Do You F*cking Mind?
Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach·Hosted by Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa·607 episodes
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email [email protected] to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR
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Do You F*cking Mind? gives you psychology and neuroscience with the bluntness of a pep talk from a friend who has receipts. Cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa mixes solo deep dives on habits, focus, heartbreak, boundaries, and self-worth with Head Noise episodes built around listener questions. It is a strong fit if you want practical mindset advice that feels energetic, direct, and emotionally real rather than clinical.
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Bonjour! This is a crowd fave so thought I would bring it back in all its glory. (also got a heap of interest about the MSG science fact!) This ep will challenge your perspective on life and help you cultivate a more mindful approach to the ups and downs that come our way. by accepting these five simple things today you will notice a weight drop off your shoulders, you will feel lighter, and more in control of your life circumstances and where you are headed. Enjoy! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode,I delve into the concept of a regulated nervous system and how it can be achieved. We're not talking about being a calm and serene person all the time, but instead, learning to navigate our emotions and respond to situations in an appropriate way. This ep explains what a regulated nervous system is and how it differs from an unregulated one, and how a regulated nervous system is not about being immune to stress or emotions, but rather about being able to respond to them in a way that allows us to maintain balance and well-being. I discuss the biological mechanisms involved, including the autonomic nervous system, the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, and the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis. I then give strategies and tools that can be used to achieve a regulated nervous system, including cognitive reappraisal, attentional shifting, and physical techniques such as deep breathing, digital blackout, and weighted blankets. You will see that you can learn to train your brain to respond to stress and emotions in a healthy way, and how this can be done through conscious and intentional actions that eventually become automatic. If you're interested in learning more about how to regulate your nervous system and improve your emotional well-being, tune in!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, I answer three listener questions. From the impact of artificial intelligence on future generations to navigating toxic relationships and setting boundaries with family members, this episode covers it all. I talk about how to find hope in a world where technology is rapidly changing the way we live and work and how important it is to teach children to be adaptable and independent. When to know when it's time to let go of a toxic partner and how to set healthy boundaries with family members who may be causing emotional distress. Tune in to hear the full conversation and discover how to take control of your life and make the choices that are right for you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
A Marriage on the Brink: Navigating Porn Addiction and Relationship Dynamics Episode 503 In this episode, I delve into a deeply personal question from a listener who's struggling to cope with her husband's porn addiction. I talk about the devastating impact of this addiction on relationships, and the importance of prioritising your own own well-being. This ep covers the complexities of porn addiction, its effects on intimacy and trust, and the challenges of recovery. I go into the need for accountability, therapy, and a willingness to confront the underlying issues driving the addiction. AND the importance of setting boundaries and communicating needs clearly in a relationship, and the dangers of gaslighting and manipulation. A key takeaway from this episode is that recovery from porn addiction is a long-term process that requires effort, commitment, and support. If you're struggling with a partner's porn addiction or feeling trapped in a toxic relationship, this episode offers a much-needed dose of reality and hope. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In a world where social media reigns supreme, it's easy to get caught up in the endless scroll and lose sight of what truly matters. But what if you could break free from the cycle of comparison and distraction, and find a sense of calm and clarity in a world that's increasingly chaotic? This episode is all about the psychology of the slow life, where we're talking about moving away from addictive content and towards longer, more intentional forms of media. In this episode I talk about the benefits of stepping away from social media, including improved focus and attention, lower anxiety and stress, and a greater sense of presence and connection with the world around us. I also go into the importance of being mindful of our attention and how it's being used, and how we can start to make changes to our social media habits to prioritize what's truly important to us. And of course some practical tips and advice for anyone looking to start their own journey towards a slower, more intentional life. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the demands of social media and want to find a more balanced way of living, this episode is a must-listen. Join me over the next 30 days to explore the benefits of a slower pace of life, and discover how you can start to make changes to your own social media habits to focus on what truly matters.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Ahhhh Insecurities. I feel like they are used against us in all areas of life. Advertising, social media, internet trolls, trends, unhealthy relationships and even well meaning friends and family! this ep uncovers what insecurities actually are, the common behaviors to look out for in yourself, and how to learn to live with, embrace or change (in a healthy way) the things that you are insecure about so they no longer control you and how you move forward in life. Secure people are not those with zero 'flaws' or things that they don't love, they are people that despite these 'things' are able to love who they are and be comfortable with that. and when that happens, no one can use your insecurities against you. Brain Fact - Fen Phen and why it got discontinued. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Head Noise today! Episode 500!I have your voice note listener questions (love them and your voices SAAAAAAAA much). The questions and titles are perfection and I hope to give you some food for thought to get you closer to your answer. 1. At what point do I walk away?2. Abrupt ending to a relationship3. Attachment Style (How to stop protectively detaching?)We talk all things break up, heart break, ultimatums, communication, closure, healing and rebuilding yourself after a breakup. Hope you and your brains enjoy!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Bonjour beans, and welcome to the episode today. - Episode 499.We go into a sort of 'bingo' of things that may be said by a narcissistic family member. I gathered a lot of this information thanks to you guys, my audience and what you have written in in response to my questions around dealing with difficult family members. I also do a pharmacology fact (Quaaludes) and a listener question at the end where we discuss when you have a friend who is imitating your every move - what can you do? Hope you enjoy! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Bonjour and welcome to the episode of today! Given that I am on the brink of losing my voice I thought I would bring back a crowd favourite with this episode I released a while back. In this episode I have my brain fact of the Swimmers Body Illusion, and then I go into why it is so hard to let someone / something go and ways to feel more empowered to do that thing. Danke and enjoy See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
My beans you voted for this episode and I am so pumped to bring it to you! I have put the poll up on Spotify and we will post stories on our socials today! Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's headnoise day! Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The episode I mentioned on How to Make Friends in your 20s, 30's and beyond here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6iY0XkqmrtIuCHfJ95UUAD?si=zqjCSkW8QB-FOTM4rj38ew Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Part 2 of the neuroscience of making and breaking habits. Here I delve into the best and most effective ways to break a habit, and I give options to try depending on what kind of habit you want to stop. Take notes, write it all down and see if it helps you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We are HERE!!! with another Neuroscience episode. I tried to pack it all into one, but alas, I have to split it into two eps. Part one is all about how to make a habit. I talk about what brain areas and what neurochemicals are involved in creating and strengthening a habit. How to harness the times of day, locations and neurotransmitters to give yourself the best chance of succeeding How to structure your routine / habits so it is easier to adhere to And lots more. Let me know in the comments if you would like me to cover any other neuroscience topic and I will endeavour to DO IT. Dankeeeeeee and until next time. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
BONJOUR. And welcome to one of my most important episodes for your brain health. This episode was originally released a few years ago (episode 88) and would have to be top 5 of my all time favourite episodes due to how much you will learn about how good saunas can be for your brain health, your stress levels, sleep and overall physical health. How many times per week, how long etc will all be covered in this episode. I hope you enjoy! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This is the episode you have been asking for and waiting for and we are finally here! How do you really know if you want children? Can you ever truly be ready for it? And what kind of questions do you need to ask yourself AND your partner before embarking on starting a family, or choosing to not. While I cannot give you black and white answers, I really hope this episode helps you get deeper into your own thoughts about the topic and lead you to having a bit more clarity around the subject! I asked myself these questions before having my own children and I feel it did help prepare me for this new season in life quite a bit! Enjoy! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Poll Should I do an episode on The Neuroscience of Making and Breaking a Habit The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's Headnoise Friday! I answer your questions you sent in! The questions I received were Can you lose feelings with someone?, One sided sibling relationships and My friend has dropped the ball. If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Today's episode is one of my most requested topics, entering your 30's! Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Bonjour! Welcome to Head Noise day. Today I cover 2 different questions, one about really trusting your partner when you know they have cheated in the past (not on you, but with you), and how to come to terms with permananty leaving your home country, and having kids away from your family. I did aim to do 3 questions as usual, but the background noise was off the HHOOOOKKKK today so two questions it is! Anyway. Danke and enjoy!!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Why do we have incredible self-control in some areas of life… and absolutely none in others? In this neuroscience episode, we break down what self-control actually is in the brain, and why it can disappear the moment stress, distraction, or emotional conflict enters the picture. We start with a quick brain fact explaining the difference between adrenaline and noradrenaline (also known as epinephrine and norepinephrine) and how these stress chemicals activate the sympathetic nervous system and the fight-or-flight response. Then we dive into the neuroscience of self-control: • What self-control actually means from a brain perspective • Why self-control is a diminishing mental resource • How stress chemicals weaken the brain’s control systems • The push-pull relationship between the prefrontal cortex (your control centre) and the limbic system (your emotional and impulse system) • Why stress and anxiety can shut down the brain circuits responsible for conscious self-control • The role of the anterior cingulate cortex in monitoring internal conflict and willpower I also explore why self-control isn’t about learning new skills, it’s about directing yourself to do things you are already capable of doing. Finally, we look at evidence-based ways to strengthen self-control in everyday life: • Regulating emotions instead of suppressing them • Re-internalising awareness and paying attention to internal conflict • Why meditation improves self-control by strengthening attention and self-awareness • The role of delayed gratification in reducing procrastination • How small daily actions can train the brain to make better decisions If you’ve ever wondered why motivation fluctuates, why stress makes discipline disappear, or how to build stronger habits, this episode explains the neuroscience behind it. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT
Bonjour! On this headnoise episode I answer three of your questions. I cover: How to deal with an overbearing sister who tries to act like a second parent and belittle constantly. How to know for sure if you are on the right path after quitting uni for a different life. How to know if you should move back with your ex, the father of your children, when your relationship is great but you are no longer in love with him AT ALL. Thank you for sending in the questions and keep them coming! send them to [email protected] Danke! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What does it ACTUALLY take to know someone? Can you ever know a person outside of the role they play in your relationship with them? If someone deceives you, does that mean you never really knew them in the first place? And why does chemistry so often convince us we understand someone far more deeply than we actually do? In this episode, I talk about the illusion of knowing and why familiarity, attraction, and emotional intensity can create a false sense of closeness. I dive into limerence, the strange dynamics of online dating, and the way modern dating shows sell us a version of connection that looks convincing… but rarely reflects healthy love in the real world. Let’s goooooo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's Voice Message headnoise day! I answer 3 of your Voice Messages you sent in! If you would like to send in a question email please email: [email protected] or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Head Noise: I’m Losing My Best Friend & My Partner Is 17 Years Older Than Me In this Head Noise episode, we talk about two situations that can quietly reshape your relationships — friendship change and family judgement. First, how do you deal with the fear of losing your best friend when they enter a new relationship? We explore: Why the friendship changing doesn’t mean the love is gone How trying to control or hold on too tightly can push someone away The difference between close and codependent friendships Why fear can damage something that doesn’t need fixing How to genuinely be happy for your friend when their life evolves Then, what happens when your partner is 17 years older and your family isn’t on board? i go into: Learning to live with family disappointment Why their concern often comes from protection, not rejection The importance of keeping them in the loop Why telling them sooner rather than later makes things easier This episode is about allowing relationships to evolve without trying to force certainty, and learning to stay grounded even when others don’t fully understand your choices. As always, Head Noise is about responding thoughtfully instead of reacting from fear.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Head Noise: My Partner Trauma Dumps, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict In this Head Noise episode, we unpack three listener dilemmas that all come down to boundaries, self-perception, and finding your voice when things feel overwhelming. We talk about: Whether to stay with a partner who constantly trauma dumps — and how to figure out if the relationship is actually sustainable long-term What imposter syndrome really is at a new job, and how to rewrite your self-talk so it becomes realistic and empowering instead of self-sabotaging Why some people freeze during confrontation, and how to start responding instead of shutting down This episode covers: Emotional compatibility vs emotional exhaustion in relationships Determining if your needs are being met — not just if you care about someone Reframing “I’m a fraud” thinking into grounded, self-supportive internal dialogue The psychology behind conflict freeze responses How to make decisions that protect your energy and long-term wellbeing If you’ve ever felt drained by someone you love, doubted your place at work, or struggled to speak up when it matters, this one will resonate. As always, Head Noise is about cutting through emotional overwhelm so you can make clearer, calmer decisions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this Head Noise episode, we’re unpacking three very different dilemmas that all come down to trust, discomfort, and self-honesty. We talk about: What to do when you get back with someone who previously ghosted you, and the trust issues won’t go away How to build a relationship with your sister-in-law when you fundamentally don’t see eye to eye Why you might want to leave a “lovely” boyfriend, and how to know if you’re making a mistake or finally listening to yourself This episode covers: Rebuilding trust after being ghosted (and whether it’s actually possible) Why good on paper doesn’t always mean right for you Fear of regret vs fear of staying stuck Choosing peace over potential If you’ve ever stayed because you were scared to hurt someone, gone back to someone who hurt you, or felt guilty for wanting something different, this one will hit. As always, Head Noise is about cutting through the emotional fog and helping you make decisions that align with your self-respect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this Head Noise episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of hope, attachment, and self-betrayal the kind of decisions that feel impossible when you’re emotionally involved. We talk about: Whether you should leave a life you love to move cities in the hope of finding a partner What to do when your cheating ex wants you back, is in therapy, and swears they’ve changed, especially when you’ve already moved on with someone else How to emotionally detach and move forward after being slowly ghosted by someone you thought things were going really well with This episode breaks down the psychology behind: Making life decisions from loneliness vs self-trust Sex addiction, and the difference between change and intention Why ghosting hurts so much Choosing yourself without spiralling into guilt or doubt As always, Head Noise episodes are about cutting through the emotional fog and helping you see what’s actually happening, so you can make decisions that protect your peace and self-respect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Anyone In this episode, I break down the psychology behind control. Why we try to manage other people’s behaviour, emotions, and choices, and how that quietly drains our power, peace, and sense of self. We talk about: Why trying to control others makes you feel more powerless, not less How victim mentality keeps you dependent on other people’s energy and validation The ways control shows up as guilt, emotional pressure, or “needs” Why boundaries are about your behaviour and not changing someone else’s How letting go of control reduces anxiety and emotional exhaustion Why focusing only on yourself feels uncomfortable but creates real change How to stop feeling guilty, indebted, or responsible for other people’s emotions The mindset shift that helps you reclaim your power without force, manipulation, or emotional labour This episode is for anyone who feels drained by relationships, stuck in cycles of guilt or resentment, or exhausted from trying to hold everything together. You don’t need more control. You need your power back.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Why do you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, even people you love? Why does competition creep into friendships, relationships, work, and social media… even when you know it’s making you feel worse? In this episode, I break down the psychology of comparison and competition. Why your brain gets stuck in it, why some situations trigger you more than others, and how to end the comparison cycle permanently, not just “manage” it. We talk about: Why comparison isn’t the problem, loss of self-trust is How triggers reveal where you’ve outsourced your worth The difference between healthy ambition and toxic competition Why comparing yourself to friends and siblings hurts the most How social media intensifies insecurity without you realising The psychology behind competing for validation, attention, and approval How to stop competing in friendships, dating, and everyday life The mindset shift that makes comparison lose its power for good This episode is for anyone who feels behind, constantly measures themselves against others, or is exhausted by the quiet mental competition they can’t seem to turn off. If comparison is draining your confidence, affecting your relationships, or keeping you stuck, this episode will help you understand why it happens and exactly how to step out of it for good.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
BONJOUR! Head Noise today! So many questions coming through so we are ramping up these Head Noise episodes. Today we cover dating curses and how to break out of them, issues with friends who have given you the silent treatment, how to advance at work and stop being a soggy lemon and what to do when you take a step back for the sake of your mental health but it causes your mental health to continue to suffer because of the dreaded identity crisis. Lets get into it!!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. We get to the bottom of: Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to change something within you to make better choices moving forward. Why you do not have to feel guilty for cutting a friend off even if they have zero friends (ahem, accountability) How to deal with a painfully negative mother (whom you adore and do not want to cut out) And what to do if you are at the 7 year mark, unsure if you should stay or leave when there is a house and 2 dogs involved. Don’t forget to send through YOUR Head Noise questions to [email protected] Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval. This episode covers: What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality) What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral Signs you may be experiencing RSD Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening. It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust. If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next. Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Episode 10 – Choosing Peace Is the Power Move (How Stability, Clarity, and Balance Actually Give You Everything You Want)The Reset You Actually Need For a long time, hustle culture convinced us that being busy meant we were getting somewhere. In Episode 10 — the final episode of The Reset You Actually Need , we explore why choosing peace isn’t giving up on ambition, but refining it into something sustainable, intelligent, and far more effective. This episode breaks down: Why hustle culture confuses motion with real progress How constant urgency fragments attention and fuels anxiety Why peace of mind increases performance rather than complacency How balance isn’t a compromise it’s an optimisation strategy Why inconsistency creates anxiety and the illusion of “falling behind” How overstimulation kills clarity, creativity, and fulfilment Why slower, long-form thinking leads to better decisions and deeper satisfaction We talk about the gap between where you are and where you think you should be and how that gap is often the source of chronic anxiety. Not because you’re failing, but because you’re trying to sprint instead of stabilise. Choosing peace doesn’t mean doing less. It means doing the right things, consistently, without burning yourself out. This episode is about redefining success so you don’t have to escape your own life to survive it. This episode concludes a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and step into the year calm, clear, and self-led. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Day 9. Less Proving, More Choosing The Reset You Actually Need So much exhaustion comes from trying to prove your worth. In Day 9 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore what happens when you stop performing for validation and start making decisions from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead. This episode breaks down: The difference between proving and choosing and why it matters Why proving is reactive, while choosing is grounded and powerful How the need to prove often comes from unresolved self-doubt Why proving keeps you busy, but choosing actually moves you forward How choosing makes boundaries feel simpler and more natural The discomfort that comes with choosing and why it’s necessary This episode isn’t about becoming cold, dismissive, or disconnected. When you stop trying to convince people of your value, your decisions get quieter, clearer, and far more effective. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm authority and direction.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Day 8 – Until You Learn to Rest, You Will Not Get Ahead The Reset You Actually Need So many people think they’re resting but they’re actually avoiding. In Day 8 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why confusing rest with avoidance keeps you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and stuck in the same place, even when you’re “taking breaks.” This episode covers: The difference between real rest and avoidance behaviours Why your mood and energy don’t change when rest isn’t restorative The kinds of tasks people avoid and why How to tell if you truly rested or just numbed out Why sleep alone doesn’t fix exhaustion Forms of rest that actually restore energy and calm the nervous system Why some activities are more restful than bed rotting How to wind down on your own without avoidance If you feel like you’re constantly tired, overwhelmed, or needing more time off — this episode will help you understand what kind of rest you actually need, and how to get it without sabotaging your momentum. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence. This mini episode explores: Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing The balance between self-compassion and accountability Why small promises matter more than big goals Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype. It’s built through follow-through. When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler. Decisions feel lighter. Confidence starts to return naturally. This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it. This episode explores: Why disappointment is often self-created (and how to stop doing that) How repeating the same goals or relationships erodes self-trust Why listening to words instead of behaviour keeps you stuck The psychology of repeated rejection and loss of control How taking responsibility restores agency (without self-blame) Why self-respect is the fastest way back to emotional stability This isn’t about becoming cynical or emotionally closed off. It’s about regaining control by changing what you tolerate, repeat, and negotiate with. If you’re tired of feeling let down, drained, or stuck in cycles that keep hurting you, this episode will help you reset your expectations, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, raise your standards, and step into the year with calm self-leadership. Episode 217 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXGur29se1TajjfWjMiNBSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or motivation comes before they act. In Day 5 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why waiting to feel ready is one of the most common (and invisible) ways people stay stuck, and how identity is shaped by action, not intention. This episode explores: Why the brain doesn’t reward planning, it rewards movement How repeated action updates self-concept and confidence The psychology behind hesitation and “I’ll start when…” thinking Why readiness is a byproduct, not a prerequisite How to begin changing your identity through behaviour, not self-talk If you’ve been waiting for motivation, certainty, or the perfect moment before making a change, this episode will help you understand why that moment rarely arrives , and what actually creates momentum instead. This isn’t about forcing yourself or pushing harder. It’s about letting action do the psychological work for you. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm direction.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4 We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.” In Day 4 of The Reset You Actually Need, we flip that idea on its head and explore why disciplining the body is often the fastest way to change the mind. This episode breaks down: Why changing your physical state contributes to motivation and confidence How physical routines regulate your mood and improve mental clarity Ideas for you that you can start implementing today How small, repeatable behaviours create psychological momentum This isn’t about extreme routines or rigid self-control. It’s about understanding that the brain takes its cues from the body and that mental resilience is often built through physical consistency. This episode will show you why action at the level of the body is the reset you’ve been missing. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move differently through the year ahead.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 3 So many people believe their struggles are just “part of who they are.” In Day 3 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack the personality traits people often romanticise - like being chaotic, overly self-sacrificing, emotionally intense, or the crazy party animal, and how these traits quietly sabotage growth, consistency, and self-trust. This episode explores: Why you cling onto certain traits as your armour even though they conflict with the person you are trying to become The psychology behind identifying too strongly with struggle How to evolve your identity without losing your edge If you’ve ever described yourself as “so chaotic,” “bad with routine,” or “a perfectionist,” this episode will help you see where personality ends and self-sabotage begins. This isn’t about becoming boring or losing what makes you you. It’s about upgrading the parts of your identity that are no longer serving your future. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to reset your mindset, standards, and sense of self for the year ahead.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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