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The masculine need for space contrasted with the feminine need for connection. Exploring some elements of polarity and differences in communication.00:00 —Space as en essential element04:00 — male well being and space11:00 — feminine versus masculine communication16:00 — John Muir is calling___________Resource: FREE 50 Essential Books & Films - https://ancientintelligence.kit.com/t... Weekly newsletter - https://anyashakh.substack.com Beyond the podcast, I work 1:1 with men: Read what other men have said - https://share.google/oScXWNergQbnLknbA Book a free consultation today - <a target="_blank" rel="nofollow" class="ytAttributedStringLink ytAttributedStringLinkCallToActionColor" href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXRSWDZTWEFvN095cDlXalh5cHpoU2dIZnEzUXxBQ3Jtc0tteWVWMTlMcWlULTNFc1V6ZTJhdWRraVBHd0lueXB0UDd6bktaSjFjWTZ5c1pRaXExdlJtaFRQaE1LZTNXdkNlb2NQeWVVTFlvdk95Y1hxcVU2UGJXR1VQYUFKTUJwVmp1NnI4YjNFZTduMk9uSDBQdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fcalendly.com%2Fanyashakh%2Fdiscov..&v=MJB5DXx

The data on young women and three big problemsMajor data points also laid out here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-... Based on the recently published piece by The New Statesman: https://www.newstatesman.com/cover-st...‍ ‍TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro01:27 — New data on young women in the West04:14 — The big picture behind the data05:35 — The most alarming statistics07:00 — How anti-man sentiment is spreading09:18 — Anti-man culture in everyday conversation11:06 — Why criticism of women gets avoided12:40 — The first big problem: confusion about men14:56 — How feminism reshaped female identity17:09 — What women were doing differently before19:17 — Misplaced empathy and emotion-driven behavior21:19 — Feeling unloved and looking for meaning22:54 — The third problem: misunderstanding God25:03 — Why women avoid wrestling with d

In this episode I unpack one of the most misunderstood phrases in our culture - Behind Every Great Man Stands a Great Woman. I talk about why it’s not about comparison or jealousy, but authority and responsibility.The moment it becomes a competition, the masculine and feminine dance is done.Listen in to hear why a woman standing in front of her man will never be loved as deeply as she wants, the Captain of a ship analogy, why a woman’s creativity rests on protection, why historic couples like the Churchills and Adamses are a masterclass in this dynamic, and much more…TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro01:19 — How the idea of “standing behind a man” came up02:30 — Feminism and the shift in how women view support04:03 — The umbrella analogy05:12 — Masculine and feminine through a Christian lens06:06 — Letting go of praise and front-runner status07:08 — Why stability creates life08:08 — Women’s fear of what others think09:01 — The garden and the gardener analogy10:12 — The unseen influence behind great men11:00 — Phyllis Schlafly and public influence12:14 — Defining a couple’s shared mission13:05 — When partnership turns into competition14:00 — “Never rely on a man” and trauma-based messaging15:15 — Historical examples of women finding joy in support16:38 — Spiritual emptiness and the search for meaning17:55 — How we’re meant to live together18:49 — What young boys are starving for<p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-spa

About This EpisodeIn this episode I sat down with Austin Milne aka Brother Oz - a deep thinking and passionate pastor from Vancouver who defends Christianity through apologetics and funny videos.We connected in our shared desire to uncover what is good, beautiful, and true.Listen in to learn about the purpose we have as men and women, why women want love and men want respect, why fatherhood comes from God, what are the consequences of feminine worship, why consensus culture is so dangerous, how to define masculinity and femininity based of God’s nature, and much more.Connect with Austin:https://www.youtube.com/@Brother_OzTIMESTAMPS:00:00:00 — Intro00:03:46 — Growing up in a Brethren community00:06:46 — The turning point in faith00:10:06 — How Christians understand God’s nature00:13:12 — Christ revealed through the Old Testament00:16:48 — Criticism, grace, and human weakness00:19:58 — The soul, identity, and embodiment00:23:22 — Why God can’t be divided into parts00:27:04 — The image of God and the word00:30:23 — Marriage, glory, and biblical symbolism00:33:59 — A husband’s role in marriage00:36:58 — Why so many young women distrust men00:40:50 — Masculinity, b

In this episode I explore the collapse of sex separated or sex sacred (as I like to say) spaces in our society. By charging into men’s spaces (i.e. Boy Scouts) women have actually lost so much of the respect and affection from men that they crave.Listen in to hear why same-sex spaces aren’t about exclusion but protection, a story about an Aboriginal tribe’s view on it, a reaction to women entering Australia's bars for the first time in 1974, the confusion about female sexuality and empowerment, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:05 — Why privacy and boundaries matter04:23 — When women overshare in front of men06:04 — The push to make men and women interchangeable08:03 — Misunderstanding masculine boundaries10:10 — Why same-sex spaces matter11:57 — The Aboriginal tribe example14:29 — Why male intrusion changes the environment15:29 — The problem with public eroticism17:29 — The misunderstanding of female empowerment20:18 — The container is wrong21:23 — Boundaries, sacred spaces, and women’s lodges22:46 — Men’s groups and healing the feminine23:39 — What this could look like for women24:37 — Outro_______________Beyond the podcast, I work 1:1 with men who are ready to experience their innate power and potency. I support you

In this episode I break down a common pattern that I see in relationships - men falling into the wrong relationships out of a scarcity mindset. This causes disempowerment, resentment, and frustration for everyone.Listen in to learn about the mismatch between men and women in the early stages of dating, the key biological and hormonal differences (back by Huberman Research), how certain behavior from men can trigger pre-mature attachment from women, what it looks like when a man doesn’t lose his frame, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro01:46 — How relationships get misled from the start04:14 — Desire phase vs commitment phase06:18 — Why men need to lead the stages properly08:06 — Why women read future signals too early10:15 — Future talk and false intimacy12:23 — What happens when polarity collapses14:30 — A healthy example of pacing and attachment16:30 — Why respecting the stages matters18:38 — Outro_______________Beyond the podcast, I work 1:1 with men who are ready to experience their innate power and potency. I support you in creating real, lasting change through a safe space where you can practice presence, timing, and confidence without the hidden cost of a relationship.Read what other men have said - https://share.google/oScXWNergQbnLknbABook a free consultation today - https://calendly.com/anyashakh/discov<a target="_blank" rel="nofollow" class="ytAttributedStringLink ytAtt

About This Episode13:17 ** Correction - I meant 800% (not 1800%)This is PT 2 of Flirting and Courtship where I pick up from where I left off in PT 1 (Medieval Europe). In this episode I take us from Renaissance through the Colonial Era through the Victorian era into the Industrial Revolution and the turn of the twentieth century.PT 1 -    • Flirting and Courtship Pt 1 - Vikings, Rom...  In this episode I explain what the biggest distinctions were in courtship and flirtation before and after the Industrial revolution.Listen in to learn about how we invented the concept of dating and why, what the three biggest changes were that brought on the shift in how young people got together, the major distinctions between courtship and dating, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:24 — Courtship moves into the public sphere04:39 — How pre-industrial courtship worked06:55 — Romance starts reshaping expectations09:23 — What love starts to mean11:47 — Rules and structure begin breaking down14:06 — The rise of a new “third space”16:18 — The idea of the “charity girl”18:12 — How courtship was changing20:36 — What broke d

In this episode I explore the myth and history behind the courtship practices of a few select ancient societies. Listen in to learn why courtship was known as the most dangerous pastime for the young Icelandic man, where the origins of the madonna/whore complex may have come from, the difference in courtship between Rome the Republic and Rome the Empire, how did Romans think about matrimony, what was the chivalric code of honor, the medieval origins of ‘happy wife, happy life’ and much more. RESOURCES:https://www.vikinganswerlady.com/https://www.youtube.com/@JacksonCrawfordhttps://feminaeromanae.org/matrimonium.htmlhttps://www.supersummary.com/the-art-of-love-ovid/summary/TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:18 — Pre-Christian views on relationships04:05 — Influence and control dynamics06:12 — Why it seemed appealing08:20 — Marriage as a social structure10:07 — Psychological roots of attraction12:15 — The “third way” idea14:12 — How things used to be different16:08 — Consequences and exile18:20 — Purpose beyond procreation20:35 — Marriage tied to wealth and land<p clas

In this episode I am joined by the lovely Rivkah Krinsky - wife, mother of 8, matchmaker and founder of One Soul matchmaking, podcast host, and health coach.We explored what it means to have faith as a Co-creator with God as we touched on dating, marriage, motherhood, and more.Listen in to learn about the Kabbalistic wisdom behind soulmates, why women are the foundation of faith, the difference between love and infatuation, as well as a few biblical stories and Jewish wisdom thrown in the mix.Connect with Rivkah:From the Inside Out Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs3Ysmgqfam1prT2qn9YPqgOnesoul.orghttps://www.instagram.com/rivkahkrinsky/Resource Discussed:Hannah's Children by Catherine PakalukTIMESTAMPS:00:00:00 — Intro00:03:43 — Background and personal story00:07:27 — Purpose and mission in life00:10:59 — Traditional roles and dynamics00:14:53 — Why dysfunction shows up00:18:24 — Early reflections on relationships00:22:16 — Agreeing on core ideas00:25:38 — Importance of honesty and authenticity00:29:19 — Reinforcing key relationship dynamics00:33:20 — Self-im

While there are many topics that must be addressed to resolve the partnership between men and women including work, dating practices, and rights there is one fundamental breakdown that sits at the root of it all - the broken agreement between men and women about our respective evolutionary purpose.Listen in as I explore how fringe opinions get turned into perceived consensus, the evolutionary mismatch at the heart of modern dating, the unspoken agreement between men and women that has broken down, and more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro01:58 — Obsession with individual freedom03:45 — Not realizing you're in it05:28 — Loud voices shaping perception07:12 — What’s fundamentally interesting09:03 — The core idea explained10:52 — Social dynamics at play12:40 — Traditional roles vs modern shift14:28 — Loss of certainty over time16:15 — Romance vs reality18:02 — Real relationship example19:58 — Breaking it all down21:45 — Final takeaway23:41 — Outro___________________________Beyond the podcast I'm a coach. I help you reprogram the patterns and belief systems that are sabotaging your power, peace, and love life. Book a free consultation today - <a target="_blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWZYWVBpQ1QwSDkzay1wRE1Rd3hMTTNPcGpFQXxBQ3Jtc0ttMUpVX25tV1I4U2NndEJHX19QaWkwNXMxWktrS1ZxQjRSU2lsai1pOF9FSWpiQmZSeDZsRnZoVjN4bldEUjVkeTRsZHExZDNxNTBkMThFSGkwbzl1S1RQTk5ZM

In this episode I explore what happens to society when we lose the sacred, when meaning, ritual, and honor gets replaced by spectacle and consumption backed by a larger distrust. Drawing on my background in brand strategy and research mixed with my psychology training, I bring together history, culture, and real stories to highlight some of our dysfunction.Listen in to learn about the lost art of ritual and ceremony, what happens when moral clarity goes away, what’s worse than keeping up with the Joneses, what honor actually looks like, female entitlement versus female support and admiration, and much more:References:Matrimony by Stephen JenkinsonThe Way of Men by Jack Donovan'Inside the Manosphere' by Jack Donovan: https://mrjackdonovan.substack.com/p/...'Sacred or For Sale: Why We Can't Have Both’ by Anya Shakh: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/sacr...TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro & Episode Overview 01:09 — Reading "Matrimony" & Bursting Into Tears 02:42 — Sacredness vs. The Marketplace 04:21 — The Netflix Manosphere Documentary 05:09 — Symptoms of a Dying Cultur

In this episode I explored the duality of patrimony and matrimony. While we barely discuss matrimony in our culture, we definitely don't think about patrimony. Our dismissal of patrimony's importance in sustaining a healthy society is one of the reason's we are unraveling.Listen in as I draw on myth, tribal wisdom, and an exploration of the meanings of patrimony and matrimony and how they work together.Referenced in this episode is Stephen Jenkinson's book, Matrimony - Ritual, Culture, and the Heart's Work: https://orphanwisdom.com/store/matrimony/I wrote a short piece about this in my newsletter last week: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/patrimony-matrimonys-other-half.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: Matrimony vs. Patrimony 02:05 — The Breakdown of Modern Marriage 02:48 — The House Metaphor: Wiring vs. Warmth 04:34 — Home as the Amniotic Sea of Human 06:55 — Ancient Tribes & Genetic Diversity 08:45 — The Role of Elders in Matchmaking 10:28 — The Grimm Brothers & The Devil's Three Hairs 12:15 — The Danger of Hyper-Romanticizing Life 13:39 — Patrimony as the Aisle of Matrimony 16:16 — The Mother Work of Matrimony & Lost Traditions20:00— Outro___________________________Beyond the podcast I'm a coach. I help you reprogram the patterns and belief systems that are sabotaging your power, peace, and love life. Book a free consultation today - <a target="_blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWZYWVBpQ1QwSDkzay1wRE1Rd3hMTTNPcGpFQXxBQ3Jtc0ttMUpVX

In this episode I continue with the exploration of men, women, and work. Last week I looked at how the Industrial Revolution broke the initial bond between men and women and what has occurred since then.Watch it here: How the Bond Between Men and Women Broke D...  I continue on here with the question - how can men and women find harmony today? I argue that if we continue to look at life from an autonomous egalitarian perspective, we won’t be able to.Listen in as I discuss three pillars that we need to come together on if we’re going to have a chance. Learn about the different schools of feminist thought pre-suffrage, the importance of motherhood, sacred time versus market time, a recent paper on fertility from Denmark, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — The Cost of Equality & Motherhood 00:42 — Intro: Working Together in the AI Age 01:32 — How the Industrial Revolution Divided Us 02:02 — Why "A Man Provides" is a Harmful Mantra 03:30 — The Modern Search for Meaning 05:28 — The 1960s Shift to the Public Sphere 08:01 — The Unquantifiable Value of a Mother 10:04 — Prioritizing Ritual & Community 11:20 — The Danish Fertility Paradox 13:06 — Feminism of Freedom vs. Feminism of Care 17:09 — Masculine Vision & Feminine Manifestation 19:32 — Workplace Double Standards & Maternity 20:47 — Embracing Natural Biological Strengths <p class="sqs

