About this episode
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides : https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY !: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website : https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps : 0:00 - Introduction 1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse 10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters 18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex 24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy 27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers 31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating