Thais Gibson: How Attachment Styles Control Your Love Life and How to Reprogram It

What if your childhood experiences shaped your relationships more than you ever realized? In today’s episode, I’m joined by Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, who reveals how our subconscious rules for love shape every connection we form. Thais breaks down how these attachment styles influence not just romantic relationships but also our friendships, family dynamics, and most importantly, our relationship with ourselves. Thais and I dive deep into the roots of attachment theory, exploring how core wounds from our past can keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns—and more importantly, how we can heal and reprogram these wounds. With her insights and actionable strategies, Thais explains how anyone can shift from an insecure attachment style to a secure, thriving connection. We also discuss the transformative power of understanding your own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and learning how to cultivate emotional regulation for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. This episode will leave you inspired to change the way you approach love and connection. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:27 What is Attachment Theory? 07:38 Identifying your core wounds 13:16 Reprogramming emotional triggers 17:27 How past emotional scars shape present reactions 20:55 Why do you keep dating the same type? 23:37 Heal yourself first 26:52 Learn what your needs are in a relationship 28:52 Communicate your needs vulnerability and transparently 31:34 Have healthy boundaries 32:23 Why do you find secure people boring? 35:23 The six stages of relationships 37:13 Are you hooked on the drama or the person? 40:40 The difference between sacrifice and compromise 43:45 Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant person 46:13 Enmeshment 52:04 Can you be a mix of attachment styles? 54:41 When anxious meets avoidant 57:17 What are your non-negotiables? 59:51 What are your standards or needs? 1:01:19 How do you actually feel when you’re around someone? 1:04:16 Three questions to ask your partner 1:09:24 Thais’ other books 1:10:48 Know more about Thais Follow Thais: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.