In this episode I explore what really happened to men and women when work first left the home.The effects of the Industrial Revolution on the bond between men and women is something that is not spoken about often. In the name of productivity, progress, and consumption - we have traded many things most of all meaning.Listen in as I highlight some pieces of history that are important in putting together the puzzle of male and female dynamics.Learn about why the temperance movement started, what first separated men and women, why male vices grew in the nineteenth century, and much more.Perhaps this is all a transition to a more beautiful and whole future state? What do you think? That is something I’ll explore in the next episode.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: Masculine & Feminine Dynamics00:41 — Welcome & Episode Overview01:22 — Men's Coaching Announcement02:10 — The Industrial Revolution's True Impact03:42 — 1913 News & The End of the Dowry06:09 — Complementary Opposites: The Sun & The Moon09:33 — The Pre-Industrial Reality of Women's Work11:51 — The Heavy Plow & Mechanization of Labor14:46 — Stephen Jenkinson & The Monetization of Goods15:29 — Overworked Men & The Rise of Male Vices17:20 — Why Women Started the Temperance Movement19:14 — Suppressed Grief & The Feminization of the Church21:55 — Post-WWII Comfort & The

About This EpisodeIn this guest episode I sit down with Professor Marc J. Defant, Professor of Geology and Geochemistry whose work spans the physical sciences and evolutionary psychology.Recently he published a peer-reviewed paper in Sexuality & Culture titled “Evolutionary Psychology and the Crisis of Empirical Rigor in Feminist Studies” - https://rdcu.be/eOkjZThe paper argues that much of modern feminist scholarship is ideology and not grounded in any truth. Professor Defant and I discuss how social constructivism has created confusion about relationships, work, masculinity, and femininity. We explore human evolution, parental investment theory, cross-cultural studies of mate selection preferences, and much more.Listen in to learn how feminism might have broken an old template but has gone too far in denying human nature, why suppressing sex differences actually clarifies them more, the real roots of the pay gap, and what’s really going on between men and women today.Get in touch with Professor Marc J. Defant here: https://www.marcdefant.com/about/-Watch his TED talk here: https://youtu.be/_nCOhrYV7eg?si=SmxngOyM1fTCaO1aTIMESTAMPS:TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro & Attraction Differences01:00 — Introducing Professor Marc J. Defant 01:56 — Background in Evolutionary Psychology 03:11 — Feminist Critiques of Biology 04:00 — Social Constructivism vs. Instincts 06:48 — Motherhood & Changing Priorities 08:44 — How Fatherhood Changes Men 10:11 — Human Evolution & Brain Size 11:51 — M

In this episode I highlight the pervasive heteropessimism that exists in the culture today (on both sides of the aisle). Inspired by this recent article written by Mana Afsari - https://thepointmag.com/examined-life... I dive into one of the blind spots I see happening in dating: categorical thinking. I wrote a short piece about this - find it here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-... Listen in to learn about what categorical thinking looks like and how we’ve decoupled humanity from the opposite sex. I also link this idea to the historical example of what was happening in the Weimer Republic in Germany 100 years ago and how today's struggles can be an analogue to that time (inspired by https://www.louiseperry.co.uk/p/weima...) One thread I’d like to continue to pull on is how to separate romantic love and pair bonding. Romantic feelings won't get people to their gold wedding - this is an important piece of the conversation.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:18 — Setting up the main idea04:42 — Where people misunderstand this07:05 — The emot

In this episode I dive into a teaching that can help us understand the difference between solid and sturdy love versus insecure attachment (or filling a void).In the midst of the gender discourse, conversations about love and humanity can get skipped over. There is a foundational human-ness that exists in men and women that is found through trust, respect, and appreciation that must exist first. Then we can layer the masculinity and femininity conversations on top of this.Listen in to learn about where most modern relationships go wrong, the two human souls, how healing works, where masculine and feminine energy comes in, why the Sound of Music is a great example of true love in film, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro02:40 — Why The Sound of Music still resonates05:25 — Remembering impact over details08:05 — When ideals clash with reality10:47 — Admiration, respect, and integrity13:30 — The voids shaped by childhood16:13 — How pain turns into darkness18:52 — Reflection and pause21:37 — What a trustworthy man looks like24:58 — Integrating the lesson27:01 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagra

In this episode I am joined by Igor Vasilevitsky, a counselor, father, and exceptional writer on all things healing, masculinity, and femininity. He works with archetypes to help men and women heal and grow (he has helped me on my own journey).We dive into the benevolent or divine father archetype and unpack why he is so important in our world. The father represents guidance towards what is good and it’s very clear how we as a society deeply long for our collective 'dad' to come home to us. Listen in as we dissect the masculine archetypes, demystify the healthy father, discuss power and love, how anyone can learn to father themselves, and so much more.Igor, as a father himself, has created an online community hub for men who are seeking to mature into the healthiest, most benevolent and generative versions of masculinity. You can find the group here:   / 1599769308033077   Other ways to get in touch with Igor: Book a session: https://taplink.cc/igor_healing Find him and his writing on facebook:   / igor.vasilevitskyTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro & The Journey to Fatherhood <p class="sqsrte-

Girls and women are driven by one central evolutionary purpose - to protect their bodies well enough to create and sustain life. A woman’s survival strategy and inner drive is fundamentally different from a man’s because while his is focused on the macro, hers is on the micro.I get into the evolutionary psychology of boys and men in the previous episode which can provide context here.Listen in to learn why girls are hyper-vigilant, show higher rates of anxiety and depression, avoid risk, and invest heavily in politeness and emotionally driven relationships, and much more.SOURCE: Joyce Benenson’s book ‘Warriors & Worriers’TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: Why Parents Treat Girls Gently 00:37 — Warriors and Worriers: The Psychology of Girls 01:26 — One-on-One Coaching Announcement 01:54 — The Core Evolutionary Drive: Self-Preservation 03:23 — The Number One Fear: Dying Before Motherhood 05:08 — Historical Mortality Rates & Female Caution 06:19 — The Nursery Study: Susceptibility to Fear 08:18 — Parenting Bias: Protecting the Stronger Sex? 10:31 — Risk Perception: Why Men Do "Stupid" Things 11:51 — Agoraphobia, Claustrophobia & Social Fears 13:06 — Reliability in the Home: Daughters vs. Sons 15:15 — Intellectual Risk: Sticking to the Status Quo 16:19 — Male Fluid Intelligence vs. Female Verbal Skills 17:12 — The Trap of Mis

