About this episode
What if the things you believe about life, love, success, and happiness are backwards? In today’s episode, we’re diving into 10 paradoxes: the little plot twists, contradictions, and life surprises I wish someone had warned me about. Learning these the hard way cost me a lot of time and heartbreak, and my hope is that sharing them now saves you some of yours. Hit play for a big, juicy reality check. EPISODE OUTLINE 00:00 Intro 01:23 1. The likability paradox 03:12 2. The paradox of choice 06:09 3. The paradox of knowledge 06:52 The Dunning-Kruger Effect 08:22 4. The paradox of failure 09:12 Not choosing is a choice (Jean-Paul Sartre) 10:33 5. The paradox of tolerance (Karl Popper) 11:03 James Baldwin on agreeing to disagree 12:20 6. The paradox of moving on 12:46 Ironic process theory 14:19 7. The paradox of pleasure 15:37 Aristotle's virtue-based happiness 16:08 Viktor Frankl on happiness 17:07 The dopamine trap 18:03 8. The paradox of freedom 18:33 Self-determination theory 20:02 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard) 20:52 9. The paradox of shadow sides (Carl Jung) 22:54 10. The paradox of the comfort zone 24:46 Lightning round recap MY LINKS • MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now • Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop • Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram • Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok