284: Is cheating (including emotional affairs) correlated with Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Jason Lange)

Cheating is both a sensitive and complex topic. It lies at the intersection of sexuality, betrayal, needs, wants, and power. Here we explore something we've noticed in our work: the correlation we’ve witnessed between the pattern of cheating, and not being in your power as a man. We go over both the experience of cheating as well as being cheated on. In Jason’s words, “One of the shadow sides of a lot of Nice Guys is tolerating not being treated well, and in a weird way this has partners treat them even worse.” To be clear, cheating is wrong and causes harm, and we are not condoning it. What we are doing is discussing questions like: What happens when your needs aren’t met in a relationship? How do you handle feeling stuck when it comes to sex and relationship? Whether you're dating or in a committed partnership, how do you effectively communicate with a partner when were never taught how to do so? Work with us Ready to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love life for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here . Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Memorable quotes from this episode: “I wasn’t taught to attune to myself, or advocate for myself.” ‘“Life just happening to us’ (as Nice Guys) vs. ‘I have the power to impact my life.’” “Confrontational tolerance is critical.” “It tends to bring guys alive.” Mentioned on this episode: Dear Men episode 128: Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder Dear Men episode 196: The “invisible” relationship pattern that can affect everything -- this is the one I reference, where we talk about emotional neglect 250: How do you re-polarize a relationship (bring back the spark) ? ft. Jason Lange -- this one explores the concept of polarity as well as reverse polarity