After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

2d ago

You’re touched out. Your brain is fried. And sex feels like one more thing on the list. In this episode, Kristin and Deena sit down with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin to talk honestly about what really happens to intimacy after kids, and why so many loving couples feel disconnected during this stage. This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice and digs into the real blockers to desire: exhaustion, resentment, mental load, body changes, and the pressure to “get back to normal.” You’ll learn: • Why “low desire” is often a pleasure, energy, and safety problem, not a you problem • How mental load and invisible labor quietly shut down intimacy • What your partner is really asking for when they initiate sex (even when it comes out clumsy or annoying) • Why going back to the honeymoon phase isn’t possible - and what’s available instead • Simple, realistic ways to reconnect when you’re already depleted If you’ve been missing closeness but don’t know how to get back there, or don’t even know where to start... Nothing is broken. You’re not failing. You’re just in a season no one talks about. And this episodes gives you real tools, real relief, and a clear path forward. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica Head to WAYFAIR.COM right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Save an extra $25 off on Crib and Kid Mattresses on top of their holiday sale at avocadogreenmattress.com with code BLF Use code BIGLITTLEFEELINGS at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a FREE cool gloss with your first purchase! If you want to feel good about what's in your baby's bottle, get 10% off with code FEELINGS at hibobbie.com . Get 20% off of all orders with code BLF at myvitalvitamins.com . Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Dec 10

This might be the funniest, most NSFW episode we’ve ever recorded—and it’s also one of the realest conversations we’ve ever had about women, comedy, and motherhood. Kristin and Tyler sit down with two women who have done something almost no one in their industry pulls off: build big, boundary-pushing comedy careers… and then become moms without disappearing into motherhood. Natasha Leggero — yes, that Natasha — the iconic stand-up comedian you know from Chelsea Lately, the Comedy Central Roasts, countless specials, and her cult-favorite series Another Period — brings her signature sharp, glamorous, no-BS take on what it really costs to survive Hollywood, stay funny, and navigate the emotional landmines of becoming a mom. She’s joined by Sabrina Jalees — a comedian and powerhouse TV writer known for Big Mouth, Search Party, and Apple TV+’s Fraggle Rock — who brings a brutally funny, disarmingly honest look at identity, parenting, and the chaos of raising kids while making comedy for a living. Together, they do what women in comedy have always been told not to do: they get real, they get raw, and they say the quiet parts out loud. You’ll hear: • How motherhood collides with a career built on late nights, touring, and telling the truth into a microphone • The invisible pressure on moms to be “grateful” and “perfect” while quietly drowning • The identity crisis of going from “comic first” to “mom first” — and how they’re reclaiming both • Why laughing about the darkest, messiest parts of parenting can be the most healing thing you do • Wild, genuinely NSFW stories (strip clubs, autism disclaimers, airline-tracking apps… nothing is off-limits) It’s chaotic, brilliant, vulnerable, and laugh-til-you-snort funny. If you’ve ever felt the pressure to do motherhood perfectly, the fear of losing yourself, or the relief of finally laughing at the mess — this episode is your permission slip. This is the side of motherhood no one talks about. This is the side of comedy no one sees. And this is the episode you’ll be thinking about long after it’s over Need more? Listen to their podcast, Good Enough with Natasha Leggero and Sabrina Jalees . This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica If you're looking for gifts that are guaranteed to surprise and delight, head to Neiman Marcus Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Get 20% off of all orders with code BLF at myvitalvitamins.com . Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Get 15% off your first order at branchbasics.com/BLF with promo code BLF . Visit covesmart.com and use code BLF for an additional 10% off your first order ! Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Dec 3

In this episode, Kristin and therapist/author Eli Harwood unpack why mother–daughter relationships are uniquely tender, triggering, and complicated. Eli explains how daughters reflect parts of ourselves we haven’t healed, fear, envy, expectations, and old wounds we wish we’d outrun. They dive into the generational dynamics that shape us, from mothers who sacrificed everything to mothers who tried to control in the name of “protection.” Eli shares her own childhood story: growing up with a mom battling depression and a dad struggling with alcoholism , and how it shaped her codependency, perfectionism, and “put together” persona today. The conversation is raw and hopeful as they explore how healing ourselves creates the future relationship we want with our daughters. This episode will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about mother–daughter dynamics. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/FEELINGS and get on your way to being your best self. Get 10% off your first month! Head to ritual.com/FEELINGS for 25% off your first month . Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin! Visit perelelhealth.com . New customers can enjoy 20% off their first order with the code BEDTIME . If you're looking for gifts that are guaranteed to surprise and delight, head to Neiman Marcus Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Try ZipRecruiter for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/FEELINGS Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 26

The holidays are here… and so is the pressure. In this episode, Kristin and Tyler pull the curtain all the way back on what moms and dads are really carrying into Thanksgiving week: the invisible loads, the silent expectations, the emotional pressure cookers nobody talks about. If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are walking into the holidays as two overwhelmed people fighting the same fire from opposite corners of the house… this is your reset button. We’re breaking down: * Why moms enter the holidays already burnt out (and it’s NOT a personal failure) * The surprising emotional load dads carry that no one sees * How “Mom Mode” and “Dad Mode” quietly collide and create a holiday meltdown spiral * The stats behind why this week feels so damn heavy * The real reason partners snap, shut down, or suddenly fix random things * What dads wish they could say but don’t * And the simple plan that helps couples stay a team instead of turning on each other This is the conversation that diffuses resentment, increases teamwork, and gives your whole family a calmer, more connected holiday. If you’re heading into the week overwhelmed, resentful, overstimulated, or bracing for impact, listen to this first. It might just change the way your whole house feels. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. If you're looking for gifts that are guaranteed to surprise and delight, head to Neiman Marcus Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Use code BLF at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. That's 50% off your first year! Visit covesmart.com and use code BLF for an additional 10% off your first order ! Get 15% off your first order at branchbasics.com/BLF with promo code BLF . Head to timeline.com/biglittlefeelings for 20% off Mitopure gummies! Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 19

It’s every parent’s worst nightmare: hearing the words “I hate you” come out of your child’s mouth. The kid you’d do anything for now looks at you like you’re the enemy. But what if that moment wasn’t the end of your connection… but the beginning of something deeper? In this powerful, eye-opening episode, Kristin sits down with pediatric psychologist and author Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart (Love the Teen You Have) to unpack what’s really going on when your kid lashes out, slams the door, rolls their eyes, or says things that cut deep. You’ll learn what’s happening in their brain during those heated moments, why your teen or tween pushes you away, and how to stay calm even when every nerve in your body wants to scream back. Through raw honesty, relatable examples, and practical tools, this conversation is your roadmap for staying grounded in the chaos and connected through the storm. If you’ve ever walked away from an argument with your child thinking “Did I just ruin everything?” then this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with: - Concrete scripts for what to say in the heat of the moment - A better understanding of your child’s emotional and brain development - The #1 mistake parents make that pushes teens further away - Tools to repair after a blowup and rebuild trust - A reminder that you’re not alone, and you’re doing better than you think Your kid doesn’t hate you. Their brain is under construction. And you? You’re exactly the parent they need. Tune in — this one could change everything. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica Get 20% off of all orders with code BLF at myvitalvitamins.com . Go to HIYAHEALTH.COM/BLF for 50% off of your first order of Hiya Health children's multivitamin! Go to K12.com/BLF today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll today! If you're looking for gifts that are guaranteed to surprise and delight, head to Neiman Marcus Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Use code BLF for 20% off Minted Holiday Cards, Gifts, and Wrapping Paper . Head to minted.com and use code BLF. Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 12

If you’re raising a strong-willed kid, this episode could change the trajectory of their entire life. Strong-willed kids get mislabeled as “bad” all the time. They push back. They melt down big. They leave you wondering if you’re failing - or if they’ll ever fit into the world. But here’s the truth: they’re not broken. They’re brilliant. And how you parent them determines whether that brilliance gets buried in shame or unleashed as their superpower. In this episode, Kristin pulls back the curtain on what it was like to be that so-called “bad kid” herself - and shares the exact 3 messages every strong-willed child needs to hear on repeat. When you start saying these words, everything changes: - Your child will begin to see themselves as worthy, not “bad.” - You’ll stop parenting from fear and start parenting from belief. - You’ll shift from daily power struggles to raising a child who knows they are loved, gifted, and celebrated exactly as they are. These aren’t just words. They’re lifelines. And they can change the way your child shows up in the world - and how you show up as their parent. If you’ve ever thought, I don’t know if I can keep doing this, this episode is for you https://biglittlefeelings.com/products/big-feelers?variant=46728248361216 Sources: (Marion Spengler et al., 2015). (Diana Baumrind’s work) This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica If you're looking for gifts that are guaranteed to surprise and delight, head to Neiman Marcus Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Use code BLF for 20% off Minted Holiday Cards, Gifts, and Wrapping Paper . Head to minted.com and use code BLF. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Visit perelelhealth.com . New customers can enjoy 20% off their first order with the code BEDTIME . Visit covesmart.com and use code BLF for an additional 10% off your first order ! Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Nov 5

Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt is officially done chasing “balance”, because, as she tells Kristin, it doesn’t exist. In this funny, honest, and deeply relatable conversation, Katherine opens up about the pressures of “doing it all,” the guilt that comes with motherhood, and the boundaries she’s learning to hold as a mom of three. She shares what protecting her peace looks like in real time: saying no, slowing down, and letting herself be imperfect. Plus, Katherine passes along game changing piece of advice her mom, Maria Shriver, taught her about keeping a family close: the importance of naming your family values out loud, revisiting them often, and making sure everyone knows what your home stands for. It’s simple, profound, and truly game-changing advice every family needs.Together, she and Kristin unpack what it means to redefine success and replace the pressure with presence. It’s refreshing, hilarious, and full of heart, the kind of chat that makes you feel instantly lighter. You’ll walk away with: 1. Katherine’s hard-earned lessons on letting go of the “supermom” myth. 2. Practical ways to set boundaries and protect your peace, guilt-free. 3. The reminder that dropping the ball isn’t failure…it’s freedom. Get Katherine's new book, Kat and Brandy here! https://amzn.to/4orFNSO This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacifica This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/FEELINGS and get on your way to being your best self. Get 10% off your first month! Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Try ZipRecruiter for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/FEELINGS Visit kendrascott.com/gifts and use code BLF20 at checkout for 20% off ONE full-priced jewelry item. Expires December 31, 2025. Head to ritual.com/FEELINGS for 40% off your first month . Head to hiyahealth.com/BLF to receive 50% off your first order . Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Oct 29

Grab a mini Snickers (and maybe something stronger than apple cider) because this is Halloween, Big Little Feelings style. 🎃 In this hilarious, no-filter episode, Kristin and Tyler spill their Confessions from the Candy Bowl: the candy they steal, the costume chaos, and the hot parenting takes that’ll definitely start fights in the comments. From kids who change costumes six times to parents who just can’t pretend to like candy corn anymore, this is the messy, magical, meltdown-filled truth about Halloween with kids. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, you’ll maybe find a M&M in your couch cushion. Because real parenthood? It’s a mix of magic and meltdown, and that’s what makes it perfect. This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Save an extra $25 off on Crib and Kid Mattresses on top of their holiday sale at avocadogreenmattress.com with code BLF Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com . Head to cowboycolostrum.com for 25% off your entire order with code BLF at checkout. Get 20% off of all orders with code BLF at myvitalvitamins.com . Use code BLF for 20% off Minted Holiday Cards, Gifts, and Wrapping Paper . Head to minted.com and use code BLF. Head to WAYFAIR.COM right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Simplify your kids' mealtimes. Go to: littlespoon.com/BIGLITTLEFEELINGS and enter our code BIGLITTLEFEELINGS at checkout to get 50% OFF your first Little Spoon order . Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .