023: Solo ENM with Holly: Being a Unicorn, Group Sex Dynamics, and What is Comphet?

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Holly, who gives the perspective of a single twenty-something in the ethically non-monogamous dating scene in NYC, juxtaposing the girls’ married and partnered perspectives. Their conversation includes: First experiences in CNM (consensual non-monogamy): Holly’s first threesome; common types of group play and the girls’ preferences; being discreet with “incognito mode”on Feeld. (1:05) Group sex: Even vs odd numbers; dynamics. (7:12) Single and Poly: Going to mixers and meetups; the experience of being single vs partnered in the lifestyle; what considerations does a unicorn need to think about in play situations? (11:15) Sexual Labels: “lifestyle”, “queer”, “fluid”, playing with women who don’t identify as gay, the different dynamic of having a penis in the room. (15:48) Comphet: What is Compulsory Heterosexuality? Questioning your thoughts due to internalized homophobia. Is it still a problem in society? Calling men vs women for a booty call. (23:32) Best Threesomes: Being dommed by a women vs a man; what makes a successful unicorn? (36:12) Boundaries: the case against taking sexy nudes. (41:05) Coming out as open to friends and family. (43:13) Growth through sexual experiences: being celebrated for who you are; taking back the word SLUT. (46:40) Main Nuggets: Guarding your heart, finding the right people, misconceptions of people in the lifestyle. (52:49) Listener Question: How to go to a mixer solo. (57:49) Where to Find Us & How to Support the Show: 💋 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/girlsgonedeep 🎧 Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod 🛍️ Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop — wear your kinks proudly. 🍑 Woo More Play: Shop with our affiliate link — support the pod while you stock up on your favorite pleasure essentials. 🔮 WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your game deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com IG: @wlthegame 🔥 Naughty Disco’s Sexy NYC Dance Party: code GONEDEEP69 for 15% off any event ticket IG: @naughtydisco 💌 Contact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.com © 2025 GGD Alchemy, LLC. All Rights Reserved.