submit your burning questions for future discussions. As we peel back the layers of traditional parenting myths, we invite you to join us in cultivating a nurturing space where discipline means growth, communication is paramount, and every challenge is a stepping stone to deeper family connections. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 15, 2024

Join the Email list HERE How do we teach social skills like sharing, turn taking, and making friends? Unravel these themes in the latest episode of the Whole Parent Podcast. We kick off with a the struggles our kids have with sharing, debunking myths and laying out strategies that emphasize balance and respect for personal boundaries. Navigating the tricky waters of parenting, we find ourselves teaching our kids not only about the joys of sharing but also the value of autonomy. I share personal anecdotes and listener experiences that show how giving children the power to choose what they share actually fosters greater cooperation. We also discuss the delicate task of stepping back to let natural social consequences unfold, and the importance of post-conflict conversations, creating a comprehensive guide on nurturing interdependence among our little ones. Instead of intervening, we debrief. Finally, we explore the power of play in building leadership and cooperation in children, with a special focus on how introverted and highly sensitive children engage with their peers. By incorporating child-led play and the "Yes, And" improv technique, you’ll learn how to cultivate a safe space for your child's social development. Our discussion concludes with an invitation to share the insights gained from our podcast, creating a supportive community that thrives on collective wisdom and understanding. Join us on the Whole Parent Podcast for a heartening discussion that celebrates every child's individuality and the art of sharing in parenting. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 13, 2024

For more on Whole Parent https://stan.store/wholeparent To get Dr. Kandagra's Book "My Child Won't Sleep" CLICK HERE Unlock the secrets to a well-rested brain with Dr. Sujay Kansagra, Doctor and Pediatric Sleep Researcher from Duke University, as we unravel the importance of sleep for emotional regulation and executive function. Dr. Kansagra gives us his top tips for sleep hygiene and fostering positive sleep habits and also debunks some sleep myths floating around on social media Learn how sleep is a non-negotiable not only our kids but OUR mental resilience. Our conversation with Dr. Kansagra offers parents insightful strategies for nurturing sleep hygiene in their little ones, while also caring for their own sleep needs. Dive into the intricacies of sleep deprivation and its deceptive impact on performance. This episode sheds light on the oft-overlooked truth that in a culture of glorifying less sleep, its actually more sleep that is the key to peak cognitive abilities and emotional stability. Finally, for those parents facing the newborn sleep conundrum, we provide real-life tactics for managing those unpredictable first weeks. From the surprising use of breast milk pumped at night to the gentle art of sleep training, discover how to embrace a personalized approach that suits your family's dynamics. Whether you're contemplating different sleep training methods or simply seeking solidarity in the sleepless journey of parenthood, this episode is an essential companion for anyone looking to improve their nights, and in turn, their days. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 8, 2024

To join the Email List https://stan.store/wholeparent As we tuck our little ones into bed, stories of monsters under the bed aren't just tales, they're a window into the real fears that grip their hearts at night. From nighttime anxiety to social anxiety and more, today's episode peels back the curtain on the shadows of childhood anxiety. From the evolutionary instincts that wire our kids for caution to the pressures of a world amplified by social media, we navigate the ocean of their worries, anchoring you with the tools you need to help them sail smoothly into dreamland. Our journey takes us beyond the nightlight, into the depths of bedtime routines that nurture a sense of security and lay the groundwork for resilience. We discuss the power of connection and the magic of a consistent wind-down that cues their little bodies for rest. But it's not just about the night; we reveal the importance of a growth mindset in broad daylight, equipping our children with the mental armor to face academic challenges and social jungles with the courage of a lion. We're not just fighting shadows; we're building a fortress of self-belief and confidence for the days ahead. No parent should bear the weight of their child's anxiety alone, and this episode stands as a testament to that belief. We acknowledge when it's time to seek the compass of a professional, ensuring you know that reaching out is a beacon of strength, not a signal of defeat. So, join us as we share stories, strategies, and a sprinkle of personal anecdotes, with the hope that together, we can turn the tides of childhood anxiety into a journey of growth for our children and for us as parents. Welcome to a conversation that promises to be as nurturing for you as it is for your little ones. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 6, 2024

To join the Email List https://stan.store/wholeparent You're about to face the daunting task of introducing a new baby to your already bustling brood. I'm here. Your journey through the rollercoaster of emotions and sibling dynamics that come with a new family member is about to get a whole lot smoother. Our latest episode of the Whole Parent Podcast is packed with heartfelt guidance and practical tips, addressing everything from managing toddler aggression to nurturing the bonds that will tie your children together for life. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for any parent juggling the demands of a newborn with the needs of an older child. We tackle the guilt that often shadows the joy of expanding your family, offering strategies for giving each child the attention they crave and deserve. With real questions from parents from our community, we ensure the advice is as relatable as it is practical. Learn how 'supercharged attention times' can make all the difference, and discover the profound impact of validating your child's emotions, all while navigating the chaos of the 'fourth trimester'. As we wrap up, we're reminded that while parenting multiple children can be overwhelming, it's also filled with opportunities to create a harmonious home. By sharing our personal experiences and the wisdom of experts, we hope to empower you to embrace these challenges with grace and to pass on your newfound knowledge to others in the parenting trenches. Tune in for an episode that not only offers solutions and support but also reinforces the message that through mindful parenting, we truly can change the world, one family at a time. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Feb 1, 2024

For everything Whole Parent, including the Email List and Membership: https://stan.store/wholeparent Ever wondered how to transform mealtime battles with your picky eater into a harmonious affair? Join us as we unlock strategies to help parents like you, who face the daily challenge of expanding their child's dietary horizons. This episode peels back the layers on highly selective eaters, offering practical tips for introducing new foods without the pressure. We also unpack the sweets dilemma faced by so many parents, sharing advice from health professionals and my own parenting journey on navigating cravings and fostering a more diverse palate. Cultivating a positive food relationship is crucial for our children's long-term well-being, and it goes far beyond the dinner plate. With insights from dieticians and psychologists, we explore how to make mealtime an enjoyable experience, free from anxiety. You'll discover the power of mindful language surrounding food and the impact it has on young minds. Our conversation is a reminder that nurturing a healthy mindset about eating is just as important as the nutrients on the plate. Finally, we discuss the importance of respecting children's natural hunger cues and why the Clean Plate Club is out of date. By tuning into growth and appetite fluctuations, we emphasize the significance of her overall development over rigid mealtime expectations. And don't forget, by joining our community via the email list, you'll receive even more exclusive content to support your parenting journey. So, pull up a chair and let's share a feast of knowledge that will help set the table for a lifetime of healthy eating habits for your kids. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 30, 2024

If you love the podcast, please consider preordering my book —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook For everything else Whole Parent: https://stan.store/wholeparent Navigating the digital world as a parent can feel like charting unknown waters, but fear not! Join us on the Whole Parent Podcast, where we promise to arm you with strategies for managing your child's screen time without the tantrums. As a parent myself, I've faced the same struggles with screen-addicted kiddos. Today, we’ll talk about the brain's dopamine response to screens and reveal constructive ways to help kids ease away from their digital fix, building healthier tech habits along the way. We all want our children to thrive, and balancing their fascination with screens alongside vital activities like naps and playtime is key. In our latest episode, I share insights on creating a sense of autonomy in your children by involving them in setting screen time boundaries. We’ll also explore the effects of screen time on a child's developing brain, ensuring you’re equipped with knowledge and empathy to guide your little ones through their digital day. Lastly, we'll talk about why completely banning screens is as outdated as a flip phone, so instead let's talk about fostering trust and open communication. I delve into what it means to protect our children in an age where explicit content is just a click away, and how to model balanced tech habits that will serve as the cornerstone of a resilient, tech-savvy family. Tune in for an honest and empowering conversation that will leave you feeling more confident as you pilot the parenting controls of our digital age. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 25, 2024

If you love the podcast, please consider preordering my book —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook For everything else Whole Parent: https://stan.store/wholeparent Ever felt like you're at your wit's end with toddler tantrums and meltdowns? You're not alone. Journey with me as we uncover the mysteries behind our little ones' biggest emotional explosions. Drawing from the trials and triumphs of my own parenting adventures and the insights gathered in creating Whole Parent, this episode is a treasure trove of understanding and practical advice. From three-year-old Olivia's brain to your daily routine, we explore the neuroscience and heart-to-heart connections necessary in transforming challenging days into opportunities for growth and bonding. Tantrums and meltdowns are a language of their own, and in this episode, we translate that emotional dialect into actionable steps for parents. Discover the three-layered brain model to comprehend why toddlers can be so overwhelmed by emotions, and how you, as a co-regulator, play a crucial role in your child's development of self-control. We bring to light the power of empathy and the subtle art of modeling calm behavior, equipping you to not just manage, but truly understand and support your child through their most turbulent moments. We wrap things up with a focus on the day-to-day practicalities that can make or break the peace of parenting. For Emma, a four-year-old who finds transitions tough, we discuss the importance of establishing routines and digging deeper to address the root causes of behavioral challenges. By the end of our time together, you'll walk away with a toolkit brimming with strategies for fostering a nurturing environment where trust and emotional intelligence are the cornerstones of your relationship with your child. Join us for this heartfelt and insightful discussion that promises to reshape the way you see and respond to your toddler's most trying times. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 23, 2024

If you love the podcast, please consider preordering my book —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook Are you on the front lines of the potty training battle and about ready to retreat? You're not alone. In this episode of Whole Parent Podcast, we march through the trenches of transitioning toddlers from diapers to the potty. You'll gain insights into the emotional journey, not just for the kiddos, but for you, the captains of the porcelain throne. Truly, the art of potty training can feel like and insurmountable challenge. It requires patience, reassurance, and confidence most of us feel like we just don't have... BUT WE SHOULD! We're experts in this... we just forget that sometimes. We tackle common parenting fears and dismantle the myths that shroud the potty training process. From the significance of a shame-free approach to handling accidents, to the potential of using rewards judiciously, we cover strategies that respect both the child's individuality and the parent's role in this developmental milestone. And if you're wondering about the journey from diapers to underwear, or even commando, we have practical advice that promises to make the transition as smooth as a baby's bottom. Round out your potty training strategy as you listen to these shared experiences and research-backed insights. Remember, whether your child is just starting out or has been at it for a while, there's wisdom here for every stage. And don't keep these nuggets of knowledge to yourself - sharing this episode with someone in the midst of the potty training pilgrimage could be a game-changer for them. Join me as we rewrite the narrative on potty training, fostering independence and confidence in our tiny humans, one episode at a time. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 18, 2024

If you love the podcast, please consider preordering my book —it’s the best way to support me right now. If you don't typically read parenting books, I also have the audiobook version! Thank you so much! Preorder the Book Preorder the Audiobook Loving the Whole Parent Podcast? Leave me a review! For more on Whole Parent, including a link to join the membership click >> https://stan.store/wholeparent << Facing the nightly challenge of tucking your little human into bed with their energy still soaring? You're not alone, and I'm here to guide you through the sleep-time skirmish. This episode unveils the art of navigating bedtime routines, offering comfort to parents and children alike. As we dissect the delicate balance of enforcing bedtime without igniting tantrums, our conversation uncovers the importance of sleep schedules, wake windows, and hacking naturally occurring brain chemicals! Every parent has felt the frustration of a child who just won't settle when that bedtime window slips by. We take a closer look at the science behind sleep—how missing the optimal time for slumber can lead to a surge in cortisol and epinephrine, kicking bedtime peace to the curb. With practical tips on timing adjustments and the reassurance that earlier bedtimes don't mean earlier mornings, this episode offers a new perspective. It's an insider's guide to syncing your child's sleep rhythms with their natural cues, ensuring the whole family gets the restful night they deserve. But what about the monsters lurking in the closet or the imagined shadows that dance on the walls? We tackle the heart of nighttime fears that many children face. With empathy and patience at the forefront, we discuss how to establish bedtime rituals and environments that reassure and comfort. From transforming fear into silliness to customizing bedtime routines to each child's needs, this episode arms parents with compassionate approaches and long-term coping solutions. Join me as we turn bedtime from a battleground to a sanctuary, one peaceful routine at a time. Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube

Jan 16, 2024

Struggling with yelling at your kids? Discover effective strategies to break the cycle and foster better communication and connection. WholeParent Stan Store Episode Number: #1 Description: In the first episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon tackles the challenging topic of yelling at kids. He shares practical advice on how to break the cycle of yelling and offers alternative methods for effective communication. Jon also answers questions from listeners about their struggles with yelling, providing insights and solutions to help parents create a calmer, more connected household. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction And The Challenge Of Yelling 02:36 - Understanding Why We Yell 04:23 - Breaking The Cycle: Key Strategies 14:28 - Practical Steps For Stopping Yelling 16:40 - Addressing Yelling As An Instinctual Response 34:15 - Repairing The Connection After Yelling Key Takeaways: Breaking the Yelling Cycle: Stop the pattern of yelling to get your kids' attention and rely on alternative methods of communication. Understand that yelling is often an instinctual reaction rooted in how we were raised. Use empathy and validation when addressing your child's behavior to foster better communication. Effective Communication: Speak calmly and engage your child's logical thinking to teach them appropriate behavior. Recognize that yelling can cause fear and is only effective in immediate danger situations. Repairing After Yelling: Apologize with honest vulnerability to repair the connection with your child. Avoid adding a "but" to your apology to ensure it is sincere and effective. Use the opportunity to teach your child about taking responsibility and making amends. Links to Resources Mentioned: The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson How to Stop Yelling - Live Training What episode should you listen to next? My Partner and I Disagree on Parenting How to Connect: Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERE Send us a text Support the show Links to help you and me: To support the Podcast, Subscribe on Substack Get Jon’s Top Five Emotional Regulation Games Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings Free Follow Whole Parent on Instagram , Tiktok, Facebook , Youtube