ADHD reWired

In this episode, Eric sits down with Alyece Smith, business coach, TEDx speaker, autism advocate, and founder of Socially Ausome, for a candid conversation about ADHD, masking, burnout, boundaries, and what it really takes to build systems that fit your brain. Alyece shares how her son's autism diagnosis changed the way she understood neurodivergence, her own ADHD, and the cost of trying to operate like everyone else. After leaving corporate to prioritize her son's care, she built a successful business quickly, but found herself overdelivering, people-pleasing, working late into the night, and burning out despite outward success. Together, Eric and Alyece explore why "inconsistency" is often misunderstood, especially for ADHDers. They talk about under-stimulation, energy management, spark times, decision fatigue, boundaries, and why sustainable follow-through usually requires better support, not more shame. Alyece also introduces her F.L.O.W. First Thinking framework: Find your spark times, Link boring tasks with stimulation, Organize your overflow, and Work your week around your peaks. This conversation is practical, validating, and useful for anyone who has ever felt scattered, overextended, or exhausted from trying to work against their own brain. Summary In this episode, Eric sits down with Alyece Smith — business coach, TEDx speaker, autism mom, and founder of Socially Ausome — for a candid conversation about what it really looks like to build a business with an ADHD brain. Alyece shares how her son's autism diagnosis cracked open her own understanding of neurodivergency, eventually leading her to leave corporate, launch a six-figure business, burn out spectacularly, and rebuild everything on her own terms. She introduces her F.L.O.W. First Thinking framework, breaks down why consistency advice fails ADHDers, and explains why energy management — not time management — is the real key to sustainable success. This one is raw, practical, and deeply validating for any entrepreneur who has ever felt scattered, burnt out, or like they're just not built for the traditional business model. Key Takeaways You're not scattered — you're bored. ADHD brains are chronically under-stimulated. What looks like inconsistency is really a dopamine regulation issue. Energy management beats time management. Work during your brain's natural peak times (your chronotype) — not just whenever the calendar says to. Boundaries are a business strategy. Burnout wasn't from working hard — it was from having no limits with clients or herself. "That's not in our contract, but I'm happy to invoice you" was a turning point. Masking is exhausting and expensive. Pretending to be neurotypical burns energy that could fuel your actual work. Coming out publicly as ADHD was terrifying — and completely freeing. The 48-hour rule for pivots. Before burning something down, sit with it 48 hours. Still fired up? Probably a real signal. Not? Likely boredom or fear. Systems aren't one-size-fit

This is not a typical ADHD reWired episode. This is a special, time-sensitive episode for listeners who are considering joining the next season of ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. If you've been thinking, "I need more structure," "I can't keep doing this alone," or "I know what to do, but I'm struggling to follow through," this episode is for you. In this short announcement episode, Eric explains: Who ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups are for Why structure works better when it comes with support, repetition, and accountability What makes this group different from a self-paced course or passive learning experience How pre-registration works Why completing pre-registration soon matters if you want to attend one of the final registration events ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups is an intensive 8-week coaching and accountability program for adults with ADHD. The program includes group coaching three times per week, accountability teams starting in Week 3, daily top-3 priority check-ins, practical systems, peer support, and a whole lot of "Oh thank goodness, it's not just me." Registration is time-sensitive, and pre-registration is required before attending a registration event. Start here: Learn more and begin pre-registration at coachingrewired.com Links Mentioned ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups https://www.coachingrewired.com Start Pre-Registration https://www.adhdrewired.com/registration3steps/ ADHD reWired Website https://www.adhdrewired.com Adult Study Hall Virtual Coworking Community https://www.adultstudyhall.com Support ADHD reWired on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/adhdrewired

Episode topic: ADHD, sex, desire discrepancy, intimacy, communication, kink, queerness, polyamory, and what happens when libido doesn't match in relationships. Content note: This episode includes candid adult conversation about sex, desire, libido, kink, dating apps, polyamory, and sexual communication. Episode Summary What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? What if ADHD affects libido in both directions? And what if "just do it" is actually some of the worst advice out there? In this episode, Eric is joined by Laura Jurgens, a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and host of The Desire Gap podcast. Laura helps individuals and couples create more authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent. Eric and Laura get into a candid, shame-free conversation about ADHD, sex, mismatched libido, desire discrepancies, rejection sensitivity, sensory needs, communication, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about what they actually want. Laura explains why desire differences are incredibly common in long-term relationships, why obligation sex can create resentment and shut down libido, and how ADHD can shape both high and low desire. She also shares how people can begin reconnecting with their bodies, practicing self-attunement, and communicating more clearly with partners. The conversation also explores sex positivity, kink positivity, queer dating, bisexuality, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and the importance of honest, embodied consent. This episode is frank, playful, personal, and deeply human. In This Episode, You'll Hear About Why desire discrepancy is common in long-term relationships How ADHD can contribute to both high libido and low libido Why "just do it" is terrible advice for mismatched desire The difference between sex for connection and sex for nervous system regulation How obligation sex can lead to resentment, shutdown, pain, or sexual dysfunction Why a partner can start to feel like a "tool" or "medication" when sex becomes self-regulation The role of dopamine, novelty, and hyperfocus in ADHD sexuality Why some ADHDers struggle to get out of their heads and into their bodies How stress, burnout, and nervous system activation can shut down libido Why self-attunement is a key starting point for intimacy How alexithymia can complicate emotional and sexual communication What "sex positive" and "kink positive" can actually mean Why embodied consent matters more than intellectual "I guess this is fine" consent How kink communities can model explicit communication and negotiation The risks of opening a relationship when the relationship is already disconnected Why polyamory requires a high level of trust, communication, and self-awareness Dating while bisexual, queer, neurodivergent, or exploring new relational identities How to disclose needs and patterns without using ADHD as a "get out of jail free" card Why communicating abou

In this live Q&A episode, Eric Tivers and ADHD reWired coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts answer listener questions about the overlap between ADHD and autism (AuDHD), and how to better understand your brain through both coaching and therapy. They explore how coaching and therapy serve different—but complementary—roles, especially when it comes to turning insight into action. You'll hear practical examples of how to use each space effectively, whether you're job searching, working through burnout, or trying to follow through on what matters. Eric also breaks down the concept of monotropism—a lesser-known but powerful way to understand autistic attention—and how it differs from ADHD hyperfocus. Later in the episode, the conversation turns to late autism diagnosis, self-identification, and the emotional impact of finally understanding yourself through a new lens. Eric shares openly about his own diagnosis and how it's shaped his relationships, self-compassion, and recovery from burnout. They also tackle questions about: Why autism is often diagnosed earlier than ADHD in children How to advocate for your child when concerns are dismissed Auditory processing challenges and sensory sensitivity The growing conversation around self-diagnosis This is a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply validating conversation about what it means to better understand how your brain works—and what to do with that understanding. KEY TAKEAWAYS Coaching helps with execution and follow-through, while therapy focuses on emotional processing Monotropism explains long-term, topic-based focus often seen in autistic individuals Late autism diagnosis can lead to increased self-compassion and clarity Self-diagnosis can be valid when grounded in thoughtful research and reflection Sensory and auditory processing challenges are often context- and stress-dependent Advocacy is essential when concerns about children are dismissed

Pre-registration for the ADHD reWired Coaching Groups is due Thursday. Registration events are happening Thursday and Friday. The next group starts next week. 👉 For exact dates, times, and next steps, go to: https://www.coachingrewired.com This episode includes a short, experimental song made with Suno Ai explaining the coaching groups. If you're listening after the registration window closes, future groups will be announced on the website.

