104 | You Can’t Command Calm: How to Help Your Dog Feel Safe Without Saying a Word

Hey Dog Lover! 🐾 Can you teach a dog to be calm? Spoiler: not exactly. Because calm isn’t a command—it’s a state. And your dog isn’t just listening to what you say… they’re feeling who you are. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths in dog behaviour: that we can train calm into our dogs. Instead, we explore why obedience is not the same as regulation—and how to become the kind of leader your dog can actually trust. You’ll learn: Why stillness isn’t the same as settled How your energy shapes your dog’s behavior (even when you don’t mean it to) Nelson Hodges’ brilliant insight on how dogs respond to conditions , not commands What to do before the leash goes on, and how to practice calm before the chaos The power of “Be With” sessions—and how they build trust without saying a word This is a must-listen if: 🐾 You’ve ever snapped “CALM DOWN” mid-meltdown 🐾 You feel like you’re doing all the right things, but your dog’s still anxious or reactive 🐾 You want to shift from managing behavior to leading with confidence Because calm isn’t something you tell your dog to be—it’s something they learn to feel through you. Hope you enjoy! Tracy 💜 Ready to stop managing behavior and start leading with calm confidence? Join the Fearless Framework —my step-by-step program designed to help you build trust, connection, and courage on both ends of the leash. Inside, you’ll learn how to: 🐕 Break the fear cycle (without relying on treats or control) 🌱 Build real-world confidence with simple, daily trust strategies 👣 Become the grounded, relevant leader your dog needs If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and start building the relationship you both deserve, this is for you. 🎯 Get the clarity, confidence, and calm you’ve been searching for. ✨ Join now at beyondobedience.ca/fearless I can't wait to share this with you and your dog See you there! T Music credit: Shawn Trotter – ⁠www.shawntrotter.com