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Sunny Megatron | Pleasure Podcasts·222 episodes

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Changing America's dysfunctional relationship with sex one laugh at a time, this award-winning podcast gets to the meat of what fuels our deepest, darkest turn-ons. Sex isn't just sex; it's about everything – identity, power, politics, taboos, and the shame our culture thrives on. Recognizing how these elements seep into our bedrooms makes all the kinky, "weird" stuff we're secretly into seem not so weird after all. Host Sunny Megatron is an acclaimed Clinical Sexologist, BDSM Educator, and Showtime TV host. Equal parts hilarious and informative, Sunny & her guests serve up real talk about kink, polyamory, sexual ethics, and more. From pr...

Episodes

10 min
Mar 25, 2024
Dom & sub Dynamics Free Kink & BDSM Education Summit - Bonus

Amazing news! Registration is now open for the FREE Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Reserve your free spot here: http://bit.ly/sunnysummit2024  The Rundown 4-day online BDSM conference, free!  5 sessions per day + supplemental class tools & materials April 8-11th 2024 Watch live (no student cameras so you can attend anonymously) -OR- stream recordings of the classes you want to take within 24 hours Some of the educators: Midori,  Luna Matatas, Evie Lupine, TheDutchy, Miriam Green from Wicked Grounds, Princess Rara from Pink Kink Podcast, Marla Rene-Stewart, Justine Cross, Loving BDSM, D/s Living, Pleasure Mechanics & more Some of the sessions: Punishment & Rewards In D/s, Navigating Misconceptions & Embracing Your Brat, Little Space & Age Play Dynamics, Dealing With Drop, Discovering Your Soft & Hard Limits in BDSM, Seducing Your sub & Creating Erotic Tension, Kinky Skills For Switches, Introducing Kink In Your Relationship, Creating Successful Protocols, BDSM Scene Building, Polyamory & BDSM, Kink + Trauma: Using BDSM For Healing, Female Led Relationships - FLR, How To Create A BDSM Contract & More The D/s Summit is FREE for people 18+ (all educational, not visually graphic, and does not encompass adult entertainment) so please feel free to share with friends, in kink groups you belong to, etc: http://bit.ly/sunnysummit2024  See you there! Sunny :)

1 hr 11 min
Nov 11, 2023Episode 213
What's a Kinky Switch? w/ Queen Ana Blue - 213

Curious about the role of a switch in kink & BDSM? Some say switches are really just confused doms or subs that haven’t figured out their true identity yet. Others believe they’re less skilled and aren’t as dedicated to exclusively topping or bottoming. In this episode, Queen Anas Blue busts these myths and gets deep into the switchy nitty-gritty. Some of the topics we cover: Switching styles & traits Switch erasure Switch drop  Challenges cis men face embracing their switchy side Overcoming switch imposter syndrome & more Guest Bio – Queen Ana Blue  Queen Ana Blue identifies as a Pansexual, Sadomasochistic, Black, Leather, and a Polyplayer. She is a Pro-Dominantrix and Lifestyle Switch. As a Professional BDSM worker, Queen Ana Blue enjoys creating personalized scenes where people can live out their desired fantasies and feel accepted and heard. As a Lifestyle Switch, she enjoys the connection and vulnerability involved in exploring all sides of the slash with her partners. Queen Ana enjoys teaching because she enjoys talking to people and helping others feel welcome and safe. BDSM education should not be a secret and she excels at making people feel accepted, important, and at helping people understand they have power and beauty, no matter what side of the slash they may be on in their kinky journey. Episode 213 Helpful Links & Resources Queen Ana Blue Instagram https://www.instagram.com/queen_ana_blue  Queen Ana Blue Website https://www.queenanaalgos.com/ Queen Ana Blue LinkTree https://linktr.ee/queen_ana_blue/  Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com  Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1

15 min
Nov 1, 2023
Introducing Holly Randall Unfiltered – Adriana Chechik on Her Wild Career

Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then, you've got to listen to one of our favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight on a storied career that brought her so much fame, and why she has decided to leave it all behind. Holly Randall Unfiltered is available anywhere you listen to podcasts, as well as on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok. Find out more at HollyRandallUnfiltered.com.

1 hr 21 min
Oct 29, 2023Episode 212
Fluid Relationships vs. Polyamory with Kate Loree - 212

Ever felt confined by the choice of monogamy or polyamory? What options lie between those two ends of the spectrum? And what happens if what’s right for you changes over time? Sex- positive psychotherapist Kate Loree joins Sunny to talk about navigating and customizing fluid relationship dynamics. Some of what’s covered:  The significance of intention in customizable relationships Anxiety & Jealousy in non-monogamy Parenthood & fluid relationships Honesty in relationship dynamics Mindfulness & communication Couple’s privilege  Fluid relationships vs relationship anarchy & more   Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT  Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. She is also the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine, and is a frequent public speaker. Episode 212 Helpful Links & Resources Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com  Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft  Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft  Kate Loree Instagram <a href= "http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkatelore

1 hr 15 min
Oct 13, 2023Episode 211
Kink Education Freestyle Reddit Edition - Sunny Megatron 211

Host, Clinical Sexologist & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a third installment of free-style BDSM education. This time she weighs in on BDSM reddit.  Topics discussed:  Am I a bad sub for not liking pain or degradation?  What’s a praise kink? When Is humiliation play healthy and when is it detrimental? Where & how to find 1-on-1 BDSM instruction and “exploratory sessions” for kink newbies?  How can I safely do breath play to the point of passing out? New partner advice: Is this how TPE and CNC works? Or is this a red flag?   Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron  Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Clinical Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021's XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.    Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous teaching style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find their power through play and pleasure. She’s also working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”  Episode 211 Helpful Links & Resources Sunny Megatron All Links https://direct.me/sunnymegatron  Sunny Megatron Website https://sunnymegatron.com/  Hot and Healthy Erotic Humilation Recorded Class https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/humiliationclass?layout=profile  <li

1 hr 7 min
Oct 6, 2023Episode 210
Emotional Dysregulation in Relationships with Megan Bhatia - Ep 210

Relationships, at their core, are about relating – with other people, our surroundings, our past, our future. But the truth is, most of us kinda suck at it! Enter the spiral of emotional dysregulation…  In this episode, Megan Bhatia gets right to the juicy center of relating and its role in safety, power dynamics, and agreements in our relationships. Some of what we cover: Recognizing & managing emotional dysregulation Head knowledge vs. embodied knowledge Jealousy in non-monogamy Creating safety in our relationships for "No" Navigating feelings of rejection The dom and sub within ourselves When one partner's trigger sets off another's & more From monogamy to polyamory, kinky to vanilla, and even in our non-romantic relationships, understanding the nature of relating can change *everything!*  Guest Bio – Megan Bhatia  Megan Bhatia is the host of Amory podcast, where she and her two partners share vulnerably about their experience navigating polyamory. Viewing life through the lens of relating, Megan believes that there are endless ways to deepen our awareness when we see and understand the patterns of relating. She now works with people one-on-one and in groups to develop healthy, loving relationships starting with themselves. After traveling with her twins and two partners to over 14 countries in the last 5 years, she now happily calls Costa Rica her home. Episode 210 Helpful Links & Resources Megan Bhatia/Amory Podcast Website main website: www.amorypodcast.com   Megan Bhatia/Amory Podcast IG https://www.instagram.com/amorypodcast FREE Self-Love mini-course  https://amorypodcast.com/product/free-self-love-mini-course/  Self-Love 6-month Small Group Journey https://amorypodcast.com/product/self-love-journey-6-month-course/ Th

1 hr 17 min
Jul 7, 2023Episode 209
Body Fluid Fetish & Fantasy with Luna Matatas - 209

Have you ever wondered why we eroticize certain bodily fluids but consider others disgusting? Luna Matatas dives into the why and how behind body fluid fetish including threesomes, BDSM, and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.   Episode 209 Helpful Links & Resources Luna Matatas Website http://lunamatatas.com/ Luna Matatas Twitter https://twitter.com/lunamatatas Luna Matatas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lunamatatas/ Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex  Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com   Episode 209 Sponsors & Discount Codes *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at <a href= "http://dipseastories.com/sunny

10 min
Jun 27, 2023
BONUS Introducing: Erotic Short Stories "The High-Class Escort"

We’re excited to introduce you to another show on the Pleasure Podcasts network called, Erotic Short Stories. (Yes, the audio is NSFW so choose your listening time & place accordingly!) If you’re a fan of erotica and looking for a place to indulge in your wildest fantasies, then you need to listen to Erotic Short Stories. Each week, Mia will tell you a sensual story in a silky-smooth voice that will surely get you in the mood. Check out more Erotic Short Stories wherever you get your podcasts.

1 hr 24 min
Jun 23, 2023Episode 208
Mental Health & Polyamory with Kate Loree - 208

Sex-positive psychotherapist, Kate Loree joins us to talk about managing mental health within polyamory and consensual non-monogamy -- specifically how mood and personality disorders like anxiety, depression, BPD, NPD, etc., can impact these relationships. According to NAMI  one in five American adults experienced mental illness in 2020. When we combine this with consensual non-monogamy (CNM), things can become even more complex. As Kate points out, CNM tends to poke at unresolved attachment injuries more than is typical in monogamous relationships plus polyamory involves more people which means there’s more to navigate. While this conversation is geared toward non-monogamous relationships, the strategies Kate discusses can be adapted to various relationship styles, including kink dynamics and monogamous relationships. Kate Loree, LMFT Bio Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. She is also the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.  In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine, and is a frequent public speaker. Episode 208 Helpful Links & Resources Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deepl

1 hr 31 min
Jun 9, 2023Episode 207
Ask Yourself About Consent with Kitty Stryker - 207

As a culture, we’ve come a long way in our understanding of consent. It’s discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we’ve also lost some important nuance along the way.  This conversation with Kitty Stryker is all about that nuance.  From the complexities of consent within various power dynamics to the ways it shows up in every relationship, consent situations seem to be everywhere. Kitty lays down frameworks to help us reevaluate our personal relationships with consent and use what we learn to strengthen our bonds with friends, family, co-workers, romantic partners, and more.    Kitty Stryker Bio Kitty Stryker is the author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook" and the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture", both from Thornapple Press. She was among the first to coin the term "consent culture", writing in 2010 about the radical act of defining what you want to move towards instead of just what to avoid. A queer nerd, an asexual sex worker, an anarchist journalist; Kitty is often found blurring the edges of communities to forge coalitions and welcome more people in. She aspires to be Baba Yaga when she grows up. Episode 207 Helpful Links & Resources Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook https://bookshop.org/p/books/ask-yourself-the-consent-culture-workbook-kitty-stryker/18725129 Kitty Stryker Website https://consentculture.com/  Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker Kitty Stryker Facebook https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker  Kitty Stryker Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker  Kitty Stryker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kitty_stryker/  Kitty Stryker Patreon https://patreon.com/kittystryker  Touchy Subjects Podcast https://www.touchysubjectspodcast.com/  <p dir="ltr" role="pres

1 hr 18 min
May 26, 2023Episode 206
Mutual Masturbation May with jessica drake - 205

jessica drake joins us for an International Masturbation Month chat about mutual self-pleasure. In this conversation, we unpack the shame surrounding both solo and mutual masturbation. Plus, jessica gives tips for: Getting out of your head & into your body Prioritizing our own pleasure Building bedroom confidence   Fantasy sharing & dirty talk  Introducing toys & porn Compassionate & validating communication with partners Sunny & jessica go well beyond the basics, sharing important revelations gleaned from their own self-exploration and offering practical info for people anywhere on their sexual journey. jessica drake Bio Award-winning Performer, Sex Worker, Sex Educator, and the creator and producer of jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, an award-winning educational series that delivers shame-free, consent-based Sex Ed. She has been in the adult industry for 20 years and uses her real-life experience to advocate for sex worker rights. jd (she, her) also occupies board positions with two non-profits, Feed The Streets and Tending The Garden. She is currently emerging from a three-year cocoon and is redefining her core purpose and mission, discovering the freedom that comes from possessing less fucks. Episode 206 Helpful Links & Resources jessica drake Twitter https://twitter.com/thejessicadrake  jessica drake Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessicadrake/  jessica drake Onlyfans Onlyfans.com/jessicadrake   Wicked Sensual Care Website https://wickedsensualcare.com/  jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex Website https://www.guidetowickedsex.com/  Holly Randall Unfiltered Removed from Youtube https://www.xbiz.com/news/273912/youtu

12 min
May 25, 2023
BONUS Double Teamed with Cami & Niki - Missing Kink, Prioritizing Partners, and Restructuring FWBs Preview

In this bonus mini-episode, we're previewing Double Teamed with Cami & Niki. Here the twins talk about their recent journeys with kink & power exchange. Hope you enjoy! Get more at http://doubleteamedpodcast.com

1 hr 25 min
May 12, 2023Episode 205
How to Love Yourself with Lee Harrington - Ep 205