What if the reason you haven't finished the thing you keep thinking about isn't motivation, discipline, or follow-through — but fit? In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done. They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry "someday projects" for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isn't just about identity — it's about designing systems that work with your nervous system instead of against it. Writing is the case study. Adaptation is the point. In This Episode, We Talk About Why motivation isn't the real problem for ADHD and AuDHD adults How an interest-based nervous system shapes creativity and follow-through The role of structure, deadlines, and external accountability in finishing big projects ADHD, autism, and the balance between novelty and predictability Unmasking your process and letting go of "normal" ways of working Why you don't have to love the process to do meaningful work Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and surviving the one-star review Dictation, movement, printing drafts, and other non-traditional workflows How support, containers, and community make progress possible A Key Takeaway You don't need to become more disciplined. You need a container that fits. When the system works for your brain, the work has a chance to happen. About the Guest Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD is an AuDHD coach, educator, and author. She holds a PhD in education, is trained through the International ADHD Coach Training Center and Impact Parents, and is currently studying to become a mental health counselor. Katherine is the author of The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls and is currently working on her second book focused on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Website: https://catherinemuttidriscoll.com Book (The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls, New Harbinger): https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648482809/the-adhd-workbook-for-teen-girls/ Resources & Links Mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, resources, and programs): https://www.adhdrewired.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: https://www.adhdrewired.com/arc Adult Study Hall (ADHD-friendly virtual coworking): https://www.adultstudyhall.com Internal Family Systems (IFS / parts work): https://ifs-institute.com Interest-Based Nervous System (ADDitude overview): https://www.additudemag.com/interest-based-adhd-nervous-system/

If you've ever had a week where your intentions were solid… and your follow-through vanished into the void, you're not alone. In this episode, Eric is joined by writer, teacher, and ADHD coach Paulette Perhach, who shares the FINISH framework: a simple, ADHD-friendly approach to actually completing projects, building consistency, and getting unstuck. Paulette's take is refreshingly honest: ADHD can feel like the superpower and the kryptonite at the same time. She talks about getting diagnosed at 38, learning to ask for accommodations without shame, and building systems that support creative work… even when your brain fights you every step of the way. This conversation is part practical strategy, part nervous-system-friendly encouragement, and very "you're not broken, you're under-supported." ✅ In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why ADHD brains often need "fake stakes" (engineered urgency) to follow through How to break big goals into small increments that create momentum The importance of nixing distractions (without relying on willpower) How to protect hyperfocus and use it intentionally instead of accidentally Why community and body doubling are so powerful for ADHD How self-compassion becomes a real strategy, not just a nice idea What to do when you're having a "bad brain day" and can't access your usual tools 🧠 The FINISH Framework (Six Elements to Finish Anything) Paulette breaks down the acronym FINISH: F — Fake Stakes ADHD motivation often needs emotional urgency. Fake stakes are "real enough" accountability: deadlines, commitments, public accountability, or putting something on the calendar that makes it harder to ghost your own goal. I — Increment Instead of "write the book," aim for 500 words a day. Small daily targets create dopamine, progress, and trust. N — Nix Distractions This is about designing your environment so you don't have to wrestle your brain all day long. Tools like app blockers (Freedom App) and external reminders can support focus. I — Immerse Make space to hyperfocus on purpose by doing the planning/admin work ahead of time. Paulette calls this a weekly "writer's refresh" to calm the nervous system and reduce background stress. S — Share Community matters. Body doubling matters. Doing things with other people (even silently) can dramatically increase follow-through. H — Hype This one is about self-talk and emotional regulation. Exercise, meditation, and kindness toward yourself aren't luxuries, they're performance tools for ADHD brains. 🔥 Standout Moments Paulette's line: "My version of consistency is that I get back up every time I fall down." The difference between luxury vs. accommodation, especially when traveling Eric's take on requesting extra time to board flights and why it can be a legitimate accommodation The idea that shame doesn't create change (it creates shutdown) Why ADHD-friendly success often looks like iteration, not perfection 🎧 ADHD-Friendly Takeaway If your brain only gives you one usable step today, l

In the final Q&A of 2025, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired coach Brian for a candid, intimate conversation about ADHD, AuDHD, burnout recovery, unmasking, grief, and what it looks like to rebuild momentum without torching your nervous system in the process. They answer listener questions ranging from "what I wish I knew before my autism diagnosis" to "what burnout actually looks like," and they zoom out to something simple but powerful: community and accountability aren't "nice extras," they're often the difference between knowing what helps and actually doing it. Also: a listener puts Eric in the hot seat about getting back to pickleball… and it turns into real-time accountability, immediate action, and a follow-up update that he's now going 3–4 times a week. In this episode, we cover Personal updates: burnout recovery, nervous system capacity, and Eric's autism diagnosis Why AuDHD can increase burnout risk (and why recovery can take longer than you expect) Brian's reflections on exploring autism and recognizing long-term burnout patterns Unmasking: what it really means (beyond "coming out") and how it impacts relationships The balance between honoring your needs while still caring about impact on others Grief and burnout: how loss affects the nervous system, energy, and expectations What burnout looks like in real life: apathy, feeling rudderless, skill regression, and "my usual motivators aren't working" Eric's working theme for the year: attunement (listening to self, body, and capacity) Favorite AI tools right now: thinking partner, planning support, and everyday practical use Autism assessment options in Chicago (including what worked for Eric) A playful-but-serious accountability moment that leads to real behavior change Listener Q&A highlights What are your favorite AI tools right now? Eric and Brian share how they're using ChatGPT in everyday life and personal/professional planning, including using AI to organize thoughts, support self-reflection, help with decisions, and even analyze photos for practical problem-solving. What do you wish you'd known before being diagnosed autistic? Eric talks about high-masking autism, and how repeated success can quietly raise internal expectations year after year… until the nervous system taps out. How has grief impacted your nervous system and burnout? Eric reflects on losing his dad (and grandmother), how grief shows up unexpectedly, and choosing to let grief be grief rather than trying to "bounce back" on a schedule. What does burnout look like for you? Eric describes burnout as apathy, feeling rudderless, needing far more recovery time, anxiety no longer activating last-minute productivity, and struggling to do even the helpful things (like exercise/pickleball). What's the smallest step I can take to get back into pickleball? A listener challenges Eric to take one tiny step… and it becomes immediate action, membership sign-up, and later consistency. Resources mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, program

Join us! Hey, it’s Eric. So, uh — I wasn’t actually planning to record this… but I wanted to hop on for a minute, because this is it. We’ve got our last two registration events this week before our Fall ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups begin. They’re happening Tuesday, October 14th, and Friday, October 17th — and after that, doors close until next year. Over the past ten years, we’ve worked with more than 1,200 ADHDers — helping folks build systems that actually stick… and the resilience to bounce back when they don’t. Because let’s be honest — sometimes they don’t. That’s kind of the point, right? Learning how to keep showing up, even when your brain makes that hard. If you’ve been listening for a while and thinking, “Maybe someday I’ll do that,” — maybe this is that someday. And if you can’t make one of the registration events, it’s okay — once you finish pre-registration, you can also schedule a 1:1 registration call with me. Our Fall groups start October 23rd, so now’s the time to jump in. Just head over to coachingrewired.com to get started. Again, that’s coachingrewired.com. Hope I’ll see you soon.

"I'm Fine": What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, I've been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience — and his signature phrase: "I'm fine." He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasn't fine at all. In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting — and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for himself, to the senior living community he resisted but came to love, my dad's story is a mirror for the ways we all struggle with change, masking, and accepting support. I also talk about my own journey: being diagnosed with ADHD at 19, and more recently, with autism — a diagnosis that really came into focus during a season of burnout. Like my dad, I've had to learn that determination isn't enough. Saying "I'm fine" isn't enough. What matters is adapting — and allowing ourselves to receive help when we need it. If you've ever caught yourself saying "I'm fine" when you're not, this one's for you. In This Episode The phrase my dad used that wasn't always true — "I'm fine." How his resistance to adapting shaped my understanding of masking. The trike that gave him joy he wouldn't have chosen for himself. Why moving into a senior living community became one of the best decisions he never wanted to make. What his struggles taught me about ADHD, autism, burnout, and learning to adapt. Resources & Links Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com Join our virtual co-working community: adultstudyhall.com Support the podcast on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired

🧠 Episode Summary: Are you building a business (or a life) that supports your life—or one that runs you into the ground? In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by business systems coach and automation strategist Stephanie Blake. Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Stephanie shares how simplifying her business, embracing structure, and getting honest about burnout helped her reclaim her energy and build a business that works for her, not the other way around. They talk about the unique ways ADHD brains thrive with streamlined systems, why too many tools can be a trap, and how authenticity and self-awareness fuel sustainable success. If you've ever felt overwhelmed trying to do all the things, this episode is your permission slip to do less—better. You'll also hear tips for where to start with automation, how to avoid shiny object syndrome, and why consistency matters more than complexity. ⏱️ Timestamps & Topics: 00:00 – Intro 02:02 – Stephanie's story: diagnosis, business, and burnout 06:11 – "Simplify to scale": the ADHD-friendly approach to business 11:58 – Tools and systems that actually help (and what to ditch) 18:05 – Where to start with automation (without breaking your brain) 21:42 – The myth of doing it all—and why solo doesn't mean alone 26:39 – What's behind our addiction to new tools 30:14 – The power of community and authenticity in building your brand 35:20 – Why revisiting your systems is a must, not a maybe 38:17 – Final thoughts: automate the right things, at the right time 40:36 – Learn more from Stephanie + Fall Coaching Groups are open! 👤 Guest Bio: Stephanie Blake is the founder of the Simple Business School and Simple Business Suites. She helps entrepreneurs scale to six figures and beyond by simplifying their business systems, automating strategically, and building offers that align with their values. As a mom, a CEO, and an ADHDer, Stephanie believes in doing business your way—and building something that lasts. 🌐 Learn more at: theblakecollective.com 📱 Instagram: @theblakecollective 🔧 Tools & Resources Mentioned: ClickUp – Project Management Airtable – Databases / Organizing Everything Zapier – Automation StreamYard – Live Streaming Platform 🚀 Learn More & Take Action 🧭 Fall 2025 Coaching Groups are open for registration! If you're ready to finally get support, structure, and accountability that works for your ADHD brain, then come join us. Join our next Registration Event: 📅 Friday, October 3rd at 12pm Central OR 📅 Thursday, October 9th at 10am Central October 3rd: $1699 October 9th (Late Reg): $1899 📆 3- and 6-month payment plans available! 🔗 Start your pre-registration now at www.coachingrewired.com 🌐 Learn more about: Adult Study Hall (Virtual co-working): www.adultstudyhall.com Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired 🎧 Listen & Share If this episode helped you feel less alone or gave you a new perspective on how to run your business or your life with ADHD, share it with a friend—or on social! Use #

What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life. This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portia's SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)—a simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk about support squads, the hidden cost of hustle culture, and what it means to choose rest without shame. If you've been running on empty, carrying grief, or just wondering if there's another way forward, this conversation is for you. 00:00 – Introduction: Shame Free Wellness and unlearning harmful beliefs 01:07 – Welcome to ADHD Rewired, host Eric Tivers introduces the show 01:31 – Eric shares personal news: loss of his father and recent illness 03:06 – Portia Preston joins: author, speaker, and executive coach 05:36 – Portia discusses the motivation behind her book and the concept of sustainable rhythm 07:54 – The SANE Cycle: a four-step process for self-reflection and growth 08:49 – Book launch experiences, balancing promotion, and authenticity 10:57 – Defining "hustle" and "flow" in the context of wellness 13:00 – Letting go: the challenge and importance of releasing what doesn't serve you 15:21 – The SANE model explained: Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate 17:06 – Portia's favorite part of the book and audience reactions 17:52 – Break: Coaching and accountability group info - ADHD Rewired Coaching & Accountability Groups - ADHD Rewired Virtual Coworking Community 18:48 – Grief, burnout, and the importance of sitting with discomfort 22:00 – Building a support squad and the difference between solitude and isolation 25:00 – Neurodivergence, intersectionality, and Portia's experience as a Black woman with ADHD and autism 29:00 – Audience feedback on the book and the importance of vulnerability 33:00 – Shame Free Wellness Manifesto (read aloud) 35:44 – The importance of rest, authenticity, and self-acceptance 39:00 – Context shifting, capacity vs. discipline, and self-compassion - Dr. Raquel Martin on Instagram: @drraquelmartin 43:00 – Teaching students about shame-free wellness and legacy 46:00 – Grief, community, and turning pain into purpose 49:00 – The value of showing up authentically and embracing imperfection 52:00 – Where to find Portia's book and connect online - Book: "Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go: A Guide to Shame-Free Wellness" • PortiaPreston.com • Amazon Book Link - Instagram: @drportiapreston 54:00 – Closing thoughts: SANE model reminder and encouragement 56:00 – Outro: gratitude and next steps

People-pleasing isn't a personality flaw—often it's a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita's "Empower → Resilient → Authentic" model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anita's links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com. Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP — therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English & Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways. We cover: People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking ADHD & RSD: why "neutral" feedback stings and how regulation shifts it Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent/BPD) Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the "victim narcissist" pattern) Anita's staged model (Stages of Change × grief work): Unaware → Aware → Ready → Action → Maintenance → Integration (Empowered → Resilient → Authentic) Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation Eric's EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation Try this: Notice your next automatic "yes." Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before/during/after. Resources mentioned: Anita Sandoval — anitasandoval.com (course: Empower Her Pathways) Broken Chains (English/Spanish) Dr. Ramani's work on narcissism (Should I Stay or Should I Go?) Modalities: EMDR, IFS/Parts, Polyvagal-informed approaches Coaching & community: Evening Coaching Group — interest survey We're exploring a fall evening section (proposed Wed, Sept 18 • 5pm PT / 8pm ET) led by ADHD reWired Coach & LCSW Kristin Marts, at a budget-friendly rate (starting at $999) if we move forward. Deadline to weigh in: Aug 15. Take the short survey at www.coachingrewired.com. Complete the survey to enter to win 6 months free in our Alumni community ($240 value) or 1 year free of Adult Study Hall ($240 value). Adult Study Hall (ASH) — virtual co-working & body doubling. Free 1-week trial, then $19.99/mo or $150/yr at www.adultstudyhall.com. Connect with Anita: www.anitasandoval.com | Podcast: Empowering Women in Conversations

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What is OCD, really? It's far more than the stereotypes of handwashing, tapping, or lining up your pens just right. On today's episode, Eric is joined by Natalia Aíza — a therapist, parent, writer, and co-founder of Kairos Wellness Collective — who specializes in supporting individuals and families navigating OCD and anxiety. Together, they explore how OCD can show up in less obvious ways, especially for those with ADHD. You'll hear: ✅ Why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed in ADHD brains ✅ How intense nostalgia, perfectionism, and social media checking can all be forms of OCD ✅ The difference between typical anxiety and OCD ✅ Why intrusive thoughts don't define you ✅ How exposure response prevention (ERP) and medication can help ✅ Eric's own reflections on healing unexpected layers through EMDR and discovering his autism If you've ever felt stuck in mental loops, struggled with perfectionism, or wondered whether your patterns might be more than "just" ADHD, this episode is for you. Learn more about Natalia Aiza and Kairos Wellness Collective: 👉 Instagram: @letstalk.ocd 👉 Kairos Wellness Collective: kairoswellnesscollective.com 👉 Email: [email protected] Ready to take the next step with your ADHD? Don't miss our second 2nd chance Registration Event for the summer ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups on Thrusday, July 10. Visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and secure your spot.

Support Comes from ADHD reWIred's Coaching and Accountability Groups. Summer Sessions are July 24 - Sept 18. Join us at our next registration event on July 10th. Learn more by going to www.coachingrewired.com Episode Overview: In this episode, Eric is joined by Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA, psychologist, international presenter, and author of the new "ADHD Productivity Manual." Together, they dive deep into the realities of productivity for people with ADHD, exploring motivation, activation, self-compassion, and practical strategies for getting things done. Key Topics Discussed: The difference between motivation and activation, and why both matter for ADHD brains How perfectionism and unrealistic expectations can sabotage progress The importance of understanding your "why" for each task, not just the "what" Social aspects of productivity: people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and communicating when you can't meet a deadline Real-world strategies and creative hacks from Ari, Eric, and their clients (including timers, accountability, and engineering urgency) The value of celebrating small wins and tracking progress over time Self-compassion and letting go of impossible standards How to build systems that work for your unique brain, not just follow generic advice Guest Bio: Dr. Ari Tuckman is a leading ADHD expert, psychologist, and author of five books, including the "ADHD Productivity Manual." He brings decades of clinical experience and a practical, compassionate approach to helping people thrive with ADHD. Resources & Links: Learn more about Ari and his books: adultadhdbook.com Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com Check out Adult Study Hall for virtual coworking: adultstudyhall.com Support the Show: Become a patron for bonus content and monthly coaching calls: adhdrewired.com/patreon Sign up for the newsletter and get episode resources: adhdrewired.com Takeaway: You're not broken, and you don't have to do hard things the hardest way or alone. Progress is possible—one step, one system, and one act of self-com

🎧 Special Announcement: Alumni Voices + Your Chance to Join ADHD reWired In this special announcement episode of ADHD reWired, Eric shares something a little different: a powerful 10-minute audio montage of alumni from our most recent coaching group — voices from ADHDers just like you who finished the program not long ago. You'll hear, in their own words, why they joined, what they were struggling with, and what changed for them over 8 weeks of coaching, accountability, and connection. From burnout and overwhelm to self-doubt and shame, these stories highlight the real transformations that can happen with the right support. 👉 Our second-chance registration event is Thursday, June 26th at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern! ✅ Pre-registration is due by Wednesday, June 25th at least 24 hours before the event. 📝 Session details: Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern July 24th through September 18th 💥 Ready to join us? Here's your next step: 1️⃣ Go to coachingrewired.com 2️⃣ If you're not already on our interest list, click the button to join 3️⃣ Check your email and confirm your address so you don't miss anything When you join the interest list, you'll also get: A free time tracker we use in group A letter you can share with your employer about the program 🎧 Even if joining this season isn't possible for you, we hope these alumni stories remind you: 👉 You're not alone. 👉 You can do hard things — and you don't have to do them the hardest way possible.

🎧 Episode Overview Join host Eric Tivers and three incredible panelists—Nathan James, Meg Zirger, and Christal Wang—for the second-annual Neurodivergent Queer Pride panel, organized by Shimmer. In this landmark conversation, we explore: Masking vs. Unmasking: Why hiding feels safe and how reclaiming your authentic self fuels resilience. Intersectional Identities: How ADHD, autism, and LGBTQ+ pride intersect—and why that intersection is a source of strength. Political Climate online ADHD coaching platform) ▸ Co-founder & panel host: Christal Wang 👉 https://www.shimmerplatform.com Adult Study Hall (24/7 ADHD-friendly coworking) 👉 https://www.adultstudyhall.com 💡 Next Steps Subscribe to ADHD reWired so you never miss an episode. Share this episode with friends who identify as neurodivergent, queer, or allies. Explore our summer Coaching & Accountability Groups to turn these insights into real-world growth. Your whole self belongs. Let's celebrate, connect, and thrive—together.

In episode 550 of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers sits down with Dr. Shannan Palma to explore Decide—a suite of AI-powered decision-support tools built by and for neurodivergent brains. Throughout this conversation, you'll hear about: How Decide leverages AI (Gemini and large language models) to help with everyday choices and multi-step tasks. The story behind IT Assistive Technologies and the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network. Real-world examples of "decision fatigue" and how Decide's guided and randomized features ease choice paralysis. The balance between AI assistance and human insight—and why a trusting, well-prompted tool can feel like a personal neurodivergent life coach. Pricing, privacy, and the community-focused mission: 85 percent of ITI's profits fund disability-led initiatives. Bonus segments on Pride Month, coaching groups, virtual coworking, and how to get involved with ADHD reWired's summer programs. Use these show notes to get a quick overview, find useful links, and discover why Decide might become your new go-to when you're stuck choosing dinner, figuring out a daily routine, or simply need a gentle "nudge" to move forward. Episode Summary Dr. Shannan Palma—co-founder of Decide and co-director of the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network—joins Eric to unpack how tools designed by autistic and ADHD adults can transform decision making for all of us. Shannan shares her own late autism and ADHD diagnoses, the challenges she faced finding resources after getting "the piece of paper," and how a 48-hour hackathon sparked a project that won first prize and secured nearly $400 k in grant funding. From door-dash dilemmas to life-altering choices (like whether to adopt a foster dog), Decide offers two core modes: Randomized Choice Generator Users create custom lists (e.g., favorite restaurants, daily routines) and assign energy costs. The app selects an option based on your current energy level—no more breakfast indecision or "what to watch next" paralysis. Guided Decision Assistance A series of friendly, "affirmative" prompts mirror a real-time coach. By reflecting back your own criteria (energy, resources, priorities), Decide delivers a percentage-confidence recommendation and rationale—so you can make a defensible, informed choice without overthinking. Along the way, Shannan emphasizes the importance of privacy (your data always belongs to you), ethical AI (focusing on "do no harm"), and how Decide's freemium model avoids the "ADHD tax" by offering 10 free guided decisions per month. Premium access is available for $4.99/month, but you can cancel at any time without losing progress. Key Takeaways Why "Decision Fatigue" Matters: Neurodivergent brains often struggle with countless small choices (e.g., "What's for dinner?"). Decide's randomized generator isn't just for fun—it reduces executive-function load by factoring in your energy level and pre-ranked options. Guided Mode = Personalized Neurodivergent Coaching: Instead of writing com

Summer coaching groups start on July 24th. LIstners can save $200 by signing up at the registration kickoff event on June 18th. Learn more and get on the interest list at www.coachingrewired.com Eric shares updates about prioritizing sustainable energy practices and coping with recent family challenges, including the passing of his grandmother and his father's health issues. The main segment features Dr. Shannon Palma, founder and CEO of ITI Assistive Technologies, discussing her late autism and ADHD diagnoses. She shares insights into her decades-long journey with executive function challenges, her comprehensive self-diagnosis process, and the development of support tools for neurodivergent adults. Shannon and Eric delve deeply into the nuances of autistic and ADHD burnout, the differences between autistic burnout and occupational burnout, and the challenges of masking and managing sensory sensitivities. The episode also reveals the host's own recent autism diagnosis, providing a reflective and personal perspective on understanding neurodivergence. The episode wraps up with contact information and a teaser for a follow-up episode focusing more on Shannon's work and the host's continued exploration of his diagnosis. https://itiassist.com https://autisticselfreliance.org/ 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:30 Eric's Personal Updates and Challenges 05:12 Guest Introduction: Dr. Shannon Palma 06:32 Shannon's Diagnosis Journey 09:42 Sensory Sensitivities and Family Traits 16:56 Burnout and Neurodivergence ADS 26:56 Support and Community 28:36 Join Coaching Rewired This Summer 28:42 Introducing Adult Study Hall 30:54 Exploring Autism and ADHD 34:12 Self-Diagnosis and Professional Insights 35:29 Navigating Social Cues and Sensory Sensitivities 40:35 Understanding Neural Processing 46:56 Social Interactions and Coping Strategies 53:37 Wrapping Up and Contact Information

What happens when two ADHDers realize there's more to the story? In this deeply personal and exploratory episode, Eric is joined by his friend and fellow coach, Portia Jackson Preston, for an honest, vulnerable, and unmasked conversation about discovering—later in life—that they're not just ADHD… they're also autistic. April is Autism Acceptance Month and there's no better time to peel back the layers. Eric and Portia share their parallel journeys of exploring what it means to be AuDHD, how autism was hiding in plain sight for both of them, and how late diagnosis is reshaping their self-understanding, their relationships, their parenting, and their work. Together, they unpack: What unmasking looks like—and feels like—especially when it's not a conscious choice Why self-diagnosis is valid and often necessary How intersecting identities impact recognition and diagnosis The grief and growth that come with seeing your past through a new lens Why autistic burnout hit both of them so hard (and what they're doing now to recover) And how this shift is impacting their businesses, boundaries, and sense of self You'll also hear about how EMDR therapy played a pivotal role in both of their journeys, how the Johari Window concept reframed Eric's understanding of his blind spots, and how reconnecting with their full, authentic selves has allowed for deeper joy—even in the weirdest places (like dancing at a Phish show with hand flaps in full glory). This is the kind of conversation that gives others permission to explore, to question, and to be. 👉 Related links it's a survival tool. You don't have to prove your neurodivergence to anyone. It's okay to change. It's okay to grieve. And it's okay to rest.

🎙 Guest Info: Today's guest, Elise Fillmore, is a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, bestselling author, and the founder of QueerdCo Elise focuses on identity-based finance, helping people navigate money through the lens of their lived experiences, challenges, and strengths. She's also the author of Keeping Finance Personal and the host of the Dopamine Dollars podcast. 💡 Episode Highlights: How traditional financial advice often fails neurodivergent people Why financial planning should be tailored to your identity, lifestyle, and brain Strategies for making money management less overwhelming and more engaging The importance of automation and dopamine-driven finance systems Why shame and financial struggles are often systemic, not personal failings Common financial myths and why some mainstream advice (like Dave Ramsey's) doesn't work for ADHDers Practical ways to infuse joy into budgeting and create sustainable financial habits How to set up "fun money" accounts and make saving more rewarding Why financial tools and strategies "expire" for ADHDers – and what to do about it The role of external accountability in managing money 📌 Resources & Links: Elise Fillmore's Website: www.queerdco.com Instagram: @elisefillmore TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ellycefulmore Book: Keeping Finance Personal – Available in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook https://amzn.to/3FxRpCf Podcast: Dopamine Dollars – Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and more 🔗 Mentioned in This Episode: DOPA Menu: A list of dopamine-boosting activities to help manage impulsive spending 📢 Support ADHD reWired! Leave a rating & review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen Share this episode with someone who might find it helpful Become a Patreon supporter to help us keep creating great content! 🚀 Join ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups! Our Spring 2025 Coaching Groups are coming up soon! April 24 - June 19 Registration Events: March 27 & April 2 Learn more & sign up: coachingrewired.com 🖥 Adult Study Hall - ADHD reWired's Virtual Co-working community. www.adultstudyhall.com New Zen Tangle and Journal with me sessions on Sundays at 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET 🎧 Don't Miss the Next Episode! Subscribe & follow so you never miss an episode of ADHD reWired!

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies. Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives. The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communication—a framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety. Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences. Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture. 🔗 Find Chris Hooten: ChrisHootenConsulting.com | LinkedIn | Instagram 💡 Resources & Announcements: Pre-registration is now open for the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. Secure your spot at coachingrewired.com. Spring Sessions April 24 - June 19th. Join Adult Study Hall for virtual co-working and upcoming Zentangle workshops at adultstudyhall.com. Support the show on Patreon at patreon.com/ADHDrewired. 🎧 Listen Now! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast app! Contact Chris at https://chrishootenconsulting.com/ ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups: www.coachingrewired.com Adult Study Hall: www.adultstudyhall.com Eric on the Chasing Life Podcast - https://www.cnn.com/audio/podcasts/chasing-life/episodes/af3c5cb0-37bb-11ef-8219-ab8d404559ae Eric on Entrepuner on Fire https://www.eofire.com/podcast/erictivers2/ 5 Calls https://5calls.org/

In this episode of ADHD reWired, I'm pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and Accountability Groups. As I've navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, I've made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the year—sustainability—has reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast. Jessica's story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica joined our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of accountability teams to replacing old habits with more supportive ones, Jessica's transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD. This season, we've made changes to our coaching program to better support ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. We've also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth. The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If you're ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit coachingrewired.com to pre-register today. Tune in to hear Jessica's story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, let's challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.

Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management. ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called ADHD at 55 MPH. Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained. The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business. Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and accountability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured support for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about upcoming coaching sessions and community events. 1:07 Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups 01:30 Road Trip Reflections 03:47 Burnout and Sustainability 15:45 Coaching Group Success Stories 22:02 Upcoming Events and Announcements 25:36 Conclusion and Farewell Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025. Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27. Add your name to our interest list at www.coachingrewired.com It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in Adult Study Hall. Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall Members. Join today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual membership for only $150 for the year. You can also support this work on Patreon. *Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall Members in December. But we'll be back in January.

And We're Back!!! In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life, the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout. Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts. He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability. Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading members through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024. Learn more at www.AdultStudyHall.com - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your membership. Join us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at www.adhdrewired.com/events Support ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at www.Patreon.com/adhdrewired 00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired 01:19 Introduction to Season Two 02:40 Understanding Burnout 03:19 Emotional Exhaustion 04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism 06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment 07:57 Diagnosing Burnout 09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations 13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work 14:25 Upcoming Coaching Groups and Community Events 18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions 21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans

Hey, it’s Eric Tivers, host of ADHD reWired. I know it’s been a minute since our last episode, but I’ve got something important for you—especially if you’ve been thinking about joining our This season, we’re doing something a little different: an 8-week sprint instead of the usual 10. That means you’ll finish by December 5th, right before the holiday craziness kicks in. And you’ll also get access to our alumni community’s deep dive into yearly planning, so you can head into 2025 with a clear plan and momentum on your side. Now, let’s talk about pricing because I want to make this as accessible as possible. If you sign up during early registration, you can break it up into affordable payments: With PayPal Credit, qualified U.S. applicants can take advantage of 6 months interest-free payments—meaning you can pay just $199 a month. That’s it for the entire group! Or, if you prefer to pay over 3 months, you can pay $399 a month with our payment plan. Payments are made via Zelle, with a backup card on file to keep it simple. And hey, if you miss the early registration deadline, you can still use PayPal Credit to pay over 6 months, and your monthly payment will only be $233. The early bird rate ends on Thursday, September 19th, so don’t wait! Our fall sessions begin October 10th, and the final registration event is on September 26th. Registration events are at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern. Head over to coachingrewired.com, add your name to the interest list, and start the pre-registration process today. And if our registration times don’t fit your schedule, no worries—you can schedule a 1:1 registration call with me to lock in your spot. I can’t wait to see you in this next season! Thanks for listening, and stay tuned—more episodes coming your way soon.

In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels." Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropism—having a narrower field of focus—shapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing. Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that don't support their differences. This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success. Other topics discussed include: The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families The importance of community and support systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth. Connect with Mattia Mauree: Website: AUDHDFlourishing.com Podcast: AUDHD Flourishing <!-- wp:headin

In episode 541 host Eric Tivers speaks with licensed marriage and family therapist Alex Bache about digital addiction and its impact on ADHD, anxiety disorders, and OCD, particularly in adolescents and young adults. The discussion covers identifying behavioral addictions, the role of dopamine in addiction, and interventions like motivational interviewing and harm reduction. They also explore the balance between gaming for social connection and potential addiction, offering strategies for parents and individuals. Additionally, Eric updates listeners on his coaching groups and upcoming plans for the podcast. Topics Include: Addressing Digital Addiction Meet Alex Bache: Expert on Digital Behavioral Addictions Understanding Behavioral Addiction Game Transfer Phenomena Explained Interventions for Digital Addiction The Role of Harm Reduction Digital Hygiene Practices The Power of Accountability and Connection ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups Reflecting on Changes in ADHD Coaching Listener Survey Gaming and Social Connection Managing Screen Time Collaboratively Balancing Screen Time and Family Activities Recognizing Digital Addiction Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Alex at www.resetfromtech.com

Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills. Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients. The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women. Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation. Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference. Social Skills in ADHD Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions. For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships. Overcoming Social Challenges Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of remembering names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips s

In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWired's coaching programs and virtual community. ** Learn more about ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups ** Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction 09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

