About this episode
You can have the skills, the highlight film, and the emails — but if your mindset isn’t right, none of it sticks. In this powerful conversation, Susan brings on Desi, a certified mindset and performance coach and former college middle blocker, to break down what most athletes miss about confidence, handling disappointment, and navigating the mental side of recruiting. They talk about why burying your emotions backfires, how to actually process disappointment (instead of pretending it’s fine), and why learning to fall in love with the process will change everything — on and off the court. Whether you’re a top recruit or just trying to make your club team, this episode is a must-listen if you want to play your best under pressure and build the skills that last far beyond volleyball. Chapters: 00:00 – Meet Desi + why mindset matters 02:00 – Desi’s story: from headcase to certified mindset coach 05:30 – The difference between venting and real change 08:00 – Why positivity alone isn’t enough 10:00 – How to acknowledge disappointment without losing hope 13:30 – The power of asking why you aren’t a 10 16:00 – The 50/50 principle + how it applies to recruiting 19:30 – Understanding dopamine highs and lows 22:00 – Why celebrating small wins trains your brain for success 25:00 – How to prep before talking with coaches 28:00 – Getting out of “prove mode” and back to having fun 32:00 – Why coaches love athletes who create positive energy 35:00 – Final thoughts: focus on who you become, not just what you achieve Click here for a discount on our go-to, and the hands-down best and most affordable Recruiting Tool + Software we recommend every baller has to increase her efficiency in all that she does 👉🏼 PRODUCTIVE RECRUIT Want to support your baller in getting her process started and have an experienced volleyball recruiting advisor walk her through it? Enroll in RECRUIT READY: LAUNCH 🚀 Need help getting unstuck in the recruiting process? Apply for a RECRUITING INTENSIVE. Are you the DIY type? Purchase the GETTING STARTED ACTION PLAN (*note this does not come with Recruiting Software OR 1:1 support) Connect with Susan: Check out the website: www.nxtvb.com Follow on Instagram: @hey.susank P.S. If you’re an athlete with big goals, a parent who wants to support the journey, or a coach who cares deeply about your players, this podcast was made for you. Hit subscribe and come grow with us.