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A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter. And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life? Record your question and send it here: [email protected] Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to Quince.com/SAVAGE for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From throuples to tantric sex, orgies to orgasm control and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A man who wanted to confirm his hetero-flexibility gives his first BJ. But did he pass the cocksucker test? Not everyone does. Hear all about it. Want to share your first time doing something? Write us at [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

This show is a roller coaster...of love. We start out with a heartbreaking question from a woman whose fiancé broke up with her after she had bought the dress and sent out the invites. Their lives and friends are intertwined. How can she bounce back from something like this? Then, a gay man has observed trans men at sex clubs getting it on with lots of guys. If they aren't on birth control, can they get pregnant? Is it polite to ask, and should cis men wear condoms in this situation? On the Magnum, strap in- it's Eric Andre! Dan and the master prankster answer a straight man's question about whether gathering with other men to masturbate together constitutes cheating. They also talk about some of the personal advice Dan gave Eric a little while ago. Want to get up close and personal with Eric Andre? Listen in... And, meet a rare woman who likes receiving dick pics. 6 months into their relationship, she started sending him nudes. When he asked if he should reciprocate, she expected some shirtless photos, and was surprised to see much, much more. She grew to really like it, but worries she's training him to send dick pics to other women after they break up. Should she explain to him that she's not like the other girls? Oh, I would NEVER! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Verse tops? Polyamory? Dick pics? Multiple orgasms? He covers it all, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since September 21, 1991.

What a feel-good story for the ages. Victor managed to amass three sexual "firsts" in one potent session with a transwoman domme:Experience subspace- check.Have sex with a transwoman- check.Dick in the butt? Check! This sizzling story also offers a study in sex worker professionalism. Listen in and feel the joy. Have you gone through some new interesting times? Tell us, tell us, tell us!Write it up and send it in to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

This just in! Man thinks he's special because he has a Madonna/whore complex! When a woman first started dating her boyfriend, he had a drinking problem, and made some bad moves. The caller told her friends and family about this. But now that he is better and truly working on himself, no one but the caller will forgive him. How can she convince them that he's a good guy? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYC-based comedian Jamie Wolf on why it's good for men to sleep with women who have a lot of experience, how to stick up for yourself when your roommates are loudly fucking, and how incels could get laid more if only they were nice people. Jamie Wolf rules! And, a gay man asks what is up with sloppy BJs. Why would anyone want to end up with a puddle of spit in your lap, this perplexed man wonders. What are you wondering about? Call us and ask. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From chatbots to incels, daddies to dommes and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Anne thought that finding a professional to tie her up in exquisite Shibari bondage in her little, small town would be impossible. She was wrong! Hear all about her encounter in the rope top’s studio. Do you have something for us? Fork it over. Write to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

When he was a young homo, he was expected to rim his tops. Kids today want the top to rim the bottom! What gives? A straight man and his girlfriend keep taking "breaks" from the relationship, at her behest. They always end up getting back together, but each time he thinks it's the end. Should he continue to tolerate this exhausting cycle? Our guest is the thoroughly delightful Midwestern comedian Jackie Kashian. She and Dan tackle a question from a man who wants to hit on a woman 30 years his junior at the Passover seder. They talk about age gap relationships in general, on sleeping with many people whilst blotto drunk, and they dish out some actionable advice on how to succeed as a stand-up comedian. A little is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a very female presenting non-binary person has the hots for gay bears. Are any of them bisexual enough to want to date this person? [email protected] 206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From faking orgasms (which you mustn't do) to freysexuality, erectile dysfunction to ethical non-monogamy and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these dark times.

Ever wonder what it’s actually like to get a “happy ending” massage? Wonder no more. Just press play. Tell us a story: [email protected] This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

A trans woman enjoys chastity play. But most cock cages use the testicles to keep the device in place. She had an orchiectomy for her gender affirming care, so what is she to do? A gay man has a pattern of losing attraction to the people he's seeing. The instant they break up he gets hot for them again. And now, it's happening with his husband. On the Magnum Dan chats with super bad-ass journalist, lawyer and author Jill Filipovic about the horrifying "Rape Academy" and how feminism is on the ropes right now. She is also our guest on Sex Politics this week. Join us for a deep dive into what women are up against. She and her husband went to an orgy with friends for her husband's birthday. But you know what nobody gave him? An orgasm. I mean, it's an ORGY and his BIRTHDAY. Put it together people! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cock cages, to closet cases, feminism to freysexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Meet Spring and Nix or "Sprix" as they are called together. These foxy sex party veterans embarked on an adventure at a religious themed event that became a team sport. Somewhere in Mormon heaven, Joseph Smith and Brigham Young are high-fiving each other. If you would like to tell us about a high-five-worthy sexscapade, write it up, and send it in to [email protected]! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

A gay man's female friend is planning her wedding. But the relationship is already a disaster, and the caller does NOT approve of this union. Should he still help her choose a wedding dress? A bi man got into a cat fight with a guy on one of the hook-up apps when he wasn't polite enough about ending a conversation. Is there a social contract on gay hook-up apps? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Jennie Young, author of Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter. Her feminist, pragmatic approach to dating for straight women is blunt and hilarious. She talks about her method for brutally winnowing down the list of men, how dating apps are addictive by design, and (counterintuitively,) why the man should plan the first date. Don't miss this one! And, a man asks for logistical advice on how to plan the abduction scene his wife desires. What could possibly go wrong? Maybe she'll call and tell us how it went! 206-302-2064 [email protected] And remember: Every sperm is sacred. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠ Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at ⁠https://beduc.at/pd2618-savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

They say we don’t choose our kinks- our kinks choose us. But what if you get turned on by a mundane, routine experience most of us either just tolerate or even dread? Meet Mitchell, who had to regularly suppress erotic excitement all his life, until his GGG girlfriend created the perfect scenario for him. Do you have a GGG girlfriend? Huh? Have you tried something new with her? Let us know ALL about it here: [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

Sometimes the questions we get here at Savage Lovecast Industries™ are nothing but pragmatic. A man with a moldy home asks how he can properly dry his Fleshlight. Seems important. A woman fell off a trapeze 15 years ago and has suffered sexual dysfunction ever since. Dan brings on pelvic floor therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman to discuss her case and to call out doctors who belittle sexual concerns. When a unicorn is unhappy, the universe seizes up for a second. This woman made it crystal clear that she was NOT interested in any of that butt stuff. But what did the man in the couple do? Can you guess? He tried to poke her in her butt! She plans to berate him in a public place. But what exactly should she say, and can she ever trust him again? On the Magnum, Dan brings on comedian Conor Janda to discuss the old "fag hag" relationship that has drifted away with queer acceptance and inclusion. What's the difference between a "girl's gay" and a "gay's gay" and who would you rather be? They also advise a middle-aged widower who is dropping everything, moving to NYC to become a stand-up comic and diving headlong into gay sex. And here's the kind of call that gives monogamy a bad reputation. He loves his wife so much. But she is done with sex, and does not approve of open relationships. So what is he to do? He did the right thing! He recorded his question and sent it in to [email protected] He also could have called 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Meet Michael who with the help of “Gary” goes through the looking glass into the twilight world of the bisexual male. It all starts out with your typical, wholesome 100-guy jack-off session. And then things take a bit of a turn…Whoever invented Zoom, most likely didn’t predict *this* sort of thing would happen. If you have a perverse, degenerate experience to share, write it up and send it in to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

A happily married lesbian is super turned-on by a male acquaintance's cologne. She barely knows the guy. So how can she ask him "What are you WEARING?" Here's a conundrum: a sub serves two different masters. So what should she do when they give her conflicting orders? On the Magnum, everybody loves Doc Chocolate! The former pastor turned porn star, adult educator and content creator is back to help Dan answer a question about use of the potentially problematic term "BBC." (Look it up.) Is it a positive stereotype? Or negative? They also talk about the rigorous STI health protocols Las Vegas sex workers must adhere to. And, a listener challenges Dan's stance on how much responsibility the blow job giver has once the lucky receiver is "over the falls." Your only duty...is to call us. 206-302-2064 [email protected] This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cuckolding to crossdressing, polyamory to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Meet Marie, a shrewd, savvy, former businesswoman who tried something new, and drives a hard bargain. Sex work! Foot fetishism! Mommy issues! This episode has it all. Surely, you have SOMETHING to tell us about... Write your story and send it to [email protected] This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