Boys and men are driven by a foundational fear that modern culture has forgotten about - the enemy. The inner drive that boys and men have is to defeat the enemy and keep us safe - this is one of the most noble things that exists in our world and yet it is ignored and misunderstood today.In this episode I break down why boys are naturally drawn to competition, strategy fighting, and testing themselves against opposition. Based on Joyce Benenson’s book, ‘Warriors Fluid Intelligence Teaser 01:33 — Joyce Benenson & "Warriors and Worriers"02:54 — The Core Male Fear: The Enemy 05:32 — Rough & Tumble Play Psychology 06:00 — The Balloon Study: Hitting vs. Hugging07:58 — The Empathy Study: Brains & Electric Shocks 10:32 — Cultural Critique: Decriminalization & Safety 12:28 — "Killing the Dragon" & Securing the Family 14:38 — Peak Fluid Intelligence (Ages 18-25) 16:32 — Single Focus vs. Relationship Connection 18:19 — The Street Crossing Analogy 19:57 — The Education Crisis for Boys 21:33 — Male Communication Styles & Directives <p class="sqsrte-small" data

One thing that gets missed often in discussions about men and women is how little men around the world experience non-sexual touch and affection. This goes hand in hand with the lack of care our culture exhibits towards men.Listen in to learn about three myths and truths reflecting men, the data behind touch, how testosterone and attachment work together, the origin of the word wife, and much more.Ready to dive into 2026 crushing your goals and being fully supported? Join TRUE NORTH - my 3 month long mastermind for men. We start next week. This is an intimate space with limited spots available - book a 1:1 call here to secure your place: https://calendly.com/anyashakh/truenorthTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: The Crisis of Non-Sexual Touch 00:44 — Welcome Back & "Year of the Horse" 01:43 — True North Mastermind Announcement 05:09 — The Touch Deficit in Boys 06:25 — Testosterone & Delayed Attachment 07:56 — The "Man Up" Narrative 09:40 — Myth: Men Just Want Sex 11:00 — The Sterilization of Affection in Society 13:00 — Social Differences: Slumber Parties vs. "Go Play" 14:32 — The Shift at Age Six: Joining the "Men's Tribe" 15:54 — When Sex Becomes the Only Outlet for Touch 16:51 — Myth: Men Lack Emotional Expression <

Happy New Year Everyone!In this episode I unpack why healthy male power is actually a force for good in the world and why the true danger lies in powerlessness.I trace how unacknowledged boys can grow into passive or angry men and I talk about the three most important ways that a young boy finds his healthy power as he grows up.Listen in to learn about the differences between male and female power, why being of service in the world is impossible without power, the difference between power and force, and so much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: Power & Male Happiness 01:05 — Client Wins: Vision & Success 02:46 — The Healer’s Story: Releasing Trauma 03:38 — The Spectrum of Powerlessness: Rage vs. Passivity 05:37 — The "Nice Guy" & People Pleasing 06:41 — Defining True Power vs. Force 08:23 — The Extreme Consequence of Isolation 10:51 — Phase 1: Affirmation from Mother 12:52 — The Trap of the "Mother’s Son" 14:37 — Phase 2: The Father’s Nod of Approval 16:08 — Phase 3: Self-Mastery & Purpose 17:45 — The Impact of a Critical Father 18:44 — Three Traits of an Attractive Man 20:54 — Releasing Trauma from the Body 22:21 — Female Power: Devotion to Love <p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-w

In this episode I break down gamma bias - what it is, why it matters, and how it’s hurting relationships between men and women. I break down the 4 areas of gamma bias and how it shapes headlines, culture, and media reporting. I look at data around domestic violence and women in universities.Listen in to learn about how gamma bias has eroded female accountability, why we don’t publicly celebrate men, and what it’s going to take to heal relationships between men and women on a macro scale.If you’re a man who feels frustrated and apathetic right now, I have something for you. I’m currently accepting applications for TRUE NORTH - my 3 month long mastermind for men. If you’re serious about starting 2026 with clarity, grounding, momentum, and accountability - apply here:https://anyashakh.com/true-north-the-... Article about gamma bias: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/men-...TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: The "Bad Man" Narrative 01:34 — True North Mastermind Announcement 02:29 — Understanding Gamma Bias 04:11 — Alpha vs. Beta Bias 05:49 — The Four Quadrants of Gender Perception 08:12 — Why Society Ignores Male Heroism 09:50 — The "Default Bad" Narrative for Boys <p class="sqsrte-smal

I've got something special for you. This episode gets into the root cause of why we can feel dissatisfied, overwhelmed, and avoidant in our lives while introducing TRUE NORTH - a 3 month mastermind to combat that. It's a safe space for intelligent men to tap into their power, potency, and purpose across all domains of life.If you want to start 2026 experiencing big momentum, if you're ready to expand and transform then TRUE NORTH is calling. Listen in to learn about how this mastermind experience can be a game-changer for your self-development and whether you're a good fit.We start in January with early bird special pricing live through Christmas Day. This is very intimate space with limited spots.APPLY HERE: https://app.youform.com/forms/u299chuhRead more about it here: https://anyashakh.com/true-north-the-...TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro & The Search for Freedom 00:50 — Announcement: Special Program for Men01:15 — The Pain of Not Being Seen 02:02 — Understanding Overwhelm & Loneliness 03:55 — Accessing Your Highest Potential 04:23 — The Five Essential Human Needs 05:16 — Introduction to the Mastermind Con

I had the privilege of sitting down with Paul Elam for this enlightening conversation. Paul is a well known advocate for men’s rights. He is the founder of ‘A Voice for Men’ - the international conference on men’s issues. He inspired the making of ‘The Red Pill’ movie that aired in 2016. He’s been a men’s advisor and counselor for many decades now, and I appreciate how deeply he cares about supporting men.It was a pleasure to talk to him and I learned so much - I know you will too!We unpack the hidden assumptions about dating and marriage in the west under the ‘romantic model.' We also spend time getting to the bottom of why men are still so misunderstood in the west and what men need now more than anything.Listen in to learn about the origins of the romantic model, different priorities of men and women, what’s missing from the mythopoetic movement, the change in male consciousness, the biggest killer of men, what a woman owes her marriage, being a ‘guardian of respect,’ and so much more.Connect With Paul:Via X: https://x.com/RealPaulElamVia Substack: https://paulelam.substack.com/XY Crew: https://paulelam.com/xycrew/<p cla

In this episode I dive into an excerpt from G.K Chesterton’s essay, The Emancipation of Domesticity, which gives us an important insight about the roles of men and women. Chesterton argued that men are specialists and women are generalists and paired with the greater male variability, we can use this insight to uncover many of the cultural, domestic, and social issues that exist between us.Listen in to learn about what Chesterton thought a woman’s duty was, why the west have the most free women on the planet, why modern women want to quit their high-status outside of the home jobs, why women are more geared towards generalization, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro: Ancient Intelligence01:22 — Announcement: True North Mastermind for Men 02:53 — G.K. Chesterton & The Emancipation of Domesticity04:35 — The Woman’s Duty: The Ultimate Generalist 05:37 — Evolutionary Psychology: Competition vs. Connection 07:16 — Industrialization & The Male Specialist 09:12 — Are Women Second Class Citizens in the West? 13:08 — Greater Male Variability & IQ Distribution 14:05 — Understanding the "Mental Load" 16:07 — A Story of Two Mindsets: The Club vs. The Podcast 17:40 — How Industry Displaced the Generalist 18:24 — The Happiest Women: Monetizing Passion 20:30 — Final Thoughts  21:17 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a frie

This week I thought it would be interesting to do a deep dive into the ‘Cool Girl’ archetype because it’s so prevalent in our culture. Most of us can relate to either being her, knowing her, or dating her.Listen in to learn about what drives the cool girl, how she relates to men, where her biggest pain point is, why the ‘nice guy’ is her opposite-sex mirror, and much more.The first part of the video is all about the cool girl and her motives, while the second part of the video is an analysis of two films that help us paint the picture of distinction between the ‘cool girl’ and the ‘feminine woman.’ (My Best Friend's Wedding and The Fighter).TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro00:38 — The cool girl always loses  02:24 — The gold in the shadow  04:50 — She always seeks outside herself  07:17 — The big mistake she makes  09:45 — Men pick up on the low self esteem  12:11 — Jungian frameworks  14:38 — My Best Friend’s Wedding Analysis 17:04 — Cool Girl Versus Feminine Woman 19:30 — Feminine Vulnerability is strength  <a href="https://www.youtube.c

In this episode, I unpack the question - could much of the frustration and difficulty in dating and mating be attributed to (at least in part) to hyper-elite women practicing what is known as ‘Reproductive Suppression’?Vogue published an article titled ‘Is Having a Boyfriend Lame?’ Which prompted Rob Henderson to put forth his hypothesis about Reproductive Suppression in this brilliant piece titled ‘Girl Boss Gatekeeping’ - https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/girlb... I draw on research from Rob Henderson and Dr. Dani Sulikowski as I break down female intragroup conflict and why all the body positivity, you don’t need a man, and red flag culture that seems like it’s in solidarity with women might actually be a covert strategy to keep women from finding mates.Listen in to learn about how high-status females (including chimps) keep low-status females away from mates, how modern tech amplifies ‘aspirational’ lifestyles, why rom-coms feel like castration for men, how dark-triad traits correlate with anti-natalism, and much more.This one is an evolutionary psychology nerding out episode - enjoy!TIMESTAMPS:00:53 —Intro 01:03 —One on one coaching spots03:15 — The Question of Elite Women as "Mean Girls"05:00 — The Proximate and Ultimate Reasons for Elite Women's Behavior06:16 — Intergroup Conflict and Covert Passive Aggression in Women 07:36 — Unconscious Competitive Strategy to Keep Women from Mates 10:12 —  Girl Boss, Body Positivity, & Female Entitlement <p class=

In this episode I get into a soulful conversation about what it means to be a woman. I break down the three deep desires a woman has and how they are perfectly complementary to the three desires a man has. I get into why women don’t seem to be very inspiring to men these days.Listen in to learn about what a woman’s rites of passage look like, what a woman teaches a man if she’s tuned in, what is missing from women in the mainstream, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro 00:35 — The Purpose of Womanhood 01:14 — What Men vs. Women Truly Long For 04:17 — The Core Wound: Feeling "Not Beautiful" 05:33 — Womanhood's Power: Comfort with Uncertainty06:22 — A Woman's Biological Rites of Passage07:47 — Archetypes: Man as Logos, Woman as Eros 09:16 — On Faith: Trusting the Unknown 13:40 — Eros & Logos: Why Control Backfires4:59 — Example: The 'Pretty Woman' Dynamic 17:50 — Final Thoughts: Trust & PRO-Vision 22:51 — Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakh<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre

In this episode, I get into the harmony that exists between dominance and submission through the lens of masculine and feminine energy. I break down what true dominance looks and feels like and why domineering energy is not dominance. I reflect on ancient rites of passage with an example from Africa and bring in an example from salsa dancing as well.Listen in to learn about the spiritual purpose of rites of passage for men, why dominance without care becomes domineering, why the stages of development matter so much for boys, and more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Intro00:34 — Welcome: The Yin & Yang of Submission00:55 — A Word on Coaching 01:28 — What Women Want: Dominance & Devotion 02:14 — True Dominance is Service 02:45 — To Be Dominant, You Must Be Submissive03:20 — Rites of Passage: The Bullet Ant Ritual 05:37 — The Difference Between Dominance and Domineering 06:00 — Submitting to a Higher Purpose 06:57 — Life Stage 1: The Bond With Mom 09:39 — Life Stage 2: Building Self-Worth With Dad 13:04 — Life Stage 3: The Male Mentor 14:40 — A Lesson in Service From a Salsa Class 15:40 — The Sioux: Warriors & Lovers Without Shame 18:11 — Conclusion & Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.

Last week I read this (https://www.compactmag.com/article/th...) article by Helen Andrews called 'The Great Feminization.' There's been loads of discourse around this and I want to offer my take with this week's episode. I also published a short essay on my substack you can read here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/why-...Listen in to learn about what happens when masculine work culture goes too far, when feminine work culture goes too far, the difference between masculine and feminine communism, why men care more about precision and women care more about the experience over the results, do women or men have lower status, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 - Intro00:31 - 01:20 - Set Up01:21 - 01:58 - Work With Me 1:101:59 - 02:44  - Groups matter more02:45 - 05:18 - Comfort over Truth<a href="https://www.yo

This episode is part 2 of Understanding sex differences in work and lifestyle. I share observations and insights based on data collected by evolutionary psychologist, Stephen Stewart-Williams. This research is important because it negates the big narrative that says women are behind men in prestige and financial gain because of biases and barriers against them.The data tells a different story.Part 2 is focused on how money is no longer a masculine contribution, how men have lost the fulfillment in meaning in work that used to be there, how important apprenticeships are for young men, and trying to understand what is work actually for and is the answer to that different for men and women?00:00 – 00:21 Trailer00:25 – 00:45 Introduction 00:45 – 04:19 Women vs Men Narrative 04:19 – 06:27: Why Fewer Female CEOs Exist 06:27 – 07:27 Screen Share: Life Values Data 07:27 – 09:00 Women’s Primary Motivations Beyond Money 09:00 – 10:00 Why Work Feels Unnatural for Women 10:00 – 11:23 Societal Pressure vs Personal Values 11:23 – 12:20 Biological Influence on Preferences 12:20 – 14:17 Closing Reflections on Purpose and Work14:17 - 14:26 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube here<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empt

In this episode I share observations and insights based on data collected by evolutionary psychologist, Stephen Stewart-Williams, on work preferences between men and women. This research is important because it negates the big narrative that says women are behind men in prestige and financial gain because of biases and barriers against them. The data tells a different story. It’s much more to do with women’s actual preferences versus what they say they want. Listen in to learn about what men and women value most when it comes to work, a simple way to think about a woman’s hormone cycle, what makes work fulfilling, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 02:37 Men and women see work differently02:37 - 02:53 Stephen Stewart WIlliams02:54 - 03:24 Work with me one on one03:25 - 04:13 Men and women as complementary vs competitive04:13 - 05:58 Understanding gender roles and balance05:58 - 07:47 Key insights and reflections07:47 - 10:05 Evolution of modern work and purpose10:05 - 12:22 Redefining meaning in work and identity12:22 - 14:30 What makes work enjoyable14:30 - 16:36 Women’s perspectives and real-life stories16:36 - 18:46 Picking up motivation and direction18:46 - 21:10 Cultural pressures and gender expectations21:10 - 23:40 How life and community have changed23:40 - 25:39 Final thoughts and reflections___________________________<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-s

In this episode I dive into the importance of paternal masculinity low birth rates, instability, uncertainty, and more.Listen in to learn about the four major archetypes for men and women, the life stages a boy needs to go through, why the dark feminine is an important part of the story, and more.Ultimately the way we make change in society is one person at a time and the revival of strong fathers and mothers is one of the most important things we can do.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:32 Trailer and Intro00:32 - 01:28 Episode Overview01:28 - 02:48 Spots for my one-on-one coaching02:48 - 04:40 Levels of masculinity04:40 - 07:00 Dark feminine embodiment07:00 - 11:12 Deficit of paternal masculinity11:12 - 12:19 First phase of a boy’s life12:19 - 14:35 Men’s versus women’s work14:35 - 16:03 Understanding controlling mothers16:03 - 17:49  What does being responsible mean?17:49 - 19:56 Why have children?19:56 - 22:41 God and his word22:41 - 24:43 Final Thoughts24:43 - 25:21 Outro___________________________If you found some value today then help me s

In this episode I sat down with Dylan Bain - father, husband, men’s group leader, history buff, and more. We dove into how industrialization created the environment for feminism to later take hold.Listen in to learn about how industry quietly and slowly began dehumanizing society, why women lost meaningful work, the hidden costs of success, how women blamed the wrong people, why America is anti-child, and what it will take to restore balance, sanity, and partnership between the sexes.Such a great conversation with Dylan, enjoy.Timestamps:00:00:00 - 00:00:35 Episode Trailer and Intro00:00:35 - 00:01:40 Dylan Bain Introduction00:01:40 - 00:03:25 Dylan Bain's Background and Mission00:03:25 - 00:05:03 I married someone way above my league00:05:03 - 00:07:25 Industrialism caused feminism00:07:25 - 00:10:22 Why did women, not men, have to do laundry?00:10:22 - 00:12:40 What created the shift to the industrial era and hence, feminism00:12:40 - 00:15:52 Industrialization put women out of a job00:15:52 - 00:17:42 The Declaration of Sentiments and Declaration of Independence read the same 00:17:42 - 00:19:28 Bacon's rebellions and feminists made the same mistake00:19:28 - 00:21:53 Did industrialists know the revolution was dehumanizing?00:21:53 - 00:23:54 How were people in the 1950s okay with being dehumanized00:23:54 - 00:26:27 Do the Wealth of Nations and Communism have a connection?<p class="sqsrte-sma

In this episode I explain the simplest and easiest way to understand the purpose of the masculine and the feminine through my favorite analogy: the river and the riverbanks. After watching this episode, you’ll have a clear framework for understanding how these energies should be balanced in relationships, work, and society at large.This is the foundation for understanding how successful relationships between men and women work.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:39 Episode Trailer and Intro00:37 - 01:44 The foundations of masculine and feminine energy01:44 - 03:30 What does it look like when the feminine and masculine interact properly03:30 - 04:44 What happens when the masculine overpowers the feminine04:44 - 05:36 The masculine is the function & the feminine is the form05:36 - 06:40 Who is more important in a dance?06:40 - 09:02 They fired him for his opinion on masculinity09:02 - 11:08 How does her cycle affect her throughout the month11:08 - 12:53 Do women thrive in strict schedules and routines?12:53 - 15:33 The masculine always knows best15:33 - 16:47 Should the masculine tell the feminine what to do?16:47 - 19:15 Man as sun and woman as moon19:15 - 20:32 How to know use this framework in the world20:32 - 20:58 Final thoughts and key takeaways20:58 - 21:36 Outro___________________________<p class="sqsrte-small" data-

In this episode I dive into three themes that are helpful to understand when thinking about men and women (in no particular order). These themes focus on listening, taking things personally, and telling the truth.I touch on how important the systems of the world are to men and why sometimes women disregard that. I get into why men and women alike take things personally when they really shouldn’t. Finally I get into why men are inspired by sincerity from women and why truth telling is one of the most important attributes of a truly awakened feminine woman.Listen into learn what being “full” for a woman means, the mantra ‘listen to learn,’ and how men always ‘have a plan.’TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:39 Episode Trailer and Intro00:39 - 01:14 Today's overview01:14 - 01:33 Today's 3 topics01:33 - 02:53 Men love systems02:53 - 05:14 Men are extremely sensitive to sincerity05:14 - 07:18 More on men loving systems07:18 - 09:00 Listening to learn09:00 - 11:29 Women's fear centers are larger and twice as active as men's11:29 - 13:18 If a woman starts sharing, she wants a listener, not a solution13:18 - 15:22 The issue with assuming everyone functions like you15:22 - 18:19 Women take personal offense to men's singular focus18:19 - 21:06 Men always have a plan21:06 - 23:00 This is very disempowering for women23:00 - 25:48 This is why feminine truth is so hard<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" s

Answering your questions - another subscriber Q&A!What do you think of children growing up with two mothers or two fathers (gay couples)? Do you support these kind of family structures? Or do you think families should only consist of a mother and a father?how much do you think hormonal birth control has impacted the natural dynamic between men and women?What are the top 1-3 (negative) relational tendencies for women and men (separately) which lead to issues or breakdown of the relationship?Would you say you can tell where a man’s attention or focus is by looking at him?What will young people need to learn how to build up their relationship skills?What are thoughts about life after death, reincarnation and so on...Did you always wanted to do this type of work? How and why did you get into this type of career, being on YouTube talking about men’s identity and relationships?TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:44 Trailer and Intro00:44 - 01:37 I'm going to Buenos Aires01:37 - 02:59 Should gay couples raise kids?02:59 - 05:17 A gay couple that opted out from having kids 05:17 - 07:02 Can you tell where a man's attention is by looking at him?07:02 - 09:08 The reason women are frustrated with men09:08 - 14:14 What are things men and women easily overlook in a relationship?14:14 - 16:16 What will young people need to learn to build up their relationship skills?16:16 - 18:45 The impact of birth control18:45 - 22:41 What are your thoughts abo

In this episode I explain one of the most important tenets of masculine and feminine polarity. Way beyond the woo woo, this is a real exchange between men and women and we can see it play our in day to day life experiences, see it expressed in film media, film, and so much more. Men and women experience the world differently and each of us has one greatest asset in our toolbox of life - the question then becomes, do we know how to use it?Listen in to learn what a man’s greatest asset is and a woman’s, what is the masculine light switch, why does this harmonious exchange break down so easily, what do men and women instinctually want to do when they don’t get what they want, and how to fix it.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:52 Episode Trailer And Overview 00:52 -  02:22 Polarity between men and women02:22 - 03:50 Is polarity a woo woo thing or something real?03:50 - 04:50 A man's greatest asset is his attention04:50 - 06:18 A woman's greatest asset is her delight06:18 - 07:25 What is the one thing you're missing from women in your life07:25 - 10:23 A woman always wants her man's attention10:23 - 11:36 The differences in the way men and women choose to be in life11:36 - 14:28 Men are way more sensitive than women14:28 - 16:38 What makes a man deny his woman attention?16:38 - 17:17 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube here<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white

I land the ‘mental load’ conversation in this episode. This is part 2 of a two part exploration.In this episode I break down why the idea of ‘mental load’ takes away from our biological inclinations as men and women. The truth is there is no such thing as invisible labor & visible labor. There is men’s labor and women’s labor and we’ve lost sight of that as a society due to industrialization and modernization.Listen in to learn about how the sacred separation between men and women got lost, what would happen if boys were on an equal playing field with girls, why there is no such thing as 50/50 in relationships, how the idea of ‘mental load’ is actually extremely sexist, and more.I reference Mary Harrington, author of Feminism Against Progress & her recent writing via her substack, the reactionary feminist. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer And Intro00:30 - 01:06 I'm finally back home01:06 - 03:02 Should men be doing 50% of household labor03:02 - 06:37 What is Mental Load?06:37 - 07:42 Feminism against progress07:42 - 09:21 Stop treating men like hairy women09:21 - 10:43 Does childbirth expand sex differences10:43 - 13:19 Did modernization create sexist or genderless roles13:19 - 15:15 We've been helping girls at the cost of boys15:15 - 17:20 Are women fulfilled17:20 - 19:22 Gender used to be vernacular19:22 - 20:50 The importance of preserving same-sex spaces20:50 - 23:01 Are men and women dif

In this episode I dive into the conversation about mental load and why it doesn’t land with men. Women talk about this so often but don’t understand that the entire conversation is laced with a deep lack of respect for men.Listen in to learn about a story from an elder woman from my family, how men and women fundamentally don’t share the same language of respect, how men thrive in hierarchies, why ‘she’s the boss’ kills relationships between men and women, and why the ‘mental load’ debate will never actually land on a solution if we keep going the way we are.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:53 Episode Trailer and Overview00:53 - 01:53 How women disrespect men without knowing it01:53 - 04:58 This is what men want to experience04:58 - 05:52 Men and women have different ideas about what respect means05:52 - 07:26 It's more impactful to a man to be respected than to be loved07:26 - 08:52 The best definition of respect I've ever heard08:52 - 10:59 Men understand and live by hierarchies in a way that women don't10:59 - 12:24 Men take each other at face value12:24 - 13:51 How women inappropriately question men13:51 - 17:55 Why couples splitting 50/50 is a flawed idea17:55 - 20:04 The outcomes of the 'Mental Load' Conversation20:04 - 22:00 What do men really want?22:00 - 24:30 Avoid this if you want your husband to be the CEO of your family24:30 - 24:57 Final takeaways and thoughts24:57 - 25:35 Outro___________

In this episode I sat down with Shah from his ‘This is Shah’ channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thisisshahWe dove into why the divorce rate is so high and what’s happening with modern dating and relating? Shah is extremely knowledgeable about family law and the court systems and we have an extensive conversation about dowry and bride price systems from the past.Listen in to learn about whether the dowry has wisdom we could implement today, why caricatures of men and women are shaping modern dating dilemmas, Barbies and Bugattis, whether Andrew Tate would become monogamous if he was presented with a dowry, what the purpose of a prenup is and why it began, what the three stages of relating are based on David Deida’s work are, which stage are we in now, how we can define actually love? And so much more.Such a great conversation with Shah, enjoy. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer and Intro00:30 - 01:39 Episode Overview and 'This is Shah' Introduction01:39 - 03:40 Who is 'This is Shah'03:40 - 04:44 Is a dowry a sacrifice?04:44 - 06:59 Is a dowry tantamount to buying someone06:59 - 09:33 Bride price is a compensation for labour value lost by the bride's family09:33 - 10:35 Why did we move from bride price to dowry10:35 - 12:44 When did people start hating dowry and bride price rituals12:44 - 14:53 Did feminism start because men stopped paying dowries?14:53 - 17:25 'You're a high status man if you can manage a housewife'17:25 - 19:11 Courtly love and romance used to be separate from marriage<p class="sqsrte-small" data-r

In this episode I dive into my experience after a women’s only temazcal (sweat lodge) experience that awakened something beautiful inside me. We got into maternal and paternal lineage, the female initiation of childbirth, vision quests, the sacred gifts men and women carry, and more.I talk about women’s responsibility to pray for men, the double power of singing our prayers, and the art of revealing ourselves. I also explain in more detail the concept of holding space and how the Ancients knew all about what is now referred to as ‘parts’ work by psychotherapists.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:24 Episode Trailer and Intro00:24 - 00:53 Episode Overview00:53 - 02:36 What does it mean to be a woman02:36 - 03:06 I fixed my Blue Yeti Mic03:06 - 06:00 My first sweat lodge experience06:00 - 07:09 A sweat lodge resembles the uterus07:09 - 09:06 Childbirth is a woman’s initiation09:06 - 12:09 maternal and paternal lineage12:09 - 13:52 Is it a woman's responsibility to pray for her man?13:52 - 16:24 Does singing your prayers make them twice as strong?16:24 - 17:04 We're so hyper-individualistic in the real world17:04 - 19:08 How to stop being afraid of revealing your true self19:08 - 21:49 Fighting the urge to people-please21:49 - 23:31 the art of revealing23:31 - 26:08 A better way to get your needs mett26:08 - 29:45 How women can

In this episode I dive into one of the most attractive things that men can do and why so many have lost it. I get into my impressions on the death of the old way of masculinity and what is being ushered in now.Listen in to learn about the difference between informing and connecting, mature masculinity, whether we are regressing, male muses, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:14 Intro and Welcome  00:14 - 01:34 Masculinity and What’s Missing  01:34 - 03:39 Loss of Purpose and Brotherhood  03:39 - 05:10 New Masculinity and Presence  05:10 - 07:50 Informing vs Connecting  07:50 - 10:09 The Chair Metaphor and Emotional Blocks  10:09 - 12:13 Warrior Archetype and Focus  12:13 - 14:21 Attraction and Emotional Safety  14:21 - 16:11 Archetypes and Transition Time  16:11 - 18:45 Stages of Male Development  18:45 - 21:51 Attachment, Culture, and Bonding  21:51 - 22:04 Closing and Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a dis

In this episode I share how two elder male teachers revealed something powerful - men who lead with clarity, depiction, and decisiveness don’t dominate the world, they are the ones that make it safe. From horseback riding to the Roman Empire, I delve into the connection between patriarchy, masculine leadership, and why the presence of elders is desperately missing in our society. Listen in to learn what so many boys are missing from their mothers, why women hold privileges that men don’t, and what the three most important needs that men have.Here is the essay that I reference called ‘The Secret About Men is Out - https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-secret-about-men-is-outConsidering subscribing to me my substack for weekly insights about men, women, and society - https://anyashakh.substack.comTIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:31 Trailer and Intro00:31 - 00:51 Episode Overview00:51 - 02:15 What we can learn from horses02:15 - 03:31 What I learned about assertiveness 03:31 - 05:07 Does assertiveness make a woman feel safe?05:07 - 08:35 I love boxing08:35 - 09:42 Is there are Jordan Peterson female equivalent?09:42 - 11:05 The secret about men is out11:05 - 13:27 What are the 3 things that men need13:27 - 15:42 A man wants to be acknowledged and appreciated15:42 - 16:00 The importance of a child's relationship with the opposite sex parent1

In this episode I dive into why feminism was never really about what’s in the best interests of women. I talk about Phyllis Schlafly and the important role she played in delaying the ratification of the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment). I explore a different way to think about submission for men and women focused on alignment and partnership.Expect to learn about the legacy of Phyllis Schlafly, female gullibility, why motherhood should be pedestalized, and much more.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:33 Trailer and Intro00:33 - 00:51 Episode Overview00:51 - 01:58 Feminism’s misunderstandings01:58 - 03:47 Does feminism have women's best interests at heart?03:47 - 04:50 How much damage has feminism done to women?04:50 - 08:14 Was Phyllis Schlafly a feminist?08:14 - 09:02 Phyllis Schlafly thanking her husband for allowing her to be on stage 09:02 - 12:57 What is submission really?12:57 - 14:50 What was a couple's joint mission in the past?14:50 - 15:47 This simple mindset change would change the world for the better15:47 - 17:14 Are women more gullible than men?17:14 - 19:08 Two meaningful things to understand about motherhood19:08 - 20:16 How babies learn to speak20:16 - 20:45 Final thoughts and key takeaways20:45 - 21:23 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share

In this episode I dive into how romanticism came to life in parallel with feminism which had the western world do away with more pragmatic approaches to marriage and partnership. This had us lose the structure that once made family building and planning more viable and consistent. I introduce the concept of the gold pill that’s based on resurfacing the idea of the dowry from ancient times. In addition I talk about how feminism made way for entitlement and how that’s hurt relationships between men and women in a big way. Expect to learn about my takeaways on the red pill, what is the gold pill and is it viable, Josiah Trenham’s three reasons to get married, the story of the biblical Raquel’s sacrifice, modern day dowrys, and much more.Timestamps:00:00 - 00:51 Episode Trailer and Intro00:51 - 02:07 What is the purpose of Ancient Intelligence02:07 - 02:41 Why are we not all blissful in relationships?02:41 - 04:03 Josiah Trenham's 3 reasons to get married04:03 - 06:58 Red pill vs Gold Pill06:58 - 10:31 Should we reconsider the dowry?10:31 - 12:01 Why did feminism create entitlement on behalf of women12:01 - 13:55 Is love enough to marry on?13:55 - 15:42 Are feminists lying to themselves 15:42 - 18:18 Is this why divorces are so rampant these days?18:18 - 20:25 Women and Entitlement20:25 - 21:37 The Romanticised Modern Fairy Tale21:37 - 23:17 Men just want to be believed in23:17 - 25:18 The story of Raquel and her sacrifice<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="wh

Celebrating 100 episodes with wise woman, mentor, and friend Jamie Star Crawford.We dive into the question, what is happening with modern women? We unpack the dissonance many women feel between who they are and who they’ve been told to be in the last 50 years. We talk about the prices women pay when we abandon priorities that actually align with our bodies, values, and spirit.Expect to learn about the feminine gift of reflection and magnifying, lost art of female friendship, mosaic or diffuse style thinking.Timestamps:00:00 -00:26 Episode Trailer00:26 -01:05 Guest Introduction and Episode Overview01:05 -03:00 Ancient Intelligence beginnings03:00 -04:22 Women’s priorities04:22 -06:07 Who is Jamie06:07 -06:58 Men love women who believe in the vision06:58 - 09:57 The Grace of God allows you to be patient with others09:57 - 12:30 What are women missing right now?12:30 - 13:46 How did the relationship between men and women get so strained13:46 - 17:02 Women don't need to be competing with men17:02 - 20:55 At what point did women stop needing men20:55 - 21:41 The insecure overachiever21:41 - 25:37 What are the priorities for women?25:37 - 27:14 Women don't want to be breadwinners27:14 - 29:37 I don't think women want to do just nothing<p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wra

In this episode I dive into the nuances behind the dynamics between dads and daughters, especially when they are little. Father wounds or what many call ‘Daddy Issues’ impact a girl’s life in such profound ways and I address some of those here. I focus on dad’s embrace both physical and spiritual with their daughters and how when that is missing, there is a big emptiness that she will then go on spending her life trying to fill. I pepper in examples from pop culture, media, and films from Lily Phillips to My Best Friend’s Wedding and more.Expect to learn about feminine power and grace, the link between dad wounds and boss babes, what female leadership actually looks like, and much more.Timestamps:00:00 - 00:32 Episode Trailer and Intro00:32 - 01:14 Episode Overview01:14 - 03:02 Tim Kennedy and his little girl03:02 - 04:23 Dads and their own dad issues?04:23 - 06:58 Getting to the bottom of Lily Phillips 06:58 - 07:57 How damaging to a girl is a distant father?07:57 - 09:01 Is Lily Philips deeply wounded?09:01 - 11:20 What a healthy relationship between dad and daughter looks like11:20 - 13:18 Women and Self-esteem13:18 - 17:37 My best Friend's Wedding - the film17:37 - 21:12 Feminine grace and vulnerability21:12 - 22:57 This makes a woman sexy22:57 - 26:00 A peek into Vladimir and Vera Nabokov’s love story26:00 - 27:23 A woman is a man's true counterpart27:23 - 28:32 Final thoughts and key takeaways<

In this episode some of the ways in which the co-creative dance between the sexes has broken down.I explore how modern narratives misunderstand the age old duality of masculine vision paired with feminine expression. I talk about what people really didn’t get about the Mrs. Degree conversations from the past in addition to why it shouldn’t be controversial to say that most people just want to get together and have kids. Listen in to learn about how greater male variability works, the real reason women choose caregiving professions, and more.Timestamps:00:00 - 00:36 Trailer00:36 - 01:35 Episode Overview01:35 - 04:01 Why don't women ask men out?04:01 - 05:18 Double Standards for Men05:18 - 06:41 What does happiness depend on?06:41 - 08:47 Is college still the best place to find your future partner?08:47 - 10:13 Understanding Greater Male Variability10:13 - 12:29 What do women dream of?12:29 - 15:36 Most people wanna get married and have family15:36 - 17:09 How does a woman find fulfillment?17:09 - 18:51 When a woman wants to be the best in her field?18:51 - 19:59 Final thoughts and key takeaways19:59 - 20:37 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJclgWqhMMZqX26