149: Shamelessly Sexy: Unattached Sex, Feeder Porn & Why Writing About Sex Makes You Better in Bed: Inside The Intimacy Journal with Tash Doherty

This week, Vee and Elle sit down with Tash Doherty — a British-Irish-American writer, creator of Misseducated (the blog and podcast helping the world become shamelessly sexy), and author of These Perfectly Careless Things , her spicy coming-of-age debut novel. She is a bold, candid, and deeply reflective sexuality writer who holds nothing back. We discuss Tash’s latest project, The Intimacy Journa l, which invites readers into deeper erotic self-reflection through writing. They also wander into taboo territory like: vibrators in one-night stands the shame around “needing” toys fatphobia, feeder porn, and being praised for the parts of you you’ve been taught to hate being “born-again monogamous” versus non-monogamous and craving freedom whether shameless sexuality is about saying yes more, saying no more, or adding nuance instead of binary answers By the end, this episode feels like a permission slip: to write about your sex life, to admit your kinks (even the ones you’d never act out), to take up space in your pleasure, and to use tools like The Intimacy Journal to get better at sex. Chapters Meet Tash Doherty: From Rule-Following Schoolgirl To Shameless Sex Writer. (00:00) “Unattached Sex”. (5:15) What Does It Mean To You To Have Sex With One Person For The Rest Of Your Life? The Importance Of Having One Night Stands: The Human Desire Buffet And Freedom Vs. Restriction. (9:12) Why Journal? Does It Create A Better Sex Life? (18:11) Taking Up Space: Café Tables, Crosswalks & Orgasm Gaps Vs. Equality. (20:56) What Is Shamelessly Sexy? Is It Saying Yes More, No More Honestly… Or Something Else? Curiosity? Boundaries? (25:51) Toys In The Bedroom: Vibrators During One Night Stands or Fear of Toys? (33:39) First Time, Worst Time, Most Alive: Journaling Prompts IRL. (40:33) Feeder Porn / Weight Gain Kink, Fatphobia, Erotic Reclamation & Control. (59:55) __________ 🔥 Guest Info: Substack: Misseducated https://misseducated.substack.com Website: https://www.tashdoherty.com (Articles, book info, the Intimacy Journal updates) The Intimacy Journal A guided, sensual self-reflection journal blending poetry, erotic memory, desire-mapping, and introspective prompts to deepen your relationship with your sexuality. The journal also includes a QR code linking to a community space where readers can anonymously share their stories. __________ 🔥 Naughty Disco’s Sexy Holiday Dance Party —Dec 19th: Just Naughty code GONEDEEP69 for 15% off any event ticket IG: Where to Find Us & How to Support the Show: 💋 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/girlsgonedeep 🎧 Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod 🛍️ Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop — wear your kinks proudly. 🍑 Woo More Play: Shop with our affiliate link — support the pod while you stock up on your favorite pleasure essentials. 🔮 WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your game deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com IG: @wlthegame 🔥 Naughty Disco’s Sexy NYC Dance Party: code GONEDEEP69 for 15% off any event ticket IG: @naughtydisco 💌 Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.