Episodes

Oct 28

Summary: In this episode, Kendall Lasha discusses the growing mindset among young adults and teenagers who believe they are equal to their parents simply because they have reached adulthood. She explores the spiritual and ethical equality of all humans while emphasizing the sacred, non-peer role of parents. The conversation delves into the cultural and relational hierarchies that have existed for thousands of years, the impact of pop psychology on social media, and the importance of respecting the parental role. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and the challenges that arise when modern parenting expectations clash with traditional values. Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:00:00 Spiritual and Ethical Equality 00:00:00 The Sacred Role of Parents 00:00:00 Pop Psychology's Influence 00:00:00 Respect and Boundaries 00:00:00 Cultural Hierarchies and Parenting 💚Grab My New Book "Moving Forward: A Guide to Finding Peace & Yourself, With or Without Reconciliation" and "Reclaiming Your Identity" both available on Amazon https://a.co/d/fvGPsa3 and https://mumstruetea.com/merch-shop/ 💚 KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Oct 1

Join me as I unpack the complex topic of adult kids claiming that they are breaking generational curses. Are they truly breaking them, or merely creating new ones? This episode challenges the narrative and explores what genuine healing looks like and what generational curse breaking really looks like. Please visit my website for more information and also subscribe to my newsletter: http://mumstruetea.com/ 🔔𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐩𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬. https://www.youtube.com/@MumsTrueTea/?sub_confirmation=1 🔗 Stay Connected With Me. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mumstruetea?lang=en Website: http://mumstruetea.com/ 📩 For business inquiries and appointments: info@mumstruetea.com =============================

Sep 5

Summary In this episode of 'Mum's True Tea,' Kendall Lasha discusses the often unspoken reality of child-to-parent abuse, drawing parallels between the struggles of motherhood and the concept of kryptonite from the Superman narrative. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing when children become toxic and the need for mothers to prioritize their own mental health and well-being. Through personal anecdotes and statistics, Kendall advocates for breaking the silence surrounding this issue and encourages mothers to seek support and empowerment. Takeaways Moms often need to take a breather for their own healing. Children can become a source of emotional pain for parents. The concept of kryptonite symbolizes how children can weaken parents. Child-to-parent abuse is a reality that is often overlooked. Silence about child-to-parent abuse can be harmful. Mothers are often expected to endure pain without speaking out. Financial and emotional abuse from children is a serious issue. Estrangement can be a necessary step for self-preservation. It's important to seek support and not feel alone in these struggles. Mothers should prioritize their mental health over societal expectations. KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Jul 28

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, host Kendall Lasha discusses the absurd reasons adult children give for going no contact with their parents, particularly mothers. She critiques the influence of social media and modern therapy on parenting narratives, emphasizing that affection and involvement are often misinterpreted as control or abuse. Lasha argues that the blame for adult children's struggles is unfairly placed on parents, who often provided love and support. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing the emotional tools parents provide and the need to reclaim parental identity amidst societal pressures. Takeaways Moms are often blamed for their children's issues. Adult children use therapy as an excuse for estrangement. Affection from parents is misinterpreted as smothering. Generational wealth is misunderstood in parenting contexts. Social media influences perceptions of parenting negatively. Involvement in children's lives is not narcissism. Healing should focus on honesty, not manipulation. The phrase 'I didn't ask to be born' is problematic. Parents often struggle to provide while being blamed. True wealth includes emotional support and life skills. Chapters 00:00 The Blame Game: Parenting Under Scrutiny 02:46 The Ridiculous Reasons for Estrangement 05:31 Affection vs. Abuse: Misunderstandings in Parenting 08:43 The Impact of Generational Wealth and Stability 11:30 Social Media's Role in Parenting Narratives 14:07 The Misconceptions of Control and Involvement 17:15 The New Age of Therapy and Parenting Expectations 20:02 The Unasked Question: Why Did You Have Kids? 22:45 Healing from False Narratives 25:52 Reclaiming Parental Truths KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Jun 1

Summary In this conversation, Kendall Lasha addresses the often-overlooked issue of parental abuse, discussing the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse that mothers may endure from their children. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing this abuse, setting boundaries, and taking action to protect oneself. The conversation highlights the need for mothers to reclaim their dignity and safety, encouraging them to speak up, seek support, and prioritize their well-being. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Parental Abuse 05:36 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Yourself 10:03 Finding Support and Healing KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Grab my book 💚Grab My Book "Reclaiming Your Identity: A Mom's Guide to Empowerment, Boundaries and Peace Amid Estrangement" Ebook + Paperback on MumsTrueTea.com or Amazon https://a.co/d/gn0MZBD 💚 THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!

May 16

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, host Kendall Williams discusses the emotional turmoil that comes with receiving unexpected communication from an estranged child. She emphasizes the importance of managing anxiety, setting boundaries, and protecting one's mental health while navigating these complex relationships. The conversation provides practical advice for mothers dealing with estrangement, focusing on the need for self-care and cautious communication. Chapters 00:00 My Estranged Child Reached Out Now WHAT?! 01:14 New Chapter 02:47 Understanding Emotional Responses and Setting Boundaries 05:56 Establishing Healthy Communication and Boundaries 07:31 Protecting Your Peace and Healing 09:44 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Moms 10:28 _MTT- OUTRO video.mp4 KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast 💚Grab My Book "Reclaiming Your Identity: A Mom's Guide to Empowerment, Boundaries and Peace Amid Estrangement" Ebook + Paperback on MumsTrueTea.com or Amazon https://a.co/d/gn0MZBD 💚

Apr 22

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, host Kendall Lasha engages in a deep conversation with therapist Jeff James about the complex dynamics between black mothers and their sons. They explore the societal and systemic issues that contribute to the challenges faced by black families, the historical context of family structures, and the emotional responsibilities placed on children. The discussion also touches on the importance of accountability in relationships and the impact of parenting styles on the emotional health of children. In this conversation, Kendall Lasha and Jeffre James explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the expectations individuals bring into them, the consequences of choices made, and the importance of communication. They discuss the roles of men and women, the impact of cultural dynamics, and the need for self-reflection and healing in order to break generational cycles. The conversation emphasizes the importance of building bridges rather than walls in relationships and the necessity of accountability and growth for both parents and children. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 02:21 Exploring the Blame on Black Moms 05:51 Systemic Issues Affecting Black Families 11:00 Historical Context of Black Family Dynamics 20:06 Consequences of Social Changes on Family Structure 22:18 Accountability in Relationships 25:09 The Impact of Parenting Styles 29:25 The Role of Fathers in Child Development 31:13 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 34:23 Consequences of Relationship Choices 39:25 The Importance of Fighting for Family 45:38 The Quest for Peace and Healing 48:31 Breaking Cycles: Generational Patterns 51:11 Cultural Reflections: Movies and Lessons 54:20 Understanding Consequences: Parenting and Feedback 01:01:21 Self-Reflection and Growth in Motherhood 01:05:24 Building Bridges: The Path to Healing KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Join my Patreon for exclusives THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!

Mar 14

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, Kendall Lasha delves into the complex dynamics between mothers and their children, particularly focusing on the rising trend of labeling mothers as narcissists. She challenges the audience to reflect on their perceptions of motherhood, the impact of therapy on familial relationships, and the importance of empathy and understanding in the healing process. Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking questions, Kendall emphasizes the need for forgiveness, the recognition of mothers as individuals with their own traumas, and the responsibility each person has for their own healing journey. Takeaways All moms are not narcissists; this label is overused. Therapy should be a tool for healing, not a weapon. Mothers are human beings with their own struggles. Children often overlook their mothers' sacrifices. Forgiveness can be a personal choice, independent of apologies. Healing requires empathy for both oneself and others. Setting boundaries doesn't mean being cruel or judgmental. A good mother often goes unnoticed in her efforts. Self-reflection is crucial when feeling triggered. Healing should not lead to selfishness or heartlessness. KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Join my Patreon for exclusives THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!

Feb 25

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, I am going to address some of the complex challenges parents face in today's world, particularly regarding respect and communication with their adult children, how keeping parents from grandkids is a form of punishment and what parents are really going through. As I read through a series of listener emails and direct messages, I will share my insight and advice on navigating issues of estrangement, disrespect, and the emotional toll of parenting. This conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive environments for parents and recognizing the generational differences that impact family dynamics. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parental Challenges 02:49 Navigating Disrespect in Parent-Child Relationships 05:44 The Dynamics of Marriage and Parenting 08:15 Addressing Estrangement and Guilt 10:47 Creating a Safe Space for Parents 13:21 The Impact of Abuse on Parent-Child Relationships 16:23 Understanding Generational Differences in Parenting 19:04 The Role of Grandchildren in Family Dynamics 21:42 Empowerment and Support for Parents 24:58 Concluding Thoughts on Parental Relationships 32:13 _MTT- OUTRO video.mp4 KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Fanbase: @MumsTrueTea Join my Patreon for exclusives THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME!

Feb 11

Summary Join me and my guest Promise Israel as we discuss the current climate of parents navigating the evolving relationship dynamics with their adult children and why there seems to be a phenomenon of adult children now despising their parents. The conversation delves into the no contact phenomenon, accountability in parent-child relationships, and the overuse of the term narcissism in family dynamics. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of parenting, control, and the dynamics of family relationships. They discuss the balance between guiding children and allowing them freedom, the impact of gentle parenting, and the importance of accountability in family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the significance of self-reflection, healing, and the role of therapy in personal growth. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for open communication and understanding between generations to foster healthier relationships. Chapters 00:00 Celebrating One Year of Mom's True Tea 02:14 Introducing Promise Israel: A Fresh Perspective 04:25 The Parent-Child Dynamic: A Shift in Relationships 07:55 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact 10:28 The Role of Accountability in Parent-Child Relationships 11:36 Cultural Influences on Family Dynamics 12:45 The Importance of Empathy in Healing 14:51 Personal Stories: Navigating Relationships with Parents 16:20 The Journey of Healing and Understanding 21:31 Survival Mode of Single Mothers 23:04 The No Contact Phenomenon 24:55 The Pain of Estrangement 26:33 Parental Accountability: What Does It Mean? 28:14 The Misuse of Narcissism 29:44 The Impact of External Influences 31:29 Understanding Manipulation in Parenting 34:14 Self-Accountability vs. Parental Blame 36:49 The Consequences of Gentle Parenting 38:53 Healing and Self-Love 41:06 Advocating for Parental Respect 41:54 Understanding Agape Love 42:23 The Journey to Spiritual Awakening 43:35 Turning Points in Life 44:59 The Weight of Expectations 46:44 Breaking Generational Cycles 48:28 The Importance of Therapy 50:54 Finding Truth in Healing 52:11 Self-Reflection and Change 53:26 Bridging the Gap Between Generations 🔗 Stay Connected With Me. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mumstruetea?lang=en Website: http://mumstruetea.com/ 📩 For business inquiries and appointments: info@mumstruetea.com =============================

Feb 1

Summary In this conversation, I discuss the emotional burdens that mothers carry due to their children's choices, emphasizing the importance of shedding these burdens to achieve personal freedom and peace. I highlight some of the struggles of parenting, particularly in the face of addiction and legal troubles, rebellion, and advocate for authenticity and setting boundaries as essential steps for mothers to protect their mental health. The conversation encourages mothers to learn to let go, stop trying to control the situations their children put themselves in, seek support, be honest about their feelings, and prioritize their well-being while allowing their children to face the consequences of their actions. Takeaways We need to let go of the weight of our children's choices. Rescuing our kids often stems from our own pride. Watching a child struggle is gut-wrenching and heartbreaking. Shame thrives in silence; sharing our struggles is powerful. Authenticity brings freedom and connection. Allowing children to face consequences is crucial for their growth. Setting boundaries is an act of love for both parent and child. You cannot pour from an empty cup; prioritize your well-being. Emotional weight can be just as burdensome as physical weight. Choosing peace is essential for a fulfilling life. Chapters 00:00 Shedding Emotional Burdens 06:34 The Struggles of Parenting and Authenticity 12:10 Setting Boundaries for Freedom KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Fanbase: @MumsTrueTea Join my Patreon for exclusives THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME!

Jan 11

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, I dive into the the controversial topic of 'no contact' trend that's impacting relationships between parents and their adult children. I discuss the double standard that exists in these dynamics, the influence of social media and therapy culture, and the importance of setting boundaries for mental health. Through personal anecdotes and observations, I am heavy on emphasizing the need for open conversations about the complexities of parent-child relationships and the societal pressures that often lead to misunderstandings and judgments. Chapters 00:00 Introduction "I Choose Peace over Disrespect" 02:54 The Double Standard of No Contact 05:46 The Impact of Social Media and Therapy 08:28 Boundaries and Parental Peace 10:43 The Trend of No Contact in Families 13:18 The Role of Respect in Parent-Child Relationships 15:55 Navigating Toxic Relationships 18:58 Judgment and Misunderstanding of Parents 21:27 The Importance of Sharing Parental Experiences 23:51 Conclusion: Choosing Peace Over Proximity KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Nov 25, 2024

Join me as I discuss the emotional and psychological toll on Black women following the recent election results and how we need to Opt-Out of saving everyone else and heal from savior syndrome. We need to work hard at unraveling the encoding in our DNA that has made us the nurturers of others, learn to prioritize self-care, our mental well-being, and healing over the societal expectation to be saviors. The conversation explores the historical context of Black women's roles as caregivers and nurturers, the burden of resilience, and the importance of setting boundaries to protect mental health. Chapters 00:00 Opting Out of the Savior Role 10:06 The Burden of Strength and Resilience 19:45 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care Takeaways We are opting out of being the savior. Black women are often expected to be strong and resilient, which dismisses their struggles. The recent election results have led to feelings of hopelessness among Black women. Self-care is not just about pampering; it's about true emotional and mental well-being. Black women are dying at alarming rates due to stress and neglect of self-care. Setting boundaries is essential for mental health and well-being. The historical context of Black women's roles impacts their current mental health. It's important to recognize who supports us in our lives. We need to stop making excuses for those who don't show up for us. Prioritizing ourselves is not selfish; it's necessary. KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO

Nov 7, 2024

Summary In this conversation, I discuss the painful and often overlooked issue of parental alienation, which occurs when one parent manipulates their child against the other parent after a breakup or divorce. I share examples of what parental alienation looks like and share some of my personal experiences with this dynamic, highlighting the emotional toll it takes on both the alienated parent and the child. The conversation emphasizes the importance of healing, accountability, and the need for children to have a safe space to process their emotions without being influenced by either parent. Ultimately, it calls for parents to prioritize their children's wellbeing over their own grievances. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Parental Alienation 04:24 The Impact of Alienation on Children 08:29 The Role of Both Parents in Alienation 12:20 Healing and Moving Forward 15:10 Finding Support and Community KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Oct 17, 2024

Summary Join me in this conversation as I discuss the complexities and challenges of single motherhood, emphasizing that many women find themselves in this role unexpectedly and without choice. Listen to me discuss the emotional toll, societal judgment, and the resilience required to navigate this journey as a single mom. This a conversation that aims to foster empathy and understanding for single mothers, encouraging support from those who may not fully grasp the struggles involved. Chapters 00:00 The Unexpected Journey to Single Motherhood 03:21 The Emotional Toll of Single Motherhood 07:59 Resilience and Strength in Adversity 12:43 Judgment and Misunderstanding of Single Mothers 15:34 Empathy and Support for Single Moms KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Oct 3, 2024

Summary October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and In this episode I discuss the often-overlooked topic of parental abuse with my guest Alice Slaughter-Flowers who lost her sister Rosemary Pate to violence at the hands of her own son. Join me as we explore the realities of parents living in fear of their own children, living under constant mental distress because of their children, being abused verbally and physcially and even killed by their own children. We will discuss the cultural stigma surrounding this issue, the blame and judgement that mothers often face when trying to share their experiences, and the diverse factors that contribute to such dynamics. The conversation highlights the need for awareness, support, and resources for parents facing abuse, emphasizing that this is a serious issue that transcends socioeconomic status and family structure. If you are in need of help please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1*800*799*SAFE Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parental Abuse 01:50 The Reality of Parental Abuse 06:10 Cultural Perspectives on Abuse 12:10 The Role of Mental Health 18:16 The Stigma of Seeking Help 24:53 Understanding Parental Abuse Dynamics 30:42 Personal Stories of Abuse 36:32 The Need for Support and Resources SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ YOU CAN FOLLOW ME ON ALL PLATFORMS: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@MumsTrueTea THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Sep 18, 2024

Don't be mad sis. Hear me out in this candid episode, as I dive into the complex dynamics that arise when mothers treat their sons like emotional partners or even stand-in husbands. With heartfelt insight and a dash of real talk, I touch on how these blurred lines can hinder a son's emotional growth and create unhealthy co-dependency. Tune in as I discuss the importance of self-awareness for moms, the need for clear boundaries, and how both mothers and sons can work towards fostering independence and building healthier relationships for the future and for their mental well-being. KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Thank you for tuning in!

Sep 5, 2024

In this eye-opening episode of Mum's True Tea , I dive deep into the emotional toll that motherhood can take on mental health, including how it can lead to PTSD. I explore the backlash I received for speaking this truth, especially as a single mom. Society often paints motherhood as a joyful experience, but for many, it's far from the truth. Single moms face intense financial, emotional, and physical burdens, often with little to no support from partners, family, or their community. We discuss the harsh realities of absent fathers and the lack of understanding from those who fail to recognize the struggles single moms endure. Plus, why men who despise single moms often have unresolved issues of their own. Let's shed light on these tough truths and call for the support and empathy single mothers deserve. Chapters 00:00 The Disdain and Lack of Support for Single Moms 06:02 The Sole Responsibility of Single Moms 10:38 The Truth About the Difficulties of Motherhood 15:26 Men Who Hate Single Moms: Unresolved Issues 18:19 The Need for Support and Understanding for Single Moms KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Aug 8, 2024

In this episode I discuss how managing motherhood is more about moving through it and learning along the way. We don't really manage mothehood, motherhood manages us. Society often silences the struggles of mothers, but it's important to have support and express our true feelings about motherhood some days. It's okay to have regrets and struggles in motherhood. To navigate motherhood, it's important to let go of mom guilt, remove codependency, and embrace imperfections. Creating space and finding a community for moms who haven't had a great experience is crucial. Social media often portrays a perfect image of motherhood, but it's important to show self-compassion and prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries, managing time, and finding a supportive tribe are key to managing motherhood. Chapters 00:00 Moving Through Motherhood: Learning Along the Way 02:30 Embracing Imperfections: Letting Go of Mom Guilt 05:09 Creating a Supportive Community 06:55 Prioritizing Self-Care: Nurturing Yourself as a Mom 08:47 Protecting Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being 11:06 Embracing Imperfection and Celebrating Wins SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Jul 25, 2024

In this episode, I discuss how some of us Gen X parents need to take accountability for how we may have gotten it wrong with our parenting and how we may have failed or enabled our children and the importance of setting boundaries with our children without feeling guilty. I reflect on the independence and resilience of the Gen X generation and how we may have done our children a disservice by trying to be friends in lieu of parents, giving them more than they needed or deserved, wanting to be so understanding and giving them so much freedom and less discipline which is in stark comparison to how we were raised by our paretns. This may have resulted in a sense of entitlement and a lack of resilience in the younger generation. We see the impacts of always being the safety net for our kids, we didn't teach them financial responsibility and there are negative consequences of enabling children. We should have been setting boundaries, because contrary to what societs says, boundaries are a loving act that promotes independence, resillence, respect, and appreciation. We made our suffering and struggles look too easy. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Gen X Parents: Failing & Enabling Our Adult Kids 02:22 The Independence and Resilience of the Gen X Generation 03:20 Enabling and the Consequences of Overextending 06:41 Creating a Sense of Entitlement 07:26 The Need to Set Boundaries and Overcoming Guilt 08:53 Being Unapologetic and Authentic in Setting Boundaries SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Jul 11, 2024

PART 2 Because of the feedback that I received, I went a little deeper on this conversation in hopes it will encourage someone. Welcome to Part 2 of this very personal Mum's True Tea w/Kendall Lasha episode as I discuss grieving the loss of an already estranged parent further and share some of the ways that I have been able to process such a loss. Come take a look and listen at some insight on navigating this form of grief and loss. ABOUT "MUM'S TRUE TEA" PODCAST: Just in case you didn't know "MUM'S TRUE TEA" is the Podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought-provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood authentically, unapologetically, and without judgment. I'm your host, Kendall Lasha Williams. I wanted to create this community and safe space for moms who don't always have that warm and fuzzy feeling we're expected to have when it comes to motherhood. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Recap of Episode One 00:52 The Complexity of Grieving an Estranged Parent 02:18 Setting Boundaries and Dealing with Guilt 03:12 Exploring Personal Experiences and Emotions 06:00 Tools for Processing the Loss: Therapy and Writing 09:47 Self-Reflection and Finding Meaning in the Experience 10:15 Healing and Moving Forward 11:14 Conclusion and Call to Action SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Jul 6, 2024

Summary On this very personal episode, I discuss the process of grieving the loss of an already estranged parent. This loss is a complex and emotional process. It is so important to allow yourself to grieve and process the emotions associated with losing a parent that was already gone from your life. It's a different pain when you have been abandoned by this parent and now they are gone. It's also important that you find healing and give yourself grace while navigating the loss of an estranged parent. They may have not been with us when we needed them, but I strongly believe they are with us now. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Processing the Loss of an Estranged Parent 01:48 The Absence of Father's Day Celebrations 05:56 Finding Comfort in the Belief of Parental Presence 07:25 Healing from the Absence and Abandonment KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Jun 21, 2024

Join me and my guest Nurse Practitioner Karin Hulon as we discuss perimenopause and menopause. We explore why there is a lack of conversation around these topics, particularly among black women, and the barriers that prevent women from seeking help and support. They also delve into the symptoms and changes that occur during perimenopause and menopause, including hormonal fluctuations, hot flashes, sleep disturbances, mood swings, weight changes, and vaginal dryness. The conversation highlights the importance of education, communication with partners and children, and finding effective treatments and support during this stage of life! You don't want to miss this grown woman conversation! Tune in and listen to episodes sharing real life experiences authentically and unapologetically! Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Lack of Conversation 04:39 Understanding Perimenopause 08:12 Symptoms and Changes in Perimenopause 26:52 Transitioning to Menopause 31:04 Importance of Education and Communication KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Jun 5, 2024

Summary This episode is a heartfelt apology and reflection on neglecting oneself and not showing self-love and appreciation. The host acknowledges the trauma, heartbreak, and pain caused by not recognizing one's worth and settling for mediocrity. They apologize for prioritizing others over oneself, staying in toxic environments, and tolerating disrespect. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-love, and embracing one's own worth and journey. Chapters 00:00 Apologizing for Neglecting Self-Love 03:13 Recognizing Worth and Stopping Settling 08:22 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Well-Being 11:22 Embracing Self-Love and Journey SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ YOU CAN FOLLOW ME ON ALL PLATFORMS: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@MumsTrueTea THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

May 16, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary In this conversation, the hosts discuss the stigma surrounding mental health in marginalized communities. They explore the misconceptions of mental illness, the impact of family beliefs and religion, and the cultural barriers faced when seeking mental health support. The guests emphasize the importance of seeking help and being open to therapy. They also discuss the challenges faced by marginalized communities in accessing mental health resources, such as lack of information and insurance coverage. The conversation highlights the need for advocacy and finding the right provider, as well as the importance of prioritizing oneself and taking accountability in the healing journey. The conversation explores the topic of mental health and therapy, discussing whether therapy has become a fad and the importance of open discussions with family and friends. The hosts share their personal experiences with trauma and the challenges of parenting. They also provide resources and support networks for individuals seeking mental health assistance. The conversation concludes with a reminder to prioritize self-care and seek help on one's personal journey towards healing. Chapters 00:00 Breaking the Stigma: Mental Health in Marginalized Communities 03:59 The Impact of Family Beliefs and Religion on Mental Health 09:26 Challenges Faced by Marginalized Communities in Accessing Mental Health Resources 14:06 Advocating for Yourself: Finding the Right Provider 25:47 The Trend of Therapy and Mental Health Awareness 29:04 Developing New Habits on the Healing Journey 29:29 Open Discussions and Seeking Validation 35:39 Resources and Support Networks for Mental Health Assistance 37:07 Signs that Therapy is Working 38:13 The Weaponization of Therapy 40:05 Personal Experiences with Trauma and Mental Health 41:43 Parenting and Prioritizing Self-Care 45:44 Resources for Mental Health Assistance 49:51 Prioritizing Self-Care and Personal Healing

May 2, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary This episode explores the concept of finding grace for our parents. The host reflects on her own experiences with her estranged father and her relationship with her mother. She discusses the difference between forgiveness and grace, emphasizing the importance of understanding our parents as individuals and recognizing the challenges they faced. The host shares her journey of finding compassion, empathy, and forgiveness for her parents, and encourages listeners to do the same. The episode concludes with a reminder that finding grace for our parents is a personal journey that leads to healing. Takeaways Finding grace for our parents involves understanding them as individuals and recognizing the challenges they faced. Grace is different from forgiveness, as it extends kindness and compassion despite past actions. By finding grace for our parents, we can foster empathy, eliminate judgment, and pave the way for healing and reconciliation. Compassion and empathy create the opportunity to give grace and embrace imperfections, leading to true healing. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Reflecting on the 10-year anniversary of the host's father's passing 05:38 Eliminating Judgment and Fostering Empathy 12:16 Reflecting on the Host's Mother 16:31 Giving Grace and Paving the Way to Healing

Apr 18, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, hosted by Kendall Lasha Williams, the topic of forced forgiveness is explored, particularly its toxic implications in family and societal contexts. Kendall challenges the common belief that forgiveness is a miracle cure for the wronged, arguing instead that it perpetuates cycles of harm and prevents genuine healing. The discussion delves into the pressures mothers face to forgive their children for toxic behavior, examining the unfair expectations and societal norms that invalidate their experiences and feelings. Through personal anecdotes and broader examples, Kendall critiques the idea of forgiveness as an obligatory moral exercise, advocating for freedom and self-care over forced reconciliation. The episode calls for a reevaluation of how forgiveness is approached, emphasizing the importance of supporting victims and allowing individuals to process forgiveness in their own time. Chapters 00:00 Welcome to Mum's True Tea Podcast 00:19 The Toxicity of Forced Forgiveness 03:54 The Unfair Expectations on Mothers 06:38 The Cycle of Toxic Forgiveness in Families 08:55 Finding Freedom Over Forgiveness 12:02 Steps Towards Genuine Forgiveness 14:40 Closing Thoughts and Resources Takeaways Forced forgiveness can perpetuate toxic cycles and hinder genuine healing. Mothers should not be expected to forgive their children regardless of the harm caused. Forgiveness should be on one's own time and not forced or rushed. Setting boundaries and finding true resolution are important before forgiving. Each person's journey to forgiveness is personal and should not be dictated by others.

Apr 4, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary In this episode, Kendall Lasha discusses the impact of motherhood on mental health and wellbeing with licensed clinical social worker Anitra Walker. They explore topics such as postpartum depression, signs of struggling mental wellbeing, PTSD, personal experiences, the myth of joy in motherhood, the effects of stress, the impact of structural racism, isolation and distress, self-care strategies, and advice for struggling moms. Takeaways Postpartum depression is a common mental health issue that affects many new mothers, and it is important to seek help and support. Signs of struggling mental wellbeing include somatic complaints, such as headaches and stomachaches, as well as symptoms of depression and anxiety. PTSD can be a symptom of traumatic events experienced during motherhood, and it is important to address and seek help for these symptoms. Motherhood is not always a joyous experience, and it is important for moms to prioritize their mental health and practice self-care. Creating a social network of supportive friends and family, setting boundaries, and seeking professional help are important strategies for moms struggling with their mental health. Chapters 00:00 Introduction of Guest 03:09 Postpartum Depression and Mental Health 06:21 Signs of Struggling Mental Wellbeing 09:13 PTSD and Mental Health 12:31 Personal Experiences and Effects on Mental Health 14:24 The Myth of Joy in Motherhood 20:00 Effects of Stress on Mental Health 23:19 The Impact of Structural Racism 24:19 Isolation and Distress in Motherhood 28:07 Self-Care Strategies 32:55 Additional Advice for Struggling Moms 39:29 Conclusion and Encouragement

Mar 14, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary This conversation explores the topic of abandonment and how it can affect our parenting and navigating adult relationships. It discusses the ways in which unresolved abandonment issues can show up in our lives and provides steps towards healing. Takeaways Parenting from a place of abandonment can manifest as fear of rejection, detachment, and overcompensation. Unresolved abandonment issues can impact our adult lives, leading to attachment issues, detachment, perfectionism, and toxic relationships. Steps towards healing from abandonment include getting to the root of the abandonment, seeking therapy, being honest about experiences, giving oneself grace, and focusing on healthy relationships. Healing from abandonment is a journey that requires patience, self-love, and the recognition that departures can be necessary for protection and redirection. Chapters 00:00 Parenting from a Place of Abandonment 03:08 Unresolved Abandonment Issues in Adult Lives 08:44 Steps Towards Healing from Abandonment 13:01 The Journey of Healing from Abandonment

Feb 29, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary In this episode, Kendall Lasha Williams has a heart-to-heart conversation with her son Dravius about his journey of coming out. They discuss the realization and acceptance of his sexual orientation, the impact on relationships and friendships, and the importance of having a support system. Kendall shares her perspective as a mother and how she initially reacted to her son's coming out. They also talk about the need for open and honest conversations and the importance of staying true to oneself. This conversation explores the challenges and experiences of acceptance within the gay culture. It delves into the concept of gay houses and the toxic dynamics that can exist within the gay community. The conversation also touches on the struggles faced in religious contexts and the importance of protection and support. The impact on mental health and the need for self-acceptance are discussed, along with the importance of dispelling myths and stereotypes. The chapter concludes with a call for creating a loving and inclusive environment for LGBTQ+ individuals and support. Takeaways Coming out is a personal journey of self-realization and acceptance. Having a supportive and understanding family is crucial for LGBTQ+ individuals. Friendships and relationships may be impacted by coming out, but true friends will accept and support you. Open and honest conversations about sexuality and identity are essential for fostering understanding and acceptance. Acceptance within the gay culture can be complex and influenced by factors such as appearance and societal norms. Toxic dynamics can exist within the gay community, perpetuating rejection and judgment. Religious perspectives can create guilt and conflict for LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. Seeking therapy and support can be crucial for mental health and navigating the challenges of acceptance for both the child and the parent. Dispelling myths and stereotypes is important for understanding and embracing individuality. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:22 Realization and Acceptance of Sexual Orientation 06:14 Mother's Perspective on Coming Out 11:14 Impact on Relationships and Friendships 16:18 Support System and Confiding in Friends 23:08 Further Conversation and Support 24:32 Acceptance in the Gay Culture 25:35 The Concept of Gay Houses 26:04 Struggles with Acceptance 27:32 Toxicity in the Gay Culture 28:18 The Importance of Protection 29:17 Religious Perspectives and Guilt 30:15 Dispelling Myths and Stereotypes 31:09 Impact on Mental Health 32:31 Generational Impact 33:01 The Importance of Being Free 34:00 Challenges with Changing Sexual Orientation 36:26 Breaking Free from Bondage 38:16 Acceptance and Self-Acceptance 39:12 Educating Ourselves and Dispelling Stereotypes 43:03 Impact on Mental Health and Seeking Help 48:03 Encouraging Acceptance and Support

Feb 23, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Summary: In this episode, Kendall Lasha Williams challenges societal beliefs and expectations about motherhood and dives deep into the challenges that some mothers face. She creates a safe space for honest conversations about the highs and lows of motherhood, acknowledging the unsung struggles and sacrifices that are often not discussed. Kendall emphasizes the thankless job of motherhood and the reality that many women face, including the challenges and traumas that come with being a mother. She also addresses the expectation of perfection and the myth of motherhood as a great investment. Kendall provides tips for navigating motherhood and encourages listeners to embrace the multifaceted nature of the journey. Takeaways Motherhood is not always joyful and can come with many challenges and sacrifices. There is a need for a safe space to have honest conversations about the highs and lows of motherhood. The expectation of perfection in motherhood is unfair and sets unattainable standards. It is important to prioritize self-care, set boundaries, and protect your peace as a mother. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Episode 01:19 Creating a Safe Space for Honest Conversations 03:04 The Thankless Job of Motherhood 04:03 The Reality of Motherhood 05:00 The Challenges and Traumas of Motherhood 07:49 The Expectation of Perfection 09:15 The Myth of Motherhood as a Great Investment 10:39 Challenging the Myths about Motherhood 11:36 Tips for Navigating Motherhood 14:01 Embracing the Multifaceted Nature of Motherhood 14:56 Conclusion and Call to Action

Feb 2, 2024

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams LET'S CONNECT ON IG Connect with Me: Youtube Meet Kendall, a mother and a truth teller who is creating a space for fellow mothers to share and learn about all the complexities of motherhood. Often mums are expected to put on a happy face and speak about the joys of motherhood, but keep quiet about the many challenges, physical, mental and emotional. This leads to many women feeling isolated as they have no community to give advice and share the burdens they are under. Kendall is here to change that. She and her future guests will share not only the joys and passions, but talk about the darker sides of being a mother, so that those suffering in silence will not feel so alone.