Most of us know how important things like self-care, self-compassion, and self-love are. But knowing and doing can sometimes be two different things. Lee Harrington not only talks about why these things are so vital but also teaches us HOW to do them. Lee walks us through forging the path to self-forgiveness, compassion, care, healthy boundary setting, and becoming our own beloved through self-courtship and deepening our most important relationship -- the one we’re in with ourselves. As a bonus for kinky folks, the tools Lee lays out can easily be adapted to your self-collaring journey too. And as a bonus for everyone, this process not only helps strengthen your relationship with yourself, it can help you become a better friend or partner to others too.   Lee Harrington Bio Lee Harrington (he/they) is an internationally known spirituality, identity, relationships, and personal authenticity author and educator. He brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience, having taught classes, shared presentations, and delivered keynotes worldwide for over twenty years. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” He has been blogging online since 1998 and has been teaching since 2001. You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com. Episode 205 Helpful Links & Resources Become Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting in Self-Connection by Lee Harrington https://a.co/d/hk8Sw63  Lee Harrington Website http://www.PassionAndSoul.com Lee Harrington Twitter http://twitter.com/PassionAndSoul Lee Harrington YouTube http://www.youtube.com/user/passionandsoul Lee Harrington Patreon http://www.Patreon.com/PassionAndSoul Lee Harrington Instagram https://www.instagram.com/passionandsoul/ Lee Harrington Facebook <a href=

56 min
Apr 28, 2023Episode 204
Authentic Kink & BDSM Community Lessons w/ Mollena Williams-Haas Ep 204 (Pt. 2)

How do you live your authentic kink life when your needs don't match up with the BDSM community status quo? In part 1 (ep 203) Mollena Williams-Haas told us how returning to the leather community after parting ways sparked an unexpected journey of healing and growth. In this discussion, Mollena shares practical advice for digging past the stereotypical BDSM “supposed to’s” in order to identify your needs and honor them. D/s relationships are about making life better for both doms and subs -- but how exactly do we go about that? Mollena has some helpful answers …  Mollena Williams-Haas Bio Mollena is a writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned & collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert. As a two-time leather title holder and kink educator, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. A frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast, she’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton. Mollena is also the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”.  A professional stage performer since age 5, Mollena’s credits include The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic <a href= "https://www.imdb.c

12 min
Apr 27, 2023
Peg the Patriarchy with Luna Matatas - From Sluts & Scholars Podcast

Today we are sharing a preview from one of our favorite podcasts that we think you’ll enjoy. On Sluts and Scholars, therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger talks with diverse professionals about all things pleasure and sexuality. In this preview, strap in for some strap on information with Sex and Pleasure Educator Luna Matatas. Nicoletta and Luna talk about pegging, anal play, and why it is so hard to just receive pleasure. Join these slutty scholars as they help to make your sex smarter, and your smarts sexier. Listen to Sluts and Scholars at https://www.slutsandscholars.com/ and follow them on Insta @slutsandscholars

12 min
Apr 18, 2023
Gaslighting, Red Flags & Manipulation - Cultivating H.E.R Space Podcast Preview

Today we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and we think you will too!  On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. Listen to Cultivating H.E.R. Space at https://herspacepodcast.com/  Enjoy!

1 hr 10 min
Apr 14, 2023Episode 203
Lessons from the BDSM Leather Community with Mollena Williams-Haas - Ep 203

Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status quo. In this convo, she shares how her rocky relationship with a community she once loved transformed into an unexpected journey of healing and growth. And, in true Mollena fashion, the insights she gleaned from this transformative, powerful experience are life lessons we can all benefit from, no matter our chosen community or family. This is part one of our two-episode extended conversation.   Mollena Williams-Haas Bio Mollena is an NYC-born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned and collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas since 2013, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times. Active in the Leather community since 1996 and teaching since 1998, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. She is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast. She’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton. Molena is also a leather titleholder– International Ms Leather 2010 and Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009. She’s the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play.” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discover

1 hr 27 min
Mar 31, 2023Episode 202
Pornhub on Netflix & Free Speech with Mike Stabile - Ep 202

Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss:  The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook up the adult industry How the far-reaching consequences affect us all Who’s behind the Traffickinghub campaign, related anti-trafficking organizations & why  What Pornhub did wrong & did right The role of adult performers in maintaining checks & balances in the industry The ins & outs of data collection & site moderation on Pornhub  The recent surprise announcement that Pornhub was acquired by a company called Ethical Capital Partners   Guest Bio – Mike Stabile Mike Stabile is an activist, journalist, and documentary filmmaker who has written about and advocated for the rights of sex workers and sexual speech for over a decade. His firm, Polari Media, has developed press and media strategies for some of the adult industry's most well-known brands. Mike currently serves as the Director of Public Affairs at Free Speech Coalition, the trade and advocacy group for the adult industry.   Episode 202 Helpful Links & Resources Mike Stabile Twitter https://twitter.com/mikestabile  Free Speech Coalition https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/  FSC Twitter https://twitter.com/FSCArmy  MoneyShot: The Porn Hub Story on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/81406118  The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text  ResistBot  https://resist.bot/petitions</a

1 hr 26 min
Mar 17, 2023Episode 201
Racial Inequity, BIPOC Sexuality & The Pleasure Revolution with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons - Ep 201

Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sex lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sex as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues and a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Orgasms are not the great equalizer. Political, cultural, and systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode:    How the belief that only men who have money deserve sex impacts BIPOC communities The importance of distinguishing between pleasure worthiness & entitlement Why sex ed in schools & adult pleasure education are key Tips for navigating cultural pressures in relationships while prioritizing pleasure, boundaries & survival Why good sex can be an act of revolution & resistance How race, capitalism, and sex intersect in complex ways What we can do as allies & PoC to shift the culture, subvert systems & more   Guest Bio – Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She is the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast and How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized

1 hr 14 min
Mar 3, 2023Episode 200
Gender Norms In the Kink Community with Veronika Kestrel - Ep 200

Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities remain steeped in heteronormativity, leading to the fetishization and othering of gender non-conforming and trans people. Some of what we touch on:  Why gender bias exists in kink The commodification & politicization of GNC & trans kinksters Tips for vetting communities & individuals The responsibilities of allies & accomplices Issues with sissy play & cuckolding Commonalities between marginalized groups in BDSM & more   Guest Bio – Veronika Kestrel Veronika Kestrel (She/Her) is a Professional Dominatrix and kink lifestyle educator affiliated with the Los Angeles Sanctuary. A 15-year veteran of the kink lifestyle, she began her kink journey in the Denver community and relocated to Southern California in 2018, where she helped facilitate trans-focused events in the Orange County scene. Since then, she has conducted clinics for the LA Sanctuary, CancerPhase Productions, and at numerous private venues. She was a panelist at DomCon 2022, and has appeared on "Your Kinky Friends", "Pink Kink Podcast", and, of course, "American Sex Podcast"! She prides herself in her efforts to make Kink a friendlier, more ethical, and inclusive community in any way she can. She can be often found helping facilitate newbie-focused events in her local community and hosting the Kestrel Industries Monthly Doll Play munch in Anaheim, CA.  Episode 200 Helpful Links & Resources Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/veronikakestrel/ Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/VeronikaKestrel <li class="MsoNormal" style="line-heigh

1 hr 26 min
Feb 17, 2023Episode 199
Grooming in BDSM Relationships with Sunny Megatron - Ep 199

Adult grooming is often misunderstood -- from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why -- most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship - including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context.   Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spot unhealthy power dynamics in BDSM and deconstruct preconceived notions of what manipulative abuse looks like, who can do it, and why. You'll also learn: How the 6 stages of grooming apply to D/s dynamics  How to recognize coercive abuse in BDSM relationships How pop culture kink stereotypes fuel grooming within BDSM The reasons groomers manipulate & who they are  How my breakable rules analysis can help you spot unhealthy kink & more  p.s. Don‘t forget to grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 where I'll be teaching my "No B.S. Approach to Consent & Safe Words." http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021's XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.     Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase

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Feb 8, 2023
Bonus - Free BDSM Education Dom/sub Virtual Summit

Here’s the quickie bonus episode link you’re looking for! http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit Want a recap? Read on …  The Dom/sub Dynamic Virtual Summit was designed to help you improve your D/s relationship & navigate the BDSM lifestyle. The Summit features 5 jam-packed days of classes from 15+ educators covering topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between. Get your free ticket to The D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit here: http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit You also have options! Attend each day during the scheduled stream with the speaker or watch the replay any time you’d like within 24 hours. You also get access to the private virtual group to talk with other attendees plus you'll get a few more free perks too.  The All-Access-Pass purchase grants attendees lifetime access to the classes/materials plus a bunch of additional free education from the instructors like worksheets, passes to their paid digital classes, etc (I’m surprised at how much stuff is offered, TBH -- and I’m not easily impressed, lol!).   Thanks & hope to see you there!  p.s. Keep an eye on my socials for my All-Access-Pass giveaway too!  And here’s the link to my @SunnyMegatron social media posts about the D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit if you'd like to share or read what others have to say: TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook

1 hr 25 min
Dec 23, 2022Episode 198
Global BDSM with Midori - Ep 198

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink.  We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships. Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local BDSM community, a global perspective can broaden your understanding of the psychology behind what we all do, no matter where we do it.     Guest Bio – Midori “Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.” Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.” Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori  where she is working on her next shibari book! Episode 198 Helpful Links & Resources Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/ What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/ Dear Gen Z Tradwives: Have You Considered Kink Instead? https://zippermagazine.com/gen-z-tradwives-have-you-considered-kink/ Caning Fetish & the Surprising Reason Behind Its Popularity https://zippermagazine.com/caning-fetish-popularity-miss-ruby-marks/ Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Santa Fet

1 hr 22 min
Nov 25, 2022Episode 197
Inclusion & Race In Kink with Phrygian Monk - Ep 197

Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.”  They bring all the nuance and then some.  We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more. Guest Bio – Phrygian Monk Phrygian Monk (They/Them) is a BDSM presenter and educator who is bringing diversity and a new outlook to kink education. With a 5-plus year background engaging in the kink and leather communities, Monk has decided to take the education that they have received, and pass that on to their fellow peers. With classes in subjects such as vetting, negotiation, and various forms of play, Monk hopes to connect with fellow younger kinksters and provide a space for peer learning and education. Also an activist in the kinky world, Monk uses their experiences and knowledge as a black queer individual to share about and fight for a more inclusive and safer community for all people. Having hosted and participated in various talks, discussion groups, and panels on the subject of race, racism, and how they impact the kink community, Monk hopes to see change, growth, and diversity flourish in local communities and individuals as they introspect, grow, and become active participants in fighting for a community that is for everyone.   Episode 197 Helpful Links & Resources Phrygian Monk TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@phrygian_monk No Nut November https://zippermagazine.com/whats-the-fuss-about-no-nut-november/  Race & Kink Series with Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas https://www.eventbrite.com/e/race-kink-a-discussion-series-tickets-244730093297 Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856 Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%

1 hr 9 min
Oct 28, 2022Episode 196
Communication & Jealousy in Polyamory with Kate Loree - Ep 196

Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on: Attachment injury Triggers Grounding techniques Getting into your “resilient zone” The EPIC communication model Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. Episode 196 Helpful Links & Resources Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships book https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Ken Melvoin-Berg's Thunderpants Academy Gaming Page  https://www.facebook.com/ThunderpantsAcademy Ken Melvoin-Berg's Twitter https://twitter.com/ThunderpantsDM  Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook <a href=

1 hr 14 min
Oct 14, 2022Episode 195
Asexual BDSM with Evie Lupine - Ep 195

Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum.  On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss: Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex Why the kink community appeals to many aces What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong? The relationship between sex & BDSM + why some allosexuals prefer “platonic kink” How asexuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & more Are there asexual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice kink & enjoy sex? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions! Evie Lupine Bio Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber that first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she's been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday. Episode 195 Helpful Links & Resources Evie Lupine YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Twitter https://twitter.com/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Patreon https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine AVEN Forum (Asexual Visibility & Education Network) https://www.asexuality.org/en/ Emily Nagoski Come As You Are (book) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314 Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292" target= "_

1 hr 15 min
Sep 30, 2022Episode 194
Safewords & The Murky Messy Nuances of BDSM - Ep 194

In episode 194 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron continues her deep dive into the murky, messy, nuances of kink. She examines some of the most popular kink “rules” pertaining to consent & safewords and the grey areas that cause community friction: “Never renegotiate during a scene” “When there’s a problem someone will use their safeword” “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up” “Safewords can be abused” “Safewords are for sex and BDSM” This episode will help you diversify what’s in your consent toolbox, assess risks in intimate situations, evaluate exceptions to BDSM rules, differentiate personal preferences from useful & inclusive best practices, and more. Sunny Megatron Bio Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.    Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.” Episode 194 Helpful Links & Resources The History of SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) vs. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) https://historyofthedominatrix.com/blogs/blog/the-history-bdsm-consent-ssc-vs-rack Putting SSC in perspective TikTok Video https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7147630034147233066 Why do many consider SSC harmful and outdated? https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7016472196205956357 Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by

1 hr 27 min
Sep 16, 2022Episode 193
Safe Words, Consent & Customizing Your Kink - Ep 193

Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & sex, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to you. How do you decide that? Episode 193 of American Sex Podcast will help you figure it out.  This convo was inspired by a listener suggestion to unpack some of the fiercest kink community debates about consent, how BDSM *should* be done, and the customizability of kink. Sunny Megatron explores ways you can evaluate BDSM rules and decide if, when, and how much to customize them to fit your own needs. She does this entirely through the lens of safe words and consent. This is also the first show back from summer hiatus and in the intro, Sunny announces some big changes for the future of both American Sex and their family. Episode 193 Links Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/ Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy   Episode 193 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & code

2 hr 14 min
Jun 27, 2022Episode 192
The BDSM Test w/ Midori & Joe Zarate-Sanderlin - Ep 192

“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups. But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “kink.” Midori & kinky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BDSM test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…   Midori Bio “Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.” Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.” Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori  where she is working on her next shibari book!   Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Bio "Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, an Assigned Male at Birth non-binary person (pronouns: they/them/theirs), came of age in the New York City kink scene in the late 1990s and early 2000s and they have connections in the Boston and San Francisco kink communities. They are a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where they specialize in working with gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. They teach several courses at Golden Gate University and were recognized as an Outstanding Adjunct Professor for 2022. They provide training and consultation regarding Talking to Clients about Sex, Gender in Psychotherapy, Open Relationships, BDSM Relationships, and other topics. In addition to private practice, their clinical experience includes being supervised by Dossie Easton for two and half years plus volunteering at a Catholic school for three years, a continuation high school for one year, and at a low-fee clinic for four years.  They worked for the Burning Man Emergency Services Dep

1 hr 34 min
Jun 20, 2022Episode 191
Kink & BDSM Myth Busting w/ Sunny Megatron - Ep 191

Kink & BDSM stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common kink myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following kink & BDSM myths:    Kink is always sexual and platonic kink does not exist Kink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific community There's a dramatic difference between academic/clinical understanding of kink (that's always more accurate) and BDSM community education  Dark age play aka sexual littles' play is abusive and reenacting pedophilia Kink practitioners engage in unhealthy self-harm by proxy and/or glorify abuse Kinks are caused by unresolved trauma … and more! Sunny Megatron Bio Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine.    Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.” Episode 191 Links Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/ Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/ Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller <a href= "https://read.amazon.com/k

1 hr 15 min
Jun 6, 2022Episode 190
Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire w/ Cyndi Darnell - Ep 190

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on: Mismatched Libido  Responsive vs spontaneous desire Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction How gender & orientation factor in Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine! Cyndi Darnell Bio Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program. Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide. Episode 190 Links Cyndi Darnell Website www.cyndidarnell.com Cyndi Darnell Twitter https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire https://www.amazon.com/When-Dont-Feel-Like-Rediscovering/dp/1538161702   Zipper Magazine Launch 6/8/22 https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.

1 hr 11 min
May 23, 2022Episode 189
Therapeutic Kink with Andrea Glik - Ep 189

Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Ep 189 Andrea Glik, LMSW explains the impact of trauma on our nervous system, depression as a survival response, the stress response cycle, the difference between glimmers and triggers, how BDSM can be used to heal trauma for both doms and subs, how she integrates clients BDSM experiences into therapy, plus how healing can manifest through CNC, little space, subspace, aftercare, and more. Even if you're not a kinkster, this episode will help you discover how trauma & shame affect your s3xual identity. Also a must-listen for mental health providers and those struggling to get their therapists to understand the importance of kink in their lives.      Andrea Glik Bio Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, and sex educator. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for women, survivors, and queer & trans folks, utilizing body-based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices on occupied Lenape territory (colonized as NYC) and can also be found on Instagram @somaticwitch. Episode 189 Links Andrea Glik Instagram https://www.instagram.com/somaticwitch/ Andrea Glik YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVUm2ZAxWeu7DrcMRpP1JPw? Andrea Glik website https://www.andreaglik.com/ Healing through BDSM class & https://www.andreaglik.com/post/healing-through-bdsm Other workshops andreaglik.com/shop Inside Eyes Podcast, Healing Sexual Trauma with Psychedelics & Entheogens   https://www.lauramaenorthrup.com/inside-eyes-podcast Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Response Cycle by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706X Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American

1 hr 28 min
May 9, 2022Episode 188
BDSM Community Real Talk w/ Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree - Ep 188

Being a part of community isn't required to practice BDSM, although it may seem like it due to visibility. What is important is knowing the positive and negative ways community influences the kink subculture. Yes, mainstream myths and stereotypes contribute to BDSM stigma, however, misleading info from the community causes harm too. On ep 188 of American Sex, Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree discuss this plus give advice on verifying the validity of educational info, sniffing out gatekeeping and “one twue wayisms,” doing effective gut checks in consent situations, and more. Sunny also discusses the far-reaching implications of overturning Roe vs. Wade & how the Earn It Act ties in.  Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron (Kink-Specific Bio) Sunny began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the year in 2021, Kinkly’s sex blogging superhero in 2017, plus her alternative sexuality focused podcast American Sex won the AASECT podcast award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum & teaches about BDSM for sexuality educators, therapists, and care professionals including professional certification courses like the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play is scheduled to be released in 2022. Episode 188 Links State of Kink Survey https://surveymonkey.com/r/socialkink Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Act https://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLV or OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409 Roe Vs Wade implications beyond abortion https://www.npr.org/2022/05/05/1096732347/roe-v-wade-implications-beyond-abortion Ep 184 Pt. 1 Rethinking Kink https://sunnymegatron.com/rethink-kink-podcast/ Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships https://www.ama

1 hr 22 min
Apr 25, 2022Episode 187
Healthy Consensual Non-Monogamy with Kate Loree - Ep 187

All relationships are susceptible to hurdles in polyamory, we have multiple partners to factor in plus unique issues like jealousy and couple’s privilege.  On episode 187 of American Sex Podcast, Kate Loree draws from her years as a polyamorous relationship therapist to talk about strategies for compassionate communication, cultivating self-awareness, breaking unhealthy patterns, and reconciling conflict in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Guest Bio – Kate Loree Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. She co-hosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron, has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at KateLoree.com.  Episode 187 Links Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_CBCD2NJQ93Q58Q0C46XZ  Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok <a href= "https://www.tiktok.com

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Apr 11, 2022Episode 186
Race & Kink w/Luna Matatas - Ep 186

The kink community has a reputation for being accepting including threesomes, BDSM, and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.   Episode 186 Links Luna Matatas Website http://lunamatatas.com/ Luna Matatas Twitter https://twitter.com/lunamatatas Luna Matatas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lunamatatas/ Kinky Tapas $100 off w/code SUNNY 4/28-5/1/22 Oakland, CA http://www.kinkytapas.com/ Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0 Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learnin

1 hr 6 min
Mar 28, 2022Episode 185
Decriminalizing BDSM w/ NCSF, National Coalition for Sexual Freedom - Ep 185

