Brown Girl Self-Care

Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen.We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We look for little things, like “well, at least it’s closer to home,” to justify staying on autopilot. But true liberation means you stop fighting for the bare minimum. It means you stop settling for a minute amount of money, space, love, and you actually start allowing the alignment of your true vision (which for me is working less, earning more, and pouring into my purpose).What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:Seeking Derailment vs. Allowing Alignment: What it looks like when you are fighting, inquiring over and over, and pushing for full-time hours in a place that shrinks you, instead of allowing the space to do things that actually align with your vision.Making the Uncomfortable Comfortable: How we look for little things to make a limiting situation feel okay, and how that comfort keeps us limited and stuck on autopilot.The Bare Minimum Trap: The moment you tell yourself that all of your wants, your needs, and your hopes don't matter as long as the basics are taken care of and a little bit of money is coming in.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life.Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life.True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation.What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive.The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty.The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint.The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want.Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing.The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter.Spoiler alert: It does matter.True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches.What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms."Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul.The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain.The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish". Ways to support me and the podcast:Buy me a coffee or even a book. Cashapp and Venmo are @browngirlselfcare (thank you!!)Leave a message on Spotify or rating and review on iTunes (thank you!!)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey!Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you.As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany them. Here are some helpful links. Please do your due diligence:https://naacp.org/resources/know-your-rights-immigrationhttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwinCities/comments/1qb84vt/what_to_do_if_ice_stops_you_an_attorney_answers/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal.We’re talking about:Why holding onto your truth can feel like survival but may also block your growthThe importance of having a supportive inner circle and trustworthy alliesWays to safely share your truth including journaling, therapy, creative expression, or just showing up authenticallyHow black women, historically and culturally, have had to mask their truths and why reclaiming space to be fully human is an act of self-careNavigating the highs and lows, the valleys and peaks, of life while honoring your own journeyThis episode is an invitation to let go of the pressure to be perfect, to stop bottling things up for survival, and to explore ways to express yourself safely and honestly.Reflection PromptsWhat truth have you been holding onto that needs space to be expressedWho in your life can you trust to honor your truth without judgmentWhat small, safe step can you take this week to release or express what’s been bottled upSoul-Care Circle Invitation✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment.Date and Time: January 31, 2026 (9am-11am Central)Where: ZoomCost: Donation-based (any amount)This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.How to JoinSend your donation via:Cash App: @browngirlselfcareVenmo: @browngirlselfcare👉 Important:Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic.Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space. Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else.We’re talking about:Why small beginnings matter (especially in January)Creating physical, emotional, and energetic space as a form of self-careLetting intentions unfold without rushing or pressureHow honoring what feels meaningful to you is an act of self-loveThis episode is an invitation to start the year gently, intentionally, and on your own terms.Reflection PromptsWhat’s one small step you can take this year that feels big for you?What kind of space do you want to claim or protect in 2026?Where can you move with intention instead of urgency?Soul-Care Circle Invitation✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment. Date: January 31, 2026 Where: Zoom Cost: Donation-based (any amount)This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.How to JoinSend your donation via:Cash App: @browngirlselfcareVenmo: @browngirlselfcare👉 Important: Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026.The steps are:Honor the release that needs to happenYour goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being hypercritical of yourself. Think about setting intentions insteadBe sure to include community building in your plans for 2026I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode as well as some of your intentions for 2026. If you share this episode or your intentions on social, be sure to tag me.If you are listening on iTunes or Spotify please leave a rating and review pretty please :)Also, if you are making some changes in 2026 and need clarity and support as you boldly bloom, book some time on my calenedar here: The B.E.I.N.G. Space I will be back "in office" January 3rd.See you in 2026!!!!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself. In this episode i'll be sharing:how boundaries are liberationthe importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your boundariesthe necessity of not only expressing the. boundary but having a consequenceResources/Links:In case you missed it, here is last weeks episode - December Is The Best Month To Release The "Fake" and Find Your Real SelfNeed clarity in your journey of blooming? Book a BEING Session with me here!Join me on Zoom on December 17th right here - BGSC Soul-Care CircleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year. In this episode let's explore: Winter as the Shedding Season: Using the end of 2025 as a time to identify and release the societal expectations and masks that stifle our authentic selves.Decolonizing Your Worth: Challenging narratives of strength and productivity to embrace softness, vulnerability, and rest.Returning to Your Roots: The importance of reconnecting with hobbies, creativity, and ancestral wisdom that spark your mind, heart, and spirit.Resources and links:Join me on December 17th for Soul-Care Circle. Click here to register on ZoomShare your story! What are you shedding this season? Tag @browngirlselfcare on social after listening today and let me know.