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If you've ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don't even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage & family therapist Trevor ( Art of Healing by Trevor ) explains why so many couples get stuck in cycles of pursuit, shutdown, anxiety, and disconnection — and the emotional transformation required to break free. This conversation is raw, restorative, and deeply practical. In this episode you'll learn: Why fear of abandonment and "I'm not enough" beliefs show up in marriage The two classic patterns: people-pleasing pursuer + shut-down withdrawer How emotional safety outside the bedroom changes intimacy inside it How to work with your inner child to create real healing A step-by-step framework for emotional transformation How secure partners show up differently in sex, connection, and conflict Why awareness alone isn't enough — and what actually creates change Guest Links Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor Website: theartofhealingbytrevor.com Resources and Events Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist !) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026 Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Dec 12

What if one photo session could shift the way you see your body and the way you show up in your marriage? Today's guest, Lindsey of Beloved by Lindsey , is a boudoir photographer who helps women confront insecurities, dismantle shame, and increase their confidence, spirituality, and body image. In this episode you'll learn: How a conservative Southern Baptist girl unexpectedly became a boudoir photographer Why boudoir isn't vain or pornographic The transformation women experience when they finally see what their spouse sees How increasing self-confidence affects your marriage What happens in a boudoir session How to break the generational negative self-talk cycle A powerful technique for body-neutrality and self-acceptance Tips for husbands who want to suggest boudoir to their wives Lindsey's "black belt sex tip" for deeper intimacy and better communication* We're so excited to have Lindsey join us on our upcoming cruise as our in-house (in-boat?) boudoir photographer! It's optional, but included in the total price of your cruise. You get to take away a fabulous momento from your sexy and intimate getaway! Apply to join us: https://getyourmarriageon.com/cruise/ *If you'd like some questions to ask your spouse (like Lindsey's tip), check out this post with 29 spicy questions ! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Dec 5

Can "being good" actually get in the way of good sex? If you have spent your life "trying to be good," but still struggle to create a deep intimate connection with your spouse, you're not alone. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond "good-boy/good-girl syndrome" and into the inherent goodness God designed in sexuality. If you grew up believing that sexual thoughts or desires were dangerous, shameful, or spiritually risky, this episode will help you see your sexuality through an entirely new lens—one grounded in joy, creativity, emotional connection, and spiritual maturity. You'll learn: Why chastity and fidelity aren't restrictions—they're keys to true sexual freedom How your motivation for sex changes when obligation is removed Why the "dirty" parts of sex might be the very things that sanctify your marriage How embracing paradox and playfulness makes intimacy deeper and more meaningful This is an episode for every couple longing to move from anxiety-driven sex to soul-expanding intimacy. Resources and Events: Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist !) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026 Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!

Nov 28

Purchasing and wearing lingerie can often be surrounded by comparison, insecurity, and pressure, but it doesn't have to be! In this episode, Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace shares how fabrics, colors, mindset, and small daily practices can help women feel genuinely beautiful and confident in their own skin. Whether you're brand-new to lingerie or wanting to rekindle confidence in your marriage, this episode offers practical, uplifting guidance rooted in self-worth and connection. In this episode, we cover: How comparison keeps women (and men) stuck The way different fabrics influence how you feel and why that matters in intimacy How to discover your color season and why the right tones instantly boost confidence Why lingerie isn't "just for the wedding night" How Christian women can reclaim confidence without compromising values Lingerie shopping as a husband Melina's surprising "black belt sex tip" (hint: it involves cowboys 😉) Learn more about Dainty Lace: Website: Daintylace.com Instagram: @dainty.lace.confidence Resources and Events: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist !) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026 Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Nov 21

Most couples think intimacy is about communication or affection, but there are actually two different types of intimacy operating beneath the surface of every marriage. Chances are, you've only been using one of them… and it's the one that keeps you stuck. In this episode, we break down the difference between other-validated intimacy and self-validated intimacy, and why shifting what type you develop can change everything about how you talk, connect, and experience sex in your marriage. In this episode, we cover: What the two types of intimacy actually are Why one leads to emotional gridlock Why the other opens the door to deeper connection How validation (or lack of it) affects both emotional and sexual intimacy Real-life examples from couples who transformed their connection The spiritual root of self-validated intimacy How your emotional reactivity is shaping your marriage Five practical ways to build self-validated intimacy today If you've ever wanted deeper conversation, more ease, or a more meaningful sexual connection, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. Resources and Events: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist !) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026 Valentine's Day Weekend Virtual Retreat Men's and Women's Only Cohorts starting in January! Stand by for more information coming soon!

Nov 14

In today's episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths about desire, conflict, and emotional maturity. We explore how sexual and relational struggles aren't mistakes—they are intentional invitations to grow up, become more courageous, and see our spouse more clearly. In this episode, we cover: Why sexual struggles are built into the work of marriage How meanings—not the issue itself—drive most conflicts How to own your part in the marriage Why many husbands unconsciously hedge their investment The danger of "minimum requirement" sex What real married love is What is actually better than "being happy" in marriage If you're ready to see your marriage challenges from a whole new angle, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy and growth and the purpose of marriage. Links Mentioned: Apply for the next Get Your Marriage On! Program: getyourmarriageon.com/program Learn more about Dr. Corey Allen: SMR.fm (Sexy Marriage Radio) Events: In-Person Retreat April 2025 (We're sold out, but you can apply to get on the waitlist !) NEW Get Your Marriage On! Cruise: October 2026 Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Nov 7

Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You'll hear Dan Ockey's incredible story of turning debt, secrecy, and shame into a story of honesty, unity, and freedom — and how money challenges can actually strengthen your relationship if you face them together. In this episode: How financial habits mirror sexual habits in marriage Why secrecy and pride around money create the same distance as sexual disconnection Simple mindset shifts that restore trust and teamwork If you've ever argued about money, felt shame around spending, or struggled to get on the same page with your spouse — this episode will help you see finances not as a source of stress, but as a powerful tool for connection and intimacy. 👉 Learn more about Dan Oakey and Sensei Financial at www.centseifinance.com 👉 Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! coaching program at getyourmarriageon.com/program Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Oct 31

Welcome to Part 2 of this special series on keeping your penis — and your marriage — healthy and happy. In this follow-up episode, we the practical side of sexual health: testosterone, nutrition, porn use, sleep, and yes… penis size. (Spoiler: your wife does care about your size, but it might not be in the area that you think.) You'll learn: The truth about testosterone and how to boost it naturally The best foods for stronger erections How porn impacts sexual performance and confidence What's actually normal when it comes to size What your penis does while you sleep We hope you benefit as we throw a little humor in with the science and practical wisdom to help you stay healthy, confident, and connected for years to come. 💡 Want help creating a more fulfilling sex life with your spouse? Check out our coaching program: getyourmarriageon.com/program

Oct 31

Let's talk about one of God's most incredible and misunderstood designs — the penis. In this episode (part one of two) we dive into the fascinating science behind erections — what makes them work, what shuts them down, and what you can do to keep things running at full power. From brain chemistry to heart health, this episode will change how you think about arousal, masculinity, and pleasure in marriage. It's science, humor, and hope — all rolled into one episode that'll help you appreciate just how wonderfully (and hilariously) you're made. And don't miss part two where we tackle testosterone, penis size, and porn. This episode was inspired in part by The Penis Book by Dr. Aaron Spitz 💡 Want to improve connection and sexual confidence in your marriage? Visit getyourmarriageon.com/program

Oct 24

What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and speaker Laurie Krieg, who shares her story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, wrestling with faith, desire, trauma, and the transformation that followed. In this episode, we cover: Laurie's honest story of same-sex attraction and her decision to marry a man What it means to trust God when your marriage feels "impossible" Trauma, Jesus, and the healing process Practical ways to love your spouse through pain What Christians can do better to love and support LGBTQ+ individuals and families This episode will stretch your compassion, deepen your faith, and remind you that every marriage—no matter the struggle—can be a place of redemption and growth. Resources: 👉 Get our free training about how to get your marriage unstuck. 👉 Apply for our amazing couples retreat coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Oct 17

In this special Q&A episode, we answer five anonymous listener questions about the most common struggles couples face in their intimate lives. Topics we cover: Healthy, uplifting alternatives to pornography for erotic inspiration Why some men struggle to orgasm from oral sex — and what helps Balancing strong sexual desire with your relationship with God How to get on the same page when you and your spouse want sex differently What to do when your own sexual desire feels low or disappears If you'd like to submit your questions for a future episode, submit your anonymous question on our website or in our private Facebook gorup. Mentioned in the episode: Episode #34: Horizontal vs Vertical Novelty Spring Couples Retreat Get Your Marriage On Program

Oct 10

For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they're at odds. We've been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—but what if our sexuality is actually one of the most powerful ways to love ? In this deeply insightful episode, we talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to integrate faith, desire, and embodiment. We explore how repressing our sexuality keeps us disconnected, how true intimacy begins with self-honesty, and why learning to love through our sexuality is a profoundly spiritual act. You'll hear about: Why sexual integration , not suppression, leads to spiritual strength How ego, fear, and control distort connection—and what it means to love from the soul The difference between sex as validation vs. sex as communion How couples can cultivate that eros energy—aliveness, joy, and freedom—in their marriage Whether you've wrestled with shame around sexuality or you just want a richer, more connected relationship, this conversation will inspire you to see your body and your marriage in a whole new light. 👉 Check out Jennifer's brand new book, That We Might Have Joy. 👉 Get our free training about how to get your marriage unstuck. 👉 Apply for our amazing couples retreat coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

Oct 3

Have you every received bad marriage advice? We sure have! In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend and returning guest, Monica Tanner . She recently released her book Bad Marriage Advice , and together we unpack some of the most common (and harmful) myths about marriage and sex and what the real advice should be. If you've ever wondered whether the "wisdom" you heard before your wedding day was worth following—or if you're trying to sort through conflicting advice about sex and intimacy—this episode is for you. 👉 Plus, Monica is giving away a copy of her new book in our private Facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy . And if you're ready to take your own intimacy to the next level, applications are now open for our in-person couples retreat . Four days at a private resort, with gourmet meals, expert coaching, outdoor adventures, and life-changing breakthroughs in your sex life. Details are at getyourmarriageon.com .

Sep 26

In this episode of Get Your Marriage On! , we're diving into gridlock—the moments in marriage where no matter what you choose, it feels like you lose. These conflicts can leave you wondering if you married the right person or why your spouse can't see things your way. But conflict itself isn't the problem—how you handle it is. And since sex is often the biggest source of gridlock, it can also be the greatest opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. We'll explore a real-life example of what happens when one spouse pressures the other with their sexual fantasies, and how that cycle of placating, resentment, and withdrawal can be transformed into honest intimacy instead. By the end, you'll see how even sexual disagreements can become invitations to stretch, grow, and build a more passionate, connected marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app for more bedroom fun, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Free Training Get Your Marriage On Program Free Facebook group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

Sep 19

Ever said yes to a party you didn't feel up for—then drove home glowing because it was totally worth it? In this episode, we've invited fellow Get Your Marriage On Program coach, Tammy Camp, to use this metaphor to talk all about creating an intimate relationship both spouses want to show up for! In this episode you'll learn about . . . Spontaneous and responsive desire How to send irresistible invitations (without pressure) How to RSVP with freedom instead of obligation When a thoughtful "no" is actually wise And how to become co-planners so the bedroom feels like a party you both want to attend We cover warm-up rituals, initiation scripts, de-pressurizing the "main event," and Tammy's black-belt party-planning tips. If you're tired of duty sex or mixed signals, this is your invite to craft a party worth wanting—together. And speaking of parties, we're inviting you to one you won't want to miss! Our Anatomy of Arousal Virtual Getaway is coming up in one week--September 26-27. Take sexual intimacy in your marriage to the next level by mastering the three keys to high arousal in your marriage! Join us virtually for a refreshing, sexy , and inspiring 2-day getaway, where we do a deep dive into the anatomy of arousal in your marriage. (And if you can't make it that weekend, you will get the recordings to use on another weekendof your choosing.)

Sep 12

Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our scientific understanding of arousal and the sexual experience, including our most recent insights on how context, trust, and emotional closeness play a huge role in arousal—especially for women. We'll also explore how positive sexual experiences build on each other, creating momentum for more intimacy and joy in your relationship. By the end, you'll not only understand the science of arousal better, but you'll also walk away with ideas you can use to strengthen your connection, boost your sexual confidence, and build a marriage that feels more alive and passionate than ever! Don't miss . . . Our Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples, plus so many bonuses! Our Private Facebook Group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

Sep 5

What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn't desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why "keeping your spouse happy" quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck Common mindsets that sabotage sexual arousal Clean pain vs. dirty pain in marriage And don't miss Jody's black-belt sex tip! Sextember is on! Make September your 30-day intimacy reset inside the Intimately Us app. Plus: Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples Coming next week: Sex Seminar with 25 experts— join our email list for details Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let's get your marriage on.

Aug 29

Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here's what you'll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward masturbation Why shame and secrecy often do more harm than the act itself How sexuality and spirituality can be integrated instead of at odds A simple framework for evaluating any sexual behavior Real stories from couples who moved past guilt and found deeper intimacy Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

Aug 28

What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember —a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman's marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You'll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I'll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal —a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you're ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!

Aug 22

What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful "sexual standoff" can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I'll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple's story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You'll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer. If you've been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in Sextember, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

Aug 19

In this episode, I'll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can be so powerful in marriage, how to avoid performance pressure, and how deeper intimacy is always the foundation of great sexual experiences. Along the way, you'll hear real stories from couples who discovered squirting later in marriage and how it transformed their intimacy. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or eager to try, you'll leave this episode with practical tools, encouragement, and a fresh vision for playfulness in your marriage. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out the Intimately Us app for illustrated, step-by-step guides and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

Aug 15

Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from building anticipation with the 9 to 1 pattern, to eye contact magic, to positions and angles that hit just right. These aren't beginner basics—they're for couples who already enjoy intimacy but want fresh inspiration to make it even better. You'll also learn the 4 biggest mistakes to avoid and why "good enough" sex might be the secret to long-term happiness. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Program

Aug 12

Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful. Now, the beautiful thing about oral sex is that it's inherently intimate. You're giving your complete attention and focus to your spouse. There's something vulnerable and connecting about the very act itself. So learning how to genuinely enjoy it - not just on the receiving end, but actually on the giving end - can be an incredible gift to your marriage. I'm excited to bring this topic to you today because this is actually a conversation I recorded a few years ago that's been sitting in the archives. I don't think many of you have heard it, and honestly, the underlying principle is too powerful not to share again. Here's the thing - this isn't just about technique tips for better oral sex, though we'll cover some of that. It's so much deeper. It's about a complete attitude shift and reframe that can transform this part of your intimate life together. If you're ready to think differently about giving and receiving in the bedroom, you won't want to miss this conversation. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

Aug 8

What's the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we're talking about how to bring your whole self —your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse. You'll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we'll explore what it means to move from mechanical, eyes-closed sex to something deeper and richer: emotional presence, vulnerability, and connection. If you've ever felt alone after sex… if your body is there but your heart feels miles away… this episode is for you. You'll learn what "eyes open sex" looks like in real life, why we sometimes hide from true intimacy, and how small, intentional shifts can lead to transformational closeness in your marriage. Whether you're looking to reignite connection or take your intimacy to the next level, this episode is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and hope. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

Aug 1

If you're a woman who's never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you've experienced really counts—this episode is for you. I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We'll talk about: Why orgasm is a skill you can learn (you're not defective!) The importance of creating the right environment How psychological, relational, or spiritual blocks might be getting in the way Why self-exploration and vibrators are powerful, shame-free tools What supportive husbands can do to truly help (and what not to do) I've worked with many women who felt hopeless and stuck, and I've seen time and time again that healing, pleasure, and confidence are possible. You don't have to figure this out on your own. You have permission to want this. You have permission to grow. And you are so worth the effort. 🎉 Exciting news! 👉 Our next round of Women's and Men's Only Small Coaching Groups kicks off September 2. 👉 Our brand-new Virtual Intimacy Getaway is happening September 26–27. 👉 You can also watch my free masterclass to learn how hundreds of couples are overcoming their barriers and finding joy in their sexual relationship. Head to GetYourMarriageOn.com for all these and more. Other Related Resources 252: Cunnlingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down on His Wife 239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley

Jul 25

What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone. Here's what we'll cover together: • The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy. Let's dive in. 👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group . And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.

Jul 22

Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consider all the benefits of using quality lube for enhanced pleasure and intimacy. While there are many different kinds to choose from, in this episode I'm excited to introduce you to a new and innovative lubricant that I've been personally using and loving - and I want to share it with you! I'm bringing on Justin and Natalie, the inventors of Evree , for what I'm calling a "quickie episode." This is just for fun because I genuinely believe in their product and want you to learn about it too. Check it out at https://evreesensation.com/ and use code INTIMATELY for 10% off! You might discover a thing or two about quality lubricant and intimate massage cream that can take your marriage to new heights of pleasure and connection! Whether you're new to using lube or looking to upgrade your current routine, this conversation will give you practical insights into choosing products that truly enhance intimacy in your marriage. If you're looking for other ways to enhance intimacy in your marriage, check out the Intimately Us app for fun bedroom games or our FREE CLASS if you're trying to figure out how to overcome differences in desire.

Jul 18

Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, and fun tips to help husbands confidently and lovingly master cunnilingus. You'll learn what works, what to avoid, and how to create unforgettable, connected experiences in the bedroom. Whether you're new to this or want to up your game, this episode is for you. 👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group . And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.

Jul 15

We're diving into a topic that's often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm. In this episode, we'll cover the following: The anatomy and sensitivity of the frenulum How this kind of orgasm compares to the female clitoral orgasm Positions and techniques to try together Why it helps build patience, mindfulness, and emotional closeness And how to make this a fun, low-pressure experience that builds trust Whether this is totally new to you or you're just curious, this episode offers a gentle, practical guide to trying something new with your spouse that just might unlock a whole new level of intimacy. ✨ Plus: If you're struggling with mismatched sex drives or want help growing your sexual connection, check out our free class!

Jul 11

Let's face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That's when it seems like there's no win-win—only one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like it's either his way or her way, with no middle ground in sight. In this episode, you'll discover 10 practical steps for having meaningful conversations about the tough stuff—so you can move forward together and build a deeper, more connected relationship. And if one of the challenges you're facing is a mismatch in sex drives, be sure to check out our FREE class . You'll walk away with real solutions you can start using today—no therapy required.

Jul 4

Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it. And by the end, you'll know this simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship from a frustrating game of chase into one of genuine connection and intimacy. A quick note: I want to try something a little different this summer. We are still publishing episodes every Friday, but once in a while I might drop an extra episode in the middle of the week and sometimes they will be a little shorter. (We'll call them quickie episodes! How fitting, right?!) They're intended to be short, easy, and fun to listen to and teach a principle that you can apply right away in your own intimate relationship to make it better. And this episode you're listening to is one of our quickie episodes. I hope you enjoy it! Check out Intimately Us or the Get Your Marriage On Program to help transform your relationship!

Jun 27

Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality. I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male sexuality on Tanya Hale's podcast, she's given me permission to share that with you here on my podcast. So on this episode, we debunk a lot myths we have around understanding male sexuality and paint a more optimistic and uplifting view of what male sexuality is and the blessing it can be to a marriage. We explore how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships (Don't miss out on part 2 where we talk about how sometimes validation drives sexual desire, obligation sex, penis vulnerability, and what it means to create a truly equal and safe sexual space in marriage. ) Next steps . . . Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group . Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jun 27

Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Tanya Hale! We talk about the pressure men feel around performance, why their penis can be such a vulnerable topic, and how couples can build a sexual relationship that's validating fun and deeply connecting, especially as bodies and marriages evolve over time. (If you missed part 1, we explored how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships.) Next steps . . . Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group . Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jun 20

Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder! In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, even regressive (meaning you kind of get a little dumber and a lot happier when you're aroused). And we discuss why the best sex often begins with an awareness and emotional presence. In part two, we'll be diving back into this conversation. You'll get to hear about how to put all these pieces in real life, specifically about his two-step framework and, simmering, which we'll talk about. You'll hear stories from couples, who have put these actions into practice and we'll unpack how to deal with desire discrepancies in your marriage. Lastly, we'll figure out how to break free from performance pressure and how to make love worth having in what Dr. Steven Snyder calls lazy sex or simmering. And of course, don't forget to check out Part 1! *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from our coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group . Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jun 20

When it comes to sexual arousal, many of us reach for that excited, giddy, sometimes silly, sometimes serious, joyful, fulfilling feelings in the company of someone else that matters so much to us. And how do you create a marriage relationship where there's room for two people to have a voice? And how do you create a sexual relationship where both people are excited and happy to be a part of it? Today's guest is Dr. Steven Snyder. He is a sex therapist from New York City, and the author of the book Love Worth Making , which I highly enjoyed. And I feel priviledged to host him on this podcast. Here's what you'll learn in the episode: Why the sexual feelings we crave matter to you A two-step approach to finding it easier to connect to sexual motivation What "lazy sex" is and how you could put it to action in your own life, especially if you're busy The importance of this concept called "simmering" to foster desire The surprising difference between giving and taking pleasure Note that this is a part one, so don't miss out on part two (available now!) *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from our coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group . Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jun 13

Let's be honest. Sexual fantasy is a weird part of being human. In this episode with my guest and fellow Get Your Marriage On coach, Amy Langford , we tackle real listener questions about sexual fantasy in marriage — the kind that stir up curiosity, shame, arousal, and everything in between. What does it mean when you're turned on by something that goes against your values? What if your spouse says they don't have any fantasies? Is it wrong to mentally engage with fiction or past experiences during sex? We talk about meanings in fantasies, how you can talk about them, and how you can use them for the good of your marriage. Whether you're feeling confused, conflicted, or just curious, this episode is for you. *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from mysef, Amy or our other coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group .

Jun 4

One pattern I've noticed about couples with great sex lives over the years is that they make time to be emotionally connected and make room for romance and fun in their marriage. A date night is a great way to do that and to make it easy, I've brought on a guest from The Dating Divas . This website has tons of the ideas for married couples to keep dating in their marriages, and today we're talking about seven sexy ideas for date nights for the summer. (And we even have a cheat sheet for you to access all the dates we talk about in this episode!) *** We hope you're enjoying the International Lovemaking Day Challenge on the Intimately Us app! You have until June 9 to complete challenges and be eligible for prizes! AND don't forget that you can enjoy the premium version of Intimately Us for FREE on June 9 and 10 in honor of Intimately Us's birthday!

May 30

Are there lessons we can learn from those that have gone through marital infidelity and use those lessons to improve our marriages today? I personally haven't dealt with this, but I know of many people that have just experienced the great heartache and the trouble that's come through infidelity in their marriage. So today I sat down with a longtime friend of mine and fellow marriage coach, Andrea Giles . She's experienced firsthand the heartbreaking reality of infidelity in marriage in her first marriage years ago. But she's come through it today able to help thousands of women work through the challenges associated with infidelity, as well as teaching many others how to affair-proof their marriages. Today you'll hear her emphasize the importance of prioritizing truth over peace, being honest with oneself, and creating a relationship where both partners can thrive fully. *** Don't miss out on our upcoming International Lovemaking Day challenge! Join this 9-day challenge to improve intimacy, connection, and fun in your marriage (and maybe even win a prize). All the details are in the Intimately Us app . The fun starts Sunday, June 1! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 23

One thing I've noticed about higher desire wives: they feel so lonely. They think they're the only wife on the plane that has the higher desire for sex. They often talk about how they hear about their other lady friends complain about how their husbands are always pursuing them and wanting to have sex with them and how they're tired of that. And the higher desire wives themselves think, "If only my husband pursued me that way....Is something wrong with me? Did I marry the wrong person?" My great friend J. Parker join us on the episode today. She is the author of the blog Hot, Holy, Humorous and a new book called The Higher Desire Wife . She and I will be discussing these concerns and others expressed by a group of higher desire wives in our private Facebook group . So if you're the wife that's higher desire in your marriage, I just want to say you're very welcome here. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. And of course, we're gonna do a deep dive on and hopefully answer some of the questions you might in this episode. News and Resources We have a fun challenge coming up in June on the Intimately Us app --you won't want to miss the chance to earn prizes and get upgraded to the prime membership for free for a few days. So download the app to get ready today. Our men's and women's groups are in full swing and so are closed now, but feel free to get on the waiting list for our next cohort or check out the full program at getyourmarriageon.com/program/ Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 16

In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotionally overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex. why women fake orgasms enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples exploring role play in relationships, and most importantly, keeping the erotic energy alive and long-term marriage relationships. I was a guest on a podcast titled From Mrs to Ms with Andrea . This was a fun, unscripted conversation and with her permission, I'm sharing a portion of that conversation with you today. We need your input! In a few weeks, I'll be doing another question and answer episode specifically on the topic of sexual fantasies as it relates to Christian couples and long-term marriages. And if you have a question you'd like me to prepare for that episode, please reach out to me on Instagram via direct message or send me an email ( getyourmarriageon@gmail.com ). I'd love to answer it on an upcoming episode. As always, if you and your spouse are looking to take intimacy in your marriage to the next level, check out my Get Your Marriage on Program, or contact me or my team about private coaching opportunities. I'm here for you to help you and your marriage grow stronger and closer and have a lot more fun together intimately. Lastly June 9th (that's 6/9 on a calendar) is a special day! It's the birthday of the Intimately Us app . It also International Love Making Day, and we want to celebrate with you with a fun challenge June 1-9! Download the Intimately Us app for all the info. We're going to have a challenge starting on June 1st, leading up to the ninth. And we have a lot of special prizes and lots of fun for you and your spouse. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 9

This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex. Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip , who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50) . What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me. The mental load as it's often called, is this invisible, never ending to-do list, that is usually carried more by the wives than husbands in marriages, even if both spouses are working. It is the ever present mental load of things that are still works in progress that occupy the back of our mind. Not surprisingly, the mental load issue carries its effects into the intimate relationship, and this is what we get to explore today in depth on today's episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. I read her recently published book called A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load For More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex . We especially get to explore the great sex portion of her book in this episode. :-) I hope you enjoy this episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip! *** Our team has put together a great resource to help you tackle the mental load in your relationship! And it's on sale for the month of May. Check it out! As always, if you're looking for help to take your marriage to the next level, check out our Get Your Marriage Program . Let us help you be the next success story! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 2

I read an excellent book a few years ago. It's for parents talking to their kids about sex. There was a chapter towards the end of the book titled Honeymoon Horror Stories, which really caught my eye and changed the way I think about the importance of getting and teaching our next generation a solid sex education as part of their research for the book. The authors collected many true stories of Christian couples about their struggles with their first experiences with sex and other sexual struggles earlier in their marriage. As I read these sad stories, I realized many of these heartbreaking experiences could have been avoided or minimized if we just had a better sexual education or work to dispel the role that shame has, especially in discussing sexual concerns with one spouse. Newlywed or not, perhaps you have a quote unquote horror story of your own from your past, or one that you're working through right now. So today I wanna help you get through to your next level in your marriage by discussing a few solid principles regarding healthy sexuality. If you know someone that's soon to be married also, this would be an excellent resource to share with the soon to be bride and groom as well. My guest today prefers to remain anonymous, so I've changed her name and removed any identifying details, but she was amazing. She interviewed me for a special project she's doing for her church to help educate and strengthen the next generation of soon to be married couples. Isn't that noble? So she graciously allowed me to use portions of our interview for this podcast episode. By the way, later on in the episode, we're gonna refer to the five phases of a sexual relationship, which might seem out of context if you're due to this podcast. So I recommend you go listen to podcast episode number 224, which we released just a couple months ago where we discussed this principle in depth. It's a good episode to listen to and review also. Alright, let's talk about some fun and juicy topics about healthy married sex education.

Apr 25

Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in previous generations, at least not in a positive light, menopause also hasn't been a free topic of conversation. It might be a bit funny that a dude is doing an episode about menopause, but I'm really curious about this amazing natural process that women undergo. And I'm not the only one. We often have questions in our private Facebook group. I admit, with a little bit of humor, that most of the comments are from husbands desperate for answers, wondering where their wives libido went after she experienced menopause symptoms. We'll address this question among many others in this episode as I talk with my friend and fellow marriage and sex coach, Alisa DiLorenzo . She and her husband Tony, are the hosts of the incredible One Extraordinary Marriage Show and the author of several books. Coming up . . . Our wonderful small group men's and women's coaching programs start May 6th! Spots are limited to just 10 people per group, so sign up now to ensure your spot! Trust us, this program is intimacy changing! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Apr 18

Today I want to talk to those who are in a marriage where sex pretty good but maybe a little monotonous at times. Maybe it feels like it's the same old, same old. You wanna kind of spice it up, but then there's other factors involved, including feeling tired. Perhaps it feels like maybe sex is good enough, but you'd really like get to the next great level. This is also an episode for those where you feel like you're really not into it, but you do sex anyway because you know it's good for your marriage or because your spouse wants it. And also for those who like sex, but they kind of sense their spouse is mostly just going through the motions for you. This episode is all about developing our eroticism (and no it's not a dirty word!). If you'd like some more guidance in developing your eroticism, book a call with me or check out our program ! Referenced in the episode: Podcast episode with Francie Winslow: "Why Christians Should Be Having the Best Sex" (Episode 178) Podcast episode with Danielle Savory: "Blowjobs Aren't Just For Husbands" (Episode 137)

Apr 11

Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we get to play that game today on our episode with my guests Sheila Wray Gregoire and her husband Keith (return guests to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast). The Gregoires completed extensive research, surveying thousands of Christian couples, and recently published their findings in a new book called The Marriage You Want . I've read this book and I think it's really well done, so I invited the Gregoires onto the podcast to share it with you. We talk about a lot of topics: sexual intimacy (of course), finances, sharing the mental load, and more. I hope you walk away from this episode with a few new insights and fresh ideas to improve intimacy and connection in your own marriage. And if you'd like a little extra help, myself and my team would love to meet with you and coach with you in our Get Your Marriage On Program . And as always, don't forget to check out the Intimately Us app . Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Apr 4

Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson , a fellow marriage coach and therapist. Together we address common pieces of marriage advice that often miss the mark, such as "Never go to bed angry," or "Always put your spouse first," and "Your spouse should be your best friend." And of course we reinterpret these peices of advice for healthier marriage relationships. Understanding this is crucial in order to have a healthy sexual relationship as well. We just wrapped up our in-person couples retreat last weekend, and it was incredible! Seventeen couples from all over the United States and Canada joined us for four days of deep learning and connection. It was a great experience and I look forward to doing it again next year. So be sure to get on our waiting list . I hope you can be there too and have this experience with your spouse. Do you have a desire gap in your marriage? If you do, you're in good company. Just about every couple does. I'm going live on April 10th for a free webinar all about how to address the sexual desire gap in your marriage in a constructive, healthy way that makes your connection stronger instead of dividing you in your marriage. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Mar 28

I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling like they have a brand new lease on their marriage and realizing how much joy and fun that a good sexual relationship can bring. And one such couple is who I have on my podcast today: Jennifer and Jeff (names have been changed). They've been very generous and vulnerable to share their experience with their marriage journey with you. Some things to listen for: Oftentimes the challenges we face in marriage are because we don't want to look at the truth of something. We often try to manage people--sometimes it's through beating a person down or sometimes we feel like we're doing it out of love, but either way is self-serving. How to develop better emotional connection (even if you've been married a long time) I hope this episode inspires you to look a little bit deeper within your heart and to build a stronger emotional and intimate connection with your spouse. This is a special episode and I'm grateful you get to hear it. News and Resources Free Live training on April 10th March Madness Fun Intimately Us App Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Mar 21

Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the second half of their life, the differences in sexual desire, which may have been a back burner issue in the marriage up until that time, seem to become front and center. It's the elephant in the room that the couple can no longer ignore. I am absolutely passionate about what I wanna share with you in today's episode. This is very important work that I've witnessed transform hundreds of couples sex lives for the better. The sad truth is too many couples go through life with a subpar sex life. There's just too much poverty in the bedrooms and it's painful. Yet there are so many tools and resources available that if couples can just reach out and implement them and grab them. They can be so much better off than they are. Now I'm sharing a recording of a portion of a live training I did recently for today's episode. I'm doing another updated live training on April 10th on the same topic, and you're invited to join me live. Resources March Madness Episode with Keith and Lindsay Couples Retreat

Mar 14

Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's image. Yet the enemy of our souls does what he can to discredit and devalue our worth, often by casting shade about our own body image. Today you get to meet Hope Orr, a skilled boudoir photographer and owner of Elevated Boudoir , as we talk about her journey, experiences, and the profound impact boudoir photography has had on herself and her clients. I had the privilege of meeting Hope over six years ago through a business connection, and I'm so excited that you get to meet her today. Hope has a grace about her and you can tell she's a very caring individual. In this episode, you'll hear Hope share her personal battle with body image and toxic perfectionism, and how a spontaneous boudoir session changed her perspective on herself. She discusses the transformative power of boudoir photography, the importance of trust, and shares three principles that can help anyone embrace a positive self-image. The heart of this episode is about the deep personal and emotional journey and broader impact of embracing one's true self. News and Resources We're hiring! If you think you'd be a good fit for our brand as a brand ambassador and social media marketer, we've extended our deadline. Please check out the details and apply here! Last minute Couples Retreat spot can be yours for $500 off! We just had a last minute cancellation, and the generous couple has offered their deposit for another worthy couple to attend. Use code "payitforward" at checkout! Check out these testimonials on youtube! Join the March Madness Fun! Intimately Us App Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Mar 7

A recurring theme I've noticed in over 200 episodes of the Get Your Marriage On podcast is that those who are willing to push themselves a little outside their comfort zone experience the most joy and growth in their relationships. And this is also consistent with my own experience. My guest today is Kaitlin Hawes. She's a mom and a wife with a great message. You'll get to hear about what inspired her to reconsider her level of enthusiasm for sexual connection in her marriage and what inspired her to try new things and how a willingness to be honest and vulnerable with her husband opened up new heights of life experiences for her. You'll also quickly figure out that Kaitlin is quite creative in and out of the bedroom. This episode is on the spicier side; we're gonna do a deep dive as we listen to her tips on how to make oral sex great for both men and women, along with the other fun adventures to try as a couple. I hope this episode inspires you to get creative in your own way, in your bedroom (or out of your bedroom!). News and Resources We're hiring! If you think you'd be a good fit for our brand as a brand ambassador and social media marketer, please check out the details and apply here! Last minute Couples Retreat spot can be yours for $500 off! We just had a last minute cancellation, and the generous couple has offered their deposit for another worthy couple to attend. Use code "payitforward" at checkout! Check out these testimonials on youtube! Intimately Us App Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Feb 28

If you were to pause and think about your very best sexual experiences that you've ever had, can you identify what made them so great? For many years, academics studying human sexuality at universities were primarily interested in figuring out what goes wrong in the bedroom so they can fix it and get back up to baseline functioning. But, the guest I interview in this episode took a very different approach: she didn't just want to study people who are experiencing sexual dysfunction, she wanted to study people with extraordinary sex lives and what they were doing right. Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz is a sex therapist and part of the faculty at the University of Ottawa. She's written several books (mostly textbooks for other sex therapists to read), but she wrote one book with Dr. Dana Menard for the rest of us called Magnificent Sex , sharing her breakthroughs and her research on how to acheive optimal sex. She is also the founder of OptimalSexualExperiences.com , a resource for group therapies all over. News & Resources We're hiring! If you think you'd be a good fit for our brand as a brand ambassador and social media marketer, please check out the details and apply here! Intimately Us App Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Guides and workshops - Inexpensive learning opportunities about specific topics to improve your marriage and sex life. Private Facebook group - Christian Couples Improving Sex and Intimacy Let us help you get results like these amazing couples in 2025! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Feb 20

Do you ever feel like a failure at sex? In this episode, I'll be breaking down why perfectionism is the enemy of good sex and how you can build a virtuous cycle of intimacy with small, consistent wins. I'll share real stories, practical strategies, and a fresh way to think about sex that takes the pressure off and brings the pleasure back. If you're ready to ditch the pass fail mentality in the bedroom and start experiencing deeper connection with your spouse, you won't want to miss this episode. Resources: Intimately Us app (free and paid versions) - a fun and easy way to increase novelty, get education, and increase communication and connection. Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Small group cohorts within this program also offer intensive help and support. New men's and women's small groups are starting in January! Guides and workshops - Inexpensive learning opportunities about specific topics to improve your marriage and sex life. Private Facebook group - Christian Couples Improving Sex and Intimacy Let us help you get results like these amazing couples !

Feb 14

The number one libido killer is stress. And experiencing stress from time to time is just a part of life; however, there are skills out there that'll help you manage it better. One of the black belt sex tips I often teach is a concept called "calm the heck down," which, if you've listened to my podcast for a while, you'll see this theme popping up often. It's the ability to settle down within your own skin and be fully present in the moment. This, along with a few other skills, are essential to learning how to deeply emotionally connect with another person that you absolutely love. So I'm excited for our guest today: Denita Bremmer. She is an expert in somatics, which is a fancy word for the intersection of the mind, body and spirit. And she teaches how to listen to your body in a way that grounds and connects you so that you can reach new levels of love and intimacy in your relationships. By the end of this episode, you'll walk away with the following: Fresh ideas on how to create more safety within yourself and in your relationships How to better metabolize stress Work through and heal a history of trauma How to work with your body instead of against your body as a tool to help you deeply connect with others. And, of course, listen to the end for Denita is fantastic black belt sex tip! Coming up . . . Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! (Starts today! You can also register and get the recording to use another time.) Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Feb 7

Today's episode is about flirting and having fun by trying on a different persona on a date night. It's about using the power of role play to infuse fresh life into your marriage! It's like putting on a different outfit than the one you usually wear and being playful. And because this is get your marriage on, we'll add a sexy twist to it, of course! My guest is my friend, Katie Runyan. She's the founder of Faithful Fling, an online resource my wife and I use to get creative ideas for date night. You'll find Katie to be a very creative and fun person. I realize that the idea of sexy role-play isn't for everyone, just like not everyone is into all the fun that goes into picking out a Halloween costume, or being super romantic for Valentine's day, and that's okay. But I encourage you to listen and pick out the principles you find can apply to your marriage, to take your marriage to the next level! *** You can win 12 Free Dates from Faithful Fling by participating in the Sextimacy Challenge going on now on the Intimately Us app ! Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! Other episodes you might like: 190: Cultivating Healthy Eroticism in Long-term Marriages 171: Would You Rather …? Sexy Edition & Embracing Your Eroticism 217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jan 31

Our childhood and families of origin have a profound impact on our worldviews, including our attitudes towards sex and intimacy. Not knowing anything different, for the most part, we tend to intuitively model what we've seen and absorbed from the culture we grew up in. My wife and I are blessed to come from wonderful families. We had good childhoods and felt the support and care of our parents, which I'm very grateful for. Yet, after we were married, we were anxious about sex, which we felt was quite taboo. And for a long time really plagued us in our marriage. The reality is sexual growth and understanding is actually developmental, meaning we grow from stage to stage line-by-line one step at a time If we choose the courageous path of growth, as we discussed in our episode last week. There are many in midlife that realized their past attitudes towards sex and intimacy are no longer serving them today. They might come to a crisis in their relationship or feel stretched in their marriage to grow and progress. I hope that this podcast, my apps, my programs, and my retreats help you wherever you are on your journey and help you learn truths and apply principles to aid you in your spiritual and sexual development. My guests today are Dr. Heidi Hastings and Dr. Scott Hastings. Heidi has her PhD in human development and family studies, and Scott is a medical doctor and physician. Talk about a power couple! They are also the hosts of the Marriage IQ podcast, and I've had the opportunity to get to know them personally over the last year. And I am excited that you get to meet them here today, too! *** Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! 14-Day Sextimacy Challenge - Complete challenges in the Intimately Us app to earn points and a chance to win one of our amazing prizes. Starts February 1! All the details are in the app. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jan 24

Take a moment to think about the evolution of your own sexual journey as a couple. How far have you come in the last year? Or the last two years, or the last five years? Is what's important to you today the same as what was important to you in the last two or five years? I bet it's different. It's then reasonable to assume that what's important to you today sexually could be different a year or five or even ten years from now. And this episode, you'll get to hear this conversation I had with Amy and Greg Langford , where we talk about the five phases of a sexual relationship. See which phase you find yourself in today and learn what's ahead for you. *** Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! Stay tuned for updates on this exciting retreat! 14-Day Sextimacy Challenge - Complete challenges in the Intimately Us app to earn points and a chance to win one of our amazing prizes. All the details are in the app. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jan 17

This is part two of the BDSM episodes. Last week we talked about how a BDSM is a exchange of erotic energy and how it's built upon the principles of trust and communication. And in a scene or experience, you have one partner acting in the dominant role and the other in the submissive role. And it's the submissive person who's really in charge of the whole experience. He or she is the one saying "yes, no, maybe, etc." And it's really about creating an experience together that you'll both really enjoy and bond over. Now you'll get to hear me talk to my guests, Alan and Leila, about more questions that I have about BDSM and how it works for them in their marriage. And I hope this is helpful for you and you gain some wonderful insights for your own marriage in this episode. Make sure you check out Part 1 if you haven't yet. *** Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! Stay tuned for updates on this exciting retreat! Men's Only and Women's Only small group coaching program - The next cohort starts January 22nd. We meet weekly for 12 weeks to do a deep dive into the intimacy of your marriage. And this includes a comprehensive course and all materials and coaching to help you apply everything you learn. You'll walk away from this three month program a better husband or wife and power to take your marriage to the next level. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jan 10

Like many of you, I've had questions about BDSM for a long time. I've had preconceived ideas of what it was and wondered how it fits into my faith and the style of intimate play my wife and I enjoy. I have also received emails and DMS from many of you listeners asking me about BDSM in the context of a faithful Christian marriage. I've been hesitant in doing an episode about this for a long time, until I found the right guest. I used to think BDSM was dark and evil--a thinly disguised form of rape, aggression, and violence. I also thought it was antisocial if it was about enjoying inflicting pain on others, in some sort of a sick and twisted way. But then again, even a couple in a "vanilla" missionary position could be doing it with dark and evil intent. While sex in vanilla missionary position or BDSM play can be done in a loving, faithful, beautiful, playful, and deeply erotic way that deepens a couple's connections. In short, it's not really the act, but the intention behind the act that really matters. After listening to this episode, you may want to try some of this couple's suggestions to enhance the joy and intimacy in your marriage. I met Alan and his lovely wife Leila through a men's group that I belong to. They're a faithful, wonderful, and upstanding couple married for nearly three decades. I'm very grateful that they were kind and courageous enough to come on my podcast to share their experience with BDSM. They answered many of my questions and I hope you find this episode really insightful, too. Note that this is going to be a two part episode. This is part 1 with part 2 being released next week. *** Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Easily accessible due to its virtual nature, this retreat on February 14th-15th is the perfect Valentines gift to you and your spouse! Stay tuned for updates on this exciting retreat! Men's Only and Women's Only small group coaching program - The next cohort starts January 22nd. We meet weekly for 12 weeks to do a deep dive into the intimacy of your marriage. And this includes a comprehensive course and all materials and coaching to help you apply everything you learn. You'll walk away from this three month program a better husband or wife and power to take your marriage to the next level. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jan 3

Ever feel like you wish your wife was a little less vanilla? Every wish your spouse would be more enthusiastic about trying new things in the bedroom (or out of the bedroom for that matter)? Ever ask your spouse what their fantasies are, and they look at you with a blank stare or an "I don't know"? Ever get frustrated when, after a discussion about your sex life and things get better for about a week or so, and then fizzle and go back to the way they used to be? A husband recently emailed me with these concerns, and with his permission, I will be giving you some ideas about this topic today for both the higher and lower desire spouses. ( Link to referenced episode with Dr. Cami Hurst ) *** Are you ready to make some changes in the new year? Are you tired of struggling in your marriage and sex life? Here are some things that can help! Intimately Us app (free and paid versions) - a fun and easy way to increase novelty, get education, and increase communication and connection. Free Masterclass : How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles Couples Retreat - An intensive, romantic, and life-changing weekend that will strengthen your marriage and sexual intimacy. Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. Small group cohorts within this program also offer intensive help and support. New men's and women's small groups are starting in January! Guides and workshops - Inexpensive learning opportunities about specific topics to improve your marriage and sex life. Private Facebook group - Christian Couples Improving Sex and Intimacy Let us help you get results like these amazing couples in 2025!

Dec 27, 2024

I studied martial arts for 13 years when I was younger and I became proficient in three different styles of Karate and Kenpo. As you progress towards being a black belt, the fundamentals don't change, but your ability to be more precise and skilled in using those fundamentals improves dramatically. Like in my martial arts training to being a better lover, the fundamentals such as communication, touch and being present with arousal, and so on don't change. But your ability to use those fundamentals to be better at sex hat's deeply connecting as well as giving and receiving pleasure to strengthen your marriage. All those improve. As you become more quote unquote black belt at at sex. I occasionally ask my podcast guests for their black belt sex tips. And it's been over a year since I've done a Roundup of the best black belt sex tips offered by my guests on this podcast. So today, I've compiled the best into this episode. If you like what you've heard from these guests and want to go back for more, here are the links to the full episodes: Sofia Ashley - #212: Create A Party Your Libido Wants To Come To) Catherine Roebuck - #214: When Wives Have The Higher Sexual Desire Josie McEwen - #167: Successful Vacation Sex & Romantic Getaways, According to a Romance Consultant Jessa Zimmerman - #217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? Adam and Karissa King - #219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection Dan Purcell & Rhonda Farr - #209: Stop Trying to Change Your Marriage. Let Your Marriage Change You Instead. Ally Bullock - #203: Why Honesty, Risk, and some Fair Play Lead To Great Connection with Alyson Bullock Tammy Camp - #151: How a "Good Girl" and Her Husband Bravely Chose a Better Sex Life: A Sextimony Francie Winslow - #178: Why Christians Should Be Having the Best Sex Tilly Storm - #210: The G-Spot Guide: How to Stimulate, Explore, and Enjoy Together! Heather Flake - #158: The #1 Limiting Factor in Your Sex Life, According to a Marriage Expert Tammy Hill - #179: Having An Orgasm vs Living Orgasmically: What's the difference? Dr. Julie Slattery - #181: 4 Pillars to Take Intimacy From Sub-optimal to First-Rate, Both In and Out of the Bedroom Glenn & Phyllis Hill - #183: The Anatomy of Emotional Intimacy & Connection Codes and #184: Anatomy of a Sex Date Laurie Watson - #149: Afraid Your Husband Will Reject or Ignore You AGAIN tonight? Alex & Kadi Dutton - #130: Lingerie? YES PLEASE! with Alex and Kadi of EveryLove Intimates Mark Goldberg - #193: The Fast and Furious: Over-Coming Premature Ejaculation Sierra Beltran - #170: Behold Your Beautiful Body Through the Lens of Boudoir Photography! Ariel Finlinson - #164: Creating Space for Moms (and Dads) to Feel Like They Are in Control Again Tammy Hill - #201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2 Danielle Savory - #201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2 Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife - #200: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 1 Katheleen Smith - #195: Are You a "Sexual Over-functioner?" Bonnie Young - #168: How Your Marital Power Dynamics Are Affecting Your Sexual Relationship Resources If you're in an otherwise happy marriage, but struggle to see eye to eye when it comes to sexual intimacy, I highly recommend you check out our upcoming couples retreat for next March (hurry--prices go up in the new year!). Check out our Get Your Marriage On Program . These programs are effective at helping you and your spouse communicate better about these things in a relationship and really move the needle in the positive direction. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Dec 20, 2024

I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam and Karissa have a fun Instagram account called Dear Young, Married Couple . And that's how I first met them a few years ago. And get this. They are both marriage counselors. It's a husband and wife team and they are an absolute hoot as you'll get to hear today. I'm grateful we can talk about this topic today because I think all of us need a little boost of creativity and inspiration once in a while, especially when it comes to things in the bedroom, because we all need it to keep the passion alive. News and Resources Games mentioned in the episode : Sheets and Ladders , Sensation Card Deck If you're in an otherwise happy marriage, but struggle to see eye to eye when it comes to sexual intimacy, I highly recommend you check out our upcoming couples retreat for next March (prices go up in the new year). Check out our Get Your Marriage On Program . These programs are effective at helping you and your spouse communicate better about these things in a relationship and really move the needle in the positive direction. Our first annual "Get-it-on-athon " is in full swing! Learn more about how to support a worthy couple's fertility journey as you come closer as a couple! Are you struggling with how to explore your eroticism? Our new and improved Sexploration List can help! Rank your own preferences and desires in 13 different areas and explore and talk about those things together. You'll discover where your desires intersect and maybe get some ideas you both like, but have never thought of! Intimately Us app - for couples who want to spice up their marriage, get new ideas, and learn how to love each other better. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Dec 13, 2024

It's hard to believe that my wife and I started this work eight years ago! At that time we were 13 years into a happy marriage, but something was missing. We just didn't quite know what it was. And that's when a friend opened up to me about his sex life and taught me about how a healthy, vibrant sexual relationship permeates not only the marriage relationship, but adds texture color in life to all other aspects of life, too. As we focused on enhancing our sexual intimacy as a couple, what my friend told me was absolutely right. And we've been on a mission to share this message ever since. That's why I'm excited to tell you about today's guest, Tanya Hale , as she's learned something similar. She calls it being a "well-sexed woman" in that she's found how a connecting and vibrant sex life gives more creativity to life and everyday living. You'll get to hear Tanya's story of a failed marriage, the valuable lessons she learned immediately afterwards, and the new marriage that she's created. You'll learn about the importance of emotional safety and connection, as well as some of her tips to living well and a happy marriage. News and Resources Join the first annual Get-it-On-athon fundraiser! Check out how you can help a couple struggling with infertility have a baby by next Christmas! Speaking of Christmas, why not ditch the stuff that accumulates and instead invest in experiences that will pay dividends and expand your relationship? Why not attend our upcoming couples retreat in March 2025 ? Get Your Marriage On Program : work with me and my team in a coaching setting to help you overcome the specific challenges with intimacy in your marriage. Don't miss the testimonials on the results page , as well, to see how this program is changing the lives of other couples!

Dec 6, 2024

I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit online. But the more I've done this work with myself and in my marriage and with other couples, the more I've come to love eroticism. The root word for erotic is the Greek word eros , which literally means desire. Plato, a Greek philosopher, taught that eros is more than just sexual desire; it's the life force, passionate power that drives individuals to pursue beauty wisdom and even the divine. When you live with this eros feeling, it invites you to yearn for something beyond yourself, close gaps, seek intimacy, and to reach a higher, more spiritual level of love. Sexual eroticism then are those things that give your intimate moments in your marriage, meaning yearning for closeness and ultimately makes your marriage fill alive and growing and to have love worth making. By that definition. It's no wonder that red light districts X-rated films and brothels are actually anti-erotic, because when you think of it, those aren't full of that life force. They are full of misery and loneliness instead. Anyway, I've come to appreciate that every person has things that they find erotic. What we find sexually exciting is as unique as our fingerprints. In this episode, I'm joined by sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman. And this episode, we'll talk about what eroticism is, why erotic fantasies are important, and how to work through the challenges that couples face in sharing and negotiating sexual fantasies. We'll also discuss tips for building a stronger marriage through your God-given eroticism. News and Resources Our first annual "Get-it-on-athon " is in full swing! Learn more about how to support a worthy couple's fertility journey as you come closer as a couple! Reserve your spot at our next Couples Retreat in March 2025 (prices go up in 2025) Are you struggling with how to explore your eroticism? Our new and improved Sexploration List can help! Rank your own preferences and desires in 13 different areas and explore and talk about those things together. You'll discover where your desires intersect and maybe get some ideas you both like, but have never thought of! Intimately Us app - for couples who want to spice up their marriage, get new ideas, and learn how to love each other better. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Nov 29, 2024

Today is a continuation of last week's question and answer episode, and I am so thankful for all the courageous couples who reached out with their questions. Here's what we discuss in this episode: A husband wondering about using dildos and double penetration and getting some guidance there. A wife whose husband has been experiencing erectile dysfunction and navigating her own lack of satisfaction in bed. A husband reaching looking for some advice after he reacted poorly to discovering some erotic reading that his wife was doing and navigating the aftermath of what happened. A husband wondering if he is being selfish for wanting sex because his wife is showing a low level of interest, or none at all. You can submit your anonymous questions on our website here. And don't forget to check out last week's episode (#215) for more answers to your questions. Resources: December's "Get it On-a-thon" Fundraiser : Get Frisky for Fertility! Intimately Us App 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Nov 22, 2024

It's time to answer some more questions from our listeners! Today I'm joined by my colleague, Caroline, to discuss some of the questions that you have. We cover the following topics: A husband who's struggling to connect emotionally with his wife, and he wants to learn how to do that without shutting down. A wife is struggling to find ways to connect romantically and sexually, and to have that desire for her spouse, even though he's stopped using porn, which had impacted their marriage. A husband is wondering about penis size and how that's impacting his marriage. A husband struggling with premature ejaculation wants to know how to satisfy his wife more. A husband who has a wife who thinks that anything beyond missionary position is gross and wondering how to navigate this challenge that they're facing. A wife who's feeling a great deal of sadness because she wants to feel desired by her husband, including through compliments, though currently she feels like she's not desired in words or actions. You can submit your anonymous questions on our website here. And don't forget to tune in next week for Part 2 of this Q&A series! Resources: December's "Get it On-a-thon" Fundraiser : Get Frisky for Fertility! Intimately Us App 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Nov 15, 2024

Broadly speaking, men are generally more interested in sex than women. However, there are exceptions. Some estimate that 20 to 30% of married couples are in marriages where the wife is the one with actually the higher libido or the higher sex drive. However you want to call it, higher desire wives have a unique challenge that higher desire husbands don't have, as well as having many similarities and challenges in just having libido differences in the marriage that both a higher and lower desire couple faces. My guest today is Cat Roebuck . She's a fellow sex and marriage coach, and she's an expert when it comes to living as a higher desire wife and the challenges associated with that. And I'm so lucky to have her on my podcast today. She also happens to be my cousin! In this episode, we're going to talk about how to better understand sexual desire, differences in marriage from a higher desire wives point of view. I particularly liked the discussion about how to love with our sexuality or through our sexuality and not just treat our sexuality as a reward for good behavior or on the other side of love. It's actually a way we can love others. Also, you'll gonna like her black belt sex tip at the end! Resources: December's "Get it On-a-thon" Fundraiser : Get Frisky for Fertility! Intimately Us App 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Nov 8, 2024

Sexual desire differences are, unfortunately, very common. In fact, it's one of the top reasons why couples seek sex therapy or any kind of help in their marriage. It's really painful to be in a relationship where your spouse doesn't desire you the same way you desire them. And while it's painful for the spouse with the higher libido or higher desire, it's also just as painful (for different reasons) for the person with a lower desire/lower libido. The good news is that there are actually tools and solutions to help couples get on the same page sexually, and we'll discuss some of these in this episode. I was interviewed by my friend Taylor Chambers, a marriage and family therapist. Since we talk about these things often on this platform, we've included this interview on the Get Your Marriage On Podcast. In this episode, we cover the following: I share some of my personal examples from my own marriage Why traditional sex therapy doesn't quite work. The role of pleasure Integrity culture versus purity culture If you and your spouse have differences in sexual desire that's causing some problems in your marriage, you're in luck because next week I'm going live doing a deep dive discussion on this very topic. What: How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives without Therapy or Pressure, Live Masterclass When: November 14, 6 pm Pacific / 9pm Eastern Register Here More Resources: Intimately Us App 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Nov 1, 2024

There's a lot of stress in parenthood (and regular life) that presses on the couple's relationship, which Emily and I know firsthand as parents to 6 children. And I know that maintaining intimacy and being lovers while also being parents and good at our jobs and other responsibilities is a challenge many of us face, which is why I'm so interested in this topic today. And I had so much fun recording this episode with my guest, Sofia Ashley. She's a hoot! Sofia has been a sex coach for 10 years and has a program called "Sex After Kids" and she's the founder of The Happy Vagina Project . In this episode we discuss how to have a party your libido would like to show up to and the importance of nervous system regulation, effective communication, and emotional support (over depending on outside things like toys or lingerie). You'll get to hear her strategies for transitioning from being a busy mom to a hot wife. And be sure to stay to the end to hear her black belt sex tip! Resources: Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Episode Highlights 2:08: Bedroom fail 5:12: Novelty falls flat if there's not deeper connection 6:09: How our nervous system plays in 9:28: When you just feel "touched out" 15:33: Physiological response and the need for relaxation 18:20: Transitioning from super-busy mode, to "I want to have sex mode" 22:41: Creating a party your libido wants to come to 23:50: Pre-launch check list 31:46: Nervous sytem reset exercises 35:49: How to know if you're disregulated 39:45: Black belt sext tip! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Oct 25, 2024

The holidays are coming up, and this is often a stressful time for a lot of couples. The stress and busyness can often lead couples to fall into dry spells in their sex life. And Emily and I are not immune to those dry spells either. So whether you're in a dry spell or looking to avoid one, this episode is for you! We're going to cover practical ways to keep your marriage and sex life going strong through all the seasons of life. Resources: Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Episode highlights: 4:37: Seeing the Patterns in Your Relationship 6:13: Calm the heck down 7:18: Notice emotions and how they present in your body 7:40: The measure of your marriage isn't how you handle yourself when things are going well, but when life is hard 9:00: Separate the act of sex from the meanings attached to it. 11:04: When we look to our spouse, as a reason behind the dry spell, it opens you up to a potential of self-deception 12:25: Routine kills passion 14:34: Need both love and desire 17:37: Offer good sex 19:07: Questions to ask yourself and thoughts to consider 21:55: "But my spouse doesn't want to change"

Oct 18, 2024

In this episode, you'll learn how to stimulate the "g-spot" and how to have more fun in your bedroom by learning how to work with this beautiful aspect of female pleasure and orgasm. Join us as my guest, Tilly Storm , a sex coach for women, teaches about unlocking this new dimension in your marriage. Even if including the g-spot is already something you're doing in your relationship, I promise you'll gain a lot out of this podcast anyway. If you're new to this, well, you've got a whole new dimension in your relationship to uncover and explore together! And I hope you have a lot of fun exploring it, just like my wife and I have had a lot of fun putting into practice a lot of the things that Tilly teaches in this episode! Resources: Sexual Mindfulness Seminar Series with Dr. Chelom Leavitt Intimately Us App Get Your Marriage On Program FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less 2025 Couples Retreat You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Oct 11, 2024

There's definitely a spiritual element to developing an intimate marriage. For example, in order to have really good sex or really deep emotional connection with someone, it requires you to be more honest, true chaste, benevolent, and in short, to do good to your spouse. It requires you to be able to endure all things and to have a lot of hope and do the little things every day, the little micro things that actually matter to build an intimate marriage. Our episode today is a recording of a conversation I had with my good friend, Rhonda Farr. If you don't know her, she is a marriage and intimacy coach a lot like myself. And we had a fantastic conversation about how our marriage changes us rather than us trying to change our marriage. This is really relevant because we're talking about the spiritual work of sexual development; this is the refining process, the part that expands us in our marriages to become the better version of who we are meant to become. Resources: Intimately Us App Sexual Mindfulness Seminar Series with Dr. Chelom Leavitt FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Oct 4, 2024

There are many reasons why a lot of us get off on the wrong foot when it comes to building an intimate marriage for the lifetime; there's shame, purity culture, unmet expectations, and difficulty in communicating about intimate matters, just to name a few. I'm excited for you to meet a couple that has faced all these challenges, like many of you, but have found hope in the progress they've made towards the intimate relationship they desire. Cody and Mindy are a couple that I've gotten to get to know really well through my coaching program. They've taken the principles that we teach in their program, applied them, and they're seeing real results in their relationship. And I'm proud of them for being courageous enough to come on this podcast to share their journey and their experience with you, with the hope that some of you listening can find inspiration, hope, and healing in whatever phase of the journey you're in right now. After listening to this episode, if you and your spouse feel like you could use a huge boost in your relationship, please check out my get your marriage on program. You'll see the details and lots of free information about it on my website . One way to boost intimacy in your relationship is to learn mindfulness skills. And this has been proven in research over and over again. And in fact, one of the world's most foremost researchers in this area, Dr. Chelom Leavitt, is going to be joining me for a three week long seminar series in the latter half of October. You won't want to miss it! Resources: Intimately Us App Sexual Mindfulness Seminar Series with Dr. Chelom Leavitt FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Sep 27, 2024

We've come to our fourth and final Sextember podcast episode! It's been a great month culminating in this week's spicy topic. And the whole reason behind Sextember and these types of episodes is to illustrate how important it is that you add variety and novelty to your intimate marriage. This is how you keep it vital for the longterm. Recently someone reached out to our private Get Your Marriage On Facebook group (which, by the way, if you're not a member of, I highly recommend you join): "My wife wants to spice things up in the bedroom. She's saying we should do more sex positions, but I have no idea where to start." Well, this podcast episode is for you and everyone like you in a similar situation! We've had sex position illustrations (very tastefully drawn) in the Intimately Us app for about two years now, and it's a fantastic source of inspiration and creativity for many couples who have looked at those and use them. Another feature that we have in that app is that users can rate and review their favorite positions. So I'm presenting for you today, the top 10 sex positions rated in the Intimately Us app. If you don't have the app, download it today. And if you do have it, please consider upgrading to the premium version to unlock all of the best features of the app! Resources: Intimately Us App (join the Sextember challenge here!) Women's Small Group Coaching (Cohort starting in October) FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Anonymous Question Submission You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Sep 20, 2024

This is our third Sextember Episode! So this is also going to be a really fun and spicy podcast to give you inspiration and ideas to make the most out of your Sextember! Today, we get to talk about how to share your fantasies with your spouse (which is really hard to do sometimes) and about the value of adding novelty and spice to your marriage relationship. In preparation for this episode, we polled our Instagram audience by asking them a bunch of "yes, no, maybe" questions (and some of them are really spicy!). Listen for those at the end to see how your own responses line up with those of our general audience. Jacqlin is my guest today, and I'm so grateful to have her as a member of my Get Your Marriage On team. (And you may have seen Jacqlin on our Instagram as she creates a lot of fun and entertaining reels.) Jacqlin has been married for over 15 years and has four boys. And she's also a certified life coach and loves helping other individuals have more peace and comfort with sexuality for themselves and in their marriages. Resources: Intimately Us App (join the Sextember challenge here!) Women's Small Group Coaching (Cohort starting in October) FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Anonymous Question Submission You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Sep 13, 2024

Welcome to our second Sextember episode! For this month, every episode will be filled with ideas to add more spice and excitement to your bedroom as part of our Sextember series. Last week, my guest, Tammy Camp, and I talked about flirting and initiating. So today we're going to build on that and talk about another spicy and exciting topic: putting the play back in foreplay! Foreplay in my opinion is the best part of an intimate encounter. Foreplay is how you set the stage for how intimate and connecting the experience is going to be. And by the end of this episode, you'll learn the grand key to unlock amazing foreplay in your marriage. And it's something anybody can do. We'll give you specific tips and ideas as well. I'll also address some questions that you listeners have sent in anonymously about foreplay. I'm joined by Amy Langford , a certified marriage and intimacy coach that works with me in my Get Your Marriage On program . She's been married for over 25 years to her husband, Greg, has four children and one son-in-law, and is passionate about helping couples uplevel their marriage. Resources: Intimately Us App (join the Sextember challenge here!) Women's Small Group Coaching (Cohort starting in October) FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Anonymous Question Submission You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Sep 6, 2024

I am so excited for what's coming up in September! For the next four episodes in the month of September, we will focus on the theme of spicing things up in the bedroom. We're just adding a little more creativity to your lovemaking routines! It's going to be fun and we're doing all this because September for us is Sextember. If you don't know what that is, listen to the podcast or check out our website or Instagram for more. Today's topic is all about initiating and flirting, which I think are two vital skills any couple needs to spice things up in the bedroom. So I've invited my friend at Tammy Camp, a fellow coach with me in my Get Your Marriage On program, to share some ideas together. We get a riff off of each other about how to initiate more creatively, have more fun, and just give you some ideas and inspiration for you and your spouse in your marriage. Resources: Intimately Us App (join the Sextember challenge here!) Get Your Marriage On Program Women's Small Group Coaching (Cohort starting in October) FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Aug 31, 2024

**SEXTEMBER STARTS ON SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 1. DOWNLOAD THE INTIMATELY US APP TO PARTICIPATE** My hope for you after listening to today's episode is you'll laugh a little, be inspired and gain some practical tools that you can use to improve communication about intimate things in your marriage. My guest today is Alyson Bullock, a marriage and family therapist, communication coach, and has a popular Instagram account @relationshipswithaly . Today, Alyson and I are going to chat about your questions that will cover topics such as the following: How to talk to your spouse about wanting more variety in spice in the bedroom How to talk to your spouse if what they want to do with you in the bedroom is a bit too much outside your comfort zone How to discuss mismatched sexual desire How to address resentments in your marriage, especially when things feel lopsided when it comes to sharing household chores and the mental load of running a home And we're going to talk about some really fun, practical things to implement in your marriage today! Resources: Get Your Marriage On Program Women's Small Group Coaching (Cohort starting in October) Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Aug 23, 2024

In the thick of raising children or building a career or juggling the many demands that life imposes on us, it's easy for couples to feel like relationship matters have been put to the side. You don't intend for this to happen, of course. It's easy for things to feel so vanilla, routine, or monotonous between you and your spouse. So how do some couples work through these challenges effectively? I love releasing podcasts episodes like this one, because these guests aren't so-called "experts" that pretend to have everything figured out, they're ordinary men like me and you. They have regular normal challenges; yet, their stories are inspiring because their insights are applicable to everyone. My guests, Clint and Tony, were part of the latest men's small group coaching program that I run periodically. You'll get to hear all about their experience as well as other special insights that they've gained as a result of participating in this life changing program. One thing I've learned over the years of doing this work is that men need men. When good men band together, committed to helping each other become better husbands and fathers, great things happen. Registration is now open for our next cohort for our men's small group coaching program, like the one Tony and Clinton just did. This 12-week program is limited to just 8-10 men, and it starts September 4. The program includes a comprehensive course and coaching to help you apply proven principles in your unique circumstances. I'm absolutely certain this program is a good fit for you if you're in an otherwise healthy relationship, yet feel like something is missing when it comes to intimacy. You'll definitely uncover what's missing and witness a transformation in yourself over the 12 weeks we meet together. All of these details are here on my website . By the way we also have an equivalent women's program starting in October, so check back for those details too. Other Resources: Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Aug 19, 2024

This is part two of the podcast we released last Friday (#200). And if you haven't listened to that one, I highly recommend you pause this episode and go back and listen to #200 first . These two episodes are continuation of a project that I started a few months ago to better understand what it means for me to cherish my spouse. I shared a tragic story about my wife's cousin and how that really propelled us to understand what it means to cherish others better. In the process, I've sought out mentors to help me understand this concept better. And you get to hear snippets of the conversations I've had with them - you get to be a fly on the wall and learn with me and what it really means to cherish your spouse. And to love them really, really well. Of all the things I talk about on the podcast -- sex, orgasms, initiating, foreplay -- I think learning how to cherish your spouse whole heartedly takes the cake! This is the most important. This is the sum of everything that I wish you would get from my podcast. I hope these two episodes become the most downloaded episodes of the entire podcast. And this is what I want to be known for. I want you to know that to really love and cherish your spouse is at the heart of everything we do, even your sexual interactions (which we talk a lot about on this podcast, right?). It's about how you cherish your spouse through the language of your sexuality and sharing that with your spouse exclusively. So today you get a year from three more mentors that I look up to a lot: Tammy Hill , Danielle Savory , and Alex & Kadi Dutton (from EveryLove Intimates ). So you get three different perspectives here on the same kind of thing, different stages of life, different worldviews. And in case you missed it, I talked to Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife , Alana Martens, (from Kingdom Sexuality ), and Tony DiLorenzo (from One Extraordinary Marriage ) in part 1 . I hope this is the inspiration you need to make the most of your marriage relationship--make the changes, get the help, and do what you need to do-- to find that deep and abiding love, the cherishing that brings the deepest meaning and satisfaction to our lives. Resources: Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Aug 16, 2024

We recently experienced the loss of a family member very suddenly, a young mom with three children, and it has made me want to love and appreciate and cherish my wife more. And so this set me out on a personal project to understand the concept of cherishing a little better. This project has really changed me. It has changed me in my intimate interactions with my wife and with my children and with others. I've learned how to be a lot more present with them, less anxious. And the way I make love to my wife has brought a different tone to our marriage. It's more connecting, it's more real, it's more eyes open. There's a more genuine desire to be close to each other in our love making also. To help me in my quest to better understand cherishing and what it means for me in my life and in my marriage, I've sought out a few mentors to help me and I've recorded our conversations. I've asked them just a simple question: "What does it mean to cherish your spouse?" And I just sat back and listened as these great teachers shared so many nuggets from their life experiences. Because this topic has had such a big impact on me, and I didn't want you to miss any of it, I've decided to split this into two podcasts episodes. In this episode, you'll get to hear from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife , Alana Martens (from Kingdom Sexuality ), and Tony DiLorenzo (from One Extraordinary Marriage ). And in a special bonus episode on Monday, August 19, you'll get to hear part 2 from Tammy Hill , Danielle Savory , and Alex & Kadi Dutton (from EveryLove Intimates ). Takeaways As you listen to what these wise people say . . . ♥️ I hope you'll listen with an open heart. ♥️ I hope it changes you as much as it changed me. ♥️ I hope this episode will inspire you to treat your spouse with a lot more appreciation and a lot more dignity. ♥️ I hope you'll find greater strength to look past the trivial barriers that get in the way of true connection. ♥️ I hope it motivates you to put down the phone more often and to actually gaze into your spouse's eyes. ♥️ I hope it motivates you to put your arm around him or her and hold them close, because you never know, today might be the last day you'll be together for a long time. Resources: Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Aug 9, 2024

It's interesting that we live in a day and age where it's not the popular thing to want a family and a strong, committed marriage with complete fidelity. At least in America, the trend is to make wealth the ultimate measure of our progress in life. But I got to tell you: if you're looking for an investment that would give you a return on happiness, I can't think of anything more of lasting value than a vibrant, passionate and intimate marriage. This kind of marriage brings our the best in both individuals and creates a safe and loving home for children as well. Having a marriage I'm excited about is worth everything to me. In today's episode, you'll get to hear what I said on my friend Angelo's podcast. He recently interviewed me, and in our conversation we talked about some really great topics such as . . . Why it's important to prioritize or marriage Why sexual desire differences arise in long-term marriages (and how to solve it) How to have candid conversations with a spouse about sex And more! Resources: Episode 194: "Is this ok for us to do?" Seeking God's Direction In Your Sex Life Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Aug 2, 2024

I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband doesn't feel like his wife values sex and intimacy in their marriage Spouses wondering if erotic literature has a place in a Christian marriage A husband wanting more novelty in a sexual relationship, but don't know how to talk about it A wife feeling turned off by an overweight husband A spouse unwilling to try new things in the bedroom A wife wanting ideas to woo her husband These are real questions on the hearts of many of you listeners, and I am humbled that you would trust me with your most perplexing questions relating to sexual intimacy in your marriage. I'm on a mission to help you have the very best sexual and intimate marriage possible. And I hope that the discussion today spurs deeper conversations within you and your marriage. If you have a question you'd like to submit anonymously for me to address in a future podcast episode, fill out the form here , and that comes straight to me. **Episode 200 is coming up and I can't wait. You don't want to miss it. **Sextember is also fast approaching. This challenge starts September 1. Download the Intimately Us app to get all the details as it approaches. Resources: Episode 194: "Is this ok for us to do?" Seeking God's Direction In Your Sex Life Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Jul 26, 2024

Building a long-term, intimate marriage is the most exciting demanding and soul expanding work that many of us will ever do in this life. All of the specific challenges to confront and overcome will be different from couple to couple, but many of the same tools work for many couples. I met Keith and Lindsey through my Get Your Marriage On Program, where my team and I help couples and individuals implement various tools and strategies into their marriage to bring their intimacy to the next level. Keith and Lindsey are definitely the kinds of people you'd love to have as close neighbors and friends: they're really genuinely good people. And you can tell that they like each other very much. They've agreed to share their story with you today in hopes of inspiring you in your marriage. And this episode, Keith and Lindsay will answer questions such as the following: What misconceptions and societal pressures affect sex and marital roles? What tools help them most in their journey? How did they rewrite the many narratives and scripts that they (like all of us) inherited from their culture and families that get in the way of building a good intimate marriage and sex life? How do they balance the demands of work, kids, travel and intimacy all in marriage? If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jul 19, 2024

I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to give her husband a hand job a couple that wants to try pegging, but is unsure about it a frustrated wife that feels like all the effort she's making to improve her marriage is one sided and feels a lot of pain because of that a husband shares that the pain of being in a low intimacy marriage, where either fight about sex or have none at all, and he's tired of it a couple asks about using penis rings a frustrated wife, whose husband is only interested in sex if he's the one initiating (which is unfortunately really infrequent) a discouraged wife that must resort to using a vibrator in order to orgasm when penetrative manual oral stimulation is preferred These are real questions on the hearts of many of you listeners, and I am humbled that you would trust me with your most perplexing questions relating to sexual intimacy in your marriage. I'm on a mission to help you have the very best sexual and intimate marriage possible. And I hope that the discussion today spurs deeper conversations within you and your marriage. If you have a question you'd like to submit anonymously for me to address in a future podcast episode, fill out the form here , and that comes straight to me. Resources mentioned in today's episode: Episode 194: "Is this ok for us to do?" Seeking God's Direction In Your Sex Life Episode 87: Healing From Pornography with Zach & Darcy Spafford Get Your Marriage On Program Intimately Us App FREE TRAINING: How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Retreat testimonial videos You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Jul 12, 2024

In many marriages, there are people that feel like they do far more than their share of the relationship work, but why do they tend to take on the responsibility of their spouse's share of the relationship, especially in stressful situations? Intimate marriages are like a system like an air conditioning and heating system in your home. It works hard to keep things at an even temperature or homeostasis. When the temperature gets too high, the air conditioning kicks on to cool things down, and when the temperature gets too low, the heater kicks on to heat things up. So it's a system, a way of keeping things normal and functioning in a environment where people can live. When there's stress and anxiety in the relationship, one person may tend to be com overly responsible for the relationship to calm the other person down, to bring the relationship back into homeostasis. This is called the over-functioning / under-functioning dynamic. And it shows up in sex too. If you've ever said to yourself, "If I wasn't the person to always initiate sex here, nothing would ever happen," this could be a sign that you're an over-functioner in your sexual relationship. My guest on this episode, Dr. Kathleen Smith, is a world renowned expert on systems theory and relationships. And this is her second time on my podcast (her first appearance was episode #45). She's the author of a new book, True to You, in which she discusses the overfunctioning under-functioning dynamic in relationships and how to fix it, and that is also the topic of our discussion today. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jul 5, 2024

"I just have a hard time with some of the things you said on your podcast. How can you be okay with things like toys, lingerie, and even talk about sex so publicly like that. I grew up with the understanding that those things aren't appropriate to discuss." I can absolutely relate. This conversation with this sincere woman took me back several years ago when I was struggling with the exact same concerns. And I've been pondering her concern and reflecting on my own weeks, a month of struggles working through them. I haven't shared my podcast here in depth about the wrestle that I went through that was so profound. It's become my calling in life to help couples like you enjoy a passionate and intimate sexual relationship in your marriage. If you would have told me back then that I'd be talking about sex in nearly 200 podcast episodes with over 1.2 million downloads, along with retreats, coaching and apps, I would've thought you were completely bonkers. But then again, It, might've not been that crazy after all . . . Tune in for discussions about the things I've learned along they way that can help you in your marriage, especially how one can know and decide what is right to do in the bedroom and in your marriage and not, as well as working through conflicts and creating a thriving marriage. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Jun 28, 2024

I get asked frequently about what to do when you (or your husband) comes too quickly during sex, or has premature ejaculation. I wanted to do an in-depth episode on this topic to address the many questions that we have because frankly, sex isn't that enjoyable when it's over too quick or you just don't last as long as you'd like to. Even if this is something you don't deal with right now in your marriage, the information in this episode will teach you how to keep your sexual health in tip top shape for your marriage. My guest today is Mark Goldberg. He is a sex therapist out of Maryland that specializes in common male sexual dysfunction issues, such as premature ejaculation. You can get more information about overcoming sexual dysfunctions on his website: erectionIQ.com If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Jun 21, 2024

For most couples, there's a lot of hot passion and excitement during the early dating and engagement time and for a while after the wedding. But over time, we develop routines, scripts, and become habituated to each other. This is normal and serves a good purpose. However, herein lies the challenge: how do you create an intimate marriage with lots of passion long term? This is the very thing I research, teach, and coach about in my program and at my retreats. And I was a guest on the Redhead Reveal podcast . The host, Jen Pinkerton, is a marriage and family therapist out of Houston, and I had a great conversation with her about navigating intimacy in long term marriages. And this is the episode that we recorded that I want to release with you today. In this episode, we're going to answer the questions such asthese: Why is it hard to keep sex passionate when you've been married for a long time? What can couples do to create an environment for passion to thrive? What is validation seeking behavior and how does that tend to interfere with a healthy, intimate relationship? And I think you'll find a lot of other great golden nuggets in this episode! If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Jun 14, 2024

It's so easy to notice how our spouse is making choices that get in the way of them getting what they really want. Our brains expend tremendous amount of energy trying to get our spouses to see things our way, because from our vantage point, they're self-sabotaging, right? It's so obvious (to us anyway). Of course, our spouses think think the same thing about us. :) If you or someone you love has ever felt this way, then this podcast episode is for you. We're going to talk about relational self-awareness: what it is, how to get it, and how to build a better relationship with your lover. My guest today is Dr. Alexandra Solomon . She is a professor of marriage and family therapy at Northwestern university in Chicago. I recently read one of her books, Love Every Day, and we have a great chat about the principles in her book and those she teaches in her class. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Jun 7, 2024

For a lot of us, we associate the word "eroticism" with something that's distasteful or something that we probably shouldn't want as a Christ-loving people, right? We don't go embracing the things we see on Las Vegas billboards, for example. So eroticism to to some is kind of something hard to hear. Now, this is a concept I teach towards the end of our retreats and my program because there's a lot of groundwork to cover first to understand it. And I understand that we generally don't talk about eroticism because it's very personal. But whether you believe that the book of Songs of Solomon / The Song of Songs in the Old Testament was inspired by God or just purely, really good Hebrew poetry, we have many examples, even in the Bible, of married couples using their eroticism to create something special within their relationship, something precious. And that's the kind of eroticism I want to talk about today. It's the kind that will strengthen your marriage and bring you closer together. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com

May 31, 2024

Did you know that most couples that visit traditional sex therapy have very poor outcomes? They're still just as dissatisfied two years later as they were before therapy. Now this insight is particularly striking to me. I think this happens because conventional sex therapy has a primary focus on the individual genitals and sexual dysfunction; there isn't a lot of focus on sex in the context of a marriage relationship. I believe that both partners co-create their dynamic in the marriage. And thus, both people contribute to the challenges that they face in their relationship. In my experience, sexual struggles are actually symptomatic of deeper issues within the relationship. Recognizing the shift from the focus of merely trying to fix the sex to understanding and nurturing the entire relationship is really important. My guest today is Rhonda Farr . She is an intimacy coach and a personal friend of mine. In today's interview, you're going to hear about the time when a person asked her for sex while on an airplane. 😱 You'll get to hear her thoughts and why high achievers struggle in intimacy and in their marriage. You'll also hear us role-play what a conversation might look like when addressing sexual desire difference concerns between a husband and a wife. Learn about how to If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 24, 2024

In this episode, we're going to be talking about making penetration pleasurable, a how to make intercourse amazing, and how to close the orgasm chasm in your marriage, as well as some specific techniques on how to make sex with your spouse sweeter and more worthwhile. I love doing episodes like this because I learn a lot about how to make sex fun and meaningful in my own marriage. I'm reminded though that great sex is far more of a matter of the heart than it is about performance. I met Susan Bratton a year ago when we both shared the stage on Monica Tanner's intimacy summit. Susan is a woman in her sixties having sex like she's in her twenties. She's a gifted speaker and educator about sex and she covers a lot of material. I love how she helps me see what's possible for my wife and me in our own marriage bed. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 17, 2024

As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questions from my friend Hailey Reidhead's audience. Her listeners sent in questions which I was able to answer on her podcast, "She's a Lady," and Hailey allowed me to share it here with you. In this episode, we're going to address these great questions such as the following: Does hormonal birth control affect libido even after you stop using it? How often are couples actually having sex every week? What to do when one spouse has a much bigger sex drive and it's hard to keep up (and then you feel guilty for not having sex as often as they want) and how it feels bad telling them no so much. How to spice up a long term marriage And more! I believe building an intimate marriage is one of the most rewarding, most satisfying work we can experience in this life. I also believe strongly that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed by husbands and wives and I encourage you to ask questions and seek answers about your sexual relationship. This is why my team and I have put together the new Get Your Marriage On Program. This program is designed for busy couples that want to fix the difficulties around sex and intimacy in their marriage for good. This program isn't about new positions or ways to spice things up. It's not superficial like that. It's about going much, much deeper. This program is ideal for anyone that is experiencing mismatched libidos, hang ups around intimacy, struggles with good girl or good boy syndrome, facing challenges from pornography use, or want help with communication. People in this program get real results. Check out the details on my website. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 10, 2024

Let's get one thing out of the way right up front: dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into your heart and mind. It's a way to express the erotic part of you with your lover. It's about using your words to arouse. The nice thing about married sex, is that it's a place you can go where things don't always have to be so cleaned up, you don't have to be so buttoned up. You can be less formal with each other and use language with each other you wouldn't use in any other context, creating more arousal, intimacy, and excitement. If "dirty talk" is something you've always found awkward or have no idea where to start, you're in for a treat.This episode with Melanie Studley from the Anatomy of Us podcast will hopefully help you and your lover discover a new way to draw closer together and have some sexy fun! If you would like more help developing arousing language and sexy stories in your marriage, you might want to try our guide: From Awkward to Arousing: A Guide to "Dirty Talking" for Christian Couples . (We recorded this podcast a couple years ago, but with so many new listeners, we wanted you to have a chance to hear it, so I've gone back to the archives so that I can share it with you today. ) If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 >> Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

May 3, 2024

In this episode will get a talk about how to make from behind sex positions, such as Doggy style, better. We'll talk about sex toys. We'll talk about unrealistic sexual fantasies. We'll talk about exploring your own body for sexual understanding. We'll also talk about how to treat delayed or premature ejaculation. This is going to be a really fun episode. Just the other day, my wife and I were talking about how we, of all people were probably the least likely people on the planet to start a podcast and coaching program with the purpose of helping couples improve sex and intimacy. I guess God really does have a sense of humor. :-) Sex and marriage hasn't always come easy for my wife and I. It's something that we've learned to work towards, and it's something we'll continue to work on because it's very rewarding for us. Part of the joy comes from the building of something we expect to last beyond a lifetime. We know the work we do in our marriage and family blesses not only our lives immediately, but our children and their children, and their children's lives to with the legacy that we'll leave. And I know we're not alone in this desire. I appreciate your anonymous questions. If you'd like to ask me a question anonymously, you can submit one on our website. Show Highlights: 01:09 The Power of Marriage Coaching 03:22 Navigating Sexual Fantasies and Morals 07:09 Exploring Self and Shared Pleasure 14:11 Addressing Delayed and Premature Ejaculation 19:03 Mastering Sex Positions: Tips and Tricks 22:04 Choosing the Right Sex Toy for You 24:52 Closing Thoughts and Resources If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!