📣Registration is OPEN for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups - Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com 🏳️‍🌈Free Neurodivergent Pride Month Panel is this Thursday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET - Register at www.adhdrewired.com/pride2024 This week we focused on the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities, with what Eric likes to think of as "Big Heart Week." The coaches emphasized the need to direct energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment and shared their personal experiences with setting and achieving goals. The discussion also revolved around creating and reviewing bucket lists as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. Prioritizing Meaningful ActivitiesIn the latest episode of the Adhd Rewired podcast, Eric, Coach Kristen, and Coach Brian discussed the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities. The theme of the week was "Big Heart Week," focusing on issues that might be difficult to confront. Brian emphasized the significance of directing energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment rather than just productivity. Eric concurred, stressing the need to recognize the unpredictability of life and carve out time for activities that matter. The coaches shared their experiences of helping clients approach these topics and encouraged listeners to reflect on their own priorities. Discussing Personal Bucket Lists and Goals Eric encouraged members to plan for their long-term goals and dreams, and initiated a discussion about personal bucket lists. Coach shared that she has noticed a pattern among members where practical considerations, such as creating a will or planning for children, often come up when making bucket lists. This realization has led to more intentional goal-setting and planning. The group also recognized the value of sharing and knowing each other's dreams and aspirations. Shared Projects, Accomplishments, and Motivation An anecdote was shared about a person's enthusiasm and eagerness to move forward with a shared project. Eric then discussed the joy he found in seeing group members sharing their accomplished bucket list items, finding it both entertaining and inspiring. Brian, who participated in an annual bikeathon fundraiser for the Aids Life Cycle, shared his personal experience of setting a goal to participate in the event, initially hesitant due to self-doubt, but eventually realizing his capability to achieve it. His accomplishment provided him a sense of enrichment and motivation in all areas of his life. Creating and Celebrating Bucket-List Experiences Eric emphasized the importance of creating and reviewing a bucket list as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. He suggested that people should be intentional about their bucket lists, allowing themselves to enjoy the anticipation of upcoming expe

Introduction to the Episode: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners back and introduces the current season (36) of the coaching groups. Main Topic: The discussion focuses on self-care and numbing behaviors. Eric emphasizes the importance of understanding the differences between intentional self-care and behaviors that serve as emotional numbing. The context is week 6 of the program where these topics are explored in detail. Intentional Self-Care vs. Numbing: The dialogue underscores the need for mindfulness in distinguishing between self-care activities that genuinely contribute to well-being and behaviors that might temporarily mask emotional distress. Impact of Self-Care: The conversation also touches on the positive impacts of being intentional about self-care practices, possibly suggesting strategies or insights into improving mental health and managing symptoms of ADHD through mindful self-care rather than numbing. These insights reflect an ongoing commitment to addressing complex emotional behaviors in the context of managing ADHD, with a focus on improving overall mental health and awareness. *This summary was generated using Ai

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Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts join me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and accountability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and accountability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning. Come join us for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups. Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing by registering before May 27th. Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com Key Topics Discussed: Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and accountability groups. Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that support productivity and well-being. Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking. Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted. Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms. Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners. Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.

Episode Overview: Welcome back to Week 3 of the ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table! This episode dives into the intricacies of to-do lists and how to adapt them for ADHD brains. Eric, Kristen, and Brian explore how traditional productivity tools often fall short for neurodiverse individuals and share strategies to make them more effective. We're kicking off early bird registraton this week for our summer coaching groups. Take Advantage of our Early Bird Special - Join for only $999. Offer ends May 27, 2024. Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com Key Topics Discussed: Emotional Connections to ADHD and Productivity: Recap of last week's discussion on writing letters to ADHD. Importance of addressing emotional issues to enhance planning and productivity. Reimagining To-Do Lists for ADHD: Brian explains the common struggle with to-do lists designed for neurotypical people and the need to tailor these tools for ADHD brains. Exploration of different approaches to using to-do lists effectively, including bringing real-life data into coaching sessions. Common Pitfalls and Solutions: Challenges with traditional to-do list items like vague entries (e.g., "doctor") and how they create confusion and resistance. Introduction of "vision verbs" to provide clear, actionable steps. Importance of specificity and context in to-do list items to reduce the mental energy required to activate tasks. Personal Experiences and Group Insights: Kristen shares her group's emotional and vulnerable discussions about old to-do list items and the associated shame. The benefits of having accountability teams and how they integrate with to-do lists. Scaffolding and the 'Why': Eric introduces the concept of including the "why" in to-do list items to connect emotional importance with tasks, boosting motivation and activation. Examples of how understanding the "why" can make it easier to tackle tasks, such as scheduling a vet appointment for a beloved pet. Practical Tips and Next Steps: Encouragement to experiment with new strategies and understand the trade-offs in time and executive function. Teaser for next week's topic on daily and weekly planning, routines, and managing transition times between tasks. Quotes: "Think about how long we sort of wrestle with things that are just sticking around on our to-do list, or even worse, start working on a task we've already done." - Eric Tivers "Tasks often create tasks. It's just called adulting." - Eric Tivers "You can spend time on the front end or the back end, but one of them makes you feel bad." - Kristin Marts Final Thoughts: The episode concludes with a reflection on the importance of re-engineering productivity tools to suit ADHD brains, addressing both the emotional and practical aspects of task management. Stay tuned for next week's discussion on establishing effective routines and planning strategies. Hosts: Eric Tivers Kristin Marts Brian E Join us next week as we delve into the foundations of daily and weekly planning to enhance p

Description: In this episode of the Coaches Roundtable, hosted by Eric Tivers, the team gathers to reflect on the progress and insights from Week 2 of their coaching group, where we explore the relationship that we have with our ADHD. Listen in to the end to find out which coach says "F*uck You" to their ADHD and why. ADHD Letter Writing Exercise Discussion Eric initiated a discussion about the personal relationship with ADHD and the exercise of writing letters to ADHD. Kristin shared her experiences, emphasizing the therapeutic effects of externalizing her ADHD through writing, and how it helped her come to terms with her condition. Brian, on the other hand, initially found the exercise strange but later appreciated its value in processing and communicating with ADHD. Both Kristin and Brian agreed on the idea that this exercise has helped them build a deeper understanding and develop a more authentic relationship with their ADHD. Exercise for Enhancing Intimacy Awareness Brian shared his initial struggles with a particular exercise but emphasized its ultimate value in helping him become more aware of his vulnerabilities and issues with intimacy. Eric highlighted the power of the exercise in creating a sense of connection and normalizing experiences. A question arose about whether participants should be informed about the exercise's content in advance, with Kristin clarifying that such information could potentially alter the performance and resistance of participants. Personal Letter Sharing and Community Trust Eric and Kristin discussed the shift in approach towards sharing personal letters within their community. Eric expressed that he no longer insists on sharing, but encourages those who wish to do so, while Kristin emphasized the importance of respecting individual privacy and the value of vulnerability within their sharing process. They also noted that they revisit this exercise throughout the community's engagement, observing that participants continue to share and show trust in others' privacy. ADHD Experiences and Perceptions Discussion Kristin, Eric, and Brian discussed their experiences with ADHD and the impact it has on their lives. They talked about the tendency to view the current moment as a representation of the entire journey, and how this can lead to inaccurate perceptions. They emphasized the importance of acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of their ADHD, and how this can help them stay motivated to use their tools and strategies. Eric shared his recent experience of writing a letter to his ADHD, expressing both gratitude and frustration towards it. The conversation also touched on some ongoing challenges in Eric's business. Eric Addresses Financial Struggles and Adhd Eric expressed his frustrations regarding the recent financial struggles of the business and the perceived lack of attention to financial health. He also acknowledged the emotional toll the challenges have taken and thanked the team for their sup

The team discussed the success of the new coaching program, focusing on the importance of adjusting to the economy and offering affordable opportunities. They also emphasized the need for self-care and work-life balance, with personal anecdotes and reflections shared. Lastly, they reflected on their recent emotional challenge and the progress made in improving boundaries and overcoming workaholic tendencies. And Finally, Eric shared his ADHD moment of the week with group. If you're interested in joining us this summer, add your name to our interest list at www.coachingrewired.com

Today, I have some important updates for those of you interested in our Coaching and Accountability Groups. We still have a few spots open, and I want to make sure you know how you can join us! First, a quick update: our third section with Kristin is now completely full. Thanks to everyone who signed up! But don’t worry, there are still opportunities to join our other sections. We have a few openings in our early morning section with Brian, which meets Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 8 AM Pacific, that’s 11 AM Eastern. Plus, I personally have one spot left in my section which meets at 11 AM Pacific, 2 PM Eastern. If you're concerned about missing our orientation, let me assure you, it’s not too late to catch up. We’re prepared to get you up to speed quickly so you can fully participate. Now, I need to stress that time is of the essence. Our first actual coaching session kicks off this Monday, and our registration cut-off is this Wednesday. We set this deadline to ensure no one starts too far behind and can get the full benefit of our program from the beginning. You can learn more and begin the pre-registration process by visiting our website at coachingrewired.com. Simply add your name to our interest list on the homepage. Alternatively, you can text me directly at 224-636-3742 for immediate assistance with registration. And remember, enrollment is still just $999, with payment plans available to make it easier for you to join. Don’t miss this chance to gain valuable tools and join a supportive community that understands the challenges and strengths of living with ADHD.

Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you're new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I',m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we're giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That's 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin's section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That's only $166 a month. It's the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we'll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we're going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot

Mix together cello, ADHD, and an insatiable need for sushi, and you get Steven Sharp Nelson–one of the most watched musicians in the world! A self-titled "dorky dad", Steven attributes his hard-earned "unlikely" success story to his unending love for helping people feel the worth of their own soul through music. Name a concert venue–he's sold it out! Name an iconic place in the world–he's filmed a music video there with The Piano Guys! His content is watched and streamed over 3 million times every day! He's performed and spoken to two million people around the world; as much as he loves all of this, his favorite thing in the world is one-on-one time with his wife and each of his four children who "tolerate" and sometimes even love his quirky creative persona! He is passionate about music education and its critical role in our culture. Learn More about Steven Sharp Nelson: Find him on ThePianoGuys.com (The Piano Guys) (Steven Sharp Nelson) Find Steven Sharp Nelson on Instagram @stevensharpnelson (click here) Find The Piano Guys on Instagram @thepianoguys (click here) In this episode, you'll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: Steven's fascination with music's power and effect on the brain "Perpetual burnout can often be a result of unhealthy hyperfocus and overdriving your overdrive." - Steven Sharp Nelson Burnout as an indicator of your strengths rather than your weaknesses Practicing the art of self-awareness and healthy hyperfocus vs. unhealthy hyperfocus "A perfect balance does not exist!" Self-suggestibility and attention abundance "Not being present is the easiest way to be depressed." / "Face down, chin up!" The parable of the spinning (too many) plates and chronic burnout The space between the notes / The meaning of life is in between our expectations; the space between our expectations is where we find meaning Music, mutualism, edification, and the role of intention Toxic positivity vs. a genuine desire to appreciate and be grateful "You are like a cello" and navigating our unique gifts, variables, and expressions of ADHD When too many options become too much Cataloging what you're working on and what you're not working on The wax and wane of motivation / The muscles of discipline and consistency Book :: Atomic Habits by James Clear (link here) Removing obstacles between us and the things we're working towards Hyperfocus, pros and cons, expecting internal pushback, and creating a virtual cliffhanger for yourself How do you interact with your hyperfocus? Website :: Arthur Brooks https://arthurbrooks.com (click here!) The toxic belief that everything in our lives should "always be on an incline" Arc jumping and how to go from mid-life crisis to mid-life crescendo Are you bored or are you unfulfilled? A practice of fulfillment scores and finding out where your next sense of fulfillment will be YouTube Video :: Me and My Cello - Happy Together (Turtles) Cello Cover - The Piano Guys (click here!) The importance of becoming friends with

On today's episode, Clutterbug's creator Cas Aarssen joins Eric on the podcast! Cas's Clutterbug is a home-organizing business which provides education, inspiration, and support to over half a million families worldwide through her YouTube channel, podcast, and various other social media platforms! Cas is also the author of four best-selling books about organization (listed below)! As a self-professed recovering "super-slob", she discovered that through her own journey with clutter, that organization is not one-size-fits-all! She's identified four unique organizing styles and developed the Clutterbug method to help individuals discover their type and implement customized solutions that will finally get them organized long-term! Learn More about Clutterbug: Check out the website at Clutterbug.com where you can take the free quiz to identify your organizing style! (click here!) Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/clutterbug.me/ (click here!) Instagram @clutterbug https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ (click here!) YouTube Channel – search for Clutterbug (or click here!) Clutterbug's Tough Love (YouTube) (Official Site) Find all of Cas's books here https://clutterbug.me/books (click here!) In this episode, you'll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: What it was like being a hyperactive girl with ADHD From being 15 years old and homeless to becoming an adult and experiencing serious consequences How Cas became interested in home organization and being an ADHD mom – "My house was a wreck!" Big categories vs. small categories and having your house reflect the way YOU organize How an ADHD diagnosis helped change and shift a sense of self "Maybe I'm doing all this cool stuff because I have ADHD!" Having higher education does not necessarily mean you can't be great or do great things, such as having a TV show or having 4 bestselling books Cas's four different types of organizing, how you store your things, and how you sort your things Just because you're a visual person doesn't necessarily mean you're a "cluttery" person Turning subconscious tendencies into actionable and functional organization Visual homes vs. piles and taking advantage of how you naturally sort things How perfection can turn into procrastination and paralysis Being detailed and detail-oriented vs. being a perfectionist Learned behaviors, environmental behaviors, and other things that make our organizing styles unique Containers, bowls, boundaries, and self-awareness "We are gathering more than our brains can manage." / "Everything you own is something you have to remember…" The actual differences between tidying, cleaning, decluttering, and organizing How to start decluttering, the anxiety around getting rid of things, and scarcity mindsets Having a tidy home that fits your organization style is a form of self-love and self-respect Clutter-blindness / Safety, security, and mindset around money vs. accumulating things Selling on eBay or Facebook Marketplace isn't always the

This week, Dr. Nate Page joins Eric on the podcast! Nate has many titles, including Ph.D, licensed psychologist, certified group psychotherapist; but his education on burnout has come through his own painful journey with burnout. He began presenting on burnout seven years ago after witnessing the devastating impacts of burnout and compassion fatigue on his own life, the lives of his colleagues, and the lives of his therapy clients. He soon was specializing in individual and group therapy services for healthcare professionals who are caught in the depths of burnout. Nate dedicates a significant portion of his career to providing education and training on these topics, which was how Eric was introduced to Dr. Nate Page - at the CHADD conference in 2023 when presenting on burnout! Get in touch with Nate: Check out his website at GroupTherapyCentral.com (click here) In this episode, you'll hear tips and/or discussions about: The stigma around burnout and reducing the stigma and shame Burnout: Not "if" but "when" The idea of burnout as an injury and re-scarring burnout wounds Compassion fatigue as bruises in the soul (paper linked here) The good, the bad, and the ugly of stress Paying attention to burnout cues Context-driven depression, workplace, and situational depression Boredom and stress Addressing "a" problem vs. identifying the right problem to create appropriate solutions "Am I on the path to burnout or am I already burnt out but am ignoring/avoiding the signs?" The importance of taking restorative breaks Preventing the cycle of burnout / Healing and recovering from stress fractures Relationship dynamics, fairness, finding pebbles in the shoes, and potential extra stressors Maximizing the restorative nature of taking time off Creating structure during a break and getting the "recharge" effect Can you really "speed up" recovery? Compassion during healing and recovering from burnout The importance of engaging with what makes you feel alive Resources & Honorable Mentions Paper :: "Compassion Fatigue as Bruises in the Soul: A Qualitative Study on Nurses" DOI: 10.1177/09697330211003215 (click here) ADHD reWired episode :: 429 - Growth Cycles - with (ADHD reWired Coach!) Brian Entler (click here!) ADHD reWired episode :: 452 - Overcoming Burnout - with David Greenwood (click here!) ADHD reWired episode :: 507 - Neurodiverging, Masking, Burnout, and More - with Danielle Sullivan (click here!) ADHD reWired episode :: 512 - Creativity for Healing - with Melissa Seldon (click here!) ADHD reWired episode :: 514 - Introducing The ADHD Creatives Podcast - with (ADHD reWired Coach) Kristin Marts, LCSW (click here!) Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) (on Goodreads) (Official Website) 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning onli

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions, get full answers from this recording, and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! (click here!) In this Q&A, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Personal positive experiences, nuances, and psychology of body doubling The positive effects of being connected vs. being alone to get things done Morning routines and strategies for an ADHD household to guide a child without a lot of struggle or frustration Morning routines, time management, getting out of the house and transitioning Incorporating and utilizing different human senses to help with time-awareness and transitions The differences in ADHD presentation between kids and adults and addressing outdated views of what ADHD looks like and how it can present Reasons why it may be difficult for friends and loved ones to shift their perceptions when discussing an ADHD diagnosis Self-love and self-acceptance with ADHD How sleep, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being can affect our executive functions Finite and practical examples to help with time-blindness / Discovering pain-points and what creates avoidance of transitions Reframing what a break can be if you're resistant to taking breaks Task-batching / The effects of technology on transition time / Mindfulness with transitions "How can I get over the mindset that somehow I can't actually have money without spending it?" Emotional responses vs. value-based responses "Burnout is the body taking the rest it needs by force." Planning and structuring for self-care / Meditation to re-regulate our nervous systems "Self-care time is productive time!" ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trauma, and bouncing back faster from dysregulation "There's nothing wrong with expressing your emotions." "What would you tell a best friend if…" ...and so much more! Resources & Honorable Mentions Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired's Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler (click here!) Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 444: ADHD Tax Stories & Strategies with Rick Webster (click here!) Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 338: Money Management with Rick Webster from RenaFi (click here!) Article :: Adlerian Theory https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/Alderian-Psychotherapy-Intro-Sample.pdf (click here!) App :: Brili Routines - Apps for Families & Adults with ADHD https://brili.com (click here!) Website :: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org (click here!) Website :: RenaFi with Rick Webster - for money management when you have ADHD https://www.renafi.com Book :: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff (on Goodreads) (official website) Book :: Deep Wor

In this episode, Kristin Koliha joins Eric on the podcast! Kristin, who was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, is a clinical social worker with a background in working with those who also have an ADHD diagnosis. She's a mom of two kids who also have ADHD and is also a business owner! Kristin works as a coach and educator for those with ADHD who struggle to manage their ADHD homes, working with them to create individualized strategies to help with home keeping. She focuses on mindset shifts, ADHD diagnosis education in the context of home environment, and also focuses on support for those who want to take their homes from chaos to calm! Find more from Kristin Koliha: Website :: https://www.welcomehomeadhd.com (where you can also take a quiz to find out your organizational style!) Instagram :: @welcomehomeADHD https://www.instagram.com/welcomehomeadhd/ In this episode, you'll hear tips and/or discussions about: The reasons for Kristin's interest in homekeeping for ADHD brains and struggles that a dependent encounters when beginning to "adult" Is Kristin an organized person? Discovering your "default" and how clutter can have a different effect on different people Decision making and decision fatigue How does Kristin help folks with the "decisions" of their stuff? Being intentional when bringing things in your new home and finding out where those things will live before you get them The frustration of organization and being experiential learners "Don't go buy the thing to solve the problem; think about how you can solve it without buying the thing, and what else needs to happen?" Scheduling regular maintenance sessions / How your environment can affect your mood Organized for display vs. organizing for function Defining and discussing the different strategies for the pile-r, the stuffer, and the magician The "touch it once" rule Perfection, energy management, expectations, all-or-nothing thinking, and "good enough" Flexibility with values and needs to help with mental health / Can you be "green" with ADHD? Strategies for working through the I-Don't-Wannas / Thinking about your future self Finding your pain points in a home that have different levels of care in different areas of cleanliness Honoring your tidying needs while honoring another person's tidying needs Being caring, kind, and alleviating shame / Why asking for what someone needs isn't always helpful Resources & Honorable Mentions Tidy-up tip from the editor: Do you have extra dryer sheets? Put a dryer sheet in your sink of hot water when soaking caked-on dishes to help loosen up the grime! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Ne

In this episode, Eric is joined by Justine Clay! Justine, who is a neurotypical mom of a neurodivergent kid, is also a speaker, writer, business coach, and ADHD coach, for creative entrepreneurs and freelancers. Using her actionable-profitable-by-design framework, Justine helps established creative professionals and business-owners identify and articulate their unique value, position themselves to high-quality while paying clients, and build a fulfilling, efficient, and profitable creative business! Find more from Justine! Website :: justineclay.com (click here!) Instagram :: @justine_clay (click here!) LinkedIn :: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justineclay In this episode, you'll hear tips and discussions about: Helping people articulate what they want among a sea of ideas and different ways of co-collaborating Getting down to what someone needs vs. what they think they need & finding the fundamentals What do you do when you're procrastinating? / Monetizing your zone of genius and accepting your gifts What is unique about the ADHD entrepreneur vs. a neurotypical entrepreneur? Starting three things as a way to get unstuck and finding the "goldilocks" amount of pressure Creating structure with flexibility and options / "Don't check your email first thing in the morning." The importance of understanding your own tendencies / the power of the pause "So many 'fires' are just bright shiny objects that don't actually need our attention right now." "If you don't run your own attention, someone (or something) else will run it for you." Identifying an area of focus / Building on longer term goals and long-term coaching Who am I, who am I for, and how do I serve them? / "Be in community with other people who are doing what you're doing." The benefits and immense value of having diversity of life, experience, and ideologies within a team Mindset hurdles that show up for ADHD entrepreneurs and addressing negative thoughts and noise in our brains "What are you actually afraid of? What's the worst that could happen? What is within our power?" Creating a, "You're Awesome!" folder to mitigate negative messaging Addressing the topic of money with compassion / "Numbers don't define who you are as a human being." "A moment spent worrying about money is a moment you've stolen from yourself where you could be working on your unique brilliance…" Finding a good financial advisor who will meet you where you're at, who understands your needs, understands your ADHD, and understands your goals The importance of taking away 3 actionable steps and a deliverable roadmap Systemizing to make things easier so we're not constantly reinventing the wheel Burnout and dealing with the stressors vs. processing physical stress Benefits of a morning journaling practice, using it as a brain dump, and addressing limiting beliefs How to start a morning journaling practice / Handwriting vs. typing "The things that pay the most dividends can tend to have the hardest onramp." "Just try harder" d

This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast! In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! Find more from Dana: All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews (click here!) Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com (click here!) ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? (click here!) In this episode, you'll hear discussions and tips about: Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of 'problems' Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we're not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past "We don't have to agree with a person's perspective." / It's not WHAT we're disagreeing about – it's about HOW we're disagreeing. The importance of acknowledging the other person's feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn't necessarily healthy The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one's own tendencies and patterns of behaviors Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one's role in a conflict without blaming Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you're telling yourself Identifying and tuning into emotions / "The story I'm telling myself is…" / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion Resources & Honorable Mentions App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org (click here) Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away (click here) at gottman.com Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary (click here) Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Goodreads) Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown (click here) Website :: The Center of Nonv

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q Adjustment Recovery Time Point of performances Placeholders and flexibility when planning Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles "What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?" and pattern interruptions The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities\ Resources & Honorable Mentions Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW! At theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎉 ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired's Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler (click here!) Article: Potential New Treatment for "Brain Fog" in Long COVID Patients (click here) Article: Successful Treatment of Post-COVID-19 ADHD-like Syndrome: A Case Report (PMC) (click here) Webinar: The Science of Power and Hope from ADDitude (click here) Website: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com https://jkzmeditations.com App: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com/the-app/ TV Show: Community (IMDB) Tool: Erasable Frixion Pens 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Net

In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast! Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired's coaching and accountability groups! In this episode, you'll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about: "Transitions are hard" and transitioning gender identities The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect Navigating the medical system and knowing your options "This feels like me." "Your transition is your transition and it doesn't have to be based on anybody else's." Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world "I was doing what I thought I 'should' be doing." Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not "panicking" through life From TikTok to the doctor Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