The Sacred We

Ready to go deeper? Join Mike and Courtney on June 8th for a 90-minute live deep dive on the To Be Seen and Heard Framework.👉Sign up for Seen & Heard a Sacred We deep dive: https://www.sacredrelating.com/Heard&SeenIf you clicked this, some part of you doesn't feel seen. This episode starts by honouring that ache — and then it gives you a map.In this raw and deeply personal solo episode, Mike Elliott traces the arc of his own unseenness from childhood to adulthood — and distils everything he's learned into three grounded, practical points.It starts with a rupture. Mike had a best friend from the age of 5 to 12. A fight, a shame spiral, and no one to guide him through the repair. His parents didn't notice. No one attuned. So he disappeared — three years of isolation, a skateboarding obsession, and the quiet belief that something was fundamentally wrong with him.Then, at 16, he became a lifeguard. People saw him. Women wanted to date him. His whole reality cracked open. Not because he'd changed — but because he'd finally found a mirror. And what that mirror showed him is one of the most powerful illustrations of what feeling seen actually does to a human being.This episode covers:The two root causes of not feeling seen — and why one of them has nothing to do with your partnerWhy our culture has trained us to immediately reciprocate compliments rather than actually receive themThe sabotage cycle: attracting love, then pushing it away — and what's underneath itWhat's actually needed: teaching someone how to see you vs. waiting for them to figure it outThe bedroom moment — Mike asks Courtney to see him as a father, slows down to let it land, and watches something unexpected happen from the overflowThe 30-second practice that starts rewiring your capacity to receive"Every single human being needs to feel seen, heard, and understood to integrate their lived experience and truly belong."If you want to go deeper, Mike and Courtney are hosting a 90-minute live deep dive on June 8th — going two inches wide and two miles deep on the To Be Seen and Heard framework. Details in the show notes.And if this episode is calling you toward the relational work itself — Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints Masterclass, her 1:1 private container, and Mike and Courtney's 2:2 couples work are all available. Links below.We love you. Let yourself be seen.Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney👉Sign up for our couples  list HERE: https://www.sac

Ready to do the relational work — not just the individual work? Mike and Courtney's 2:2 couples container holds both of you, tracks the patterns in real time, and wires you toward connection.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠What if the most well-intentioned support you're getting is quietly wiring you further from your partner?In this disruptive, deeply honest episode, Mike and Courtney challenge one of the most common beliefs in the personal growth world: that doing more individual work will fix what's broken in your relationship.It won't. And they've both lived it.Courtney spent the first several years of her career as a therapist watching the same thing happen over and over: the more she affirmed each person's individual pain, the more separation grew. Mike worked with his first couple using 15 years of coaching skill — and things got more volatile. Both of them kept hitting the same wall: individual support, without relational training and advocacy for the relationship itself, doesn't heal the we. It erodes it.Research backs this up. Studies show that therapists without relational training will pathologize the absent partner, affirm boundaries that create distance, and push individuals toward personal empowerment in ways that quietly chip away at the bond.In this episode:Why individual work and relational work are completely different skill setsThe three pieces of bad advice most commonly given by therapists not in relationship: more boundaries, take more space, they're not readyWhy "take a month apart" in rupture is often the worst possible advice — and what the nervous system actually needs"Neurons that fire together, wire together" — and why hearts and nervous systems are no differentThe three phases of relational consciousness: Me, You-Me, and WeWhy interdependence is not codependenceA real script for teaching even single friends to hold the sacred weThe honest report card for every support person in your life: is it leading to more connection?"You have to go through it to grow through it." This episode will challenge you, orient you, and give you a new lens for every support relationship in your life.Ready to do the actual relational work? Mike and Courtney offer 2:2 couples containers, Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints 1:1 private container, and her upcoming Masterclass. Links in show notes.We love you. Turn towards each other. 💛Curious about Mapping your Imprinting with Courtney?If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore wh

Curious about Mapping your Imprinting with Courtney?If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with CourtneyWhat if the relationship patterns you keep repeating aren't about the person you're with — but about what's already written in your body, your DNA, and your ancestral field?In this solo episode, somatic therapist and attachment specialist Courtney Wren introduces one of the most powerful frameworks she knows: relational imprinting. It's the hidden architecture of your love life — shaped by your ancestors, your conception, your time in the womb, your birth, and the first three years of your life. Before you had any conscious memory. Before you could even speak.Courtney opens with her own story: a deep bond with her father that ruptured when she turned three, because of trauma he was carrying from generations before. She didn't understand it as a child — but she lived it for decades. In every long-term relationship, around year three, the same pattern would unfold. Men would pull away. The little girl would get angry, then go silent. Then the relationship would end. Until she and Mike named it, worked with it as allies, and broke the cycle.In this episode:What an imprint is — and how 97% of relational patterns are rooted before conscious memory beginsWhy wanting to "do it different" will never be enough — the patterns are too alive in the bodyThe difference between fate (living out the pattern) and destiny (consciously working with the material)Why intimate partnership mirrors your imprint like nothing else — and why personal work alone has limitsThe story of Cedar and how generational adoption trauma played out through Mike's young sonWhen two imprints "ping" — and why this is where most couples get permanently stuckA client whose relationship with her teenage son transformed after clearing imprinting from her pregnancyThis is deep, real, and rooted in decades of somatic and constellation work. It will land in your mind, your body, and your cells.Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints Private Container is now open — only 3 spots remaining. 3 sessions2 months of WhatsApp supportCourtney's full attention on your imprintingBook a free 20-minute tuning-in call via the link in the show notes →Tune-in Call with CourtneyAn upcoming Mapping Your Imprints Masterclass is also on the horizon — get on Courtney's

If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule HereYou long for it. You might not even have words for it yet. But something in your body knows — motherhood was never meant to be done alone.In this intimate solo episode, Courtney sits down with her closest mama-sister, Skaia Warren — Oracle, village weaver, and mother to Aluna — for an honest, soul-nourishing conversation about what it actually takes to reclaim the mother village in modern life. Not the curated, cleaned-up version of connection. The real thing. The messy, inconvenient, deeply healing thing.This is the Sacred We in sisterhood and motherhood — and it's one of the most important conversations we've ever had.In This Episode:Why so many mothers are isolated — and the nervous system reason it's so hard to reach outThe difference between curated connection and true village (and why only one actually fills you up)What Skaia did when her daughter Aluna cried out from the womb: "Mama, where's my village?"How Courtney and Skaia built deep sisterhood in the trenches — not when everything was perfectThe power of being witnessed in motherhood, even in the moments you're not proud ofWhy weaving village is inconvenient — and why that's exactly the pointThe sticky notes dynamic between children: what kids' relationship patterns reveal about oursWhat "care" (not caretaking) really means in mama sisterhood5 actionable things you can do right now to start building your village📚 Resources:📬 Sign up for Courtney's mailing list — upcoming webinars and short courses on motherhood, attachment & nervous system —  ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠💑 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredweConnect with Skaia’s at her Instagram channel — https://www.instagram.com/skaiaschannel?igsh=c2xxZmRhMnpnMWZs*If this episode landed in your heart, share it with a mama in your life who needs to hear it. And leave us a 5-star review — it helps us reach the mothers who are ready for this. 💛💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relati

Curious about Evolutionary Relationship — The Initiation?If something's pulling you toward this program, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule HereWhat does it actually look like to go from stuck, disconnected, and in the deepest grief of your life — to a love that radiates so strongly, people stop you on the street?In this deeply moving episode, Mike and Courtney are joined by Jen and Eli — a real couple they've worked with closely over several years — to share the full arc of their relational journey. From anxiety-avoidance cycles and the devastating loss of their son, to a wedding that moved their community to tears and a marriage now rooted in conscious, sacred love.This is what the work actually looks like. This is the evidence.In This Episode:How Jen and Eli went from a "power couple" surface image to hitting the painful patterns underneathLosing their son to an overdose — and how grief became the doorway to a deeper loveWhy Eli resisted the work at first (and the moment everything changed)The "sticky notes" exercise that helped them finally see each other clearlyWhat the Sacred We actually feels like in daily life — Eli's simple, powerful answerHow Jen learned to regulate her own fire instead of expecting Eli to walk into itThe moment the soul of the relationship clicked — and changed their marriage foreverWhy community and mentorship made the difference where therapy alone couldn'tHow their transformation is now radiating into their son's life and their entire communityResources:💑 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation —https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-community ⭐📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney → Schedule HereIf Jen and Eli's story moved you, please leave us a 5-star review and share this episode with a couple you love. This is what's possible. 💛💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike →<a href="https://

Curious about Evolutionary Relationship — The Initiation?If something's pulling you toward this program, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule HereMost couples don't ask for help until the relationship is already bleeding.In this episode, Mike and Courtney Elliott get personally vulnerable about what it actually costs to wait — and what becomes possible when you don't.Courtney shares her experience across two long-term relationships where support came too late: years of patterns piling up, distance quietly hardening, and by the time help arrived, the gap had grown too wide. Mike shares how he showed up to couples therapy in his first marriage completely emotionally unavailable — and didn't even know it. His therapist told him she'd never met anyone like him. He took it as a compliment. It wasn't.This episode covers:Why the "wait until it's bad enough" pattern isn't just cultural — it's wired into us from childhoodHow couples slowly normalize disconnection until the numbness becomes the relationshipThe three phases of relational consciousness — Me, You-Me, and We — and what it takes to evolve into the thirdHow the inner child unconsciously steers the relationship toward its oldest woundsA real couple who'd been struggling for 10 years — and reconnected in a single sessionWhy strong, thriving couples invest in support before crisis, not because of itBONUS: The exact "We Language" framework to invite a resistant partner into supportIf this is landing, the Evolutionary Relationship Program is open now. Don't wait for the crisis to decide you deserve something better. If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐We love you. We see you. ❤️Follow: @sacredrelating | sacredrelating.comIf this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work wit

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us.Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to KnowWhat if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to?In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard.You'll Learn:What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps:[0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendationResources:📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link📖 Gordon Ne

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but have some questions, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠Are you feeling like the world is spinning faster than ever — and wondering how to keep up without burning out?In this episode, Mike and Courtney dive deep into what ancient prophecies, astrology, and spiritual teachers have long called The Great Change — a cosmic shift that's accelerating everything: technology, relationships, consciousness, and the structures of society itself.From the Hopi prophecy to Gene Keys, from Peru's ancient stone portals to Richard Rudd's teachings on the new human, Mike and Courtney weave together timeless wisdom and modern insight to help you understand why the world feels so chaotic right now — and what you can do to not just survive it, but thrive within it.In this episode, you'll discover:Why time is speeding up — and what ancient cultures predicted about this exact moment in historyThe difference between the electromagnetic energy system (old) and crystalline energy (new) — and how this shift is affecting your nervous systemThe Hopi prophecy's powerful metaphor of "getting in the canoe" and letting go of the banksHow the ego tries to keep you gripping for certainty — and why letting go actually feels betterWhy your intimate relationships are your greatest resource for navigating collective chaosThe Gene Keys concept of your vocation key — and how your deepest wound is actually your greatest gift to the worldWhat Richard Rudd revealed at his 2024 London talk about the "new human" and the significance of 2027Why interdependence — not hyper-independence — is where we truly thriveWhether you're navigating uncertainty in your relationship, your career, or your inner world — this episode is an invitation to stop fighting the current and start riding it.Hit play, get in the canoe, and let's go.Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction02:00 — About Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation04:30 — Ancient prophecies & Peru07:00 — Crystalline energy vs. electromagnetic energy09:30 — The Hopi prophecy11:00 — The ego's grip: Certainty vs. trust13:00 — Splitting into two dimensions of experience20:00 — Gene Keys & Richard Rudd22:00 — Your vocation key<

If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-callJealousy in relationships isn’t just about insecurity — it often reveals a deeper wound of feeling “not enough.”In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike and Courtney explore how jealousy, comparison, and fear of replacement arise inside intimate partnerships. Beneath the surface reactions of control, accusation, or emotional withdrawal often lives a deeper story: the not-enough wound.Drawing from their own relationship experiences and years of working with couples, Mike and Courtney unpack how jealousy can become either destructive or transformative depending on how partners meet it.In this conversation you’ll learn:What jealousy is really trying to reveal in relationshipsHow the “not enough” wound shows up in both partnersWhy comparison creates distance and disconnectionHow couples can turn jealousy into deeper intimacyWhat it means to heal side by side rather than aloneRather than seeing jealousy as something to eliminate, Mike and Courtney explore how it can become a doorway into vulnerability, truth, and deeper partnership.Chapters: 00:00 Jealousy Is Not The Threat00:30 Three Part Roadmap01:43 Postpartum Insecurity Story08:48 Naming Needs And Safety10:55 The Cabin Reassurance Moment19:51 Why Being Fine Disconnects24:59 Thirds And Paper Cuts29:26 Polyamory And Capacity31:24 Social Settings Coping Pattern32:40 Coping With Jealousy34:11 Reaching For Vulnerability36:42 Love Is Tender37:47 Creating Safety Together39:22 Support And Practice43:17 Self Responsibility And Growth48:02 Jealousy Versus Disconnection51:12 Mike’s Temple Trigger57:42 Needs Under The Jealousy01:05:05 Program Invitation And ClosingIf you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here: ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeellio

Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection?In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away.We explore:The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachmentWhy anxious partners can look avoidant at timesThe illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”)The demand stage vs. self-initiationHow to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourselfWhether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership.Chapters:00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation02:24 Rate And Share Request02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant12:35 Working With Inner Anger18:22 How To Stay Present21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel24:33 Hard Work For Everyone25:41 Only One Showing Up26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion28:28 Embodied Connection Skills31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds44:33 What Anxious Partners Need46:04 Relational Authority Framework48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper52:34 Closing Love and SupportIf you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice.👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacred

What if the part of you that feels weak is actually the key to emotional maturity, intimacy, and relational freedom?In this deeply personal solo episode, Mike explores how avoiding weakness, shame, and shadow parts of ourselves creates projection, defensiveness, and disconnection in relationships. Many of us try to build confidence, strength, discipline, and success to outrun the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate — but the more we resist weakness, the more it quietly shapes our behaviour.Drawing from personal stories, including childhood trauma, overcompensation, addiction patterns, masculine identity, and relational conflict, Mike introduces a powerful three-part framework inspired by Gene Keys shadow work: Allow. Accept. Embrace.He unpacks how unintegrated weakness leads to projection, criticism, gaslighting, emotional defensiveness, and the inability to attune in partnership — and why true intimacy begins when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves that feel small.This episode is about masculine vulnerability, shadow integration, relational accountability, and how loving your weakest parts increases your capacity to love others.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship but also have some specific questions, let's hop on a no pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@t

Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy?In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less.If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul deathThe difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an actionHow the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less lovingThe moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationshipHow "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnershipWhy boundaries and conditions are actually deeply lovingHow to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly lovedReal examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shiftKey Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. Early bird pricing available until February 19th—$2,000 savings. https://www.sacredrelating.com/Timestamps:0:01 The problem with unconditional love2:11 Introducing the radical idea: love is conditional5:01 Bell Hooks changed everything: "Love is an action"7:04 Why this matters in relationships11:47 The story: How Mike's unconditional love was actually hurting them14:47 Courtney's fierce love and what shifted15:49 The river needs banks: why conditions create safety17:34 Parenting example: How boundaries created more love19:40 Client example: How clarity on conditions changed everything20:28 Gordon Neufeld's insight: No boundaries = neglect21:52 True mature love has limits24:05 The paradox: Love as action + unconditional self-love27:42 Why knowing your conditions attracts the right partner28:27 The Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation programIf you are feeling the pull to join  our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the

🌱 If you’re feeling called to practice this work in real time, our flagship offering Evolutionary Relationship - The Initiation, price is increasing in two weeks—join at the current rate here. → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-weIf you’ve been told to take space, go into another room, and self-regulate before reconnecting with your partner, this episode may completely change how you understand intimacy.In the conscious relationship and nervous-system world, self-regulation is often treated as the gold standard for healing conflict. But what if focusing on self-regulation alone is actually creating more separation, loneliness, and disconnection in your relationship?In this deeply embodied episode, Mike & Courtney challenge the self-regulation myth and introduce a radically different approach: co-regulation as the foundation of intimacy. Drawing from attachment science, developmental psychology, and real moments from their own relationship, they explain why humans learn regulation through connection — not isolation — and why intimacy deepens fastest when partners become regulation buddies.They share how ruptures that once lasted days now resolve in minutes, why taking space too soon can reinforce attachment wounds, and how learning to stay together in dysregulation builds trust, safety, polarity, and desire.✨ In this episode:Why self-regulation alone can deepen separationHow co-regulation actually builds nervous-system resilienceWhy taking space too quickly can backfireThe concept of becoming “regulation buddies”The golden rule: connection before communicationChapters:00:00 Introduction to the Self-Regulation Myth00:51 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation01:23 Special Offer Announcement02:13 Challenging Relationship Myths03:00 The Self-Regulation Myth Explained04:01 The Power of Co-Regulation05:11 Personal Experiences and Insights08:00 The Sacred We Space23:29 Practical Applications and Success Stories42:24 Conclusion and Invitation🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → <a href="https://www.courtneywr

Do you find yourself constantly trying to help, coach, or fix your partner — and still feeling disconnected, resentful, or exhausted?In this powerful episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney explore the subtle but destructive line between loving someone and trying to fix them. While fixing often looks like care, support, or problem-solving, it frequently masks anxiety, control, and an avoidance of our own inner work — and it quietly erodes intimacy, polarity, and trust.Drawing from deeply personal stories from their past relationships and their current marriage, Mike & Courtney unpack the fixer–fixee dynamic, why it’s so common among helpers, coaches, and healers, and how it creates codependence rather than connection. They introduce practical frameworks like the sticky note theory, the Go First principle, and their sacred no-coaching rule — tools that help couples move out of resentment and back into true partnership.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:Why fixing feels helpful but damages intimacyThe hidden anxiety underneath the fixer roleHow fixing kills polarity and desireThe difference between reflection, vulnerability, and fixingHow to reclaim your own seat in relationshipChapters:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast01:07 The Fixer Dynamic in Relationships03:06 Personal Stories of Fixing07:10 Realizations and Shifts12:44 The Sticky Note Theory14:02 Mike's Experience with Fixing18:25 The Impact of Fixing on Relationships26:13 Personal Growth and Responsibility29:09 Discovering Self in Relationships30:30 Embodying Your Desires32:50 The Sacred We: A Partnership Approach33:57 The Mirror of Relationships35:53 Navigating Fixer Tendencies38:48 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support41:54 The Power of Vulnerability44:19 Rules for Healthy Relationships46:30 Trusting the Process51:15 Final Thoughts and Call to Action🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for Couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-we💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney </stro

If you’ve been trying to “calm” your child in the name of nervous system regulation, this episode may completely change how you parent.In today’s parenting culture, regulation is often mistaken for calmness — but true nervous system regulation has nothing to do with suppressing energy, emotions, or vitality. In this powerful solo episode, Courtney Wren unpacks the biggest myth in nervous-system–aware parenting and explains what real regulation actually looks like in children and parents.Drawing from her background in somatic therapy, trauma healing, and lived experience as a mother, Courtney explains how children naturally move through cycles of high energy, rest, emotion, and activation — and why labeling active children as “dysregulated” often reflects the parent’s nervous system, not the child’s. She introduces two core nervous system types (often misunderstood in parenting), explains how generational trauma shaped our ideas of “good behavior,” and offers practical tools for tracking regulation accurately.✨ In this episode:Why regulation does not equal calm Parenting the Nervous System Th…The difference between vitality and dysregulation Parenting the Nervous System Th…The two primary nervous system types in children Parenting the Nervous System Th…How parents project their own overwhelm onto kids Parenting the Nervous System Th…Why this generation of children has more life force Parenting the Nervous System Th…Practical bedtime tools that actually work Parenting the Nervous System Th…Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:59 Understanding the Nervous System01:30 Parenting with a Regulated Nervous System06:39 The Myth of Regulation Equals Calm08:59 Stages of Nervous System Healing10:43 Defining True Regulation15:49 Recognizing Dysregulation in Children20:22 Types of Nervous Systems: Hummingbirds and Whales24:53 Parenting Different Nervous System Types28:41 Recognizing Whale Children's Needs29:52 Engaging Whale Children31:46 Understanding Hummingbird Children35:30 Parenting Strategies for Different Children39:11 The Impact of Ancestral Trauma48:27 Bedtime Tips for Whale and Hummingbird Children🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for Couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2

If you want more passion, polarity, and “juiciness” in your relationship, this episode is a real behind-the-scenes look at how masculine and feminine energies actually work in daily life. Many couples lose sexual charge not because something is “wrong,” but because their connection becomes neutralized over time. When the masculine and feminine poles aren’t consciously tended, relationships can start to feel stale, flat, or disconnected even when you’re doing all the “right” things. In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney unpack masculine essence and feminine essence (Shiva and Shakti), how to discover your authentic balance on the spectrum, and how to consciously choose polarity so intimacy stays alive.They share a personal story from their holiday season, how sickness and “mission mode” shifted their dynamic, and the exact moment they restored connection by flipping the polarity with presence, emotional truth, and nervous-system safety.✨ In this episode:What masculine & feminine energy really means (beyond gender)How to find your authentic balance (not your coping strategy)Why things get “stale” and how to bring the charge backShiva/Shakti, banks/river, bowl/water: simple metaphors that clickThe #1 thing that kills polarity (and how to avoid it)📍 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to The Together Podcast00:51 Understanding Polarity: Masculine and Feminine Energies03:13 Personal Stories: Navigating Polarity in Daily Life07:31 Reconnecting Through Vulnerability22:43 Defining Masculine and Feminine Essence30:37 Creative Chaos in the Kitchen31:23 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Rhythms32:39 Exploring Gender and Essence36:07 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies40:05 Conscious Polarity in Relationships48:51 Practical Applications of Polarity54:52 The Number One Killer of Polarity57:11 Free Offer and Final Thoughts🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney →

If you’ve outgrown conventional relationship advice and are craving a deeper, more conscious way of loving, this episode is for you.In a world that emphasizes hyper-independence, self-healing, and “doing your own work,” many couples feel confused about how to actually grow together. Sacred relationship offers a radically different paradigm—one where love becomes a living practice of mutual evolution, nervous system maturity, and devotion to the shared space between two people.In this foundational episode, Mike & Courtney explore how sacred relationship redefines modern love by moving beyond unconscious patterns, codependence myths, and purely individual growth. They share personal stories from their own marriage, the mentors who shaped their journey, and why thriving relationships require radical sovereignty AND deep togetherness.This conversation is an invitation into a more mature, embodied form of love—one that creates not just stability, but vitality, coherence, and real transformation for both partners.✨ In this episode:What sacred relationship actually is (and what it’s not)Why hyper-independence weakens intimacyThe difference between individual healing and relational masteryWhy couples need support from people living this workHow the “Sacred We” becomes a third, guiding intelligenceWhy relationship can be an accelerated path of awakeningChapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:14 Defining Sacred Relationship01:42 The Journey of Self-Love and Togetherness04:13 Challenges and Growth in Relationships07:23 The Role of Therapists and Guides09:16 Personal Development vs. Relational Skills12:36 The Importance of Relational Support17:24 The We Space and Mutual Growth29:57 The Role of Adaptive Child in Relationships30:23 Understanding the Adaptive Child30:43 The Role of the Wise Adult32:31 The Power of Sacred Relationships35:17 The Importance of Supportive Circles39:45 Navigating Triggers and Growth43:18 The Impact of Sacred Relationship Coaching48:54 Reflecting on Your Support System50:02 Invitation to Sacred Relationship57:50 Final Thoughts and Encouragement🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work

Are you frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away just when you’re trying to connect?In this deeply personal solo episode, Courtney Wren explores avoidant attachment, emotional withdrawal, and why pushing for connection often creates more distance instead of intimacy. Many people in conscious relationships feel lonely, unseen, or blamed for “needing too much” when their partner shuts down — but what’s actually happening underneath avoidance is far more complex.Courtney unpacks how avoidant attachment forms through emotional neglect, why avoidant partners often feel “fine” while the relationship suffers, and how nervous system regulation plays a critical role in intimacy. She shares real stories from her relationship with Mike, practical examples of what not to do, and powerful ways to invite connection without overwhelming, shaming, or chasing your partner.This episode is especially for those asking:Why do I feel like I’m doing all the work?How do I stop pushing and still stay true to myself?Is it possible to heal avoidance together?✨ In this episode:Why avoidance isn’t a choice — and why it feels safer than connectionThe difference between healthy space and relational withdrawalHow shame blocks avoidant partners from knowing what they feelWhat actually invites an avoidant partner back into connectionHow to stop repeating childhood attachment wounds in adult loveWhy meeting avoidance with compassion creates real change🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpo

Burnout, mental load, resentment, feminine essence, masculine presence—why so many women feel unseen (and how couples reconnect fast).There are so many women and mothers today who are wrung out—tired, irritable, overburdened, underappreciated, and quietly nearing the point of giving up. And there are so many partners who are trying, yet still feeling “never enough.”In this episode, I’m your brother and ally. I break down why women burn out, how the mental and emotional load silently stacks over time, and why so many couples get trapped in misattunement—loving each other in ways that don’t land.We cover:Why burnout + resentment builds (and what’s actually underneath it)The “mental load” problem and why it’s so invisibleThe myth of “masculine vs feminine” (and a clearer model of essence)What feminine essence needs to feel seen, met, and openWhat masculine essence needs to feel valued, trusted, and motivatedPractical ways to shift the dynamic so love finally landsChapters:00:00 – Why So Many Women Are Burnt Out06:45 – The Hidden Mental & Emotional Load Women Carry15:20 – When Men Are Trying but Still Missing the Mark22:40 – How Divorce Initiated Me Into This Work30:10 – The Myth of Masculine & Feminine Energy38:30 – Understanding Essence Beyond Gender50:15 – What Feminine Essence Actually Needs57:40 – Why Appreciation for Tasks Doesn’t Land1:06:20 – What Masculine Essence Needs to Thrive1:15:10 – How Polarity Restores Connection & Desire1:26:30 – Practical Tools to Meet Each Other Differently1:38:00 – Repair, Receivership & Moving Forward TogetherIf you’re a woman feeling unseen, this gives language to what’s been happening inside you.If you’re a man who wants to meet your woman better, this gives you a practical orientation and tools that change everything.If this hits home, share it with your partner and leave a 5-star review—this work deserves to reach more couples🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → <a href="https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching" t

This is not a conversation about sex — it’s a conversation about awakening.In this episode, we sit down with Emily and Rob for one of the most honest, soul-rattling explorations of sexuality, shame, intimacy, and true erotic awakening.We uncover:What parasympathetic / yin sex really isHow to move from friction-based sex to regenerative lovemakingThe meaning of “conscious cock” and why soft penetration can create more pleasureWhy women feel numb — and how to reawaken the cervix, womb, and erotic systemHow men can dissolve shame, pressure, performance anxiety, and inherited porn conditioningHow to reconnect cock + heartHow betrayal can become an initiation into deeper intimacyWhy receiving is the hardest — and most transformative — practice for menHow couples can build a relationship where sex is emotional, spiritual, and deeply connectiveWhether you’re a man, woman, or couple, this episode will change the way you see intimacy forever.Chapters00:00 – Why Most Couples Never Reach True Intimacy06:15 – Conscious Cock: What It Really Means12:40 – Unconscious Taking vs. Sacred Penetration20:14 – Betrayal as the Sexual Initiation27:50 – Parasympathetic Sex: Soft, Slow, Sacred37:10 – The Masculine Initiation: Receiving Without Performing46:40 – Yin Sex, Heart Orgasms & Regenerative LovemakingFind Emily online: Website: http://www.maiden-medicine.com/Instagram: @maidenmedicine🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/chann

If you’ve been feeling confused, disconnected, or stuck in the “should I stay or should I go?” loop, this is one of the most important relationship episodes you’ll ever hear. Millions of people search for clarity around leaving a relationship because unresolved uncertainty creates emotional distress, nervous system dysregulation, and a chronic sense of instability in the bond. In conscious partnership, clarity, commitment, emotional safety, and direction are essential for healthy attachment, secure love, and real connection.In this powerful episode, Mike & Courtney guide you through the psychology behind feeling half-in/half-out, why this state quietly destroys relationships, how to identify deal-breakers, and how to know whether your partnership is meant to evolve or dissolve. They also share deeply personal stories about their past relationships, trauma patterns, attachment wounds, and what mature love looks like when clarity finally arrives.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why “one foot in, one foot out” is emotionally and physically damagingThe difference between discomfort and real deal-breakersHow to find clarity when you’re terrified of choosingWhy honesty (with self and partner) is the key to maturityWhat sacred devotion looks like—even when the relationship must endHow to exit with love instead of drama🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ <a href="https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist" target="_blank" rel="ugc no

If you’ve been craving deeper connection, emotional intimacy, or more support in your relationship, this episode is for you. Most couples don’t disconnect because of big fights—they drift because of the everyday, unconscious habits that slowly erode closeness. From frustrations about chores to mismatched rhythms, unspoken expectations, and stress in your nervous system, the day-to-day can quietly chip away at even the strongest relationships.In this powerful and relatable episode, Mike and Courtney break down how to rebuild connection, improve communication, and strengthen emotional safety in conscious partnership. They explore masculine and feminine dynamics, relationship repair, appreciation practices, and how to shift from resentment to teamwork.You’ll learn simple, practical tools for sacred relationship, couples connection, and creating a healthy daily rhythm where both partners feel seen, supported, and valued.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why the “little things” create big disconnectionsHow to talk about frustration without blameThe 3 keys for staying connected: talk about it, take initiative, practice appreciationHow structure and flow create harmonyA nervous-system-based approach to reconnecting in the daily grind🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy

What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:“What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.🌿 You’ll learn:Why “trying to change your partner” always backfiresThe real reason your partner resists transformationHow to move from control to curiosityThe link between self-abandonment and resentmentHow to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let goA powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change 03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go? 06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance 10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries 15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table 22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating 27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work 31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change 36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You 42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee 48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers 52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love 58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation🎁 Free Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift to receive our Guided Journal Practice: Coming Home to Clarity.🌱 Join the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist<

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠We’ve all been there—your partner is right beside you, saying all the right things, but somehow… you can’t feel them.In this deep and tender episode, Mike and Courtney explore why it’s hard to receive love, even when it’s right in front of us. They reveal the hidden forces—like our negativity bias and survival wiring—that keep us stuck in complaint, disconnection, and old stories, and share how to move back into felt connection.🌿 You’ll learn:Why your brain resists receiving love (and how to rewire it)The “ANTs” that crawl through every relationship: Automatic Negative ThoughtsHow to spot when your inner child is running the showA nervous-system-based way to reconnect when you can’t feel each otherThe simple trick that transforms disconnection into intimacy📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 Why It’s Hard to Receive Love 03:00 The Negativity Bias & “Automatic Negative Thoughts” 07:00 How the Brain Gets Addicted to Complaining 11:00 Common Triggers that Block Connection 14:00 The Inner Child vs. the Healthy Adult 19:00 Relearning How to Receive Love 23:00 Receiving as a Felt Sense in the Body 27:00 How Presence Changes Everything 32:00 Guiding Connection Through Curiosity 36:00 The Art of Staying in Your Seat 39:00 Daily Practices for Receiving 45:00 The 90% Rule: Seeing What’s Here 47:00 Bonus Practice + Together Community Invitation 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS:

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistWhat if motherhood is sacred work and how we change the world?In this tender and powerful solo episode, Courtney shares how motherhood itself is medicine—a sacred path of rewiring your lineage, healing ancestral trauma, and restoring the balance of love in the world.She speaks about how mothers can move beyond “doing the actions” and into the deeper embodiment of the Medicine Mama — the mother who transforms her nervous system, rewires patterns, and births a new world through presence, consciousness, and devotion.🌿 You’ll learn:Why motherhood is not just a role, but a spiritual practiceHow to rewire generational patterns through your body and nervous systemThe difference between “thinking” motherhood and being motherhoodWhat it means to be a Medicine Mama and embody the Holy Mother archetypeA 3-step practice to begin healing patterns within yourself, your children, and your lineage📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 What It Means to “Do” Motherhood 04:00 The Lineage & Cultural Patterns We Inherit 10:00 The Nervous System and Generational Rewiring 17:00 Becoming the Medicine Mama 20:00 How Healing Ripples Into Your Children 28:00 Rewriting Lineage Through Presence 34:00 Motherhood as Spiritual Practice 39:00 The Role of Sisterhood and Support 46:00 The 3-Step Practice for Repatterning 49:00 Invitation to The Holy Mama MembershipFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistMost couples think fighting is a sign something’s wrong. But what if conflict is actually a doorway to deeper connection—when done well?In this short, powerful episode, Mike and Courtney guide you through how to move from reactivity to ritual by creating simple agreements that transform fights into opportunities for intimacy and growth.They share their top three agreements every couple should have, how to interrupt recurring conflict patterns, and why ritualizing repair builds safety, tone, and resilience in your nervous system.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why couples repeat the same fights (and how to break the cycle)The 3 essential agreements every couple needs:The Sacred Pause“I” StatementsNo Bond ThreatsHow to create rituals of connection in conflictWhy physical touch during disagreements builds safetyHow to use shared agreements to build trust, tone, and repair📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:00 Why We Repeat the Same Fights 04:00 How Our Conditioning Shapes Conflict 08:00 Why Rituals Keep Relationships Safe 11:00 The Sacred Pause 13:00 “I” Statements 17:00 No Bond Threats 22:00 How to Create Your Own Agreements 26:00 Final Thoughts + Free GiftFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistAre you craving connection—or clinging to it?In this heartfelt and deeply practical episode, Mike and Courtney explore the subtle but powerful difference between healthy intimacy and codependence. They unpack how couples can navigate the tension between togetherness and individuality without losing polarity, passion, or self-trust.Through personal stories and lived experience, they reveal how sacred partnership thrives when both partners feel free, grounded, and whole.🌿 You’ll learn:How to know if your “closeness” has crossed into codependenceWhat healthy interdependence looks and feels likeWhy space and sovereignty strengthen attractionHow to take space without creating disconnectionThe masculine and feminine sides of over-giving and over-relying📍 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 00:46 Am I Codependent? 02:18 The Difference Between Connection & Clinging 04:55 Real-Life Stories of Over-Giving 10:14 The Feminine Need for Safety 15:30 When Space Feels Scary 20:00 How the Masculine Over-Gives 28:19 Creating Space Without Disconnection 36:11 Reconnection Practices 42:00 Healthy Interdependence in Sacred Partnership 48:03 Final Thoughts & InvitationFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS:

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistIn this solo episode, Courtney takes us deep into one of the most tender pain points in relationships: what happens when the feminine doesn’t feel held in her emotions.From defensiveness to shutdown, many women know the heartbreak of trying to share their feelings—only to feel unmet, unheard, or “too much.” But there’s a different way.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:The myth of what it means to be “fully expressed”How to create internal boundaries that honor your feelings without unleashing raw emotion at your partnerHow to set containers for deeper conversations that actually get heardThe feminine’s role in cultivating safety, expression, and grace in sacred relationshipPractical tools for self-tending: movement, sound, inner child work, and sisterhood📍 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Together Podcast01:30 Today's Topic: The Feminine Journey02:42 Understanding Emotional Expression06:08 The Myth of Being Fully Expressed09:10 Setting Boundaries for Emotional Safety13:28 Communicating Emotional Needs32:04 Practical Tools for Emotional Regulation37:28 Conclusion and Upcoming ProgramsThis is an invitation to move from unmet to fully expressed—without losing connection, safety, or love.🎧 Listen nowFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

🎁Free Gift: Download The Emotional Edge — a grounding tool to help you regulate your nervous system and show up with presence → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-in⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠Most fathers are taught to put the mission first. To provide, achieve, and sacrifice time at home for the sake of the family. But what if that conditioning is costing us the very connection our children need most?In this vulnerable solo episode, Mike shares his own awakening as a father — realizing that presence is more valuable than being the “hero.” He explores why the first three years of a child’s life are so critical, how a father’s nervous system imprints on his kids, and why shared family presence is the foundation of love, belonging, and resilience.🌿 You’ll learn:Why children don’t need a hero — they need your presenceThe irreplaceable role of fathers in early childhoodHow presence impacts your partner, your kids, and your shared nervous systemWhy the “mission first” mentality creates regret later in lifeHow to shift your mission to include family without losing purpose📍 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships and Conscious Parenting01:17 Personal Story: Shifting Priorities as a New Father04:28 The Importance of Presence in Early Childhood06:10 Understanding Child Development and Parental Roles10:36 The Impact of a Father's Presence17:52 Creating a Connected Family Unit33:41 Reflections and Final Thoughts40:12 Conclusion and Free Resource🎧 Listen now and start rewriting the story of fatherhood.🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://s

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → ⁠⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift⁠⁠🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠⁠⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠⁠⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠⁠Most men live in their heads. They overthink, shut down emotions, and wonder why their relationships feel disconnected.In this powerful solo episode, Mike shares his personal story of moving from the head to the heart — and why this shift is the single most important move a man must make to experience real love, safety, and lasting connection.Through raw storytelling, client breakthroughs, and practical tools, you’ll learn how to drop into your heart, live from vulnerability, and create relationships where both partners can finally feel safe to open.🌿 You’ll learn:Why living in your head creates distance and disconnectionThe science of heart intelligence & why your heart leads your headHow vulnerability transforms intimacy and attractionReal-life stories of men who made the shift — and changed everythingSimple practices to begin living from your heart todayChapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:10 The Importance of Men Living from the Heart 02:18 Personal Journey and Transformation 04:00 Scientific and Experiential Insights on Heart Intelligence08:51 Client Success Stories 13:18 Practical Tips for Men to Connect with Their Hearts 21:22 The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships 32:07 The Initiated Man: Men's Community 39:56 Conclusion and Call to Action🎧 Listen nowFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠⁠Instagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistIn this raw, illuminating episode, Mike and Courtney dive deep into the Feminine Oracle — the part of a woman that speaks truth, wisdom, and emotional clarity… even when it comes out as complaints, defensiveness, or “never good enough.”They share personal stories, the impact of patriarchy on the Oracle’s voice, and how to listen without taking it personally. Discover how the Oracle shows up in relationships, families, and communities — and how the masculine can respond in a way that builds trust and unlocks deeper connection.🌿 In this episode you’ll learn:What the Feminine Oracle really isHow to hear the wisdom beneath defensivenessWhy complaints can be invitations for deeper loveThe masculine’s role in supporting the OracleDaily practices to build connection & trust🎁 FREE Gift: Leave a 5-star review, screenshot it, and send it to ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift — you’ll receive a guided meditation to deepen love and connection in your relationship.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 00:41 Today's Topic: Unlocking the Feminine Oracle 01:23 Support Us and Get a Free Gift 02:25 Navigating Podcast Platforms 03:06 Her Body and Emotions: A Personal Story 06:03 Understanding the Oracle in Relationships 07:10 The Impact of Patriarchy on the Feminine Oracle 08:00 The Oracle's Role in Couples 10:37 Listening to the Oracle's Messages 14:15 The Masculine Perspective on the Oracle 18:29 The Feminine Experience and the Oracle 20:04 The Importance of the Oracle in Family Dynamics 22:50 Building Trust in the Oracle 23:23 The Masculine's Role in Supporting the Oracle 32:04 Birthing the New Healthy Blueprint 33:05 Rediscovering the Feminine Essence 33:39 The Oracle's Role in Healing 34:20 Embracing Natural Birth and Motherhood 35:09 Listening to the Feminine Wisdom 36:18 Partnership and the New Blueprint 37:00 The Masculine's Journey to Understanding 37:57 Daily Practices of Connection 40:58 The Feminine's Initiating Role 43:21 The Oracle's Wisdom in Relationships 46:11 Receiving and Valuing the Oracle </

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistIn this vulnerable and insightful episode, Mike and Courtney explore one of the most misunderstood dynamics in conscious relationship: the art of taking space.How do we honour the need for individual space without creating distance in the relationship? What happens when one partner feels overwhelmed, the other feels abandoned—and the crunch gets louder?They unpack real-life examples, tender stories, and practical tools to help you use space as a tool for deepening love, not avoiding it.🌿 In this episode, you’ll learn:How to know when space is needed (before things explode)What to do when one partner needs space but the other craves connectionWhy “taking space” is an act of devotion—not disconnectionHow to reconnect after space has been takenThe exact words and practices Mike and Courtney use in their own relationshipChapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Sacred Relationships 00:36 – The Importance of Taking Space 01:18 – Personal Experience: Camping Trip 04:35 – Signs You Need Space 08:04 – Navigating Relational Crunch 20:40 – Communicating the Need for Space 25:38 – The Return and Reconnection 31:34 – The Art of Balancing Space and Togetherness 37:55 – Bonus Tips for Sacred Relationships 42:51 – Conclusion and Community Invitation🎧 Listen now and transform the way you relate to space in love.FREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https:

⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🎟️Get your ticket for New Human: Interstellar today. Use code Together10 to save 10% → https://newhumanevents.com/interstellar/In this sacred crossover between Together and The New Human Experience, Mike and Courtney sit down with Dr. Kevin Preston for a deep dive into a phase of the journey most people ignore: integration.After the retreat. After the ceremony. After the breathwork breakthrough. Now what?This is where true healing happens—or where it gets lost.We explore:What integration really means (and how to know you're doing it)Why insight alone won’t change your lifeThe challenges couples face when one partner expands faster than the otherNervous system repair as a core part of post-breakthrough embodimentHow sacred relationship becomes your integration dojoChapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Sacred Relationships 00:41 – Living Transmissions & Integration in Action 01:15 – What is Integration? 02:00 – Why Peak Experiences Aren’t Enough 05:00 – Weaving Insights Into Daily Life 08:00 – Integration Through Sacred Relationship 15:00 – Becoming Whole: Earth + Spirit 20:00 – Common Pitfalls in Integration 27:00 – The Push-Pull When One Partner Grows 36:00 – Supporting the Nervous System After Big Shifts 44:00 – Integration Happens in Nature and Nourishment50:00 – Don’t Stack Peak Experience After Peak Experience54:00 – The 5-Part Integration Map 01:01:00 – The Initiated Man + The Initiated Woman 01:06:00 – Parenting, Partnership, and PresenceFREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS:

🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistIn this sensual and illuminating episode of the Toe Curling Sex Series, we welcome Sarah Shepherd and Chris Dierkes to explore the profound difference between yang and yin sexual energy. What happens when we move from friction-based, goal-oriented sex to deep, slow, receptive pleasure? We unpack cultural conditioning, nervous system awareness, presence over performance, and the spiritual ecstasy of surrender.This episode is a must-listen for couples craving more presence, passion, and partnership in their erotic life. Whether you're partnered or solo, prepare to be deeply moved by the transformative possibilities of yin eroticism.🔻 Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships 00:35 Meet the Guests: Chris Dierkes and Sarah Shepherd 00:50 Exploring Yin and Yang in Sexual Energy 02:00 Personal Insights and Experiences 03:01 The Importance of Yin Sexuality 04:42 Cultural Norms and Personal Journeys 08:01 Understanding Yin and Yang: Definitions and Analogies 14:36 The Yin Journey: Personal and Cultural Reflections 27:04 Challenges and Barriers to Yin Sexuality 39:49 Practical Applications and Personal Stories 45:21 The Power of Presence and Pleasure 46:35 Navigating Tiredness and Pleasure 47:24 Building Presence and Overcoming Initial Challenges 50:13 Exploring Yin and Yang Dynamics 01:01:39 The Temple Metaphor for Intimacy 01:14:18 Practical Applications and Offerings 01:17:59 Final Thoughts and GratitudeTo lean more about Sarah and Chris’s upcoming workshops and online coaching containers go to https://www.goldenguidance.online/ or follow her on one of her social media channels;https://www.instagram.com/visionary_sarah_shepherd/https://genekeys.com/g/sarah-shepherd/https://www.youtube.com/@sarahshepherd3843Chris and Sarah will be collaborating on teaching a workshop on the process of the Yin organism and embodied ecstatic eros and awakening.Vernon Live workshopFriday

🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠⭐️Claim your free activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-giftIn this first episode of the Wild Birth Series, Courtney shares the raw, intimate story of attending her very first birth as a doula — and it just so happened to be for her own brother and sister-in-law.Join us for a deeply personal conversation with Keegan and Ashley, who welcomed their son Chester into the world in a powerful, unmedicated home birth. Together, they recount the emotional and energetic preparation that went into consciously calling in their baby — from ancestral healing and constellation work to ceremonies with the land.This episode is a tender yet fierce exploration of what it means to birth naturally, intentionally, and in deep trust with life itself. You’ll hear:How our own birth imprints (and our parents’) can affect conception and birthThe importance of coherence in the birth fieldAshley’s journey to reconnect with her womb and feminine essenceThe power of physiological birth and what it teaches us about trust and surrenderHow the way we birth shapes the way we live — and dieChapters: 00:00 Introduction to Wild Birth 02:00 Preparing the field before conception 10:00 Womb healing, grief rituals & ancestral imprints 20:00 The imprint of your own birth & how it shows up in your child’s 30:00 Physiological birth and full surrender 46:00 Trust, toning, and the roar of the feminine 59:00 Birth as the blueprint for death 1:02:00 The Medicine Song (don’t miss this part!)This is more than a birth story. This is ancestral repair, embodied wisdom, and the sacred feminine roaring awake.🎁 BONUS: Stay tuned through the end for a medicine song that will melt your heart.FREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple stepshttps://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram@[email protected] SKIN

🌿Join our Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠⭐️Claim your FREE activation for a 5 star review → https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-gift🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistIn this heartfelt and fiercely honest episode, Mike and Courtney name a pattern many couples know—but don’t always know how to navigate: 👉 When the masculine partner can’t hold… 👉 And the feminine no longer feels safe to open.They explore how this dynamic shows up in long-term relationships, parenting, and life—and offer a radically compassionate (and practical) approach to transforming it.This is a must-listen for couples longing to return to safety, love, and sacred polarity—together.💡 Inside, you'll learn:Why the feminine is the oracle—and how her body holds wisdom for the partnershipHow to repair when the masculine has dropped the ballThe biology and energy behind co-regulationHow to deliver truth even when it’s messy, crunchy, or fierceA 3-step practice for couples to rebuild trust and safety todayChapters:00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships00:53 Episode Overview and Key Points01:33 The Together Community03:04 The Feminine as Life Force05:49 Understanding the Oracle12:08 The Role of the Masculine18:30 The Fierce Feminine and Its Wisdom20:10 Concluding Thoughts🎁 Stay until the end for a powerful embodiment practice you can try with your partner.🌀 Ready to live the Sacred We?FREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple steps: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/opt-inDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

🌿 Join the Together Couples Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/🏹 Join the waitlist for The Initiated Man → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistThis one is for the men. (And for anyone wanting to understand how real leadership in relationship actually works.)In this short but potent solo episode, Mike offers a grounded, heart-led guide to leading your feminine partner with presence, clarity, and deep safety.This isn’t about control. It’s not about being right. It’s about learning how to BE the calm in the storm—and lead from love.🧠 You’ll learn:Why hours of verbal processing don’t actually create deeper intimacyWhat happens when masculine presence is missing (or misused)How to physically lead your partner back to connectionThe somatic practices that change everything in relationshipWhether you’re a man learning to embody this role, or a woman longing to be led in safety, this is one to save and replay.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Together Podcast00:37 The Journey to Break Free from Conditioning01:32 The Together Online Community02:50 Introducing the Initiated Man Community04:20 Today's Episode: Directed at Men05:05 The Epidemic of Men Not Leading06:20 Personal Reflections on Past Relationships09:56 The Importance of Connection in Communication13:13 Practical Steps to Lead in Relationships18:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement🎧 Listen now

🌿 Join the Together Couples Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠🏹 Join the waitlist for The Initiated Man → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠This one is for the men. (And for anyone wanting to understand how real leadership in relationship actually works.)In this short but potent solo episode, Mike offers a grounded, heart-led guide to leading your feminine partner with presence, clarity, and deep safety.This isn’t about control. It’s not about being right. It’s about learning how to BE the calm in the storm—and lead from love.🧠 You’ll learn:Why hours of verbal processing don’t actually create deeper intimacyWhat happens when masculine presence is missing (or misused)How to physically lead your partner back to connectionThe somatic practices that change everything in relationshipWhether you’re a man learning to embody this role, or a woman longing to be led in safety, this is one to save and replay.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the Together Podcast00:37 The Journey to Break Free from Conditioning01:32 The Together Online Community02:50 Introducing the Initiated Man Community04:20 Today's Episode: Directed at Men05:05 The Epidemic of Men Not Leading06:20 Personal Reflections on Past Relationships09:56 The Importance of Connection in Communication13:13 Practical Steps to Lead in Relationships18:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement🎧 Listen now FREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple stepshttps://tr.ee/uH3R9b7fjmDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠[email protected] SKIN DEEP CARDS⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15

🌿 Practice conscious partnership with us inside the Together Community → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/Get our Free Emotional Mastery Meditation: https://www.sacredrelating.com/together-podcast-giftTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Use Promo Code: Together15In this beautiful and deeply practical episode, Mike & Courtney dive into what real love actually looks like when your partner’s wounds arise.This isn’t the version of love that’s about fixing, bypassing, or spiritualizing your way out of conflict. This is about creating a sacred container where both partners can show up in their humanity—and meet each other’s imprints with presence, compassion, and regulation.💡 You’ll learn:How to recognize the imprint beneath the behaviorThe difference between staying present vs. absorbing painWhy sacred relationship is a powerful container for healing traumaHow to move through triggers with curiosity instead of collapsePractical tools for creating safety in the stormChapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:07 – Today's Topic: Partner's Wounds and Real Love 01:25 – Key Points Overview 02:10 – Recognizing Imprints Beyond Behavior 03:41 – Personal Experiences and Collective Narratives 09:55 – Healing Through Curiosity and Compassion 14:46 – Practical Examples and Personal Growth 20:58 – Mastering Each Other's Imprints 23:35 – Understanding Imprints and Commitment 24:14 – Building Capacity for Regulation 25:00 – The Return to Love Mantra 26:30 – Navigating Triggers and Staying Grounded 34:31 – Creating Safety, Not Solutions 40:18 – The Power of Sacred Relationships 45:06 – Bonus Practice for Holding Space 47:51 – Join Our Community for Deeper Connection🎧 Listen now👑Join the Initiated Man Waitlist → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:[email protected]@cour

In this honest and highly practical episode of Together, Mike and Courtney unpack one of the most common—and triggering—topics in relationships: parenting conflict.Together, they explore the real roots of resentment, the role of masculine/feminine polarity in parenting, and how to move beyond blame into shared leadership and co-regulation.💡 Whether you’re co-parenting, solo parenting, or doing the deep healing of reparenting yourself, this conversation offers wisdom, strategy, and a whole lot of heart.🌀 You’ll learn:How traditional roles and polarity affect parenting harmonyWhy so many moms feel like they’re “doing it all”What biological AND cultural truths shape how we parentReal-world co-parenting strategies you can implement todayHow to restore respect, connection, and balance inside the Sacred WeChapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Sacred Relationships 01:15 – Today's Topic: Beyond the Blame Game 02:08 – Common Parenting Conflicts 03:27 – Understanding Gender Dynamics in Parenting 04:23 – The Impact of Parenting Styles on Children 08:12 – Polarization in Parenting Roles 15:49 – Biological Differences in Parenting 23:40 – The Role of Fathers in Child Development 37:26 – Co-Parenting Strategies 39:37 – Navigating Parenting Dynamics 40:16 – Balancing Boundaries and Nurturing 41:47 – The Role of the Masculine in Parenting 43:14 – Collaborative Parenting Strategies 57:41 – Practical Agreements for Co-Parenting 01:04:30 – Join Our Couples Community🎧 Listen now 🌿 Practice conscious partnership with us inside the Together Community → https://www.sacredrelating.com/👑Join the Initiated Man Waitlist → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist🎙️Listen to our episode Killing The Nice Guy and The Nice Girlhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/4PFmUY8srPq31sdGtLHFUL?si=a602bf66f776420aDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected]@courtneywren.c

