Seeing Other People

Dr. Darcy Sterling, licensed therapist, relationship expert, and host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, joins the podcast to unpack why so many people confuse anxiety with chemistry—and how our relationship patterns often keep us stuck dating the same types of people over and over again. We talk about why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar, how childhood experiences shape attraction, and why emotional consistency is often mistaken for a lack of spark. Dr. Darcy also explains the importance of learning your relationship patterns, repairing conflict instead of avoiding it, managing anxiety without making it your partner's responsibility, and why authenticity will always attract healthier relationships than playing games. Plus, we answer listener questions about impossible dating standards, feeling disconnected in healthy relationships, and the three questions everyone should ask before getting serious with someone.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake turns 33, we recap his birthday week, and Professor Ilana is two classes in and already never wants it to end. We get into everything we didn't have time for last week: the creative ways we told our friends we were pregnant, what the first trimester is actually like, and the part nobody warns you about: the waiting. Every appointment is a month apart and the anxiety in between is real. We also tackle the question we got the most responses to on Instagram this week: how did Ilana know she was ready to have a baby? The honest answer might surprise you. Plus a listener follow-up from the Christmas party guy...there's been a development.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Olivia Atwood, Director of Matchmaking at Lox Club, joins the podcast to share how a joke matchmaking project during COVID turned into a career helping people find love—and what happened when she unexpectedly had to start dating again after the end of her own six-year relationship. We talk about dating in your 30s, the reality of dating apps, why so many people stay stuck chasing their "type," how to rebuild your confidence after heartbreak, and the surprising way Olivia met her current boyfriend. Plus, we discuss matchmaking, crushes, meeting people in real life, dating like an athlete, and why the best relationships often come from taking chances on someone unexpected.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Shamara Howard joins the podcast for an eye-opening conversation about how dating is changing—and why that's not necessarily a bad thing. We dive into why more women are choosing to stay single rather than settle, how to tell the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and what it really means to protect your peace without closing yourself off to love. We also talk about dating burnout, emotional maturity, building a fulfilling life on your own, the "gender war" happening online, and why the healthiest relationships are the ones that make your nervous system feel safe. Plus, Dr. Howard shares her best advice for long-term relationships, how couples can communicate through change, outdated relationship advice that needs to disappear, and the simple habit that can completely transform your relationship.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're pregnant, we're 15 weeks along, and we've been dying to tell you. This episode is everything: a clip from when we first found out, what the first trimester was actually like (the smell sensitivity, the endless weeks of feeling ill beyond belief, the food aversions, having to leave Carbone mid-dinner in Miami), how we told our families and so much more. We also want to acknowledge that this news isn't easy for everyone to hear, and we understand that. The rest of the podcast stays exactly what it's always been. But Cohosts for Life is where we'll be sharing the journey...and we're so glad you're here for it.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After answering more than 10,000 dating questions over the years, I've realized something: most people don't actually need more advice. They need better questions. In this solo episode, I'm sharing the questions I wish everyone would ask themselves before asking their friends what to do. We talk about dating potential versus reality, the difference between evidence and assumptions, why you shouldn't have to earn love, how fear influences our decisions, and why the goal of dating isn't to avoid heartbreak. It's to trust yourself enough to handle whatever happens next.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Linnea Sage joins the podcast to share how losing her voice acting career to AI unexpectedly led her to create The Jewish Dating Game, a live dating show helping singles connect beyond the apps. We talk about why modern dating feels so transactional, how first dates become interviews instead of experiences, why we often choose the wrong "type," and the simple ways to create genuine chemistry and connection. Plus, Linnea shares why creating community is just as important as finding love, and how putting your phone down might be the best dating advice you'll hear all year.Learn more at thejewishdatinggame.com and follow @thejewishdatinggame for upcoming events. The Jewish Dating Game hosts a monthly live show in New York City's Lower East Side and is currently touring across the U.S.