How to Become the Conscious Parent You Never Had With Bryana of Conscious Mommy

Episode Highlights With Bryana What makes conscious parenting different from other approaches How focusing on ourselves and our own emotional reactions and behaviors as parents is a more effective long term approach and is relationship first Focusing on “how am I managing myself” as a marker of effective parenting The magic of taking a pause during heated emotional encounters with our kids How to understand what is getting in the way of being able to model these behaviors for our kids What to do when “my kids will only listen to me if I am screaming” Love withdrawal - what it is and why it is so painful to children, and how to break the pattern The importance of saying sorry to our kids when we mess up without needing to defend our behavior What a real apology and repair looks like Why conscious parenting isn’t just permissive parenting or falsely happy parenting No parent has an intention to hurt their child but the impact is outside our control and how to understand this dynamic How our relationship with our kids sets the stage for how they will exist in relationship for the rest of their lives What boundaries are and how to effectively communicate them Why if boundaries don’t come from a place of kindness, they are actually about control Phrases like “I can’t let you” and “show me another way” for boundaries with young children Why children need to understand the alternative when we put limits on their behavior When we withdraw love, children will default to loving and trusting the parent even at the expense of self love and self trust Trust is the first psychosocial milestone in a baby or toddler Parenting is the opportunity to re-parent and become the parent you never had “I am not raising you to be the person I want or expect you to be… I am raising you to be who you are” What it means to be a cycle breaker in our parenting Specific tips for bedtime struggles and reframing what this experience is like for kids Strategies for tantrums that actually work - and how to focus on actually being with the child so they learn this internal skill Approaching parenting struggles with curiosity instead of being critical Resources We Mention Conscious Mommy - Website Consciously Managing Meltdowns - Course Conscious Mommy - Instagram The Giver by Lois Lowry Untamed by Glennon Doyle