Apr 26, 2024

After recording last week's episode, but Dr. Glenn and Phyllis hill, we stayed on and chat a little longer. We got started talking about sex dates and how Glen and Phyllis look forward to this time. So I suggested we record another episode to share this fun and creative concept with you. If you miss last week's episode, we talked a lot about emotional connection. This week's episode is all about this sexual connection, and it's a fun one and full of so many nuggets! If you're like, we should totally do a sex date, but you want some specifics on how to make it amazing for yourselves, then save the dates in your calendar for July 12-14. Emily, and I will be putting on a virtual retreat where you get to join us from the comfort of your hotel room, Airbnb or bedroom. This retreat is focused on enhancing your sexual experiences as a couple. And the details are on our website. Get the Free Core Emotions Wheel referenced in the episode here. Use code DAN to get a discount on Connection Code courses as well. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Apr 19, 2024

Understanding and making sense of our emotions is absolutely essential to living well. We have parts of our brain that are responsible for making sense of our emotions. We also have parts of our brain dedicated to mapping the emotional state of those around us. Sometimes couples come to me for coaching because they don't feel emotionally connected to their spouse. There are a myriad of reasons why they're struggling in this area. So I invited Dr. Glen hill, a marriage therapist, and his wife, Phyllis, onto this podcast to talk about their story and about the role of emotional connection in marriages. One thing I learned is when we use the word connection, we mean it in like, "We're not connected," in a negative connotation. But the reality is, we are often connected, whether we like it or not. Sometimes we like the way we're connected or sometimes we don't like the way we're adversarially connected and fighting a lot. So learning to understand the difference between connection you like and and connection you don't like is an important step forward in learning how to communicate emotionally with your spouse a whole lot better . In fact, in this episode, Glenn and Phyllis are so vulnerable and they share a practice about how they relate to each other emotionally. My wife and I have been doing this practice daily for about eight months now, sp I can personally vouch for this. I encourage couples like coach to try this practice as well! Get the Free Core Emotions Wheel referenced in the episode here. If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Apr 12, 2024

I'm humbled that you'd trust me with your most urgent and private questions--I receive anonymous questions every day through our website. We address a handful of these questions today and I'll plan another Q &A episode in a few weeks. Sometimes I'll combine a few related questions together to address things more efficiently. (Go to our website to submit your questions.) As I address these questions today, I hope you see a common thread in everything I share. It's my belief that really good sex and intimacy doesn't come easily because everything of value in life takes consistent effort. Building an intimate marriage isn't supposed to be an overnight task. I want to invite you to think of it in this way: the obstacles you experienced in intimacy in your relationship is God's way of calling you to step in and grow up a little more in yourself and in your relationship with your spouse. Think of it as an invitation to learn how to take more personal responsibility, to learn to speak up, to learn, to be more humble, to be more honest, to be more patient, to be more kind, to be more compassionate, and to cherish your spouse more deeply than ever. Building a rewarding intimate marriage is indeed spiritual work. I also believe sex is very core to who we are as an individual. Sex is so very personal. As a marriage coach, I solve sexual issues in the marriage first (with lots of compassion, by the way). These are delicate and real feelings, but if a couple can get the courage to address and work through their sexual difficulties first everything else in their marriage becomes a lot easier. Whether it be finances, parenting in-laws, faith matters, or what direction the toilet paper roll should be loaded on the dispenser. I'm very grateful you've joined us today! Get ready to dive into these wonderful questions! If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!

Apr 5, 2024

Picture this. The journey of building an intimate marriage is much like a road trip through winding paths and scenic routes. Sometimes there's traffic jams. Sometimes there are stretches of long, boring highways or lonely, dark nighttime drives. Sometimes there are flat tires and detours. And then there are beautiful vistas, new destinations at thrilling speeds, and awe-inspiring, jaw-dropping scenes that move you in a profound way, leaving you forever changed. My guest today is Dr. Julie Slattery of Authentic Intimacy . She's a psychotherapist that helps Christian women embrace their sexuality. You'll get to hear Dr. Slattery open up about her own adventures and misadventures in marriage. Everything from those awkward honeymoon moments to the deeper challenges of connecting on all levels. She reminds me that while these bumps in the road are common, they're also prime opportunities for growth, not just individually, but together with our spouses. If you find the important and meaningful work of building an intimate marriage isn't as easy as you think it would have been, don't fret. You're not alone in this. In fact, every couple, even us, faces their own set of challenges behind closed doors. And that's okay. These hurdles don't have to define your relationship. It's about how we overcome these challenges that matters. As I think about my own moments of growth and building an intimate marriage with my wife, Emily, many of these moments were born out of my stumbling blocks that have turned into stepping stones for me. You'll love hearing about Dr. Julie Slattery's four pillars for a rock solid intimate relationship and stay to the end to hear her black belt sex tip too. *** If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App How to Become One: Overcoming obstacles to intimacy and significantly improving sex and connection in your marriage, in 90 days or less Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 You can find links to all these and more at our website: getyourmarriageon.com Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Mar 29, 2024

I feel called to this important work that I do in Get Your Marriage On! It is extremely important and meaningful work to me. The changes I've experienced in my own marriage were too good to keep to myself, and I wanted to share it with others. In some ways, I feel like I'm a missionary again--sharing the good news of the gospel to others. In fact, I strongly believe that there are many parallels between sexual development and spiritual development, and I'm not alone in sharing that opinion. Today, I invited Amy, Greg and Tammy, who are my colleagues and coaches in my programs and also at my retreats, to have a conversation about the most recent retreat as well as our new program. I want you to listen to the passion and empathy behind their voices. These are people that deeply care about you, your happiness in your marriage, and providing every tool possible to help you get your marriage on. *** We just launch a BRAND NEW PROGRAM today ! I hope you'll check it out and take the next leap to take your marriage to the next level! Also, as you'll hear in the episode, we had such a great time at the retreat a couple weeks ago, we've decided to make it happen again this year! Mark your calendars for October 10-13, and register today on our website!

Mar 22, 2024

I believe sex is a very powerful language. Just think an immense amount of information is communicated between two people in any sexual interaction. Last year, my wife and I read the book Replenish , by Tammy Hill. Among other things, this book describes a practice called orgasmic meditation. We went away for a weekend last fall and decided to give it a try. It was amazing for us because it made sex so much more about a meaningful connection and communication between us, rather than just rushing to orgasm. We liked the orgasmic meditation practice so much that it's become a regular routine in our marriage bed for several months. Now I wanted to do a podcast episode about it and Tammy Hill , who is a marriage and family therapist and a sex therapist and author of the book I just mentioned, kindly agreed to come on my podcast as a guest. This is a real treat for me to have her here and to share her immense wisdom with me. We talk about the principles behind slow sex, or orgasmic mediation, how to do it, and why you want to try it out!

Mar 15, 2024

Can you relate? Growing up in a good, Christian family, you conversations about sex were mostly about biological reproduction or God's word on chastity. Perhaps those conversations served you well as a teenager, but after married, you're left with a lot of questions and maybe even painful experiences as the realities of sex and marriage didn't fit with what you thought it would be. I used to think sexuality and spirituality were incompatible. However, after digging into our own Christian theology, I came to understand that it supports embodiment, sensuality, and sexuality in a very positive way. I look around and I see a God who is powerful, creative, passionate, and very personal. Of all the religions, I think ours ought to be the most sex positive. Even if you're not a Christian, there's no denying that some of the most meaningful experiences we can have is being loved and desired deeply by another person and experiencing a special kind of pleasure. And this experience is spiritual and transcendent. My guest today is Francie Winslow , a friend and the fellow podcaster. And here's some of what we talk about: Francie's story of sexual healing and growth How frequency of sexual experiences doesn't automatically translate to quality of sexual experiences How sex fits with spirituality Connected to the deeper meaning of sensuality to God's design for us Advice on creating margin in your lifestyle, so you have time and energy leftover to invest in your marriage relationship Francie's black belt sex tip at the end, which my wife and I have tried it out since the time we recorded this episode. We had such a great time doing it, we're definitely going to make it a regular part of what we do! Find out more! You can also find this episode on our YouTube channel ! You may also be interested in following us on Instagram or downloading our free app, Intimately Us!

Mar 8, 2024

For anyone listening that wishes intimacy was less conflict and more connection, this episode is for you! I messed up Two weeks ago, I released a podcast episode about dead bedrooms. I read an email from a man who is in a lot of pain around his relationship. So I addressed areas where I could see that he could work on in his relationship, but unfortunately, that episode lacked compassion and I was wrong. So I want another chance to do it again properly this time. I've been there before I've been there before, to an extent, where the quality of the intimate relationship isn't what you hope it could be. It can be extremely frustrating, lonely, and even hopeless at times when you feel like you're stuck in a relationship where everything else seems to be going well, except when it comes to sex. For the spouse with the higher desire, he or she feels rejected and hurt. For the lower desire spouse, he or she feels confused and overwhelmed. Good sex is important for a thriving marriage As I've stated before, I believe good sex is healthy for a thriving growing marriage relationship. Sex can be replenishing for the relationship. It can be bonding has many health benefits and breeds life into an otherwise mundane partnership. However, according to Justin Lee Miller PhD, he's a sex researcher he says about one in seven americans are in relationships with little to no sex. There are probably as many reasons as there are couples for why they've developed that pattern of intimacy avoidance in their marriages. It's hard to make generalizations in this area. But I am on a mission to eliminate poverty and bedrooms everywhere. I want to help couples overcome their challenges that inhibit them from fully giving generously and fully receiving the goodness that an intimate marriage can provide. I received many emails from people who are confused and struggling in their marriage and I'm grateful for your emails and your messages. With their permission. I want to share another email today. The names and other identifying details have changed, but their story is a real story. My co-host, Amy Langford, has been a guest on my podcast before (see episode number 101 ). She's a very talented marriage and intimacy coach, and works with me in my Next Level Program and teaches and coaches alongside me at our marriage retreats!

Mar 1, 2024

Today we get to talk about some really exciting topics as we answer your questions from the anonymous question form on our website: How to deal with sex and intimacy while you're pregnant and postpartum. What to do when you're hesitant about taking sexy photos or nude photos of each other. What to do when you have a spouse as obsessed with swinging and you disagree with it. What to do when a masturbation habit is interfering with intimacy and pleasure for the couple. I really appreciate your willing to open your heart and trust me with some of the difficulties that you're facing when it comes to sex and intimacy in your marriage. I hope you find something helpful in our discussion today. I love and care about you. I think about you're constantly and that prepare these podcasts episodes with you in mind. If there other future topics that you would like me to address, please reach out to me. And if you want to submit an anonymous question, you can do so on our website. I love to hear what's on your mind and how I can help you in your marriage. That's what I love to do. Looking for more? I have something big in the works: a brand new program! It's a way to bring much of what happens at the retreat to a more accessible, self-paced format. So stay tuned for that. Follow us on Instagram @getyourmarriageon.com Get all our apps and resources on our website: getyourmarriageon.com

Feb 16, 2024

I'm excited to answer some anonymous questions I have received from listeners. Some topics we cover include the following: Learning to dirty talk and flirt more How to deal with undesireable sexual side effects from medications Self-Soothing Overcoming gridlock The use of bondage in a marriage bed When grief affects sexuality Masturbation and more! If you would like to submit an anonymous question for me to answer on the podcast, on Instagram, or in an email, you can do so on our website . --- We have an exciting new program coming up at the end of March! Watch your email newsletter for more information!

Feb 9, 2024

We recently hit a major milestone with this podcast: 1 million downloads! Thank you for your support! Let's be honest here. Initiating sex is not easy at all. We want the other person to take charge and initiate, right? We worry, how are we going to be received? There's also so much of ourselves wrapped up in what it means to initiate, or not initiate, sex. And past experiences tend to influence our reluctance to initiate as well. Yet, the reality is if one of you doesn't initiate sex, sex is never going to happen in your relationship. So why is initiating sex so hard? What are some common reasons why people, me included, struggle to initiate sex sometimes? How do we get better at this very intimate act of bidding for sexual connection? I've been pondering these questions lately, and I'm grateful to meet up with James Christiansen, a licensed marriage and family therapist from Roseville, California. You'll quickly find out that he has a brilliant sharp mind and quickly cuts right to the heart of the matter. And this episode, we're going to talk about what's at the heart of initiating sex, because it gets a lot deeper than what you're probably thinking. And by the end of this episode, hopefully you'll take more courageous action to cherish your spouse more than before. Links referenced in the episode: ⬇️ Download the Intimately Us and get in on the Sextimacy Challenge before it's over! 🌟 Get info on the DIY Boudoir Date Night Box 🙋 Snag the last spot at our couples retreat coming up in just 5 weeks!

Feb 2, 2024

Do you wish you could have more powerful, more pleasurable orgasms? Or to not need to cross your legs when you sneeze? Or jump on the trampoline like you used to before kids? Studies show only about 30% of women have an orgasm from penetration. But perhaps that number could be higher if your pelvic floor (the muscles in and around your vagina) were in better condition. Research also shows that the stronger and healthier your pelvic floor muscles are, the more pleasure you'll find from orgasms (the orgasm is the most powerful pelvic floor contraction possible!), and no pain from intercourse too! Our special guest Pauli Hannan is a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist that specializes in helping women have a better life with a healthier pelvic floor. She's created No Kegel University , where she debunks the idea that you need to do more Kegel exercises or buy vaginal ben-wa balls to strengthen your pelvic floor. This episode is an abridged version of a live 90-minute workshop, and you can watch the full replay on our website . Although this content is directed towards women, men are invited to learn along. After all, men have pelvic floors that need strengthening too!

Jan 26, 2024

Today I want to talk about embracing your eroticism. This is a beautiful part of being human; your eroticism is going to be unique to you just as your fingerprints are unique to you! In this episode, we're going to address the following common questions: What is eroticism? Why is eroticism such an important part of a thriving marriage? Why are most people afraid of it? How do you figure out what your eroticism is? How do you figure out what gets you going? How do you cultivate more of this goodness in your life? And, we also give you some fun "would you rather" questions you can use as a spring board to understand your own and your spouse's erotic interests. --- Resources we mentioned in the episode: DIY Boudoir Date Night Box: We've teamed up with EveryLove Intimates to bring you this kit that brings the magic of a professional boudoir photoshoot right to the comfort of your home! Couples Retreat (only 3 spots left!) Picture this: sunny days, red rock landscapes, and outdoor adventures, coupled with a perfect balance of powerful instruction on sex and intimacy, personalized expert coaching, relaxed downtime (wink wink), in a supportive environment. So why not register today before someone else takes your spot? Come join us in March! Just Between Us app: This app is linked directly to your spouse and it encrypts everything so you never have to worry about your intimate photos or conversations accidentally going to someone unintended!

Jan 19, 2024

DIY or professionally done, boudoir photography has the potential to empower women and open their minds and hearts to their own inherent beauty, as well as add an extra spark and intimacy to a marriage. I discuss this and more with my guest today, Sierra Beltran, an experienced photographer from Arizona. In this podcast episode, we talk about the following in our deep dive on boudoir photography: How it can benefit you and your marriage What to expect What common objections there are to having boudoir photos done Concerns about faith and nudity Ways to feel more confident in your photos How to do your own boudoir photography at home with a lot of fantastic DIY tips from a professional If you're interested in DIY boudoir photography at home, I have two fantastic resources for you! EveryLove Intimated DIY Boudoir Photography Date Night Box. We have partnered with EveryLove Intimates, one of our favorite lingerie and date night box brands to create a DIY Photo box. This box comes with everything you need for a memorable at-home boudoir experience and date night. My wife and I recently did the DIY session with the items in this box, and it has definitely easily become one of our top 10, most memorable date nights. Just Between Us App . If you want to share your photos with your spouse, you can do it safely on this app. It encrypts everything so you never have to worry about your intimate photos or conversations accidentally going to someone unintended. Also, there's a feature where you can take photos now and send them later.

Jan 12, 2024

Sex can be hard for couples for many reasons. And if you feel like it's hard for you right now, you're not alone. Sex is so highly personal and it's a very anxious behavior, yet it's also at the core of who we are. So it's like this dichotomy: we want to be close to another person, yet, in order to get there, we have to overcome a lot of nervousness and anxiety in order to enjoy that. And by the way, sex is so much more than just two bodies bumping into each other; our minds and our spirits are highly involved in sex as well. Humans are the only species on earth capable of making meaning in sex. Dogs don't have sex and think, "Oh, he really loves me." Or, "She was really into that." Dogs and other animals don't do that. It's a very human thing to find meaning in sex. And, that's a double-edged sword for a lot of people. The anxiety in sex make sex a horrible experience or a difficult experience to enjoy for some people. But the flip side of that is the transcendent capacity for deep connection that can come through sex. It is one of the most unique human and wonderful things about being a person. So in this episode, we dive deep into why sex can be hard for couples. Understanding our hangups and why we have them is the first step to overcoming them! -- Valentine's Day is coming up, and that means so is our 14-Day Sextimacy Challenge! Watch the Intimately Us app for more details! Our free workshop coming up on January 19 will be all about increasing pelvic floor health. Strong pelvic floors benefit us in so many ways. I hope you'll join us! Details will be hitting your inbox soon. The life-changing Get Your Marriage On! couples retreat is coming up just around the corner. There are only a couple weeks left to sign up before registrations are closed! Grab your spot today!

Jan 5, 2024

Who in your relationship has more of a say in general, who in your relationship organizes themselves around the other more? Are there any unaddressed resentments that you deal with in your relationship right now, do some things feel just one sided in your marriage? Couples that thrive have a shared sense of power in the relationship power in this context is defined as note shared power shared influence. One person can receive the influence from the other. The moment we start creating hierarchies in our relationship. Meaning one person is more important than the other, or the general order of things goes like, no, God husband, wife, for example. When we create these hierarchies in our relationship, we set ourselves up for power struggles and this often undermines sexual desire and intimacy in the marriage. I work with couples that want to grow their sexual relationship. And that's one of the purposes of this podcast. The reality is you grow the sexual relationship by strengthening the marriage and upgrading the relationship dynamic. One way to quickly improve your sex life is by paying close attention to the power dynamics at play in a relationship. And some of them might be invisible to you or very covert. My guest today is Bonnie Young . She's a licensed marriage and family therapist licensed in Utah in Washington state. She's also currently working on her PhD. She's super smart, caring. And as you'll get to know, very experienced in this topic we're going to talk about today. She's also a mom of two, almost three children and runs a mental health clinic with almost a dozen therapists working for her in two states in her spare time. --- Ready to level up your marriage this year? Check out our romantic and life-changing marriage retreat coming up this March! --- For more fun, connection, and intimacy daily, download our free app: Intimately Us

Dec 29, 2023

Five years ago, around the campfire with friends, one man told me about this amazing trip he and his wife made to Thailand where they camped out on the beach in this pristine tropical bay. And another friend told me about his trip to the Dominican Republic at is all inclusive resort, just he and his wife. And another guy talked about this cruise, he and his wife went on and all these fun and exciting trips with just their wives. And I was so, feeling sorry for myself. I had extreme case of FOMO. I wanted to get away with my wife, but I just felt like I couldn't because of the circumstances in my life. Long story short, we finally made that trip happen. We had so much fun and we just really needed this time together, this time away. And that experience of getting away just the two of us really nourished our relationship and boosted us like nothing else. So since that time we've gone at least on one weekend away together every three months, about four times a year, and it's become something we really look forward to doing in our marriage. And it's become a staple for helping our relationship thrive. In this episode, you get to hear a little bit more about this vacation my wife and I finally went on, but you also hear from a Romance Consultant, Joise McEwen , about how to plan your own romantic getaway, how to make vacation sex successful, and hopefully gain inspiration to make a getaway a goal for your marriage. --- If you want to take you getaway up a level, check out our couples retreat coming up in March! Get all the details at getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ . And if you're looking for ways to add fun and spice to the bedroom on the regular, on vacation or not, check out the Intimately Us app!

Dec 22, 2023

For a lot of couples, Christmastime is a really stressful time of the year. There's a lot of end of year projects for work and school; there's also gift shopping and preparations for guests and meals and Christmas cards and dinners and parties, and the list just keeps going on and on and on. And if you have children, it just multiplies the complexity by every child that you have in your home. But Christmastime can also be a very special, sexy time of year. Think about it. Think of all the romantic, Christmas-themed movies that we love. Think about the time you get a snuggle by a fire. Think about the fun that you can have with your spouse when the world kind of slows down for a little bit. It can become a very sexy time. In fact, a friend pointed out to me that, in the United States at least, we have the highest birth rate at the end of August, early September. I didn't believe him. So I double checked it. And it's true! In the United States, we have the most births in late August, early September. Which means most people are being conceived around Christmas time. And I want this to be a very sexy time for you too! So I'm going to offer you 12 sexy Christmastime tips in this episode! Helpful links: Intimately Us Get Your Marriage On! Couples Retreat Tammy Hill's book, Replenish

Dec 15, 2023

There's something magical about setting aside three to four days away with your spouse, where you can relax and have fun and enjoy working on aspects of your relationship that are going to give you a big boost and forward momentum. And our Get Your Marriage On! retreat next March could be just the thing to help renew and revitalize your marriage like it did for the past attendees you'll hear from in this episode. Find out more about what is included, what the retreat is like, and most importantly, the results for the couples who have come in the past. (Hint: they were transformative!) I hope you'll join us in March 2024 for this life-changing experience! Get all the details here: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/

Dec 8, 2023

Picture this: It's a typical day. You're lying in bed. Snoozing your alarm clock for the third time, your resolve to get to the gym weakening. You were interrupted again last night from a child that needed you. And as you awake the demands of the day, press on you. Lists appear in your mind what shopping needs to be done, which child has which appointment, the field trip that you volunteered to go on, the assignment at church you agreed to do, and so on and so on. You get out of bed already tired to go about your morning routine. But today, a genie appears and grants you a special wish for one day. You can do what you want to do. What would you decide? What would you do? Have you lost yourself? My friend and guest, Ariel Finlinson , years ago was in a situation where her husband and kids are going to be out of town for a few days. And she had an entire weekend to herself. She had no idea what she'd do with her time. That's the day she realized that she had somehow lost herself in motherhood. She had lost touch of herself, lost the relationship with herself in her busy and noble life of mothering. As you know, this podcast is dedicated to helping Christian couples get out of a rut in their sex life. Today's topic isn't sexy, per se, but it's really important and ties into developing a stronger sex life. The relationship with ourselves is crucial to our relationship with others. You can't give from an empty well, and you can't lift others to higher ground if you're not on higher ground yourself. Ariel recently received her master's degree in family life education. She's super fun, sharp. And the host at the Ladies Talking Love podcast. Today, we're going to talk about five ideas for mothers to reconnect with themselves in their life. Click here for Ariel's free download, "Find Yourself After Kids, " that we mentioned in the episode. Take Care of Yourself and Your Relationship Something you can do to nourish yourself, get some rest, have fun and connect with your spouse in a deeper, profound way is to get away once in a while together. And there's no better way to do that than to attend our upcoming couples retreat in March . Registration is open and you won't want to miss it. During the retreat, we'll do a deep dive into your relationship and give you real practical tools to help you get out of a rut, do away with resentment and free yourself from the frustrations and limitations you currently face. You'll walk away from this retreat feeling rejuvenated with lots of hope in your relationship and just feeling great together again. And this retreat is also balanced with a lot of fun activities like ATVing in the desert or canyoneering near Zion national park. To make this an unforgettable weekend, sign up today !

Dec 1, 2023

Today is a Q &A episode. I get anonymous questions, which you can send me through my website , and I go through those regularly. And today we're going to address a few of the common questions that I'm getting in this podcast episode. Today, we're going to cover topics such as the following: How to get more comfortable with flirting, dirty talk wearing lingerie, etc, as a newlywed. How do you ask for things in bed? Premature ejaculation. A concern from a wife about how her husband has some excessive masturbation habits How do you talk about difficult things with their spouse when they tend to shut down and withdraw? Now I have a very special invitation for you. You're invited to join us for our next marriage retreat that we will have here in my hometown, St. George Utah. St. George is like a Mecca for outdoor living. It's got red rocks. It's in the desert. It's got world-renowned canyons, like the Zion National Park and Snow Canyon. We're going to spend some of that time outside ATVing in the desert or canyoneering out by the national parks. We'll also have this beautiful location that we've picked out. It's private. We've rented out the entire resort. And you get to have instruction with me and my team. We talk, we do a deep dive in your relationship, taking it apart, putting it back together and upgrading your marriage. Make this time in March, be the thing that would give you forward momentum in your relationship to build a strong you in 2024. We only have 20 spots for this. So the time to act is now you can register at, get your marriage on.com and click on couples retreat. And while you're there, look at some of that testimonials and videos of others that have attended the retreat. So you get an idea for what it's like.

Nov 24, 2023

One pernicious thought the often gets in the way of our intimacy is a thought that we can put the romance and desire side of our marriage on the back burner while we raise our children. The reality is the greatest gift we can give our children right now is for us as parents to have a thriving marriage and erotic relationship that feels alive. Prioritizing desire in our relationship, within reason, has done wonders for our marriage. So today I've invited three, yes, three guests onto my podcast. This trio is part of Kingdom Sexuality , where their mission is to help Christian couples see God's design for sex. They also have a great Instagram account, by the way. Alana, Kyle, and Tiera each are married and have children. And we're going to have a frank conversation about practical things to keep strong desire while you're still raising young children. Take some time just for the two of you! And the other thing you can do for your marriage and for your children is to get away once in awhile with your spouse. And there's no better way to do that than attend our next couples retreat in March. Registration is open and you won't want to miss it. We'll do a deep dive into your relationship and give you real practical tools to help you get out of a rut, do away with resentment, and free yourself from the frustrations and limitations you're currently facing in your marriage. We do this by building on top of your strengths and helping you see a clear path forward so that you have hope and excitement in the future of your marriage. This is all, of course, in balance with fun activities to do on the retreat, like ATV in the desert or canyoneering near Zion National Park. To make this an unforgettable weekend, register today on our website .

Nov 17, 2023

To love and be loved wholeheartedly. It's life's sweetest gift. Marriages thrive when there's two forces working together love and desire. By love, I mean, the qualities like attentiveness, which is like being a good listener, kindness, a feeling of home and belonging in the relationship and loyalty. On the other hand, by desire I mean a sense of passion, excitement, pursuit, adventure, mystery, and fun. We need both of those things in a good marriage. And to really love someone and to really desire someone with all of your heart, it's often a function of how developed and mature we are. Did you know that there are stages of development and romantic and sexual relationships as there are in other aspects of life? And how do you grow from whatever stage you are now to your next stage and become a better lover? I've been podcasting consistently every week without fail for almost three years now. Can you believe it?! And one of my personal most favorite teachers of all time is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife , who you'll get to meet in just a moment. We recorded this podcast a long time ago. And because we have so many new listeners on this podcast, I've gone back to the archives to make sure you all get a chance to hear it! Keep Your Marriage Burning Bright Marriages need more help to stay strong today than ever. And that's why we just opened registration for upcoming marriage retreat in St. George Utah for March, 2024. Retreats are an exciting way to spend some time away and we give you the tools you need to build a stronger sexier marriage and you get to meet other couples, have good food, go on excursions and just have this amazing experience to keep the fires of love and passionate desire burning bright in your relationship for years to come. Register today on our website .

Nov 10, 2023

Oftentimes in our quest to have a deeper, more intimate marriage, it's really not a question of whether you want to be loved or loved more. It's really a question of a capacity to love or be loved more. In my work with couples and individuals, helping them grow intimately in their marriages, one of the very first things I teach them is how to be more mindful. Most of us cruise through the day on autopilot, not quite aware of the thoughts that go through our head. However, when we develop the skill of slowing down and observing our thoughts, we can then shape our thinking to higher levels. In the past, as a Christian, I thought that the whole mindfulness and meditation thing was for Zen Buddhists, but the more I dive into my own beliefs, I see mindfulness built right into my religious practices because what is prayer, the Sabbath, time in God's word, but an invitation for stillness and mindfulness. Higher levels of thinking are required in order to grow one's capacity to love and be loved. And this has nothing to do with IQ. It has everything to do with learning how to be more present and honest with your thoughts. That's why I'm so excited about my guest today. His name is Dr. Ty Mansfield . Ty is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a professor of marriage and family life at Brigham Young University. I first came across Ty's work when I read his book on mindfulness and it changed the way I approached my life in so many aspects. *** COUPLES RETREAT: I am so excited to announce that registration is now open for our next couples retreat March 14-17, 2024 in beautiful, sunny St. George, Utah, which is also my hometown. This retreat is ideal for couples that want to take the intimacy in their marriage to the next level. Watch some testimonials here! *** COACHING: Register any time for our coaching program, Next Level, for coaching resources, and a great community. *** WORKSHOP: Join us for our next workshop all about slow sex on November 22! And remember that all of our guides and workshops are 20% off this month!

Nov 3, 2023

Are you looking for a big shift in your relationship? The men in my coaching program continually see these shifts in amazing ways. They feel more grounded. They see themselves more clearly. They feel more confident in their own skin. They stand on their own two feet better. They're at more peace with their God-given sexuality and who they are, and their wives take notice and often make changes and adjustments themselves too. I am so excited that we are starting another men's coaching cohort on Sunday, November 8! In this episode, you'll learn all about the program and what kind of things you can expect to learn and ways you can grow to achieve the marriage you've always dreamed of. Register now for the men's only coaching program ! You can also hear from other men who have gone through this program. I look forward to seeing you next week!

Oct 27, 2023

I have a background in computer science and I love writing code. Nerdy, right? The better the code, the better the program. A program can't run better than the code it's written from. The way we express our sexuality is the same way. We can't out-sex ourselves beyond the thoughts we have about sex. This is one reason why I am a big believer in marriage and sex coaching. I help my clients to recognize their current thoughts about sex and their marriage, and invite them to reprogram their thoughts to elevate and improve their thoughts about sex so that they can live happier, more fulfilling lives. So many marriages can do better if they take the time to think about what they think about sex and their relationship. If more couples did this, we could eliminate poverty from bedrooms everywhere! My guest today is Heather Flake . Heather is a fellow life coach that helps married women love who they are in their marriage more. If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more: FREE MASTERCLASS Next Level Intimacy Program Private Coaching Workshops Apps Guides AND MORE!

Oct 20, 2023

Today I want to talk about what to do when you want to want to have sex but you don't feel in the mood for it yet. Although it would be nice to get in the mood, you know that it's going to take time and energy to get there, and it's tempting to just postpone sexy time to another time when you'll have more energy. But when you think about scheduling sex, it feels like yet another thing to add to the to-do list. So there it goes again: sex feels like work rather than play, and it gets put on the back burner. Again. This episode covers reasons that couples struggle with play and foreplay, and then 7 actionable ways to add relaxed playfulness into your relationship and sexual encounters! Remember that if you plan on building an exciting, intimate marriage that lasts a lifetime, it requires healthy doses of newness injected into your marriage regularly. We all go through seasons, but the best way to keep your sex life out of a rut is to keep things fresh and new. Some of the suggestions in this episode are going to take some effort to prepare. But even the preparation can be part of the fun! It builds anticipation! Here are links to some of the resources discussed in today's episode: Episode 89, "Foreplay Throughout the Day" Intimately Us App Sheets and Ladders Game How to Have Shower Sex Slip & Slide Date Night Tutorial

Oct 13, 2023

The famous psychologist Carl Jung once said, "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." Intimate marriages require a lot of intimate contact in terms of body, mind, head, and soul. It's also why I believe marriage, especially sex in marriage, is the most sure-fire path to grow up and mature to attain your best and highest version of yourself. The principles I want to share with you in today's episode is that when you have a better grasp of your own light and shadow, and your spouse's light and shadow, you can work with each other's strengths to create a remarkable marriage. This requires self awareness and practice of course. One of the tools I've found that has helped me understand myself and my wife better is the Enneagram personality typing. Today I've invited Christa Hardin to my podcast to talk more about it. I've read her recent book, The Enneagram and Marriage, and I wanted her to share some of her insights and experience with you to help you get your marriage on. You can learn more about her book and purchase it on her website or Amazon . Free enneagram test: https://personalitypath.com/free-enneagram-personality-test/ If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more: FREE MASTERCLASS Next Level Intimacy Program Private Coaching Workshops Apps Guides AND MORE!

Oct 6, 2023

I love hearing your success stories! If you would like to share yours on the podcast, please fill out this form . This episode covers six of the anonymous questions I've received this month. You all sure send me some really good questions! If you would like to submit an anonymous question, you can do so on our website . Today we answer questions about fetishes, shame, anal play and how we overcome awkwardness and the "gross factor." I also address talking to our partners about the hard stuff, what to do when we don't share their perspective or want them to do something differently. Ultimately, it's all about how we can know and be known by our spouses and make room for both spouses to be equal partners in all things. Thanks for listening! If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more: FREE MASTERCLASS Next Level Intimacy Program Private Coaching Workshops Apps Guides AND MORE!

Sep 29, 2023

I strongly believe one of the paths to a stronger marriage is by doing the work necessary to have a great sex life as a couple. Why start with sex? It's because there's such a strong link between pleasure and connection. When you increase and broaden the pleasure you experience as a couple, you'll find your emotional and spiritual connection deepen as well. Besides, doing the work necessary to have great sex forces individuals to learn how to deeply love their spouse like they've never loved before; it requires trust, self-confidence, and an open heart. In short, developing your sexual relationship leads to more personal growth than anything else. Unfortunately, there's an orgasm gap in many marriages. Although orgasm isn't the only measure of a great sex life, it's a good enough proxy measure for the pleasure a couple enjoys in sex. I believe women are just as capable of sexual pleasure than men, if not more capable than men. And even though just about every person on the planet is capable of experiencing the pleasure of orgasm in sex, in far too many marriages women aren't experience orgasm as frequently as men do. Today my guest is my friend Amanda Louder . Amanda is a fellow marriage and intimacy coach. She is the host of the podcast, Sex For Saints. We're going to talk about practical strategies to help you overcome your orgasm gaps in your marriage today. We're also going to talk about sex toys that are used as an aid for pleasure as a couple. Did you know that over 70% of those that responded to my poll on Instagram say that they have used or currently use a vibrator? Many people are curious about trying a vibrator but don't know where to go to buy one without feeling weird about it. If that's you, open the Intimately Us app and go to the Learn Section, then Products We Love for my personal recommendations from trusted companies and brands.

Sep 22, 2023

RETREAT FLASH SALE: We've sold out of the main hotel (Hotel Lucy), but we're offering some spots at an overflow hotel next door at a discounted rate! It's $300 off right now through Sunday, September 24. PLUS, if you send us a DM on Instagram @getyourmarriageon, we'll send you a code to get another $100 off! This is the best price you'll get, so don't delay! Get the details here. *** We're going back in time a couple years today as I'm bringing back an episode from our archives. I'm doing this for a few reasons: We have acquired many new listeners on this podcast. Related to number 1, many of you may not have heard my origin story and the background to Get Your Marriage On! and our app Intimately Us. The biggest reason this episode is really special to me is my wonderful wife, Emily, who is as introverted as they come, was willing to be a guest on this podcast with me, so you get to hear her voice and her side of the story as well. We were interviewed by a friend, Ariel Finlanson, who hosts the podcast Ladies Talking Love. I do the Get Your Marriage On! podcast because I want to share what I'm learning with everyone. The reality is I'm not that different from many of you. I am on this journey and I'm just so excited that you can come along with me for the ride as I share the things that I'm learning alongside with you.

Sep 15, 2023

Just a few spots left for our retreat! Register today! After Dark Role-Play Workshop is tonight (Sep 15)! Sexual fantasies can let you explore and try on new ideas to break away from the mundane and ordinary. When used properly, they can deepen your appreciation for what you have as well as take your relationship to new heights! I hope by the end of this episode you're convinced of the value of sexual fantasies in your relationship as well as specific tools on how you can use your sexual fantasies to deepen your intimate connection as a couple as well as make sex really fun and exciting! Along the way today, I'm going to answer questions I've received from many of you such as these: "I'm embarrassed to tell my husband that I fantasize during sex. Is there anything wrong with that?" "How do I tell my spouse about my fantasies?" "I asked my wife what her sexual fantasies are. She said she doesn't have any. I find it hard to believe anyone doesn't have sexual fantasies. Does she really not have any or is she just reluctant to tell me?" "I'm embarrassed about my fantasies. They're inappropriate! What's wrong with me?" "My spouse keeps telling me about his fantasies and I'm put off by it! How do I tell him how I feel about it?"

Sep 8, 2023

Any of you with children are quite familiar with stages of child development. However, less talked about and less understood until recently are stages of adult development. As adults, our bodies may have grown, but our mind and spirits still continue to grow. I love this interview you're about to hear with my friend Tammy. It's an inspiring and relatable story about Tammy and her husband, Jake, and how they grew and progressed in their relationship. Tammy talks about her journey to break out of a limiting mindset and to embrace her own sexual desires and needs. She mentions that a turning point was when her husband enrolled them in a course related to sexual development and introduced her to a couple's retreat. These experiences opened her eyes to the possibility of change and growth in this area. We also discuss how curiosity, open-mindedness, and gradual steps were key components of Tammy's journey. She describes a process of shedding her need for external validation, which allowed her to change and grow without being dependent on other people's opinions. She also emphasizes the importance of self reflection learning how to love herself. I hope this episode also inspires and gives hopes to listeners who wish their spouse would step up more in the sexual arena in their marriage. Listen closely to what Jake did that gave room for Tammy to grow and try new things. If you're looking for support in your growth and intimacy in your marriage like Tammy and Jake did, I highly recommend you get on our website and book a spot at our upcoming couples retreat in Texas at the end of October. Our retreats are romantic, they're fun, as well as really in depth. They're a perfect balance of instruction and unstructured downtime to really enjoy a getaway with your lover. It's right around the corner, and spots are filling up quickly, so please register today.

Sep 1, 2023

SEXTEMBER STARTS TODAY (September 1)! Read here for more . Many of our podcast episodes are interviews with guests. I often invite my guests to share what I call a black belt sex tip . The idea for this comes from my own martial arts training I did for 13 years, and it applies to building a great sexual relationship with your spouse in your marriage too. It's that there's always going to be a next level. Your growth never stops. You must master the basics before enjoying the higher level tactics in training. So, this is episode number 150. And I want to give you a roundup of the best black belt sex tips that my guests have taught me over the last 50 episodes. It's geared towards couples that have mastered the basics and are ready for their next level. We have just a few openings left for our October Marriage and Intimacy Retreat in Granbury, Texas , which is just outside of the Dallas Fort Worth area. It's limited to about 20 couples only. You get to spend 4 days and 3 nights with your sweetheart, receive great instruction, enjoy good company, eat excellent food, participate in fun activities, and enjoy beautiful surroundings. Besides, we take you on a deep dive into your relationship to help you unlock your next level to a closer and more intimate relationships and better sex in your relationship. Sign up today!

Aug 25, 2023

What popular media has taught us The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are seducing and being pursued. Our culture is saturated with these tropes and themes: think James Bond, Indiana Jones, or many other shows that show this theme. But what happens if you're in a marriage where you, as the wife, find yourself often pursuing him? And he's the one withdrawing, needing to be wooed? Or you're the one with more acceptance and freedom about your sexuality, eager to explore and pursue novelty and sexual fun while he's not so sure about his sexuality or has a lot of hangups? Is it because you're not attractive enough? It's common for women in these marriages to feel like they must not be attractive enough. You might have gone through a lot of effort to look and dress pretty (or undress) for the occasion and his rejection can really hurt. It's disregulating to feel rejected, and you wonder what's wrong with you. It's easy to get reactive in these situations, and start a downward spiral. You may even be wondering what you can do to get him interested in you sexually, or wonder why he withdraws, encouraging you to pursue even more. Let's ask a therapist AND higher desire wife My guest today is Dr. Laurie Watson . She's a sex therapist and marriage therapist and also a married woman who is the one with more sexual desire and the pursuer in her own marriage. I figured she's uniquely qualified to answer questions I've had about higher desire wives. I've found this conversation enlightening and refreshing. Laurie even gives very specific step-by-step suggestions on how to approach the subject with your spouse and how to build a better sexual relationship. Get Help If you're in a marriage where there's hard feelings because of a gap between the pursuer or distancer, or find differences in sexual desire levels to be a sore topic, don't stay there in misery. Get help. Check out Next Level , my coaching program for couples. You can meet with me and my team. It's really affordable, flexible, has TONS of value, and geared towards busy couples. Another option is our in-person intensive in Dallas Forth Worth Texas area this October. Our retreats are 4 days, 3 nights and are in-depth and challenging in a good way. They're also really fun and romantic too! We have a few spots left. You can reserve your spot here! Free Coaching Come experience what coaching is like with my free marriage coaching hour on September 1. Register here!

Aug 18, 2023

Expert marriage coaching can facilitate accelerated growth, overcoming obstacles in weeks or months that might otherwise take years to do on your own. Coaching has made a huge impact on my marriage. Two years ago, I went back to school and learned how to coach others too. I'm now full time with Get Marriage On! and I desire nothing more than to help you have a fulfilling, intimate marriage! Today, you get to be like a fly on the wall, listening in to a real coaching session with a wonderful couple, Hannah and James. (Note that these aren't their real names and I have permission to share this excerpt with you.) I want to invite you to try marriage coaching with me. I have an extremely affordable program unlike anything else out there. I call it Next Level because I believe no matter where you are or where you think you are in your marriage now, there's always going to be a next level. My program is designed to help you reach your next level through our weekly calls, a private podcast, its own dedicated mobile app that ties you to the community of hundreds of other next levelers. And it comes with tons of bonuses. There's also a men's and women's private group, and you can be as anonymous as you would like to be and participate as much or as little as you're comfortable doing. And if you're still unsure, on Friday, September 1st at noon Mountain Time, I'll be hosting a free marriage coaching hour , where you can come and get coached at no charge to see how it can benefit you. And if you'd like a more intensive experience, check out our couples retreat coming up on October 26! It's going to be amazing!

Aug 11, 2023

I've been looking forward to this podcast episode for months! As I think ahead into my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond, I want to have a healthy and vibrant sex life. I want my body, specifically my penis, to serve both of us in creating pleasurable and intimately connecting experiences for many years to come. Lots of men, and I'm in this category too, really like their penis and get concerned when it doesn't function as they expect. Good strong erections are indications for a man's health and vitality, as well as a means to pleasure too. Many men and their lovers have questions about erectile dysfunction, lasting longer in bed, testosterone, and much more relating to men's sexual health. So how do we take better care of our sexual health, and when we get sick, how can we get better? My guest today is Joshua Savage, a friend of mine who also is a urologist. Thanks in advance to many of you that shared your questions about male sexual health via our Instagram account. If you don't follow me yet, I recommend you do so now ! There's lots of great content and some funny reels there too. After listening to this podcast, you might have questions about your own sexual functioning from a psychological point of view. If you're interested in getting coaching to help you through mental struggles interfering from all the pleasure you could be enjoying in your sexual relationship, contact me about marriage coaching . It's like getting a personal trainer for your marriage, and you're just one coaching session away from a more meaningful, pleasurable, and intimate sex life. Which leads me to my next point: getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it ! If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway

Aug 4, 2023

I have to say, Wow! I invited my listeners and readers to submit anonymous questions to me, and I've been blown away by the response. You have all asked some great questions! So this episode will be another session answering some of those questions that you've asked. Each day, the questions accumulate, and I don't think I'll ever be able to answer all of them on this podcast or my email newsletter, though I will do my best to be consistent on all those platforms. However, I would recommend that if you really desire to get your marriage and sex questions answered and get some help moving forward to moving that needle in your relationship, that you give my next level coaching program a try. In this episode we discuss the following: What a husband should do to help his wife who hasn't been able to orgasm What a wife can do to help herself orgasm more often and enjoy the sexual experience with her husband more. A husband struggles with his self esteem because of his premature ejaculation. Different definitions of sex and getting over the idea that women "should" climax with penetration. How to deal with the affects of antidepressants on a sexual relationship. Why it's hard to be a higher desire spouse (but not necessarily a bad thing) Other things to know: In Next Level, which is a coaching program, not only are your questions answered, but we're there with you every step of the way to help you build a more intimate and joyful marriage. If you'd like to experience coaching, to see how it works, I'm offering a free coaching session on September 1st. Sign up here! On August 16, I'll be hosting a workshop all about navigating differences in sexual desire. This is probably the most common issue couples have in their sexual relationship. So we'll be diving deep into how and why sexual differences happen and solutions for couples to overcome those differences and create greater connection and intimacy in the relationship. We recently published a new digital product called the Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Husband , which is a companion to our previously published Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Wife . We also have several other guides and products on our website. Lastly, as you make plans for the fall, why not schedule a weekend away for just the two of you? Better yet, why not make your getaway even more meaningful by attending our marriage retreat coming up in October in the Dallas Fort worth Texas area ? These retreats are in depth and designed to challenge you as a couple while balancing it with fun and romance.

Jul 28, 2023

My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations around sex were usually limited to biological reproduction or staying pure from sexual thoughts. These messages served me well before we were married but after we were married, we realized that these models led to anxiety about sexuality and difficulty with our sexual relationship. These issues didn't really surface until after a decade into our marriage, when we weren't so entrenched in survival mode from raising a young family any longer and could actually take a breath and focus on our relationship again. I'm grateful for the many resources that helped me grow my understanding of marriage and sex in marriage. Specifically, where at first I thought spirituality and sexuality were incompatible, the examples of teachers like my guests on today's podcast helped me see that spirituality and sexuality actually go together. Fast forward a few years I'm grateful for the privilege of coaching other couples in growing their marriage intimately. It's now what I do for work full time, and I hope this podcast, our apps, retreats, workshops, and other resources are helping you build a stronger marriage. One of the common issues I see with my clients as a marriage coach is how "duty sex" or viewing sex as something just for the man for example often limits a couple's ability to grow sexually. Another has to do with one's interpretation of biblical teachings around sex growing up, and how those views are often antithetical to building an intimate marriage. Another has to do with sexual performance pressure. And sexual dysfunction. We get to talk about all of these things and much more in this episode with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner. As my guests will attest, getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it by going to getyourmarriageon.com, click on Retreats, and then DFW retreat. If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway and check out the videos shared by past retreat attendees sharing their experience to get a feel for what it's all about. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jul 21, 2023

Today is a really fun episode that I have planned with you. I emailed my mailing list a few weeks ago, asking for anonymous questions and I got a ton of questions. So today we're going to go through a lot of these great questions that you asked. There's a lot of value in asking good questions. First, it opens your mind to other possibilities. Second, it invites you to change. Even if it's just microscopic, it changes your lifestyle or your attitude about certain things. And number three. It puts you in a position where he can receive instruction, receive coaching or whatever it is for you to really level up things in your relationship. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jul 14, 2023

This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate connection in the future. My wife and I are beginning our fifth decade in life. We had a discussion the other night about what kind of sex life we want to have in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s and beyond! Having a long term vision for your sex life will bring up things that are important to address. For example, you might find it difficult to find sex pleasurable, have some hang-ups around sex that you want to overcome, or you might have a tendency to withdraw emotionally when you feel rejected, or it might be time to finally address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation. Today's guest is Dr. Michael Sytsma , a licensed sex therapist and evangelical pastor. Michael is the author of an excellent book called The Secrets of Sex and Marriage . I absolutely loved his insights about the importance of exploring sensuality and pleasure in various aspects of life, not just sexual experiences. In this episode you'll hear us talk about the role of mindfulness and being present in one's body, as well as the significance of connecting arousal with emotional intimacy and connection within the relationship. We'll emphasize that a healthy and fulfilling sex life requires a holistic approach that considers spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational aspects. Most of all, we'll talk about being seductive to our spouse, and what that means. And sometimes building a great sex life requires grieving the things you're not going to be getting. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jul 7, 2023

My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage. I love these questions. They're genuine and honest. And I'm grateful to Hailey for allowing us to share this discussion on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast today because I think you might be wondering about many of the same questions that Hailey was asking, such as these: How do you talk to your kids about sex and intimacy? If you're single or recently divorced, how can you continue to grow sexually? How do you talk to your spouse about your sexual desires or dislikes without making it awkward or offending them? What role does masturbation play in marriage? What impact does pornography use have on the sexual relationship? When you've been married a long time How do you spice things up? And most importantly Dan, what are some of your black belt sex tips? :) For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jun 30, 2023

*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!* Even though half of the people on the planet have menstrual cycles, it's a taboo topic in many cultures. My guest today is Cody Sanders, a functional medicine and holistic health practitioner that's devoted her professional life to helping women feel more like themselves especially when it comes to their hormone balance, menstrual cycle, and libido (or sex drive). Cody is a founder of Mixhers , a company devoted to women's health. In this episode, you'll get to hear: What natural herbs have been used for thousands of years to support healthy hormone balance in women? What foods or nutrients can naturally boost libido in women? What are two things most women don't know about their bodies and hormones? What is the one thing most men get wrong about a women's cycle? And of course, Cody shares her black belt sex tip. Note: If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy ​​episode #95 with Ashlee Sorensen titled Hormones, Periods, and Sex: https://getyourmarriageon.com/95-hormones-periods-and-sex-with-ashlee-sorensen/ For more great content like this, check out the following resources: After Dark Series Workshops ( Fellatio and Cunnilingus ) Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jun 23, 2023

Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they're really REALLY hard work to make great. But it's work worth doing. In my own personal experience, as well as working with other couples, there's a pattern I see of entanglement: where you and your spouse are emotionally wrapped up in each other like a tangled ball of yarn, not able to see which end is which. Then there are other couples that distance themselves emotionally from their spouse. In the world today there seems to be an over emphasis on ME-culture, which leads to toxic individualism. That isn't healthy for a relationship either. My guest today is Aimée Gianni . She's a friend of mine as well as a marriage family therapist. She's very wise, experienced, and has spoken at a couple of my marriage retreats in the past as a guest speaker. In our conversation today, you'll get to hear about: The difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage and how you can tell which one you have. Entanglement and toxic individualism and how to get yourself out of their traps. How roles we've inherited play a role in our marriage dynamic, and what steps you can take to choose a better path in your relationship. And you'll get to hear Aimee's black belt sex tip too! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jun 16, 2023

In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are entrepreneurs. There's a lot of stress that happens in the marriage relationship, especially in the sexual relationship for entrepreneurs. And I want to do a podcast episode dedicated to all listeners where one, or both of you are in the middle of building a business. As Americans we love a good underdog story and often romanticize the entrepreneurial journey – especially those that make sacrifices, take risks, overcome obstacle after obstacle, and eventually come out on top. As a career entrepreneur myself, I've come to realize that the entrepreneurial journey isn't as glamorous as it seems to be. Another thing people don't talk about is that entrepreneurship is often very hard on marriages, in fact, as you'll hear in this episode, divorce is more common among couples where one or both spouses are entrepreneurs. My guest today is Monica Tanner . She's a marriage and intimacy expert and runs several programs for couples to strengthen their marriages. She's also an entrepreneur, married to a successful entrepreneur. In this episode we'll talk about the following: The two intimacy killers that entrepreneur couples often fall prey to. The one superpower that entrepreneurs have that is often overlooked to build a strong marriage The one simple yet powerful thing you can do to keep your intimacy and sexual relationship alive, even when things are stressful and chaotic For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jun 9, 2023

Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to share with you today are the following: Ditch the goals during sex. Enjoy arousal for arousal sake. Make sex a priority and schedule sex the right way. Get comfortable talking about sex. Learn and utilize erogenous zones. Reduce stress for more sexual desire. Look forward to sex as a time to recharge, refresh, escape. Communicate during sex. Live orgasmically I hope you enjoy celebrating International Lovemaking Day today! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

Jun 2, 2023

According to a recent Instagram poll on our Instagram account, I learned that 80% of couples incorporate oral sex into their lovemaking, and 77% of them said they'd love tips on how to make it better. So let's talk about blowjobs today. Let's discuss how amazing they are, why we like them, how to overcome hang ups around giving your husband oral sex if you want to, and more specifically for women, how giving your husband oral sex can be as much if not more of a turn on for yourself than your husband. My guest expert is Danielle Savory , a sex coach for women. She's taught thousands of women how to prioritize pleasure and specifically how to make sex more pleasurable for themselves. I learned in this interview that my guest Danielle loves giving her husband oral sex, so much that she's had just as many orgasms for herself just from giving them. She teaches that women can step up to embody a turned-on person and create a richer, juicer life and marriage. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

May 26, 2023

I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don't think I'm alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when aging is a topic you don't hear a lot of people talking about or addressing. You might be going through some transitions right now as you approach menopause, health issues, or other changes connected to aging. Some things you used to enjoy sexually may not have the same enjoyment as before. Or certain paths towards arousal may not function like they used to. And then there's the question of what to do when you're your spouse's caregiver, dementia, bereavement, or other common issues that older couples face. I've wondered about these things. I've searched high and low for a specialist that works with aging couples, and I got really lucky to find an expert in this field! My guest today is Natalie Wilton, a registered Social Worker in Waterloo, Ontario. She has worked in the aging field for over 20 years. She has worked at retirement homes, long term care homes, and in the community in a variety of roles in geriatrics and mental health. She has a private practice in which she sees adults across the age spectrum for sex therapy, and other mental health concerns. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week!

May 19, 2023

I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows how we talk to our children, especially our daughters, about dating, sex, and relationships can affect the type of person they marry and how satisfied they'll be in their marriage. After doing this interview you're about to hear, I realize there are a few areas I can improve in.. Sheila Wray Gregoire is a friend of mine, as well as the author of several books on the topic of sex and marriage. Her books are awesome for those seeking helpful and accurate information from a Christian perspective. She's funny too. She has two daughters and an angel son and two grandchildren. I didn't know this until this interview, but according to Sheila Wray Gregoire's research, my generation – the millennials – grew up with the least comprehensive sex education compared to Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. I learned that the most important thing is to have a great relationship with your children. There are also things to consider about how we talk about modesty, agency, arousal, consent, and self-definition to our children, especially our daughters. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

May 12, 2023

Crises aren't necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they're very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better define ourselves and where we stand. They can serve as catalysts that anchor our moral compass internally within ourselves rather than external – outside of us. This process can lead to more freedom and greater agency, and a fuller life. I've talked to many people who have gone into a faith crisis to some degree as they work to develop their sexuality. I'm personally one of them. Today my guest is Jacqulin Guernsey , a bright and talented woman, who is a life coach turned fantasy romance novelist. She has a degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in English. She shares an incredible story about her growth journey over the last 15 months, about how sexual challenges in her marriage lead to faith challenges, and how she's grown in the midst of it all to reconcile the two. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us

May 5, 2023

In any intimate relationship, we want two things, which paradoxically seem to be at odds with each other: we want to belong to ourselves (that is, autonomy), and we want to belong to someone else. In many marriages though, it's easy for one person to fold into the other and that person ends up losing themselves in the marriage. What we want instead are marriages where there's more authenticity. We want marriages where we can be real with our spouse and ourselves, and own our desires while building a marriage worth getting excited about. Authentic marriages have more honesty, freedom, and a much more satisfying sex life. My guest today is Amber Price . She's a mom-turned-graduate student (and a cool story behind how that came to be) sharing what she's learned about creating a more real and authentic marriage for herself. I learned a lot of great things from Amber, which you're about to hear, such as: How to be more aware of how authentic your relationship is Seeing yourself more clearly so that you can be less biased in how you process various situations that happen Understanding when your behavior is driven by seeking validation from others verses something more authentic within you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Apr 28, 2023

Today. I just want to get honest with you and talk about marriages and why they are really difficult sometimes. Frankly, marriages take a lot of work. A wedding may have just been a day; but building a marriage, especially an intimate marriage, is a lifetime pursuit. And let's be honest, there's a lot of pain and suffering that goes on inside of a lot of marriages. I can't think of anything more challenging, stretching, testing, and at the same time, more fulfilling than trying to build an intimate marriage. In reality, at least for me, it hasn't all been just roses. It's more like a rose garden. There's going to be a lot of thorns there amongst the roses. There's going to be weeds to pull. There's going to be rainstorms, and like any rose garden it requires a lot of attending, fertilizing, and just waiting. It makes the flowers that bloom that much more precious. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Apr 21, 2023

When you hear the term, Power Couple, what comes to mind? To me I think about a couple that is dedicated to each other and committed to building a marriage in which they know they can tackle every challenge that comes their way. My guest today is Melanie Studley . She's been on our podcast before (check out the episode we did last year on how to talk dirty without feeling dirty or awkward). I admire how she's taken growth and development in her marriage so seriously. I'm inspired by her - considering how dysfunctional things were between her and her husband, and where they are now, it's like saying, "If THEY can make it, so can I." Several things stuck out to me in this episode. Melanie emphasizes the need for systems and processes, the importance of giving both people in the marriage partnership their voice, recording your wins and struggles, and the value of consistency and persistence. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Apr 14, 2023

I'm pretty excited for today's podcast episode, all about lingerie. I recently asked my Instagram followers if they regularly include lingerie in sexy time, and 39% responded yes. In general, husbands were more excited about seeing their wife in lingerie than wives were enthusiastic about wearing it, which might come as no surprise to you. Generally speaking, men are more wired to be turned on sexually by visual stimulation than women are. However, so many women love to wear lingerie for themselves simply because they feel good and sexy in it. Besides, novelty and newness that lingerie can bring is an important part of keeping your sexual relationship vital for the long haul of marriage, I have the pleasure of associating with Alex and Kadi, founders of EveryLove Intimates . They're a new brand of intimate wear. I've had lots of questions about lingerie, how to shop for it, how to be creative with it, why people are uncomfortable with it, how to handle situations where one spouse wants it and the other doesn't, and much more. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Apr 7, 2023

Our mindset and patterns of thinking make a huge difference in our intimate relationships and our ability to grow sexually as a couple. As they say, our brains are our biggest and most important sex organ. How you think about sex, your relationship, and your attitude about your relationship makes a big impact on your ability to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. My guest today is Dr. Paul Jenkins . He's a clinical psychologist and expert in the field of positive psychology. I interviewed him on what positive psychology is, and how to live a more abundant life and marriage because of it. Download Dr. Paul's free ebook (Portable Positivity) that was referenced in the episode: https://drpauljenkins.com/GYMO For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Mar 31, 2023

Sex Positive and Shame Free are two phrases that people usually don't think about when it comes to overcoming pornography for good, but that's just what our guest today, Sara Brewer , believes is one of the keys that help her clients overcome pornography use. Sara is a life coach that has inspired thousands of individuals to overcome pornography for good. Multiple studies show that pornography use, especially discordant pornography use, doesn't help a marriage. But sometimes our approach to the problem is actually getting in the way of healing. That's what I loved about this interview with Sara - she's positive and upbeat too! Link to Sara's Masterclass: https://www.sarabrewer.com/masterclass For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Virtual Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us

Mar 24, 2023

In our Christian culture, we're sometimes afraid of the word "erotic," thinking it has something to do with unsavory media or loose morals. Many of us grew up in a culture where anything sexually exciting was considered less-than worthy or shameful. However, our erotic natures are actually a beautiful part of being human and a way of experiencing the divinity within us. When cultivated, our erotic nature can draw us closer to our spouse in very special ways. I hear stories from couples where sex is considered a necessity to satisfy the other partner rather than something to joyfully engage in for their own sake. So how do you learn how to cultivate your erotic nature? What if you're married to someone that doesn't see the value in developing their eroticism? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Dr. Jennifer Degler , a clinical psychologist, life coach, author, and speaker. You'll get to hear about how to shift from neutral to drive, the value of curiosity, and some really fun ideas and dares to spice things up in the bedroom!

Mar 17, 2023

it's March Madness in the United States--the NCAA college basketball tournament. And a lot of people create brackets where they guess ahead of time which teams are gonna win and come out on top. In getting in the spirit of this tournament, we thought we'd have some fun, so we created a sex position bracket for March Madness bedroom edition that you can print for yourselves. So to celebrate sex positions in the Intimately Us app and also March Madness Bedroom edition, I wanted to record a special podcast episode all about sex positions today. First, we're going to talk about why you might want to try new sex positions, why it's important to have these conversations about it (and how to have these conversations) with your spouse, and then we'll dive through a few specifics on sex positions and how you can make sex more exciting, creative, and most importantly, connecting for you and your relationship. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

Mar 10, 2023

One source I found states that one in five women experience sexual assault or unwelcomed sexual attention. Trauma from sexual abuse is ugly and can interfere with a healthy and thriving sexual relationship in marriage. Today my guest is Dr. Wyatt Fisher , a marriage therapist that specializes in helping individuals overcome, heal from, and thrive after a history of sexual abuse. His own wife was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and discusses how that impacted their marriage. He shares how his approach towards her trauma in the beginning was actually making things worse (oops!), and what steps they both took to heal from it. Although sexual abuse isn't part of my or my wife's history, there are many things I found valuable in this episode. For instance, I love the story Dr. Wyatt shares about how he became more compassionate about his wife's situation. I also learned that although trauma from sexual abuse is very serious, healing from abuse is also seriously cool and possible. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Mar 3, 2023

One complaint I hear a lot from couples is where they feel like their spouse is consenting to sex but isn't enthusiastic about it. These reports sound like, "let's just hurry and get this done." "I know it's been a while so let me give you sex so that you'll get off my back." "I know sex is important for our marriage, and if I don't give you sex, I'm afraid you'll stray, besides it's my wifely duty." Or, "The bible says that I should never deny my husband so I let him have me, even if I don't enjoy it at the moment, because aren't we supposed to make sacrifices – and we'll be rewarded for it later on?" Sexual desire is strongly tied to a sense of self and freedom. But when you don't feel free to be yourself in sex, it can be more harmful than good in your relationship. My guest today is Dr. Cami Hurst . She recently completed an extensive study for her dissertation on the effects of "consensual" yet duty-focused sex in marriages. I personally gained a lot from this episode. It made me reflect on how important choice and freedom is to a healthy sexual relationship, and how harmful duty sex can be to the intimacy of the marriage. She makes an important distinction between responsive desire (where you may not be in the mood when sex begins but as things get going you generally can get into it and enjoy it) and duty sex, where you don't enjoy it but you feel like you can't say no. She talks about how PTSD symptoms show up in women who engage in duty sex over time. She also talks about what you can do about it! For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Feb 24, 2023

Albert Einstein is said to have once said, "We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." And I believe that to be true when it comes to issues in marriage and that's why marriage coaching is so helpful. It raises the level of thinking or the intelligence in the relationship so you can see what's going on. Over the years, I've had the privilege of coaching over 100 individuals and couples; last week alone I coached 10 couples or individuals and I helped them raise their level of thinking in their relationships. I do all of my coaching through my program and it's called Next Level. Next level is my affordable coaching program, designed specifically for busy couples on the go that want to take their intimacy to the next level. You get access to a ton of content, videos, courses, and workshops I've developed over the years to you also get access to a private podcast that's not available anywhere except for members of next level. I also give our Next Levelers an opportunity for private one on one coaching as well. And today I have permission to share with you a part of a recording of a recent private coaching session that I did last week with a wonderful couple Andy and Stephanie, which by the way are not the real names to protect their identity. Andy and Stephanie have been married for about 30 years and have recently been pushing themselves to grow together sexually. It's been exciting and scary for them at times. Listen to how Andy and Stephanie confront themselves in real time and get clear in their mind around how they can think about certain concepts and how it leads to deeper intimacy in their relationship. Now, most of my coaching sessions like these are an hour long, but I've cut it down for brevity sake for this podcast, but I still think it carries the main gist of what coaching can really be like, so you can see yourself and how coaching can really help you in your relationship if you'd like to join me and over 100 other members that are in next level. The doors are now open just for another week, it's $49 a month per couple with no long term contract. It's a really, really good way to accelerate your growth in your marriage and I hope I get to work with you there. Check it out here!

Feb 17, 2023

Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You're about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some of our mistakes and lessons learned about growing more emotionally mature in our relationships. Ever accuse your spouse of being a narcissist – or at least being myopic or only seeing their side of things without taking you into account? Well, this episode is for you. Ever desire a stronger emotional connection with your spouse? This episode is for you too! Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist from the Bay Area of California. He's the host of the popular podcast called The Virtual Couch. In his practice working with thousands of couples, he's noticed how crucial emotional maturity is, and how "narcissism" (which he explains is emotional immaturity) plays a role in the way we relate to ourselves and others. He goes on to explain how to wake up to it and steps we can take to be stronger within ourselves and our relationships. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Live Workshop on Feb 22: How to Have an Orgasm (and have better orgasms) Next Level Waiting List: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Feb 11, 2023

Mutual pleasure is an important ingredient of a good sexual relationship. The pleasure we get from sex facilitates bonding, joy, and makes sex way more fun! Orgasms are probably one of the most pleasurable sensations we can experience. However, generally speaking, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men do. There are many theories as to why this is the case. It can be distressing for a woman who wants to experience an orgasm in sex yet struggles to get there. Many people forget that reaching orgasm is a learned behavior. It's not as effortless as it seems like from movies or magazines. Although orgasm is a natural reflex to sexual stimulation, it's a skill to be learned – much like learning how to ride a bicycle. It's something that we learn how to do, and it might come easier for some people than others (no pun intended). I'm always inspired by accounts of men and women who work really hard to close the pleasure gap in marriage. They show investment in each other and commitment to building something wonderful both enjoy and want to be a part of. Today I got to interview a fantastic woman named Ashley who overcame many hurdles to experience more pleasure in her sexual relationship with her husband. After 5 years of heartache from trying all sorts of things, including spending a lot of money on high-end sex toys, she was ready to give up trying. She shares what shifts happened within her that finally helped her learn how to orgasm, and how amazing things have been since then. If learning how to orgasm has been a struggle for you or for someone you love, here's a good opportunity for you. On February 22nd I will be putting on a live coaching workshop about learning how to orgasm or how to have better orgasms. This is the workshop that Ashley refers to in this interview. Sign up today on our website . If you're interested in working with me to take your intimacy to the next level, I'll be opening the doors for registration again to my program called Next Level at the end of this month! Get on our waiting list to be the first to know when it opens. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Feb 3, 2023

This episode is going to be a little more explicit than our usual episodes, but I think that's okay. We get to talk about squirting and female ejaculation, which has a lot of interest thanks to the internet. But it's also an amazing experience that couples can enjoy together, and attests to God's grand design in our bodies. And I love it because it adds more layers of mystery and fun to your sexual experience. Reinforcing the idea that you can know someone and be married to them such a long time, and yet discover new things about each other that are both very erotic and sexual and can be really bonding. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Jan 27, 2023

Communication and marriage is a big deal. And many couples tell me they wish their communication was better. Many men approach intimacy in marriage differently than women do, and each person in the marriage has their own fears and insecurities as well. And in fact, I think it's the way we deal with our insecurities or how we manage them, that often triggers the fears or insecurities or vulnerabilities in the other person. And what this does is it sets off this reactive cycle. We try to cover our insecurities. We say something that triggers our spouse and what they say triggers our vulnerability and round and round it goes, and often what's said isn't the same as the message that was received, which opens up the doors to more hurt feelings and misunderstandings. I met today's guest through one of my team members that has participated in her excellent mentorship program. Her name is Ramona Zabriskie. And she's spent the last decade of her life dedicated to helping women succeed in their marriages. She's a mentor to hundreds of wives, and she's full of all this folksy wisdom, like what you'll get to hear today, like "Five Lies We Tell Brides" and Teaching "Knights to Knit." In today's episode, you'll get to meet Ramona's five Crazy Ladies (and I'm wondering which one you relate to the most!), we talk about why husbands and wives don't listen to each other, and most importantly, you'll hear what Ramona believes are the steps to building not only just a good or great marriage, but a grand marriage as well. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Jan 20, 2023

I've observed from my own experience and coaching other couples that we often get in our own way of having the love and passion that we could experience in our own marriages. Sometimes we're just too focused on whether or not our spouse is reciprocating the love we think we're offering. In other words, we reduce love and marriage to be transactional. I love this interview that I have with Dr. Corey Allan because he talks about really powerful questions to ask oneself: "Would I want to be married to me? and "How am I being towards my spouse right now?" I think those two questions can guide us through a lot of the transitions and difficulties and also guide us to creating a more passionate and intimately connected marriage. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Jan 13, 2023

The older I get and more experience I gain, the more I've come to appreciate my eroticism as a part of me. I haven't always been this way though. In all of its good intentions, sometimes people internalize the heart of the purity message by being void of sexual feelings or urges, as if it's a virtue to not have any sexual thoughts or feelings. The reality is that just as we are spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical beings, we're also sexual beings. We can grow sexually as we grow spiritually. And my sexpert guest on the podcast today describes exactly that process of growing erotically (or sexually) as we grow spiritually. Her name is Brandi Harris. She's a licensed marriage therapist that is also a Christian and helps individuals and couples grow sexually. She's also a mother of three and has created a program for parents on how to talk to their kids about sex too. And as a bonus for our listeners and followers, she's offering 10% off with the code GETYOUR23. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Jan 6, 2023

Are you a "nice guy" or married to a "nice guy?" "Nice" isn't to be confused with genuinely kind and caring. By nice, I mean one that hints around at what he wants from his wife, but doesn't really ask for it in case she doesn't want to either, or that it might upset her or that he might be disappointed later. So a "nice guy" is just never really direct about what he wants, doesn't really own it, and his emotional center seems to be revolve around his wife rather than taking ownership for his own feelings. This is also the type of person that goes the extra mile for his wife, but has ulterior motives in it, and when he doesn't get what he wants or when it doesn't kind of pan out the way he wants, even though he never clearly expressed what he wanted from the beginning, he feels cheated. My guest today is Brian Wagstaff. Brian is a member of my next level coaching program and a graduate of my men's coaching program. Brian is a successful entrepreneur and has a wonderful family and a recovering "nice guy." Today he shares his journey of recognizing his nice guy tendencies, the struggles he faced in his marriage, what changes he had to make, and how he made them, and how his marriage and intimacy is tremendously better today than it was before. Other Resources: Men's coaching waiting list Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

Dec 30, 2022

Are you ready to take action, to take charge of your relationships, and make this year different and better than any other year you've ever had? I'm going to show you how coaching can get you out of your ruts and habits and find more clarity and growth in your life and marriage. And I'll show you how our exciting new program can help take your marriage to the next level! Next Level Register here between January 1-8 Attend the webinar on January 4 for more information Coming up in 2023: Feb 1-14: Sextimacy challenge - Increase your intimacy and win cool prizes. Watch your email and social media for more info. March 23-26: Intimately Us Couples retreat in St. George - Romantic yet intensive 3-day, 3-night event designed for couples to draw closer together intimately, have fun adventures, win door prizes and receive top-notch coaching. June 9 (6-9): Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Watch your emails as the date gets closer for more info.

Dec 20, 2022

There are four fundamental questions we seek in our intimate relationships: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? How we go about answering these questions is the basis for how we learn to love and be loved in our marriages. Loving another person well is a practice. It's something you keep at trying over and over, and learning to get better at it. The more conscious we are\ about the way we're loving and seeking love, and implementing good practices, the better we can become at healing and thriving in our relationships. Today's guest is Lair Torrent, a licensed therapist that specializes in couples work. He's the author of a fantastic book called The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts that I've read and recommend. Other Resources: Next Level! waiting list Men's coaching waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Dec 16, 2022

With practice patience, determination, and mindfulness men can prolong the pleasure they feel by resisting ejaculation and prolonging their pleasure and orgasm period. So today I wanted to show you that orgasm and ejaculation are actually two separate physiological processes in the body. And how it's the ejaculation that is responsible for the start of their refractory period. And I want to offer you some tips on how to enjoy multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Here are the links to the events and programs mentioned in the episode: 6 Weeks to Multiple Male Orgasms course Next Level waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat Other Resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Dec 9, 2022

There's a lot of anxiety in our culture around sexuality in general. And within the topic of understanding one's sexuality, there's even more cultural anxiety around masturbation. I've personally had lots of questions around masturbation, and I'm glad to report that I'm not alone – I get many DMs on our Instagram and emails asking sincere questions about this sexual behavior. I asked Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife , one of my favorite marriage and sex experts, to share her insights on the topic. I learned so much from her! Instead of, "Is this particular sexual behavior ok?" there's a better question to ask instead – which you'll get to hear in this episode. I also learned the value of self-definition for expanding one's sexual agency, in other words, gaining your own testimony so-to-speak and committing to living your life with honesty and integrity to your highest and best values. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

Dec 2, 2022

There's no doubt in my mind that there's a deeply spiritual and emotional aspect to really good sex. When two lovers come together as good friends that want to give and receive pleasure and connect to know each other at a very deep and intimate level, sex takes on deep meaning. Many in American or western culture put a big focus on orgasm and finishing, for good reason: orgasm feels good. Really, really good. However, once in a while, we're too busy driving to our destination that we fail to see the beauty along the way. Slowing things down, way down, on purpose can bring you a new view of sex and deep intimate connection you may have not noticed before. Today's guest is Tammy Hill. She's a licensed family and marriage therapist as well as a professor at Brigham Young University in the family sciences department. She and her husband, Jeff, have 12 children and I lost count of how many grandchildren. She's studied and taught a slower, more thoughtful approach to sex which is full of awareness and soulful connection, called Tantric sex or Slow Sex, for more than a decade. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

Nov 25, 2022

Like many other men, I've probably said to my wife maybe once or twice, "I'm always in the mood for sex!" or "Whenever you want it, I'm ready!" Just kidding, I've probably said something like that hundreds of times. But I know there are exceptions to "always" being in the mood. In fact, when I'm really honest, there are many times I'm not in the mood. And my wife is even more puzzled when she's in the mood and I'm not. We're socialized to think that men should have the higher sexual desire in long term marriages, but "the stereotypical masculine approach to sexual desire is working against heterosexual couples' intimate relationships, and it's getting in the way of good sex." Today's guest is Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray , a sex researcher and therapist who has studied male sexual desire. I've read her book, "Not Always In The Mood," and I look forward to sharing this interview with you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

Nov 18, 2022

We've done several episodes about painful sex in the past, but none of them have been as personal as this one today. You get to meet my friends Bryce and Shannon, who tell their story of how painful sex has really interfered with their relationship early on in their marriage. And I love the story because it's a story of faith. I also really appreciate Shannon and Bryce being really vulnerable and open and sharing specifically the things that help them and also didn't help them along their journey. I love these interviews where we're not interviewing experts per se, but these are just ordinary couples that are really doing extraordinary things in their relationship, and I'm so grateful that they're willing to share their story with you. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Nov 11, 2022

This episode is for any couple that has struggled with feelings of shame about bodies or sexuality, and has experienced conflict in their marriage around sexual differences. I am so very grateful that Jan Marie and Andrew were willing to come on the podcast to share their story. They were nervous and are private people, so it's a big deal for them to be open and vulnerable, in hopes that it inspires and blesses a listener's marriage. I met Jan Marie and Andrew at the marriage retreat we did last October. In fact, they celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary at the event! They've been through a lot of turmoil around sex and intimacy in their marriage together, which you'll get to hear. You'll also get to hear the tipping point when they've found healing and hope in their marriage. I also want to make a plug for marriage retreats. There's something special that happens when both of you attend a retreat to refresh and recharge. It's a time to get on the same page and really connect in new ways. You get to meet other couples too and learn from great marriage coaches. Our next marriage retreat is coming up on March 23-26, and you'll want to get on the waiting list to be the first to hear about the details. You can join the waiting list here. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Nov 4, 2022

Announcement: Join the waiting list for the couples retreat in March! For the next few episodes, I want to take a break from interviewing experts per se and showcase real stories from "ordinary" couples who have built extraordinary intimacy in their own marriages. One of the purposes of this podcast is to help as many people realize how wonderful sex is, and although it's sacred between a husband and wife, there's so much joy, excitement, expansion of self, growth, light, and connection through sex. It doesn't have to be such a taboo subject! I'm excited for you to meet the first couple in this series! You'll get to meet LeAnn and Jeff Austin from Georgia. They share their story about how they grew from a functional sex life to an intimate and adventurous sex life later in their marriage. They have four sons. Their two older children are married now. Jeff works as an airline pilot and LeAnn recently started a life coach business helping people learn to love themselves and how to build a great relationships with their daughters-in-law. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples (mentioned in the podcast today): Intimately Us

Oct 28, 2022

If someone were to ask you what's your definition of intimacy, how would you answer that question? And how would you explain to another person how to develop more intimacy in your marriage? Also, how important are communication skills in an intimate relationship? What things interfere with our ability to communicate effectively with our spouses? That's what Dr. Dave Schramm and I talk about today. Dave and I go way back. He was one of the keynote speakers of my second Get Your Marriage On! Live event back in 2019. He's a professor of Family Life in the Human Development and Family Studies department at Utah State University. He has his PhD from Auburn University. You can find out more about Dr. Dave's work at drdaveschramm.com . Here is the YouTube video we reference in the podcast: "It's Not About The Nail"

Oct 21, 2022

There's a difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage. Some marriage advice people may have received is to compromise to keep the peace between a couple. This advice is great to keep the marriage functioning, but compromising on everything often interferes with creating an intimate marriage. Today's guest is Alexandra Stockwell . She's got a fascinating story about why she became an Intimacy Coach.

Oct 14, 2022

This is one of our spicier podcasts! Keelie and Austin Reason from the Love Hope Adventure Blog and Podcast decided to join me today to talk about male pleasure and the importance of emotional connection as a foundation for happy and intimate marriage.

Oct 7, 2022

This is part two of a two-part podcast. Last week, we talked about stage three sex. We introduced this framework of what stages one, two, and three are, and this is a follow-up to that. Enjoy!

Sep 30, 2022

Normal people have marriage problems. In this episode, I'll introduce to you my three-stage framework to take your marriage and sex life to the NEXT LEVEL! This is something I'm passionate about. I hope you learn something new!

Sep 23, 2022

In every marriage, there's a person with a higher desire for sex and a person with a lower desire for sex. What are unhealthy and healthy ways of responding to your spouse's desire level? How can you work together as an intimate team to create a marriage that truly has room for both people, to transition from a "me vs you" to a more intimate "us"? These are the questions I had on my mind when I met Amy Langford , a certified life coach, mother of 4, and fellow marriage & sex nerd. You're about to hear her story about how she learned to handle herself better in the midst of her husband's pursuit of sexual connection, navigate unwanted pornography use in the marriage, and a way to create space for more sexual desire within yourself, even if you're the one with less desire for sex.

Sep 16, 2022

100 podcast episodes for Get Your Marriage On! Wow! What a ride the past couple years have been. I've had the privilege of interviewing many sex experts. In many of the episodes, I ask them what black belt sex tips they'd give to a couple in a healthy marriage to help them up the quality of connection and pleasure in the bedroom. I've rounded up my favorites from the past 50 episodes (see episode 50 for Black Belt Sex Tips 1.0). This is an episode you're not going to want to miss! Ready? Let's go!

Sep 9, 2022

Our bodies are absolutely incredible and attest to the marvelous power and intelligence of our great Creator. Our heart beats nearly 100,000 times a day. Our eyes have self-focusing lenses and work in tandem to help us see images in three dimensions. Through our bodies, we can hold loved ones, offer a loving touch, and even participate in creating new life. Our bodies are the temple of our spirit and the instruments of our hearts and mind. Despite the miracle of a body, many people struggle with liking their body or struggle with a body that doesn't function the way they want it to, or just plain 'ol struggling to be confident in their own skin and size. Sometimes this goes on to loathing ourselves in unhealthy ways, affecting our intimate relationships. Vanessa Oly is my guest today to talk about her journey of learning to love her own body as it is. Her own transformation inspired her to study nutrition, hormones, and fertility. She teaches other women how to embrace who they are and to understand how their body works.

Sep 2, 2022

Many of you are in a similar phase of life as we are: raising young children and teenagers, and possibly thinking about having another baby. Conception is an incredible miracle because there are so many moving parts to making it work (no pun intended). I had the privilege of meeting with a world-famous fertility doctor, Dr. Allison Rodgers a OB/GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist. and I'm so happy you get to listen to part of what I learned.

Aug 26, 2022

Think about the qualities that make you successful in your career: working hard, being the first to show up and the last to leave, and being an achiever. Sometimes very capable and successful people have a hard time in their intimate relationships. What if the same qualities that translate to success in one's career or workplace actually work against you in your intimate relationship? Rhonda Farr is a certified Life Coach and works with high achievers on their intimate relationships. I got a lot out of this interview and there was a lot I could relate to. I suppose there are many parts that you'll relate to as well.

Aug 19, 2022

In this episode, Dan shares lessons learned about what it means to love someone well. He discusses reflections about courage and creating an intimate marriage where there's room for two people to thrive. He shares other thoughts from his mother, who passed away from cancer a few weeks ago.

Aug 12, 2022

I used to think that a woman's period was just nature's way of telling you that you're not pregnant. But there's so much more to understanding one's cycle. Did you know that a woman's cycle can be broken down into four phases, and each phase has their own superpower? That understanding your hormones and what they're there for can give you more confidence and energy? And what foods should you eat (and what to avoid) to help support a healthy body and hormone levels? Ashlee has personal experience with PMS, debilitating period pain, and infertility is what ultimately set her on a journey to learn more about how food and lifestyle affect hormone health, and eventually creating her signature course, Cycle Strategy 101, as well as Exercise and Hormones, and Cycle Sexcess. As you'll see, Ashlee is passionate about teaching women how to tap into their superpowers by honoring their cyclical rhythms. Links mentioned in this podcast episode: Wild Power In the Flo Julva

Aug 5, 2022

Do you ever wish your husband would take more initiative in the bedroom? Our podcast this week is all about masculine leadership within the bedroom (please note: this is not to diminish or replace feminine leadership). GS Youngblood is an author and coach for men. GS teaches how important being grounded, taking the lead, and responding rather than reacting is within your marriage. I hope you learn something from GS, as I know I did! #getyourmarriageon #marriagepodcast #relationshippodcast #sexcoachpodcast #christiansexpodcast

Jul 29, 2022

I've learned that intimacy problems can creep into the marriage because of unrealistic expectations and patterns of avoiding the issue. Whether it's performance anxiety, body image issues, or even a sexless marriage, you can break out of your patterns that keep you stuck by getting a clearer understanding of your dynamic. I'm honored to have Braxton Dutson on the podcast today to talk about what to do when you find yourself in a marriage where sex is not as satisfying. Braxton Dutson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and certified sex therapist (CST) through AASECT. He hosts the sexual health podcast called Birds and Bees Podcast which provides education for couples and parents about sexual health topics to improve their relationships with each other and have sexual health conversations with their children. If that wasn't enough, Braxton is an adjunct professor of human sexuality at the University of Utah college of social work.

Jul 22, 2022

Experiencing pain with sex is, unfortunately, all too common for many women. According to one peer-reviewed study I read out of Australia, 20% of women regularly experience pain with sex. Other research suggests that just about every woman at one point in their life will experience pain with sex. But sex shouldn't be painful. There are tons of resources and therapies out there to make sex better for everyone. Today I have as my guest Dr. Rose Schlaff. She's a pelvic floor physical therapist and sex nerd that specializes in helping women enjoy sex and heal from painful sex. In this episode, we do a deep dive into what causes pain with sex, the different types of pain, and what you can do to heal from it to make sex great for you and your spouse. For more information about Dr. Schlaff visit the following: Website: https://www.bewellwithrose.com/ Instagram: @bewellwithrose Free Guide Mentioned in Episode: www.bewellwithrose.com/guide

Jul 15, 2022

Let's get one thing out of the way first — dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into your heart and mind. It's a way to express the erotic part of you with your lover. It's about using your words to arouse. The nice thing about married sex is that it's a place you can go where things don't have to be so cleaned up. You can be less formal with each other and use language with each other you wouldn't use in another context – creating more arousal, intimacy and excitement. If "talking dirty" (and I put that in air quotes) is something you've always found awkward or have no idea where to start, you're in for a treat! This episode with Melanie Studley will hopefully help you and your lover discover a new way to draw closer together and have some sexy fun! For more information, check out our tasteful, comprehensive, step-by-step guide to increase connection with your spouse through erotic conversations, or "dirty talk." This 40-page guide has something for both brand new, hesitant sexy talkers and those who may be a little more experienced. Use the included worksheets and game suggestions to explore new vocabulary and increase the connection, passion, and fun in your marriage!

Jul 8, 2022

Abuse of any kind, whether it's physical, emotional, or sexual, is evil and wrong. Sexual abuse is particularly harmful because our sexuality is so personal to us. There is often some shame around our sexuality anyway, and the abuser takes advantage of it to make us feel less worthy. But healing is possible! If abuse is part of your story, I hope today's episode gives you hope. Today's guest is Nicole Graf. She's a champion for sexy & intimate marriages as well as a Christ follower. She's a certified Stress Management Consultant, has a degree in psychology and helps others overcome sexual abuse and find healing & hope. Something that stood out to me a lot in this interview with Nicole is just the power of forgiveness and gratitude. Like those two themes just came up over and over and over for me and how important it is to get outside help and to have a really good, solid education on what really is supposed to be and not supposed to be. And the value of good role models. There's so much goodness, in this episode, I hope you listened to the very end and learn a lot from it just as I did. @nakedheartcoach

Jul 1, 2022

I am so excited to talk about today's topic! The idea for this podcast episode was partially inspired by an upcoming podcast episode I'll be releasing in a few weeks. I interviewed an author, GS Youngblood. His tip was about how foreplay begins the moment your past sexual encounter ends, and that foreplay should be done throughout the day not immediately before sexual intercourse. I've thought a lot about foreplay and I have been more intentional about making foreplay great in my marriage. Today I want to share a few ideas that I've learned from my own experience and from others that I admire about meaningful foreplay in sex. Now, let's talk about what foreplay is, how to do it right, why some couples may struggle with foreplay, and end with some specific, actionable things you can do right away to make better foreplay an amazing and rewarding part of your marriage.

Jun 24, 2022

There are so many parallels between money and intimacy when it comes to marriage. For many people, money represents security. When money issues creep up, it can threaten our ability to trust our spouse. Issues revolving around spending habits in a marriage can add a lot of stress to the relationship. We also bring to a marriage two different world views on money, creating an opportunity for growth – requiring both people to lean in to each other and get more honest with each other throughout the process. Today I interview Juli and Thomas from Marriage Puzzle . They are marriage coaches who help others overcome pain points around money, intimacy, and communication so that they can go from feeling overwhelmed to feeling secure in their marriage.

Jun 17, 2022

You're about to meet my guests on today's episode, Zach and Darcy Spafford. Zach used to struggle with habitual pornography use and Darcy struggled with trying to figure out what to do with her feelings of hurt and mistrust. After applying certain tools and committing to serious growth together, they've not only overcome but are now thriving together in their relationship, as you'll see! They now host a podcast titled: The Self Mastery Podcast: Overcome Pornography Whether or not porn use is part of your story in your marriage, I hope you learn as much as I did from Zach and Darcy's courage and the action they took! You might also be interested in my Life After Pornography App!

Jun 10, 2022

Initiating sex can be a very powerful way to communicate love and desire to your spouse. Initiating is a powerful bid for connection. It's a way of saying, "I want to connect with you." Initiating can be very intimate. And it's very validating to be wanted sexually. To prepare for this episode, I ran an informal survey of our Instagram followers to get a better idea of what other couples struggle with when it comes to initiating. The answers were enlightening and I saw several patterns in the responses. I hope you find this episode just as insightful! Enjoy.

Jun 3, 2022

I'm interested in doing a podcast episode primarily for men about understanding intimacy, especially if it wasn't modeled in your home growing up. To be clear, I don't mean "intimacy" as a euphemism for sex. I mean Intimacy as in relational closeness: a willingness to know and be fully known by your spouse. Many men struggle to get emotionally close to their spouse. They confuse intimacy with sex. They think showing emotion is a sign of weakness (with the exception of anger). I don't know how accurate this is, but I once heard this cliver quip about how men want to penetrate their wives sexually and women want to penetrate their husbands emotionally. Yet so many men have never learned how to let another person into their heart. Today I interview Dr. Randell Turner , who's done a lot of research and ministry around teaching men intimacy skills. He's got an interesting story that you might relate to as well!

May 27, 2022

In every marriage, there is a spouse with higher desire for sex and a spouse with lower desire for sex. In this episode, I'll talk about the benefits of being higher or being lower desire. As the high desire spouse in my marriage, I know what it's like to feel anxious or "needy", and it's not attractive. I'll share some thoughts on what we can do about our anxieties to improve intimacy and connection in our marriages coming from a place of strength rather than weakness.

May 20, 2022

For this week's episode, we continue a Q&A session with Jenny Rose about sex and intimacy. Jenny is a family lifestyle influencer. She asked some questions from her audience that I tackle in last week's and this week's episode, such as: How do you balance time with yourself and with your spouse when you feel touched out at the end of the day How to transition from Mommy mode to Wife mode What to do with mismatched sex drives Toys, frequency, pregnancy, And many more wonderful questions Let's jump back in where we left off last week.

May 13, 2022

This episode is unique! Jenny Rose, a family influencer known as @princessturnedmom reached out to me and asked if she could do a podcast takeover and ask me some questions from her audience. How fun! Jenny likes to say she has Jesus in her heart and Disney in her veins. She was SO fun to have on the podcast. Check out PART ONE of two where we discuss your questions about sex and intimacy.

May 6, 2022

Today's podcast is for the husbands out there that want to make sex great. There's far more to just the mechanics and geometry of sex to being a good lover. There's romance, creating exciting erotic contexts, sharing mental loads, and much more that go into making love with not just your body but your heart too. This might just be my experience as a man, but we men don't get as much helpful education on how to be a good lover. So I'm excited to have Keith Gregoire along with his wife Sheila, author of The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. I've read this book and it's excellent. Keith and Sheila have been writing about sex in marriage for 10 years, and is respected for her approachable easy-to-relate to, and humorous style towards improving sex in marriage. Be sure to listen to the very end because I'm giving away copies of their books, The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and revamped The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Those details are after our interview.

Apr 29, 2022

It's normal to seek validation from our spouse in marriage. By validation I mean to get a sense of our legitimacy as a person and a spouse, such as being told we're sexy enough, pretty enough, and desirable. And it's normal to seek that validation. But what do you do when you don't feel it? What do you do when you feel like your spouse isn't interested in you romantically or sexually? What about those times you don't feel cherished or respected? If you're hoping to feel inspired today, you've come to the right place. Jessica shares how she grew more solid within herself in her circumstances and as a result has found great strength, even in her darkest moments. I think there's something wonderful in her message for everyone to hear! Jessica is a devoted Christian, is married to her sweetheart for over 17 years, and has four children.

Apr 22, 2022

Like most kids, I loved taking on new roles when I'd play with my friends and siblings… whether it was cops and robbers, or ninjas, or race car drivers, there's a creative & playful element to trying on new roles and identities. As an adult in a romantic and committed relationship, you can bring that same creativity and playfulness into the bedroom through role play! Many couples role play instinctively to one degree or another as a way to add healthy newness and creative fun to bedroom play. My wife and I have always been interested in what role play sex is and fortunately, we met Jon and Katie Runyan, who are experts at role play sex and the founders of Faithful Fling . Whether you're new to the concept of role-playing or have a lot of experience getting into character in your encounters, I'm sure you'll love this episode!

Apr 15, 2022

When it comes to sexual desire, there's a lot we can learn from our stomachs. Hey, we've eaten food our whole lives! In this podcast, I will discuss 5 lessons I've learned about sexual desire from food. I want to encourage you to honestly discuss the differences you have in your sexual "appetites" or desires and learn how to be a good partner to your spouse. #getyourmarriageon #sexeducationpodcast #malesexeducation #christianmarriage #christiansexeducation

Apr 8, 2022

Some couples really struggle with intimacy. And I'm not referring to "intimacy" as a euphemism for sex. I mean their relationship feels superficial and they've run out of "safe" topics they can discuss because all the harder topics make one or both of them anxious and uncomfortable. As a result, the marriage starts to feel a bit empty and unexciting, boring, and routine. What do you do in situations like this? This is exactly the question I had for Adam and Karissa King. They are a husband-wife duo of therapists & coaches from Elk Grove, California. They have fantastic advice on how to better your communication skills and develop empathy for one another.

Apr 1, 2022

I had the privilege of being a guest on Manda Carpentner's podcast called A Longer Table , and wanted to share that interview here because I think the things we discussed are super valuable for you to hear. In this interview, we talk about a number of topics such as: Purity Culture What to do when you feel the need to manage an other's sexuality How important is sex, really? What is your definition of sex, and does it have to involve intercourse? If you're struggling sexually, what advice would give? Is scheduling sex a good idea? Is it bad to use toys? What about dirty talk? Perspectives on how pornography affects marriage Manda Carpenter is a wife, mother, foster mom, and Christian. I love her podcast, A Longer Table, because she intentionally includes conversations with people that have very different backgrounds, just to get their perspective and to broaden her understanding with people that think differently than she does. I think we could all use a healthy dose of open and honest communication once in a while! And this topic was all about sex, a topic I'm particularly passionate about :)

Mar 25, 2022

For many individuals, myself included, intercourse can feel very pleasurable. Couples can find deep meaning through intercourse as well: feeling intimate, personal, sweet, and bonding. However, intercourse isn't always fireworks for both people. And how can you make intercourse better for both people? That's what we want to talk about in today's episode! I learned a lot from this episode and I hope you do too! Ruth Buezis is a gifted educator that has taught thousands of people how to improve their sex lives from a Christian perspective. She was a guest on this podcast last year (see episode #17) and I've invited her back to teach us more about how to make intercourse amazing!

Mar 18, 2022

Feeling shame about our natural sexual urges is more harmful than we think. Clinton and Charity Munoz decided to share their story in hopes of helping others. A few years into their marriage Clinton's secretive and compulsive use of pornography was distressing to Charity and took their marriage to dark depths. With the help of God and good resources, they've been able to restore their marriage to more than it was before and find new meaning. I hope you enjoy this podcast episode as much as I did!

Mar 11, 2022

Al Carraway is probably the most optimistic and positive person I've ever met. Just being with her for an hour was life-changing. "Life is too short to stay unsatisfied." and "Stubbornly refuse to have a bad sex life." are two quotes that have rung in my head ever since our conversation. Al is from New York, and became a Christian in her early 20s. She's a mother, wife, award-winning motivational speaker, and author of three books, including one about marriage. She's inspired millions of people through her message. I hope you enjoy this podcast episode!

Mar 4, 2022

How does your current marriage dynamic help or hinder intimacy? Are you good at expressing your desires within your marriage? How does growing into your best version of yourself translate into a deeper connection with your spouse? And how can these things contribute to really good sexual experiences? These are the questions I've had on my mind as I reached out to Eric and Kate MacDougall, founders of Evolved Marriage. They're marriage and relationship coaches, and I hope you learn as much as I did from this conversation.

Feb 25, 2022

Talking about sex with your spouse is not easy for most of us. Whether it's about preferences, desire level differences, pornography use, physical difficulties, or a number of issues, many of us find it easier to just resent our spouse rather than see the situation honestly as it is and take responsibility for our role in the matter. I enjoyed this interview with Amanda Ammons . You'll get to hear us discuss practical and helpful strategies on how to discuss sexual issues with your spouse and how to design the kind of sex life you want for yourself and for your marriage. You can learn more about Amanda and her work by clicking here.

Feb 18, 2022

What if your spouse isn't enthusiastic about the same things you are? I get this question often. Specifically, what to do if your spouse isn't on board with your desires sexually. I have five thoughts about this that I want to share. There is much more that can be discussed here, as every person's situation is complex, but I hope some of these ideas can help!

Feb 11, 2022

This is episode #69, and in honor of everyone's favorite two-digit sexy number, I thought we'd have some fun and do an episode all about oral sex! The best sex is intimate sex, and if you have the right mindset, oral sex can be very intimate, leading to deep connection and relationship satisfaction. There's something very intimate about opening your heart and letting yourself be known to your special someone in this way. From a practical standpoint, oral sex is also very pleasurable, which we'll talk about. As Dr. Ian Kerner, an American sex educator, once said, "When it comes to pleasuring a woman, the tongue is mightier than the sword" (and you can probably guess what the sword is). My friend Amanda Louder returned to join me in this fun discussion today. If you're not familiar with Amanda, she's a certified life coach and coaches women on embracing their sexuality as a part of their wholeness. She's also the host of the Sex For Saints podcast.

Feb 4, 2022

The thing that stood out to me the most in this interview you're about to hear is how important it is to focus on being our best selves if we want to fix our marriage. Also how important it is to shed our egos. And when we married, we signed up to love our spouse: meaning, to be their champion and cheerleader, not their critic. Laura Doyle is The New York Times best-selling author of several books, including The Empowered Wife. She's also the star of the Amazon Prime series Empowered Wives. Her books have been translated into 19 languages and published in 30 countries. Over 15,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships but also showing them how to become desired, cherished, and adored for life. She is the founder of Laura Doyle Connect, an international relationship coaching company that teaches women the intimacy skills they need to have passionate, peaceful relationships. Laura lives in Newport Beach, California with her hilarious husband John Doyle, who has been dressing himself since before she was born. They have been married for over 30 years. Resources: Laura Doyle's Website: https://lauradoyle.org/

Jan 28, 2022

Passionate marriages require a healthy tension between two forces that paradoxically are at odds with one another: Security which is love and intimacy and Growth which is desire, autonomy, and adventure. In this episode, I had the privilege of interviewing Alana and Paris from the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast. We discussed how one can navigate love and desire in marriage and cultivate more desire & erotic energy in your relationship. Alana and Paris have a cool story. They were friends as youth, attended the same church, but each moved away, married, and started a family of their own. About the same time, each of them felt impressed to start a ministry around helping others understand God's design for sex and intimacy. Alana and Paris reconnected and are now best friends, sharing their message of faith and hope. And that's how their podcast Kingdom Sexuality came to be!

Jan 21, 2022

Part of being an adult is unlearning the things that no longer serve you, and learning new things that bring richer meaning to your life. When it comes to sex, there's a lot that isn't helpful that we can unlearn, and a lot we can learn to bring deeper meaning and joy to our most important intimate relationships. I had the pleasure of interviewing Cami Hurst , a talented and passionate certified sex therapist out of Boise Idaho. We talk about how to make sex more "nutritious" and "gourmet" for the couple, why motives (or the why) around improving one's sex life are more important than the "what", and what to do when your spouse has different sexual preferences than you do.

Jan 14, 2022

A few years ago, I was sitting around a campfire with other dads, hearing their stories of exciting trips and getaways they've been on with their wives. I was depressed, thinking, "woe is me!" With 6 young kids, and on a budget, all I could think of was reasons why I would never be able to enjoy that kind of an experience. Fast forward six months later, I was sitting on a beautiful beach in Florida with my wife, just the two of us, enjoying one of the most intimate and romantic moments of our marriage up until that point. We had experienced a miracle in our marriage. Miracles happen, and 2022 can be the year you experience more of them in your life. One of the most often-repeated themes in the New Testament is "ask and ye shall receive." In one way or another, that theme is expressed 100 times! God is a giver of good gifts. He wants to bless us with good things and experiences that give us growth, joy, and hope. We invite God to help us by identifying clearly our goals, creating a vision, asking, and living with gratitude for everything we receive, both the good and the bad. It's up to us to desire, ask, work for, and be grateful for the kind of marriage we want. You can have a smoking hot sex life as you put this process to work in your life.

Jan 7, 2022

The quickest way to improve your relationship with your spouse is to first work on yourself. However, working on ourselves can be hard. Participating in a high-quality group coaching program can often be just the thing to get you going in the right direction. Last week we shared an inspiring story from Mark and Mindy. This week I have two inspiring guests, Tom and Jeff. Tom and Jeff were part of the last cohort for my Men's Intimacy & Desire coaching program. Both Tom and Jeff are successful in their careers and have seen quite a bit of success in their marriages too. In this interview, I ask them what they learned from the coaching program they wish to share with others. My biggest hope is everyone that who listens to this episode walks away inspired, filled with hope. I love this interview because Tom and Jeff are real, raw, and unabashed in sharing the transformation they experienced over the last three weeks. In case you're interested, the next cohort for my coaching program starts on January 19, 2022. There are only a dozen seats available and as of this recording, several have been taken. You'll find the details on my website at getyourmarriageon.com

Dec 31, 2021

In today's podcast, you'll have the privilege of meeting one of my favorite couples on the planet, Mark and his wife Mindy! Mark was in my most recent Men's coaching cohort. Six months ago Mark and Mindy were on the brink of divorce after 25 years of marriage. However, they have worked really hard and with God's help, and a little bit of effective coaching, they had grown a lot in a short time. I'm excited for you to hear their story! If you're interested, the next cohort for my coaching program starts on January 19th, 2022. There are only a dozen seats available and as of this recording, several have been taken. You'll find the details on my website at getyourmarriageon.com

Dec 29, 2021

I hope you've enjoyed the slight change of pace over the last couple of episodes. Rather than interviewing professionals, I want to share stories from real ordinary couples about how they've transformed their marriages into something extraordinary. Their stories are real, raw, vulnerable, and inspiring. This is our third and final "Sextimony" episode in our three-part Sextimony series, where we're sharing stories from ordinary couples about how they've transformed their marriages and found great joy and connection from a satisfying sex life. Maegan and her husband Sam have been married for over 10 years. You'll get to hear Maegan's inspiring story of overcoming unwanted pornography use, how a disappointing honeymoon lead to her speaking up more for her desires, how oral sex has helped her connect with her husband and led her to be more adventurous and confident, how honest improvement in her sex life has led her to a stronger faith in God, and how being playful in the bedroom leads to great sex. *Please Note: Starting Friday, December 31st our podcasts will be released on Friday mornings.

Dec 22, 2021

I've personally gained a lot from courageous couples opening up to me, in appropriate ways, how they've found deeper connection and joy in their sex lives. I want to share stories from real ordinary couples about how they've transformed their marriages into something extraordinary. Their stories are real, raw, vulnerable, and inspiring. These four couples talk about mindset shifts that lead them to better sex. We'll call this a "Sextimony" series! This is our second installment in our four-part Sextimony series. Our guests today are Faith and Brennan West. They're such a great couple, as you'll soon find out :) I'm grateful they've been willing to share their story of overcoming the baby blues, gaining confidence in the bedroom, how the Intimately Us app helped them find excitement and connection in the bedroom, and how they're better connected to each other.

Dec 15, 2021

I'd like to be part of changing the stigma around talking about elevating sex in marriage. I've personally gained a lot from courageous couples opening up to me, in an appropriate way, how they've found deeper connection and joy in their sex lives. So far in this podcast, we've generally interviewed experts in marriage or sex-related careers to one degree or another. I want to switch gears for the next three episodes. Rather than learn from professionals, I want to share stories from real ordinary couples about how they've transformed their marriages into something extraordinary. Their stories are real, raw, vulnerable, and inspiring. These three couples talk about mindset shifts that lead them to better sex. We'll call this a "Sextimony" series! Our first "Sextimony" is from Sharon Williams. She talks about shifts that helped her realize she can be in charge of her pleasure and how it's changed sex from a chore to something she absolutely looks forward to. Be sure to read her award winning essay called "Bridging the Orgasm Gap" which captures her journey of learning how to get what she wants in the bedroom. Since our interview, I read her free downloadable ebook called "10 Tips for Bridging Your Orgasm Gap" and can recommend it to you too. You can find both on her website.

Dec 8, 2021

We communicate a lot about who we are and how we feel about our spouse by the way we engage (or avoid) sex. Intimacy is about a willingness to let ourselves known, and that can be scary sometimes. If you're new around here, welcome! We are thrilled to have you. My wife and I hosted a couple's retreat in beautiful St. George Utah! It was in the mountains, with a lake, and each couple had their own private cabin or stayed at a nearby hotel. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife was the instructor and she did phenomenally! She taught us for all three days. I took pages of notes and learned so many things that I'm working to apply in my marriage. I wanted to share a few things with you today.

Dec 1, 2021

Ok, I'm just… really curious. I have a ton of questions about sex toys. Teresa and Blair are the owners of the website, Romantic Blessings, and were gracious to have a frank conversation with me about vibrators and sex toys. I've had this view that sex toys were dirty, bad, and all about solo masturbation. I had this stigma that they were unsavory. But I'm learning they can be a great addition to you and your partner's sexual experience. In the right context, they can add to the bonding and intimacy that makes sex fulfilling. Toys can also add novelty, which is really important for long-term relationships: they can make sex a whole lot of fun, feel new gain, be exciting, and of course pleasurable too. I hope this episode gives you some helpful info -- whether you're new to toys or experienced, I hope the information shared helps. With Christmas coming up, perhaps you'll want to try some new things after listening. Visit Romantic Blessings and use our code for 15% off! Code: GYMO15

Nov 24, 2021

I've heard it said that issues relating to money are the second leading cause of divorce in America. Although we focus a lot on sexual intimacy on this podcast, with Christmas and the financial stress it brings to marriages right around the corner, I thought addressing how to get on the same page with your spouse regarding money would be a good topic to address. And that's when I found Ashlee Binderim on Instagram. Ashlee and her husband Dave started their marriage with over $225,000 in debt. They were both working part-time, going to college full time, and barely making ends meet. After years of struggling, they finally figured out how to link arms and tackle financial goals together. Current debt payoff: $162,000 to date! Now, she's a certified financial coach and on a mission to help other couples reach their goals by getting on the same page with their finances so they can set up a secure future. To learn more from Ashlee visit her website Beyond Millions.

Nov 17, 2021

Do you or your spouse live apart for part of the time? How do you keep your marriage strong when you may not see each other every day? And can distance really make the heart grow fonder? If you're wondering these things too, you're going to love this episode. Roughly 4 million American couples live apart for some of the time, whether for military, pilots, artists, traveling salespeople, medical professionals, or for other reasons. Elaine, a licensed marriage & family therapist, and her husband Abe, found themselves in a commuter marriage through some unique circumstances. They help other couples in similar situations maintain a strong relationship while apart. They are the co-host of the " Love Is In The Air " podcast (featuring an airplane as their logo -- get it?). Together they have 5 children.

Nov 10, 2021

About 1 in 8 couples have trouble conceiving. Infertility can become a real struggle for couples, sometimes interfering with intimacy and impacting their sex life. I'm was fortunate enough to meet Sadie Banks, a mother of one (soon to be two) who has dealt with years of struggles revolving around infertility and the impact it's had on her marriage. In this episode, Sadie shares what she's learned and offers helpful tips on how to keep your marriage growing through it all. If you or someone you love is struggling with intimacy during infertility, I hope this episode inspires you and gives you hope. Sadie Banks is the owner and creator of Good Grief Journals. In 2018, she was in the trenches of her Infertility Journey, she needed a guided outlet to help her through the emotions and hard experiences that her infertility journey brought into her life. After interviewing over 100 women who had experienced infertility or who were experiencing infertility, she created a prompt journal specifically for working through infertility trauma and grief. Shortly after creating the Infertility Journal, it was clear that guided journals for other types of grief were needed too and Good Grief Journals expanded.

Nov 3, 2021

Modern electronic media has had a big impact on relationships, especially in the last two decades. It's never been easier to stay in touch with loved ones or improve real-time communication. Like many things in life, media use can be helpful and harmful on our relationships, depending on how it's used. I got in touch with McCall Booth, a super-smart Ph.D. candidate at Indiana University that researches the media's impact on marriage and families. I hope her insights help you and your lover draw closer intimately with wiser media choices.

Oct 27, 2021

Building a strong marriage requires each individual to also be strong on their own. We also want to feel free in our relationships, which requires a lot of maturity and personal growth. My guest today is Julie Bender. I love her story because she illustrates what growing and maturing in a relationship can look like. Julie's shares how she's learned how to embrace her story, and in that, found healing and her true self. To learn more about Julie check out The Julie Bender Show Podcast and the This Grit and Grace Life Podcast which she co-hosts. She also produces a weekly video series for wives called #prayingforyourhusbanddaily.

Oct 20, 2021

This episode, #52, marks 1 year of podcast episodes for Get Your Marriage On! I've had the privilege of interviewing many sex experts over the previous year. In many of the episodes I ask them what black belt sex tips they'd give to a couple in a healthy marriage up the quality of connection and pleasure in the bedroom. I've rounded up my favorite 20 tips. Ready? Let's go!

Oct 13, 2021

Have you ever wondered how do you talk to your kids about sex? Why does talking about sex with our kids feel awkward most of the time? What's the best approach to talk about dating relationships, our bodies, and everything in between? What about the hard topics? Well, if this has been on your mind, you're in for a treat today, as I am able to sit down with Tammy Hill. Tammy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an adjunct professor of Family Life at Brigham Young University.

Oct 6, 2021

Have you ever noticed that there's something almost invisible and intangible that interferes with our ability to connect with our spouses sometimes? According to our expert guest today, it affects women more than men. It's about the mental load we carry, how our minds are constantly buzzing with all the things that need to get done. Couples that develop the skill of "bearing one other's burdens so that they may be light" find more room to connect and find happiness in their relationship. Morgan Cutlip has a PhD in counseling psychology from the University of Akron and holds a master's degree in Human Development and Family Sciences from Ohio State University. She specializes in helping individuals and couples find happiness and health in their relationships. She and her father are the founders of My Love Thinks, a company dedicated to creating user-friendly and practical relationship education resources. As you'll soon hear, Dr. Cutlip has a special passion for helping couples find a fair distribution of responsibilities in the home and helping mothers engage in meaningful self-care.

Sep 29, 2021

Ahhhhh, communication in marriage. It's so important, and also a source of frustration in our most important relationships! We don't always know how to talk, and more importantly, listen to one another, especially when emotions run high. Learning to talk about intimacy in marriage is also a skill we can develop. My guest today is Denise and Oliver Marcelle founders of Denoli LLC. They mentor couples on improving their communication skills for deeper intimacy and connection. They've been married for 20 years and have 3 children.

Sep 22, 2021

We all experience times of loss and grief. I received an excellent question from a listener in regards to this: "My wife and I are grieving due to loss and it is something we are trusting God with and through but this is an odd space to be in to think about or bring up sex. I know things need to look different but help to navigate this would be helpful. Can you do a podcast episode or a blog or something on how to think about intimacy while walking through grief?" So today's podcast is going to do just that! I reached out to Cecilie Ott, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that specializes in helping individuals and families deal with times of loss. I learned a lot from her teaching and I hope this helps you whoever this episode was meant for.

Sep 15, 2021

Taking care of yourself is part of taking care of your relationship. Join me for this SOLO episode and learn how to use the 3-2-1 rule to enhance yourself and your relationship with your spouse.

Sep 8, 2021

Dan interviewed Joy Skarka from Authentic Intimacy. Joy's story can be described in one word: freedom. She is passionate about creating spaces to free women from shame. Tune in to hear how Joy found freedom from sexual abuse, sexual addiction, and how she navigates painful sex. Joy is the Authentic Intimacy's Director of Discipleship. To learn more about Joy and her work visit Authentic Intimacy .

Sep 1, 2021

Close romantic relationships are often fraught with anxiety. It just comes with the territory, and it's a beautiful part of what makes us human. How we deal with that anxiety is a different story though. I read Dr. Kathleen Smith's excellent book, "Everything Isn't Terrible" and learned sooo much about how my family's dynamic affects the way I show up in my marriage and other relationships. Tune in to hear my interview with Dr. Smith on how differentiation - a term she uses to describe a mature way to deal with anxiety -- leads to better relationships.

Aug 25, 2021

Mindfulness is a buzzword these days, but its roots are deep. In this podcast, I interview Dr. Chelom Leavitt, PhD, an impressive woman that researches the link between mindfulness practice -- the ability to be fully present -- and sexual satisfaction in long-term married couples. Your full presence is one of the greatest gifts you can give another person. When you're mindful you can be with the person you love in mind, body, and spirit -- especially in our most precious intimate moments!

Aug 18, 2021

A common question we get at Get Your Marriage On! is what is okay to do in the bedroom. When faith, values, and personal desires collide it can be confusing or even discouraging. People often seek a checklist of do's and do not's. In this podcast, Dan interviewed clinical Psychologist Daniel Burgess who specializes in Marriage and Family Therapy and has a passion for helping couples navigate sexual intimacy. Dr. Burgess challenges us to grow and become curious about our physical intimacy as he explains why understanding our values and relationship with God is important when it comes to what goes on in the bedroom.

Aug 11, 2021

One huge factor in enjoying a life-giving sex life is your overall attitude towards your own sexuality. Today, we have the privilege of interviewing Dr. Anthony Hughes. In this episode you'll learn to embrace your sexuality and not be ashamed of cultivating and sharing this powerful force within our marriages. Dr. Anthony Hughes is a sex therapist and founder of Covenant Sex Therapy. He is also a professor at Brigham Young University, a private religious school. Tune in to hear his view of sexuality from a faith and spiritual standpoint. Spoiler alert: it's very positive!!

Aug 4, 2021

In today's podcast episode I hope to share a message of hope and understanding to those that feel like the intimacy they experience in the bedroom is duty sex. I want to talk about what duty sex is and what it isn't, why couples fall into the pattern of duty sex, and what you can do about it.

Jul 28, 2021

The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is the little 'extra'." When you say "I Do", it's not the end of your dating years: it's just the beginning of a lifetime of growing and learning together. There's no one else I know who's more dedicated to making it easy for couples to keep dating after marriage than Tara Carson, the founder of The Dating Divas. In this episode we'll discuss how to come up with great date ideas, how to keep dating when you have little children, how to find great babysitters, and other ideas to keep the fires of romance burning bright for a long-lasting marriage. To find out more about Tara and the Dating Diva's sign up for their newsletter! Other resources mentioned in this podcast episode: Date Ideas 10 Minute Marriage Challenge Dollar Dates Babysitting Co-op Anti-Shake Tool for Bed

Jul 21, 2021

Have you ever thought about hiring a Boudoir photographer? Even the thought of having boudoir photos taken can be uncomfortable. Being willing to be photographed, as you are, imperfections and all says a lot about your willingness to accept and love yourself for who you are. What an admirable trait. Listen in as Caley Newberry Caley Newberry Studios a Nashville Boudoir photographer shares her story and how boudoir can bring you joy and a newfound love for your body. Enjoy!

Jul 14, 2021

Like any good story, every sexual encounter has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Most normal marriages have a few "scripts" they follow when it comes to their sex routine. In this episode Dr. Ian Kerner, a New York Times Best Seller and famous sex therapist, walks us through how we can analyze our scripts to improve the quality of sexual experience. In this episode we also discuss challenges that most monogamous couples face, incorporating both intercourse and "outercourse" into our scripts, ideas for closing the orgasm gap, and much more! Enjoy!

Jul 7, 2021

Join Dan this week as he discusses scheduling sex with Sexperts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo from ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Tony and Alisa share how scheduling sex into their busy lives changed their marriage. They also address common concerns with scheduling sex, such as loss of romance. Tune in to learn more!

Jun 30, 2021

Want to spice up your love life but don't know how? Desire, fantasy and foreplay are natural part of sexual intimacy. Sharing your desires and fantasies with your spouse is a fulfilling way to brings more passion to your marriage. Join Dan and our Sexpert Dr. Laurie Watson's to learn more tips on overcoming common difficulties surrounding foreplay, desire, and fantasy! Dr. Laurie Watson is a nationally acclaimed sex therapist, author, blogger, and co-host of the Foreplay Radio podcast.

Jun 23, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On! Dan talks with Ariel Finlinson from @ladies.talkinglove about misconceptions some people grow up with about their bodies and sex. Ariel shares some personal experiences with how she perceived her sex prior to marriage and how that changed once she was married. Spoiler alert! - Intimacy in marriage is way better than what the world teaches.

Jun 16, 2021

Of course we want our marriages to be a lifetime source of happiness, fun and excitement! However, after you've been married for a while, it's so easy to get used to each other and our regular patterns that even sex can seem boring at times. It's natural to want to infuse newness and novelty into your relationship. But how? In this episode we discuss two ways of thinking about novelty: horizontal (by broadening your repertoire) and vertical (diving deep to find hidden treasures within your spouse). We also discuss how to keep things in balance for a long-lasting and "sexciting" marriage! Download our app Intimately Us!

Jun 9, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On! Dan interviews the The Christian Sex Educator, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS. Carlie is a licensed Psychologist and Sex Researcher. Together Dan and Carlie discuss the importance of Sexual Agency within Marriage.

Jun 2, 2021

Purity Culture has impacted many of our lives. This week on Get Your Marriage On! Dan speaks with Dr. Camden Morgante. Dr. Morgante shares a few myths she actively works to dispel as a licensed clinical psychologist.

May 26, 2021

April Davis is a sex educator and runs the popular Instagram page called "the Vagina Blog". Join Dan as he and April discuss desire, arousal, sexual health, limiting beliefs, and making your sexuality a priority.

May 19, 2021

All marriages struggle with "fairness" within marriage at one point or another. Join Dan this week as he interviews Nate and Kaley Klemp from 80/80 Marriage on how to not get stuck competing with one another in the name of fairness.

May 12, 2021

Sex at it's very best is intimate. Join Dan this week by listening to his first solo podcast! Dan talks about initiation of sex and how that can differ from marriage to marriage or within a marriage over time! When you change your mindset from 'I want sex' to 'I want you' the very best intimacy occurs. Also! Tune in to hear 2 EXCITING things Get Your Marriage On! has happening this year! Whoot Whoot! You won't want to miss it.

May 5, 2021

Do you know your Enneagram number? Join Dan this week as he interviews Christa Hardin the Founder of Enneagram + Marriage! Christa is a Clinical Therapist and Life Coach. Tune in to hear Dan and Christa discuss the benefits of knowing your Enneagram and how it can impact or improve your marriage. If you are curious as to what your enneagram type is here are some resources: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/ https://app.trueself.io/ https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

Apr 28, 2021

Did you know that the wife is the high desire partner in 15-20% of marriages? It's not uncommon for women to have a higher desire for sex than men! This week Dan sat down with J Parker - a Christian Sex Author, Speaker, Blogger, and Podcaster. J discussed what it's like to be a high desire wife. She also discussed how the common assumption that men are always the higher desire partner is simply not true. Tune in to find out more!

Apr 21, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan interviews Dana Che. Dana is a relationship and marriage coach. Together they discuss how God can help you overcome common struggles within marriages while living true to your identity.

Apr 14, 2021

Do you know what a Pelvic Floor Therapist does? This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan sits down with Pelvis Floor Therapists Dr. Becky Allan and Dr. Corrie Maguire. Dr. Allan and Maguire share a plethora of information about the importance of pelvic floor health and dismiss some common assumptions. If you are experiencing pain during intercourse, erectile disfunction, have had a baby, or are planning to have a baby this is the episode for you!

Apr 7, 2021

This week Dan talks with sexpert Danielle Savory a trained neuroscientist and mindfulness coach. They discuss why people unintentionally settle for mediocre sex. Danielle shares some of her expertise on how to increase your mental awareness in the bedroom to enhance pleasure during sex.

Mar 31, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On! we did things a little bit differently. Dan and Emily were interviewed by Ariel Finlinson is the host of the Ladies Talking Love Podcast. Dan and Emily share their story of how a bedroom game changed their marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or your sex life seems dismal, check out this episode for some tips on how to Get Your Marriage On!!

Mar 24, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan sits down with Dr. Chavonne Perotte to discuss what to do when you are living like a roommate with little intimacy or meaningful connection. If you're often disappointed that your needs aren't being met or that you are always compromising but still feel the same this is the podcast for you. Dr. Chavonne Perotte is a Life and Marriage Coach with a doctorate degree from John Hopkins University. To find out more about Dr. Chavonne's work check out her website here.

Mar 17, 2021

Have you ever wanted to have the confidence to give your spouse a sexy lap dance? Join Dan Purcell and Keelie and Austin Reason, authors of the Love Hope Adventure blog on the podcast this week as they discuss how to do a Sexy Lap Dance step by step. By end of the podcast, you'll know all the dos and don'ts of a sexy lap dance.

Mar 10, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan sits down with Jessa Zimmerman a Certified Sex Therapist from Seattle to discuss desire level differences. Jessa helps expand the definition of what "sex" is and some of the traps higher desire and lower desires spouses fall into. If you struggle with rejection as a high desire partner or pressure for not desiring sex often this is the episode for you! To learn more about Jessa visit her website https://www.seattlesextherapist.com/ or check out her Intimacy With Ease course and transform your sex life from your own home, at your own pace. https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.com/a/44214/wVLdytyg

Mar 3, 2021

Join Dan Purcell on the podcast this week as he discuss honesty, overcoming obstacles, and creating a confident marriage with Sean and Jessica Weeks. Sean and Jessica Weeks run a business called "The Confident Marriage" where they share their story, tools, and resources to help couples create a confident marriage they have always wanted. Follow Sean and Jessica Weeks @confidentmarriage or check out their website https://www.theconfidentmarriage.com to learn more about them.

Feb 24, 2021

This week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan sits down with Seth and Melanie Studley, from Anatomy of Marriage, to discuss entitlement and how it hinders not only intimacy but also your relationship. You can learn more about Seth and Melanie and their work at Anatomy of Marriage. If you enjoy this episode, make sure to check out our app - Intimately Us!

Feb 17, 2021

Join Dan on the podcast this week to discuss awakening your sexuality with Ruth Buezis. Together they discuss some common myths that people are taught about sex and how Christian culture surrounding sex can conflict with what the Bible actually says about it.

Feb 10, 2021

Do you date your spouse? Once marriage and kids come along, it's more important than ever to keep the spark alive by dating your spouse! This week, sexpert Amberly Lambertsen from A Prioritized Marriage, gives us tips on how to make date night a priority despite having busy lives.

Feb 3, 2021

Being bored in marriage is totally preventable but it does take some work. Communicating your needs and wants is vital to marriages. Geoff Steurer, a Licenced Marriage and Family Therapist, teaches us how intimacy plays a role in healing from an affair and creating a happy marriage.

Jan 27, 2021

Pornography use can cause hurt, disappointment and an array of hurt feelings in your marriage. Today's Sexpert, Dr. Cameron Staley is a clinical psychologist and the creator or "Life After Pornography" online program. Dr. Staley speaks about how overcoming pornography and how to use this to strengthen your marriage. If you like this episode, make sure to check out our app Intimately. Us

Jan 20, 2021

Does your sex life seem a bit dismal? Are you not having sex regularly? Is your partner NEVER in the mood? In this podcast Corey Allan gives some tips on how to amp up your sex life in a healthy and meaningful way. If you're seeking a better sex life where both you and your spouse look forward to sex, this is the podcast for you!

Jan 13, 2021

For this Sexpert Interview, Dan sits down with Sarah Belzer. Sarah is the President of Coconu, an all natural personal care company. Dan and Sarah discuss all things lube and there's a lot more that goes into lube than you may think!

Jan 6, 2021

Nate Bagley is the founder of Growth Marriage "Where Ordinary People Create Extraordinary Love". Nate believes that most people suffer from a disease called "mediocre love" but they shouldn't! Nate's mission is to help couples achieve a ridiculously fulfilling marriage. In today's podcast, we discuss with Nate why "nice guys" have bad sex, how being a "nice guy" previously impacted Nate's relationships, and what to do if you find yourself being a "nice guy".

Dec 30, 2020

Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach & Intimacy Coach that helps conservative Christian women embrace their sexuality and love their sex life for themselves. In short, she's an expert at helping individuals identify and overcome limiting beliefs so that they can live with more joy. We cover topics such as: How limiting beliefs affect ourselves, our potential, our sexual and spiritual capacities, and other areas of our life How we can identify what our limiting beliefs are The link between living a life of integrity & being honest with ourselves and our spouse and the capacity for deeper intimacy How limiting beliefs sometimes get in the way of sexual desire in relationships How couples co-construct each other's limiting beliefs over time in their marriage, keeping both people in the marriage stuck What mistakes higher desire spouses tend to make, and what mistakes do lower desire spouses tend to make, and how to escape your destructive cycles Amanda isn't afraid to tackle controversial sexual topics, such as masturbation, toys, anal sex, and the like. We discuss why it's important for individuals to think about the meanings they associate with sex, and to discover for themselves what they feel is right for them and their marriage. How to best approach your spouse about something sexual you're interested in doing together, but are unsure if they'll respond positively. We discuss tips on how to best handle those hard conversations. And Amanda's black belt sex tips! For more information about Amanda Louder, check out https://www.amandalouder.com .

Dec 23, 2020

Studies show that men reach orgasm regularly during sex about 95% of the time, compared to 48% for women. Also, many of those in the 48% haven't always been in that group -- it's something they've grown into. Today's guest is Sheila Wray Gregoire, a fellow "sexpert" and creator of a research-based orgasm course for women. If you or someone you love in life wants to improve her orgasms, this one is for you! In this episode, we tackle questions like: How many women struggle with reaching orgasm? Why is there such a big orgasm gap between men and women? What myths get in the way of a healthy view of sex & orgasm? What are some of the relationship factors that affect a wife's ability to get there? How does pressure to climax, such as coming from the husband, affect a woman's ability to orgasm? How do your own expectations and pressure you put on yourself affect your ability to orgasm? What steps can a wife take on her own, for the purpose of getting comfortable with your own body and learning what feels good, for the benefit of the marriage? What are some techniques couples can try, besides intercourse? Why do people say oral sex so effective in this area? How can husbands help their wives get there? What should husbands NOT do to help their wives get there? How can women learn to have multiple orgasms? We also want to emphasize that there's more to sex than just orgasms. A WHOLE lot more. If you like this episode, be sure to download our app, Intimately Us at https://intimately.us

Dec 16, 2020

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is one of the best teachers I know that teach how to build a truly meaningful & rich relationship. She has her PhD in clinical psychology and teaches men's, women's, and couple's courses on sexuality and relationships. In this episode we talk about the three stages of sex and how to bring your marriage from whatever level you're at to the next level. We discuss the risks involved in being a better lover as well as what really good lovemaking looks like. To find out more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, check out https://finlayson-fife.com . If you like this episode you'll also enjoy our app. Download it at https://intimately.us .

Dec 9, 2020

Dan speaks with Belah Rose, internationally acclaimed sexual intimacy expert, coach, author, speaker and founder of Delight Your Marriage. Belah is the author of "Delight Your Husband". She's also created the Delight Your Husband Video Course, The Seduction Course™, The Delighted Wife Program™ and Masculinity Reclaimed Program™. She sure knows how to keep busy! In this episode, Belah speaks about how how self confidence leads to confidence in the bedroom. She talks about how her own marriage woes lead her on the path to discover more self confidence which strengthened her marriage and her sex life! If you like this episode, please check out our app, Intimately Us at https://intimately.us!

Dec 2, 2020

Ever feel like you're always begging for sex but settling for scraps and leftovers? Then this episode is for you. Dr. Mike Frazier coaches men on his Strong Man System to help men get back the marriage & sex lives they want by living a life of integrity and honesty.

Nov 25, 2020

Dr. Jessica McClease is a professional marriage counselor and sex therapist with a specialty in helping women overcome sexual issues. She often says sex is a reflection of the goodness and creativity of a loving God and sex in your marriage is a reflection of the relationship that you've already developed with your spouse. In this episode, we talk about: The fact that every person on the planet experiences sexual dysfunction at some period in their life, and that solutions are within reach Problems with sexual dysfunction that are unique to some individuals growing up in modern-day Christian cultures We discuss common sexual issues women face, such as inhibited sexual desire, inhibited arousal, vaginismus, painful intercourse (dyspareunia), vaginal dryness, and orgasm difficulties The role of physical, relational, and mental health in each of these concerns What to do if you have ongoing concerns The role of pelvic floor therapists How husbands can help support their wife if she's experiencing these things We finish off with some advanced "black belt" sex tips from this sexpert!

Nov 17, 2020

Monica was about to have her third baby and was meeting with the doctor about treating her anticipated postpartum depression that afflicted her past two childbirths. She really wanted to nurse this baby, and asked the doctor if there was anything else she could do to avoid going on medication after the baby was born. "Well, you could have more frequent and intense sex. Sex will release the same brain chemicals that these medications are trying to do." Her husband was like, "YEAH!" and Monica was like "DOUBLE YEAH!" This experience and many others has helped Monica coach many women and men on how a sex-first approach can strengthen marriages. In this episode you'll learn things like: - How Monica overcame postpartum depression by having more sex with her husband - How to combat negative messaging we receive - What healthy sexuality looks like - How we can take 100% responsibility for things in our control to give us more freedom - How focusing on the "brighter side" can be a tool to help you overcome attraction issues - You can't change your spouse, but your spouse will often change if you make changes within yourself first. - How you and your spouse don't necessarily need to have all interests common in order to be intimate - Training in the art of "sexpionage" - "Differentiation" -- bringing your goals and your dreams to life, and love your spouse accordingly - Do chores, like scrubbing the toilets -- naked! - Going two weeks without intercourse - ...and more Black Belt sex techniques! Download the Intimately Us app at https://intimately.us . Check out Monica Tanner's work at https://onthebrightersideoflife.com/!

Nov 11, 2020

Ever feel like you're not sexy because you don't look like Jessica Rabbit, or fit some sort of cultural ideal that someone else handed down to you? In this Sexpert Interview, I talk with Celeste Davis from Marriage Laboratory . She's a super smart (and funny) marriage nerd that has put in the hard work herself and has a lot of wonderful things to share. In this podcast we discuss topics such as: The Love Language experiments she and her husband did, and what surprised her about each one How to develop a healthy self image How being authentic and drawing on your own natural gifts is really sexy! How to discover your own version of "sexy" instead of comparing yourself to somebody else's image How to peel back the onion layers and work on yourself to be the very best version of you How to keep your sex life alive and strong for the long haul Celeste finishes the interview with some awesome "black belt" intimacy tips to take your marriage and lovemaking to the next level. If you like this episode, please check out our app, Intimately Us at https://intimately.us !

Nov 4, 2020

Welcome to another Sexpert Interivew Series podcast episode! Laura M. Brotherson is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapist. She's the author of three books, "And They Were Not Ashamed", "Knowing Her Intimately", and "From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After." She runs a private practice helping couples live a "sextraoridnary" life, has a podcast called The Marital Intimacy Show, and much more. In this episode we talk about the importance of adding variety to the way you and your spouse make love so that the marriage can last a long time. We also discuss details on how to go about discovering new things you like, and how to have conversations with your spouse around your preferences. If you like what you hear, check out our app at more resources at https://intimately.us !

Nov 4, 2020

In this episode of the Sexpert Interview Series, I interview Rhonda Farr, a certified intimacy coach. Rhonda shares her experience coaching many men and women on how to develop deeper intimacy in their marriage for better sex & a happier relationship. We discuss many concepts in this episode, including: Intimacy is the capacity to tolerate ourselves and each other The need to get honest with yourself Write out your own marriage manual The difference between making a request and demands What to do if you're having pity sex Black belt intimacy tips For more information on how to take your marriage to the next level, download the Intimately Us app from https://intimately.us