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Barkley had us in a full panic leading us to the vet ER and then immediately ran laps around the facility like nothing happened. Ilana's Professor era officially begins this week, and we weigh in on the Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce MSG wedding because of course we do. Plus, listener questions: advice for someone trying to actually talk to people at dating mixers and speed dating events, and how to deal with not liking your close friend's boyfriend — without ruining the friendship.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After reading 10,000+ dating and relationship questions, I've noticed that most people are asking the same thing in different ways: "How do I know I'm making the right choice?" In this solo episode, I'm breaking down four listener questions about anxiety, intuition, dating with intention, relationship doubts, and the pressure to know if someone is "the one." We talk about why modern dating feels so overwhelming, how social media has distorted our expectations around certainty and chemistry, and the biggest lesson I've learned from years of helping people navigate relationships: clarity comes from experience, not endless analysis.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Therapist and co-host of the Therapy Brothers podcast, Tyler Patrick joins the podcast to share his personal story of addiction, betrayal, recovery, and rebuilding trust after everything fell apart. We talk about why betrayal feels so traumatic, what happens when shame keeps us stuck, how to heal when your nervous system is constantly on high alert, and the difference between surviving a betrayal and truly recovering from it. Plus, we discuss rebuilding trust in yourself, navigating triggers, finding safety after heartbreak, and why healing is possible—even when it feels impossible. http://therapybrothers.org/seeingotherpeopleALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ilana's back on Love Island (long story), Jake played golf four times in eight days, and we're doing absolutely nothing for July 4th and couldn't be happier about it. Three listener questions this week: someone who got blindsided when a guy ended things just one week after they became exclusive — and how not to let it derail you from dating; the reality of being the single friend when all your close friends are in relationships; and a surprisingly tricky one about whether it's okay to vent to your brother's girlfriend about your brother when she's become one of your closest friends.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this raw and emotional follow-up to I Didn't Expect This Relationship to Break Me, an anonymous guest returns to share the final chapter of her story—and the moment she finally found the strength to walk away.After years of broken promises, emotional neglect, financial strain, and a relationship that left her feeling increasingly disconnected from herself, she opens up about what kept her stuck, the guilt and shame she carried, and the heartbreaking realization that love alone wasn't enough to make the relationship work.We talk about losing yourself in a toxic relationship, the impact of unresolved grief and abandonment wounds, the fear of letting go, and why leaving isn't always as simple as knowing you deserve better. Most importantly, she shares how she's beginning to rebuild her life, reconnect with herself, and choose healing after years of putting someone else's needs before her own.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info"

Brandi Davis (@backpocketcounseling) joins the podcast for a deep dive into modern dating, relationship anxiety, communication, attachment styles, and the patterns that keep us stuck.As a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Back Pocket Counseling, Brandi shares why so many people feel exhausted by dating, how social media fuels comparison and self-doubt, the signs of emotional unavailability we often ignore, and why breaking unhealthy relationship cycles is harder than simply knowing better. We also discuss confidence, communication, mixed signals, attachment theory, and what healthy relationships actually look like in practice.Connect with Brandi: Back Pocket CounselingALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're recording at the earliest time ever — Friday morning, two broken water dishes deep, and heading into an absolutely stacked weekend (a wedding, two baby showers, a birthday, and Father's Day). We run through a round of dating debates and would-you-rathers — who should text first after a date, is it ever okay to snoop, can you be best friends with an ex — before getting into two listener questions: one from someone whose eight-month relationship is about to hit a wall when he moves to Seattle for work, and one from someone whose boyfriend still likes every single photo his ex posts.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At 25 years old, this anonymous guest has never been in a serious relationship—and while she knows she's not alone, it often feels that way. In this unfiltered conversation, she opens up about watching friends get engaged while she's still navigating first dates, the pressure of feeling "behind," and the self-doubt that comes from wondering why love hasn't happened yet. We talk about health struggles, moving to a new city, dating intentionally, and learning to trust that being selective isn't a flaw. Plus, we discuss comparison, timelines, and why building a full life while you're single is something worth celebrating.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Julie LaPlaca joins the podcast to share her journey from longtime producer on the Bachelor franchise to author of The Love Producer. We talk about what really happens behind the scenes of reality dating shows, how helping others find love impacted her own relationships, why she walked away from her dream job, and the self-discovery journey that followed. Plus, we discuss vulnerability, hypnotherapy, dating patterns, and what it truly means to create your own happily ever after.Grab a copy of the book and connect with Julie at https://theloveproducer.com/ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeopleGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first orderThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Knicks are champions and Jake may have cried a little. We start there. Then four listener questions: whether therapy actually helped Ilana find Jake (yes, and here's how), how to tell the difference between giving someone grace and making excuses for them, whether having a great life alone means you're too independent to be in a relationship, and the big one — he's kind, emotionally available, consistent, and wants everything you want, but the spark isn't there. Do you stay or keep chasing fireworks that always burn out?ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cara Ozek joins the podcast for a conversation about confidence, dating, and the small changes that can have a big impact. From style, grooming, body language, and dating app profiles to dating burnout, feedback, and self-growth, Cara shares how helping friends show up as their best selves inspired her own journey. We also talk about meeting people in real life, overcoming the fear of social events, staying hopeful after heartbreak, and why building a life you love is one of the most attractive things you can do.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Addie Sellers joins the podcast to share one of the most shocking experiences of her matchmaking career: working with a client who was later convicted and sentenced to 80 years in prison. We talk about the subtle red flags people miss in dating, why trusting your gut matters, how predators can hide behind seemingly perfect reputations, and the lessons Addie learned that changed the way she approaches relationships forever. Plus, we discuss rejection, resilience, and the importance of collecting data—not making excuses—when getting to know someone.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy Monday! We're recording from Jake's childhood bedroom fresh off a wedding the night before. We talk about why we're obsessed with vows and speeches, what it's like to hear other couples' love stories and reflect on your own relationship, and the text a maid of honor read aloud that had us wanting to dig through our own phones. Then we get into our main segment: a fun game of red flags and deal breakers — but with a twist. For each scenario, we share what single us would have thought versus what married, more seasoned us thinks now. From slow texters to exes on Instagram, financial baggage to crying on the first date, it's equal parts honest, funny, and surprisingly nuanced.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEIf your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This solo episode is all about hindsight, growth, and the dating choices I understand differently now. I’m reacting to listener-submitted scenarios through two lenses: what past me probably would’ve done, and what I’d do now. We’re talking about emotionally unavailable people, confusing anxiety for chemistry, trying to be chosen instead of evaluating compatibility, and the difference between knowing better versus actually being ready to do better.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lauren Makler joins the podcast for a conversation about fertility anxiety, egg freezing, dating pressure, and the emotional weight so many women carry around timelines. From AMH testing and IVF to secondary infertility, miscarriages, and dating in your 30s, we talk about the difference between making empowered decisions versus fear-based ones. Lauren also opens up about her own rare disease diagnosis, the experience that led her to start Cofertility, and why she believes knowledge is power when it comes to fertility and relationships.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy anniversary to us — we're recording this one from Miami in the hotel where we took our first trip together five years ago. Jake planned the whole thing, and we almost missed the flight (not our fault!). We get into the debate that started at the airport: are you still on your parents' phone plan in your 30s? Four listener questions this week: the guy who followed you on Instagram two years after you told him you weren't a match, being 25 and single while all your friends pair off, comparing your engagement timeline to an acquaintance who just got engaged after three months, and the guy who says money is tight and all your dates are at his house — hookup or just broke?ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Allison Lane joins the podcast for a conversation about dating in your 30s, meeting people in real life, and the pressure women feel to have everything figured out by a certain age. From run clubs and dating apps to confidence, friendships, and navigating New York City single, we talk about what it actually looks like to put yourself out there without romanticizing every interaction. Allison also opens up about being an only child and feeling the pressure around marriage and kids, how running changed her life after a difficult period, and her experience losing weight naturally in the middle of the GLP-1 era. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Joy Burkheimer joins the podcast for a conversation about second chances, relationship “redemption arcs,” and whether people can actually change after hurting someone they love. From attachment styles and cheating to avoidant behavior, breakups, and the psychology behind going back to an ex, we talk about the difference between genuine growth and simply saying the right things. Dr. Joy also opens up about how her own divorce led her to become a therapist, why relationships naturally evolve every few years, and what it really means to choose your partner over and over again. We also get into dating anxiety, rebuilding trust, listener questions about reconnecting with exes, and why protecting your peace doesn’t always mean walking away.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're both sick, we slept until noon, and we have a mystery anniversary trip in two days — Jake planned the whole thing and Ilana has no idea where they're going. We talk froyo orders (gummy bears are a crime), the great do-guys-actually-give-each-other-style-feedback debate, and tease next week's recording from wherever they end up. Two listener questions this week: one from someone whose relationship has been conflict-free for a year and is spiraling because the internet says that's a red flag (spoiler: it's not), and one from someone who knows her ex wasn't right for her but still can't stop hurting seeing him move on.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeopleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For so much of my life, I thought certain milestones would fundamentally change me. The relationship, the career growth, the apartment, the race finish line, the goals I spent years chasing. I thought I’d feel more confident, more secure, more fulfilled once I finally got there. But lately, I’ve been realizing how no achievement permanently changes your internal world the way we expect it to. In this solo episode, I’m talking about achievement comedowns, moving goalposts, self-improvement exhaustion, and the pressure to constantly chase the next version of yourself instead of learning how to actually live inside the life you already built.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Chloe Hechter joins the podcast for a conversation about everything your twenties are actually filled with: changing career paths, feeling behind, navigating dating in New York City, and learning how to stop centering relationships as the main goal. From growing up as a New York theater kid to switching majors in college, going viral online, and finding confidence after years of feeling “too much,” Chloe opens up about reinventing yourself in your twenties and realizing that nobody really has it figured out. We also talk about long distance relationships, Jewish identity and dating, influencer culture, internet hate, and why the best relationships happen when you stop making finding one your entire personality.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ilana's recording this one from her deathbed after missing the Brooklyn Half and sleeping the weekend away while Jake walked 25,000 steps to get a burger. Two listener questions this week: a woman who met a guy in Ireland, and booked another trip at his request, and he canceled two weeks out saying he doesn't want long distance — and a woman who got ghosted before a second date, redownloaded the app, and somehow has a new date with the same guy who might not even remember her. Plus Ilana's viral video on why you should just text to confirm the date already.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Meg Reynolds is back and we get real about what your twenties actually feel like—uncertain, uncomfortable, and constantly shifting. From turning 27 and questioning everything to navigating dating, friendships, and career paths that don’t look how you expected, this is a conversation about letting go of timelines and figuring it out as you go.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I’m joined by content creator Annie Jorgensen to talk about what really shifts when you turn 30 and stop looking for someone to complete you. From a major heartbreak (with a cheating ex who had already bought a ring) while all her friends were getting engaged, to rebuilding her confidence and completely changing how she dates, Annie shares how she went from dating for validation to actually asking, “do I even like them?”. We get into letting go of timelines, solo travel, dating apps vs real life, and why being single isn’t being behind — it’s just not settling.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake's back from Florida with a roulette win and some bachelor party receipts. Ilana has a major life announcement that's been months (or years) in the making.. Two listener questions: does astrology actually matter in dating, and how do you stop waiting for the other shoe to drop when something finally feels really good?ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we sit down with Kerry Russo, the creator behind UES Things, to talk about what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why staying in your comfort zone might be the biggest thing holding you back in dating and life. From meeting people in real life to going to events alone, starting conversations, and doing things that feel uncomfortable at first, this conversation is all about taking action instead of waiting for things to happen. We also get into giving people a real chance, letting go of rigid “types,” and building a life that naturally creates more opportunities to connect.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trevor Hanson is back for part two, and this episode goes even deeper into people pleasing, anxious attachment, and what it really means to feel secure in yourself. We talk about why even secure people can feel anxious in certain relationships, how to stop abandoning yourself to keep others happy, setting boundaries without guilt, and how identifying your values can completely change the way you date and heal.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake's heading to Fort Lauderdale for a bachelor party with zero itinerary and a plan that's basically "watch the Knicks, find a Chili's." We kick things off comparing how differently men and women plan these trips, and it's not even close. We tackle a listener question about bachelorette party costs spiraling out of control and how to set a boundary without being labeled unsupportive. Then, A listener wrote back about last week's question on dating while your mom is dying — she kept dating, met someone who'd lost his own parent, and they're now getting engaged so her mom can be there. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Juliette Haas is about to leave a life that works — great friends, a solid routine, and NYC exactly as she always imagined it — to move to London anyway. In this episode, we get into what it really means to choose discomfort on purpose, from solo traveling for the first time to realizing she didn’t want to be the person who only talks about doing things. We talk about growing up online, unlearning toxic wellness habits, navigating post-grad identity shifts, and how dating in your 20s can shape (and raise) your standards. Plus: the chaotic NYC dating stories, the relationship she didn’t expect right before leaving, and why this move isn’t about running away, but about choosing more.Follow Juliette on IG @thenutritiousnorm and TT @thenutritiousnormALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Amy Chan returns to Seeing Other People five years after her first appearance to talk about her new book UNSINGLE and what it actually takes to create a healthy, lasting relationship. We talk about why so many of us keep repeating the same dating patterns, how we're often optimizing for the wrong things, and why chemistry alone isn't enough to build something long-term. Amy shares her “dating funnel” framework to help identify where you're getting stuck, plus the mindset shifts that can help you break out of dating burnout. We also dive into limerence, dating outside your type, and the four pillars of healthy relationships — chemistry, compatibility, timing, and mutuality. Amy explains why the “perfect person at the wrong time is the wrong person,” how to challenge limiting beliefs about love, and the experiment she created that has helped people finally find lasting relationships.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're back with Ilana's LA trip recap, a lot to be grateful for, and two listener questions that made us cry. Ilana returns with two unhinged stories — a barista who said something unhinged to every customer and a saleswoman who congratulated someone on a pregnancy that was very much not happening. We answer a question from a 28-year-old in NYC who's trying not to be bitter about being single, and one that wrecked us both about whether to keep dating while your mom is sick. We close with the follow-up we've been waiting for: the girl who went on a Hinge date with her situationship's friend's roommate wrote back — and they're officially official.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ryan is a 43-year-old single dad living in a small coastal town in Mississippi, navigating dating with a uniquely small dating pool — and a clear idea of what he wants. After two divorces, gaining full custody of his kids, and years focused on raising them, he’s now approaching life as an empty nester and ready to find a partner.In this Unfiltered episode, Ryan shares what it’s like dating long-distance, hiring a matchmaker, why he’s intentional about keeping doors open, and the moment he ended a relationship after his partner crossed a boundary with his kids. He opens up about resilience, starting over, and balancing hope with acceptance when dating later in life.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After going on 150 dates with 60+ people in 10 months, Talia Koren didn’t expect to meet her husband when she did, especially because he wasn’t her type, didn’t give instant sparks, and entered her life while she was still dating other people.In this episode, Talia shares how dating intentionally and treating dating like a research experiment helped her move on from a six-year relationship, stop chasing chemistry, and recognize what actually matters in a long-term partner.From the first message on Hinge, to the third-date click, to defining the relationship and moving in together, this conversation breaks down what healthy dating actually looks like in real life, not just in theory.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jake and I catch up on the abandoned 20-week challenge, our first jobs out of college, and a post-wedding brunch we hosted that actually came together really well. Then we tackle a listener question from someone who accidentally went on a Hinge date with her casual boyfriend's friend's roommate (New York City is a very small village), and help her figure out how to have the exclusivity conversation. We wrap with a round of your dating wins — from five-hour first dates to finally deleting the apps. Don't forget to follow along on Instagram to submit your dating wins! ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of emotional abuse, control, isolation, and trauma. In this Unfiltered episode, an anonymous guest shares her experience entering her first relationship at 15 — and how what started as support during a vulnerable time slowly turned into control and isolation. She opens up about the red flags that appeared over time, losing contact with friends and family, feeling trapped, and how the relationship continues to impact her today.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ali from Finding Mr. Height is back, and this time she’s sharing the story of how she finally met her boyfriend. After years of dating app burnout and multiple first dates every week, she decided to try something different, showing up to real-life events with zero expectations, and one night she almost skipped ended up changing everything. In this episode, we talk about how she met her boyfriend unexpectedly, navigating early uncertainty when he left for six weeks after only three dates, and how intentional communication helped their relationship grow. We also dive into relationship timelines, moving in together, and why waiting for the right person can be worth it.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week’s Cohosts for Life, we’re diving into some of your best (and most layered) listener questions yet. From navigating dating while dealing with a potential job loss, to figuring out what to do when a close friend slowly fades out of your life, we’re giving our honest, unfiltered advice. We also talk about family dynamics, what to do when your partner isn’t putting effort into relationships that matter to you, and answer a thoughtful question about religion, cultural backgrounds, and how couples navigate those differences long-term. Plus, we share dating wins, life updates, and everything going on behind the scenes lately. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dana Joy, host of Not That Deep, to talk about sober dating, letting go of pressure, and why modern dating doesn’t have to be so complicated. Dana shares how stopping drinking changed the way she approaches dating, why coffee and walk dates feel more intentional, and how shifting to an "it's not that deep" mindset helped her stop overthinking every interaction. We also talk about dating without apps, saying yes to more opportunities, and learning to prioritize connection over perfection.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Andie P, creator of Ask a Fuckboy, to break down mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and the behaviors that leave you confused in modern dating. We talk about the difference between a fuckboy and someone who’s just not that into you, translating common “fuckboy” texts, why even smart people fall for mixed signals, when to communicate versus walk away, how technology has made modern dating more confusing, and whether situationships can actually turn into relationships — so you can stop guessing and start choosing what you actually want.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week we’re catching up on everything from a very full week, including a Boys Like Girls concert, Ilana’s new sewing hobby, and Jake questioning whether anyone actually needs to know how to spell anymore. We get into a listener follow-up about not liking the person you’re dating’s friends and what it actually means if they act differently around them. We also answer a question about moving cities for a relationship and how to know if you’re doing it for the right reasons. Plus, we share your dating wins, from great first dates to big relationship milestonesALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After reconnecting with her high school sweetheart years later, this anonymous guest believed she had found the love that was always meant to be. But what followed was a three-year relationship filled with emotional neglect, anxious attachment, resentment, and a version of herself she barely recognized.In this unfiltered conversation, she shares how unresolved grief, abandonment wounds, and mixed signals kept her stuck and why the hardest part of the breakup wasn’t forgiving him, but forgiving herself.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Life happens, and when it does, how you respond can change everything. In this episode, Dr. Rachel returns to talk about her new book When Life Happens, and why small, intentional shifts, not major life overhauls, are often what create the biggest change. We talk about dating burnout, confidence, body image, reacting vs. responding to stress, and why connections don’t always spark instantly. Dr. Rachel also shares the unexpected story of how she met her husband, and why a “boring” first date can still turn into something meaningful. Learn more about When Life Happens and get the book here: whenlifehappensbook.com Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram: @DrRachelNYCALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's Cohosts for Life episode, we're answering your dating questions and talking through some of the situations that come up when you’re getting to know someone. We get into everything from communication to overthinking to figuring out what actually matters early on. We also share your dating wins, from putting yourself out there to big relationship milestones.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.