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to just sit down somewhere.As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and learning to pause before life forces you to.We’ll explore the 5 signs that show up when you’re out of alignment: when you’re scattered instead of centered drained instead of nourished ✨eactive instead of peaceful doubting instead of grounded and disconnected instead of intuitiveSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hello Beautiful Black Woman!In this (rewind) episode I'm sharing five ways that show me the healing work we are doing is actually making a difference. This includes:Understanding that there will still be hard things to process emotionallyUnderstanding my toxic patterns and behaviorsNot trying to change people but instead focusing on meRealizing that I can choose what I do for healingListen in to todays episode and be sure to write down the affirmation that I provide at the end.If you'd like to support the podcast be sure to rate and review where ever you are listening or/and share this episode on social media.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Overconsumerism this holiday season will not save us. Many of us want to "keep up with the Jones'" when they likely are living check to check themselves. Buying with intention versus buying to people please and prove your worth are different energies. Let's have a quick chat about this.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey! In this episode I'm sharing part of a recent video I created. In It I talked about the idea of the American dream. By those standards, this vision of success we've been told to strive for, I am failing because my life doesn't align, and that's ok! Listen in for moreSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you are in need of a reminder to slow down, be present and not feel pressured to buy/have "all the things", this episode is definitely for you!Recently, i watched a movie on Hulu called "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner in Japan. I thought it would be about his job (and how could that even be exciting??) but it was about much, much more.I'm sharing six takeaways that will help you experience your own "perfect" days, ones where you are more grounded and present, versus worrying about the accumulation or use of the latest and greatest stuff.As mentioned, if you'd like to spend some one on one time with me, getting your self-care plan in order, you can connect with me here: BEING w/ BreSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping the narrative for the next 30 days and making self-care the primary and working secondary. Listen in to learn more about the framework I'll be using. Also, feel free to join me or watch on my Youtube channel and let me know your thoughts! Youtube - @browngirlselfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season.This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is the linkLet me know what you thought about todays episode. What is something you've been waiting for? What are you being called to do?Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up.I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like.I talk about:Why I quit my job and what led up to itHow I kept myself afloat through moving, using my 401k, podcasting, freelancing, and building Brown Girl Self-Care offeringsThe mistakes and challenges I faced along the way — survival mode, giving too much away for free, buying things I didn’t need, people-pleasing, and caring too much about what others thinkHow I’m actively rebuilding my life now, including paying off debt, eating healthier, practicing yoga, baking bread, keeping my space calm, and prioritizing what truly mattersMy vision for the future — from living on land with a sister friend, buying an RV, traveling, and building a life where I’m healthier, stronger, and freerThe hard truth about being honest with yourself and getting tired of your own messThis is a raw and real conversation about choosing yourself, starting over, and proving that even after setbacks, you can still create a beautiful life.Mentioned in episode:Ninja Foodi Airfryer that I use several times a weekThe above is an Amazon affiliate link which means I may earn a small amount of money if you click the link/make a purchase.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforce the idea of Black women staying Black Woman centered. No one cares about Black women the way that Black women do. We need each other.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things:#1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t.#2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. But these choices are valid. They are powerful. And they are yours to claim.In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I’m talking about five extreme self-care moves that many of us are told we can’t choose:Cutting off a parentDeclining the caregiver roleChoosing not to have childrenLeaving the traditional churchInvesting in yourself firstTo live well we sometimes have to be extreme or disrupt the status quo. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave a comment on Spotify. Share this episode and tag me on social. Email me at [email protected]*FREE Resource* 5 Ways For Black Women To Practice Taking Up SpaceReady for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things:#1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty"#2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOUIn this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simple beauty practices that serve as daily reminders of self-worth and identity. These are not about chasing trends or fitting into outside standards. It's about choosing rituals that ground you, feel authentic, and help you move through life's transitions with confidence and more self-love. OfferingsReady for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life.Not ready for a session yet? Download my free Anti-Burnout Guide here and start making small shifts today.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day. n this episode I'm sharing:Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work with it)The basics I’m returning to: earlier bedtimes, wind-down rituals, and morning lightTangible adjustments that help: showers or baths at night, better pillows, and bedding that supports youThe tools I’m using to stay accountableWhy great sleep is not a luxury for Black women, but a necessityIf your sleep has been off, you’ll leave this episode with practical ways to reset and reclaim real rest this season.OfferingsReady for deeper support? Book a BEING session and let’s rebuild routines that actually work for your life.Not ready for a session yet? Download my free Anti-Burnout Guide here and start making small shifts today.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life.If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later.In this episode I share:Why I will no longer overexplain myselfHow my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my lifeThe line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and workThe honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in lifeWhy I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’sMentioned in this episode:Book a B.E.I.N.G. SessionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me.In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity:Not answering texts right awaySaying “I can’t talk right now”Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morningLeaving when you’re readyRefusing to explain your “no”These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion.Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself.Book a B.E.I.N.G. self-care session with me Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself.We talk about:The moment I realized my trust was starting to changeHow my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels nowWhy trust takes time to rebuildAlso, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength.We talk about:What the Superwoman Contract actually isWhy we feel obligated to carry so muchHow this “strength” is expensiveWhat it could look like to void the contract and choose something elseMentioned in this episode:➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down. Book your session today.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is.We talk about:Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us anymoreWhat self-care meant before vs. what it means nowThe transitions we’re moving through in midlifeWhy this shift is necessary—not just for me, but for usMentioned in this episode:➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. Price increases in a few days—book now to lock in the current rate.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey!Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk.Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing your needs, book some time on my calendar right here! It's hard to figure out your needs or even what's next for you when life is full of people-pleasing, carrying the weight of family and the job, and always having to be "on." These sessions help you feel clearer, lighter, and more connected to what you need so that you can bloom.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good?In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes to protect your peace and now feel unsettled by the stillness, this conversation is for you.In this episode:Why stillness can feel unsafe at firstHow your nervous system reacts to peace when it’s used to chaosThe temptation to refill what you just clearedWhat to do when the quiet feels like too muchIf you're in a season of stretching, releasing, or sitting in uncomfortable in-between moments, book a 1:1 B.E.I.N.G. session with me. It’s a space to process, reconnect, and move through what’s surfacing with care. → Join me here!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey!!This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will. Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but about awareness and reflection as we continue leaning into community care and support for one another.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw*Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week.Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $49/session. We all need space to be held. We all need space to unravel. We all need space to center OUR needs and to get guidance on ways to bloom. This is your space. Join me in the B.E.I.N.G. Space anytime.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.In this episode, I share:How I spent the one-year anniversary3 real lessons from going no contactThe ways I’ve learned to honor myselfHow people will try to guilt youMentioned in the Episode:→ Learn more about B.E.I.N.G. Self-Care Coaching: [Book Your Session w/ Me Here]Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episodeReal talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times.In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern.We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their businesses, and how to unlearn the guilt around getting paid for your care.If you’ve been grinding with heart and getting crumbs in return, this one’s for you.Mentioned in this episode:Book Self-Care CoachingMy LinktreeSupport my work (CashApp)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself?In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself. You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t mean it, and ignoring what you need. That’s a form of self-abandonment.I’m sharing some things I wrote in my journal this week, a few hard truths about how we treat ourselves, and why being your own best friend is the kind of care that changes everything.Links for this episode:→ Book a Self-Care Coaching Session with me: Click Here→ Listen to last weeks episode on self-abandonment: Click Here → Follow me on Instagram: @browngirlselfcare → Want to support this work?: Click HereSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you.I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in small, intentional ways.This is not about being perfect. It’s about not disappearing on yourself anymore. This is important liberation work.Mentioned in this episode:– The 4 daily practices I use to rebuild self-trust– What it means to make a decision and not waver– How to move without proof (and why that’s important)– Real-life examples of what this looks like for everyday Black womenAlso, here is the link to the hypertension article I read and mentionedWork with me here:🧘🏾‍♀️ Book a B.E.I.N.G. Self-Care Session → Click here!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter BeginsIn this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed me to move anyway.We’re talking entrepreneurship, creativity, personal growth, and what it means to reclaim your time and voice. If you’ve been dreaming of building something outside the system—or you’ve already started—this series is for you.🎙️ Ready to Start or Sustain Your Podcast?I’m now offering 1-on-1 podcast coaching for Black women who are ready to launch or keep their podcast going with clarity and strategy. If you're ready to invest in yourself, see your vision come to life, and work with me 1-on-1, book a session today.→ Here is the booking link to check it out and hold your space on my calendar🔗 Links + ResourcesBook Podcast Coaching: [Book here]Follow on Threads and Instagram: @browngirlselfcareSupport my work - CashappSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Listen to the episode from 2020Link to the free mini quideIn this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.And I didn’t apologize.This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.I talk about:What really happened that day on the sidewalkHow that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the pastThe truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorryThe quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not toWhy taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestralThis episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address. Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.I share:Why crying helped me realize what my soul is cravingThe emotional toll of always showing up for othersWhy some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start overWhy self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessaryA question that might help you get closer to your own self-loveThis one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, we're cutting through the noise and naming the truth: Black women are not the problem — the systems are. Capitalism, white supremacy, grind culture, and patriarchy have conditioned us to blame ourselves for exhaustion, financial struggle, and “inconsistency.” But that ends here.We’re not just naming the harm — we’re talking about how to push back in 2025. From reclaiming rest, to doing less without guilt, to unlearning money shame, this episode is your reminder that healing and resistance can co-exist.In this episode, I cover:Why rest still feels hard (and who benefits from that)How capitalism set us up to fail with moneyThe truth about “doing the most” and what it costs usReal ways to resist — even if you're still tired, in debt, or just getting started This is for you if:You’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enoughYou’re healing while still playing the gameYou’re ready to choose rest, ease, and clarity — without guiltSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, this episode is for you. Whether the day brought up grief, frustration, numbness, or just left you feeling emotionally off, you are not alone. In this gentle episode, I’m holding space for the Black women who are expected to “bounce back” on Monday when their hearts are still tender. We’re talking about softening into the week, honoring your truth, and giving yourself permission to move slow. You’ll also hear a series of affirmations to carry with you as you reclaim your energy, one breath at a time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.Now, onto todays episode. Have you ever been called boring or even a square? I have been several times and I allowed that to shame me into trying to be someone that i was never intended to be. I realized that the idea that I was too boring to show up or share parts of my life online (parts that I deem aren't too private or sacred) had a huge impact on my business and and even how I felt about myself. If this is you too, I'm sharing some takeaways I want you to consider.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.Now, on to todays episode. I decided to let chatgpt give me a prompt that would help me do some self-reflection and it didn't disappoint. I wasn't sure that I would share this when I hit record because this was a personal note that I created for myself to process my thoughts on fear + self-worth. I'm sharing this because I want YOU to trust your voice. It's hard to trust your voice if you are searching for the perfect thing to say or the perfect thing to feel. Healing is not about an aesthetic, it's about being real, raw and unfiltered. Using your voice can be a great step to becoming a place of safety for yourself and this is so important. Don't be afraid to use the prompt in todays episode to see what comes up for you.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of giving themselves their best. We have got to stop reserving our 'pretty' for others or future occasions. Black women have done enough, we have given enough, it's beyond time we utilize our best for our benefit before it is given away to others. On top of that, I'm tired of playing the supporting character in life so I share a bit about that, too. 2025 is about shaking tables and no longer hiding ourselves. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-worth, instead of helping us take action on our inherent abilities and knowledge. You were put here to lead but your conditioning tells you that you need to consume more before you can take action. No matter your purpose, this episode is for you.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who are sick of these systems and sick of laboring at jobs that deplete and exhaust us. Black women deal with societal systems every day that are not designed for us to thrive and I've come to realize that I have to break free from fear, perfectionism and imposter syndrome so that I can reject traditional 9-5 labor and instead do things that tap into my purpose and joy. Sound like you too? Press play!Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm's. She wanted to know how I hancled/am handling my IRS debt. Listen in and I'll share the simple steps I took for my 13k of IRS debt as well as the mindset shifts I finally made regarding financial/struggle cycles.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy