RE 178: Is knowledge alone enough to quit drinking?

Is knowledge alone enough to quit drinking? "To know and not to do... is not to know." - Buddhist Proverb Are we able to successfully quit drinking by devouring books, blog posts, podcasts and internet articles? The facts about the dangerous nature of alcohol can be quite sobering. Though education is never a waste of time, knowledge alone is not enough to keep you sober. It can inspire, reinforce, or encourage you to quit, but it is not enough. Self knowledge is no match for our unconscious mind, which is where most of the internal workings of our addiction lie. Sobriety requires knowledge, action and community. Ky, with 10 months since her last drink, shares her story.. SHOW NOTES [10:40] Paul Introduces Ky. Ky is from 28 years old and is from British Columbia. She works 3 jobs and enjoys, cooking, comedy shows, movies, and crossword puzzles. [12:50] When did you first realize you had a problem with alcohol? She started drinking around 12 years old. She thought "This is it!" She thought it was something missing from her life. Now she realizes that many of the friendships she made through drinking were empty. She feels like she has been drinking most of her adult life. She feels like a baby in sobriety. Her dad was an alcoholic. He still drinks. In her early 20's she drank more after a sexual assault. She had an alter ego while drunk. She moved to Hanoi, Vietnam but found that she couldn't escape her alcoholism as she experienced a bump in income. Her drinking became more necessary. She eventually attempted suicide but kept on drinking. [20:50] What was your mindset like before your suicide attempt? She had felt stuck and empty for so long. She felt like she had been searching for something to make her feel good for her entire life. When she moved back to Canada she experienced a loss of purpose and increased boredom which lead to more drinking. She always assumed she would die at 27. Now she sees it as juvenile. [24:38] What was the thinking before you attended your first meeting? She really wanted it to not work. She went to an AA meeting just to give herself permission to drink after and she was blown away by how much she identified with the people there. The mental health side of her therapy has helped her. She's now able to decrease the negative voice in her head that tells her she isn't good enough or that she can't do it. [30:00] Are you living more in the present? Absolutely. She was blown away when her therapist said that she wasn't her mind. She started practicing meditation and has learned about deeper dimensions of life. [32:12] Walk us through your first few days of sobriety. It was really hard. The first week was difficult. She didn't realize how hard it was going to be. She would set appointments with herself to keep herself busy. She knew she needed to get sober. She had nothing left on the drinking side of life. She was fully committed to sobriety because the other option was death, for her. [35:18] How do you handle cravings? The first few months were filled with cravings. She would ask for help in the morning and say thanks at night. She still gets cravings, but they get weaker and shorter. Her brother helped her get through the difficult ones. [39:04] What is your plan in recovery moving forward? She keeps things simple. She starts of with meditation in the morning. She focuses on gratitude. She still goes to meetings. She focuses on things that are good for her. Her life feels more full. [39:38] What is your take on the 12-step program? She hates the higher power / god aspect of it. She still identifies as an agnostic. She just removes the parts that are offensive to her. She just focuses on meditation and meetings. She reminds herself that she's not alone and focuses on what she needs to do. [40:43] Rapid Fire Round What was your worst memory from drinking? Too many. When she showed up to her job after a 3 day bender. She told her colleagues that her bf had beat her up but later on remembered that she had actually beat him up. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? That weekend where she was trying to drink on pace with her brother and limit the amount she drank. She realized that if she can't control it, she was going to have to give it up for good. What's your plan moving forward? What's your favorite resource in recovery? The AA meetings. She also loves podcasts and her therapists. The Joe and Charlie Big Book Study, The One You Feed. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? Just don't drink today, under any and all conditions. What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? Just try it. If you don't like it, you can always go back to the way your life was before. Life without alcohol is so much more fulfilling. You might be an alcoholic if... "you realize that all of your social media posts are related to booze." Resources mentioned in this episode: Beyond the Influence – a book by Katherine Ketcham Connect with Cafe RE - Use the promo code Elevator for your first month free Sobriety Tracker iTunes Sobriety Tracker Android Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to info@recoveryelevator.com "We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"