Celeste The Therapist

In this episode, Celeste explores HeartMath — a research-backed system that uses heart coherence to regulate your nervous system, manage stress, and support emotional healing. What Is HeartMath? Developed by the HeartMath Institute, this approach is built on 30+ years of research showing that the heart and brain are in constant communication — and that your emotional state directly shapes your heart rhythm, which in turn affects how you think, feel, and respond. **Key Concepts -Heart coherence — a state where your heart, brain, and nervous system are in sync; you feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded - HRV (Heart Rate Variability)** — a measure of nervous system flexibility and resilience; HeartMath techniques shift your HRV into a healthier pattern - The heart sends *more* signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart — your emotional state is a physiological event, not just a mental one Quick Coherence® Technique (60 seconds) 1. Shift your focus to your heart area and breathe slowly — inhale 5–6 seconds, exhale 5–6 seconds 2. Recall something or someone that brings genuine feelings of appreciation or calm 3. Hold that feeling while continuing to breathe Use this before a hard conversation, in a stressful moment, or as a daily reset. Why It Matters for Healing Many people carrying unresolved trauma are stuck in survival mode — the body hasn't gotten the message that it's safe. Heart coherence techniques give you a body-based tool to interrupt that cycle in real time, not just talk about it. --- Resources - HeartMath Institute: heartmath.org - Inner Balance™ Coherence Plus App (HRV biofeedback) - *The HeartMath Solution* by Doc Childre & Howard Martin - Celeste's website: celestethetherapist.com

Being easy to be around sounds like a compliment. But for a lot of people it's come at an enormous cost — their voice, their needs, their sense of self. In today's episode, Celeste talks about what it actually takes to maintain the reputation of being easygoing — and why the people who are always easy to be around are often the ones struggling the most on the inside. Today's shift: Ask yourself honestly — what has being easy to be around actually cost you? Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

People pleasing feels like it's about being considerate. About keeping the peace. About being a good person. But at its core it has nothing to do with other people at all. It's about your fear. Fear of rejection, conflict, withdrawal, not being enough. In today's episode, Celeste gets to the real root of people pleasing — and why naming the fear underneath it is the only thing that actually changes it. Today's shift: Name the specific fear that drives your people pleasing — and get honest about whether that fear is running your decisions.

One of the biggest reasons people struggle to identify their own people pleasing is because it looks so much like kindness from the outside. And from the inside too. In today's episode, Celeste draws a clear line between genuine kindness — which comes from a place of abundance and choice — and people pleasing — which comes from a place of fear and obligation. Understanding the difference doesn't make you less kind. It makes your kindness real. If you've been using kindness as a cover story for people pleasing, this one is going to be an honest mirror. Today's shift: The next time you do something for someone, pause and ask yourself — am I doing this because I want to, or because I'm afraid of what happens if I don't? Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

Nobody comes into the world afraid of disappointing people. That fear gets learned. It gets taught — sometimes directly, sometimes subtly — by the environments we grew up in, the relationships that shaped us, and the messages we absorbed about what made us lovable and safe. In today's episode, Celeste traces people pleasing back to its roots — and explains why understanding where it came from is the first step to changing it. If you've ever wondered why you are the way you are, this one is going to give you some answers — and a lot of compassion for yourself. Today's shift: Identify one message you received growing up — directly or indirectly — that taught you your needs mattered less than keeping others comfortable. Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

If you've been listening to the last few weeks of the Daily Shift — the burnout series, the grief series, the anxiety and uncertainty series — this episode is going to connect some dots that might change everything. Because underneath most burnout is a people pleaser who couldn't say no. Underneath most anxiety is a people pleaser who is terrified of disapproval. And underneath most grief is a people pleaser who lost themselves trying to keep everyone else okay. In today's episode, Celeste names the thread that connects it all. If you've been wondering why the same patterns keep showing up in different areas of your life, this one is going to give you the answer. Today's shift: Ask yourself honestly — how much of what I'm carrying right now is the result of saying yes when I needed to say no? Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

