#69: Humbled, But Not Broken: Setbacks, Shanks & Showing Up Anyway

In this raw, vulnerable solo episode, I peel back the curtain on my golf journey over the past 90 days - and let's just say, things haven't gone quite as planned. On December 31, 2024, I set a bold goal: drop my handicap from 22.7 to a 5 by the end of the year. Fast-forward to today, and my current handicap sits at 21.7. Not the kind of progress I envisioned. In fact, the word that best sums up Q1 is humbled. Between welcoming a newborn, a growing business, and mismanaged expectations, I'll share how speed training backfired, how destructive mindset programs resurfaced, and how forcing progress only stalled it. You'll hear what went wrong, what I've learned, and the adjustments I'm making moving into Q2. If you're a golfer who feels stuck, frustrated, or like your game is plateauing despite your best effort, this episode will hit home. In this episode, you'll learn: Why my swing progress took a massive step backward—and how I'm fixing it How pressure, ego, and urgency sabotaged my speed training and mindset The value of consistent coaching, structured practice, and reflection A powerful mindset reframe using the inchworm and bell curve analogy How to shift from performance panic to long-term progress Why Q2 will be all about rounds under pressure, tournaments, and trust Whether you're trying to break 80 or win your club championship, this is a must-listen reminder that growth isn't always linear, and every setback is a setup for a major breakthrough. Get your pencils ready and start listening. Click here to read my Ultimate Guide to Golf Hypnosis. 1-1 High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching: If you're serious about getting out of your own way and playing to your potential, click here to schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call to learn how I can help you make playing to your potential a habit. Ready to get a taste of hypnosis? Click here to choose from one of my unique hypnosis audios to help you accelerate improvement in a specific area of your game. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Twitter: @parsoverbogeys Key Takeaways: Progress Isn't Linear — But Persistence Pays Off: Despite only dropping one stroke in Q1, I stayed committed to the long game, using setbacks as stepping stones. The key isn't fast progress — it's sustained effort and course correction Speed Without Structure Is Destructive: Speed training backfired when I prioritized velocity over fundamentals, leading to swing breakdowns. You must earn the right to add speed by mastering quality contact and path first. Pressure and Urgency Can Kill Progress: Unchecked pressure and the need to "hurry up and improve" created mental chaos. Slowing down — in swing tempo and in expectations — became a critical growth edge. Your Worst Scores Tell the Truth: What separates good from great isn't how low your best is — it's how bad your worst gets. Understanding, managing, and improving your bad rounds is what creates real transformation. Consistency Comes from Identity, Not Just Effort: Sustainable improvement comes when your actions align with your identity — how you talk to yourself, what you believe you deserve, and how you show up when no one is watching. Key Quotes: "You can't change unless you change." "It's not about how much effort you put in — it's about putting in the right effort." "False urgency and rushing created more damage than any lack of effort ever could." "I broke my swing down chasing a number — not a skill." "Convenient practice isn't always effective practice. I chose what felt good instead of what was necessary." "Progress requires pressure. You need time under tension to grow." "Speed training without strong fundamentals is like building a house on sand." Time Stamps: 00:00: Introduction to the Golf Journey 03:00: Reflecting on 90 Days of Progress 09:54: The Importance of Fundamentals 18:00: Lessons from Speed Training 24:01: Ruthless Reflection and Mindset Work 30:10: Embracing Challenges and Future Goals