A woman was invited to the bachelorette party for her co-worker's wedding, which required costly travel. She was presented with a bill to cover all of the expenses of the bride to be. The caller was just laid off her job and simply cannot afford this. Now the bride is miffed, and the friendship is strained. It's an outrage! Oopsie daisy! A woman came across porn featuring an old estranged friend.The sketchy video looks like the ex-friend wasn't aware that she was being filmed. Should the caller reach out and let her know it's out there? On the Magnum: Meet the man who enraged Mitt Romney! Humor writer Eli McCann is a wholesome, married, monogamous, gay humor writer from Salt Lake City. Hear how he drew the ire of the failed Presidential candidate in an online kerfuffle. And, bottom-feeders rejoice! They discuss the differences between Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Apparently, one makes you sad and the other makes you cackle. Also, did you know that Salt Lake City is actually liberal? It is! Listen to this super-fun convo. A woman has started seeing a younger man who has no experience with toys. His wee weeny isn't big enough for her, so he'd better learn. But he's too intimidated by her and worries he'll never satisfy her. Time to throw in the towel? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to ⁠Blueland.com/Savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Meet Ember, a trans man who, after going to a few sex parties, decided to host his own. It turns out that normie dinner party etiquette and sex party etiquette is the same: DO NOT SHOW UP ON TIME. What else happened at this party? Do you have a story to share of a leap into the sexual unknown? Write us at [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

On the Intro, a public service announcement regarding Log Cabin Republicans and MAGA gays: Don't Breed Em, Don't Feed 'Em. An Australian woman would like advice on pegging a military man. Our guest is NYT writer Christine Emba. Her book Rethinking Sex: A Provocation made a big splash, and added to a cultural conversation about feminism and female desire. She and Dan talk about "looks maxers," the emotional intelligence gap between men and women, and why Gen Z folks aren't dating. A bit of this great convo is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a woman reconnected with an old high school classmate that she had a crush on back in the day. It turns out she still does! But he's married. The question is, is he happily married? And are they open? [email protected] 206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you’d use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to ⁠sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50⁠ and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 21 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit ⁠Carafem.org⁠ to learn more. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Somewhere, deep in the woods in Holland, in cabins patrolled by volunteers, there's a very, very kinky gathering. Meet Tom, who indulged his new friend's girlfriend and helped to abduct her, throw her in a van and speed her off to an adventure in consensual non-consent. This is varsity level stuff and not for the faint of heart. Hear all about it. Tell us your story! [email protected]

A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to enjoy the sex eventually? Here's a question for you: "How long til anal?" After seeing Heated Rivalry, a married man and his wife are exploring anal sex. They are taking their sweet time, but he wonders how long they should expect it to take before it becomes comfortable for them both. (Who's doing whom? He never says!)  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Natalie Davis. She is the author "Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory" and the editor of the online publication "Polyamory Today." They talk about her journey from PUD to enthusiastic advocate for open relationships. Last week, a woman wondered how many *other* women could experience 60-70 orgasms, like she does. This week, we close with a man who "worries" that he's having SO MUCH SEX that he's coming too much. Should he call 911? People. Really? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 21 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit ⁠Carafem.org⁠ to learn more. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, a-poly-gist (get it?) author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bisexuality to butt sex, sexting to S&M and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall during a MFM threeway? Listen in as the F tells the tale. How did she set it up? What was it like when they first met and shook hands? Who did who and where? Which one had a food sensitivity? You’ll have to listen to find out. Do you have a ribald, salacious story of sexual experimentation? Or maybe you found yourself in an awkward, unpleasant UNsexy situation. Tell us anyway! Write it up and send it in to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future? A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim. Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Matilda Brindle. The evolutionary biologist recently published a paper looking at whether early primates or even Neanderthals kissed. They also talk about kink in the animal kingdom, which leads to the story of one very freaky monkey. Do not miss this. Pay attention. And, a woman humble-braggingly wonders if OTHER women come 60-70 times per session she like does. 72,73, 74... [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you’d use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50 and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to multiple orgasms, trans rights to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since Neanderthals were kissing up on peeps.

Meet Trina, who indulged her dom's desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it? Listen and learn. Did YOU try something new to you, and want us know about it? Write it up and send it in to [email protected]. This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed themselves. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news. Meanwhile a straight man has discovered a bizarre and rare disorder: he goes limp when he has to put a condom on. Somebody make a documentary about this guy! On the Magnum, a trans woman is grappling with the anger she feels at cis and non-binary people. Dan brings on trans, queer comedian and writer Hayden Johnson, to offer advice and to commiserate. They talk about how being a trans woman forces you to confront misogyny, the jarring difference in how people treat you when you present as a man vs. a woman, and how fun it is to mess with people's heads onstage as a trans comic. And, a 34 year-old woman is leaving her abusive husband. She knows it's the right thing to do, but worries she won't get another shot at marriage and family. She asks for a pep talk from Dan Savage, and from YOU. Leave her an inspiring comment! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy?A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex. They were. Hear the tale! If you have a story you think everyone should hear, write it up and send it in to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

When does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history, and engages in self harm. Although she gives consent, there's also a language barrier that makes everything they do seem out of control and destructive. A bisexual woman took the plunge and came out to her conservative Catholic mother. Although her mother didn't completely melt down, she has a ways to go before she reaches acceptance. What will it take to move her mother into the light? Our guest this week is Intimacy Coordinator Yehuda Duenyas. He and Dan talk about what an Intimacy Coordinator does, and whether they should be required on a movie set. How a director's prompt can sometimes be as vague as "They Have Sex" and it's up to the IC to flesh out how that should look to the audience. How portraying scenes of abuse can be wrenching for sensitive male actors. And of course, Dan has Yehuda answer a couple of sex questions too. A little of this conversation is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. Finally, is it possible for a man to both come and pee at the same time...in his girlfriend's mouth? Sadly, this is not a theoretical question. Ask Dan ANY kind of question. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, media darling and creator of the It Gets Better Project. A tireless advocate for ethical conduct within relationships, queer rights, and sexual freedom with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan's question: "So did you upholster it?" Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not. Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to [email protected].

A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers. A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of Slate's love and sex advice column, "How to Do It." They talk about how to make anal sex pleasurable when your partner is very, very, (some might even say "too") well endowed. How too many sex partners can be dangerous. And they discuss age gap relationships: are we are in an age of peak daddy? And, a woman's boyfriend complains that his wiener slips out during sex because she is "too wet." [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you’d use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50 and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman wanted to try out her dollification kink. So, she and her butch girlfriend went to a lesbian sex party. You may be wondering what do they do to dolls at lesbian sex parties. Listen, and find out. Did you have a wild night recently? Write us at [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

A concerned listener asks "Where's the lube?"-specifically about movie scenes showing gay sex. A woman in a red state makes it clear in her dating profiles that she is a leftie. She attracts men who claim to be moderate, but are really stealth MAGA creeps. Why do they do this? Why?! Our Magnum guest is the effervescent internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker Dr. Nicole McNichols. In her very popular Diversity of Sexuality class, she gets tied up and whipped as part of a lecture on communication and consent. So. She and Dan talk about the difference between bad sex and traumatic sex. They also dig into the data on why young people are having less sex these days. And, hear the sad tale of a man who was dumped by both his wife AND his goddess. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, beard-hater and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Right after her ketamine infusion, she ran home as fast as should could. And then her boyfriend got busy... Have YOU ever seen the face of a lynx in the sky? Didn't think so. Have a sordid, sexy, weird, funny or freaky tale to tell? We are listening... Write it up and send it in to [email protected] This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

You poor, poor people. For Valentine's Day this year, we're going dark and airing some of your most unpleasant break-up stories. Like the woman who learned her husband was cheating on her when she saw the tattoo he got of the other woman's initials on his leg. That sort of thing. You'll hear a few of these stories on the Micro and more on the Magnum. Meanwhile, a married man sneezes uncontrollably after he comes. Why?! Make it stop! A woman begs every man, everywhere to shave his beard. Our Magnum guest is the delightful Adam Zmith- author of Deep Sniff: A History of Poppers Queer Futures. He has recommendations for popper brands and...flavors. Anybody up for some pumpkin spice poppers? And, how soon is too soon to ask your boyfriend to get a vasectomy? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at https://beducate.me/pd2607-savage.

Some might consider Daniel a very lucky man. He brought one of his 4 girlfriends to a sex party where the men wore tuxedos and the women wore...nothing at all. Oh, and it was a Christmas party. Hear all about it. If you did something totally bonkers and want to tell the wide world about it, write it up and send it in to [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

Dan interviews, argues and politely spars with gay evangelical Christian Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian." Vines, who is married to his husband since 2022, was a potent advocate for gay marriage. Now he and Dan have a debate about the role of monogamy in gay life and society in general. They both take the gloves off, and somehow remain friends at the end of this long conversation. We are releasing about 20 minutes of it on the Micro version, and the whole thing is on the Magnum, available by subscription at Savage.Love. Check out Matthews book God and the Gay Christian, and his talk on monogamy at The Reformation Project's 2025 Reconcile & Reform Conference.

Yip! Yap! Bite! A woman's little, nasty, needy dogs are anything but "comfort animals" and her girlfriend isn't having it. She refuses to move in with the caller while those tiny beasts are around. Are they fundamentally incompatible? A British woman learned that her husband had sexual experiences with other boys at his British boarding school. She never knew this and finds it shocking. Dan brings on the sexiest survivor of boarding schools that we know- porn star John Thomas. Let John's amazing voice take you on a journey examining situational homosexuality at British boarding schools. And on the Magnum, a man with blood cancer has an enlarged spleen. He's worried that anal sex might cause him harm. Dan brings on anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein to talk about risks, and how sex toys can rearrange your guts...safely. And a woman who is learning about gay intimacy for the first time through "Heated Rivalry" wonders if homo sex goes as fast as it does on the tee-vee. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A swinging couple found a service that would fulfill their fantasy: a gang bang composed of men she chose. You may never think of gang bangs the same way again. Did you do something amazing? Tell us! Tell us! [email protected] This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

Have we reached peak poly drama? A queer woman has been open with her male live-in partner, having lots of great sex with him and others. The problem? His cat won't pay any attention to her. She doesn't feel jealous of the humans in their lives, but this cat! A widowed 81 year-old woman has taken up with her 56 year-old gardener. But he went and confessed to his priest who told him to cut it out. Should she try to convince him to keep loving her up? On the Magnum, enter Eric Williams, comedian and host of That’s A Gay Ass Podcast. Dan torments his very homosexual guest by asking him to answer a question about cunnilingus. Also discussed: What made them gay? And here's a PSA: Please leave the actors of Heated Rivalry alone. And, ethical dilemma ahoy! A divorced woman with kids is enjoying her Cumspringa- hooking up with lots of men and having a great time. She makes up personae for herself, withholding her real name, her job, or that she has kids. Her friend thinks this is immoral and that she should come clean about who she is to her lovers. What do you think? What do you think Dan will say? What Dan says...may shock you. [email protected]. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Louis, a self proclaimed cuddle-slut, found exactly what he wanted at the Liquid Love event. Hear ALL about it. If you have a SENSUAL tale to tell, scribble it down and send it in to [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

What is the polite way to ask someone to clean their teeth and deal with their neglected oral hygiene? A man's girlfriend wants him to ignore her sexually, and focus exclusively on himself. But he wants to give her pleasure. How can they reconcile this? On the Magnum, have humans always been kinky? If the history of the Middle Ages is any indication, the answer has to be "Oh hell yeah!" Or so says our guest: Eleanor Janega- a medieval historian specializing in gender and sexuality, apocalypticism, and propaganda. Accounts of religious life from that period are riddled with perversion. So people have been freaky for a long, long time. Dan and Dr. Janega have a cheerful conversation about it. A gay man wonders if he should be miffed when some other dude gives his boyfriend a sexy thong. NOT. OKAY. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, baker and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A cautionary tale from Jennie who went to the sex club with an open mind and ended up with bruises on…well you’ll have to listen to find out what went wrong.  We want to hear your story! The good, the bad, the ecstatic and the unpleasant.  Write about your weird time, and send it in to [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report. We’re listening.

Welcome to the first ever Sex and...Television! For those of you who are obsessed with the Canadian homo hockey romance Heated Rivalry, here's a convo for you. Dan and sex therapist Claire Perelman dish, discuss and swoon over the super-horny show. Enjoy!

Happy New Year, and a very happy Feast of the Ass to you and yours.  In honor of the holiday, our first caller asks if he should keep a cup of mouthwash handy for when he moves from ass-eating to pussy-eating.  A man wants strategies on how to talk his sister out of circumcising her newborn son.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Ellen Huet, a plucky, investigative journalist who uncovered an exploitative sex cult that revolves around female orgasm. Her book EMPIRE OF ORGASM about OneTaste, a sexual wellness company is amazing, and she and Dan had a LOT to talk about.  And, a poly woman wonders if when making introductions, she should reveal the poly status of two friends, so they know they are all “in the lifestyle.” [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Beducated, the leading platform for pleasure-based sex education for adults. Go to Beducated.com and use the code SAVAGE for 50% a yearly pass.  This episode is brought to you by Bubs Naturals: Collagen peptides for joint health & mobility, healthy hair skin and nails, and gym recovery. Right now, to get 20% off, go BubsNaturals.com and use code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From ethical non-monogamy to unethical non-monogamy, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it. :)

Christine and her husband went to a kinky viking party (as one does,) and had a very HOT time. "How attached are you to these nipple hairs?" If you have an amazing or appalling story to share, DO NOT KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Write it up and send it in to [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report. Maybe we'll get back to you!

It's the 1000th episode of the Savage Lovecast. We started in 2006, when George W. Bush was President. And look at us now! We packed this show with as many quick questions as we could. (One minute or less.) And Dan answered as quickly as he could. And! We invited long time friends of the show to pop on and answer some questions as well: Ezra Klein, Esther Perel, Mistress Matisse, Mike Pesca, Therapy Jeff, Doc Barak, Joan Price, Dan's Producer Nancy, and Dan's husband Terry. The gang's all here! You'll get an inside look at how the show is made, and how Dan has evolved over these many years. Some of the questions asked and answered: What is up with "Yahtzee?" Does "pegging" come from pirates? Does blood make for good lube? Who listens to all the calls that come in? Do you get a weird feeling when you dig in your bellybutton? Happy New Year and thanks for listening everyone! Your resolution? Get on the show. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Have we mentioned that we've been doing this for 20 years?

Her needs were simple. She wanted to wear a trench coat with nothing underneath and to pretend to be a high-end escort for her boyfriend. He gladly obliged and their session was full of surprises.... If you have a dirty little story you would like to share of your first time doing something unspeakably hot, writer it up and send it in to [email protected] with subject line: After Action Report. Fill our inbox.

"Who will buy my smelly panties?" A woman realizes that it would be a waste to just wash them. A married man in an open relationship wishes his wife would be as affectionate as his lovers. On the Magnum, it's everybody's favorite guy who knows things about sports...Mike Pesca! (Host and creator of The Gist, the longest running daily news and analysis podcast, and the author of Upon Further Review: The Greatest What-Ifs In Sports History.) Dan and Mike go over the particulars of the steamy Canadian show "Heated Rivalry" to determine how closely it hews to the sport called "hockey." And, a gay man is tempted to sleep with guys who are in monogamous relationships. He wants to be a "gay's gay"- a good upstanding gay. Not some home-wrecking gay. But he also would very much like to sleep with these lads...will Dan advise him to listen to the angel or the devil on his shoulder? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From ethical non-monogamy to unethical non-monogamy, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

The scene: it's a secret threeway, upstairs at the party. 2 men, one woman, 2 minutes, one orgasm. To hear more salacious deets, tune in. We've heard of speed dating...but this is a whole other level. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: [email protected] Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to [email protected], or call 206-302-2064

A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with someone else as a form of revenge. Too toxic? A divorced woman is still very good friends with her husband. She's so close with him, that her boyfriends break up with her over it. Are they just jealous or is she part of the problem? On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Alicia Walker who recently published a study about infidelity. She is a sociologist who digs into the sexual lives people keep under wraps: infidelity, kink, secret same-sex behavior, and other closeted practices. She and Dan talk about the stigma against cheating, and the conditions under which it can be the moral choice. And, what is the actual difference between porn and prostitution? Sex work is sex work right? [email protected]. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That's just $24 from Dec 1-31.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, world traveller, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From pegging, to negging, cross-dressing to cuckolding and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31. ⁠  It was her first time pegging a man, though she'd dreamed of it for years. Dream fulfilled. How did it go? What did he wear? Who brought the gear? All of your (and Dan's) nosey questions are answered. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: [email protected] Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to [email protected], or call 206-302-2064