July 1, 2025
Getting Your Needs Met: Shifting from Codependency and Hyper-Independence to Interdependence
You Make SenseAbout this episode
We all have needs. But what happens when we stop listening to them, or never learned how to in the first place? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us through the heart of relational healing: learning how to get our needs met. With tenderness and clarity, she unpacks how early attachment wounds shape our ability to express, feel, or even recognize our needs, leading many of us into cycles of codependency, hyper-independence, or invisible exhaustion. From the helpers who give too much to the ones who learned to stay small and silent, Sarah explores the nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in survival, disconnected from true intimacy. Through the lens of somatics and parts work, she introduces a compassionate roadmap toward interdependence: a relational experience where we can be fully ourselves and fully connected. It's not about being needy, it’s about being human. Episode Highlights 00:00 Intro 00:15 We All Have Needs 03:25 Understanding Codependency 08:42 Different Roles of Codependency 12:41 Hyper-Independence 20:31 Unseen and Unknown 22:07 Interdependence 26:10 Getting Your Needs Met 39:33 Question #1 - How to Reshape the Nervous System 48:08 Question #2 - Hypervigilant Younger Parts with Deep Wounding 57:15 Question #3 - Loving Inquiry 01:04:49 Question #4 - Young Part Bargain Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System: Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re wanting practical tools and live support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week live program. All waitlisters get access to limited-time reduced pricing. Click the link below to learn more. https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast