How to Have Tough Conversations, Make Amends, and Heal Through Repair

Drawing on attachment, parts work, and Polyvagal Theory, Sarah breaks down why romantic relationships often become the most powerful containers for our healing. She explores how conflict, rupture, and repair invite us to meet the last of our unresolved pain, differentiate old wounds from present-day needs, and open with vulnerability rather than protection. With practical guidance on regulation, communication, and navigating tough conversations, she shows how turning toward discomfort can deepen intimacy instead of threatening it. Listen in to learn how to make sense of these patterns and how healthy repair can become a pathway to more ease, authenticity, and connection in your relationships. Episode Highlights: [01:26] How deeper intimacy activates old attachment wounds [05:12] Why unresolved pain arises in our closest relationships [11:00] Romantic relationships are a container for healing and resolution [15:10] Why relationships feel easy at first and harder with closeness [17:12] What happens when conflict triggers a protective part [21:30] What healthy rupture and repair look like in childhood [24:31] Common protective responses like blaming or fawning [26:33] Why repair deepens intimacy and builds ease [30:11] What did rupture represent for you in childhood? [32:51] The ways many of us attempt to repair [36:40] Steps for healthy repair after rupture [42:50] Question 1 - Forgiving ourselves for past relational harm [48:27] Question 2 - The healing process in unsafe environments [53:19] Question 3 - The connection between Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz: Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download the FREE workbook: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “In many ways, one of the biggest purposes of a romantic relationship is so that it can provide the conditions necessary for us to come into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:11] “If you're somebody that tends to jump from relationship to relationship, or from friendship to friendship when things get hard, thinking, ‘If I just find a friend who gets me more, if I just find a relationship that is more aligned,’ you’re going to be on that adventure forever.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:19] “When we can do this brave thing and go towards this experience of tough conversations and make it different, it brings the most beautiful healing to the past and a deepening of a relationship, and our system begins to see that ‘I can be all of me and still be loved.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:20] “Your needs are not too much. Your partner's needs aren't too much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:38] “You cannot repair when you're in dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:05] “If we're in disconnection with someone we care about, what do we really want? We want to feel loved by them, and we want to love them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:33] “Ruptures are a natural, normal part of relationships, and the outcome of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of ruptures that you experience or arguments or fights. ” — Sarah Baldwin [0:41:48]