Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I'm breaking down the 3 core mistakes that lead people to commit to the wrong person. It's not a broken picker or a shortage of good people out there. I'm covering why dating for potential keeps you stuck, what happens when you don't know or can't communicate your non-negotiable needs, and why ignoring your gut (which is quieter than anxiety) almost always backfires. I share my own stories from past relationships, what these mistakes actually look like in real time, and what to focus on instead, so you can choose someone you don't have to abandon yourself to keep. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)Relationship Needs MasterclassHow To Leave Your SituationshipTHANKS TO OUR SPONSORSQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode originally aired on Sex Ed with DB! In Sleepless in Seattle, a woman hears a stranger’s voice on the radio and decides she has to be with him. A few cross-country flights, some light stalking, and one dramatic Empire State Building finale later. Was it a recipe for true love? Or just another rom-com ignoring boundaries in the name of "destiny?"In this episode, I joined DB to unpack the film’s gender dynamics, its borderline obsessive premise, and why rom-coms always overlook the stable, reliable guy.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaWayfair: Get your outdoor space summer-ready! wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Sandy Weiner, a dating coach who has spent 13 years helping people date after divorce, and started her own dating journey at 52 after leaving a 23-year marriage. We're discussing everything from knowing when you're actually ready to date again to navigating the "jaded factor" in midlife dating to having the dating conversation with your kids (at any age). Sandy also shares why being picky about what matters and wide open about what doesn't is the mindset shift most people miss, plus how she creatively meets people offline through meetups, classes, and even emailing her network with her dating profile. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a 51-year-old single mom in a casual situation with a separated 43-year-old, and whether she should walk away or stay.CONNECT WITH SANDYLast First Date RadioSandy's IGTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaWayfair: Get your outdoor space summer-ready! wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship, but no one tells you what good communication actually looks like in practice. In this episode, I'm getting into relationship check-ins: the structured conversations my husband, Johnny, and I have had about 70 times over three years, and the single biggest reason our day-to-day relationship is virtually tension-free. I'm walking you through the exact questions we use (based on the Gottman State of the Union method, with our own additions), how check-ins have actually changed our relationship over time, when to start doing them, how to bring it up with your partner without making it weird, what to do if things get heated, and the most common mistakes people make. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether to give a great connection another shot after months apart.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEMy original episode on check-ins (ep 14)The Gottman State Of The Union check-in formatMy post on other check-in formatsFree dating guides: datingintentionally.com/giftMy episode with Zach Brittle on repair vs resolve THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaWayfair: Get your outdoor space summer-ready! wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@Da

I'm chatting with Trevor Hanson, a licensed marriage and family therapist. He and his team at The Art Of Healing help people move from anxious attachment to secure attachment in a structured, results-oriented way. We get into what anxious attachment actually looks like in dating for both men and women, why you can feel totally secure when you're single but completely fall apart once a relationship starts, and what emotionally corrective experiences are, and why they're what actually rewires your nervous system, not just reading more books or gaining more self-awareness. Trevor also shares why you don't need to be fully healed before you date, how conflict, followed by repair, builds real security over time, the problem with using AI to write your texts, and more. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a guy who's not sure how to follow up after sending someone a rose on Hinge.CONNECT WITH TREVORTrevor's IGTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaWayfair: Get your outdoor space summer-ready! wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Emotional availability is one of the most desired traits in a partner, but it's so hard to find. In this episode, I'm walking through four real listener dilemmas that show how emotional unavailability actually shows up: from being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly perfect relationship, to oversharing too early with someone you barely know, to getting stuck in a months-long holding pattern, to wondering if your sky-high standards are actually a wall. I'm breaking down what emotional availability really looks like, why "chasing the feeling" keeps people stuck, and how to start recognizing emotional availability so you don't miss it.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode 152 - a deeper dive on emotional unavailabilityEpisode 217 - with Julia Kristina, a therapist and expert on emotional intelligence and maturityEpisode 255 - healing anxious attachment with Rebecca OreTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Hanna Anderson and Mackenzie Foltz, the co-hosts of The Dating Detectives, a podcast that combines real PI work with deeply ethical storytelling about people who got conned in love. We're discussing everything from what "dogfishing" actually is (and how it's different from catfishing) to the subtle early red flags most people miss, to why love bombing feels so good even when it's a setup. Mackenzie and Hanna also share their PI-approved guide to vetting someone you're dating without feeling "crazy," including the exact line to use when you've found something on them, plus practical safety tools every single person should know about. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a guy who keeps liking other women's photos on Instagram after being asked to stop.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE"The Origin Story" — the case that inspired the showThe crypto catfish (FaceTime sob story episode)The "time-traveling" investor episode The Twitter vegan episodeThe "evil stepmother" episodeMy guest appearance on The Dating Detectives!THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT</str

In this episode, I'm covering how attraction actually works when you're dating for a long-term relationship, from how to know if you're attracted to someone and what's "enough," to how long to give it before walking away, to how attraction can grow over time and what it actually takes for that to happen. I'm also answering a few listener questions, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about a confusing Bumble interaction.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEFree dating FAQ guideStop looking for attraction on the first dateDating outside your typeFlirting tips episode THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Keltie Maguire, a life coach who specializes in helping people navigate the kids-or-child-free decision — a topic we've never covered on this show before. After spending years as a fence-sitter herself before ultimately choosing a child-free life, Keltie now helps individuals and couples gain clarity on one of the most complex decisions they'll ever make. We're discussing everything from why "you'll just know" is terrible advice to why a pros and cons list won't actually help you, how to approach this decision when you're ambivalent, and why both people in a couple need to be willing to compromise. Keltie also shares how to talk about the kids question while you're dating: when to bring it up, what to put on your profile, and what to do when your person isn't sure. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman who's finally found a stable, kind man she feels safe with, but she's embarrassed by how he looks.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEKids or Child Free Podcast (Keltie's pod)We Are Child Free PodcastThe Baby Decision (book)Amanda White's Substack, Fence SitterTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" tar

Don't let your situationship stop you from getting into a relationship. In this episode, I'm getting into how situationships happen in the first place to why leaving feels impossible to the exact words to use when you finally end it. I share my own 2-year situationship story, break down the difference between situationships and casual dating or friends with benefits, and give you a real plan for healing that works. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about how to handle inconsistent communication early on when someone takes three days to confirm date plans.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODESigns you're in a situationship (ep 69)THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Amy Chan, relationship expert, retreat founder, and author of the brand-new book Unsingle, about why most people are just a few strategic adjustments away from finding their match. We're discussing everything from the dating funnel (and which stage you're most likely sabotaging) to the spectrum between having no standards and over-icking yourself out of love to why dating is a personality game, but relationships are a character game. Amy also breaks down the difference between preferences and non-negotiables, why narcissists are actually great daters, and how to build intuition so you stop overriding your gut. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about taking it slow with a work crush you've known for seven months.CONNECT WITH AMYGet Amy's new book, Unsingle: How To Date Smarter And Create Love That LastsListen to our first ep together (about break ups)THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingQuince: Get 10% off and 365-day returns at quince.com/taliaCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm covering one of the biggest sticking points in early dating: feeling connected between dates. I'm getting into the mindset work and how to stop the spiral, including my top practical tips for building connection between dates without overdoing it. Along the way, we talk about the role of phone calls, texting habits, and how to bring this up on a date without making it awkward. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's questioning her long-term compatibility with an on-and-off boyfriend of 2 years.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEp 244: Building inner securityEpi 209: Why self-trust is key to feeling safeEp 138: Developing self-compassionTexts that are better than "how are you?"What are you looking forward to this week?What was the best part of your day?What’s a win you had today?What’s the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?What did you see recently that’s living rent-free in your mind?If we could skip to the weekend right now, what's the first thing you’d do?What food are you currently craving?THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD<a href="https:

I'm chatting with Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine, the husband-and-wife hosts of Dear Shandy, one of my favorite reality TV recap podcasts. We're discussing everything from what Love Is Blind contestants keep getting wrong (and how it mirrors real life) to why Andy believes online dating is the slow death of modern romance, to how to bring up the "big" topics on a first date. This episode is packed with practical dating advice from a couple who have seen it all. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure whether her boyfriend's travel issues are a dealbreaker.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODERuby the dog: @shandyspooMy 5 needs in a partnerTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I went on about 150 dates with over 60 people in a year before I met my now husband, and don't for a second think "hope" is what got me through it and kept me motivated. In this episode, which originally aired in 2024, I'm sharing why hope is useless and what to focus on instead: your beliefs. I didn't hope I'd meet someone; I believed it was inevitable. Listen to this episode if you're ready to work on your beliefs so you don't burn out after the rejection, false starts, and ghosting (that's also inevitable if you're dating). At the end, I get into a new dating dilemma about a dramatic reaction to a last-minute date switch-up.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode #68 with Jackie Glaser (self-worth + beliefs)Thank you, More Please by Lily WombleF the Fairytale by Damona HoffmanBreakup Bootcamp by Amy ChanHow to Identify Your Needs courseTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy<

I'm chatting with Rebecca Ore, a relationship coach and former anxiously attached dater who transformed her own relationship experience after discovering thought work and coaching. We're discussing everything from why you feel totally fine when you're single but fall apart the second you start liking someone, to what it actually means to stop trying to control your partner and start coming back to yourself. Rebecca also shares her personal experience of learning to separate her self-worth from how others treat her, and how that shift changed everything in her current relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who had a five-hour first date and hadn't heard from them two days later.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:Submit a dating dilemma⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm answering four listener dating dilemmas, from deciding whether a "boring" but stable guy is worth more dates to navigating attraction when everything else aligns, to catching feelings for a newly single college friend, to dealing with a breadcrumbing bartender. I'm sharing how to tell the difference between "boring" and "bored," a better way to think about attraction, and why "right person, wrong time" is a trap.Want my advice on your situation? ⁠Submit your dating dilemma here.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTDownload my free dating guides (texting, reflections, FAQ)⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Dr. Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method and author of the brand-new book Burn the Haystack, on round two! This time, we're getting into everything from her own success story to how to spot toxic dating coaches to why the "ick" deserves way more credit than it gets. Jennie also breaks down how she uses Burn the Haystack beyond the apps, the rhetorical patterns that didn't make it into the book, and the exact opening prompt that reveals her matches political affiliation 99% of the time. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman two and a half months into a relationship with a really nice guy she just isn't falling for.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEListen to our first conversation about Burned HaystackRead Jennie's SubstackTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm getting into relationship rumination and that "should I stay or should I go" loop that keeps you stuck without ever actually making a decision. I'm covering the science behind why your brain does this, the difference between ambivalence and relationship anxiety, and a set of guided reflection questions to help you figure out what you actually want. I also share my own experience ruminating for years before leaving my ex, answer listener questions from Instagram about dealbreakers, timelines, and finding the courage to leave, and give you practical tips for breaking the cycle. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of four years has always said he can't marry her.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Rikki Cloos, the creator and author of Anxious Hearts Guide, one of the most grounded, accessible resources out there for healing insecure attachment. We're discussing communication mistakes most of us make without realizing it, why the words we say rarely match what we actually mean, and how that gap affects relationships. Rikki also shares her framework for improving communication and the seven relationship agreements she has with her husband. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who's been in couples therapy for months but is somehow feeling more distant from her partner.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEpisode 48 - all about getting your needs met as an anxiously attached personTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical ways to show interest in early dating, even if you're shy, introverted, or just plain terrified. I'm covering what works, no matter how comfortable you are with dating, and why most people hold back too much. Plus, I share some truly cringe-worthy things my listeners (and I) have done to show interest, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether you should give someone feedback after you've already moved on.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEp 244 - Building Inner Safety & SecurityTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year! factormeals.com/di50offBoll & Branch: Get 15% off the softest bedding at bollandbranch.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Eric Resnick, a dating profile expert with over 20 years of experience and 40,000+ profiles reviewed. We're discussing everything from why Bumble and Tinder are emotionally unhealthy by design, to what your photos are actually saying about you, to how to fix a profile that's getting zero matches, or way too many of the wrong ones. Eric also shares why women need to stop being passive on the apps and what a truly conversation-starting profile actually looks like. At the end, we review two real listener profiles live and break down exactly what to change.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm answering five dating dilemmas that all circle the same messy truth: early dating is confusing, and you're not alone if you feel like you and your date are on completely different planets. Dating dilemmas:She's 5 dates in with a guy who's sweet in person, but is still active on the apps.She's keeps leaving great first dates only to wait in silence, wondering if she should just text first or hold out.He says he's "open-minded" and she's trying to figure out if that's a green light or a waste of her time.She met a guy at a party, he kissed her and begged her to text him... then gave her the wrong number.Men on the apps keep asking her out in their very first message, then disappearing when she asks to chat first.⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠!THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" t

I'm chatting with Hannah Johnson, aka The Libido Fairy, a sex educator with over half a million followers who helps women reclaim their desire and actually enjoy sex. We're discussing everything from why women lose their sex drive in long-term relationships to the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire to why sex needs to feel rewarding to work. Hannah also shares her brilliant "King and Queen Day" concept (a structured, communication-forward way to feel deeply taken care of by your partner) and her take on transition activities that help your nervous system shift into intimacy mode. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about someone who ignored major red flags and got emotionally attached anyway.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/

I'm breaking down one of the most asked-about milestones in modern dating: exclusivity. I'm covering the difference between being exclusive and defining the relationship, the signs you're actually ready to have this conversation, and how to bring it up without coming off too eager or waiting too long. I also get into how so many situationships are born in this exact moment and what to do if their answer is vague or non-committal. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend's best friend is using manipulation and self-harm threats to interfere with their relationship, and what she needs to hear.The line: "Hey, I'm enjoying this connection so much that I just want to focus on getting to know you more, and I'm not seeing anyone else." MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEHere's my original episode on defining the relationship (DTR)THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD<a href="https://t.

I'm chatting with Emma Wilson, dating coach and creator of the Turning 30 community for single women, who went through a major breakup at 33, built her business from the ground up, moved to Costa Rica for five months, and eventually found her partner in the most unexpected place. We're discussing everything from how societal pressure tricks us into thinking we're ready for a relationship when we're not, to what it actually looks like to trust your timeline without it feeling like an empty cliché. Emma also shares her concept of "expanders"—real people who show you that your path is possible, plus her honest take on slow burn attraction and why butterflies don't have to be instant. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who keeps hearing she's great but that the "butterflies just weren't there"—and what that feedback actually means.Check out Emma's podcast, Turning 30!THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE P

I'm talking about one of the most important things you can work on, no matter where you are in life: building security within yourself. I'm covering what self-security actually looks like, from meeting yourself with compassion instead of judgment to physically calming your nervous system, taking small risks to build self-trust, and aligning your actions with your values. I also share some of my own story and walk you through the signs that you might need to work on this more. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from someone who's scared to bring up an important topic, fearing it might rock the boat.⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a yearfactormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Zach Brittle, host of Marriage Talk Radio and a Gottman-trained marriage therapist who's been working with couples for over 20 years. We discuss everything from what singles should know about long-term relationships before they start dating to why "negative sentiment override" can slowly poison even good relationships. Zach breaks down the three factors that drive positive sentiment and explains why repair is more important than resolve in conflict. He also shares practical strategies for navigating hard conversations. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a couple who can't seem to stop fighting when they're apart.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/

I'm covering everything you need to know about the slow burn, from why it feels so uncomfortable when you've only known whirlwind romances, to how to know if you're actually ready for it, to the signs you need to pump the brakes early on. I also get into where physical intimacy fits in, how to tell the difference between a slow burn and just not vibing with someone, and tips for enjoying the process. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether to keep the door fully closed on a connection that had potential.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Episode 111 — How to stay grounded in datingEpisode 146 — Slow burn vs. dead endEpisode 172 — When you want a slow burn but they're rushing itEpisode 160 — We're attracted to the wrong peopleStudy on friendship formation Instagram post on chemistry-boosting date ideasTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSFactor: Get 50 percent off and free breakfast for a year factormeals.com/di50offMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the

In this bonus episode, I'm sitting down with Jordan Dann, a couples therapist and psychoanalyst who, like me, loves to watch Love Is Blind on Netflix. This episode contains spoilers! We're talking about the moments from Season 10 (Ohio) living rent-free in our minds, including Alex & Ashley's dynamic that stays on the surface/never gets deep, Brittney and Devonta's pursuer/withdrawer dynamic, and how Bri just isn't ready for a guy like Connor. We touch on the insanity of Chris's behavior throughout the show at the end as well. Who will say yes at the altar this Wednesday? We share our predictions at the end. Check out Jordan's Substack!And here's my first ep with Jordan - all about the honeymoon stage in relationships.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener

I'm chatting with Marina Iakovleva, creator of Dating Beyond Borders, who's spent 12 years exploring how people date around the world. We're discussing everything from why Scandinavians have sex before they even go for coffee to why Eastern Europeans and Dutch couples clash over gift-giving, to how "the talk" looks completely different depending on where you're from. Marina shares which cultures tend to be most compatible (and which ones really struggle together), the truth about paying for dates globally, and the unique challenges of dating as a digital nomad, like dodging passport bros in Mexico. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about navigating different cultural expectations.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when you have an amazing connection, but the relationship itself is kind of a bust? In this episode, I'm answering four dating dilemmas that all highlight the common dating mistake of confusing connection with compatibility. The truth is, connection is important, but it can't get you anywhere with someone you're incompatible with! Featured dilemmas:1. A woman who's not sure if she should wait for a great guy she met in person2. Someone three months into a relationship, wondering if she's asking for too much or just asking the wrong person.3. Someone who can't tell if the guy she's been dating for three months is a slow burn or not.4. A woman who's been with someone for over a year and still hasn't heard "I love you" back.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:My take on age gap datingJanuary's Dating Dilemma episodeTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD<a href="https://t.ly/JJgpP" rel="noopener nore

Alli Goldberg (back for round 2!) is the creator and host of Love Isn't Blind, the live dating show where the men can't speak, and she's now hosted nearly 100 shows across 10 cities. That means she's interviewed over 800 men, and she has thoughts. Alli shares what patterns she's noticed from all those interviews, including the surprisingly beautiful things men say about what they're looking for. We talk about why couples need to be better wingpeople, why women need to get over being scared of men if they want to date them, and what positive masculinity actually looks like. Alli also shares her own setup success story. Plus, we answer a dating dilemma from a guy who keeps having great first dates but can't seem to get to date two.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comJOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/p

I'm sharing my experiences with saying "I love you" for the first time, from awkwardly blurting it out in a noisy subway station to intentionally saying it over the phone. I'm covering the signs you're actually in love, when to say those three little words, and my advice for being the person who says it first, which, yes, I've done in almost every relationship. I also get into what to do if they're not ready to say it back, how often to say it after the first time, and why both saying and showing love matter equally. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma: a woman who put real effort into romancing her partner, only to be told at the 3-month mark that she didn't do enough.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comJOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Rory Uphold, a writer and the author of The Final Girl's Guide to the Horrors of Dating, a book that uses the horror movie framework to help people navigate modern dating. We're discussing everything from how rom-coms groomed us for romantic disappointment and taught women to be chosen instead of the chooser, to the devastating breakup that turned Rory into a final girl, to what she did to rebuild her life after (spoiler: it wasn't therapy). Rory also shares three powerful pieces of advice from her book, including the truth about the walls we build when we're younger, and the walls we have to tear down when we're older. At the end, we tackle two listener questions about grief in relationships and whether to give a former situationship another chance.Get Rory's book: A Final Girl's Guide To The Horrors Of DatingConnect with Rory on IGTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comJOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD<a href="https://t.ly/JJgpP" rel="noopene

You know you want to be with your partner for a long time, but how do you know when to move in? Today I'm sharing everything I've learned about moving in with a partner, from knowing when you're ready to navigating daily life together. I cover the emotional and practical signs you're ready to cohabitate, the red flags that you're not, and why you need to talk about your relationship timeline first. Then I answer your Instagram questions about handling habit differences, avoiding getting on each other's nerves, managing income disparities, keeping romance alive, and so much more. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma: should you start dating again while unemployed?Episodes & Resources Mentioned:Ep 20: Questions to discuss before moving in together Ep 213: Tara Laferrara on keeping romance aliveLow-budget date ideas postTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingWayfair: Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. wayfair.comJOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free text

