About this episode
The hardest weeks test more than your game model—they test your culture. When results wobble and the temptation is to drown the room in clips, we take a different route: start with why, connect the people, and then coach the work. Drawing on stories from pro rugby and lessons from coaches who’ve been in the fire for decades, we map out five anchors that keep a team steady when the scoreboard isn’t your friend. We begin by reshaping the meeting everyone dreads. Instead of leading with 34 errors, we set a clear purpose for the week—restore pride, honor the jersey, make amends to supporters—so the details serve a shared why. From there, we explore belonging before pressure, showing how the best coaches switch cleanly from fierce feedback to warm human connection, making criticism about craft, not worth. The conversation then moves to growth before outcomes, using smart film work to find repeatable actions after wins and losses alike, so the session plan becomes a lever, not a lecture. Leadership gets a rethink too. Rather than clutching the reins, we seed “leaders everywhere”: primed players take the floor in reviews, speak with confidence, and spread accountability across the group. And we close by protecting joy—the secret fuel in a collision sport that asks people to put their bodies in dark places. With an on/off training rhythm, sharp intensity at the whistle and laughter between sets, teams build bonds that endure pressure and perform when it counts. If you’re a coach or leader who wants a room that stays connected, learns fast, and doesn’t fracture after a tough weekend, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share it with a fellow coach, and leave a review with the anchor you’ll try first—purpose, belonging, growth, leadership, or joy. Send us a text If you can SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and SHARE the show and series, you would be doing your bit to grow this show. Very appreciated. Ben To subscribe to the newsletter or to get a copy of the book, jump onto: www.coachingculture.com.au Support the show Share this show with your mates, rugby, coaches, leaders! Dont be shy.