Repairing Attachment Wounds, Fixing Relationship Insecurity, and Finding Your Voice with Adam Lane Smith

Episode Highlights With Adam His own story of attachment issues as a child and how he got into this work as an adult What is attachment theory and how attachment styles impact relationships How attachment styles can shift throughout life and in different phases of life Why having kids can change the attachment styles of the parents Anxious attachment can sometimes stem from not getting enough oxytocin in childhood and how this can lead to seeking partners who are avoidant in relationships Steps to shifting from anxious or avoidant attachment patterns to healthier patterns How parents can help create strong attachment styles in their children The importance of context in understanding attachment styles Curiosity not judgment in relationships How to build a self-correcting family system to benefit your kids Ways to help your kids communicate with you with non-judgment and curiosity Men adapt to problems and change for circumstances, not for relationships Women constantly adapt and iterate within relationships Why men are more stressed and depressed in today’s world and some factors that can help Men only change for circumstances and why this is important to understand in relationships Three pieces of life advice: 65% of adults have an attachment issue, attachment issues bring the most relationship issues, you can absolutely change it and you just have to understand the steps Resources We Mention Adam Lane Smith - Website Attachment Bootcamp Video Course - Use code Katie for a discount Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands: Why your marriage is hurting, and how to blossom as a couple by Adam Smith No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Robert A. Glover