Episodes

Dec 16

This 'ask us anything' episode was recorded live at our 9th annual group trip to Desire Pearl. Not only did we answer questions but our friends helped us out by contributing as well. Use Promo Code: WGT100 to receive $100 off our annual WGT premium community membership between now and January 4, 2026.

Nov 26

As a follow up to our episode 142, we hear from Catherine about how the ending of her marriage is affecting her coaching business at Expansive Connection. Will her clients still trust her as a coach? Has this loss made her job more difficult when discussing non-monogamy with her clients? Does she feel like a bit of an imposter? Will this experience make her a better coach? Would you see a coach who has lost her marriage after becoming non-monogamous? Listen in to find out! Safety Statements Join our We Gotta Thing community here! Expansive Connection Coaching

Nov 12

We are joined by Dedeker, Emily and Jase from the Multiamory* podcast to discuss the similarities and differences between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory! We also talk about what exactly New Relationship Energy (NRE) is and how we can recognize and navigate those strong feelings and emotions when they hit you or someone you love. *Multiamory centers multiple forms of love- everything from monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatoni partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, and everything in between. The Multiamory Podcast and Team

Oct 28

This episode gets very real and very personal. Catherine, from Expansive Connection Relationship Coaching, tells her story of how her marriage fell apart while engaged in a non-monogamous relationship with her husband. Many couples fear this type of loss when considering and moving into and through non-monogamy. Catherine courageously shares her story so that others may benefit and be fully prepared for making such an important relationship decision. Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Episode 41- A Licensed Counselor Breaks Down Jealousy Making Polyamory Work Episode- Coming Out to Your Kids Normalizing Non Monogamy- Catherine & Ray Jen Hatmaker- Awake WGT Single Guys Only Space

Sep 25

Join us and Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching as we discuss the six most important things those new to the lifestyle need to know and us veterans of the lifestyle need always to remember: Radical Honesty as the Starting Point Shifting Mindsets: From Specialness to Uniqueness Navigating Jealousy and Compersion with Conscious Awareness Boundaries, Agreements and People-Pleasing Navigating Different Paces in the Journey Co-Creating Evolving Agreements Expansive Connection Coaching We Gotta Thing Community We Gotta Thing Website We Gotta Thing on Instagram

Sep 11

None of us are immune from having 'real life' issues disrupt our relationship or our current life plans and goals. Health issues, family responsibilities, career changes and relocations are just a few of the things that we can expect to encounter in life that will change our priorities. After just over a year of not playing with others in the lifestyle we are happy to announce we are back in the game! Listen in to learn why we stopped, what we had to work through as a couple, what we learned and how we decided to reengage with others at this time. Mentioned this episode: WGT Quarterly Membership Promo Code: WGT930 (expires September 30, 2025) 2 + 2 Swingers Club in Athens, Greece WGT Desire Pearl Event- November 15-22, 2025

Aug 27

In episode 136 Kel, from Expansive Connection Coaching explained all nine Enneagram personality types and motivations. Listen in on this real-time coaching session as Kel reveals the Enneagram results of Mr & Mrs Jones and helps them understand their types and how to better value and understand each other as life partners. Episode Resources: Books The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso; Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron; Suzanne Stabile Podcast Series Enneagram 2.0 Websites Enneagram Institute The Narrative Enneagram Non-monogamy Coaching Expansive Connection

Aug 14

When we hear the word 'swinger' or 'lifestyle' the first time we may think of key parties, sleezy sex clubs, orgies with strangers and lots of perverted people who will have sex with anyone. With how non-monogamy is portrayed in some movies and television shows it's not surprising that many of us have this perception! During our most recent trip to Desire Riviera Maya we asked the couples to tell us how they would describe the world of non-monogamy to others and how that description has changed from their pre-lifestyle perceptions.

Jul 31

Join us as we chat with the founder of a brand new lifestyle vacation spot in Jamaica- 'The Resort.' This upscale venue gives lifestyle travelers an additional and much needed option for a sexy vacation as ethical non-monogamy becomes more mainstream around the world. Visit their website for more details and information about membership and booking!

Jul 16

Join us as Kel from Expansive Connection explains the Enneagram system which offers numerous benefits for personal and professional development by providing insights into motivations, behaviors, and relationships. It helps individuals understand their core personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and how they interact with others. This understanding can lead to improved self-awareness, better communication, stronger relationships, and a better connection with others in the lifestyle! Episode Resources: Books The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso; Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron; Suzanne Stabile Podcast Series Enneagram 2.0 Websites Enneagram Institute The Narrative Enneagram Non-monogamy Coaching Expansive Connection

Jul 9

This 'Origin Story' format episode features our friends Kurt & Vicki and highlights another unique journey into and through non-monogamy. Perhaps their story of working through issues will resonate with those who struggle with things from 'the past' and how previous life experiences can interfere with fully enjoying the lifestyle. Mentioned in this episode: We Gotta Thing Community Kasidie and SDC Club Sapphire

Jun 27

Are you considering trying non-monogamy or perhaps learning how to navigate the swinging lifestyle environment? Are you paralyzed by the 'what-ifs?' What if my partner falls in love with someone else? What if I get jealous? What if no one is attracted to me? What if we are outed at swingers? You are not alone! Jason from Expansive Connection joins Mr & Mrs Jones to discuss how to better understand and work through these common 'what-if' fears shared by but also overcome by many.

Jun 20

So you think you've got what it takes to be 'successful' in the swinging lifestyle? From our 11 years of experience, we share what we believe to be the most important attributes a person or couple must have to fully enjoy all the benefits of non-monogamy. We also announce the official opening of a new lifestyle resort in Jamaica simply called The Resort (and share a couple of sexy snaphots). Care to join us?

May 28

Why do we usually react to the word 'different' as something negative? Our differences can help us to learn more about ourselves which can lead to individual growth as well as strengthen our relationships. Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us this episode to help us understand how and why we react to something different and gives us tools to help explore them and turn those differences into opportunities for growth!

May 14

What makes the WGT community unique? We are not a dating site. We are not like a Facebook group. Nor are we similar to a Discord server, a Slack channel, a Zoom meeting or a WhatsApp conversation. What are we then? We are a community full of real people in real relationships who are looking to explore, learn, share and interact with others in a safe, non-judgmental and secure virtual environment. What will you gain in one year by joining us? Mastered Communication – You'll have developed unshakable confidence in open and honest conversations, leading to more trust, deeper intimacy, and fewer misunderstandings with your partner. A Thriving Support System – You'll be surrounded by a network of like-minded couples who truly get you, offering support, wisdom, and genuine friendship. No more feeling like you're navigating this journey alone. New & Exciting Experiences – Whether through online discussions, live events, or luxurious getaways, you'll have explored new facets of your relationship in a way that feels safe, sexy, and fulfilling. Personal & Relationship Growth – You'll have gained insights from other members and experts, engaged in transformative workshops, and overcome challenges that once seemed overwhelming. Living Authentically –No matter where you are in your journey, you'll feel empowered to embrace your desires and connections without fear or hesitation. Your relationship will be stronger, your connections deeper, and your confidence stronger than ever. Care to join us? Learn more about the We Gotta Thing community experience here !

Apr 24

Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us to help define that 'squishy' term that is a result of some combination of 'swinging' and 'polyamory.' She then discusses pro's and con's of what to expect when creating your own brand of 'swolly' and then shares tips on how to successfully communicate and navigate along the way. Resources mentioned during this episode: Sex Nerd Sandra Podcast- The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson The Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Quiz

Mar 21

You're awake again at 3:00am. You can't go back to sleep. You calculate how much sleep you'll have if you go back to sleep right now. Then, while staring at the ceiling, a voice inside your head decides to make up a (absolutely truthful and believable) story about a missed opportunity with another couple and why they aren't responding to your messages to meet again.... Sound familiar? In this episode Meshai from Expansive Connection helps us to understand where that voice is coming from, how to recognize the lack of logic in that voice and how to redirect the conversation to something more logical and accurate. Also, you are not the only one experiencing these very convincing voices! Learn more about Expansive Connection coaching services on their website and while you're there be sure to subscribe to their newsletter!

Feb 17

We are contantly bombarded with lifestyle symbols and the promises they bring of attracting lifestyle couples to us in our day-to-day lives! From upside down pineapples in the grocery store, to black rings on the right ring finger, to white rocks at the end of the driveway, to wearing jewelry that brings special powers. Some content creators, lifestyle businesses and marketers exploit our collective desire to stay anonymous while at the same time magically attracting others into our secret lives with little or no effort at all. In this episode we discuss how to both pick-up on a send those sexy vibes in ways that require a bit of work on our part but often lead to meaningful connections with others regardless of the setting. It's all about being noticeable and creating enough curiousity and intrigue to draw others in and then knowing how to engage and progress in a natural way.

Jan 29

What is trust not? Trust is not a feeling that someone else creates in us with their actions. Some of us think we can trust people only when they are doing what we want them to do so we don't feel uncomfortable things we don't want to feel. Additionally, trust is not using other people as our emotional security blankets. Our brains love predictability and safety so when someone doesn't behave in the ways we want them to we can feel unsafe, or in others words, we may 'freak out' a bit! Kel from Expansive Connection joins Mr Jones this episode to help us understand what trust is, what trust is not, and how to work through what appear to be trust issues with your partner. Resources: Brene Brown Trust Talk The Gottmans on Trust UnFuck Your Brain- Trust

Dec 31, 2024

Fearing or experiencing jealousy is one of the biggest reasons couples either don't try the lifestyle or don't last in the lifestyle. Why is that? It's more complex than we realize! Join us as Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching helps us to understand the many flavors of jealousy to include envy, comparison, performance insecurities, fear of abandonment and many more. Download the complete list of the flavors of jealousy here!

Dec 11, 2024

Please join us in celebrating 10 years recording the We Gotta Thing podcast! This is a very special episode recorded live with a group of our closest friends at the Desire Pearl resort. We thank all of our listeners and community members for the steadfast support and look forward to recording many more episodes in the years to come! Cheers!

Nov 30, 2024

Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we dive into the topic of being rejected in the lifestyle. We all experience the negative emotions when rejected by others and Meshai helps us to understand why we feel this way and how to process and respond to these feelings.

Nov 7, 2024

Why do we want to connect with others? What are some ways we connect with others? What types of connections may we experience? How do we stay connected? What happens if we become disconnected with others? We explore possible answers to these questions to better prepare ourselves for what we may face as we explore the lifestyle and engage with others.

Oct 29, 2024

Jason from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us this month to discuss the 'non-quantifiable' work involved in exploring non-monogamy. Based on our WGT episode 100 in which we discuss the quantifiable work, we now dig in to consider things like being intentional, being present, staying engaged, investing ourselves and our time and much more.

Oct 4, 2024

Listen in as our friends Mark and Beth share their unique journey into and exploration of non-monogamy! We also review our Virgin Cruise out of Barcelona and discuss our first local lifestyle meet and greet since our big move south.

Sep 16, 2024

Kel from Expansive Connection coaching joins us to discuss some of the benefits and challenges one may encounter when choosing to explore the non-monogamous lifestyle. Kel shares from her perspective of being a certified relationship coach and also from her experience being non-monogamous with her partner. Resources mentioned: We Gotta Thing podcast episode 33 : "How the Lifestyle Strengthens our Relationship" We Gotta Thing podcast episode 41 : "A Licensed Counselor (and swinger) Breaks Down Jealousy" Sex and Psychology by Justin Lehmiller- podcast episode 215 : "Dealing in Differences in Relationships"

Aug 21, 2024

Having experienced counseling ourselves over the past few months, we invite Catherine from Expansive Connection to talk with us about how those in non-monogamous relationships benefit from getting guidance from professionals. Also, we share some exciting news about the future of the We Gotta Thing podcast!

Jul 30, 2024

Listen in as we review the brand new "The Eden" section of Desire Riviera Maya! We also enlist the help of many of our friends in a live recording from the resort to share how they challenged themselves to become a bit 'less vanilla' during our recent group trip.

Jun 20, 2024

Most of us have mastered being 'adult-like' in all aspects of our lives. We are experienced at life. We are parents, spouses/partners, coaches, employees, teachers, leaders and friends. We've become accustomed to situations that require a mature and thoughtful response (most of the time anyway!). However, when engaged in non-monogamy we can experience new things and perhaps even some new feelings. We are sharing ourselves and our partners initmately with others. Our relationship is now at risk so the stakes are high. Situations will arise that invoke strong emotions in a way we may not have experienced before and it can be difficult not to act out in ways that may hurt others or push them away. In this episode Catherine, a licensed therapist from Expansive Connection Coaching talks about what is happening inside our brains and how we might be able to anticipate and respond 'like adults' when things don't go as we expect.

May 9, 2024

Being vulnerable is not easy and may not come natural for some, espcially when exploring the lifestyle. We tend to wall off our personal lives because we're worried about people knowing too much about us. We don't want to be known. We're here just to have some sexy fun, right? In this episode we talk about how being vulnerable has led to some amazing friendships as well as a lot of sexy fun with people who care. The more we share the more we gain confidence, become more attractive to others and most importantly discover our authentic selves! Join our community and download our brand new WGT app here!

Mar 26, 2024

Are you the type of person who puts the feelings of others above of your own? Do you want to have a stronger voice when someone suggests something you don't necessarily want to do? You are not alone! Listen in as we discuss how and why this happens in a non-monogamous lifestyle and what the potential fallout, consequences and sometimes benefits can be!

Jan 31, 2024

We explore the perceptions and realities of what, exactly a kiss can mean to those in the lifestyle community. Does granting a kiss commit me to a sexual experience? Why do some couples have a 'no kissing' rule? How do I gain consent to give a kiss? Can giving someone a kiss send the wrong message? A kiss may sound like a simple thing but it's anything but that to those exploring and experiencing the world of non-monogamy.

Jan 5, 2024

Listen in on our live recording from Desire Pearl where our guests discuss their unique perspectives, perceptions and realities of the term 'clothing optional.' Most of us struggle with self-confidence and have body-image issues so the idea of being naked in front of others can cause anxiety and fear. After hearing stories from other 'real people' we can better understand what it's all about and how it can help us discover and grow into our real selves. Being naked is a good thing!

Nov 9, 2023

Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many other origin stories but then takes a bit of a turn when a family member shares some unexpected news. In another suprising twist the lifestyle community jumps in for a big assist to help and support them work through an interesting dilemma.

Oct 11, 2023

As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it was all about the excitment, the taboo nature of the lifestyle and a boost to our sex lives. Something we would just keep at arms distance on the very periphery of our lives. Then we started to meet some of the most amazing humans on the planet. Now we are surrounded by a warm and caring community and some of the best (pants-off and pants-on) lifelong friends a couple can possibly have. We came for the sexy fun and we stayed for the awesome friendships!

Aug 28, 2023

Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration after being together for more than 20 years. We've learned that no relationship journey into the lifestyle is the same but we so all experience our own twists and turns. We hope you enjoy listening to them tell their story!

Jun 30, 2023

Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How do we socialize with others without them thinking it's an invitation to play? How do we let couples down if we don't want to play? How do we interact with couples the day after we play? Listen in as we discuss our own experiences and how we see others managing this very common dilemma.

May 23, 2023

In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience it ourselves. Through construction delays, supply chain disruptions, hurricanes and normal growing pains the resort is now open for business! Listen in as we describe what we enjoyed and what we think still needs to be improved upon to bring it up to par with the Desire Pearl and Riviera Maya resorts in Mexico.

Mar 28, 2023

We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques' while attending events, visiting clubs or attending parties or meet and greets. Are they really cliques or could it be our perception of others based on things we observe or the feelings we experience at such events? Will they really reject us or ignore us if we have the courage to approach them or could this a predisposed fear of rejection? Join us as we dig deeper into what cliques really are and how to manage and navigate groups in an unfamiliar and sexually charged environment.

Feb 26, 2023

Listen in on our conversation with our friends "J&B 2.0" as they share their particular story of how they discovered and began exploring the lifestyle together! They are funny, smart and very real as they share their experiences in hopes of helping others who may be embarking on a similar journey. Origin Stories is an interview based podcast format that we will occasionally publish to help you experience the diverse and unique lifestyle journeys of others.

Jan 30, 2023

Finding lifestely events and then choosing which event is the best fit for your approach to the lifestyle can be difficult and often confusing. Listen in as we chat with event host Cate from Libertine Events and the Wanderlust Swingers podcast. We'll share insights and answer questions from couples exploring the lifestyle and facing the same challenges.

Dec 21, 2022

Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort during our week together at Desire Pearl Resort just south of Cancun, Mexico.

Nov 7, 2022

We sit down with four of our lifestyle friends and share real stories about what it's like to experience hurt feelings during an event and how to dissect, debrief, discover and confront the root cause of the issue. As much as it hurts sometimes, we discuss why we think it's important to work through the issues together in order to experience personal growth and strengthen our relationships.

Oct 13, 2022

We discuss four distinct behaviors we consider to be deal breakers to moving forward and possibly making new lifestyle friends and connecting with potential play partners. Sharing opinions on politics, religion or other emotionally charged topics Being closed minded or judgmental toward others Being 'tone deaf,' or not being able to read the room Trying too hard to make something happen What do you think? What behaviors do you consider to be deal breakers?

Aug 31, 2022

Finding your tribe, making lifelong friends, connecting for sexy playtime and growing your primary relationship are just a few ways to define 'success' in the lifestyle. Many may mistakenly believe you can just fill out a profile and 'show up' to quickly enjoy these benefits. We have learned that just like in life, you must both put in the hard work over a period of time to experience all the lifestyle has to offer. Are you ready to put in the hard work? We believe the reward is worth the effort!

Jul 31, 2022

New Relationship Energy (NRE) is that sexual buzz we feel when we first meet and connect with a couple or individual. We discuss navigating this heightened state of emotional and sexual feelings by processing it, understanding it, keeping it in perspective and responding to it in a healthy way. NRE can feel scary and risky but we believe if it's understood and managed well it can provide a super charged experience and be very meaningful (and a whole lot of fun) for all involved.

Jun 21, 2022

As the idea and exploration of consensual non-monogamy continues to grow we have noticed the need for organized community. The different flavors and diverse approaches means that one size does not fit all needs. We invited our friends Fin and Emma from the Normalizing Non-monogamy podcast to chat with us about their community and how the four of us see how communites are forming and how to find the one that fits you best. Here are a few communities to explore: Normalizaing Non-monogamy community We Gotta Thing community Multi-amory community Bloom community platform Bonobo network

May 25, 2022

To quote Mrs Jones, "we should be an example and not a blueprint." It may seem natural to adapt our 'thing' into your lifestyle journey but that could be a mistake. Giving yourselves an opportunity to create and refine your own 'thing' while learning from the examples of others in the lifestyle can be liberating and exciting.

Apr 24, 2022

Catherine (one of our favorite humans) and her team from Expansive Connection join us to discuss how they have created a unique method of coaching non-monogamous people! Not only do they offer a 'judgment free' zone but they bring their certified credentials and experience in the lifestyle. Learn more about what an experience will be like with Catherine and Expansive Connection below. Expansive Connection Expansive Connection in the We Gotta Thing Community NNM Enneagram Episode 1 NNM Enneagram Episode 2 NNM Enneagram Episode 3 NNM with Catherine

Mar 30, 2022

We often hear couples suggest they are taking a break from the lifestyle due to 'real life' issues. We also hear some say that 'real life' is getting in the way of their lifestyle activities. In this episode we share some very personal news and explain why we believe the lifestyle IS real life and the two can successfully co-exist.

Feb 16, 2022

Have you experienced lifestyle play partners getting a little upset when you choose to spend time with others? How about hard feelings when one of you seems to be enjoying the lifestyle more than the other? Some use the term 'jealous' when these things happen but we'd like to dive a little deeper and talk about why we use the the word envy as opposed to jealousy.

Jan 17, 2022

This is the most important topic that nobody wants to talk about! Chances are this won't happen to you (as it did us) but we still want to help prepare you just in case... We reflect back on our experience of being outed and discuss what we've learned (and are still learning) during the process. Yes, it's painful but it's not the end of the world!

Nov 30, 2021

Listen in as our guests share their Desire Pearl 2021 snapshots in a recorded-live conversation from the resort! Some are thoughtful and meaningful, some are sexy and others are downright hilarious! Oh, and we share ours as well... Our new 'What's Your Thing?' sexy and smart card game is now available! Here is our updated Naughty Stockings list just in time for the holiday shopping season (or any season really)...

Oct 31, 2021

This month we discuss why other couples reject us when reaching out from a lifestyle dating site and how to improve our chances of success in the future. This episode complements our episode 62 " Putting Yourself Out There - Lifestyle Profiles 2.0 " and our blog post on the same topic titled "Our First Online Couple Profile."

Sep 23, 2021

We discuss the importance of trust from four different angles: trusting your relationship, trusting each other, trusting other couples and trusting who you are becoming in the lifestyle. Also, I (Mr Jones) share my first ever experience getting waxed...

Aug 30, 2021

Group play can be fun but also tricky! In this episode we explore the benefits and pitfalls and share our perspective on how we approach and navigate playing in larger groups. We also recap our very first Desire Mansion takeover event!

Jul 26, 2021

No matter how long you've been in the lifestyle you are going to make mistakes. So we've come up with a few tips to help you minimize those mistakes and make your play experiences more meaningful and fun!

Jun 23, 2021

In this episode we discuss how our perceptions change to our reality the more we are exposed to actual events. All of us have pre-lifestyle perceptions, newbie lifestyle perceptions and even veteran lifestyle perceptions that can change- but only if we take a step (or two) forward and try new things. Blog post mentioned: That One Time in Band Camp

May 19, 2021

There are perceptions in the lifestyle that a woman must be 'bi-something' to attract and connect with other couples. On the men's side of things there is a double standard and a stigma attached to being 'bi-something' in the lifestyle. In this episode our goal is to dispel some myths and share our personal views around each in an attempt to provide a safe space for sharing thought provoking conversations in the lifestyle. We believe these conversations must occur for people's minds to be opened and more accepting to those interested in exploring being 'bi-something' in the lifestyle.

Apr 26, 2021

Perhaps you have not had your first play experience yet or haven't had one in a very long time due to the current pandemic. Preparing for that first play experience creates a lot of build up, anticipation and nerves. No matter how that first time goes one can lose sight of the fact that it's only one experience and should not be the benchmark for all future play times in the lifestyle!

Mar 30, 2021

Do you struggle with if, when and how to tell other couples you're not interested in meeting? What about after you've played and you've lost interest? What if they ask you why you aren't interested? What if you are the recipient of a 'let down' message? Do you want to know why or would you rather just move on to the next couple? Does the sting of rejection ever get easier? We invite you to listen in as we discuss this topic from both sides!

Feb 22, 2021

Not only does real life often get in the way of engaging in the lifestyle, but simply staying sexually connected as a couple is a struggle. Add a global pandemic to the mix and you have the perfect storm of events that make this struggle almost impossible to avoid. In this episode we really don't have solutions to the issue, we simply share where we are in this so that as a couple you know you are not alone.

Jan 22, 2021

We believe there are three important components of compatibility that we need to consider when trying to find connections with people in the lifestyle: General Compatibility, Safety & Health Compatibility and Sexual Compatibility. In this episode we define these components, discuss why they are critical for success and how to know if such compatibility exists when you're meeting new friends.

Nov 30, 2020

In this episode we discuss the idea that there is a unique language spoken by those in the swinging lifestyle. We believe this language is comprised of four distinct elements: the language of speaking, the language of listening, the language of the body and the language of behavior. We also believe becoming fluent in this language will help smooth the pathway forward and help you more easily connect with others.

Oct 31, 2020

We talk a lot about all the special friendships we've made in the lifestyle and many of you express frustration over finding the type of connections we describe. In this episode we offer tips on what it takes to be successful finding and building special relationships with those who will become true friends!

Sep 27, 2020

It's not a secret that engaging in the lifestyle can be expensive! In this episode we discuss budgeting tips for your lifestyle adventures and why we prioritize spending money on us as an investment in our relationship.

Aug 31, 2020

Men are programmed through all aspects of life to avoid showing interest in other women. But now we are in this lifestyle where other women expect us to show some interest. This is so confusing! How are us guys supposed to know when you ladies are interested in getting to know us better? Get out your notepads for this episode as Mrs Jones sets us all straight in the matter...

Jul 27, 2020

Before entering the lifestyle or becoming experienced in the lifestyle we never imagined doing some of the things we've actually done and things we've learned about the lifestyle. We share how our perspectives change over time and also share what some of our listeners have to say about their own experiences! Mentioned: Room 77 Podcast with Richard and Lauren

Jun 29, 2020

As we are mired in the current pandemic many of us are being pulled back away from our social and sexual mindsets. When we are concerned about our jobs, our children, our families and our health we need to be deliberate to ensure our relationships and our sexuality is a priority! We discuss the difficulty of resolving the tension between who we are wired to be as humans and who we are trained to be by society. Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown Unlocking Us Podcast Casual Toys store We Gotta Thing website

May 26, 2020

Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Anxiety are often misunderstood by many in the lifestyle. Numerous couples experience this issue but don't take the time to acknowledge, openly discuss, research and confront the issue head on. Normally us guys would rather get a prescription for a performance enhancing medicine but never understand and treat the underlying health and psychological issues. Mr Night returns to give us his professional opinion and we share our views as an experienced lifestyle couple.

Apr 23, 2020

As we all focus on staying well during this pandemic we thought it a good time to talk about a few health related issues and how they impact our lifestyle journey. "Mr Night" is a certified Family Nurse Practitioner of 20 years and is also a certified Bio-identical Hormone Replacement Specialist. He and his wife "Mrs Night" are also in the lifestyle and join us to discuss how diet, exercise, hormones and supplements can be used to proactively manage our health as we age. Questions for "Mr Night" can be sent to us through our We Gotta Thing website. To learn more about hormone replacement and how to find a reputable provider visit worldlinkmedical.com

Mar 23, 2020

We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in the lifestyle? Do we search for people just like our partners or do we find ourselves attracted to those who are the opposite? Listen in as we discuss our preferences and what we're still learning about ourselves and each other as we continue to navigate this lifestyle. Mentioned: Casual Toys USA Transfers Everlywell STI Testing Double Date Nation Kasidie Desire Resorts Discounts

Feb 17, 2020

We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chance because we are certain we know the ending of the story! We convince ourselves that they are out of our league, or they won't find us attractive, or they will probably just reject us. We talk with our friends Andi and Dave from the lifestyle dating site Double Date Nation about how we can all recognize when we begin telling our own story and how to intervene to help create the true story!

Jan 15, 2020

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others to include the names of your play partners? Is there ever a good reason to Kiss and Tell? Listen in as we discuss our opinions in the matter!

Dec 16, 2019

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle. Along the way the are discovering real transformation both in themselves and in relationships with their partners.

Nov 12, 2019

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent. We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional dimensions: non-verbal consent (body language) and giving yourself consent.

Oct 21, 2019

Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with others in the world of ethical non-monogamy. Mentioned: Our friend "Ess" is a boudoir photographer. Check him out on Instagram and read his recent blog post on our website!

Sep 23, 2019

We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to you becoming a red flag to other couples. Listen in as we work through one of our own red flags!

Aug 19, 2019

When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to realize how 'human' our lifestyle friends are and how these friendships are sometimes deeper, more meaningful and more real than any we've had before. We talk about our pathway to discovering our tribe in the lifestyle and just how special some of these friendships have become!

Jul 22, 2019

Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The importance of Confidentiality, Respect and Honesty with ourselves and others should seem evident but in a sex-charged environment they can be easily overlooked and forgotten.

Jun 17, 2019

Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race.

May 20, 2019

In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction. Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners! Join our We Gotta Thing members only community Visit our website and learn more about our upcoming WGT events

Apr 22, 2019

In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation , Dave and Andi. The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optimize your lifestyle website profile to be most effective. We also interview them about their new site to find out how it's different from others and why they believe another lifestyle dating site is necessary. To try Double Date Nation free for three months sign up here and use promo code: WGTPC Watch Dave and Andi on their YouTube channel: The Celibate Swingers

Mar 28, 2019

George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we thought it best for you to hear directly from George! From Burning Man to Cuba to London, Mexico City, Manhattan Napa and even Washington, DC you're sure to find an event to pique your interest. Care to join us? Explore all of George's upcoming events here !

Mar 11, 2019

Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older or younger. We also break down age related stereotypes in the lifestyle. Is age truly just a number? The New Monogamy - Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson Join our members only community!

Feb 18, 2019

Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged. However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge. We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others. Try Double Date Nation free for three months! Use promo code WGTPC and join us as we help build a brand new lifestyle dating site. Listen to our friends Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast. Less than 5 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only Community

Jan 15, 2019

Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship. But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Listen as we discuss the topic ourselves and then hear similar thoughts from others in a session we recorded with Swinging Downunder on our latest trip to Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Less than 10 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only Community Listen to the Swinging Downunder podcast

Dec 12, 2018

Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relationship? Will we become addicted and always want more? We discuss the importance of agreeing on "why" you are in the lifestyle and how critical it is to stay on the same page throughout your journey. Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only community here!

Nov 5, 2018

Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People , we align how those same habits can make you successful as a couple in the swinging lifestyle. Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only community here!

Oct 9, 2018

Discussion topic: In this episode we catch you all up to date on what we've been going through since we were "outed" as lifestyle podcasters 18 months ago. Through all the turmoil we lost our "happy place" and share how we've grown and rediscovered each other. Each person and couple has the freedom to define and then find their happy place in the lifestyle. Our We Gotta Thing Desire Pearl trip next year we be the week of November 16-23, 2019. Click here to join us! Join our WGT Members Only Community here!

Sep 17, 2018

Discussion topic: Most agree we'd like to avoid any drama in a lifestyle experience. But is this a realistic expectation? Is drama such a bad thing? Do we know what drama really is and is not? How should we handled drama if we encounter it in ourselves or another couple? Catherine (from episode 41), a licensed professional counselor joins us again and provides answers, insights and tools to help answer these and other questions around drama in the lifestyle! You can reach Catherine via email at: expansiveconnection@gmail.com Catherine's website is www.expansiveconnection.com Michelle Chalfant: The Child Chair The Adolescent Chair The Adult Chair Join our Members Only Community here!

Aug 20, 2018

Discussion topic: In this episode we discuss the tension between wanting to be discreet yet at the same time wanting to know as much as possible about others. Too much discretion and nobody knows you but being vulnerable is necessary to connect socially to make true friends (with benefits) in the lifestyle. Join us at our first WGT Regional Meet & Greet on Saturday, October 20 at 8pm in Providence, Rhode Island! Register at Choice Social Club and be sure to put "WGT2018" in the comments section to be included in our group.

Jul 15, 2018

Discussion Topic: We share sexy stories from our trip to Desire Pearl and discuss the benefits and drawbacks of sexual play with newbies and veteran couples in the swinging lifestyle. Spoiler alert: we enjoy both! Mentioned this episode:Join our We Gotta Thing private members only group Listen to our podcast with the Spiritual Swingers Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico

Jun 19, 2018

Discussion Topic- Whether it's your very first play experience or you've been swinging for years awkward encounters will always be a part of your lifestyle journey. We share some awkward lifestyle moments, discuss why they occur, what (if anything) can be done to avoid them and how to work through them as a couple. Visit our website: https://wegottathing.com/ Join our private community: We Gotta Thing Members Only Join Kasidie Book your trip to Desire!

May 21, 2018

Discussion Topic: In this episode we celebrate the milestone of reaching 50 episodes by reflecting on our lifestyle journey thus far. We are learning a lot and having a loads of fun but it's the people we meet and the growth in our relationship that are most valuable. Care to join us? Our new We Gotta Thing Members Only Subscription Our Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey online course Our new We Gotta Thing website Email: mrjones@wegottathing.com Email: mrsjones@wegottathing.com Follow us on Twitter

Apr 26, 2018

Discussion Topic: Mrs Jones is joined live by "C" from the Swinging Downunder podcast to discuss what the two ladies believe men need to know and understand to be successful in the swinging lifestyle. Mentioned this Episode: The Swinging Downunder podcast Our brand new We Gotta Thing website Our new "Members Only" subscription Our online Lifestyle Course

Apr 12, 2018

Discussion Topic In this episode we discuss the difference between being courageous and being confident as you enter and navigate the swinging lifestyle. Many people say "just be confident" and you'll be fine. But is that enough to be helpful? We offer tips to help you understand the difference and how being courageous leads to being a more confident person and couple in the swinging lifestyle. Confidence is sexy!

Mar 12, 2018

Discussion Topic- In this episode we discuss how we see the lifestyle bumping up against real life. Personally we are becoming more "out" as swingers, more and more mainstream media is reporting on swinging and the lifestyle community seems to be growing rapidly. What does this all mean? Listen in to find out! Mentioned in this episode: Our online lifestyle course- Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey The Joneses Interview- Leading Questions w/Calvin Moore Podcast Swinger Diaries Interview- The Together Podcast Swinging Downunder Interview- Share a Slice with Sean Podcast GQ Magazine Article: Inside the Clothing-Optional Resort of Your Swinging Dreams Prevention Magazine Article: I Took My Husband to a Clothing Optional Resort and Here's What Happened Maxim Magazine Articles: Welcome to One of the Raunchiest Party Spots on the Planet and Welcome to the World's Kinkiest Cruise Line The Today Show with Megyn Kelly: Are Non-monogamous Relationships on the Rise?

Feb 12, 2018

Discussion Topic- Connecting with your play partner while trying to maintain a connection with your own partner is a balancing act many find difficult to achieve. This month we discuss the challenge of and some helpful tips for staying connected as a couple during playtime with others. Online Lifestyle Course Relaunch- we are excited to announce the following major changes and additions to our course products: Base price reduction on our Community and Premier level courses A new a la carte menu allows you to purchase the individual course modules of your choice Reserve private video conferencing sessions with Mr and Mrs Jones New $99 mini-courses designed by topic We now also accept payment via PayPal We offer 12 month payment installment options for the Community and Premier courses All products come with access to our private and secure members only forum Explore and purchase at our Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey store!

Jan 9, 2018

Discussion Topic- Navigating this lifestyle can be awkward at times, especially when trying to transition from conversation to playtime. We discuss our experience in this area and share some tips to help couples take the leap to enjoying some sexy fun with others! Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! Purchase in the month of January 2018 to have a chance to win two free passes to Naughty in N'awlins 2018! For more information and to purchase visit our new course website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com.

Dec 10, 2017

Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! We've created 6 modules and over 40 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes. For more information and to purchase visit our new course website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com. Discussion TopicWe contrast the sexy, fun, respectful, open and honest (for the most part) people we meet in the lifestyle to the current workplace culture of sexual harassment and assault.

Nov 8, 2017

Announcing our special projectMrs Jones and I are developing an online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey to be released in December 2017! We've created 6 modules and over 30 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes. For more information please check out our website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com. Discussion TopicAs we prepare for our first group trip to Desire, we discuss the seven deadly mistakes to avoid when attending a lifestyle resort, hotel takeover, meet & greet or any other large swinger event. Why are we experts? Because we've made all seven mistakes ourselves!

