April 22, 2025
Therapy Isnât Scary: Breaking Mental Health Myths with Dr. Bonnie Wims
Sh!t That Goes On In Our HeadsAbout this episode
đ Welcome to Season 11 Weâre kicking off Season 11 with a powerful, heart-first conversation designed to help anyone whoâs ever felt unsure about therapy or struggled to believe they deserve healing. In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Bonnie Wims , a New York City-based Counseling Psychologist and host of Therapy Deconstructed . Bonnie opens up about her mental health journeyâgrowing up in a home marked by trauma, chasing success as a way to quiet fear, and eventually learning to sit with the voice in her head that said she wasnât enough. If youâve ever wondered whether therapy can help, or if youâre the problem, this episode is a reminder: you are not broken, and youâre not alone. Weâre proud to be the 2024 Peopleâs Choice Podcast Award Winner for Health and the 2024 Women In Podcasting Award Winner for Best Mental Health Podcast , with over 1 million downloads . Weâre building a brave, compassionate communityâone honest conversation at a time. đŹ Your feedback means the world to us! Share your thoughts or drop a voice message: https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a đ§ Quote of the Episode âYouâre not broken. Life is hard, and things happen to you, but you deserve happiness and fulfillment just like anybody else.â â Dr. Bonnie Wims đŠââď¸ Meet Our Guest: Dr. Bonnie Wims Dr. Bonnie Wims knows what it means to survive trauma while chasing success and wondering why it still doesnât feel like enough. Raised in Colorado in an abusive home, she learned early to shrink herself to survive. Even after earning a doctorate, moving to London, and starting a thriving private practice, she still wrestled with fearâuntil therapy helped her meet that fear with compassion instead of avoidance. Now, Bonnie helps others do the same through her work and her podcast, Therapy Deconstructed . Sheâs on a mission to help you stop hiding and start healing. Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims: Website: https://www.bonniewims.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wimsassociates/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbonniewims/ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapydeconstructedpodcast/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims/ Podcast: https://www.bonniewims.com/podcast/ đ§ Podcast Shoutout! We love supporting fellow creators, especially when theyâre as real and funny as Caitlin & Jenny of How to Be a Grownup ! This hilarious and heartfelt podcast helps moms laugh, learn, and survive the chaos of adulting. Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-a-grownup-a-humorous-guide-for-moms-with-ck-gk/id1600435714 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/18bYm4GWnS5JKiKcTqRQsT Website: https://www.ckandgkpodcast.com/episodes đ Key Takeaways Therapy is a safe space where you can finally be honest with yourself. That voice telling you youâre âtoo muchâ is often fear pretending to protect you. You donât have to stay with the first therapist you meetâfinding the right fit matters. â
Action Items Track your self-talk â Begin noticing how you speak to yourself and ask: âWould I say this to someone I love?â Take a small first step â Reach out to a therapist or call 988 if youâre in crisis. Remember you have choices â If your current therapist isnât a good fit, itâs okay to move on. âąď¸ Episode Highlights 00:00 â Meet Bonnie and welcome to Season 11 03:00 â Why fear keeps people out of therapy 08:00 â Bonnieâs childhood and internalizing pain 14:00 â Her first experiences with therapy as a client 22:00 â The power of âspeed datingâ your therapist 35:00 â How self-talk shapes our emotional health 44:00 â What sheâd tell her 6-year-old self 50:00 â Tools for calming your nervous system and building new patterns đ˛ Subscribe, Rate & Review Don't miss future episodes of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads ! Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform and help us spread the message that mental health conversations are for everyone . â Leave a review here: https://goesoninourheads.net/add-your-podcast-reviews #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #DrBonnieWims #TherapyDeconstructedPodcast #TherapyIsntScary #TraumaHealing #YouAreNotBroken #HealingJourney #EndTheStigma #SelfWorth #TherapyTools #TalkTherapy #SpeedDateYourTherapist #TherapistTalk #PodcastTherapy #AnxietyHelp #DepressionRecovery #SafeSpacesMatter *************************************************************************** If You Need Support, Reach Out If you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please donât hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, itâs OK not to be OKâtalking to someone can make all the difference. United States: Call or Text 988 â 988lifeline.org Canada: Call or Text 988 â 988.ca Worldwide: Find a Helpline Mental Health Resources and Tools: The Help Hub Stay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Official Website: goesoninourheads.net Facebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheads Instagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittles LinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Join Our Newsletter: Sign Up Here Merch Store: goesoninourheads.shop Audio Editing by NJz Audio Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.