Words Matter, Talking on Eggshells & Changing Relationships by Changing Our Words With Sam Horn

Episode Highlights With Sam Why she gave away almost everything she owned and became a nomad for a year The reason words matter so much and how to get better about the words we use Why parents should get the word “careful” out of our vocabularies with our kids Words that, as parents, we should USE and words we should LOSE A simple exercise to shift your words in parenting Replace stop with start in parenting Capable instead of careful Replace "No" with "Yes you can" as soon as Why to replace the word should with next time or from now on We can’t motivate anyone to do better by making them feel bad How to be a pattern interrupt Replace “nothing’ and “no way” with “There’s something” and “I wish” Language to use when kids are sad, upset, or mad When we think we are comforting and we are actually contradicting them and how to paraphrase and understand instead Why not to explain when people complain and what to do instead (agree, apologize, and act) Two words that can put grievances and grudges in the past Replace finding fault with finding solutions Four words that help us keep our cool even when other people aren’t In influencing others, example is not the main thing… it is the only thing Resources We Mention Talking on Eggshells: Soft Skills for Hard Conversations by Sam Horn Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam Horn Someday Is Not a Day in the Week: 10 Hacks to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life by Sam Horn Sam Horn - website The Black Stallion by Walter Farley