Oct 20, 2017

Discussion Topic: Setting expectations is something we (and many couples) struggle with in the lifestyle. With expectations usually comes disappointment. Disappointment can lead to leaving the lifestyle or stir up negative emotions and feelings about yourselves. We discuss how we TRY to manage our interactions with others and share some tips we hope will help you do the same. Good luck!

Oct 2, 2017

Discussion Topic: Way back on WGT Episode 3 we discussed Mr Jones's struggle with jealousy when we entered the lifestyle. In this episode we welcome Catherine, a licensed professional counselor AND swinger! She breaks down jealousy: what it is, how to prepare for it, what it feels like, how to identify it, how to work through it and come out of it stronger as a couple. You can reach Catherine by email at expansiveconnection@gmail.com or on her website: www.expansiveconnection.com Resources Mentioned: The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola Numerous books by Brene Brown Vulnerability TED Talk by Brene Brown

Sep 12, 2017

Discussion Topic- Many couples approaching the lifestyle consider clothing optional resorts as a first step on their journey. This episode we tackle some commonly held beliefs and fears regarding clothing optional resort vacations. Just back from another trip to Desire Pearl, we use our experiences from the week to "bust some myths." Book your trip to one of the Desire Resorts right here ! Subscribe to our Finding Your Thing weekly newsletter here .

Aug 15, 2017

Read our latest newsletter here and then Subscribe to our newsletter here! Keeping up with the Joneses We update you on our new business ventures and Mr Jones makes his request to Mrs Jones for his home office modifications. We also describe a visit from our Canadian friends, our Southwest friends and our long-time LS friends. Topic Many people say how intimidated they are by having to flirt with others in the lifestyle. We break down flirting in society, in the lifestyle, tie it to individual growth and how ultimately it helps our relationship. If done naturally it's not so difficult! BONUS: Listen our conversation with C&D from their Swinging Downunder podcast!

Jul 24, 2017

Read our latest newsletter here and then Subscribe to our newsletter here! Keeping up with the Joneses We recap the highlights of our experiences at Naughty in N'awlins 2017! Our WGT Meet & Greet and workshops were amazing, we were runner-ups again at the Annual Lifestyle Awards for Best Lifestyle Podcast. Discussion topic We hear from many listeners how difficult it is to find that "four-way connection" with other lifestyle couples. We break down the issue and offer insights into what works and doesn't work for us. Oh, and we share how we screwed up at NiN (the Joneses are not perfect). A special thanks to Ike Thomas for writing our transition song to snapshots and the ending of our show! Ike's latest work is an acoustic album with the Irreverent Reverends called "Songs for Andreas" and can be found on iTunes and Spotify. Visit our website for more information about the Joneses!

Jun 20, 2017

Discussion topic: This month we stray from our regular format to talk about being "outed" as podcasters in the lifestyle. We discuss what happened, how it impacted our lives, how we managed the fallout, what decisions we had to make and how we've decided to move forward. Snapshots: This month we share two emails from listeners that describe perfectly how we view the lifestyle and why it's so important to us both. Mentioned this episode: It's time to vote for your favorite lifestyle podcasters. Cast your ballot at the Annual Lifestyle Awards website ! Also, if you'd like to attend our Naughty in N'awlins Meet & Greet be sure to visit our website and sign up so we can send you the details!

Apr 12, 2017

Keeping up with the Joneses "Friends" from out of town drop by for a few sexy encounters and we chat about the half-marathon that almost happened. Discussion topic We break down lifestyle friendships and what they might look like. We categorize friendships into four types: Community, Casual, Close and Core to help put some perspective on expectations for making Friends With Benefits in the lifestyle. Snapshots Mr Jones enjoys watching a friend give Mrs Jones a good tongue lashing on the massage table while Mrs Jones recollects a hot make out session. Mentioned Please sign up here if you're interested in attending our Meet & Greet at Naughty in N'awlins this summer! Find the "dumb" card game here !

Mar 12, 2017

Keeping up with the Joneses This episode we share three explicit experiences, a weekend with some "tried and true" LS friends, an evening with our new Texas friends and (queue the trumpets) our first experience with a single female! Discussion topic We discuss how we developed a healthy approach to the lifestyle by 1) setting priorities, 2) staying balanced and 3) keeping a healthy perspective as a couple in the lifestyle. Snapshots Mr Jones shares an extremely "happy ending" with a new friend and Mrs Jones describes being pushed against a wall from behind while enjoying a sexy view in the mirror... Mentioned Please sign up here if you're interested in attending our Meet & Greet at Naughty in N'awlins this summer! Mrs Jones recommends visiting the Licor 43 website.

Feb 12, 2017

Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on our date(s) with a "unicorn", an evening in our swinger pad with good friends, a somewhat vanilla work party at our house and a family event. Discussion topic Mrs Jones recently discovered the lifestyle changed Mr Jones more than herself. Armed with this revelation she decides to "interview" Mr Jones in order to dig into how men may view the lifestyle experience differently than women. Snapshots We start off by sharing two newbie "hot tub" snapshots from listeners. Mr Jones shares a "messy" story with good friends while Mrs Jones tells how she caught herself flirting at a vanilla event while Mr Jones was out of town. Don't forget to join us at Desire Pearl the week of November 11-18! Visit our website and click through our Desire banner to book your room and join us, the rooms are going fast!

Jan 11, 2017

Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on the sexy weekend we had with a very special couple as the four of us visited the Trapeze Club in Atlanta, Georgia. Oh, and you'll also want to hear what we put in each other's naughty stockings! Discussion topic How is it that we can watch each other have sex with other people and not only does it turn us on but it brings us closer? Many of you have asked this question so we decided to share some tangible things we've experienced that prove to us (and hopefully you) that swinging can improve and already strong relationship. Snapshots Okay, two naked female bodies and a strap-on. Need we say more? Don't forget to join us at Desire Pearl the week of November 11-18! Visit our website and click through our Desire banner to book your room and join us, the rooms are going fast!

Dec 13, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses Our trip to Desire Pearl is set! Join us the week of November 11-18, 2017 as we bring T&A from The Curious Couple and C&D from the Swinging Downunder podcasts to meet you all for some sexy fun times. Book on our website through our affiliate link on the page titled "The Joneses Recommend." We also describe what happened at our second house party (note: it was better than the first). Discussion topic As much as we try to research, learn and discuss everything before stepping into the lifestyle the inevitable mistake(s) will happen to us all. This time we don't tell you how to avoid the mistakes but rather how to work through them and come out stronger on the other side. Mistakes will happen to experienced swingers as well as newbies! Snapshots We recently had a sexy experience with a couple and did something we've never done before: book a hotel room from our dinner table at a restaurant! Both of us share sexy stories from the evening.

Nov 17, 2016

Keeping up with the JonesesOur new website is live! Come take a look at wegottathing.com and let us know what you think. We also share what sexy things we've been up to this month to include pushing a boundary by playing on the first date, enjoying our "Southwest Friends" again (in a sexy way) and a couple of other dinner dates. Discussion topic We've received a couple of critical emails lately from listeners who say we "only play with attractive couples" and that the lifestyle environment we describe is "nothing like what we normally see". We break down the idea of what attractiveness means to us both, who we are attracted to and how attractive we see ourselves. Attractiveness is a subjective word and we hope to better explain what it means to us and ask you to do the same. Snapshots Mr Jones loves the "dirty talk" while Mrs Jones participates in a very sexy triple-blow-job (yes, they do exist)!

Nov 1, 2016

Discussion Topic In this bonus episode we discuss an issue that most couples will face, one way or another, during their journey through the lifestyle. Jay and Kay from "That Couple Next Door" podcast join us to discuss a performance anxiety issue the four of us encountered when playing together. This issue is pervasive and can be discouraging but fear not, with the right approach: good communication, self-reflection and re-testing it can be resolved for the best!

Oct 13, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses A lifestyle "happy hour" with "sexy" lifestyle friends, an intimate conversation with "new" lifestyle friends and we share some playtime with "old" lifestyle friends, and a very fun evening with some "podcasting" friends. Discussion topic We made mistakes early in our lifestyle journey by not understanding how to make rules. We've split "rule making" into two categories: "rules" to protect your relationship and should not be broken and "boundaries" which are more flexible and allow for healthy growth. Snapshots Two listeners share snapshots about making and breaking rules and boundaries while Mrs Jones and I share two of our sexy encounters from this past month.

Sep 14, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses After a bit of a rant from Mr Jones, we chat about a local date with a new couple that didn't go as well as we would've liked. Topic We talk about our week in paradise! After 14 months we finally get back to Desire Pearl and talk about meeting some amazing new friends, experiencing some play time with sexy couples and of course a lesson learned (or two). Snapshots Two sexy stories from a couple we had some fun with at Pearl and two from us as well.

Aug 29, 2016

Discussion topic Listen in as we chat at Desire Pearl with Jay and Nathan, an Indian couple from Edmonton, Canada, who were brought together in an arranged marriage. If you think you know what an arranged marriage is you might want to listen and learn! They discuss how it all began, the pitfalls and stereotyping they faced and what led them to try the lifestyle after over 20 years of marriage.

Aug 10, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses We share our "creed": who we are, where we are coming from, why we share and the purpose of our podcast. We also share a sexy tale after a special visit from friends we met at Naughty in N'awlins! Discussion topic Finally! After months of remodeling our "sex-pad" and preparation we host our first house party.....and an orgy breaks out! As much fun as it was we had a lot to process about what we enjoyed and what our comfort zones are regarding group sex. Snapshots Mrs Jones shares a "tattoo'd vision" from our house party and Mr Jones shares a hot (and wet) story about a sexual encounter with Mrs Jones on our sex swing!

Jul 20, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses We discuss our evening with J and K from the That Couple Next Door podcast and we thank you, our listeners for voting for us and making We Gotta Thing a finalist in the Annual Lifestyle Awards ceremony at Naught in N'awlins. Discussion topic Not much of a lesson in this episode- we talk about all the hot, fun and sexy times we had at Naughty in N'awlins 2016! Our Meet and Greet was amazing, we met so many lifestyle podcasters, listeners, new swinger friends and reconnected with "old" friends too. SnapshotsOf course we both share sexy snapshots from NiN! Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Jun 21, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses Dinner with new friends, hosting new friends in the "Swinger Pad" and a night out with Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast. Discussion topic We recap our trip to Temptation Resort in Cancun and discuss our penchant for attracting and helping "newbies" move forward in the lifestyle. Connection, confidence and communication! Snapshots Listeners "M and A" share a sexy story, Mr Jones recounts a happy ending with Tony and Mrs Jones shares a memory from her birthday weekend at Temptation. Mentioned in this episode That Couple Next Door podcast with Jay and Kay Temptation Resort, Cancun Mexico Lifestyle Awards voting for your favorite podcast! Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Jun 9, 2016

Discussion topicIn this special episode we'd like to share our "single guy" with you all! We hope that listening to Tony will help couples navigate the single guy experience and help those aspiring single males to better understand how to best position themselves for "success" in the lifestyle. Snapshots A "three-way" snapshot of our playtime together with Tony! Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

May 21, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses Afternoon delight with good friends, Mr and Mrs Jones's reconnection time, Dan Savage's Humpfest and why you shouldn't drink beer all day before running a half-marathon. Discussion Topic We talk about when and how to talk to your partner about trying the swinging lifestyle. Snapshots Mr Jones describes watching the purple double-ended dildo disappear and Mrs Jones shares a naughty look with Mr Jones. Mentioned in this episode Dan Savage's "Humpfest" The Desire Forum That Couple Next Door podcast Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Apr 21, 2016

Keeping up with the JonesesA vanilla race weekend, a hot quickie with good friends before vacation, sexy fun with the Sapphic Swingers, a trip to Trapeze Club in Fort Lauderdale and a weekend double-header. Discussion topic We talk about how our "vanilla cruise" helped us to redefine the lifestyle as a way of living a sexy life full of fun and not just swinging (although that's fun too)! Snapshots Mrs Jones dancing with a bunch of sexy guys and Mr Jones at a nude beach with three HOT chicks! Mentioned in this episode The Sapphic Swingers - with Rachel and Tiffany Trapeze Club - Fort Lauderdale Contact us Email- mrjones@wegottathing.com mrsjones@wegottathing.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Music licensed by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Mar 21, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses- another try at a house party, a visit from our Florida friends, single guy #2 and a "shake down" cruise of our new swinger pad. Discussion Topic- We discuss how we approached understanding and balancing the risks (STIs, pregnancy, our relationship and being found out) with the rewards of entering and progressing through the lifestyle. Snapshots- (Yet) another un-sexy snapshot from Mr Jones but never fear, Mrs Jones heats things back up with a very sexy story! Mentioned in this episode Centers for Disease Control - educate yourself about sexually transmitted infections. Contact us Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Music licenses by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Feb 21, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses- a visit from mid-west friends, Mrs Jones joins the Vino Ladies and a house party with a communications issue (oops)! Discussion topic- Do You Know George? We do! We share our experiences at a George event in Miami. Snapshots- Mr Jones bobbing in the hot tub and Mrs Jones with her single guy.... Mentioned in this episode Do You Know George? Learn about and book his events here. Just For Dinner - A smaller "George" event coming to a city near you! The Game of Lifestyle - we highly recommend this icebreaker card game. Ruti Celli Music- website , iTunes and Facebook Contact us Email- wegottathing@gmail.com website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Music licensed by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Jan 18, 2016

Keeping up with the Joneses- We Gotta Thing-o, Naughty stockings, a birthday double blow job, a trip to Pittsburg, new play friends and your hairdresser said what? Discussion topic- we talk about the thought process and steps to take in order to move into the through the lifestyle. Snapshots- two listener snapshots and a couple of hot snippets from our latest playtime!

Dec 20, 2015

Keeping up with The Joneses- Sexy times with special friends and a hot night for just us two!Discussion Topic- We talk about how we reconcile our Christian faith with our lifestyle journey.Snapshots- Mrs Jones shares a "mouth full"; an awesome four-way connection and two listener snapshots. Our 2016 travel plans: Do You Know George? - February 12-15 Vanilla Cruise- March 26- April 2 Naughty in N'awlins 2016 - July 6-10 Desire Pearl Resort - August 13-21 Contact Us:Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com Music licensed through BMI:Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Nov 22, 2015

Keeping up with the Joneses- Goodbye Paige and Penn, Halloween party, dinner dates (good and bad) and good friends Discussion Topic- Emotional monogamy and sexual non-monogamy Snapshots- Special guests (HINT: Swinger Diaries) and our own hot memories New Swinger Podcasts The Aussie Swingers Swinging Downunder LnK Swinging Adventures Shameless Adventures Two or More to Tango Swinger Podcast Contact us! Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Music licensed through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Oct 24, 2015

Keeping up with the Joneses- Another spectacular house party, a visit by our Florida friends, fun at a Meet & Greet and dinner with a special listener Discussion Topic- Here's what Mr & Mrs Jones from today would tell Mr & Mrs Jones from 18 months ago about their future lifestyle journey if we could travel back in time! Snapshots- We share ours and two more from our listeners Contact Us! Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Music licenses through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Sep 20, 2015

Keeping up with The Joneses- Changes to our music format; Email us!!; Playtime at home Discussion Topic- Mr Jones interviews Mrs Jones about the past year in the lifestyle Snapshots- We share ours and two special snapshots from listeners! Mentioned in this episode Jim and Jen from The Hidden Swing Music licensed through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul Contact us Email us at wegottathing@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter @wegottathing

Aug 24, 2015

This bonus episode 13 part 2 was originally posted on the Swinger Diaries podcast in August 2015. Swinger Diaries is no longer podcasting so we are posting this episode to complete the story of our time together as podcasters at Naughty in 'Nawlins 2015! All previously released Swinger Diaries podcast episodes can be requested on their website !

Aug 22, 2015

Special Episode! In this episode we are joined by Paige and Penn from Swinger Diaries and we all discuss our hot, sexy and fun times together at Naughty in N'awlins! Catch part 2 of this episode on their Swinger Diaries podcast episode 19! Music Licensed through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul Mr Jones- Counting Crows Contact Us! Email- Wegottathing@gmail.com Twitter- @wegottathing

Aug 9, 2015

Keeping up with The Joneses- A dinner party, a house party and an apartment party Discussion Topic- Our Naughty in N'awlins experience Snsapshots- Side by side service and the ponytail holder Mentioned in this episode Naugthy in N'awlins pLink Floyd Colette Club Podcasters at NiN Swinger Diaries Swingercast Swap Fu Two or More to Tango Average Swingers Bliss Bringers Music licensed through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul Scream and Shout- Brittany Spears/Will.i.am Mr Jones- Counting Crows Contact us: Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter- @wegottathing

Jul 11, 2015

Keeping up with The Joneses- Desire Pearl: The Resort Discussion Topic- Desire Pearl: The Experience Snapshots- Sex fort orgasm and caught red-handed Mentioned in this episode Desire Pearl Naughty in N'awlins Annual Lifestyle Awards Music Licensed by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul Desire- Andy Gibb Stays in Mexico- Toby Keith Mr Jones- Counting Crows Contact us Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Twitter- @wegottathing

Jun 13, 2015

Episode 10: We've Come "Full" Circle Keeping up with The Joneses- Hot (some not) Dates at the beach. Discussion Topic- Navigating back to full swap; handling uncomfortable advances. Snapshots- "Danger Will Robinson"!! Listener Snapshots Mentioned in this episode Naughty in N'awlins Desire Resorts Music licensed through BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul Right Back Where We Started From- Maxine Nightingale Picture - Kid Rock/Sheryl Crow You Are So Beautiful- Joe Cocker Contact us! Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter-@wegottathing

May 17, 2015

Keeping up with The Joneses- Why yes, we do know George! Discussion Topic- Who are you? Who are we? Our experience with swinger date site profiles. Snapshots- Mrs Jones- Dirty dancing in a vanilla disco; Mr Jones- so THAT'S what dirty dancing is... Thoughts and comments from our listeners- All the way from Sydney, Australia Mentioned in this episode: Do You Know George? Dr Zhana's Swinger Party Survey Naughty in N'awlins iTunes Review Coming to Naughty in N'awllins? Email us at wegottathing@gmail.com

Apr 25, 2015

Boy, do we have a lot to talk about this month....... Keeping up with The Joneses- A dinner and a "hot" hot tub date; a night out in Miami; the dreaded vanilla cruise; an awesome house party.. Discussion Topic- Our thoughts on CatalystCon- a conference described as a "melting pot of sexuality" Snapshots- Mrs Jones finds a good use for both hands and Mr Jones gets an eyeful.... Listeners Q&A- Do we think we could just "pull the plug" on the lifestyle and be happy? Mentioned in this episode: Catalyst Con East 2015 The Curious Couple for the Curious Ear Dr Zhana Vrangalova The Private Gym Life on the Swingset- Live at CatalystCon East Ending the Sexual Dark Age- Live at CatalystCon East Music licensed through BMI: Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul I'm in Miami Bitch- LMFAO Picture- Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow Mr Jones- Counting Crows This month's question: Could you and your partner pull the plug on the lifestyle and be happy? Let us know at wegottathing@gmail.com

Mar 21, 2015

Keeping up with the Joneses This month we skip out of a marriage conference early to attend a swinger lifestyle meet and greet. Are we bad? We also talk about a local date for dinner. Discussion topic We've both read the book and seen the movie and share our thoughts on how we view the story and how it relates to our lifestyle journey. Snapshots Mrs Jones finds herself the center of attention at an "over 45" meet and greet and Mr Jones shares a sexy story of how Mrs Jones fulfills one of his fantasies by dressing the part of the "female CEO"!

Mar 5, 2015

In this bonus episode we veer from our normal format to chat with Cooper, host of the "Life on the Swingset" podcast, about his new book "My Life on the Swingset" and other sex-positive topics. As you know, Mrs. Jones and I use podcasts and other forms of media to educate and prepare ourselves as we journey through the lifestyle. Whether you are just curious, a newbie, or an experienced swinger, Cooper's book is a refreshing and insightful resource that can speak to and entertain everyone.

Feb 21, 2015

Listen in to our conversation about whether or not it's the right time for us to move from soft swap to full!

Jan 22, 2015

Join us as we discuss (in detail) our swinging experiences at the Sinn-ergy James Bond New Year's Eve hotel takeover and party!

Dec 26, 2014

Join us as we discuss the topic of jealousy and other emotions from our own experience as we entered the lifestyle.

Nov 30, 2014

Join us as we discuss what we've been up to in the lifestyle. We share an experience with another couple after our first date, our hot experiences at Desire Pearl and our sexy snapshots of our swinging adventures!

Nov 5, 2014

Greetings! We are Mr and Mrs Jones and We Gotta Thing! This is the first episode of our podcast and we are so glad you've joined us. We are fairly new at this and want to share our adventures (the good AND the not so good) with you and hope to be a resource for those curious about what this lifestyle is all about. Care to join us? Join our We Gotta Thing Community !