In this episode of Together, Courtney and Mike explore "The Sacred We"—a transformative approach to relationships rooted in connection, mutual care, and co-regulation. They dive into how relational coherence not only deepens intimacy but also impacts physical health, vitality, and even longevity. Through vulnerable storytelling and practical insights, they explain how to shift from “you/me” thinking to a unified “we” consciousness. They offer a powerful bonus at the end: a 4-step communication map to speak from the sacred we space—designed to create real, embodied connection.(00:00:24) Welcome & What is the Sacred We(00:01:19) Breaking the You/Me Conditioning(00:03:49) Why Relational Connection Impacts Health & Longevity(00:06:32) Emotional Stress, Illness & the Cost of Disconnection(00:11:02) Tracking Ruptures: A Wake-Up Call(00:12:42) Co-Regulation vs. Isolation During Distress(00:14:37) The Cultural Fight-or-Flight Norm & Rewriting It(00:16:11) Relational Coherence & Parenting(00:19:12) Vitality Through Repair & Nervous System Regulation(00:22:08) Reframing Connection as Mutual Empowerment(00:24:40) From Sleeping Alone to Sacred Family Bed(00:26:02) Introducing the Two-Person System(00:29:10) Choosing the We Over Personal Reactivity(00:31:04) Leaning In vs. Taking Space: The Spiritualized Myth(00:33:47) Sovereignty vs. Sacred We: Not Codependency(00:36:15) Self-Awareness as the Bridge to Connection(00:40:30) Speaking in We Language During Conflict(00:43:14) Words as Nervous System Regulators(00:47:18) 💎 Bonus: The 4-Step Communication Map(00:51:45) Invitation to the Together Community & Final ReflectionsOnline Community Link⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠FREE!- Emotional Mastery with these simple stepshttps://tr.ee/uH3R9b7fjmDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠[email protected] MUSHROOM PRODUCTS⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠ <

In this intimate and fiery episode, Courtney and Mike dive deep into the process of how the masculine initiates the feminine — not through dominance or control, but through presence, responsibility, truth, and devotion.They unpack what the uninitiated feminine looks and feels like — the blaming, the spilling, the disconnection — and contrast it with the initiated feminine, who is radiant, relational, and deeply embodied.Courtney vulnerably shares how her own feminine has been invited into queen energy, not by being coddled — but by being met. Fiercely. Lovingly. Clearly.Mike opens up about the internal process it takes as a man to initiate the feminine — and what it means to do so in a way that builds intimacy, trust, and alchemical connection.Stay tuned until the end as they explore how the masculine’s sexual desire is not a threat… but one of the greatest invitations to the feminine's full awakening.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relating01:51 Understanding the Uninitiated Feminine13:18 The Initiated Feminine: Traits and Responsibilities22:27 The Masculine's Role in Initiating the Feminine33:42 Practical Examples of Masculine Containment41:04 Trust and Challenge in Relationships41:40 The Role of the Masculine in Building Trust44:22 The Dance of Masculine and Feminine Energies48:09 The Process of Initiation49:03 Techniques for Calling Out the Little Girl56:25 Double Initiation in Relationships01:01:11 The Juicy Invitation: Feminine Energy01:06:51 Sexual Desire as an Invitation01:11:31 The Power of Penetration and Trust01:15:35 Conclusion and Invitation to Join the Community🎧 Join the Together Community → sacredrelating.com📝 Sign up for 1:1 or 2:2 Coaching with Mike + Courtney → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected]@courtneywren.com⁠⁠Website:www.sacredrelating.com⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠www.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/Get 15% off with promo code: TOGETHER

What does it really take for a man to rise into his power?In this potent episode, Mike & Courtney dive deep into the sacred process of masculine initiation—how the feminine (as life, as mirror, as love) plays a catalytic role in helping the masculine evolve from confusion and stagnation into clarity, mission, and emotional depth.🎯 Whether you’re the one feeling “too much” in relationship… 🎯 Or the one feeling lost, blamed, or unsure how to show up…This episode is your invitation to explore the sacred alchemy of relationship.🧭 What You’ll Learn: — How to spot the difference between an initiated and uninitiated masculine — Why the feminine’s “complaints” are actually sacred invitations — Why the masculine often misreads the feminine as a threat — How to initiate the masculine without fixing or shaming — The perks of initiation: hotter intimacy, deeper devotion, powerful leadershipThis episode isn’t just for men or women—it’s for all beings who are ready to deepen in love, responsibility, and purpose through relationship.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relating00:28 Episode Overview: Transforming the Masculine01:05 Personal Updates and Studio Setup03:07 The Uninitiated Man: Feminine Perspective12:23 The Uninitiated Man: Masculine Perspective23:04 Cultural and Familial Influences26:07 The Role of the Sacred Mirror34:48 Realizing the Dynamics of Trauma36:04 The Uninitiated Man38:23 The Initiation Process43:42 The Feminine Oracle47:12 Navigating Relationship Challenges54:57 The Art of Delivering Feedback01:06:52 The Perks of Initiation🎧 Listen now 🌿 Work with us: www.sacredrelating.com 🔥 Join the waitlist for The Initiated Man: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected]@courtneywren.com⁠⁠Website:www.sacredrelating.com⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠www.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/Get 15% off with promo code: TOGETHER

In this episode, we sit down with Majie & Shaeah, a radiant couple joining us from their jungle home in Costa Rica, to share their real, raw, and inspiring journey through sacred relationship.What started as a dream to build a new life together became a profound opportunity for emotional healing, nervous system repair, and deeper connection.✨ If you've ever asked: — “Why do the same patterns keep showing up?” — “Can a relationship still be beautiful even when it’s hard?” — “How do we repair without breaking?” …this conversation is for you.What You’ll Hear: 💛 Co-creating under pressure: moving countries, building homes, and staying connected 💛 The “invisible distance” created by repeated conflict 💛 Somatic repair, inner child healing, and co-regulation in real time 💛 What sacred relationship actually looks like when there’s love AND conflict 💛 How to turn triggers into tenderness—and separation into safety🕒 Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome 01:00 – Moving to Costa Rica & Building a Life Together 06:00 – The Trigger Cycles & Power Struggles 12:00 – Shame, Safety, and Emotional Distance 20:00 – How They Found Us & What Called Them In 25:00 – Inner Child Work & Somatic Repair 33:00 – What Sacred Relationship Really Means 38:00 – Why Couples Coaching Changed Everything 49:00 – Life After the Work: More Play, More Love, More Sex 58:00 – Final Reflections & Takeaways🎧 Listen now 🌿 Work with us: www.sacredrelating.com 🔥 Ready for your own transformation? Join The Initiated Man Waitlist: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected]@courtneywren.com⁠⁠Website:⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠www.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected] MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/Get 15% off with promo code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDShttps://shop.theskindeep.com/

In this vulnerable and transformational solo episode, Mike Elliott shares his personal journey through pornography, substance use, shame, and the path to sacred masculine maturity.He unpacks how these often-hidden coping mechanisms:Sabotage intimacy and emotional availabilityKeep men stuck in immaturity and isolationBlock the deeper soul gifts of love, leadership, and purposeYou’ll also hear about his upcoming community for men: The Initiated Man.🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome to the Podcast 00:54 – Episode Introduction and Apologies 01:36 – Exploring the Impact of Porn and Substance Abuse 04:19 – The Root Causes of Coping Strategies 12:02 – Personal Journey and Early Exposure 20:42 – The Role of Shame and Emotional Needs 22:49 – Substance Abuse and Emotional Regulation 28:08 – The Importance of Co-Regulation and Mature Relationships 34:45 – Healing and Moving Forward 40:14 – Understanding Dysfunction in Relationships 40:36 – Core Roots and Emotional Needs 41:20 – Self-Soothing and Addictions 42:39 – Inner Child Work and Healing 43:47 – Building Safe Connections 46:22 – Directing Energy Towards Partners 47:41 – Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships 49:01 – Personal Growth and Fulfillment 50:47 – Overcoming Coping Strategies 53:00 – Finding Purpose and Mission 01:07:21 – The Initiated Man Community🎧 Listen now 💥 Join the waitlist for The Initiated Man: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist🌿 Join the Together Community: ⁠⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠Online Community Link⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠Website⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠[email protected] MUSHROOM PRODUCTS⁠https://mindfulm

What does it take to stay together—not just through the good times, but through unimaginable grief? In this deeply moving episode, Michael and Robin open up about their 30-year journey of partnership, from early friendship and blended family life to the devastating loss of Michael’s daughter.With raw honesty and hard-won wisdom, they share how they rebuilt trust, leaned into personal growth, and stayed connected even when everything around them was falling apart. Along the way, they offer powerful tools for communication, reflection, and healing that have helped them sustain intimacy over three decades.Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating love after loss, this episode is a testament to what's possible when two people choose each other—over and over again.00:00 – Intro: Love, Loss & LongevityWelcome to the episode and a brief intro to Michael & Robin’s 30-year journey of partnership and healing.02:11 – The Early Years: Friendship Before RomanceMichael and Robin share how their relationship began as colleagues and friends—and how the spark slowly turned to love.05:45 – Becoming a Couple: Learning to Trust AgainNavigating early fears, family blending, and the pivotal moment Robin said “yes” to moving in.09:30 – A Marriage Formed by FireThey recall the early days of marriage, co-parenting challenges, and the emotional work required to stay committed.14:12 – Tragedy Strikes: The Loss That Changed EverythingMichael and Robin open up about the devastating loss of Michael’s daughter and the grief that nearly tore them apart.18:40 – Choosing to Stay: Healing in the Hardest TimesWhat it meant to stay together during grief—and how their marriage became a container for healing.22:30 – Tools That Transformed Us: From Reactivity to RepairThe couple shares a favorite communication tool that helped them transform conflict into connection.27:15 – Growing Up TogetherHow their individual personal growth work influenced their relationship—and how they learned to grow together.30:40 – The Power of Perspective: Seeing Each Other ClearlyThey discuss the gift of being truly seen by your partner, and the “long game” of intimacy.35:20 – What Keeps the Spark Alive After 30 YearsMichael and Robin reflect on how they continue to nurture intimacy, play, and connection over the decades.39:55 – Final Thoughts: Love as a PracticeClosing reflections on what love looks like now, and their hopes for other couples navigating love and loss.How healthy is your relationship? Take the FREE Relationship Quiz and find out.<a href="https://couples.solutions/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener nore

Episode SummaryIn the first episode of the Toe Curling Spiritual Sex Series, the hosts dive deep into the role of emotions and vulnerability in sexual intimacy. They debunk common myths that both men and women have been told about suppressing emotions during sex and reveal how true sexual alchemy emerges when emotions are embraced rather than repressed. The conversation explores how the masculine can welcome the feminine’s full emotional expression, while the feminine learns to trust the masculine’s presence. Through personal stories and intimate experiences, they demonstrate how emotional honesty in lovemaking can lead to deeper intimacy, profound healing, and "life-activating orgasms." Listeners are encouraged to cultivate sexual alchemy by embracing the full spectrum of emotions, creating a space of surrender, pleasure, and connection in their relationships.Chapters(00:00:17)Introduction to the Toe Curling Spiritual Sex Series(00:01:28) Debunking the Lies AboutEmotions in Sexuality(00:02:21) The Role of Emotions inSexual Alchemy(00:03:12) Parenting, Distractions,and Intimacy(00:04:08) The Feminine Experience:How Suppressing Emotions Kills Desire(00:05:51) The Masculine Experience:The Pressure to Perform(00:07:42) Why Avoiding EmotionsCreates Sexual Disconnect(00:10:12) Embracing Vulnerability inSexuality(00:12:52) The Masculine’s Role inHolding Space for Emotions(00:15:19) The Body’s Wisdom: How theNervous System Reacts to Pressure(00:17:00) Personal Story: HealingShame Through Sexual Connection(00:20:04) The Shift from Performanceto Presence(00:22:34) The Feminine’s Invitationto the Masculine(00:25:06) How Feminine ExpressionGuides Deeper Intimacy(00:30:08) The Masculine’s Invitationto the Feminine(00:35:49) Practical Ways to BuildSexual Alchemy(00:42:40) A Profound Sexual HealingExperience(00:49:54) Expanding Passion Beyondthe Bedroom(00:55:31) Closing Thoughts &Invitation to the CommunityOnline Community Link⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

Courtney goes into the journey of the "awakened woman" and the importance of the feminine energy in sacred relationship, including the need to work through anger and frustration to cultivate a fierce love that can initiate and call forth the masculine. She emphasizes the importance of the feminine developing a strong relationship with her inner masculine, as well as being willing to be fiercely loving and truthful with the outer masculine partner. The speaker also addresses common hang-ups for the feminine, such as spilling emotions without discernment and struggling to hold space for the masculine's vulnerability. She encourages the feminine to practice assuming their partner has wisdom they cannot see, and to be open to being initiated and grown by the masculine. Courtney invites listeners to explore these themes further through her upcoming women's community.(00:00:17) Welcome & Introduction(00:01:28) The Power of Community(00:02:21) The Feminine Journey & Why It Matters(00:03:11) From Anger to Fierce Love(00:03:57) Strengthening Our Inner Masculine(00:04:33) My Personal Relationship Journey(00:06:23) The Power of Relational Mirrors(00:07:32) Honoring the Feminine Blueprint(00:10:14) Sacred Rage: Catalyst or Destruction?(00:14:14) Fiercely Loving the Masculine(00:18:17) Working with Emotion: Not Just Spilling(00:24:27) The Masculine in Vulnerability(00:35:38) The Inner Masculine: Our Foundation(00:47:10) Dreaming with the Masculine(01:02:02) Seeing the Masculine’s Wisdom(01:04:56) Final Thoughts & Community OfferingsOnline Community Linkhttps://www.sacredrelating.com/Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:⁠[email protected]⁠[email protected]⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠[email protected]<stro

This episode explores how to move from needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships to sexually charged connection. It covers three key points: understanding young parts and how they can destroy relationships, recognizing when young parts are present, and learning how to get to know your wise adult self to cultivate sexually charged connection.Key Topics: Young Parts and Relationship Destruction Young, unmet parts from childhood can lead to needy, reactive, and controlling behaviors in relationships. These behaviors deplete sexual charge and intimacy, often leading to relationship breakdown. In past relationships, the speakers experienced this pattern of their young parts taking over, leading to demands, criticism, and emotional distance from their partners. Recognizing Young Parts Emotionally charged expectations and demands on your partner are signs that young parts are driving the relationship. Young parts are based on unmet needs and wounds from childhood that get triggered in the present. The speakers share their personal journeys of learning to recognize and work with their young parts. Cultivating the Wise Adult The key is to develop the capacity of the wise, mature adult self to hold and tend to the young parts. Practices like somatic work, journaling, ceremony, and men's/women's circles can help develop this wise adult presence. When the wise adult is online, it allows for more sexually charged, alive connection with a partner, as they can take responsibility for their own needs. The speakers share how this journey has transformed their relationship, allowing for deeper intimacy and aliveness.(00:00) Welcome & Episode Overview(01:13) Needs, Young Parts & Wise Adult in Relationships(02:13) Longing for Connection in Early Marriage(02:52) Sexual Charge & Working With Inner Child Parts(03:43) Relating to Your Partner vs. Relating to the Child(04:33) When Needy, Reactive, and Controlling Patterns Emerge(05:26) Emotional Distance & Grieving Intimacy Loss(06:11) The Trap of Expecting a Partner to Fix Your Needs(08:05) Emotional Abuse, Blame & Gaslighting Dynamics(08:59) When Young Parts Drive the Bus(10:01) How Control Patterns Kill Sexual Polarity(12:11) Coping with Emotional Overload Through Numbing(13:04) Enabling vs. Empowering: Why Fixing Doesn’t Work(13:44) What Are Inner Child Parts?(16:07) Implicit Memory & Reacting from the Past(17:42) Separate Lives vs. Sexual Closeness(19:20) Discovering the Inner Child Through Mentorship(21:44) Bringing Vulnerability to Your Partner(23:10) Boundaries vs. Codependence in Conflict(27:38) Recognizing Emotionally Charged Expectations(28:25) Adult Communication vs. Child P

The podcast discusses the importance of understanding and communicating one's needs in relationships. It covers different types of needs, how to effectively express them, and what to do when a partner is resistant to meeting those needs.(00:00)Welcome to Together Podcast(00:17)Exploring Sacred Relationships & Parenting(01:15)The Skin Deep Card Game Experience(01:58)Our Partnership with Skin Deep & Discount Code(02:44)Introducing Our Online Community(04:16)Success Stories from Our Community(05:06)Today's Topic: Asking for What You Need(06:06)Why Needs Are the Foundation of Relationships(07:32)Client Stories: The Power of Clear Requests(09:11)Teaching People How to Love You(10:06)Understanding the Root of Unmet Needs(12:52)Why Many of Us Struggle to Ask for Our Needs(14:23)Two Types of Needs: Stabilizing vs. Thriving(16:45)Helping Each Other Thrive in Relationships(18:52)Three Categories of Needs: Personal, External & Relational(22:14)Listening Inward: How to Identify Your Needs(24:39)Asking for Your Needs in Relationships(28:51)Why Expressing Needs is a Vulnerable Practice(32:17)The Dance of Giving & Receiving Support(40:06)The Feminine & Masculine Approach to Needs(44:58)How to Make Requests Without Criticism(51:49)What to Do When a Partner Resists Your Needs(57:53)Balancing Acceptance & Expressing Needs(1:05:06)The Key to Teaching Others How to Love You(1:16:10)A Practical Exercise for Identifying Needs(1:17:35)Final Thoughts & Community InvitationThe podcast emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for teaching the people in one's life how to love and support them, and the transformative potential of this practice in relationships.Community Linkhttps://www.sacredrelating.com/Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:⁠<a href="mailto:transf