About this episode
Coral, with 7 months since her last drink, shares her story…… Do we have to say it again? Let's drop the stigma regarding addiction. The research shows that alcoholics have a genetic predisposition towards alcohol. It is not a character defect, nor a moral weakness. Yet, even after these results are published, about 20% of the general population, along with many psychiatrists still believe that it is a personal weakness. Kenneth Bloom conducted early experiments on neurology and molecular genetics. Hundreds of these experiments showed that alcoholism is hereditary. Many adoption studies have also been done and they show that children with at least 1alcoholic biological parent were 3 to 4 times more likely to become an alcoholic, regardless of their non-alcoholic adoptive parents. When an alcoholic drinks, our neurotransmitters go awry and our bodies break down booze differently than normal drinkers. That's the facts folks. SHOW NOTES [14:08] Paul Introduces Coral. Coral – I am 32 years old and live in Idaho. I work in an industrial plant. I am married and have a 9 year old son. [16:08] Did you think you had a problem with drinking? Coral – My husband and I have been trying to conceive but after our IVF failed, I went on a 2 week bender, full of self- pity. I would grab a beer first thing in the morning. Drinking was not helping anything. Now it just feels surreal to be sober. I did not think that I could do it. Drinking has always been a part of my life. But being in a recovery program keeps me from getting stagnant. [19:21] When did you realize that you had a problem? Coral – There were plenty of times I told myself that I should slow down. These slow down plans never worked. I would try to limit hard liquor or not drink during the day. Sometimes I was able to slow down but it never lasted long. [22:11] Paul and Coral discuss her bottoms. Coral – One of my worst memories was having some new friends over to my house for a BBQ. I ended up tripping over something in the yard and fell into the fire pit. I was burned over 10% of my body. Even after this, I never looked at myself as having a problem. It took a few months to re-cooperate after this accident. I was on heavy pain medications and still drank while on them. After 3 months, I went to the doctor to get a refill of my pain medication. He would not refill my prescription and I ended up going through withdrawal. [26:00] How did you quit drinking 7 months ago? Coral – I started listening to podcastsand going to meetings. I joined the Club Soda club on-line and I also started seeing a therapist. [30:00] Paul and Coral discuss her relationship with her husband and his drinking. Coral – My husband was also a drinker and struggles a little bit. He has been very supportive of my recovery. He has his own path in recovery and I have mine. [31:33] When did your thinking shift from "I can't do this" to "I can do this?" Coral – Probably around 90 days. I had been denied a promotion that I thought I had in the bag. I felt like jumping out of my own skin. I decided to get in the car and drove many miles to a meeting. I left the meeting wondering why I hadn't gone to a meeting in so long. It was so good to be around other people with this same problem. Sobriety is my #1 priority now, otherwise I will lose everything. [33:33] What have you learned the most about yourself? Coral – I am still learning about myself. Right now I am in the middle of the 4th step and it has been very eye opening. [34:34] How have your cravings been? Coral – I do eat a lot of sugar. I gave up alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes at the same time. So I need my sugar. When a craving hits, I try to meditate, exercise or go to a meeting. [35:40] How have your relationships changed? Coral – My husband and I get along much better. Instead of having arguments, we discuss things now. I am also closer to my extended family since they are non-drinkers. [36:43] What is a typical day like for you? Coral – I usually say a prayer every morning and then head off to work. I will go to a few meetings each week and enjoy spending time with my family. [37:00] Rapid Fire Round What was your worst memory from drinking? falling into the fire pit Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? I had a major blackout while drinking as a teen. Everyone told me I was running around screaming and I do not remember a thing. What's your plan moving forward? working the steps and helping others What's your favorite resource in recovery? SHAIR podcast, The Bubble Hour podcast and The Big Book What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? You are the average of the 5 people that you hang around with the most. What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? If you think you have a problem, than you probably do. You can still have fun without drinking. You might be an alcoholic if… you fall into a fire pit but still blame it on the misc. objects in your yard Resources mentioned in this episode: Recovery Elevator Retreat Connect with Cafe RE - Use the promo code Elevator for your first month free Sobriety Tracker iTunes Sobriety Tracker Android Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to info@recoveryelevator.com "We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"