About this episode
This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #355 "Greg McKeown — How to Master Essentialism" and episode #536 "Diana Chapman — How to Get Unstuck, Do “The Work,” Take Radical Responsibility, and Reduce Drama in Your Life." Please enjoy! Sponsors: Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for 20% off) Wealthfront high-yield savings account: https://wealthfront.com/tim (5% interest on your savings, and when you open an account today, you’ll get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more) Helix Sleep premium mattresses: https://helixsleep.com/tim (between 25% and 30% off all mattress orders and two free pillows.) Timestamps: [00:00] Start [05:26] Notes about this supercombo format. [06:28] Enter Greg McKeown. [06:49] What is non-essential? [07:46] Overcoming the planning fallacy. [13:30] The problem with taking ownership of someone else’s problems. [15:44] How to avoid committing to the unsustainable. [21:26] Three rules. [25:28] The personal quarterly offsite. [33:05] Enter Diana Chapman. [33:22] A transformative gift. [36:56] The Drama Triangle. [43:36] The whole-body yes (or no) and how it can serve us. [46:06] Diana guides an experience to help pay better attention to our whole-body yes (or no). [54:36] Observations made during the exercise and how Diana recommends using this inventory. [1:01:39] Fostering playfulness for those who mute their desire to celebrate. [1:08:28] Diana’s “black belt in practicing candor.” [1:09:37] Diana’s thoughts on loving pressure and how to bring it into a relationship. [1:13:24] Applying loving pressure to people you don’t know well. [1:15:08] Diana’s guidance on introspection leading to perspective shifts; using Byron Katie’s “turnarounds.” [1:17:48] Diana guides me through a turnaround. [1:23:58] A turnaround’s purpose is to identify and embrace alternatives, not invalidate the inspected belief. [1:29:06] The importance of introducing the somatic into the process; suggestions for difficulty with this step. [1:31:47] The role of the witness in this process. [1:33:54] Walking the line. [1:35:40] Welcoming the opportunity to learn from the experience, even if it’s not preferred. [1:37:35] Alternative tools for dysregulation in the moment. [1:39:31] Risks Diana and her husband Matt took to keep their relationship vital; who initiated the first difficult conversation. [1:45:11] How Diana figured out who she needed to be during this time. [1:47:11] Navigating decision points together as a couple. [1:49:42] Examples of commitments from The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. [1:53:22] The Mind Jogger app and how Diana uses it with the commitments. [1:55:55] Assessing self-awareness in hiring interviews applied to non-job situations. [1:57:53] Books most gifted. [1:59:35] Parting thoughts. * For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show , please visit tim.blog/podcast . For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show , please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsors Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter ( 5-Bullet Friday ) at tim.blog/friday . For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts . Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books . 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