Daily Shift 168: Peace is not the absence of uncertainty — it's how you move through it  Most of us have been chasing the wrong thing. We think peace means the anxiety is gone, the uncertainty is resolved, the world has settled down and finally makes sense. But that version of peace doesn't exist. In today's episode, Celeste closes out the anxiety and uncertainty cluster with the most important truth of all — peace is not a destination you arrive at when everything is calm. It's a practice you choose in the middle of everything that isn't. And that changes everything about how you pursue it. If you've been waiting to feel peaceful until things get better, this one will show you a different way. Today's shift: Choose one practice today that builds peace from the inside — not one that waits for peace to come from the outside.

Anxiety is loud. And convincing. It tells you the worst is coming, that you can't handle it, that everyone is judging you, that it's all going to fall apart. And because it feels so real and so urgent, most of us believe it. In today's episode, Celeste breaks down exactly how anxiety distorts reality — and gives you a practical framework for talking back to it so it stops running the show. If anxiety has been the loudest voice in the room, this one is going to help you find yours. Today's shift: The next time anxiety tells you a story — pause, name it as anxiety, and ask yourself one question: is this actually true right now? visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

Most people relate to their anxiety like it's an enemy — something to fight, suppress, or get rid of as fast as possible. But what if your anxiety wasn't trying to hurt you? What if it was actually trying to protect you? In today's episode, Celeste flips the script on anxiety completely — and helps you understand what's underneath it, what it's guarding, and why making peace with it changes everything about how you move through it. If you've been at war with your anxiety, this one is going to shift how you see it entirely. Today's shift: Ask your anxiety one honest question today — what are you trying to protect me from? Then sit with whatever comes up.

Daily Shift 166: You can't control the news cycle but you can control your nervous system The news is a lot right now. And for people who are already anxious, consuming it without boundaries is like pouring gasoline on a fire. In today's episode, Celeste talks about the difference between staying informed and staying dysregulated — and gives you a practical framework for protecting your nervous system in a world that is constantly demanding your attention and your anxiety. You can care about what's happening in the world and still protect your peace. Those two things are not in conflict. If the news cycle has been hijacking your nervous system, this one will help you take it back. Today's shift: Set one boundary around your news and social media consumption today — and replace that time with one thing that regulates you instead. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

How many times have you said — once things settle down, I'll start. Once the uncertainty passes, I'll make the plan. Once I feel less anxious, I'll show up fully. In today's episode, Celeste addresses one of the most common ways anxiety keeps us stuck — the waiting room. The place where we put our lives on hold until conditions are perfect. Spoiler: the conditions are never going to be perfect. And your life is happening right now. If you've been living in the waiting room, this one is going to challenge you to walk out of it. Today's shift: Identify one thing you've been postponing until things calm down — and take one small step toward it today anyway. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

SHOW NOTES Uncertainty is one of the hardest things for the human nervous system to sit with. When we don't know what's coming — financially, relationally, professionally, collectively — anxiety fills the gap. In today's episode, Celeste talks about what to do when the ground beneath you feels unsteady, and how to find your footing not by controlling what's outside of you but by anchoring what's inside of you. If you've been feeling unmoored by everything that's uncertain right now, this one will give you something solid to stand on. Today's shift: Identify three things that are certain in your life right now — and let yourself stand on those today. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0 gap-3 standard-markdown">  Most people use the words worry and anxiety interchangeably — but they're actually two very different experiences that require two very different responses. In today's episode, Celeste breaks down the distinction between worry and anxiety, why knowing the difference matters, and how to stop treating them the same way when they show up. Understanding which one you're dealing with in any given moment is one of the most practical tools you can have. If you've ever wondered whether what you're feeling is normal worry or something deeper, this one will help you figure it out. Today's shift: The next time your mind starts spinning, pause and ask yourself — is this worry or anxiety? Then respond accordingly.   visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram </d

If you've ever tried to logic your way out of anxiety — telling yourself there's nothing to worry about, that everything is fine, that you're being irrational — you already know it doesn't work. In today's episode, Celeste explains exactly why thinking harder is not the solution to anxiety, and what actually works instead. This one is going to change how you approach your anxious moments completely. If you've been trying to reason with your anxiety and losing every time, this one is for you. Today's shift: The next time anxiety shows up, stop trying to think your way out — and do one thing to regulate your body instead.

SHOW NOTES So many people walk around feeling ashamed of their anxiety. Like it means they're weak, or broken, or not faithful enough, or not strong enough to handle life. In today's episode, Celeste reframes anxiety completely — not as a personal failure but as a biological response that was designed to protect you. Understanding what anxiety actually is changes everything about how you relate to it. If you've been judging yourself for being anxious, this one will change how you see yourself.   visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

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One of the biggest fears people have in grief is that healing means forgetting. That if you start to feel better, it means the person or the relationship or the loss didn't matter enough. In today's episode, Celeste makes a distinction that changes everything — moving forward and moving on are not the same thing. You can carry someone with you and still choose to live fully. You can honor what you lost without staying stuck in it forever. If the fear of forgetting has been keeping you from healing, this one will give you permission to move. Today's shift: Identify one small way you can move forward today — without feeling like you're leaving anything behind. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness Center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

TITLE Daily Shift 156: Grief and guilt are not the same thing  Grief and guilt often show up together — and for a lot of people they become so tangled it's hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. Did I do enough? Should I have said something sooner? Could I have prevented this? In today's episode, Celeste untangles grief from guilt and helps you understand why carrying both at the same time is one of the heaviest things a person can do — and how to start setting one of them down. If guilt has become part of your grief, this one will help you separate the two. Today's shift: Identify one guilty thought you've been carrying inside your grief — and examine whether it's actually true. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram

There's a particular kind of grief that almost nobody talks about — the grief of a life that never happened. The marriage you thought you'd have by now. The career that didn't go the way you planned. The family you imagined that looks nothing like reality. The version of yourself you thought you'd be at this age. In today's episode, Celeste talks about grieving the imagined life — and why letting go of who you thought you'd be is one of the most important and most overlooked parts of healing. If you've been quietly mourning a future that didn't happen, this one will give you permission to feel it fully. Today's shift: Name the life you thought you'd have — and give yourself permission to grieve the gap between that and where you are now. Today's shift: Stop waiting for closure to come from the outside — and start creating it from within. visit the wellness center stwyt.com  Events Store   Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram

Some of the hardest grief to carry is the kind that came without warning. No chance to say what needed to be said. No closure. No final conversation. Just here one day and gone the next — whether that's a death, a relationship that ended abruptly, or a door that closed before you were ready. In today's episode, Celeste talks about what it means to grieve without closure and why waiting for it might be keeping you stuck. If you're carrying a loss that never got a proper ending, this one is for you. Today's shift: Stop waiting for closure to come from the outside — and start creating it from within. visit the wellness center stwyt.com Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram

One of the most confusing and isolating forms of grief is grieving someone who hasn't died. A parent who was never really present. A friendship that slowly disappeared. A relationship that ended but the person is still there in your life, on your phone, on your social media. In today's episode, Celeste talks about ambiguous loss — the grief that doesn't come with a funeral, a casserole, or permission from anyone around you to fall apart. If you're mourning a relationship with someone who is still alive and don't know how to make sense of what you're feeling, this one will help you name it. Today's shift: Give yourself permission to grieve this relationship — even though the person is still here. visit the wellness center stwyt.com Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow the wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

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Most people have heard of the five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. And most people think they're supposed to move through them in order, check each one off, and come out healed on the other side. But that's not what the research says, and it's not what grief actually looks like in real life. In today's episode, Celeste sets the record straight on the stages of grief — what they were actually meant to do, and why forcing yourself through a checklist might be making your healing harder, not easier. If you've ever felt like you're grieving wrong, this one will give you a lot of relief. Today's shift: Let go of the timeline you think you're supposed to be on — and trust where you actually are today. visit the wellness center stwyt.com Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow the wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

When loss hits, one of the first things people say is "stay strong." And most of us comply — because we were taught that strength means not falling apart. But what if the most courageous thing you could do right now is stop performing strength and actually feel what's there? In today's episode, Celeste challenges the idea that holding it together is the same as healing — and gives you permission to put the armor down. If you've been the strong one for so long you don't even know how to stop, this one is for you. Today's shift: Identify one place in your life where you've been performing strength — and give yourself permission to just be human there today. visit the wellness center stwyt.com Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow Celeste Personal Page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow the wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

We tend to think of grief as something that happens in our heads — the thoughts, the memories, the sadness. But grief is just as much a body experience as it is an emotional one. The tightness in your chest. The exhaustion that won't lift. The way your appetite disappears or takes over completely. In today's episode, Celeste breaks down what grief actually does to your nervous system — and why taking care of your body is not separate from processing your loss. It's part of it. If you've been wondering why you feel grief physically, this one will help you understand what's actually happening inside you. Today's shift: Check in with your body today — not your thoughts. Notice where you're holding it.

When most people hear the word grief, they think about losing someone to death. But grief shows up in so many other places — the end of a relationship, a friendship that faded, a version of yourself you had to leave behind, a life that didn't go the way you planned. In today's episode, Celeste opens up the grief conversation by expanding what we're even allowed to grieve in the first place. If you've ever felt a deep loss but told yourself it didn't count because nobody died, this one is for you. Today's shift: Name one thing you've been carrying as sadness that you haven't yet given yourself permission to call grief. https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist

Not everyone has to live at full speed. But somewhere along the way, wanting a slower, calmer life got labeled as laziness — or worse, as not being ambitious enough. In today's episode, Celeste closes out the burnout cluster with the most honest question of all: what if the pace you've been keeping was never actually yours to begin with? This one is about more than burnout recovery. It's about choosing, maybe for the first time, the life you actually want. Today's shift: Name the pace you actually want and take one step today to protect it.

Two days off won't undo months of depletion. Real recovery from burnout is slower, quieter, and more intentional than a quick reset. In today's episode, Celeste talks about why we keep expecting a weekend to fix what took months to build — and what sustainable recovery actually looks like. If you've tried to rest and still don't feel better, this one will explain why. Today's shift: Choose one sustainable habit — not one big reset. Stwyt.com/events

Daily Shift 147: You can't pour from a regulated nervous system you don't have Everyone's heard "you can't pour from an empty cup." But what happens when the cup itself is broken? In today's episode, Celeste takes that idea deeper — into your nervous system. Because it's not just about being full. It's about being regulated. And if your system is dysregulated, no amount of rest or self-care will stick until you address what's underneath. If you keep trying to take care of everyone else while running on fumes, this one will change how you think about it. Today's shift: Do one regulation practice before you give anything to anyone today.

Somewhere along the way, most of us learned that slowing down means you're not serious. That doing less means you don't care enough. In today's episode, Celeste challenges that belief directly — and makes the case that reducing your load isn't quitting. It's one of the most courageous things you can do when you're running on empty. If guilt shows up every time you try to slow down, this one is for you. Today's shift: Identify one thing you can put down today — without guilt.

Your body has been trying to talk to you. The tension in your shoulders. The foggy mind. The short fuse. The exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix. In today's episode, Celeste breaks down what it actually looks like when your nervous system is sending distress signals — and why so many of us have learned to ignore them. If you've been pushing through signals your body has been sending for a while, this one will help you start listening again. Today's shift: Notice one signal today — and instead of overriding it, listen.

Burnout doesn't happen in a day. It's the result of a hundred small moments where you pushed through, ignored the signs, and kept going because that's what you were taught to do. In today's episode, Celeste breaks down how we end up depleted — and why the buildup was never your fault. If you've been beating yourself up for burning out, this one will give you some relief. Today's shift: Stop blaming yourself for the buildup. Awareness is where the healing starts.

Burnout doesn't always announce itself. Sometimes it looks like staying busy, going numb, or just feeling nothing while you keep showing up. In today's episode, Celeste talks about the quiet version of burnout — the one that hides behind productivity and performance — and why you don't have to hit rock bottom to say "this is too much." If you've been telling yourself you're fine while running on empty, this one is for you. Today's shift: You don't have to fix anything — just name where you actually are.

Colon cancer is no longer just a concern for older adults. More and more younger people are being diagnosed — often at later stages. In this episode, I sit down with board-certified medical oncologist Dr. Avishek Kumar to talk about why this shift is happening and what people need to start paying attention to. We explore how symptoms are often dismissed or misdiagnosed, the patterns he's seeing firsthand, and the critical warning signs that should never be ignored. This is a conversation about awareness, advocacy, and learning how to listen to your body before small signals become bigger concerns. In this episode, we discuss: Why colon cancer is increasing in younger adults The "too young" mindset that delays diagnosis Symptoms that are often overlooked or minimized The importance of early detection How to start advocating for your health If something feels off in your body, it's worth paying attention to.

In today's Daily Shift, we explore what to do when a boundary keeps getting crossed — and why repeating yourself isn't the answer. A boundary isn't just what you say. It's what you do when it's crossed. Consequences aren't punishment — they're how boundaries become real. In this episode: Why repeating a boundary doesn't always work The difference between a boundary and a consequence What to ask yourself when nothing is changing Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we practice boundaries in real life. Live Regulation Sessions: Regulate With Me on TikTok + Instagram Thursdays & Sundays at 8:30pm EST

In today's Daily Shift, we close out the Relationship Shift Series by reflecting on what you've actually been building. Healthy relationships don't require perfection. They require people who know how to come back — to themselves and to each other. In this episode: What you've built across this series Letting go of the idea of perfect relationships What it means to keep choosing to come back Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we keep practicing together. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com

In today's Daily Shift, we explore what secure connection actually feels like — and why it can feel unfamiliar even when it's exactly what we've been looking for. Security in relationships starts with security in yourself. This is what you've been building toward. In this episode: Why secure connection can feel suspicious at first What anxious and avoidant patterns look like in real life What you're actually building toward in this work Continue the work: Join the Shift community — and come regulate with us live. Live Regulation Sessions: Regulate With Me on TikTok + Instagram Thursdays & Sundays at 8:30pm EST

In today's Daily Shift, we explore the difference between loneliness and being alone — and why learning to be with yourself changes everything. Loneliness isn't about physical solitude. It's about disconnection. And the deepest disconnection often happens from within. In this episode: Why being alone can feel uncomfortable The real difference between loneliness and solitude How your relationship with yourself shapes every other relationship Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. Guided Journal: 365 Days of Intentional Living — available now

In today's Daily Shift, we explore why we keep attracting the same relationship dynamics — and what's really driving it. It's not about being broken or bad at choosing people. It's about familiarity. And learning to tell the difference between what feels familiar and what actually feels good. In this episode: Why we're drawn to familiar dynamics What your nervous system is really doing Where the pattern actually starts to shift Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. Grab the book: Relationship Goals: A Guide to a Healthy Relationship — available now

In today's Daily Shift, we explore conflict — and why most of us either shut down or escalate when things get hard. Real repair isn't about winning or smoothing things over. It's about learning to stay present with yourself and the other person at the same time. In this episode: Why conflict triggers a physical response first The two ways we leave relationships during conflict What it actually looks like to repair Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com

In today's Daily Shift, we talk about what happens when you start to outgrow old relationship patterns — and why it can feel disorienting even when it's growth. Doing this work changes you. And sometimes the relationships around you will shift too. That's not a sign you did something wrong. In this episode: The strange discomfort of growth Why some relationships feel different when you stop shrinking What it means when people can't meet your new self Continue the work: Join the Shift community — and come regulate with us live. Live Regulation Sessions: Regulate With Me on TikTok + Instagram Thursdays & Sundays at 8:30pm EST

In today's Daily Shift, we explore why setting boundaries can feel so loaded — and how to start shifting that. Boundaries aren't about pushing people away. They're about staying honest in your relationships without abandoning yourself. In this episode: Where the fear of boundaries comes from What boundaries actually are Learning to hold them without guilt Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. Guided Journal: 365 Days of Intentional Living — available now

In today's Daily Shift, we explore why receiving can feel uncomfortable—and what that discomfort is really protecting you from. Healthy relationships require both giving and receiving. Learning to let care in is part of the work. In this episode: Why receiving feels unsafe for many people The connection between overgiving and deflecting One small shift to start practicing Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. Grab the book: Relationship Goals: A Guide to a Healthy Relationship — available now

In today's Daily Shift, we explore overgiving in relationships. What looks like love can sometimes be a pattern rooted in fear of disconnection. Healthy relationships allow for mutual effort and balance. In this episode: The difference between love and overgiving Where overgiving patterns come from How to begin shifting toward balance Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com

In today's Daily Shift, we begin the Relationship Shift Series by exploring the belief that your needs are "too much." Often, it's not that your needs are too much—it's that they weren't met in the right environments. Healing involves learning to express your needs without shrinking. In this episode: Where the "too much" belief comes from The difference between needs and environment Learning to show up fully in relationships Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we build healthier relationship patterns. Live Regulation Sessions: Join "Regulate With Me" on TikTok + Instagram Thursdays & Sundays at 8:30pm EST

In today's Daily Shift, we close out the Regulation Shift Series by reflecting on what regulation really looks like. It's not about staying calm all the time—it's about knowing how to come back to yourself. Regulation is built through small, consistent shifts over time. In this episode: What regulation actually looks like Letting go of perfection Returning to yourself again and again Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we continue practicing regulation together. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com Guided Journal: 365 Days of Intentional Living

In today's Daily Shift, we reflect on progress. Growth doesn't always feel big or obvious. It often shows up in small shifts—more awareness, more intention, and small changes in how you respond. In this episode: Recognizing subtle growth Letting go of perfection Understanding progress in real time Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we continue growing together. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com Guided Journal: 365 Days of Intentional Living

In today's Daily Shift, we explore what regulation looks like in real life. It's not about staying calm all the time—it's about making small, intentional shifts in real moments. That's where real change happens. In this episode: What regulation looks like in everyday situations Letting go of perfection Choosing to respond differently in real time Continue the work: Join the Shift community as we practice applying these tools in our daily lives. In-person classes (Massachusetts): Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center → stwyt.com Guided Journal: 365 Days of Intentional Living

In this episode, we're having a conversation that many people avoid—but one that needs to be talked about more openly. Sibling sexual abuse is often misunderstood, minimized, or never acknowledged at all. Because of that, many individuals carry the impact of these experiences into adulthood without language, support, or validation. In this conversation, we explore what sibling sexual abuse actually is, why it's so often overlooked, and how it can affect someone emotionally, psychologically, and within their relationships over time. We also talk about what healing can begin to look like—especially when someone is just starting to make sense of their experience. This episode is not easy, but it is important. If this is something that resonates with you, you're not alone—and support is available. In this episode, we discuss: What sibling sexual abuse is and why it's often misunderstood How families and systems may minimize or overlook these experiences The long-term emotional and psychological impact The role of shame, silence, and confusion What healing and support can look like   Purchase on Amazon- Sibiling Sexual Abuse About Brad: Brad Watts is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex offender treatment provider in Knoxville, TN, specializing in treatment of survivors of complex trauma, as well as individuals and families where sibling sexual abuse has occurred. He is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, "Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide to Confronting America's Silent Epidemic". In Knoxville, Brad consults agencies and law enforement on responses to sibling sexual abuse and conducts psychosexual evaluations.  Brad conducts trainings and workshops across the United States on how to identify and respond to sibling sexual abuse. He works as an advocate for families where sibling sexual abuse has occurred, making many media appearances on podcasts, radio and television interviews in the United States, Canada, and Great Britain and has consulted for Nancy Grace's True Crimes podcast as well as for the Jordan Harbinger Show.