U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as harmful, criminal acts. This makes prosecuting sexual assault cases within the context of BDSM difficult. How can you prove non-consensual sex occurred if kink isn’t considered sex in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom/NCSF worked along with the American Law Institute to establish a legal definition of consent in kink. They just unveiled the New Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact. On ep 185 of American Sex Podcast, the NCSF’s Susan Wright consent practices and attitudes; and the mental and physical health of alt-sex practitioners, with papers published in journals including the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, Psychology & Sexuality, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation, Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sexual Medicine, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, International Journal of Social Psychiatry, and Journal of Homosexuality. Guest Bio – BebeBlueEyes Bebe is a Poly, Het, very active, giggle bottom, service topping ‘s type’.  Since 2009, Bebe has been serving the broader kink & poly communities, presenting classes related to her passion, the ever-evolving topic of Consent. During covid, Bebe started the Submissive Safe Call, an online discussion group to keep ‘s types’ connected. She founded StL PolyHarmonic, a lo

1 hr 16 min
Mar 14, 2022Episode 184
Rethinking Kink with Kate Loree & Sunny Megatron - Ep 184

On episode 184 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron & sex-positive therapist, Kate Loree, look at BDSM through an atypical lens. We chat about the misconceptions we worked through as people who stumbled upon kink later in life and how that perspective is helpful now in our careers. We discuss the headspace & strategy needed to tap into the customizable nature of BDSM, plus dive into the science & psychology behind kinky play--why do masochists like suffering? What happens to the body & mind during the altered states of consciousness subspace & topspace? How do people use kink to be more grounded, regulate the nervous system, explore intense emotional states with minimal risk, and more? There’s a lot more to BDSM than ropes, paddles, and floggers! Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron, CSE Host of the Showtime Original Series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is the soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the Year in 2021, and Kinkly’s Sex Blogging Superhero in 2017. Her alternative sexuality-focused podcast American Sex was awarded the AASECT Podcast Award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum about BDSM for sexuality professionals. Some of her most recent kink-related projects include designing & teaching the BDSM unit for a well-known sex educator certification program plus a lesson for the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program for therapists and other care professionals. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play is scheduled to be released in 2022. Episode 184 Links Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebook h

1 hr 28 min
Feb 28, 2022Episode 183
Dominant Submissive D/s Dynamics w/Sinclair Sexsmith - Ep 183

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including: The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control Building healthy dynamics “Subs hold all the power” Balancing fantasy & reality “Giving up” safe words D/s as an “intimacy fetish” Deconstructing power Guest Bio – Sinclair Sexsmith SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is an award-winning queer trans masc writer focusing on queer culture, trauma, dominance, submission, spiritual kink, and transgender and nonbinary issues. Sinclair’s creative nonfiction and queer erotica writings are widely published online and in more than thirty anthologies, including eight volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica series. They are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4, Volume 5, Volume 6, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics, and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2015 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair writes at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the top sex blogs. They have been teaching about erotic writing, the power of queer narratives, somatic arts, and many sex and kink techniques since 2002. Sinclair is an international leather titleholder, a pretty good cook, and an avid creative journaler. Follow all their work at patreon.com/mrsexsmith. Episode 183 Links Sinclair Sexsmith Quicklinks http://allmylinks.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Twitter http://twitter.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Instagram http://instagram.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Facebook http://facebook.com/sugarbutch Sinclair Sexsmith Patreon http://patreon.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Blog http://sugarbutch.net D/S Playground Classes https://dsplayground.com/ Sinclair Sexsmith Website https://www.mrsexsmith.com/ Is kink a sexual orientation? Discussion in American Sex Episode 181: https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/ The Dominance Playbook: Ways to

1 hr 30 min
Feb 14, 2022Episode 182
Spotify, Rogan & Sexual Freedom w/ Sunny Megatron - Ep 182

What does the Joe Rogan/Spotify controversy have to do with the freaky things you do in the bedroom? Surprisingly, A LOT! This situation uncovered bigger issues regarding corporate control of information & influence over censorship. In 2022 posting about sexual health, LGBTQIA+ activism, or thirst traps online is risky due to SESTA FOSTA, bank restrictions, and impending legislation like Earn It. Discussions about structural inequity and/or content made by marginalized creators is suppressed by biased algorithms. Indie podcasts & audio apps are among the last least censored mediums and a central hub for these kinds of discussions. How could one corporation's aggressive ambition to dominate audio entertainment threaten that & more? How did Spotify become the largest podcast platform & what’s next? This episode is a wild ride taking you from Joe Rogansville all the way to your sexual freedom.  Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Kink & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts the AASECT Award winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. In 2021 Sunny was named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year.  Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others disarm shame and find their power through pleasure and play. Her first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play is expected in late 2022. Episode 182 Links American Sex Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-sex/id1269884261 American Sex Player FM https://player.fm/series/american-sex American Sex Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/american-sex/PC:9136 American Sex Google Podcasts https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbWVyaWNhbnNleC5saWJzeW4uY29tL3Jzcw?sa=X&ved=0CAMQ4aUDahcKEwjQy_ip1v31AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAQ&hl=en American Sex Podchaser <a hre

1 hr 32 min
Jan 31, 2022Episode 181
Sex Tips from a Urologist w/Dr. Ashley Winter

On episode 181 American Sex Podcast we have the convo you WISH you could have with your doctor . . . if they were sex & kink-positive, didn’t shame or judge, told jokes that made you snort-laugh, and had all the time in the world to answer every one of your questions about sex & genitals. Urologist Dr. Ashley Winter joins us for a fascinating chat about the medical side of the freaky things we do. Some highlights: Myth-busting & pleasure biology of g-spots, squirting, clit sensation, prostate play, pre-cum, erections & more How patients & doctors can better talk to each other about sexual health Why urethral sounding feels good & how to play safe Pubic hair & diabetes Kinkster’s common belief that urine is sterile—Fact or Cap How COVID can affect sexual health: Covid dick, Restless anal & genital syndrome, Urine therapy, sperm production & more Guest Bio – Ashley G Winter, MD Dr. Ashley Winter is a board-certified urologist who specializes in sexual medicine. She is one of a few physicians with fellowship training in sexual medicine for ALL genders. She completed medical school at Rutgers University, her urology residency at New York Presbyterian-Weill Cornell Medical Center, and her fellowship training under Dr. Irwin Goldstein in sexual medicine. She is an associate editor of Sexual Medicine Reviews. She practices in Portland, Oregon, and she tweets enthusiastically at the handle: @ashleygwinter Episode 181 Links Dr. Ashley Winter Twitter https://twitter.com/AshleyGWinter Ep 180 Kink freestyle episode--clitoris 8k nerve ending myth at 44:30  https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/ Kink+ Asking for What You’re Worth Class 2/12/22 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/asking-for-what-youre-worth-tickets-175894825157 Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.c

1 hr 26 min
Dec 13, 2021Episode 180
Kink Education Freestyle Part 2 w/Sunny Megatron - Ep 180

On episode 180 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a second installment of free-style BDSM education. She gives helpful tips and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed: Important similarities & differences between the terms BDSM, kink, D/s, fetish, SM Is kink a sexual orientation? The problem with online BDSM tests Clit myth-busting How age play terminology means very different things in various communities Is “Sane, Sane & Consensual” harmful? Edging vs. edge play The secret behind Farty Parties ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 180 Links XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year, Sunny Megatron voting open now - https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Kink Education Freestyle Pt 1 ep 172 https://sunnymegatron.com/bdsm-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/ The Leather Couch Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/0367439921/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_A94ENPDMQF6Z0QZQCAQ6?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 Some Popular Online BDSM Tests https://bdsmtest.org/ , https://sexualalpha.com/bdsm-kink-test/ American Sex Podcast Episodes about age play https://sunnymegatron.com/abdl-adult-baby-diaper-lover/ , https://sunnymegatron.c

1 hr 12 min
Dec 6, 2021Episode 179
Sex Toys for Disabled People w/ Andrew Gurza & Heather Morrison - Ep 179

This week we talk with Andrew Gurza & Heather Morrison, the brother-sister team behind the first line of sex toys for people with disabilities, Bump’n. The idea started a few years ago with a chance conversation about Andrew’s increasing difficulty with self-pleasure due to Cerebral Palsy. Last week, the company they founded launched their first product. Some of what we talk about: Ways the sexual health & wellness industry ignores the needs of people with physical limitations The challenges of founding a sex tech startup with no prior experience How user feedback about The Joystick--a huggable, humpable, 3 ft long device designed for hands-free pleasure--uncovered profound intimacy benefits for people of all abilities How preliminary research lead to a partnership with a leading design expert and a groundbreaking book detailing personal stories and insights about sex & disability ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 179 Links Bump’n website https://getbumpn.com/ Bump’n release video (Andrew gives a nod to Steve Jobs!) https://vimeo.com/652219391 Bump'n Twitter https://twitter.com/getbumpn Bump'n Instagram https://www.instagram.com/getbumpn/ Bump'n Facebook https://www.facebook.com/getbumpn Andrew Gurza website http://www.andrewgurza.com/ Andrew Gurza Twitter https://twitter.com/andrewgurza_ Andrew Gurza Instagram https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza_ Andrew Gurza Patreon https://www.patreon.com/disabilityafterdark Disability After Dark Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disability-after-dark/id1151890990 #DisabledPeopleAreHot Merch https://store.podcastjukebox.org/collections/disabled-people-are-hot <

1 hr 32 min
Nov 29, 2021Episode 178
Sex Toys & Pleasure Zones with Sunny Megatron - Ep 178

It’s sex toy season! Between all the holiday discounts hitting our inbox and impending supply shortages, many of us are making snap decisions to buy new gear. With more sex toys available than ever before and new technology available, wading through this sea of options can be overwhelming. This week Sunny spills all her tips for selecting toys suited to your body and specific needs so you can get the most bang (pun intended) for your buck. Some of what’s covered: Tips for sex toy gift-giving etiquette Sex toy myth-busting Rumbly vs. buzzy vibrations & why it matters Important pleasure anatomy How to determine what kinds of toys match well with your personal preferences Which toys and accessories have good reputations &  reviews and which don’t ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 178 Links XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year, Sunny Megatron voting open now (voting allowed once per day) - https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Stockroom.com this link + code SUNNY = 15% off ON TOP of holiday sales https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 Lovehoney this link + code SUNNY = 15% off ON TOP of holiday sales http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 Fun Factory Toys https://us.funfactory.com/en/?a_aid=Sunny_Megatron Womanizer https://shrsl.com/3a10a We-Vibe Toys https://shrsl.com/3a10d We-Vibe Melt https://shrsl.com/3

1 hr 26 min
Nov 22, 2021Episode 177
Butt Stuff 201: Pegging & Vagus Nerve w/ Ruby Ryder - Ep 177

Why are so many people into deep anal insertion? One theory is because it can stimulate the vagus nerve. Not only can this feel amazing, but it may also trigger a cascade of health benefits! Ruby Ryder of Pegging Paradise fame joins us to talk about advanced butt stuff & pegging on ep 177 of American Sex Podcast. Some of that we cover:     How vagus nerve stimulation via the back door could lead to reduced inflammation, anxiety, and egocentric behavior The somatic similarities between anal play & kink How the term pegging is evolving & used in some circles as an inclusive act to be enjoyed by anyone regardless of gender or anatomy How the patriarchy hurts cismen and ways that the popularity of pegging has helped heal shame and combat prejudice   ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 177 Links Ruby Ryder’s Free Pegging Classes (virtual) https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars Ruby’s Websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ & http://pegging101.com/ Ruby Ryder Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RubyRyder Ruby Ryder Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therubyryder/ Ruby Ryder TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise Ruby Ryder Twitter https://twitter.com/Ruby_Ryder Ruby Ryder Bonus Audio Content https://www.patreon.com/posts/58960458 Pegging w/ Ruby Ryder Ep 91 American Sex https://sunnymegatron.com/ruby-ryder-pegging-paradise/ Hankey's Link (excellent for wider toys) https://hankeystoys.ositracker.com/123528/9217 Square Peg Slink (for depth play): https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/slink/ Bespoke Surgical: https://bespokesurgical.com/ Ruby’s affiliate link for

1 hr 24 min
Nov 15, 2021
Dollification Doll Play Kink with Veronika Kestrel - Ep 176

Veronika Kestrel joins us for ep 176 of American Sex Podcast to talk about one of her favorite kinks, Dollification. Dollification is doll roleplay--sounds basic on the surface but dollification is one of the most versatile and customizable kinks adaptable to both sensual and extreme play. Some of what we touch on in this conversation: Viewing kink as a collaborative art Dollification as a vehicle for other kinks/playstyles like: bondage, gender exploration, CNC, humiliation, emotional empowerment, objectification/dehumanization, worship, fear play, orgasm control/enhancement, etc. Animated vs. stationary dolls & similarities to other kinks like bimbofication and dronification Scenarios for dominant dolls & submissive makers Doll types--robots, stuffies, mannequins, marionettes, etc. Possible therapeutic benefits of dollification & doll headspace ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 176 Links Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/switchveronika/ Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/SwitchVeronika Veronika Kestrel FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/13001382? Kestrel’s Nest FetLife group https://fetlife.com/groups/223277 Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook <a href= "https://sunnymeg

1 hr 7 min
Nov 8, 2021Episode 175
Sex Worker Mutual Aid SWAID with Codi Vore & Queen Ava - Ep 175

On episode 175 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Codi Vore and Queen Ava about sex worker mutual aid and the organization they helped co-found, SWAID Las Vegas. Some of what we cover:  How mutual aid differs from traditional non-profits & how this strategy eliminates exploitation and inequity common in mainstream charity  Why mutual aid is especially beneficial to sex workers and circumvents barriers that are specific to this industry How the pandemic has affected the sex work community and made mutual aid efforts more mainstream in many different communities Decriminalization of sex work and how it differs from legalization Financial discrimination of all types of sex workers from full service to cam performers and OnlyFans creators  ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 175 Links  SWAID Vegas https://swaidvegas.org/ SWAID Twitter https://twitter.com/swaidvegas SWAID Instagram https://www.instagram.com/swaid_vegas/ Queen Ava Website https://queenavasworld.com/ Queen Ava Twitter https://twitter.com/iamqueenava4 Queen Ava Only Fans https://onlyfans.com/iamqueenava4 Queen Ava Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCktGWqoG_Nq4tCeHkSI5cBA Codi Vore Twitter http://Twitter.com/codi_vore Codi Vore SFW Twitter http://Twitter.com/codivoresfw Codi Vore Tiktok http://TikTok.com/@codi.vore Codi Vore OnlyFans http://OnlyFans.com/codivore The Politics of Sex Censorship ep 151 https://sunnymegatron.com/politics-of-sex-censorship/ OnlyFans & The Mortality War Ep 166 https://sunnymegatron.com/onlyfans-ban-kitty-stryker/ Open Deeply Podcast <a href= "http://opendeeplypodcast

1 hr 8 min
Nov 1, 2021Episode 174
Humiliation & Psychological Edge Play w/Amp Somers - Ep 174

On episode 174 of American Sex Podcast Sunny has a conversation with Amp Somers from the Watts Your Safeword Podcast about erotic humiliation and psychological edge play. Some of what we cover:  Neurodivergence & psychological kink The trauma love languages can be used for aftercare & trigger plans Negotiation considerations for humiliation play Using kink therapeutically-- what’s helpful & what’s dangerous Shame & BDSM Balancing real-world power dynamics with kink D/s Cultivating emotional intelligence through erotic play & more ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 174 Links  Watts the Safeword Website http://www.wattsthesafeword.com/ Watts The Safeword YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCokRyLsHxh-NykvT4uA6n2g Watts the Safeword Twitter https://twitter.com/WattsTheSafewrd Amp Somers Twitter https://twitter.com/PupAmp Watts the Safeword Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wattsthesafeword/ Watts the Safeword Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WattsTheSafeword/ Humiliation & Edgeplay Watts Your Safeword Podcast with Sunny Megatron https://open.spotify.com/episode/4N4Zs4YK3oUmLMotZfndQQ?si=L_bk1U81TFWq2WjT2GbfGQ Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook <a href= "

1 hr 12 min
Oct 25, 2021Episode 173
Sex, Kink & Trauma w/ Jamila M. Dawson August McLaughlin - Ep 173

Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT & August McLaughlin join us for episode 173 of American Sex Podcast to talk about sex, kink and trauma.  The pair recently wrote a book on the subject called, With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. If you’re a human you likely have trauma and whether you realize it or not, it can affect your connection to pleasure.  Some of what we cover in this conversation: What trauma is/isn’t If “fuck” is a trauma response like fight/flight/freeze/fawn Trauma & the mind/body connection Why some people find BDSM therapeutic The difference between subspace & dissociation Being trauma-aware in sex-positive communities Neurodivergence, trauma & sex As heavy as the subject seems, per our usual, we approach the subject with lightheartedness and lots of laughs! Life is too short to be serious all the time 😉 ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 173 Links  Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT Website: https://fireandflowtherapy.com Jamila Dawson Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jamila_Dawson Jamila Dawson Instagram: http://instagram.com/jamila.thesextherapist Jamila Dawson Facebook: http://facebook.com/jamiladawson Jamila Dawson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamila-dawson-2a033b2b/ August McLaughlin Website: https://augustmclaughlin.com/ August McLaughlin Podcast: https://augustmclaughlin.com/podcast/ August McLaughlin Twitter: https://twitter.com/augstmclaughlin August McLaughlin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/augustmclaughlin/ Girl Boner Podcast Instagram https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ August McLaughlin Facebook: https://w

1 hr 32 min
Oct 18, 2021Episode 172
BDSM Education Freestyle with Sunny Megatron - Ep 172

On episode 172 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron free-styles BDSM education, gives helpful tips, and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed: Benign masochism & the neuroscience of BDSM Myths about sadomasochism and the notion that pain = pleasure Examining the WHY behind our attraction to certain kinks The surprising relationship between BDSM & sex  Kinksters on the neurodivergent and asexual spectrums The differences between subspace & domspace How community affects kinksters that aren’t involved in community Platonic kink & the “dynamic escalator” The many types of kinksters How dangerous BDSM misinformation spreads on the internet Consensual non-consent & the latest research on rape fantasies ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 172 Links Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/ Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B0776PYDNM&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_WFW3MV22QFGNPEMR6T4F Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle – Nagoski https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin

1 hr 32 min
Oct 11, 2021Episode 171
Pleasure Education w/ Stefanos & Shay - Ep 171

Want to be a sex or kink educator? Or become a better one? Maybe you’re a student wondering how to better vet the instructors you learn from? Stefanos and Shay join us for ep 171 of American Sex Podcast to talk about pleasure education. During the pandemic, the mainstreaming of virtual classes caused demand for kink and sex ed to skyrocket. The number of brand new “educators” teaching ethically questionable and dangerous techniques has exploded too. We discuss what you can do as a student or instructor to help combat lack of diversity and quality education in kink & sex ed, the ethics of teaching in a sexually charged setting, dos and don’ts for presenters, tips for attendees on mastering challenging material, red and green flags students can look for when vetting educators or online educational content creators, and more. Stefanos and Shay literally wrote the book on this subject – Creating Captivating Classes: A Guide for Kink, Sexuality, and Relationship Presenters, which includes input from more than a dozen well-known educators.    ___________________________________ --Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] --To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) --Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com --Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter               Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 171 Links Stefanos & Shay Website https://www.stefanosandshay.com/about-us/ Shay Twitter https://twitter.com/ShayBlondie Stefanos Twitter https://twitter.com/MaestroStefanos Creating Captivating Classes (support Wicked Grounds!) https://wickedgrounds.com/Creating-Captivating-Classes-p395828583 Creating Captivating Classes (Amazon)  https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Captivating-Classes-Relationship-Presenters/dp/0578942240/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=creating+captivating&qid=1633842365&sr=8-2 Creating captivating classes academic review <a href= "https://teachingpals.wordpress.com/