BDSM with The Kink Shop: How to Choose Kink Tools, Play Safely, and Understand Sensation | Kink Series

In this episode, we explore the foundations of BDSM—including bondage, impact play, electroplay, wax play, and sensation play—with Ben, a kink educator and experienced representative of The Kink Shop. With years of hands-on experience at nationwide kink events, Ben offers practical guidance on choosing the right BDSM tools, playing safely, and understanding the sensory differences between thud, sting, electricity, and temperature play. Listeners will discover the essentials of safe toy use, negotiation, consent, and hygiene—plus insights into The Kink Shop’s handcrafted designs, leather quality, beginner-friendly tools, and ergonomic impact toys. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to deepen your skills, this episode delivers approachable, accurate, and sex-positive kink education. BDSM Foundations What BDSM stands for: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism Psychological and emotional dynamics within power exchange Negotiation, communication, and informed consent Impact Play Essentials Thud vs sting: how sensations differ and who they suit How leather type changes feel: suede, chap, bison, moose, mule deer Beginner-friendly toys: bunny floggers, boa floggers Finger-loop floggers & why they reduce joint strain for tops Sensation Play Tools Leather & conductive claw gloves Scratch mitts Mop-in-a-Pocket toy Vegan impact tool options Electroplay & the Violet Wand How a violet wand works Sensation range: light tingles to intense stimulation Combining electroplay with other kink tools Essential violet-wand safety practices Wax Play Safety Skin-safe wax types vs dangerous household candles Heat management techniques Distance & layering for sensation control Toy Hygiene & Care Cleaning leather, rubber, and electroplay tools Avoiding cross-contamination in shared scenes Long-term storage tips for handcrafted toys Connect with Ben (The Kink Shop) Website: www.thekinkshop.com FetLife: @thekinkshop_Ben Mentioned Resources Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing → shamelesscare.com Please Me Podcast Patreon — Extended episodes & bonus content → patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Connect With Eve Hall Website: pleaseme.online Social Media Links: pleaseme.online/contacts Substack: pleaseme.substack.com Patreon: patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Me! Podcast Want to be a guest on Please Me! Podcast with Eve? Send Eve Hall a message on PodMatch: → podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast World Vision Donate to Philippines Relief Support survivors of typhoons and earthquakes: → worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices