Ep. 83: How to Change People Pleasing Behavior

People pleasing is different from cooperation. People pleasing is different from cooperation. Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerance People Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship. People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated. If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrain I also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.” I call this “trickster” behavior. Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/PeoplePleasing I would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens. All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/Durango Register by December 19 for $75 off! Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)