#81: Dissecting Fear: Understanding the Invisible Force That Shapes Your Game

Fear is the most common force keeping golfers—and people—stuck. But here's the truth: you're not actually afraid of missing the putt, chunking the chip, or topping your drive. You're afraid of what it means about you. Of being judged. Rejected. No longer welcome. In this solo episode, I break down the hidden cost of living in fear and the subtle yet life-changing difference between feeling scared and being fearful. I also discuss timeless wisdom from the Stoics, actionable tools to diffuse fear, and a powerful exercise to help you move forward, on and off the course. In this episode, you'll learn… Why "fear" is a survival state—and why it's keeping you stuck The difference between being scared and being afraid The 3 primal fears that still drive modern-day self-sabotage How fear hijacks your imagination and narrows your focus Why standing out—even in a Saturday foursome—can trigger intense fear How to use action as a tool to break free from fear's grip What Tim Ferriss' "Fear-Setting" exercise can teach you about worst-case scenarios Get your pencils ready and start listening. Resources Mentioned: Dissecting Fear: Understanding the Invisible Force That Shapes Your Game Nerves or Readiness? How to Reframe Your Body's Physical Reaction on (and off) the Golf Course 1-1 High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching: If you're serious about getting out of your own way and playing to your potential, click here to schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call to learn how I can help you make playing to your potential a habit. High-Performance Hypnosis Guided Audios: Ready to get a taste of hypnosis? Click here to choose from one of my unique hypnosis audios to help you accelerate improvement in a specific area of your game. Click here to read my Ultimate Guide to Golf Hypnosis. Purchase the Wicked Smart Practice Plan Formula: Click here to learn how to practice with intention and what to do to get the most out of your practice sessions to drop your scores - fast. Use the code "salter" at checkout to save 10%. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Twitter: @parsoverbogeys Key Takeaways: Fear is a state of being; scared is a temporary emotion. Understanding this distinction can unlock courageous action. All fear traces back to three primal drivers: judgment, abandonment, and rejection. Fear hijacks your nervous system and narrows your focus to the worst-case scenario. You don't fear the shot—you fear what it might mean about your worth or belonging. Action is the antidote to fear—it interrupts paralysis and builds self-trust. Avoiding fear feels safe, but it keeps you stuck and drains your energy. Hypnotherapy can help uncover and release the root causes of irrational fear. Key Quotes: "Be scared. You can't help that. But don't be afraid." – William Faulkner "Fear is a choice. It does not serve you." "Feeling scared is normal—it means you care." "Golf is a mirror of your personal development journey." "Standing out is scary because it threatens your sense of belonging." "Suffer more often in imagination than in reality." – Seneca "Avoiding fear keeps you safe. Leaning into fear helps you grow." Time Stamps: 00:00: Understanding Fear: The Core of Our Challenges 08:14: Types of Fear: The Fear Jar Explained 14:34: The Cost of Fear: Stagnation vs. Growth 23:04: Action Over Fear: Strategies for Overcoming 28:49: Conclusion: Embracing Fear for Personal Growth