Author and educator Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat) brought weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox into the mainstream, and today she's here to talk about how these dynamics can show up way before you're married with kids. We get into the early warning signs of domestic inequity you can spot while dating, the green flags that actually matter for a long-term partnership, and what a truly collaborative relationship looks like day to day. Plus, Laura shares her unexpectedly romantic love story, we unpack why "happy wife, happy life" makes me cringe, and we tackle a dating dilemma from someone who started dating their roommate.Check out Laura's amazing book, No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand MoreTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT</str

Feeling uneasy about your partner's friendship with someone of the opposite sex? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what that jealousy actually means, when it's a you problem vs. a real red flag, and how to navigate it without sabotaging your relationship. I'm sharing my own experience working through this with Johnny and the one boundary we set that made all the difference. Plus: why your partner having women friends is actually a green flag, how to bring this up without it turning into a fight, and what to do if the conversation goes badly. Then, in this week's dating dilemma, a guy who had a "Hallmark movie moment" with someone who's already in a relationship wants to know if he should pursue it.Instagram post I'm referring to!THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT<a href="https://dating

Sabrina Bendory, author of Detached: How to Let Go, Heal and Become Irresistible, joins me to break down what detached dating actually means (hint: it's not about not caring). We get into why you keep ending up in situationships, the difference between limerence and real connection, and two tools to manage dating anxiety that you probably never heard of before. Plus, we tackle a dating dilemma about financial generosity in relationships.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on

I'm answering four real dating dilemmas from listeners stuck on whether to stay or leave a relationship. I get into how to end a medium-term relationship, what to do when you've been on the fence for months, the difference between accepting imperfections and settling, and what to actually look for when you give someone a deadline to change. If you're in a relationship that feels "fine" but you're questioning whether fine is enough, this one's for you.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleSee Privacy Policy at <

I'm chatting with Travis Ambrose, an attachment-focused coach who specializes in helping people on the avoidant end of the spectrum heal and build healthier relationships. We're discussing everything from signs of avoidant attachment to the common mistakes anxious daters make that push avoidants away. Travis also shares his framework for knowing when a relationship is workable versus when it's time to walk away. We also tackle a dating dilemma: navigating a two-month relationship with someone who shows classic avoidant patterns.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dat

Let's get ready for a first date! I'm sharing a pep talk for your next first date, plus my best quick tips for flirting, so you can actually create a romantic connection instead of just a friendly one. I'm covering how to lower the stakes and stop putting so much pressure on yourself, what your real mission is on a first date, and what to do if you're nervous. Then I get into the basics of flirting and more advanced moves. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who matched with a guy on Bumble, lost him when she reset her profile, and now he's popped up on Instagram. Should she slide into his DMs?Get 90+ dating questions (and all my free guides): datingintentionallypod.com/giftTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠

I'm chatting with Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach who "turbo dated" her way through NYC after leaving a 20-year marriage in her 40. She's now remarried and helping clients of all ages find love with intention. We're discussing everything from how to bring up your divorce on a first date to her four pillars for filtering someone out by date four. Amy also shares the trick question she uses to figure out if someone's actually ready for a relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about navigating post-divorce dating when external markers like marriage and kids are off the table.THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSMeundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/datingQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intent

I’m breaking down the real signs someone is actually ready for a relationship beyond what they say on a dating app or how excited they seem early on. I’m also covering what doesn’t mean much on its own (like good morning texts or initial excitement), how long it should realistically take to see these signs, and what you’ll never see from someone who’s truly ready. Along the way, I share personal examples from my relationship with Johnny. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend aired his doubts about her to his friends, which is causing them major issues.Episode mentioned: are you ready for a relationship?THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on You

In this episode, I'm chatting with Allora Dannon, who went on her first date ever at 32. She's now engaged, and we're discussing everything from how to bring up your lack of experience on a date to navigating physical intimacy when it's all brand new to grieving the timeline you thought you'd have while still moving forward. Whether you're a late bloomer yourself or you want to better support someone who is, this conversation is packed with encouragement and practical advice for anyone who's ever felt "behind." At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether inconsistent texting is a real dealbreaker or a sign of self-sabotage.Check out Allora on TikTok and grab her book!THANKS TO OUR PARTNERSQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT<a href="https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free

In this episode, I'm breaking down 8 things that seem like red flags but are actually just part of being with someone for a while, like feeling bored sometimes, not being "in love" every single day, having doubts, disagreeing about money, and yes, occasionally thinking about an ex. I'm sharing where the line is between normal and actually problematic, plus what Johnny and I have experienced along the way. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether needing to tell your partner how to show up for you is a sign to move on.Mentioned in this episode:Relationship Needs Masterclass - catch session two on 1/12!Study on how often couples fight about moneyTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERSQuince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/taliaPique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/datingRocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionallyMORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ gui

In this episode, I’m joined by dating coach Erika Ettin again to break down the mindset shifts that make dating feel calmer, clearer, and more intentional. We talk about dating NATO (not attached to outcome), avoiding pen-pal dynamics, reading texting patterns, and how to stay open without over-investing too early. At the end, we dive into a text support question from a listener about a promising first date that turns into confusing texting and how to handle it.Where to Find Erika:IG: https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudgePodcast: https://sowemetonline.com/Website: https://www.alittlenudge.com/JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠SUPPORT THE POD⁠Rate on AppleDATING COURSES⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠Relationship Needs Master ClassSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Starting fresh in dating can feel exciting and overwhelming at the same time. In this episode, I'm sharing my top 10 tips for dating intentionally in 2026, from building confidence and resilience to utilizing phone calls to combat flakiness to finding an in-person approach that actually fits your life and getting crystal clear on your core needs. This episode is packed with the direction and positivity you might be craving as we head into a new year. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about people who are on the apps but say they're not ready to date.Sign up for my Relationship Needs Masterclass on 1/5 and 1/12! datingintentionallypod.com/needsMentioned in this episode:How to set boundaries (ep 73)Being the chooser vs being chosen (ep 218)Dating Intentionally Basics IG postThanks to our partners:Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today.Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20CONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT<a href="https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides" rel="noope

Being single is treated like something to escape, like something's wrong with you. But what if we stopped thinking of it that way? In this episode, I'm sharing the exact exercise I did after leaving my 6-year relationship that completely changed how I approached dating. I'm sharing the reflection questions I used to build my own security while actively dating, so you can do the same. This episode will help you re-frame urgency and desperation around just finding your person already.REFLECTION QUESTIONS:If I don't like it here, where should I live?How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be?How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?How will I show up for the people in my life?How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?If I don't meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own?If I don't get married, what does the best version of my life look like?Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today.Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20UPCOMING EVENTRelationship Needs Masterclass: datingintentionallypod.com/needsJOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT<a href="https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-g

Are you overthinking your dating situations, or are people showing you exactly who they are? In this episode, I break down four real dating dilemmas, which will help you trust your gut, set firmer boundaries, and date with more confidence and ease. Dilemma 1) dating someone who isn’t truly available, Dilemma 2) dealing with inconsistency and repeated cancellations, Dilemma 3) knowing when to state a boundary versus walk away, and Dilemma 4) figuring out whether a “slow burn” is real or a stalled connection. When you learn to observe instead of explain away behavior, dating becomes less confusing and a lot more empowering.Join my Relationship Needs Masterclass on 1/5 and 1/12!datingintentionallypod.com/needsThanks to our partners:Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today.Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠DATING COURSES<a href="https://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/Ub7Sav83/checkout" rel="noopener noreferrer" target=

Breakups aren’t fun, but they don’t have to break you.In this episode, I’m joined by breakup coach Cole Zesiger to talk about why we ruminate, how to stop comparing new dates to an ex, and when you are actually ready to date again. We also get into his divorce story, real healing strategies, and at the end we get into a dating dilemma about staying in touch with exes.Connect with Cole Zesiger:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesigerYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbR-Co-YONE96kmIsxQPstAGet Cole's Book!Ex's and No's: The Breakup Advice You Don't Want to Hear Thanks to our partners:Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started.AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe!Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today.Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20JOIN THE COMMUNITYdatingintentionallypod.com/communityCONNECT WITH ME:⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT<a href="https://datingin