About this episode
In this first episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions in relationships: Is this person wrong for me, or is it my nervous system? Sarah shares how attachment wounds, protective parts, and nervous system patterns shape our experience of love, and why good things don’t always feel good at first. Through guided practices and personal insights, Sarah invites you to explore how to differentiate between old protective patterns and present-day truth, empowering you to build relational capacity, deepen self-trust, and recognize what truly supports growth and connection. Episode Highlights: [00:00] The truth behind relationship confusion [01:43] Why good things often don’t feel good at first [03:59] Cultural myths that keep us stuck in romantic uncertainty [06:23] How neuroception links past wounding to present experience [10:05] The importance of building capacity inside a relationship [13:06] A guided practice to access your adult self and discern relationship truth [23:19] The mirror effect: How relationships reveal our growth edges [26:12] Recognizing when you’re in a protective part versus your adult self [30:35] What it feels like when a relationship is right (and why it may still feel uncomfortable) [35:23] When is a relationship wrong? Growth, safety, values, and relational polarity [41:59] Understanding boredom as a relational signal [44:49] Question 1: Building capacity and checking in with your truth daily [48:41] Question 2: Breaking patterns by giving your younger parts the love they lacked [51:49] Question 3: Reparenting our parts to build attraction and receive healthy love Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway: Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live! All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more. bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on: Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletter Email Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast