About this episode
How often do we hear, “Just love your body,” only to feel more disconnected than ever? In this thoughtful episode of You Make Sense, Sarah tackles the complexities of body image, aging, appearance, and the journey to genuine self-acceptance. With her signature mix of science, storytelling, and somatic wisdom, she unpacks why conventional approaches to self-love often miss the mark—and what truly works. Sarah shares relatable personal stories and actionable tools to help you heal your relationship with your body, process past trauma, and embrace your unique self. From reframing societal pressures to building a compassionate connection with your body, this episode offers practical steps for feeling more at home in your own skin. Episode Highlights 00:00 Intro 02:45 Society’s Messaging About Body Image 11:15 Befriending Your Body 13:54 Why Do We Hide in Our Body? 19:57 Trauma & Changing Our Appearance 22:18 The Origin of Our Negative Orientation to Aging 26:18 Somatic Tools to Build Self-Love and Acceptance 31:09 Replace Coping Strategies with Regulating Resources 38:01 “Why Am I Suddenly Negatively Fixated on My Height?” 43:16 Somatically Healing Your Relationship with Your Body 51:56 Binge-Eating and Sugar 01:02:14 Weight Gain Can Be a Response to Trauma Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Want free trauma-informed tools? Download Sarah’s free workbook, “How to Gain Control Over How You Feel,” for actionable prompts and exercises to help you start feeling better on a daily basis. https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Important Keywords: Somatic Healing - Somatic healing is an approach to healing that focuses on addressing the nervous system and stored trauma within the body. It uses practices like body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to support emotional and physical well-being. Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance. Self-Compassion - Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and care, especially during difficult times. It replaces self-criticism with empathy, fostering emotional resilience and self-acceptance. Dissociation - Dissociation is a coping mechanism where a person disconnects from their physical or emotional experiences, often in response to trauma or stress. It can manifest as a sense of detachment from reality, feeling "numb," or being "out of body." Parts Work - Parts work is a therapeutic approach that identifies and works with different "parts" of the self, often associated with distinct emotions, behaviors, or events from childhood. It helps individuals address internal conflicts and foster self-integration. Nervous System - The nervous system regulates bodily functions and responses to stress, consisting of the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) systems, comprised of our ventral vagal complex (rest and digest) and our dorsal vagal complex (shutdown/energy conservation). A well-regulated nervous system supports emotional balance, energy levels, and overall health.