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5d ago

This week, Cate & Ty tackle your most intimate questions! They discuss keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships, navigating intimacy with kids, and decoding the red flags of infidelity and manipulation. Plus, they share candid thoughts on modern reality TV and the importance of open conversations with your children about sex. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get up to 50% off. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Dec 10

Cate & Ty dive into listener questions, tackling some personal topics such as whether Cate considered abortion when she found out she was pregnant. Her and Ty talk about the fear and panic surrounding an unplanned pregnancy at sixteen, emphasizing the importance of an educated decision when facing a crisis pregnancy. They also provide an update on their relationship with adoption facilitator Dawn, and discuss the complex state of their open adoption with their daughter Carly. Cate & Ty address the leaked photos of Carly, discussing the irony of being vilified for sharing their story while others now break privacy boundaries. Lastly, they share updates on their current relationships with their own parents, including maintaining a healthy and safe environment for their family. They discuss their own relationship and how they've worked to have a strong partnership but have never considered the work "hard" Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Dec 3

Cate & Ty are back from Thanksgiving break to recap a week of sick kids battling laryngitis and raging fevers. Ty continues his deep fried Turkey tradition and gets a kick out of the reaction from international fans. The conversation takes a sharp turn to discuss the fallout from a photo of Tyler in his Superman costume on Halloween, where he was accused of "going commando". They unpack the ridiculous comments, the mindset behind deleting the photo, and the double standard being applied to Tyler's form fitting outfit. Lastly, Cate reads some Anonymous Secrets about Thanksgiving dinner revenge, suspicious Husband activities, and breastfeeding Homelander. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 26

Jordy Cray ( @jordycray ) comes in hot on Break It Down! In today's episode, Cate & Ty explain why they continue to talk about their adoption story despite the backlash with the public and the growing issues with the adoptive parents. While acknowledging a better understanding of the adoption community​ and learning of the adoptive parent's hypocrisy, Jordy still questions Cate and Ty's choice to vent publicly on social media​ but agrees that there is always more to the story than what everyone sees online. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at UncommonGoods.com/CATEANDTY See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 19

Monte is back for part 2 of the conversation on the collision of faith and politics. Cate, Tyler and Monte discuss the toxic roots of Christian nationalism and the power of young voters in the most recent NYC elections. Plus, Monte shares her intensely personal journey of deconstruction, discussing how to find peace, freedom, and self-acceptance after leaving a fundamentalist upbringing, and why anger is a necessary step towards authentic forgiveness. Thank you to our sponsors! Cozy Earth: Go to cozyearth.com/ and use code BREAKITDOWN for up to 40% off! Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get up to 50% off. Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at UncommonGoods.com/CATEANDTY See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 12

On part one of a two-part episode series, Cate & Ty sit down with Monte Mader ( @montemader ), who has dedicated her platform to tackling the complexities of Christian nationalism and deconstruction. Monte shares her difficult upbringing in a far alt-right, Christian nationalist family, where her home life was a hybrid of religion meets politics. She recounts the strict, often abusive, regimen of independent study, how her father prepared her to be the next Amy Coney Barrett, and the deconstructing she did in her early 20s. Monte also breaks down Fundamentalism, the Tradwife Movement, and the political hijacking of Christianity. For more on Monte, visit https://montemader.com/ Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at UncommonGoods.com/CATEANDTY See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 5

Join Cate & Ty this week as they sit down with good friend and psychic medium, Linda Spellman. Cate tells the story of meeting Linda at an in-patient care facility and how their friendship impacted her. Linda shares her personal journey from a corporate career to embracing her abilities after several traumatic experiences. They discuss how spirits communicate through dreams, energy, and the challenges and validations of being a psychic medium. They also discuss trusting your intuition, having empathy, and not fearing what you do not understand. For more on Linda, visit LightOfThePhoenix.com Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 29

Cate & Ty are back with Kristina as she continues to recount her unbelievable reunion story with her birth mother. From awkward first meetings, to restrictive visitation rules, and her determined efforts to maintain contact with her birth mom in secret, Kristina takes us all on an emotional rollercoaster. In the end, a change in environment doesn't automatically bring happiness. Kristina reflects on the shock of moving from a privileged upbringing to living with five younger siblings, her decision to reconnect with her adoptive parents, and the complex feelings of not fully fitting in either family. Check out Kristina on Tiktok @kristinarichie and her newest book Unraveling Adoption: Weaving Between Two Worlds wherever books are sold! Thank you to our sponsors! Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get up to 50% off. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 22

On today's episode, Cate & Ty sit down with Kristina Richie, whose adoption story is so emotional and full of tense moments that we had to split it in two parts. For Part 1, Kristina begins by talking about her childhood being filled with secrets and a desperate search for identity, to a dramatic reunion with her birth mother at her high school pep rally. Kristina recounts the emotional toll of hiding truths, the rebellion that followed, and the eventual reckoning once the truth was out. Join us for Part 2 next week as Kristina shares more of her enduring quest for connection. Check out Kristina on Tiktok @kristinarichie Thank you to our sponsors! Little Spoon: Simplify your kids' mealtimes. Go to: littlespoon.com/BREAKITDOWN and enter our code BREAKITDOWN at checkout to get 50% OFF your first Little Spoon order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 15

This week, Cate & Ty are joined by Rei Clarke ( @rei_clarke ) who talks about the dynamics of social media, especially TikTok, where controversial hot takes often gain the most engagement. She also brings the heat and asks Cate & Ty some questions that followers have been asking regarding the recent catfishing attempt. Rei also shares her personal story of growing up with an addict mother and an absent father, being raised by her grandparents, and how the search for love and affection affected her relationships in adulthood. She reflects on the importance of breaking cycles and the transformative power of therapy. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 8

Join Cate & Ty as they sit with Connor Howe, known as @Adopted_Connor on social, as he challenges conventional narratives surrounding open adoption and exposes the often overlooked complexities of the adoption industry. As an adoptee himself, Connor discusses how open adoption, while intended to be a solution, can still lead to pain, confusion, and a sense of not belonging for adoptees. Connor also explains the profit-driven nature of adoption agencies, including their marketing tactics, and the role of unregulated adoption consultants. He also emphasizes the traumatic impact of adoption on adoptees, birth parents, and even adoptive parents, highlighting the need for adoption-competent therapy and support. Buckle up! Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Little Spoon: Simplify your kids' mealtimes. Go to: littlespoon.com/BREAKITDOWN and enter our code BREAKITDOWN at checkout to get 50% OFF your first Little Spoon order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 1

Cate & Ty are joined by Traci Weafer, known as TraciDoula on social media, to discuss everything about birth and pregnancy. Traci opens up about her own adoption story, the impact it had on her identity and how these experiences shaped her path to becoming a doula. She shares her insights on homeschooling, the evolving landscape of childbirth, and the crucial role of doulas and midwives in navigating the medical system. Traci's passion is for educating parents on their rights and choices, and emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy to ensure a respectful birth experience. To learn about her services, visit her website at tracidoula.com Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Sep 24

On today's episode, Cate & Ty share some updates on Baxter, their rescue chihuahua, who they think has some PTSD from previous owners. They also talk about their early days living together and the struggles they had with a landlord. Also, the return of the card game We're Not Really Strangers! What assumptions did they make of each other? Cate has empath problems? Ty has distorted perception? W​hat else will the cards ask? Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Sep 17

Join Cate & Ty as they tackle some fan questions regarding navigating sensory issues with kids, porn in relationships and their journey as young parents. They also dive into a serious discussion about the state of America, touching on the events of Charlie Kirk's assassination and the ongoing gun violence plaguing the nation. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Sep 10

This week, Cate & Ty unpack the emotional milestone of their last child being in school full-time. This leads into a passionate discussion about public school versus homeschooling, their personal reasons for their decision, and the societal biases that often come with these decisions. Cate & Ty also address the shocking comments Ty received after sharing his autism diagnosis. They discuss the dangers of ableism, the judgment surrounding mental health, and the importance of empathy in the face of hate. Lastly, on a lighter note, the house welcomes a new furry member into the family! Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Sep 3

A meetup of reality TV! Lindsie Chrisley drops by the show to catch up with Cate & Ty. Lindsie talks about how the Chrisley family life was before the cameras started rolling, the struggles of blending families and the effect it had on her during her marriage. Also, Lindsie opens up about her depression and how she was able to accept and get help during a time where she knew she couldn't do it by herself. (Originally aired 3/5/2025) Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Magic Spoon: Get $5 off your next order at MagicSpoon.com/BREAKITDOWN or look for Magic Spoon on Amazon or in your nearest grocery store. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Aug 27

Happy 10th Wedding Anniversary to Cate & Ty! On today's episode they dive into their relationship's evolution, including past separations and therapy missteps. But the main event? Ty's recent autism diagnosis! From getting kicked out of daycares, being hyper-focused on social cues, and having a compulsion to do somersaults, Ty describes the frustration he felt throughout his childhood and not knowing why he did what he did. Inspired by their daughter Vaeda, Ty shares the relief and sadness, but also clarity and understanding of his past which now he says he will use to parent differently. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Aug 20

This week, Cate & Ty get vulnerable about their unexpected pet loss after their 16-year-old dog's passing, sharing the emotional toll and their belief in animal reincarnation. They also talk about the chaotic juggling with middle school orientation and birthday party planning. It gets wild when they read some listener secrets, exposing the most bizarre fetishes to infidelity and family cover-ups. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Aug 13

Join Cate & Ty as they sit down with Dr. Abby, a transracial adoptee, birth mother, and adoption-informed therapist. Dr. Abby breaks down the true meaning of informed consent in adoption, revealing the systemic issues and personal traumas often hidden beneath the surface. She also shares her personal journey, from her coerced relinquishment as a teenage birth mother to her own experience as an adoptee navigating identity and reunion. For more information visit https://adoptingprivilege.com/ Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get up to 50% off summer deals! Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Aug 6

Prepare to have your mind blown as Cate & Ty sit down with Diana( @blackmarketbaby ), an adoptee whose story only gets wilder and wilder. From uncovering the truth about her birth mother's "tiger king" lifestyle and essentially selling her children in the 80s, to navigating complex family dynamics and searching for her biological father, Diana shares her journey of identity and finding her truth in a world that often paints a pretty picture of adoption. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month EveryPlate: Go to everyplate.com/podcast and use code BREAKITDOWN199 to get started. Applied as discount on first box, limited time only. Magic Spoon: Get $5 off your next order at MagicSpoon.com/BREAKITDOWN or look for Magic Spoon on Amazon or in your nearest grocery store. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jul 30

Camping, kids, and the Trad Wife! Cate & Ty share candid stories from their recent spontaneous camping trip – their first alone in years! From "mom guilt" moments and terrifying tales of lost children, Cate & Ty also discuss adulting woes, Mountain Dew-fueled childhood memories, and Ty discovers the Trad Wife debate and a video that had him going down a rabbit hole. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jul 23

The internet can be a dark place and, as veteran social media users, Cate & Ty share their thoughts on the rampant spread of bullying, the issue with "snark pages", and the tragic stories of lives lost. We offer a heartfelt call to action for spreading kindness, fostering empathy, and supporting those who are struggling. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jul 16

In this week's solo episode, Cate & Ty share their recent travel chaos, including a bank card hacking disaster in New York City. They also get real about the challenges of parenting and play "Couples" card game, revealing their communication styles, insecurities, and the surprising similarities that make their relationship work. And what's Tyler's hilarious, unwavering stance on feet fetishes? Let's find out! Thank you to our sponsors! Magic Spoon: Get $5 off your next order at MagicSpoon.com/BREAKITDOWN or look for Magic Spoon on Amazon or in your nearest grocery store. Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get up to 50% off summer deals! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jul 9

Cate & Ty sit down with psychotherapist and adoptee Amy Silvia ( @psychotherapist.amy_ ) , who shares her personal journey through the Baby Scoop Era and the complex process of reconnecting with her birth family. Drawing on decades of clinical experience working with thousands of adoptees and birth parents, Amy unpacks the profound impact of genetic mirroring, attachment trauma, and the crucial need for "adoptee-focused" therapy. Amy sheds light on the crucial difference between "adoption competence" and truly "adoptee-focused" care, highlighting the mental health struggles faced by adoptees and birth parents, including the shockingly high rates of suicidal ideation. Discover how normalizing difficult adoption conversations can lead to profound healing for the entire adoption triad. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month EveryPlate: Go to everyplate.com/podcast and use code BREAKITDOWN199 to get started. Applied as discount on first box, limited time only. ZocDoc: Go to Zocdoc.com/CateAndTy to find and instantly book an appointment today Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jul 2

This week, Cate & Ty tackle your most intimate questions! They discuss keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships, navigating intimacy with kids, and decoding the red flags of infidelity and manipulation. Plus, they share candid thoughts on modern reality TV and the importance of open conversations with your children about sex. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month ZocDoc : Go to Zocdoc.com/CateAndTy to find and instantly book an appointment today See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jun 25

Cate & Ty sit down with David Shane (@davidbshane), an adoptee who shares stories of love, mindfulness, and human connections on social media, but one day decided to share his journey of being contacted by his biological mother. David opens up about his upbringing, filled with open communication from his adoptive parents, which instilled in him a strong sense of self from a young age. He shares how the reunion with his biological younger sister, and eventually biological parents, came with emotional challenges and expectations, and the aftermath. Cate and Ty discuss with David about the fragility of life, the importance of overcoming fear in pursuing connections before it's too late, and the idea that not all reunions are positive but deserve to be explored with a strong support system. Drawing from his experiences, David offers advice for both adoptive and biological parents, emphasizing the critical role of unconditional support, open communication, and respecting the adoptee's pace during the reunion process. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jun 18

Cate & Ty are back for another solo ep! This week, they're sharing life updates, including the kids being out of school for the summer and thoughts on Raya starting full-time preschool next school year. They delve into the challenges and joys of parenting, from dealing with early risers and emotional goodbyes to school to looking forward to being involved grandparents. Plus, we dip into the jar of "Secrets Anonymous," where we get the craziest of listener confessions that include accidental nude pics, an affair, a closeted parent, and sexual kinks. Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jun 11

On today's episode, Cate & Ty answer some questions and open up about their 19-year relationship, sharing the unfiltered truth about how they've made it work throughout the years. They discuss the importance of communication, the role of therapy early in their relationship, and how they navigate disagreements and build a lasting connection. They address some of the haters, and conspiracy theories about themselves, and talk about how they have come to deal with it. Plus, they answer listener questions about balancing household duties and navigating a possible separation, offering their perspectives on building healthy and fulfilling relationships Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month EveryPlate: Go to everyplate.com/podcast and use code BREAKITDOWN199 to get started. Applied as discount on first box, limited time only. Me Undies: Visit MeUndies.com/Breakitdown and use code BREAKITDOWN to get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping. Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jun 4

In today's episode Cate & Ty sit down with Sydney Curtin, a birth mom who shares her complex journey of open adoption. Sydney opens up about the coercion and pressure she faced from the adoption agency, the promises made by the adoptive family, and the heartbreaking reality when those promises began to unravel. She also describes her initial hopes for an ongoing relationship with her daughter even after deciding for adoption. Cate and Ty share their thoughts on the stark differences between the idealized version of "open adoption" and its often-painful reality. Sydney also discusses the often-unseen effects of adoption on her other children and her ongoing fight to maintain a connection with her daughter even as the adoptive parents have tried to cut ties. For more information on Sydney's work check her out at www.coachcurtin.com and @coach_sydneycurtin . Also visit https://www.unplannedgood.org/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

May 28

Cate & Ty sit down with DezaRay, The Outspoken Adoptee, to breakdown the long standing narrative that all adoptees should be grateful, lucky and blessed. In this powerful conversation, Dez shares her deeply personal story of adoption, revealing the harsh realities that often lie beneath the surface of 'lucky' and 'blessed' narratives. From navigating racial identity in a predominantly white community in Utah, to confronting family secrets of sexual and physical abuse. She explains the complexities of reunion, the varied experiences that each adoptee will and can have, and emphasizes the many ways the adoption system needs reform. Check out Dez @theoutspokenadoptee for more information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

May 21

Ask and you shall receive! Cate & Ty are back for a solo episode and they tackle everything from dealing with the haters, Ty's toxic TikTok algorithm, the truth about Cate's driving skills and their upcoming first family trip to Disney World. They also give updates on what's been going on with the kids like Vaeda's kindergarten journey, Nova's cheerleading chapter ending, and Ty's niece who's been living with them for the past year. Also, hater have a problem with Ty being an involved dad? Cate shares some unfiltered thoughts on partnership and parenting, while Ty has some beef with those who keep making inappropriate comments on his workout videos. Thank you to our sponsors! Quince: Go to Quince.com/breakitdown for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

May 14

​​Cate ​& Ty sit down with Melissa Guida-Richards, an Adoption Educator and transracial late discovery international adoptee. Melissa shares her ​adoption ​journey, revealing the complexities and challenges of discovering her adoption at 19 after a lifetime of being raised ​as an Italian-Portuguese.​ ​Melissa opens up about ​the profound impact it had on her sense of self​,​ how she dove into educating herself about the trauma of maternal separation, ​and the multi-billion dollar adoption industry​. Melissa also delves into the nuances of transracial adoption, the importance of acknowledging a child's heritage, and the often-unseen struggles faced by adoptees. ​She shares her eventual reconnection with her birth mother in Colombia and other siblings who were also placed for adoption. Learn more about Melissa's work and her book " What White Parents Should Know About Transracial Adoption " at adopteethoughts.com. Follow her on social media ​@adoptee_thoughts Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month ZocDoc : Go to Zocdoc.com/CateAndTy to find and instantly book an appointment today See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

May 7

On today's episode, Cate & Ty sit down with Kelsey Ranyard, a co-author of "Adoption Unfiltered," as well as a birth mom, to get another perspective on adoption. Kelsey shares her story of relinquishing her child in 2016, opening up about the lack of support from those around her, societal pressures, and the emotional aftermath that followed. Kelsey emphasizes the critical importance of open and honest communication in adoption, navigating the challenges of the ongoing relationships in her life, and the wide range of emotions birth parents face. They continue to highlight the flaws within the current adoption system, advocating for crucial policy changes and separate legal representation for birth parents. Plus, Ty brings up the unique journey of parenting after relinquishment, the impact on subsequent children, and Cate speaks on the often-unspoken experience of postpartum depression. This episode is a call for understanding, reform, and a reminder that every adoption story is profoundly different. Find Kelsey on Instagram @fromanothamotha and her book Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Allies wherever books are sold Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month. Sitter City: Go to Sittercity.com and take the guesswork out of finding care. Breathe easier knowing your kids are in good hands. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Apr 30

Join us for a powerful and deeply personal conversation with Alé ( @wildheartcollective ), who shares her incredible journey as an international adoptee. Adopted from Brazil at just four months old, Alé's story is one of emotional complexities, and ultimately, profound self-discovery. Alé opens up about the unique challenges she faced growing up—navigating feelings of difference, grappling with mental health struggles, but also shares the remarkable tale of how, with the support of her adoptive family, she was able to find her biological family in Brazil. Alé passionately advocates for a fundamental shift in how society views adoption, emphasizing the critical importance of prioritizing the child's needs above all else - the raw, honest, and eye-opening exploration of adoption from the inside out. For more information visit Alé Cardinalle at wildheartcollective.care Thank you to our sponsors! Sitter City: Go to Sittercity.com to find the care your family deserves. Breathe easier knowing your kids are in good hands. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Apr 23

Join us for a powerful conversation with Erin, known as Adoptee Advocate Erin ( @woodorwater ) on Tiktok​, who shares her deeply personal adoption story, revealing the complexities and hidden truths behind the "beautiful" narrative​ that adoption has sold. Erin ​explains "the fog," a common experience where adoptees suppress their true feelings, and details the shocking discovery of her adoptive mother's lies about sealed records. She passionately advocates for adoption reform, highlighting the need for education, birth mother support, and an end to the commodification of children. Erin emphasizes the crucial importance of listening to adoptees and creating space for their diverse experiences. ​A must-listen for anyone touched by adoption​ or wanting to learn more than what we've been told. Thank you to our sponsors! Sitter City: Go to Sitter City and take the guesswork out of finding care. Breathe easier knowing your kids are in good hands. Visit Sittercity.com today to get the care you need. ZocDoc : Go to Zocdoc.com/CateAndTy to find and instantly book an appointment today. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Apr 16

On today's episode, Gretchen Sisson, author of ​Relinquished , ​sits down with ​Cate & Ty​ to discuss​ about her research​ on the gap between the cultural perception of adoption and the lived experiences of birth parents.​ Gretchen talks about the coercion and ​lack of ​resources​ playing a significant ​part that often le​d women to choose adoption​, emphasizes that many would have chosen differently had ​t​hey had more financial stability​ and support. The conversation also delves into the adoption industry​ using marketing tactics, ​their financial aspects,​ and the ethical concerns ​surrounding the system's inherent inequalities​. ​Is every adoption a failure of society to provide adequate support for families​? Cate & Ty break it down with Gretchen as she provides a nuanced look at adoption, challenging common assumptions and highlighting the need for change to better support birth parents, adoptees, and families in need. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Apr 9

Cate & Ty are joined by Teen Mom castmate Maci and her Expired podcast co-host Natalie Gard to talk all about how they decided to start their podcast, how Natalie has dealt with the Teen Mom audience, and how they've seen teen pregnancy numbers go down in this generation. Maci also shares how she's been dealing with Bentley getting older and filming, how her journey has been with therapy and accepting that she is not responsible for the other parent's issues. (Previously recorded in 2024) Thank you to our sponsors! Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/BreakItDown today to get 10% off your first month. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Apr 2

Jordy Cray ( @jordycray ) comes in hot on Break It Down! In today's episode, Cate & Ty explain why they continue to talk about their adoption story despite the backlash with the public and the growing issues with the adoptive parents. While acknowledging a better understanding of the adoption community​ and learning of the adoptive parent's hypocrisy, Jordy still questions Cate and Ty's choice to vent publicly on social media​ but agrees that there is always more to the story than what everyone sees online. (Previously recorded in 2024) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Mar 26

The one and only Kail Lowry sits down with Cate & Ty to catch up on all things Kail. She talks about some of her regrets on having such public fallouts with friends on Teen Mom and how certain people started having expectations from their friendship. Ty explains how he's come up with a way to hold himself accountable when he starts to ramble and Cate shares with Kail how she was emotionally monitoring Ty early on in their relationship, something Cate learned was linked to her childhood. (Previously recorded in 2024) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Mar 19

Cate & Ty continue to bring their insights and further explain some of their situations that were caught on camera, as well as the things that were not! Cate talks about when producers focused too much on her weight loss journey. Ty revisits the infamous heifer comment, explains his initial misunderstanding of Cate's postpartum depression, and how it manifested as frustration when he couldn't find answers. Both Cate and Ty reflect on the crucial decision to seek professional mental health support in order to keep their family together. On today's new segment, Unlicensed Advice, how do you have a relationship with a toxic parent? How to give sex advice to a partner without hurting their feelings? And lastly, is there any ethical adoption? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Mar 12

This week Cate & Ty would like to address some comments they've been seeing pop up regularly on social media that need some clearing up. From the reoccurring comment saying Cate chose a man over her child, Ty breaking boundaries or ignoring adoption agreements, and the classic, they should have listened to the adults during those times. There is always more to what the audience sees on TV! Also, Listeners write in their sneaky little secrets and we can't get enough of them! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Mar 5

A meetup of reality TV! Lindsie Chrisley drops by the show to catch up with Cate & Ty. Lindsie talks about how the Chrisley family life was before the cameras started rolling, the struggles of blending families and the effect it had on her during her marriage. Also, Lindsie opens up about her depression and how she was able to accept and get help during a time where she knew she couldn't do it by herself. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Feb 26

Today, Cate & Ty finally get to sit down with Becky Hayter ( @Hayter25 ), someone who they've known about through Kail Lowry but never actually gotten to know personally. Becky talks about her scandalous kissing photos with Kail on Teen Mom, how she never really thought she was gay until she reached college and started dating, and shares how hard the IVF journey has been with her wife Leah. (Previously recorded in 2024) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Feb 19

Episode 1 here we go! Cate and Ty lay down the plan and vision they have for the podcast, and the excitement they feel about finally having control over THEIR narrative. Who are they really? What skeletons are hiding in their closets? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Jan 21

Join Tyler and Catelynn Baltierra, one of the OG couples from MTV's 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom , who showcased adoption first-hand, as they dive into life beyond reality TV. They share the ups, downs, and everything in between of marriage, parenthood, and personal growth. With candid stories, celebrity guests, and lots of laughs, Tyler and Catelynn explore how they navigate the spotlight, raise a family, and stay strong as a couple. Cate & Ty: Break It Down! is a weekly fix of heartwarming moments, behind-the-scenes tea, and a whole lot of love! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .