126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You

Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good? In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring: The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special). How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction. Why fantasy and longing feel safer than real emotional intimacy. IFS (Internal Family Systems) techniques to uncover and heal the wounded parts of you that keep chasing the unavailable. How to disrupt the obsession cycle with practical, body-based tools. The question that will break the spell: What am I afraid will happen if I let them go? If you’re stuck in your head, constantly replaying what-if scenarios, or convincing yourself they must be the one—this episode is for you. It’s time to step out of the fantasy and reclaim your power. 🔗 Need more support? The Foundation Course , Breakup Course , and Nervous System Course are here to help. 🎧 Listen now and start breaking free. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer : The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices