207: Gretchen Rubin - Are You An Upholder, Questioner, Obliger Or A Rebel?

Gretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She's the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers The Four Tendencies, Better Than Before, and The Happiness Project. On Gretchen's top-ranking, award-winning podcast "Happier with Gretchen Rubin," she discusses happiness and good habits with her sister Elizabeth Craft. In this episode, we discuss: How Gretchen came up with the concept of her new book, The Four Tendencies Inner and outer expectations Upholders, questioners, obligers, and rebels Always beware of an upholder offering advice on how to do something Does your tendency ever change? Can a major life event impact your tendency? Speak the language of the person you're speaking to Upholders need to be on alert for "tightening" Questioners can sometimes drain and overwhelm others with their constant questioning A deep irony within the questioner tendency Obligers need outer accountability Obliger rebellion How to handle a rebel 2 upholders in a romantic relationship (Marni & Jesse) Not being confined by our tendencies We're all different and different things work for different people Show sponsors: CoreChair <== 15% off your CoreChair purchase by using the code tuhpcc at checkout (free shipping in North America) Sunwarrior <== 20% off all Sunwarrior products & free shipping over $50 (US only) Perfect Keto <== 20% off Perfect Keto products and they ship worldwide (free shipping in the US) Thrive Market <== Get your membership for as low as $5 a month & receive $20 in shopping credit with a 1 year membership (US only) Related links: Gretchen Rubin - The Four Tendencies (book) The Four Tendencies Quiz Gretchen Rubin's website Follow Gretchin Rubin on Facebook , Instagram , and Twitter Gretchen Rubin - Better Than Before (book) Gretchen Rubin - The Happiness Project (book) Happier with Gretchen Rubin (podcast) Listen to Gretchen Rubin previously on TUHP (episode #37) Related episodes: 321: Neil Pasricha – You Are Awesome, Intentional Living, Becoming Anti-Fragile 279: Sally Hogshead – How To Fascinate • Unlearn Boring • Finding Balance In The Workplace 265: Neil Pasricha – How To Be Happy • Untouchable Days • Find Your Authentic Self 263: Jonathan Fields – Uncovering The Work That Sparks You 123: Jonathan Fields – How To Live A Good Life • Breakthroughs Require Uncertainty • Money And Happiness Are Byproducts, Not The Goal Note: Some of the links above are affiliate links. Making a purchase through these links won't cost you anything but we will receive a small commission. This is an easy, free way of supporting the podcast. Thank you! How can you support our podcast? 1. Apple users, please subscribe and review our show on Apple Podcasts , we make sure to read them all. Android users, be sure to subscribe to our show on Google Podcasts . Subscribers never miss any of the action ;) 2. Tell a friend about The Ultimate Health Podcast. They will surely thank you later. You can use the envelope button below to email a friend or tell them about TUHP in person. 3. Join TUHP Facebook community (FREE). This is where we all stay in touch and ask questions in between episodes. Join our community . 4. Follow our adventures on our favourite social media platform, Instagram . 5. Download The Ultimate Health Podcast app (FREE). This way you'll have our whole library of episodes right at your fingertips. Download our iOS/Apple app or our Android app . 6. Share using the buttons below. Thank you!